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Everyone on the app is a douchebag until proven otherwise.

• If they didn't fill in a certain stat, it's usually something not considered desirable. For example, if they don't show their age, they probably feel they're way past their prime and are insecure about it. And in the slim chance that's not the case, they're lazy for not having a full profile. Then there are those who instead of hiding a stat, lie about it.

• 99% of the time, they weren't "busy"; they ignored you because they're not interested.

• If you already have clear pics in your profile but they ask for more, they're not interested.

• If you try to schedule a meetup and they keep giving you vague, noncommittal answers, they're not interested.

• Most guys don't have the intention of actually hooking up or meeting people; they're doing the online dating equivalent of "window shopping." It could be because they're bored or want an easy ego boost. For example, if a guy starts dirty talking, he's just using fantasy chat to jerk off; he really just needs post-nut clarity.

Cred: u/professionalban2023

(He tapped me)

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I met this hot guy near my age a bit less than two weeks ago, vibes are great, have the same sexual preferences, exchange nudes. Owe talk for hours at a time, at least once a day, and we have plans a week in advance to meet up. I’m really excited, do everything to get ready, and a few hours beforehand, blocked. We must has had a thousand messages, we exchanged work stories, family stories, growing up in the same town, no red flags seemed like a genuine guy, so you think he was never intending to meet up, (he said he had a party that we could hook up at), a catfish, a scammer, or just changed his mind? Honestly pissed, wasted hours of my time for this and was all ready to go.

I was really happy because the last update fixed all the problems.... Random profiles filtering through, my caps lock wasn't working if I edited my profile, couldn't click on profiles etc.
I was stupid enough to update this morning and now I have random profiles from 100's of miles away again

I forgot we’re obligated to text instantly or else theyll go on a rant

So apparently I've been banned from grindr. I have no idea what I supposedly did wrong, and they won't tell me. I feel a bit gutted over it, since I've used this app for years without incident and been a paying customer for a few years.

The only thing I can really think of is that they actually scan your conversations, since I was talking about some pretty taboo stuff with a younger guy the other day.

In conclusion: Fuck you grindr! Why the fuck won't they just tell me "You've been banned for THIS reason".
What is pretty impressive though is how thorough the ban is. It seem impossible to make a new account. That makes me wonder how they are not able to ban the spam-bot accounts that only send you some gif with an address to some website?

I've seen this a couple times and made me think it might be an AI related status? Anyone know the reason?

Who?? And why should I be impressed? 🤦‍♂️

Where I am everyone is basically a no host no car/public play. Getting to the point you have to leave 10 miles to find someone that can. At what point is it even worth getting a hotel room just for a quick fuck? Is it desperate at that point and even worth it?

Ads on the grid 😩😩😩

Hi guys. Please help if you know. Is there a way to have a different profile while traveling? Or a way so that one could only show up on the pages of guys nearby. I want to update my profile and show my face etc while traveling to increase my chances, but don’t feel safe having it show up with people at home. Have had safety issues in the past.

Is there a way to access someone grindr albums if the person hasn't share it yet ? maybe thru the web version ?

These impatient people always give me a good laugh lol Also, this person had a completely blank profile besides his age

I updated Grindr and log on to see that with the new version they have taken away the ability to see how far away anyone is. Basically they just made Grindr completely useless for everyone that doesn't live in a big city. Anybody else getting the same thing with this recent update? I'm hoping it's some kind of glitch that will be fixed instead of a decision made by the company.

Just me? Can't see how far anyone is now. Anyone knows if this was intended? Cause if they decide to charge for it now.... i stg...

Delete it

I was a virgin to men AND women as of last year (do i believe in virginity?) and now I have a body count of 42 (imma stop counting, but i did for the sake of the post).

Edit: Why I posted this? Someone asked me to. Genuinely one of my friends said that they’ve copied my style to get better/higher quality hookups and told me to share 😂. I went from 0 fucks in 2023, to learning a shit ton about myself and body in a year. Aaaaand I did it with minimal to 0 risk. And these tips are how i think ive been successful.

Edit 2: Im gonna guess that the people who are upset have blank profiles on grindr… or want grindr to be like hinge… or just havent had a good experience in general 💀

FAQ:

• Condoms 99% of the time (unless i went into EXCLUSIVE fuck buddy/fwb with a guy)
• Prep 100% of the time
• Yup… 42 separate fucks with 30 different guys (and 1 woman)
• STIs are nothing to be ashamed of. I’ve never had any.
• Nor cal area, japan, mexico, so cal.
• stats: 6 ft, fit, Black, sorta calm/chill masc, top for the most part. But on skype?? Yea i love being a sub on skype lmaoo
• Why so many? I wasnt interested and this year I decided to go nuts. I learned so much about sex this year, so I’ve slowed down considerably. My last few have been back to back fwbs, which I think are superior. 1 regular bttm you can fuck for like 3 months, eat food with after, and then not talk to again till one of yall is horny??? That’s life saving shit.

Here are my tips:

1. Hygiene: Shower, trim nails, shave, buy good deodarant and good (but not too strong) cologne. Smell good enough to swallow

2. Hygiene pt 2: Brush. Your. Teeth. And. Then. Chew. Gum.

3. I have 2 great playlists for sex, one for rough fucking and the other for slower passionate stuff. Both have received tons of compliments. Yup… i bring my own speaker lol

4. If you’re a top, make sure you know what the bttm likes. Guys who say “anything” will probably not meet up to fuck 😂. My profile is very detailed and honest, and it has attracted very honest and dope people. Ive had fantastic fucks yall, and its because people who know what they want told me “i like how normal you are in your profile.”

5. Good nudes. You can crop off your head, but you should have good quality nudes of your WHOLE front and WHOLE back while you’re standing 😂. This whole “imma angle my camera so my ass looks fat” doesnt work 😂. Or “i dont think he can tell im sucking in my tummy” LOL let that stomach be free. Next time you hook up, ask the person to take good pics for you. Ive taken great pics for people lmao

6. For tops: offer aftercare (i offer aftercare and splitting a doordash meal while we cuddle). Often time that leads to us eating, then fucking for round 2…. And then eating loool.

7. Too many guys dont want to show face or even nudes… and they don’t know how sketchy that sounds. Im into a certain type of guy and demographic (sorry yt men… i cant get hard around yall lmao) and into a certain body type (fit+big booty… sorry twinks)… so the idea of hooking up with a mystery man is… weird. My dick will literally go soft if I’m not into you so just reciprocate photos lmao.

8. I’m not going bb with ppl the first fuck 😂 i do not know them and they don’t know me. Men are horrible at remembering to take their prep 😂 im sorry but i reserve bb to the fwb after we’ve gotten tested. And I don’t even care about being actual friends, I just want a booty call i can trust like 1-3 times a week lol

9. Be funny and be conversational. I’ve chatted and flirted and asked questions and been silly with so many bttms and some tops. They love that shit 😂.

10. I pay for more albums. I have a face album, a dick album, and an ass album (rarely ever sent out lmao). I’m a grown ass 26 yr old adult lmao, I can afford the subscription and most guys can too. Cut out the extra Jack in the Box and boom, there’s your grindr fuck money.

11. Fucks are less likely to happen super late at night. I’ve found more success messaging people in the morning/afternoon so the bttm has time to prepare for the evening time. So many of us have actual jobs too… so a rough fuck n cuddle AND making it to bed by 10:30pm??? That’s real sexy.

12. I have never entertained people who have fetishes around “bbc” or “young old.” Both tell me that they probably watch too much porn and dont have a life outside… and i honestly only fuck with cool/normal people who deserve to have their guts rearranged.

13. Reject people nicely and swiftly. “Sorry, not my type!”

These are my opinions. If you like them, you like them. If you don’t, you’re wrong.