33M here. Finally went down this rabbit hole this evening as I've been wondering lately if I'm some kind of aromantic. This does seem to be the case, but more specifically Frayromantic. I have a sadly solid track record of relationships or situationships that just fizzle out. At the time for.most I had justifications for why I lost interest, but others I just simply fall out of love and physical attraction with them. Sadly I've broken a few hearts this way, and it felt terrible explaining that I'm simply not into them anymore after several months of going through the motions getting into them, and stringing things out as I realize it's slipping and hoping the feelings will come back.. Now that I'm aware of frayromantic/fraysexual orientations, it really rings true with my relationship history.

Does anybody on here have experience navigating this? Is it possible to be in a meaningful relationship of some kind?

So, as a frayromantic, how do you folks avoid just falling in lover with every cute stranger you get in touch?

I always though avoiding eye contact was an autism thing, but frayromanticism might resignify it.

Being too shy is not a good option, so I just tend to go build psychological walls between those I feel I might fall in love and me.

It's like... If can fall in love for almost everyone, I must have a strong pre-filter.

Do you have a pre-filter?