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Background: Living in London. I recently split with my ex wife but we still live in the same flat (we co-own it) and have made an agreement not to have dates come back (because of our daughter).
It’s going to be at least 6 months before I can get a place of my own.
So I’m left with the option of going back to girls’ places (which I have done a couple of times), or… nothing. 😬
Does anyone have any ideas about places suitable for final phase / sexy time? I’ve considered renting an Airbnb in the centre of town…
Ok. I'm soaking all the knowledge in from all the available books on Amazon. One of the key steps they talk about is "make an assumptive statement" during the initial threads of dialogue during the approach. Seriously though. Almost always I get hit by that "So what about me makes you assume/think..." question.
I included the dialogue below because something tells me this is common so thought to bring it here. Any interesting angles to easily get past this and continue on with the building attraction phase?
GIRL AT THE GROCERY STORE ISLE (WHOLE FOODS)
Me: heh, I saw you walking by there so thought to come meet you know...be social, all that jazz.
Her: heh, well, that's nice of you.
Me: So what are you up to?
Her: Just swung by her for a few to grab some stuff. It's my favorite spot
Me: yeah, they're not bad...very quick checkout.
Me: heh, you know you got an east coast vibe to you.
Her (looking curious): East Coast? well...why would you say that?
Me: just instincts
Her: So what about me gives out an east coast vibe?
Wow he's really disappeared. I been following him since late 2016. I had all his courses on mega. (attraction and game mostly) He was my favorite guy for a long time on the internet. Learned a ton on how to be a high status male and talk to girls. His prime was 2013-2017. OG one of the best ever to do it easily. His bread and butter was game. If you know you know. I still think his best course are the carefree installation system. Followed by the dominance and persuasion courses.(which are indirectly about game) If your reading this and really want to understand game. Check out his courses! Still very good even today. But keep in mind he had a big ego because he was getting hella pussy haha. I understand why he transitioned into personal development. Which he was a god at too. (he took down a lot of his youtube videos which were about morning routine, mindset, tone of voice etc. A marketing wizard, fantastic copywriter, and great at personal development. But he was the best at game. Him and owen cook are the ones that really "got it". Different styles but they are the two best ever too do it imo
problem with cold approach is alot of folks tend to talk too long even after their target becomes uninterested. so should a time limit be set. also, the longer you spend talking to someone who doesnt like you, the less time you will have on those who do. if youre unable to read emotions, then you should probably set time limits so that you dont end up trying to riz up someone who isnt interested. 5 minutes is generally enough to say whatever needs to be said. to be honest, if your target is interested in you, not a whole lot needs to be said. if someone is uninterested, you can spend an hour talking, and they still wont be interested. if someone is interested, you can speak for less than 1 minute, get a number, and leave
stand in front of a club, wait for someone you like to get in line, get in right behind, and ask about the club scene. this way you dont have to pay to get into the club, and dont have to pay for drinks. it's going to be the same folks in and out of the club. since youre not going up to ask for a date, and stopping someone on the street, it takes away some of the awkwardness. this will look much more natural and coincidental than if you were to just randomly stop a someone on the street
stand outside a sporting event. sporting events have lots of attractive people. once again. do not pay to go in
outside a concert. same thing.
go to a busy restraunt at lunch time, especially one where alot of people take their lunch breaks. you will get lots of foot traffic in a short period of time. can easily do 10 approaches. everyones in a hurry. either theyre with it or not. again, you do not need to pay to eat there. just stand there like you are waiting on line to order food
one thing to note about malls. or venues like the beach is that they tend to be busier on saturdays than sundays. weather also makes a big difrence. for example a 75 degree cloudy day will not be as good as a sunny 80 degree day, even though the 75 degree day may be more comfortable. also, with malls. even though alot of pua will target malls, they tend to attract more materialistic folks so you have to be aware of that, unless you dont mind spending lots of money on your target
and always look out for those big events- st patricks, haloween, july 4, thanksgiving parade, new years count down, and even things like santa con. as a matter of fact, santa con is very good because it tends to attract alot of single folks in their 20s
let's say you see someone attractive on the street
So I have a great physique and I have High self esteem, but when I get into a date I always do this mistake that I show myself like needy, I give to much respect and compliments to the girl I like and put her like in the center of a relationship or begin to admire them too much. It's hard for me not to do this when I meet someone I truly like! I noticed that this make them slip away like they think I am insecure or something! Even though I feel confident in myself. can you guys give me any tips how to approach girls not giving bad impressions? how do you stop yourself from showing your feelings for a chick that you like? any tips would help. If not, I would appreciate them
I’m looking for a wing to do a bit of day game on the weekend. You don’t need to be experienced just need to dress decent and bring good energy.
I’m late 29 year old male who’s works in oil and gas. Based in London. My hobbies include going to the gym and chatting to attractive girls.
I’ve been out the game for a bit but looking to get back into it myself. Hit me up
Searching for Wingman in London, Ontario, Canada. Lets connect do the game together.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8NsXpOFd8Ts&ab_channel=RobertNguyen
video starts at 14 seconds. I would appreciate any feedback from this video. thanks
Thank me later, if you want all of his other courses on girls, fitness, network, business, webcam, etc. comment below
So, it's a guy from a professional situation. He was flirting hard with me (touching his feet to mine, touching my face, gently caressing the top of my hand, compliments, good body language, standing close, etc.). But I was pretty shy and couldn't figure out how to respond.
More recently he has gone a little hot and cold. I am worried that our flirtation could fully die down.
What should I say and do that would get the point across that I am interested? What if he doesn't flirt? How should I address that? Could I say "I still like you even if you don't like me anymore"??? Or should I just compliment him or tell him that I feel close to him?
I just don't know the most effective approach, both verbally and physically, without putting myself out there too much. Please, if you have any ideas, give me some different examples of things I could say or do that you think might be effective ! (That way, I will have a few up my sleeve.)
For context I work at university library music and media section. One of my coworkers is clearly into a guy in her major who comes in all the time. They have great chemistry, a lot in common and she's laying it down thick. Beyond tempted to flat out tell her ask him out!
now the district i living is less young girls thx
Many men focus on to get numbers from women and keep in touch with lots of women. By creating desire through manipulation, they try to deceive women about their sexual values and reach sexuality. This video explains that all this is the trivial part. I think it could be a good discussion topic. What do you think makes a man more attractive? Good dating skills or masculine energy?
FPUAs are very valuable to each other and to the male community, which is what enabled me to get to VIP in the first place.
Below is an account of a time I went to a club with some wingwomen, and we ended up getting into VIP within minutes.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2BgS4sUoKOA
If you're looking for other FPUAs to discuss game with or wing with, send me a message. This subreddit has been dying for a long time, but we have a secure place on Telegram already with some lesbians in New York, San Diego, etc.
I would like your advice to compete with another girl he has seen and his ex wife in a very high stakes visit to me.
I've known this guy eight years. The last time I had sex with him was in December 2020. I saw him for my birthday in March 2021 and again in December 2021, but he declined to sleep with me those times.
It's important to note he asked me to marry him in 2015 but I turned him down to move and make another go at the first year of professional school. (I should have told him to move with me.) I ultimately dropped out but he married the next girl he met on Tinder. He lost his vcard to me so he credits me with being able to get her and when he says that I don't really understand. Anyway, he was married to her for two years before he and I hooked up again. He was seeing me from 2019 to 2021. And I have given him a lot of money from my trust fund.
In March 2021 he started seeing yet a third girl and his wife finally left him. He is now in the middle of a divorce. She is a newly minted lawyer whereas I dropped out of professional school. She started living with him for a month but unsuccessful as a lawyer working for herself went to live with her parents again across the country last month. I moved out-of-state in 2021, with much regret.
Meanwhile I am talking to him online this week and he suggests visiting me!
This visit is so important to me but the stakes are really high. He has already said he will sleep with me. But I have noticed I ask for sex more than he does.
I have forgotten how to be seductive. He plays very manipulatively. I don't know what to do with him while he is here either. I was thinking of going to a Virtual reality store but we would have to travel. Ideas for date? He's kind of a homebody. He also wants to visit in one day and not stay overnight.
I also don't know if after he sees me he goes back to the third lawyer girl.
I'm not asking the right questions that would lead to a relationship or something. (Help?)
I'm looking for advice, but also, Where can I find something to read or watch quickly online to bone up on my seductive instincts, assuming that would help.
Also I'm late 30's Guy is 31 this year. And no I don't want to go for anyone else. Also I have money. My apartment is not going to impress him this time. Instead of the high end apartments I usually rent I am renting an older apartment.
Hey there, ladies.
We have a group called Game Girls, where lesbian PUAs, bisexual PUAs and other female PUAs can join. Also if you're a transgender PUA, just let me know.
Obviously this subreddit has become very inactive. Nobody posts anything anymore. But a few weeks back I posted a poll, and about 20 of you responded.
So let's actually build a collective community so you can exchange ideas and level up together. We already have a few members, and these people are eager to find more just like them; you!
If you're interested, drop a comment saying whichever one applies to you:
LESBIAN PUA
BISEXUAL PUA
HETEROSEXUAL PUA
TRANSGENDER PUA
I will then start a chat with you and send you an invite. Let's do it!
Taking place on Wednesday, 17 January 2022.
Join https://www.Facebook.com/groups/GameGlobalOfficial (And enter 'FPUA' instead of your email so we know who you are) to see the details.
Greetings, humans.
On 19 January (Message me for details) there will be a (FREE) webinar with a lesbian FPUA.
If you:
A. Are a female PUA
B. Have questions for a female PUA
Then it would be absolutely awesome to see you there and take your questions.
Unfortunately it looks like this subreddit and other places are very inactive, so I'm genuinely hoping to find some people out there who are actually female PUAs. So let's connect and make something happen.