My girls Peaches (paint horse) and Tina (palomino) in the snow! ❄️ We rarely get snow where I live but this morning it was cold enough that we got a little bit of it.

this is just a rant, i got 4th out of 4 people and i needed third to go to zones, im so disappointed in myself i felt i did nothing wrong and that my best wasn't good enough. my trainer ignored me and gave the first place winner a hug, nobody on my team came toward me to even say good job or any sort of comfort IM ALWAYS THERE FOR THEM, some other girl didnt qualify either and everyone surrounded her, even me. but god forbid one person talks to me. if nobody cares for me then im going home, i don't pay this much money to get nothing in return. sportsmanship? you give what you get, and i got nothing.

I have a 4 year old horse who’s turning 5 in May. Right now we do 90% groundwork with some light riding once a week. I would really like to start riding him more often and doing some conditioning to get him into better shape this spring but I’m worried it’s too early and I might hurt him. His vet says he will be mostly done growing tall by 5 but will continue to develop probably until 7. Anyone have opinions on when it’s a good time to begin harder training with young horses? I might just be paranoid but I want to make sure he stays sound and happy for as long as possible

When I was graduating high school I had to make the hard decision to resell my heart horse. No one in my family was horse minded and as the youngest there would be no one left to help care for her. My mom raised us alone and to get me a HORSE was extraordinary. I got her for a crisp 100 at the time and did all the training until she was a great kids horse that grew with me for many years. There was no way for me to keep her or take her with me so I found a nice young girl to take her. They promised to keep her forever and sell her back to me if they ever needed. A few years later I was back in my home town and feeling nostalgic so I tried to get ahold of them but the phone was dead and they didn’t live on the property anymore. It’s been eight years and I still keep an eye out for my girl. I have this sinking feeling as though they misled me on the type of people they are. I wish I could have found a way to keep her and regret giving up my heart horse. Have you ever sold your heart horse?

I’m 16f and I currently do online school. We live in a compound and have stables right here. There are currently horses at the stables and up until a few months ago there was an instructor whom I was receiving lessons from. I’m a pretty proficient rider, I’ve passed a few exams so I would say I’m level 3/4 can’t rlly remember. But I can trot, canter, jump, and do some dressage. Would it be ok if I bought a horse to ride on my own even if there was no instructor? If the horse came well trained and cared for by the grooms at the stables, and I mostly just rode it in the arena would everything be ok? I know I probably wouldn’t progress very much without a trainer but I’m ok with that.

Hey everyone,

I'm looking at buying a pair of jodhpurs/breeches to replace my current gym tights that I'm wearing. Are full seat breeches worth it for lessons riding and the occasional hack? I've seen some people say they're great for long gallop/canter hacks (not ay galloping level yet), but they wouldn't wear them for school riding as they glue you in a lot.

Thanks!

And why if you want :) Either based off their vibe or your relationship.

Here are mine: Frida - Chiquitita by ABBA (current horse)

Pedro - Alien blues by Vundabar Zeno - Another one bites the dust by Queen Athena - Fourth of July by Sufjan Stevens / Dancing queen by ABBA Blonde - Strawberry Blonde by Mitski

Ia had been training on separating his forehand and his hindquarters for a while now. Today I just asked for a sidepass and he just did it like he knew exactly what to do! I am so proud of him and gave him lots of extra treats.

I am taking lessons with this particular horse. He's overall such a sweetheart and I love him but he's got this bad habit - when I offer him a treat during a lesson to praise him, he always opens his mouth super wide and bites my whole hand.

Now I obviously open my palm wide as one should, but he still puts my whole hand in his mouth. Any tips how to stop this?

My common sense would say to offer him treat but when he opens his mouth too wide I put my hand away and repeat until he stops? But if anyone has any better idea, I'd like to know.

Also, he doesn't seem to bite on purpose or during any other occasion, just seems very eager to get his treat.

After many years of English riding, I've recently switched to Western, specifically reining. I wouldn’t call myself an expert yet, but I’m definitely not a beginner either, as the basics of riding still apply. Overall, things are going well and I’m improving, but there’s one thing I can’t quite grasp: what exactly does it mean to have “good position” in reining?  

In English riding, having a good position means keeping your arms and legs perfectly aligned and maintaining a balanced seat while staying effective yet light. But I’m struggling to translate this into reining. When at the barn I watch others who are considered to have a good position, they seem to move a lot, especially with their arms, which are rarely still. It also looks like they’re heavy on the bit, sometimes literally pulling it, and their legs seem to be constantly using spurs, almost every stride in the lope.  

I’m sure I’m just misinterpreting it since I’m still new to this style, so I’m curious—what exactly defines a "good position" in reining? And how can I learn to achieve and maintain it?

Am I the only one that likes the more stocky, solid type traditional hunters (think popeye k or something a little thicker) with a lot of bone vs the more modern ones that are more lean and refined? When I think of a horse on a hunt field I’d think of something more solid than something less boney. I just see more people looking for the latter which I didn’t know if there was an actual reason or if it’s just a trend.

Hey all! I have a roller bit on my boy (14yo foundation QH gelding) but I've noticed that unless we're doing heavy work, he does seem to be a bit restless with it. I know the roller is meant for them to play with, and the copper stimulates saliva production, but I was wondering if there's other options for him to have something to play with?

I do not want a harsh bit - he's nearly finished and I don't want to change things up now. I've used harsh bits on horses (including a spade, which I DID NOT LIKE) and while I have soft hands because of it I exclusively ride in snaffles if I'm using a bit.

We used to to do competitions but seeing as it wasn't my passion (it was my mother's) and she let me decide as an adult to continue or not, my adult life has been purely pleasure riding - we'll go around the trails, woods, and roads with less traffic here. Sometimes I'll haul him over to my former trainer's to ride with them or to sort cattle (he LOVES ranch work) but for the most part we're doing a whole lot of riding around home. I mainly ride western, but he's also been a hunter and we did saddle seat while I was a senior in high school - the only thing he doesn't do is jump more than cross poles, simply because he doesn't want to. Whatever, he's gone along with everything else I've put him through, he can have his preferences.

Anyway, long gushing about my beloved boy aside, is there any mild options I can get that are a bit more interactive than rollers? Budget doesn't really matter, I want him happy and while I know he's perfectly fine with the roller, I have been trying to find out more about something else if it would benefit him. If not, no big deal. He's my heart horse and I wouldn't have it any other way.

Pic for tax of my best boy ❤️

I got my daughter a pony for her 1st birthday so she could grow up with him. He's the cutest, most majestic little friesian cob pony and his original owners didn't have a specific name other than "oldie boy" for him. Right away I thought of the simple name "ponyboy Curtis" from the book and movie "the outsiders" with Michael Curtis aka Ponyboy. It seemed like a cute simple name for a child to remember and say and it's just very fitting for our pony.

Well, then a few people ruined it for me by telling me the term has inappropriate definitions!? We have been calling him Pony Boy Curtis for around a month now, but I am just wondering if the majority of people find this to be a weird name for...a kids pony? If so, I of course wouldn't want to change it as I dont want my child's pony being frequently associated with inappropriate thoughts, gr.

Hi! Btw sorry for the long paragraph! My horse Percy is a 5 yo ottb, and I’ve had him since October 24. And I do eventing, so that was my plan for him. And when we first got him he was perfect! ( he still is) Anyways, fast forward a couple months and he started to have trouble getting his left lead canter, would not go forward, and buck ( not like aggressive bucking, just trying to tell us something). And his temper changed a lot, from sweet guy in the cross ties to angry when his back was touched. We are in a cold state so the winter is also hard on him. We got him chiro, did his teeth, saddle fitted, scoped for ulcers. We xrayed his back and it turns out he has mild ks, it’s treatable and he’ll most likely return to work in a few days of rest and then light lunging. Do you think that this’ll limit his riding career? We really haven’t done anything together yet. But what I found the most odd, is that 2 other horses at my barn were just diagnosed with the same thing. Within the span of two weeks! So there are 3 horses that have ks( and I don’t think any horses at my barn had ks until now). And I’m pretty sure that they have the same vet. Is that weird? Could it just be a coincidence, or is something weird about all this? Just looking for second opinions on this! Thank you!

Hi, I don’t have Rimondo unfortunately but wanted to see the competition videos from a mare. Does anyone of you have it and could screen record the videos for me? Would really appreciate that thank u!

This might be a long shot but willing to give it a try. Does anybody know any trustworthy studfarms in Portugal/ Spain that have some nice Lusitano’s/ PRE’s/ Andalusians for sale?

Please note the horses would not be for me but for people that I know that would love to have one of these horses. Their budget isn’t extremely high but the most important is a good character of the horse.

I was looking around on several sites already and there’s a lot of big stud farms around. But I just don’t know which ones are trustworthy or not. (Side note, the breeders where I got my stallions are sadly out of their budget, which is completely understandable)

I will be the one going there soon and trying out the horses (if they are broken in, not a necessity). Will definitely not be buying off of a video. Just looking for some recommendations in terms of places.

Pic of my boys for attention?

My boyfriend (28m) gave me (31f) an ultimatum that is him or my horses. I have 3. A senior old man (21), a young mare (6), and a young colt (2). We’ve been together on and off for 3 years (he cheated) then i took him back and we’ve been together the past 3 years. I have severe ADHD/high functioning autism/depression so I’m admittedly a bit slower to complete the average life timeline i think. Or that’s how he makes me feel (I’m old/too old/immature). We are not engaged desite him saying he wants to but can never afford a ring (although i have a promise ring from a few years before that he could have asked me with and I’d have been happy with). Last thing, is my parents pay for my horses right now and have almost my entire life that I’ve had them because it’s also my moms passion, which has been 22 years.

Some background, I just graduated last august (5 months) from a masters program, and it was rough. Boyfriend lived with me, and i took care of everything. I had to clean, do laundry, dishes, and cook on top of taking care of my dog, cat, and 2 horses (which turned into 1 when my older horse passed tragically) and his very aggressive dog which became almost my entire responsibility on top of research, school stuff, a TA job to support us (which he still denies was real), writing a thesis, and internship. I’ll agree, i took on way more than i could chew but i really wasn’t supported by him whatsoever. He was in and out of jobs the entire 3 years and one of those years he sat at home playing videogames almost all day or he was hunting (deer or ducks). He recently annoyed he never was looking for jobs even though he told me he was. At the time, it impacted our relationship tremendously. I didn’t feel loved or appreciated, and was often ignored constantly. I struggled a lot financially, even with my parents help for rent (I’m incredibly blessed), I blew the all my savings (13k) to help him or keep us afloat with cell phone bills, eating, paying for hotels for him to stay at in contract work jobs, or sending him money for food when he was gone. He rarely helped with groceries, never helped clean, sometimes did his own laundry (but many times I’d be up doing laundry at 2am so he’d have fresh clean clothes to take if he was working a contract job and he came home for the weekend because even though he did his laundry sometimes, he over filled the drum and it would still smell dirty or take 3 cycles to dry), he rarely helped with the animals because “they aren’t his”, except for the one dog, which is fair even though he was often home before me or i was trying to make dinner for him, and he’d often leave messes for me to clean up. His computer desk was filled with trash and stuff all the time. I’d have to clean it. And i almost always took out the trash. I think i might’ve gotten him to take it out 4-5 times.

Unfortunately, aside from videogames, I fear he’s been abusive. Often nitpicking how I do things (ex. I always do everything the hard way, will correct me constantly), if I bring something up or call him out on something it’ll end up with me being screamed at or it somehow thrown back on me, and he never wants me to talk to my friends/family/anyone about struggles in our relationship. I cannot talk to other men or it’s cheating, even if they’ve been strictly platonic friends for years. He usually berates me about my lack of maturity/being childish (for my interests/movie or tv show preferences/some of my actions), relying on my parents help, that i need to grow up, or being lazy (this is depression related). All the while, he is horrible with money, is impulsive, makes reckless decisions, and prioritizes his wants/needs above all else. I’m constantly expected me to drop everything and anything I was doing to help him or do something for/with him, but rarely returned the favor if i needed help. Never helped with house chores, i had to beg him to help me with his aggressive dog (who quite literally ran after people/dogs/tried to attack people to the point I was always stressed about him being outside off leash so i had to walk him always while my dog was just fine). He also left his very aggressive dog for me to take care of all this time, never paid for dog food or vet bills (left it up to me or my parents), and left me to deal with his dogs spiraling behavior. Last thing, is he does not have a car.. he drives my economic grocer getter and my parents have paid for the insurance on it for the past 6 months and prior i paid for it. So the last 2 years he’s driven this car everywhere and it’s honestly been the most reliable vehicle he’s had in the 6 years we’ve dated. He never paid for rent or was asked to pay rent at my parents in hopes he would save money or never needed/wanted for anything (which i think he resents me for). There’s more to this but to follow timeline, I’ll include it later.

Flash forward to the most present, we moved from Texas to Tennessee to live with my parents to save money. He has bounced around to 2-4 jobs (usually with about a month of off time between) since May when he moved up before I did. But he never really saved any money, claiming he couldn’t? Even when he was paid 40 an hour at a contract job. Therefore, we’ve basically spent more time away from one another than with each other. After i graduated in august, i think i developed severe burnout and my depression started to take hold. I’ve been helping my parents as much as possible, trying to ride/enjoy my horses since I had to basically take a 5-6 year break due to horse health issues/head school), and just get back to me after completely overburdening myself in grad school. My parents have wanted me to take it easy, (knowing he didn’t help me in grad school and i was extremely stressed) so i haven’t really looked for a job and my studying for my licensing exam was out on hold. I will admit here that this is my fault for not doing it faster. But in the times he’s been home, intimacy has been non existent and he has spent almost all his time gaming or hunting. If he does spend time with me, it’s coming in to lay in bed and watch a show or movie he wants to watch. Before grad school, i used to go hunting with him but i stopped due to lack of time with upset him greatly. Now I just don’t want to go because he doesn’t spend time with me, give me attention, or just hang out with me and my depression got so bad I just couldn’t do anything. I was also pregnant in my first trimester and morning sickness was brutal. Additionally, he’s never really supported me with the horses. I think i can remember one time he came to watch me ride. All the while I went hunting with him and put my hobbies on the back burner. In the past year or intimacy has dwindled to almost nothing.

In December I found out i was pregnant, and i was terrified because no job/no health insurance/no money and my mental health is not great but i was excited. He was excited. His dad was excited, but my parents were shocked and a little worried, but happy. My mom tried to have a conversation with us about our plan for the baby and he flat out refused saying he didn’t want to have a plan and refused to raise a kid the “perfect way” aka my moms way in his words. Which scared/freaked me out, because what do you mean you don’t WANs have a plan for a while human baby?! But honestly, i sat down to have the convo with my parents without him and one of my parents questions was how much we wanted them to be involved. Which i think was respectful in the way that they will respect our parenting style and only be there if we asked for help but maybe I’m wrong. I honestly don’t know whats wrong or right anymore. Idk if I’m capable of making such decisions properly anymore.

About 3 weeks ago, he came home from his latest job to prepare for a new job he got in Texas (back home). I agreed I did want to move back to Texas but I needed to get on my feet first so i didn’t really on my parents to pay to move me again. Which he was initially fine with. Well the entire week he was home 3 big things happen. He played videogames the first 5 days, then wanted to hang out the last day before he leaves and he knew my dog was having her puppies that day. So my dog had her puppies (which he knew would happen) that day (this was a planned breeding btw not irresponsible they are all well accomplished/pampered dogs). He wanted try leave so he could go hunting that weekend in Texas. So I basically call him out that he waited until he was leaving to hang out and now i can’t because my dog was having her puppies/had complications and needed an emergency c section/spay. He got nasty with me when i stood up for myself, that i could’ve asked him to hang out or been affectionate to him ; which i could’ve but I’ve been told no before in the past) and then i was in the vets office crying over him and my dog. He decided to stay longer. I had to stay with my dog to make sure she and the puppies were okay so i didn’t really get to even sleep in bed with him until the last two nights. Two days after my dog had her puppies, i had a miscarriage at 12 weeks. Which he again seemed okay with, like he doesn’t have high emotional intelligence, but he kinda seemed to dismiss it. He just said “it happens”. A day after that, we went out to dinner (first date since September because i wanted to do something just the two of us), and that’s when he gave me the ultimatum. Him or the horses. I either move to Texas within 3-6 months and sell the horses or stay here Ava we break up. I was shocked as I’ve been riding for 26 years and had horses for 21 years at this point, like they’ve been here longer than he has. It’s been my passion forever. And I’ve never been given an ultimatum before like that and I’ve had 3 other boyfriends in my life. I just said i couldn’t do that because they were my life and made me who i am.. and he started in on me about never wanting better for myself, im gonna only rely on my parents (which i don’t plan to at all i want to get on my feet), that I need to grow up, and because my parents pay for the horses i need to sell them. Then two days after that, his dog attacked my moms dog (for the 4th time). In the past fights, i was bitten once on my leg and once on my hand which is still not right. This time, my dad was bit 3 times and he was bit 3 times. We made the decision to put his dog down. He was more upset about the dog than the baby. After that there was a massive disconnect between us. No hugs, no kisses, and even though he laid with me those last two days he barely spoke to me and never really looked at me, just played on his phone. I continually asked if i did something wrong or if he had anything on his mind. The lack of intimacy really upset me a lot. It felt like a massive rejection. Like it’s painful. Physically painful. He ended up leaving, saying that he loved me and we’d get through this, but he won’t wait forever for me.

Since then, things have spiraled between us. He’s been gloating and rubbing in my face how much better Texas is than where I am. Which it is, and why i don’t plan to stay here forever. But things have turned verbally abusive on his end. He has berating me for not being able to do simple tasks (idk what tasks he means), needing to grow up, hating that i have chosen the horses over him and our relationship, that i don’t have a job and im not looking for one, i wanna “stay on my parents tit my whole life”, i “apparently have depression” that i do nothing about, i got upset with him over driving the car to go hunting when there was a break in insurance and was pulled over by a cop (because it’s my/my moms fault we didn’t instance faster and he also called me up demanding i fix it immediately at 8pm) so that situation is all my fault and got him angry. It said it’s all me. I’m the problem. The next day i asked a clarifying question and he blew up on me for not doing simple tasks like washing his text messages (which was vague because he went from talking about a rodeo line up to me looking for a job with no context). And everything he’s said has left me in tears every time. But biggest thing, is that i chose the horses over him. He did admit to not finding me attractive anymore essentially because i rejected him for sex too much in grad school (outside of grad school I’ve been happy to do it save once when i was pregnant and it was hurting which he called me a bitch for but in grad school i felt like his mother and it was weird and i resented him for all i had to do and he just sat there playing games), and he has lost feelings because i won’t grow up and he feels like my dad? Which is odd because he’s nothing like my dad and interestingly I felt like his mother while i was in grad school. He says he misses who i was before grad school.. because i wasn’t like this. I think he says that because i prioritized him over everything and i just stopped doing everything he asked me to and do everything he wanted of me, which meant my horses fell to the wayside. He even forbade me from riding my horses and accused me of trying to hurt or baby in my first trimester by riding my safest horse at a walk. I know what Google says but I’ve ridden for 26 years and i think that applies to people who don’t know how to ride and go bouncing around all crazy. But i stopped riding because he told me he’d never forgive me if i lost our baby for being so selfish. So cue not depression. He’s spoken to his dad and his dads gf about this, and because dads gf had a experience with her sister choosing horses over everything inviting her kids, i will be just like her (which i know i wouldn’t whatsoever). But he got mad when i was talking to my sister about this, and my parents know something is wrong because I’ve been crying for 4 days straight. He also called me a narcissist.. even though i literally went to school to be a therapist and everyone I’ve asked that one question to has agreed i am not a narcissist. One minute he’s fine in a text, texting me like nothing happened, then getting mad at me we’ve just being vicious. It’s like jeykl and hyde. He even admitted he knew it was hurting me what he was doing. Then later said he acted that way being he’s stressed at the new job and doesn’t think I’m gonna move down there. And all the while he’s being me and always ends with I don’t want to break up. Or if i suggest it, he says don’t say stupid shit or I’ve been considering it. But seems to say he doesn’t want to after i even push for it for real. So I’ve also asked how to fix the relationship (essentially i must have sex with him and be with him in person) which i can’t do from here in Tennessee. I either stay in Tennessee where i can save money and have my horses (more affordable here than in Texas right now) or I move with him and sell my horses.

After his behavior recently, my parents do not want to pay for anything involving him but also don’t feel they can afford board on 3 horses in Texas until i get on my feet. He says they’re just horses, and i can replace them later but he also doesn’t understand how long it took me to have horses of this caliber or even find them. Heck one has to be specifically bred for and he’s the last of his line. I have my old man, who will never go anywhere he’s here for life, but my two younger ones are so high caliber and value. I’ve had the youngest since he was 10 says old and at his first National show, he won reserve national champ out of 22 other young horses. I’ve never had a horse i could go to this kind of nationals with.. it’s been a dream come true. He’s truly a dream come true. My mare is healing things in me i didn’t know i needed healing. She reminds me of my first horse, whom i lost in the first 3 months of him and I dating, and is really healing my lack of confidence that other horses gave me in the past. These animals are my life.. they are who i am.. without them, i know life would go on but I wouldn’t be the same. He doesn’t seem to care to understand that. It’s just that because i can’t afford the horses, i need to get rid of them. Which i know he’s right, i can’t afford them but my dad said it’s really not up to him, it’s up to my dad to decide. Besides, what he doesn’t realize is that the money the horses sell for I must return to my father because they’re on loan. Even if my youngest sold for 5 figures, a lot would go back to my dad. Same with my mare.

Before yall say maybe it’s because i don’t chose him or prioritize our relationship, I ride 2-3 days a week but when he’s here i don’t ride at all to spend time with him… which never happens because he plays videogames. And I’ve gone to visit as much as i could afford to and with leaving my parents to care for and deal with his extremely aggressive dog. In every aspect of our relationship until now I’ve basically prioritized it and him. I’ve lost friends because of it. I didn’t do as well in grad school because of the issues with us at times. If he needed me i was there, even if i had a test the next day. I poured everything i have into this relationship. I don’t wave just give up but i don’t think it’s healthy anymore.

I have started to do the things he says i should do to fix it. I’ve also taken steps to find a job, and it’s not much but it’s something until i pass my licensing exam, but now that’s not enough for him because it doesn’t pay well and i should’ve just gotten a job in Texas and slept on his dads couch with him until he can get an apartment in 2-3 months. I’ve gotten back on my antidepressants and ADD medications so i can function better. But that’s not enough ir maybe its too little too late. I’m trying to better myself and get into the gym, I’ve started on walks to feel pretty again and be more attractive. I haven’t gotten a compliment from his man in months maybe over a year.. always gets mad that it takes me too long to get ready or i take too long picking out clothes because i have to keep in mind what he deems appropriate. I’ve started researching different study materials for the licensing exam. So I’m definitely trying.

I’ve looked at all the options to fix this and idk what to do because nothing is good enough. I know he has valid points. He’s frustrated with me for not having my shit together and frankly I’m frustrated with myself. I love this man more than I’ve loved anyone else.. he says he loves me too but i don’t think it’s in the same way. Maybe it’s because i haven’t “put out” enough or because i can’t take a (mean or at my expense) joke as often, or because I’m not doing the things he wants to do when he wants to do it. I’ve defended his behavior, decisions, and everything he does for years even though I’m always the one cleaning up the mess (usually financially or physically cleaning it up). My friends and family who I’ve spoke with in confidence have warned me NOT to sell the horses. That i deserve better. I shouldn’t be spoken to like this. That it’s abuse. But i can’t help but think he’s right and maybe i am being childish or immature idk. Like should I be selling my horses? Even though they’re quite literally the only reason I’m on this plain of existence still? I kind of feel like i supported him through his lowest points and he’s leaving me at my lowest. No emotional support after the loss of our child, shut be out after putting the dog down, rejected me when i tried to initiate anything or gave off “don’t touch me vibes”. Like maybe i should’ve tried harder? I just don’t know if I’m horribly wrong here or right. I overthink everything because I’m so afraid of doing the wrong thing. All my friends are married with kids but have stopped saying/asking if we’re next. I don’t ask for a lot.. because I’m afraid of being disappointed again, but i can’t even get signs he loves me but maybe he doesn’t and even he hasn’t figured that out. I just don’t know. I try really hard to understand everyone’s perspective and at least stand in their shoes. Maybe I’m making excuses idk. If you’re still reading this thank you for doing so and I’m sorry it’s all over the place. I’m mentally exhausted and tired from crying but i need to know if I’m wrong for this.

So do i move back down there for a guy who has essentially ignored me for videogames until he decides he wants to give me attention/go hunting/hasnt kept a steady job for more than 4-5 months at a time, who tells me to sell my horses (he knows they are worth a lot. Especially the youngest and said that the money could help us start our life even though most of what is earned goes back to my parents) or i stay where I’m at to save money, have my horses, and get on my feet so i can eventually move to TX without my parents financial assistance and lose my relationship?

Am i being immature?

Would i make a horrible wrong decision in keeping my horses?

Do i need to grow up and just sell my horses for him?

TL;DR!: boyfriend has given me an ultimatum to move with him to the most recent job he has or sell my horses.

Major life changes (job loss, upcoming surgery, divorce) have forced me to leave our current barn and move closer to home to something cheaper. Current barn was doing 5 days a week rehab rides on the horse without authorization from owner and sending invoices for the rides. I only agreed to 2-3 rides a week for 2 weeks only. They did 5 days a week for 5 weeks. It added up fast! I couldn’t afford the additional $1200 ( rehab rides) on top of $1100 board, but thankfully my parents stepped in to help out.

When I realized how out of control this was getting and that I could not afford to keep my horse at this place I contacted the BO (January 21) and said we were leaving February 1. She said she will take this as my 30 day notice and that Februarys board still has to be paid.

A new invoice just came in for February board and it said the horse is not allowed to leave the property until the account is paid in full. Just to make this clear, I never saw a boarding contract nor did I sign one. I totally understand that the etiquette is to provide 30 days notice and if you can’t, that the month still must be paid. However, I literally do not have the money. Any leftovers I had in savings has gone to these rehab rides. I realize this will be burning a bridge, and it sucks, but my hands are tied…

I barely see my horse at this current place and they won’t let me ride him. They’ve been making me take $85 lessons on their own horses but didn’t communicate the cost of these lessons before we started. Luckily I only did 2. I’d rather have a lesson on my OWN horse. There’s a couple other things that have been going on, but the big reason for departing is finances and lack of communication.

I understand this is just business for the BO.. she runs a massive breeding and boarding corporation so I truly don’t think she’s going to have financial difficulties with my horse leaving. She kicked out her own personal horse for so I could have the stall. I hate doing this to people, I’ve never left a barn like this, and I’m really sorry it’s going like this, but I do not have the funds.

Am I a terrible person? Can she do anything? Prevent me from removing our things and my horse? Come after me? I’ll probably get a lot of hate for this post, but I don’t know what else to do. What would you do in this situation?

My mare is 17.3hh I bought her about 6 months ago and the 7ft rugs don't fit her, looking for brands and recommendations

Just thought I’d update Incase anybody wondered. I made a post about a month ago if anyone remembers. I said my horse had been acting out - biting, kicking, being crazy with floating and farrier.

She was put to sleep yesterday. She had a few big injuries and it was the kindest option. She was my heart horse 100%, I’ll miss her forever.

My trainer is competing at a pretty high level (going for the world championship 2025) and was looking for people to sign up for an high intensity training at the race track.

I signed up on a whim because I was curious (and my curiosity is stronger than my anxiety). But I kind of forgot that my beloved heart horse whom I used to ride in these situations and always kept a cool head is gone since two years.

And I'm probably going to end up on the hot tempered little boy who used to race as a baby and will 100% remember the setting. (I love him dearly and I already competed with him but boy does his brain not work sometimes).

Pray for me lol.

I’m in the due diligence/PPE stage of buying my first horse. I’ve contacted a few vets, they’ve told me their availability and rates…but what do I need to have for my horse? He’s a late teens unraced TB with rated novice experience. Solid dude with a cute dad bod that I intend to have and enjoy until his retirement! Riding looks like whatever we feel that day. Small jump courses, western, trails, bareback, whatever! I just want to gauge what I need before a vet tries to squeeze all the juice out of me! What’s realistic for his age/intended use? TIA!