Hello I'm AFAB and recently I felt more body disphoria than normal does anyone else feel like this

Okay so I’m enby, but also a bit gender fluid I guess? But does Anyone else have this weird relationship to gender expression (ha, I mean Ofcourse we all do we’re all enby) where the more traditionally ‘masc’ you dress, the more fem you feel. And vice versa.

Like sometimes I feel like peak masculinity when I’m rocking eye liner wings and dressed like a goth fem dog boy. Meanwhile in camo and big boots and baggy clothes I feel so fem. So my gender expression definitely doesn’t line up with my current gender identity.

I don't even know if I should call this a vent lmao. I just downloaded an app to plan workouts. Nothing here, right? Wrong. They asked what gender I was. I picked non-binary of course! Then, they kept telling "women of your age.." 💀💀 They also showed a female 3d model, when I would've gotten the male one if I picked the man option. This is sad because the app looked great, but I'm just laughing at it 'cause what else can I do? Stay safe y'all and don't let ignorant people get to you <3

A few days ago I painted my nails for the first time I've been going for more of a punk style. The only one I want to change next time I do it would be the blue one to a darker color

I've recently been really into romance webtoons mainly lgbt ones, lesbian gay, yeah. But I kind of want to see something involving a non-binary main character, or even 2.

I mostly use webtoon but if there's something somewhere else that's fine.

Hi, I will start by saying that I'm non-binary and TTRPGS(tabletop roleplaying games) are big passion of mine.
For some time I've been planning online campaign that I could GM every two or three weeks with random people found online as my irl players are too busy or uninterested in regular sessions(like 5-6 hours every 2-3 weeks). So I went online to post inquiry about looking for players in ttrpg themed groups found mostly on facebook, this is where my problem started. All people that reached out to me seem to be mostly fine usual rpg nerds and everything always goes great when I ask them about their experience with rpgs or when i explain setting to them but as it happens with many non queer cis strangers they always make situation weird when I first explain that i use they/them pronouns when reffering to myslef and that I'm enby.
You probably know how it goes, they either start asking lots of personal questions about my sexuality and gender like I'm their personal guide or they just become straight up uninterested.

How do you check if the stranger is fine with these sorts of things without it interuptiong with everything else.

After few people have acted in a way explained above I still do not understand what else could I do to both explain that I'm non-binary(or at least what pronouns do i use in order to not be misgendered during the sessions) without it derailing the entire conversation.

Currently I've been thinking about either changing my approach by asking the people inquiring about their own pronouns and only after that sharing mine or If this will not work then I will either only start looking at LGBT+ nerd groups but this might make it harder for me to look for players as I'm unable to find any rpg themed groups that mostly have lgbt+ only memebers in my native language(yes, sorry for bad english).

I have even considered to not mention that I'm enby at all and letting them figure it out but that could be a problem If I would have to find out that some players are hostile towards queer people during a session which happens on discord.

Honestly how do you deal with similar situations or do you have any working tactics about how to explain your pronouns to normies without sounding weird or oversharing?

Gender euphoriiiiaaaaaaaaaa

So I’m NB, and I came across a commenter mentioning how certain sexualities and or romantic attraction applies to enbies. And for me at least, what they explained is something I find a bit difficult to put into words, due to make not liking bringing up my assigned at birth characteristics when explaining my gender identity and sexuality. Like for me at least, I’ve been told I can only really have “one” or “be one or the other” by certain people and it’s just annoying to hear that.

So the post and what the commenter said: “However, sometimes when NB people say they are straight or gay, they mean that they are either a) exclusively sexually attracted to the gender opposite to that of their assigned sex (so an AFAB person attracted to men), or b) they are exclusively attracted to people of the opposite gender of the gender they feel MOST connected to— for example, a masculine AFAB person identifying as straight could mean they are attracted to women, because they feel more like a man than they do a woman.”

Personally for me, I’m afab, but more or less feel like in the gender spectrum sense, being deemed too much of one or the other sort of binary can make me dysphoric, alongside parts of my afab self that give me gender dysphoria. That being said, the way the commenter mentioned some NB people identifying a certain way because they feel a bit more of one sort of binary than another kinda helps to explain myself. I personally see myself as either, none of the binary genders, or a bit of both at the same time. That’s my NB experience. At the same time, I fully think that I more or less, love, crush, yearn, in a way that relates to me calling myself a lesbian. I don’t feel hyper feminine, I never have. At the same time, the idea of being hyper masculine is something I also don’t like. So for me how I see myself as both nonbinary and lesbian is that: while I don’t see myself as a man or a woman, my assigned birth sex, plus how I am in terms of non-platonic relationships or feelings, is what I feel like dictates me calling myself a lesbian. I also feel like the way I personally am when it comes to romance and sexuality is sapphic at the minimum. So it feels like such a frustrating dichotomy. Because it would be easier if I was cis, but I know I’m not. I’m also not trans in a binary sense either.

So for me, what makes me see myself as both is just there are aspects of me that make me view myself as lesbian. Being raised as a “daughter” to some degree has shaped how I view relationships in a queer context, as a person on who definitely isn’t attracted to people opposite of their assigned sex.

For me, I’m attracted to people who either one: have the same assigned sex as me (afab) and are either cis or enby. Or two: are trans women. I can’t really go into why I feel that way, but it’s kinda just how I am, cus this somehow applies to trans men to some degree as well. I wish I could say I was bisexual, but bisexual doesn’t feel like the right term, as the idea of being with a man who’s either cishet or cisqueer (ie a cis man who’s either straight or isn’t) grosses me out, and I can’t give ya a logical reason for that. On that token, I can’t really say why the idea of being attracted to trans men isn’t like that for me, but it just isn’t. I genuinely don’t get why those are my preferences as a lesbian, but I’ve tried using other terms to describe my sexuality, and being lesbian is the one that’s fit, and makes the most sense to myself.

So TDLR, I’ve known myself to not be nonbinary for a while (grew up for years without having the terminology to describe why I felt the way I do until I discovered the word nonbinary for myself) that being said, it’s definitely made it harder for me to explain my own sexuality to others because it’s such a contrasting experience.

Either way, I apologize for the ranting. I feel like to some degree, it’s hard to talk about this with people who do know I’m enby/NB, because even if they know I’m lesbian, it’s hard for them to get how it’s inherently just fluid to me.

I want to also state, me saying I’m attracted to trans men as a lesbian, isn’t me trying to invalidate trans men. I really do see trans men as men. I think a part of why I have some degree of attraction for trans men is because they get my experience at least to a better degree, and partly because of where parts of my own gender dysphoria comes from. Tbh, other than trans men, I don’t think I’ve ever felt any attraction of any type to a cis man, straight or not.

I personally don’t have a full on type as a lesbian but for whatever reason I just feel inclined to be attracted to the groups of people I mentioned. And yeah, I have a lot of attractions that trans men don’t fit into the physical aspects of my attraction, I’m still trying to figure out if my attraction to some trans men is due to me having certain ideas about my own medical transition as an enby, and that being specifically it, or if it’s the more sapphic or in my case specifically, lesbian feeling of “wanting to in some way be like you” in specific reference to top surgery for trans men.

This being said, often times when I try to explain my attraction to people if they ask, I’ll say, it partly aligns with my birth sex, and raised gender. To some degree (especially what I consider my grey area w my sexuality) being attracted to some trans men is just- something I can’t fully explain. And yes, for some people that might ask, I’ve tried the label bisexual, but realized I really have no interest in men in general. So I really don’t get the dichotomy that seems to happen within myself about trans men :/

I still see myself as a lesbian, and as a NB/enby, though I feel like depending on the person you meet within the community, they’d probably say something dismissive lol.

Honestly, I’d just appreciate if any fellow NBs/Enbys feel the same way as me, or just have any sort of advice, even if it’s more of a: in solidarity of being confused or analyzing yourself a lot. I personally don’t do it super often, but I get frustrated when I’ve had at least was one friend I’ve known for a while more or less either ignore my gender identity, or completely just mention my romantic and sexuality preferences in a way that makes me feel more feminine than I am, and get dysphoric over it.

For reference if this helps ppl: I’m a young adult, and was only able to figure out I was nonbinary as a teen.

Anyways, much love folks :>

I know this might sound odd.. but it's just me as someone that flows between masc and enby that when I'm on my period I get more aligned to my masc side (the part of me that sees myself more as masc than enby, like the other part) and more dysphoric? I don't know, since I was young periods were something that disgusted myself, sometimes I would cry saying how this isn't my body, that it isn't right and that I want to get rid of it , this even before I got to know I was trans, because sincerely,, it makes me feel pain every month and bleed like I just squished a bunch of berries in my hand ,, because supposedly sometime somehow I would want to have kids, but you get it, since I was 9 that was the first time I got this, I made clear to myself I don't want kids, so why do I need to pass through this every single month? The pain and everything in the end is nothing, because, my body isn't gaining anything with it nor am I . And I know this is a weak point. If I say who I am to someone, they would question me "oh but you have ||periods|| so you aren't a _______!!" Which, I know it's true, I'm not helping myself, I dress myself ""feminine """because I like it , I like to make things organized and "pretty" , fitting what makes me comfortable, and everything, plus, my mom got rid of my binder because "it will give you breast cancer " so,, I can't do anything. Don't get me wrong, I don't want to be seen as a man, actually, in the moment now that I feel more aligned to the side of me that identifies more as a man, I think it would be cool , but genuinely, I would always prefer to simply be seen as just none of those labels, why do I need to be called a man or a woman, aren't we all just humans in the end? So well, I want to be treated as a person, without labels. Because even if I had them, would it change the fact I am a person?

labels are unnecessary, mainly gender ones,, we're all just human beings, why do we need to label ourselves, can't we just I don't know, be humans?? I know this is a topic that might make people sad because "periods are a healthy and human thing,, it's not ugly or disgusting. " But for me it is, when it's about myself and my body, it is, and it's the most ugly and disgusting thing I've ever seen, it makes me nauseous, and I'm not exaggerating, it's scary. I think it's pretty when it comes to artistic terms, but when it comes to me and my body.. please no. It's horrifying.

Sorry if my words are confusing now, I'm in pain a bit so it's though to think.

Posted it here because I think that if I posted this on trans masc it would be weird since you know.. I just said a bunch of stuffs about labels and how I don't like putting myself in "feminine or masculine" ones (I mean I'm fine saying I'm trans masc but I rather just say I'm me, yes my gender is "me" you got it. ) so I feel it would be odd--

Found a new bag which I ADORE

I've heard somewhere that gender queer people are more prone to struggle with drug/alcohol problems, and in my case it's completely true. I'm definitely on the edge of being an alcoholic, I'm definitely addicted to weed and have used an alarming amount of c*ke (I don't know if I'm allowed to talk about hard drugs here lol), which is any amount of it, in recent weeks. I've also tried to get rid of nicotine, which has not made it easier. I just want to know that I'm not alone.

I came out to my parents probably... 6 months ago. I told them I was nonbinary and queer. They, to summarize, told me I would never be anything but a girl and that all queer relationships shoot up in flames. (These beliefs come from their very Baptist beliefs btw) And although I know these statements are wrong, they really impacted me.

I don't stand up for my pronouns in my household. I choose to be the "bigger person" and pursue a relationship with my parents regaurdless. But as of very recently I have discovered that our relationship cannot advance until they accept who I am. It sounds silly typing it out- it almost feels way too obvious- but I'm terrified of enforcing my pronouns in my current position.

I come to the enby community asking for advice on how to confront my parents about using my correct pronouns. Ideally I don't want to get kicked out of my home, but if that is what it comes to I am prepared. I have saved up enough money where I won't end up homeless, so that's something ig. I just truly don't even know where to begin.