my friend (24f) and i (24f) had a petty argument and it’s been 5 days of asking when we will have a conversation about it. today she went off on me for several things over the past 2 months that has annoyed her. she even accused me of making a rude comment about her body which i never did! and i take this accusation seriously because it’s something i wouldn’t do. im not in middle school anymore. and she said that our other friend (24f) has been upset with me which i have literally no idea why because there hasn’t been a change of behavior.

i’m not a defensive person when it comes to communication, i know im flawed and i have the ability to change. i support an open line of communication during conflict. but apparently my friends have had all sorts of issues with me for a while now and there’s no way for me to know unless they bring it up.

i feel crazy for assuming there’s no problem when no one talks to me about one. it’s always been a philosophy of mine that if i have a problem with someone then i need to inform them of it, otherwise there is no problem to be known.

it’s seriously making me reconsider my friendships with these people i’ve grown so close to in the past few months, which is really upsetting me because i’ve been trying to form a reliable friend group in this city for 2 years now.

Recognizing and celebrating achievements can feel like throwing a party for your team’s hard work. Here’s how to make it special:

1. Acknowledge individual contributions publicly during team meetings or through company communications.
2. Celebrate milestones with virtual gatherings or rewards, creating a sense of shared success.
3. Encourage team members to share their wins, fostering a culture of appreciation and positivity.

Teams that celebrate their achievements often report higher morale and motivation. What unique ways do you celebrate successes within your team?

Communication is a necessary skill for everyone to have. It is used everyday in every environment whether it is face-to-face or online communication. Here are some tips to use for better communication.

• Listen attentively

Communication skills are not only for us to Effective communication is more than just talking and starting a conversation. A seamless discussion is comparable to a game of ping pong. We need to have the ability to listen to what they have to say. We can now respond appropriately after listening to and comprehending what was said.

• Be polite

Not all conversations are informal. When talking to others especially strangers or elders, we have to be polite. Using these phrases will make your conversations respectful and will encourage a conversation to be heard and understood.

• Have clarity

After listening, you have to form your words correctly. Having an organized story or response will make your ideas cleae and be received well.

No matter the scenario, there are always people who are borderline impossible to communicate with.

The kind of people who, instead of answering a question/expressing themselves/clearing up a confusion, simply remain silent. It happens with friends, during dating, and also at work.

The kind of people who reach for the ban button whenever a minor inconvenience happens during a regular online conversation. It feels like you are dancing on egg shells, because one bad word wil end it all.

A few examples:

at work: I need help from a colleague to make a system similar to an existing system. I gave all criteria and some examples, but it feels like she ignores all input. Just keeps repeating her own idea, which I already told her is not good for the purpose. We have a loop where she initiates a call, asks a million questions. I asnwer all, tell her the issues, and try to steer her to a different approach. She asks why her idea is not good. I tell her once again why. Then she says something, loops back to her idea, and then in the end asks why it will not work out. It feels like I am talking with a robot who is programmed to ignore all input and repeat one idea without end.

friends: dude says something niche, I ask for explanation. Does not explain anything even if I ask again. Gives off a vibe that you either know or you don't, but I'm not gonna tell anything. Pretty frustrating when it happens.

dating: talk with a girl, there comes a disagreement for example. I try to discuss it, she either remains silent or goes for a ban, or comes up with some childish excuse. In the end there is only confusion because of course it is impossible to solve a situation like this.

Why are so many people so hard to communicate with? And how to handle this effectively/without getting annoyed?

Thanks :)

Hi guys,

I’ve always struggled with communicating and getting ideas across, so I’m looking to up skill with an online communications course I can take in my own time outside my work. I don’t mind paying for it if it’s quality work and it needs to be suitable for uk based person

Hope someone can help 🙏

Adapting your communication style can feel like wearing different hats for different occasions. Here’s how to do it effectively:

1. Observe and ask for feedback on communication preferences, tailoring your approach to individual needs.
2. Use a variety of communication methods—emails, calls, and messages—to suit different situations and personalities.
3. Be mindful of cultural differences that may influence how team members communicate and interpret messages.

Research shows that teams that adapt communication styles often see a 20% increase in satisfaction. How do you ensure your communication resonates with everyone on your team?

I’m not good at arguing or talking to people. Does anyone know good legal tv shows that I can watch to get better?

TLDR IM SO SORRY. PLEASE HELP. Need advice.

I’ve (F30) been in a relationship with someone (M:33) since may 24 of 2023. It started out so great. I had absolutely never felt like this with anyone else. So much so that I even had thoughts about marriage. And I’ve never ever thought about that. It isn’t something I really care about. I enjoy my alone time. But for like 8 months it was all good. But the last part of our relationship, I don’t even know who he is anymore. He got a prescription for Alprazolam even though he doesn’t really have crippling anxiety, he just likes how it feels. It has absolutely wiped him of his identity. He doesn’t talk or share anything. I can’t share anything with him because he doesn’t listen or doesn’t care. Mostly replying “mmmhmm”

There are so many times when I say or talk about something to him and then 30 minutes later he repeats it. And claims I didn’t say it. His memory is horrible. I caught something on his phone on Instagram one time and I was very upset. We got through it but when I brought it up randomly a couple months later, he denied it. Said it didn’t happen and he didn’t remember that. It kind of hit me to know he doesn’t remember the time when he abused my trust and hurt me. It was as if it was nothing to him.

Just like everything, nothing gets to him. Meaning his brain is made of stone. He will never see a different perspective. He knows what he knows and that’s what goes. It’s his way or no way. He knows everything, he doesn’t ever take into account that what I’m saying to him may be relevant to what’s happening. Doesn’t give it an option until it actually happens. I have several diagnoses for mental health and also physical issues. He tries to tell me it’s all in my head, that if I think I have these disorders then they will manifest and that all I have to do is forget and not believe I have these problems. Magic! They’d go away. He has witnessed me struggling, I have even been so bad one point I told him I really just wanted to die. For it all to stop. And I had a bottle of pills to do it. He said absolutely nothing to this. But then a couple days later he says something about wanting it to stop for him, expecting me to have a big and caring reaction. I reacted and just told him it’s not the answer. But he ignores me, never takes into account how I’m feeling or what I want. Thinks everything is on his time. He knows best. You can’t tell him anything because he already knows. He said to me “I believe I’m the reason Covid happened.” To which I said how tf is that even possible and why do you think that.

He just does what he wants. He takes his dog for a walk to sh*t, never ever picks up her stuff. He thinks the law is stupid and so he doesn’t have to follow it. He disrespects me constantly by never ever ever doing small things that I ask him to do. Simple things like rinsing off his dishes before putting in the sink. To not drive MY car like a manic. I give him advice about things I’ve been dealing with for about 7 years like how the Walgreens pharmacy works, how the doctor he goes to works. He never does it. It’s as if anything I know or say is wrong and it will not be considered accurate until he proves it himself. He can’t just believe I know something.

Lately I feel like a shitty person because it’s like I’m on his ass about things all the time. But I wouldn’t be if he actually took what I say In Consideration. He forgets things and I have to remind him so often. He got me a ring for engagement on Amazon for $20. It’s beautiful but I told him I didn’t like black jewelry. He gets me a black ring. Because HE likes it. Stone fell out and I then found the same ring on TEMU for $1.28. I feel as if he doesn’t care, he’s not all in, something is keeping him locked up and making him cold and inconsiderate. Nothing you say matters to him if he already has his mind made up. He knows about my childhood and the fact that I was sexually abused three separate times and I haven’t worked through it like I should have already and it makes sex a littttle different for me. Sometimes he will be ho^ny and get touchy feely with me when I tell him I am not in the mood. But because HE is hor$ny, he thinks it’s okay to touch on me wherever he wants.

I don’t know what to do anymore because he will NOT have a serious genuine conversation with me about the path we are on. That I’m unhappy. Things aren’t going well. He basically deflects anything about that and makes some joke or changes the subject. But then when he is at work, he can have a text conversation just fine (usually) Okay I’m going to end this now but I know it’s long and babbling. I just don’t know how to walk away or how to repair the relationship.

I have come to realise recently that words are much powerful tools than I thought. It can build you, it can burn you, it can build others and it can burn others too.

On a daily basis we encounter several conversations, sometimes we are able to effectively communicate and express, sometimes we are not. When we get emotional the things usually come out differently than intended to, and we need to learn how to distance ourselves from our emotions and communicate effectively.

Let’s Play a game on this forum, we will share our conversation which didn’t feel right and wasn’t communicated properly and our fellow redditors will help us reframe the conversation to make it effective. This will help us understand the situation and communicate properly next time.

For Eg: Recently, someone was talking in a pretty condescending tone but I had to get some work done from him, i didn’t like the condescending tone so i told him to “watch his tone” and he told me there’s a relative who passed away in his family, “i said i couldn’t care less anymore” because his tone was condescending. Eventually I couldn’t get my work done nor get an apology for the condescending tone. What could i have said to relay both information?

Also if anyone’s interested - Just use the same name “Effective Communication” as title and number it and we can continue. Let’s learn together and communicate effectively.

Maintaining team culture remotely can feel like keeping a flame alive in a breeze. Here are some practices that can help:

1. Organize virtual team-building activities to foster connections and camaraderie.
2. Encourage informal interactions through dedicated channels for casual conversation on platforms like Slack.
3. Celebrate milestones and achievements together, no matter how small, to keep the spirit alive.

Companies that nurture culture remotely often see higher retention and satisfaction rates. What unique traditions does your team have to maintain its culture?

Measuring project success in terms of collaboration can feel like piecing together a complex puzzle. Here’s how to do it:

1. Gather feedback from team members on their collaboration experiences and any challenges faced.
2. Assess project outcomes against initial goals to determine how collaboration contributed to success.
3. Look at engagement levels, such as participation in meetings and contributions to discussions, as indicators of collaboration effectiveness.

Research shows that projects with high collaboration rates are 50% more likely to succeed. What metrics do you think best reflect collaboration success in your team?

reading a bit of stuff about nonviolent communication, i thought it seemed a bit like the xy problem, which is when asking a question online for a problem you have, instead of asking about what you *think* is the solution / how to make it work, ask about the problem itself and let people give you the correct solution.

e.g. your computer is slow, so you ask how to download ram (y), when the actual problem (x) is that your computer is slow, and instead you should have just asked how to fix your computer being slow (x).

the difference is people saying you cant download ram vs people saying you should upgrade the physical ram in your pc or maybe even to close more tabs / background processes.

I feel like this is applicable because nonviolent communication seems to be about instead of saying Y's to people, say X.

e.g. "you shouldn't do x" -> "i feel y when you do x", the actual *problem* isnt that someone shouldnt do x, the problem is that you feel y when they do it if that makes sense.

i feel like this can also be applied to be less accusatory / more future looking / pragmatic.

e.g. "you ignore me" -> "i feel lonely" the actual problem that you wanna solve is feeling lonely, not whatever they did ("you ignore me" implies you think the solution is for them to not ignore you, in which case "you ignore me" is an example of *y* in the x y problem).

and even when people say things to you, if it *sounds* like a y statement, you can try to find the actual problem / cause, i.e. the x by asking identifying questions instead of getting hung up on what Y they said.

what do yall think?

We all have experienced/witnessed that co-workers' uncomfortable boundary-pushing behaviors. Things like commenting on your body scent without saying an extra word and leaving you doubting if he means anything weird or not (???), inviting you for an after-work/weekend drink when you are even not that close yet (???), or sticking and chatting with you for every Happy Hour…

We collected some featured and strong responses from our community regarding how to respond to those scenarios. We hope y’all have fun reading them because we did! 👇👇👇

If they commented on your scent and it’s obviously off the topic:

* “Oh, thanks! It’s called ‘Respectful Boundaries.’ Maybe your girlfriend would like it, too!”

* “Oh thank you! It’s ‘Eau de Not Interested’ :) “

* “Glad you noticed but maybe you can use those skills to notice when you are crossing a line?”

These responses could be alternated to any scenario/topic!

If they ask you to hang out individually outside of work:

* Laugh and say "awk...ward” (making sure he’s uncomfortable TOO!!)

* “They told me you are funny!” (Laugh)

Encountering those inappropriate behaviors/comments at work is such a tricky but serious topic. We would love to hear how would you respond these scenarios fun and smart too! If you are interested in practicing how to respond smart or viewing other featured responses, feel free to visit convpro.com for a free trial.

Hi all,

I've been following Vinh for a long time, and I want to take his course. Anyone has any review on the Virtual Master Class (Not the Academy, this is the 5 hours Master Class).

There’s this guy I hung out with once, and sometimes I talk to him ig? Idk if it counts but whatever and we’ve sort of exchanged amused smiles/laughter sometimes I just saw him when he walked out of the bathroom and laughed awkwardly then greeted him (it was just the two of us in the area btw) but he just walked past me and didn’t respond at all… does he not like me?? Does this mean he (negatively) dislikes me? Could he have just possibly not heard me? But I don’t think he had earplugs in can someone explain what this means??? or am I just overthinking stuff..

3 areas of comms I need to improve on. I’m a bite size learner and don’t have the finances to go to a large seminar etc.

I’ve seen the YouTube videos from AskVinh, but wondering what other resources you found helpful / easy to implement for these topics.

I want to be a charismatic communicator but always succumb to my nerves and overthinking. I often forget what it is I’m trying to say. The better I know someone, the worst it is because I feel judged or that I’m letting them down somehow. It’s really not rational.

Day to day I’m great at what I do, but my communication is what lets me down.

Hi

Hi i hope that you're fine

What's the best youtube channel of someone who master the art of communication ( the art of giving comment on whatever topic , or replying when being insulted and so on)

idk if this is the right sub for this but im lost

i studied communication and got master degree in organisational communication in my country now i want to study abroad an other masters program i chose to study in italy i checked to see what i can study with this diploma and in which universites and this is what i got:

-COMMUNICATION TECHNOLOGIES AND MULTIMEDIA - LM-27

Università degli Studi di BRESCIA(public )

Università degli Studi di SALERNO(-public)

-ECONOMICS AND COMMUNICATION FOR MANAGEMENT AND INNOVATION - LM-77

Università degli Studi di ROMA "La Sapienza"(public )

-DIGITAL COMMUNICATION - LM-59

Università degli Studi di PAVIA(public)

-CORPORATE COMMUNICATION AND MEDIA - LM-59 / LM-92

Università degli Studi di SALERNO(public)

-COMMUNICATION TECHNOLOGIES AND MULTIMEDIA - LM-27

Università degli Studi di BRESCIA(public )

-MODERN LANGUAGES FOR INTERNATIONAL COMMUNICATION AND COOPERATION - LM-38

Università degli Studi INSUBRIA Varese-Como(public)

-STRATEGIES IN COMMUNICATION - LM-92

Università degli Studi di PADOVA(public

please which one of these will be more helpful in my carrer ? if you got any sugestion or advice comment down below

Efficient email etiquette can enhance productivity, reduce inbox clutter, and ensure that the right people receive the right information.

1. Identify Primary Recipients: Use the "To" field for people who need to take action. This keeps accountability clear.
2. Use CC Wisely: Only CC individuals who need visibility but aren’t required to act. Avoid unnecessary CCs to reduce clutter.
3. Choose “Reply All” Sparingly: Reserve "Reply All" for when it’s truly needed, ensuring that all replies are relevant to everyone in the conversation.
4. Simplify Follow-ups: When following up, consider directing your message to the main recipient to avoid excess communication loops.
5. Prioritize Clarity in Responses: Provide concise replies with specific action points to streamline the email cycle and minimize misunderstandings.

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Finding the right mix of synchronous and asynchronous communication can feel like creating the perfect recipe. Here’s how to strike that balance:

Use synchronous communication for brainstorming sessions or urgent discussions where real-time input is valuable.
Opt for asynchronous communication for updates or information sharing that doesn’t require immediate feedback.

Encourage flexibility by letting team members choose the method that suits their workflow best.

Research shows that teams balancing these two modes see a 30% increase in efficiency. How do you determine when to switch between the two?

In today’s multi-generational workplace, understanding the distinct communication preferences of Millennials and Gen Z can greatly enhance team collaboration and engagement. Here are five major differences that can help bridge the gap:

1. Digital vs. Face-to-Face Balance
   • Millennials prefer a mix of digital and in-person communication, while Gen Z leans heavily towards digital-first interactions.
2. Preferred Communication Channels
   • Millennials often use email and structured platforms, while Gen Z favors instant messaging and social media for real-time feedback.
3. Feedback Frequency
   • Both groups value feedback, but Millennials prefer regular, structured check-ins, while Gen Z seeks quick, direct feedback.
4. Expectations for Collaboration
   • Millennials value collaborative environments and open dialogue; Gen Z thrives in flexible, tech-centered setups that emphasize efficiency.
5. Formal vs. Informal Tone
   • Millennials are more accustomed to formal communication, while Gen Z is comfortable with a more casual, concise tone.

Understanding these preferences can foster a harmonious, productive workplace where every generation feels understood and engaged.

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Hi …..how are you …i feel I perceive the info from the sender who I communicate with very slowly…. Also i feel my responses are slow …..also alots of time I sit with people who talk very wisely and I want to absorb all the info as I feel that this wise talking will be a reason for transforming me but I get distracted or I couldn’t organize the talking in my mind or I couldn’t keep that way in mind that for example cannot recall that so how i solve the slow perception of info & how I absorb the info totally?

Do that because i have no mind mapping technique as that what comes to my mind ?

I've been struggling with this for a while now.

At every party or gathering, I'm that person who ends up in the corner, just listening to everyone else talk. When I do speak, it's always with disclaimers or apologies.

I keep everything bottled up inside and rarely share what's going on in my life. The worst part? I could probably leave any event without anyone even noticing - that's how much of a background character I've become.

My lack of confidence is key reason behind all this and I hate how it affects everything.

I know I need to change this but don't know where to start. Anyone else been through something similar? How did you overcome it?

The first time I spoke in front of an audience was back in college when I had the chance to teach computer skills at a private school to earn some extra cash. Fast forward many years and I have given thousands of talks around the world in 3 languages. Four years ago, after extensive Neuroscience training, I started to coach people for their public speaking engagements and I was immediately hooked! There is SO MUCH room for improvement even with the most seasoned speakers. All those years led me to develop a great amount of notes and methods, but this information was always locked within the confines of my private sessions. Now I started to record some of these learnings in Youtube videos, and publishing a newsletter, but I am not sure if there is really an audience out there that would be interested. What do you all think?

I wanted to share my story in the hope that this will be helpful to someone. This is the story of how I botched probably the most important presentation of my life ... and how I recovered from it.

It was 2018 and I had to deliver a 15 minute long speech at the World Public Speaking championships in Cape Town, South Africa. This was probably the most important presentation of my life -- I had to speak in front of an audience of hundreds of the best public speakers in the world (not to mention that I was spending my own money on the airfare to go there).

When I got up to speak for my first round ... I froze. My mind went totally blank. I couldn’t even remember the first word of my speech. And the more I spoke, the worse it got. I started stumbling over my words. I felt that red-hot flush of humiliation. By the end of the speech (which felt like the longest 15 minutes of my life) I was holding back tears. I was convinced I had let myself down completely. I felt like a total impostor. What business did I have being at worlds?

There was a two-day gap before my next round, so I locked myself in a room and repeated the speech over and over again. The first few runs were horrible. Every time I spoke, I could envision myself in that room again where I couldn't finish my sentences. And I'd feel just as anxious as I had previously.

But something magical started to happen around the fifth / sixth time I repeated the speech. I began to feel what actors call a “through-line,” an inner sense of the arc of the story. Up until now, I had never felt this before. I wasn’t just memorizing; I was embodying the speech. Slowly but surely, I started to feel the words I was saying.

Two days later, I stepped onto the stage to deliver the speech again ... and it turned out to be the best speech I’d ever given. I felt invincible when speaking. I ended up ranking second place overall in the speech category at the World Championships.

Here’s what I learned from that experience:

Confidence comes from repetition. I'll say it again because it's so important: confidence comes from repetition. If you have a presentation and you want to do well, you need to rehearse it fully at least 10 times -- more if you can. Find an empty room. Walk around the room talking to yourself (it's okay if you look crazy). Deliver the presentation as if to a real audience. Don't ever show the audience your "first draft"!

At first, you’ll fumble. You might feel out of sync. But with each repetition, you’ll start to feel the "through-line." Once you feel it, that's when the magic happens. You’ll feel the ideas flowing naturally, and that’s when you know you’re ready to speak in public.

If this resonated with you, I'm hosting a free online workshop this week on Wednesday (7pm ET) about speaking confidence. Samples of topics I'll cover:

• Techniques for improving at impromptu speaking
• How to build confidence when speaking in public
• Daily practices you can implement right now to get better at speaking
• Getting rid of filler words

If you’re interested, fill out this form. And don’t be intimidated - we’re all here to learn! I'm happy to answer any questions over DMs or in the comments, so feel free to reach out.

I became inspired by Simon Sinek and Vinh Giang how powerful communication skills can help folks. But only way is to practice so started a communications MeetUp group. Some friends have asked for this offhand.

It's online and virtual, so if you want to join please sign up to the event:

Empower Your Voice: Communication Practice:

https://meetu.ps/e/NzSzS/GtFPj/i

Some times when I tell a personal story People think I'm too proud of myself while I don't want to show off and just want to share a story

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Hi there!

My life literally changed when I was placed in a new office, and I met a family of people who were incredibly skilled at communicating.

I told myself that this must have come from their upbringing or perhaps from someone who had "shaped" them well.

Then I saw something even more astonishing: a friend of mine is the girlfriend of the boy from this family, and over the last two years, she has changed a lot as well; she too seems to have acquired these communication skills that she didn't have before.

Of course, they had their pros and cons, but the positive things I noticed and would like to learn in my life are numerous. Here are a few to give you an idea:

• They are skilled at making you feel comfortable, getting you to share events from your life, and they excel in speaking, enunciating words, and body language. Every interaction with them is memorable.

And then there are the most important and striking things that impressed me greatly:

• They are excellent at reprimanding people without making them feel stupid, very good at asserting their rights.

The reprimanding/scolding part is the best one I loved.

There were many flaws, of course; some of them, after skillfully extracting information, would gossip behind people's backs, but this is a trait I would not want to learn.

Guys, now, I am not a native English speaker; I am Italian, and I would really like to know what kind of upbringing these people have had and if I can learn to be like them.

Hello everybody I've got a question regarding communication. I just come off a phone call with a friend. And it appears that in reality the way I (and think how I) communicate is way off of what is being perceived by the other person/listener. My friends feedback was that the way I talk is like a diary entry and - to my surprise - I'm not getting involved in emotional aspects during the dialogue. For example: diving deeper and asking questions when something emotional/personal has been said (and to be honest I don't notice exactly when it would be appropriate to ask further questions or when I do believe its the right timing, it appears that I ask the wrong questions and/or ask about the wrong part of what has been said). Furthermore this is something which has been said to me quite often and I tried really hard over the years to analyse what has been said as well of what I say to get more involved in the conversation and make the other person feel seen. It appears, the people I talk to, don't feel seen and that is sad. As well I was told that I don't share much about myself even though I thought I did. I'm an enigma I was told. As well as when the person shares something, that my response is, that I share a similar situation from my personal life/experience - I so thought that this is a way of showing empathy but it appears this is not the case! I'm lost to be honest. Why is my communication so off? Even though I make an effort for it to be not "not welcoming" or awkward. Any tips or tricks? Or somebody having similar issues? Anyway, thank you for reading. Much love.