Looking for some recommendations for small quick access lock boxes for my carry gun. I’ve seen a lot of different brands online but have heard mixed reviews about how easy they are to open. Was wondering if anyone’s had any experience with any and what they like/disliked about them. I have an 18 month old and want the extra layer of safety/security at home without having to open the safe every time. Thank you in advance!!

I want to carry every day and feel like I should. My issue is with my job I wear a lot of gym type clothing (shorts, joggers). I have done some research on different ways to be able to carry in gym clothes and I kept coming across the Leisure Carry clip on belt and the Hunter Constantine belt. Does anyone have any true reviews on these systems? Or have a better idea on how I can carry in these outfits?

Self restraint question.

I grew up around a rough crowd. People always acting like they have something to prove and always trying to assert some form of control/dominance over others, people who will get in your face for something as simple as they don’t like the way you looked at them.

So the problem is, I have years worth of habit ingrained in me to basically not be a pushover, for better or worse. It’s a bad habit, I know, but I am reactive to people being aggressive towards me. If someone insults me, I will insult them back. If someone shouts at me, I will shout back.

I know this kind of behavior could get me in deep shit if I ever get to the point where I need to defend myself when they start looking into what led up to the incident so I am trying to break bad habits.

Anyone else like this, going through the same thing?

Does carrying mean I have to basically be a coward, letting people talk shit to me and my family? I hate the thought of just slinking away like a pansy.

How do you reconcile these feelings?

TL;DR When I was 220lbs (5'10"), AIWB was really uncomfortable and even printed a bit. Now that I'm 175, it's easy and comfortable. Weight loss drugs are the only way I was able to get there.

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I saw a thread about carry postion yesterday that touched on this, but I thought it deserved it's own top-level post.

I was diagnosed with heart disease at an early age, and I was just fat enough to quality for tirzepatide (brand name is Mounjaro for diabetes, or Zepbound for everything else - it works a bit better than Ozempic). I went on it because in spite of a lot of years of effort with diet and exercise, I could never get more than halfway to my goal, and I'd always gain weight back quickly.

When I was around 220lbs (I'm 5'10"), AIWB was really uncomfortable for any length of time. I was in pretty good shape for someone "obese", too, due to lifting & plenty of cardio. I usually pocket-carried a LCPII, and that worked for me, though not an ideal carry gun.

Now that I have held at 175lbs for 6 months, I decided to try belt carry again. I found that anything digs into my hip after an hour or two if I wear it between 3-4:30, but appendix carry really does feel comfortable all day. I started with a J-frame, and just recently switched to a G43. I can carry either for 12h straight with zero discomfort. I just pull up on the front of my belt a bit when I sit down, and it doesn't dig in. When standing, I barely notice it. I feel like I can probably carry something a bit larger and still not be uncomfortable. I'm a month into doing this every day, so I'm confident in saying so now.

My point is that if you're considering one of the GLP-1 meds, this may be another reason to give it a go. My cholesterol and blood sugar are great, and I think I'm likely to live see my youngest kid grow up. (I wasn't so sure of that - all of the males in my family died before 60, including my brother). It's a bonus that I don't have to carry a mouse gun.

Any thoughts as a summer carry/deep concealment? Narrowed down to these two choices. Obviously Glock 42 has size advantage but shield 45 has the caliber advantage. Any other thoughts?

https://www.cbsnews.com/amp/chicago/news/police-shooting-chainsaw-assisted-living-residents-st-charles-illinois/

This guy likely had mental problems, going with a chainsaw and all. Not sure he would have actually used the chainsaw and you can easily escape from one. I’d feel bad shooting someone in that mental state I think.

Ask Away. This is a judgement free thread where people should ask any questions relating to self defense or CCW no matter how silly they think it may be.

Posting on a throwaway acc.

Not going to say the state this happened in because I dont want to be identified but its in the south and has 2a carry so take your guess.

About a week ago I had just came back from the grocery store with my wife and we were sitting in the car in our driveway at about 930pm while I was eating a snack.

While eating I see a man maybe 40+ chasing a kid 10-12 through multiple neighbors yards. It looked like the man had something in his hand while chasing the kid. They ran to the next block over and I decided to drive around the block to see if either of them is ok or if anyone needs help (hindsight is 20/20 but I shouldve just called the cops and went inside). I see and hear multiple people outside on the next block shouting "they're calling the cops stop chasing him!" or something to that effect. I also see another young man maybe 19-20 chasing the 10-12year old kid alongside the grown man. I decide to just go home and call the cops.

I go around the block back onto the street my house is on when I see the kid who was getting chased. I roll down my window and ask him if he knows the older guy chasing him and he says completely out of breath "my dad is trying to beat the fuck out of me". I then see his dad (the same older guy who was chasing him) in his car now trying to go up the street im coming down. I tell the kid im calling the cops and I go back to my driveway. I see the dad get off his car, go to another neighbors yard and start arguing with maybe the kid and someone else.

While Im reversing in the driveway the other young man who was also chasing the kid starts yelling at me from a few houses up the street how he's going to fuck me up or something to that effect. This is where I feel like I fucked up. I got pissed, partly because this was completely unprovoked, I never said anything to him or the kids dad, and the other part because he was literally just chasing a child in the street alongside another older guy and is now just yelling at anyone at this point. I yelled back angrily, mostly to just redirect his aggression from the kid, partly because I just got butthurt. I walk up my sidewalk maybe two houses past mine in that direction to see if the young kid is alright and the young man that yelled at me starts running away full speed.

I start walking back to my house when I see the kids dad do a uturn so fast he fucking crashes the bumper of his car into the sidewalk hard af. He speeds up the street and slows down in front of my house to mean mug my wife and honks at her and then speeds off up the street.

I ignore it, start helping my wife get groceries from the car. Then the kids dad does another uturn and parks for maybe 30 seconds up the street facing the direction of my home before going maybe 50-60mph down the street and calls me a bitch from his window in passing and comes to a screeching halt blocking the road in front of my nextdoor neighbors house. I asked him "whats up, dude?" He says "WHAT" aggressively. I ask now, "Can I help you?" He then replies "Can I help YOU?!" aggressively. I ask him "Youre pulling up to my house honking at my wife and yelling at me, what do you want?"

He points at my neighbors house and asks if thats my house. I say "obviously not" then he goes "then Im not at your house dont fucking worry about it". I say to him "what do you mean dont worry about it? Youre chasing a kid and then you intimidate my wife and call me a bitch for no reason and now youre blocking the entire street just to yell at me"

Then he gets off his damn car and tells me to fight him like a man. At this point im just so confused on why he's even this angry with me to begin with. I never provoked him or did anything that would cause him to want to fight all of a sudden. He begins walking closer kind of in front of my driveway a bit. Im standing right at my driveway/sidewalk in front of my home (i may even be 1 step into the road. I dont remember, I dont think I was) and me and my wife both tell him to just leave and no one wants to fight him. Now I know this doesn't really mean much legally, or even morally/ethically, but the dude looks ghetto as fuck. Literally his entire head tatted, a big ass $ sign on the side of his face, etc etc. I start feeling uneasy about him especially after asking him to leave me alone for the 3rd-5th time. He keeps getting further from his car and closer to me while telling me how hes going to beat the shit out of me either "before I can make it inside or to the street" I cant remember and then I decide that Im in imminent danger now so I draw my firearm and point it at him and tell him to leave and that Im not playing around. He raised his hands and turns around while saying im fucked up. I immediately lower the weapon but still have it in hand and start dialing 911. He starts walking to his car but again turns around and walks back in my direction a bit while yelling at me again and I raise the firearm again and tell him to just leave and that the cops are on the way. He gets in his car and speeds off. The cops show up, there's literally a helicopter spotlight on me at this point. They question me, I help them identify the guy then say that I need to speak to my lawyer, they took my firearm for maybe 15 minutes then gave it back to me. The guy was never charged with anything and that was basically the end of that situation because the police said they dont have any evidence to investigate anything.

Now here's where shit gets even weirder. The guys wife actually came up to me the next day after work. She said they want to apologize. After much thought I say sure and I go to talk to the guy. Im talking to him and his dad for a while. He apologized for threatening. I tell him I feel bad for things escalating the way it did but he genuinely did make me feel in fear of getting hurt really bad in front of my home. His dad gives both of us some solid life advice and we actually worked things out great. Turns out the young man that yelled at me was his oldest son. He introduces me to him, we all talk for maybe 4-5 hours getting to know each other. I now see he's going through a lot in life and I genuinely feel bad for the guy now.

Now I know this is probably the rarest and best possible outcome that could have happened after the firearm was drawn. But I keep feeling crazy anxiety from this situation. Partly because Ive been shot at before when I was younger and 3 months after that I witnessed some homeless guy downtown get shot in the face multiple times for literally no reason. But I also feel terrible because in some way I feel like I pulled the firearm as an argument winner, I feel like I got involved because I felt safe with a firearm and decided to check on the kid's safety and I feel like I almost shot someone that genuinely needs mental help and that would've been it for him and his family. Me shooting him wouldn't have helped them at all. Sure I'd be safe and alive but their lives would forever be destroyed by my hands even if it was justified. I genuinely did feel scared for my safety and especially my wife's safety in that moment, but I was also angry that he was even confronting and threatening me to begin with.

I feel like I don't even want to own a firearm anymore and I'm actually going to ask the guy I almost shot if him and his son want to go to a men's circle at a local church to talk about our issues and avoid ever being in a situation like that again or at the very least handling our emotions different and calmer.

Tldr: almost shot my neighbor and now we're friends kind of.

Hey everyone,

I'm reaching out because I'm facing some challenges with my gun license application in Massachusetts. I'm moving to Attleboro in a couple of weeks, but I won't have proof of residency at my new address by the time I need to submit my application.

Currently, I live with my parents and pay them rent, but all the bills are in their name. When I move, I’ll still be able to provide proof of residency at my old address, but I know that's not going to be enough for the application.

Does anyone have advice on how I can establish proof of residency at my new address? Would a lease agreement with my parents or a letter from them stating that I live there and pay rent be sufficient? Any tips or experiences you can share would be greatly appreciated!

Thanks for your help!

ACP, Luger, Magnum, Colt, etc...

One things that's been bugging me is why do people insist on attaching these terms to define ammo instead of just simply stating the size/caliber?

Do these terms even mean anything other than some company/name that first made them)what they were first made for? Just seems like more shiz to memorize.

OK. Next question! What pistol do you carry appendix, and with which holster? Pictures appreciated, but not necessary.

Been searching for a decent budget EDC for a few days, and good Lord have I fallen down the rabbit hole. Looking for more advice from more experienced owners.

What I am/ain’t looking for: — No Rugers, Caniks, Stoegers, or Taurus — 9mm/.45 — Preferably around or below the $450 mark — Open to Used options

Been to a few local stores and chains, gathered some info about a few models.

— Heard good about both the CZ M10C and the S&W Shield.

— Spotted a SDS M1911A1 TC for what seems like a good deal.

— Also wondering about the Kimber Mako R7 and if it’s any good?

Looking for inputs and other ideas.

Ok so I’m 45f 101.5lbs, 5’3”. Hubby is sooo awesome big, strong & can appendix/4 carry easily, I can’t find any clothes that fit well enough to keep my piece in place I’m literally thin, shopping holsters has produced unsatisfactory results in the past so I have 3 just sitting cuz I’ve lost so much weight (this cannot change its medical) & they’re not adjustably sized for me. Waist, bra, ankle, thigh carry all failed. I’m also afraid of spending more of our money on holsters or accessories that might not help. Returns are not as easy as they say. Any custom holster makers out there?? I’m tired of searching & scrolling, reading articles and watching videos. It’s a deterrent to my carry cuz I’m scared people will see impressions on my clothes. I even thought about buying body shapers but guess what, there’s no waist size for my size. I can’t crossbody/bag carry due to shoulder injuries so that’s out! I like having it on me. I’m at a loss, so as a guy/husband/father/boyfriend that actually knew this was an irritating issue for your partner/daughter/sister/friend how would you help?