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Post about your bullying experiences to receive help and advice as to what to do about it! Learn to stand up for yourself!

Feel free to post any bullying experiences or tips that you may have had or need help with. You can also ask for help with anything that you struggle to be coping with as well.

This isn't just about school bullying. There are occurrences on the web and within the workplace.

Hundreds, if not thousands, of people are bullied each day- and that's only students. There will be nitpickers throughout life, and for some of us, learning to manage with such people can be difficult.

News articles are certainly welcome.

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Bullying Dilemma

Hi! So I have been bullied by the same Indian girls in my neighborhood since I was around 5 years old. 2 in particular were so mean to me, called me stupid, ugly, and that no one would ever love me lmaoo. But, I was such a people pleaser back then so I made them both scrapbooks for their birthdays filled with pictures because I wanted them to like me. Of course they took it lol. But 10 years later I regret it so much, what a waste of time. Then I started being mean to one of them in particular she was so pissed off lmao, so she confronted me in the middle of our neighborhood on the road and started screaming lol. I just stood like a loser and did not stand up for myself. She claimed that she was only mean to me when I was younger but thats not true. 7 years later, I still think about this moment and i how I did not say anythign to her except sorry haah lets be friends again even though I did not actually mean it. Theres so much regret. I am in college now senior year and every time i am alone i think about this regret i cant move on.

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2024/08/14
13:43 UTC

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Seeking Advice on Dealing with Lifelong Bullying and Social Challenges

Hi everyone,

I don't mean to trauma dump here, but I really need some advice and want to know if anyone has been through similar issues.

I've struggled with social skills my entire life, and people often misunderstand me. I feel like I've been bullied by others for as long as I can remember. I didn't have any friends in primary school, which made it difficult to connect with people. Additionally, I have learning difficulties, a stutter, and trouble understanding social cues.

In primary school, I was bullied and isolated. My home life wasn't supportive either; my family didn't understand and often reprimanded me for crying. I wasn't taught how to interact with other kids, so I remained quiet and unlucky to be in one of the worst classes. The kids spread lies and rumors about me, which followed me into high school, leading to intense bullying throughout those years. I had no friends until I started college, where I finally met people who accepted me for who I was.

College was a turning point where I made friends and felt happier, but things took a downturn when I went to university. I faced severe bullying again, so much so that I had to move flats twice. The people there didn't like how quiet I was, and I even experienced physical harm. Now, I suffer from anxiety, anger, and various health issues related to my mental well-being.

I'm at a point where I'm struggling to help myself and am surprised I've made it this far. While I do have some friends I can rely on, the aftermath of the abuse has left me in a difficult state. I wish people would leave me alone, but I keep finding myself in abusive situations.

Does anyone have any advice on how to handle this? How do you cope with lifelong bullying and social challenges?

Thank you for reading and for any advice you can offer.

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2024/07/06
23:20 UTC

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My friend is a bully

I decided to move in with one of my friend and we were living in an apartment. Everything thing was going fine until suddenly he started behaving a little off with me so I decided to maintain my distance. Since we were living together so all of my other friends were friends with him as well. After few days of them knowing each other, my friend told me that he texts them of all time and say such disgraceful things about me. I was so shocked like why are you bitching about me to my friends and then when I confronted him he went nuts. He started threatening and bullying me. I don’t know what to do please help me out. It’s so difficult to live with him and im so anxious to even go out of my room.

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2024/06/28
16:20 UTC

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What happend to me

I was born with raptured abdominal wall on the right side which means until i was 20 my internal organs were pushing on my hip wrenching my body. Up until i was 19 I did a lot of different sports, played musical instruments I worked since I was 12.

Im mentioning my 19 becouse that was year when psychiatrist from inteligence agency in my country wrote on a facebook text in someone elses name, a girl, some text that went around the world over the last 15 years. I never read it, bcs it was prevented but it sayed how I obused cocaine, beat her, raped her, something about how superb my body is, how iam best driver in the world, something demeaning about dirty rich person from my city, how she loves me still,

So I was 20 and I could not even find a bad job, i could not walk streets without people talking to me in 3. person to fuel my "cocaine paranoia", steangers on the street being discusted by me, service workers not doing their job, everywhere i came everybody alredy knew what they are suposed to think about me... I literally have not talked to anyone for 15 years.

All of this started when my father were saying all over town how I told him that he should try heroine that its fine, and that I slept with my mother. My father was known due to his work and also was had ties to inteligence agency, they were basicaly abusing him without him realising it. They were manipulating him over and over to lend tham money never returning tham in atempt to messing him up as a person. Out of this grew what psychiatrist did to me.

So im 21 and i was up-and-commer until this point but sudenly noone is calling, writing me back, i cannot make friends or use contacts,...

For example I went freediving. As i came there people are steering clear of me, non-responding, my course instructor is asking presuposed and leading questions where answers and reactions are never satisfactory enough like leading discusion abou having a friend living and selling a 2mil € appartmrnt expetcing me to lie bcs of "cocaine narcisism that formed my brain" or talking to me in a 3. person throu a facebook group posts indirectly deminishing my acomplishments and so on and so on.

At that time a was working job for a major car manufacturer where they decided my qualifications arent real so I was making money as a gipsy on parole on drug possesion charges who is sweaping flores. There was nobody to complain to. I wrote to ministry of labour but no answer...

When I was trying to be self-employed but they all alredy knew what to do. So i was driving 20 hours a day and 12 hours on weekend days. I made 1230€ that month. I realized its not going enywhere, they are not changing theire possition no mather what. there was unofficial bounty on my life at this time.

All of this is happening and at this point in time I have no idea why. I cannot move from where I live becouse real estate agents are not reponding to me... as it turned out that dirty rich guy spred rummor about me being insolvent. So I live in a room in dirty house with construction workers, drugadicts that use kitchen tablecloth to prevent cocaine sweat seeping into theire beds, with smelly kitchen,... and I come here after work where im psychologically terorized and manipulated towards psychological demage, toward being unsatisfied and alone...

...for money that I have to save on food so I can pay rent. I once went 2 months on something like 80 € on food which is going to work hungry to do stranuous manual labour that is not going to go anywhere. I spend 5 years there. 5 years of parasocial psychology manipulation towards destruction of my life.

During all of this my life is being sabotaged, devalued and ridiculed throu popular media... not just in my country but even from america. Jeff Bezos knows who Iam and Jordan Peterson also or CIA for example... There were cariers made on rediculing my life and devaluing my capeabilities. To this day when I brouse internet I sometimes step on a relic landmine reminding me of what happend, what people did and how poor and mindless they are.

So there is no rest for me, everything culminates suposedly towards me killing myself, which I did. I swallowed a lot of Xanax and washed it down with vodka... They did not have razors in the shop near me and all my knifes were dull.

After that my parents did not support me and threw mi on the street becouse they were ashamed of my not being a success, being a loser who cannot keep a job. At that time i lived in apartment that i rented alone but i did not have income becouse noone would hire me. I was just indefinetly with expiration date living there as long as i could pay. So i spend 3 days sleeping on the street, crying my mind out.

Throuout of all of this people were following me on the street. They were all very out of sort that im bothering tham by being alive still. Everything that I sayed was atributed to me practising my lying demenour. Im inteligent, I have 140iq tested due to my learning disabylities... so im spending all of my time at places I dont belong being ridiculed by people that i have nothing to talk to.

Around the time psychiatrist wrote on facebook for the first time we moved, i still lived with my parents. Neighbours also were dismissive and discusted by me. There is woman psychologist here who maintaind this everybody knowing what they are suposed to do around me and for the longest time my alternative exit strategy was to knock on her door one night, shoot her husband opening the door, beat her kids to death and cut her head off while still alive. Than I would do perverted things that serialkillers do like heaving sex with her body, eating her flesh, dismembering her,... than my plan was to go to where I worked and shoot those psychology educated social experts... so that I have something good to rominate about in prison.

End of this started ~3 years ago when psychiatrist from inteligence agency was supposed to go to prison for something else, he cocked-himself-up wanted to write about me to facebook again to control situation while he was in prison and for some reason he shot his wife and than himself.

I wanted to go to put toy Porsche on his grave bcs thats the reason we are in this situation, me here and him there... but I dont know his name and the news is no longer available.

So its ~3 years, im making strides step by step with help, but im still fighting with a notion that theese people are mindless in exactli the same way they were before.

What psychology makes psychologysts think they are doing is literally impossible. There never was a single grain of evidence. There never was any realism in continuity.

Im saying, if you read this there is a chance you heard about me and were destaining me...

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2024/06/23
10:03 UTC

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I am a loser

I feel like nasty worm. That's how people treated me all my life. I feel embarrassed of my self.

I want to audio talk to someone. I will give you my Instagram id

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2024/05/28
00:57 UTC

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need some help with a bully

https://www.instagram.com/rudeguitar?igsh=djJjbDY5Nmk2N210

Not sure how much help I’ll get here but got this guy who won’t stop harassing me on I commented on someone else’s post saying that playing “wait twice as long as they took to text you” type games in relationships is never the way to go & you’d think I slapped his mother the way he’s coming at me. Even scrolling my page posting rude gifs on mine & my nephews photos. Like legit insane. If you guys could report his profile for harassment that would be great. TIA!!

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2024/04/29
05:30 UTC

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My little sister🧡

Long ish post alert 🫶My first time posting on reddit but i always get good advice so im hoping someone can help. I (20) have a little sister (11), who in my eyes, is the most beautiful person with the most beautiful personality. She has gorgeous blue eyes and long, curly, ginger hair. She’s struggled with bullying since being about 8 because she’s not the same weight as everyone else and people seem to pick on ginger people. She just started high school in september of 2023 and she found it hard making friends but now has plenty. The bullying has continued into high school which does get dealt with but it doesn’t stop it and she comes home crying saying people called her fat and bullied her because of her hair. She always says things like when can i dye my hair, can you do my makeup so people don’t bully me, what can i eat to loose weight. This breaks my heart completely. Today after school, she went to a park with one of her best friends and a group of people her age turned up. She doesn’t know their names or anything as they don’t go to her school but she’s seen them around. They came into the park and straight away started calling her fat and ugly and then said they know where she lives and they were going to kill her and follow her home. It wasn’t until she got home crying and shaking and out of breath from running that she told me about it and i went straight out looking for them(obviously i’m too old to beat them up but id do anything for my little sister). I’m really stuck on how to help her seen as she doesn’t know them or what school they go to or anything and it’s a little illegal for me to beat the living daylight out of them if i see them. I hope someone can help, thanks for reading and thanks for the answers in advance 🩷

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2024/03/20
17:05 UTC

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Advice for being bullied

What do you do if the team you have been part of for over 3 years. The Captain of that and his girlfriend who is also on the team and a few other players start bullying you. To the point where there basically showing they don’t want you on the team anymore and trying to make you quit.

Alil back round this all started when you started getting more successful in the career you are currently in. Which has opened many opportunities for you. After they found out they started treating you differently and nitpicking everything you do. From asking simple questions and attacking you in the chat. To calling you to areas where teachers and other people can’t see to have two on one private conversations. To basically tell you they don’t want you on the team but they need you to play.

I don’t know if I should quit or join the other team that’s offerd me a spot. There is one more tournament before the season is over. And if I don’t play they won’t have enough players to compete.

This has been going on for over 6 months and the final tournament is coming closer. And your finally so tired of how they have been treating you, you don’t know what to do.

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2024/03/08
09:47 UTC

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How can I start addressing the bullying I went through?

Hi. I was bullied in school for years. Admitting this is a big step for me. I would tell people I had some social issues but I rarely used the word "bullying". Sometimes I'd tell a story nonchalantly and people would be very concerned, they'd say what I went through was really bad. But I struggled to perceive it as such. I knew it felt awful. But I felt ridiculous saying I was bullied. 1. because I felt like I was playing the victim and 2. because I felt like I was giving my aggressors power. I hated thinking that those mean, mean kids and teens still had an impact on my life, I hated it. As soon as I got away from them I wanted to pretend what they did didn't affect me at all. In a way I did grow up to become a person I'm proud of... But it's a blatant lie to say I wasn't affected all the humiliation and aggression. I struggled with low self-esteem, feelings of worthlessness, social/romantic difficulties, anxiety disorders and depression for years. I still struggle with all of that. Luckily I'm in therapy and taking medication now so I've been improving mentally, but even in my therapy sessions I barely mentioned the bullying I went through. I just came here so I could take this off my chest. Yes, I was bullied, yes, it was bad, yes, I was a sad child, yes, I deserved better, yes, my school failed me, yes, I still suffer because of it today and yes, I still resent my bullies. I truly wish they grew up, repented and made a switch but I doubt it. I know some of them are still insufferable today, I know most of them are living quite pleasant lives. I don't know what to do from now on. How can I address the impact bullying had on me without giving the power back to my bullies? How can I be proud of myself and acknowledge I became a pretty cool woman while still recognise I have some trauma? How can I bring myself to get over the shame and talk about this with my therapist? Thank you.

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2024/01/28
00:15 UTC

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Why did I have a dream about apologizing to someone who bullied me?

Hello, I’m 13 years old with social anxiety, although I am dealing with it with antidepressants, I’m wondering why I had a dream about apologizing to the boy who bullied me, he pushed my table on me, pulled a chair from under me, and even said I look like a man because I have a “mustache.” I’m just wondering why I had a dream apologizing to THEM because I reported them to the administrators and the assistant principal, cause they were affecting my mental stability because I’m already bullied A LOT by abuncha of people on my bus, and in school, which stressed me out, the saddest part is that I fought a bully inside my dream, but now I’m dreaming about this? I feel very guilty for telling the assistant and administrators on him, can someone please tell me what it means if I dream about this type of thing?

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2023/05/31
02:13 UTC

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Would this be wrong?

There is a 10-11 year old girl bullying my 6 year old son on the bus every morning. she calls him fat and ugly, a loser, no one likes him etc etc. This has really beaten down his confidence all he ever does any more is put himself down. I knew something was up. Well he had a mental break down over it and finally told me about her. The bus driver says she will write her up and move her seat. Her mother doesn't seem to care that her 11 year old who should know better is bullying a little 6 year old to the point of a mental breakdown saying he wants to die. Administration has done nothing since she was written up on the bus that's considered a punishment to them. I know she will do it again by the way her mother responded to me. I want to tell my son next time she bullies him, to punch her in the face as hard as he can. Typically I would never because he's a boy and she's a girl... But she's 5 years older than him and won't leave him alone. I truly feel like this is the only way to get her to stop. What would you do?

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2023/05/27
04:50 UTC

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My son (11) being bullied by girl (13) I don't know what to do

Hi, I've never posted on here before so I apologise for any mistakes. Basically my son (11) who is autistic started getting bullied by a girl (13) just after Christmas, it escalated to one of her bf harassing him and beating him up in school and out of it, to the point the police got involved. My son no longer catches the bus to school, he doesn't do after school clubs as she joins everything he starts so he leaves. He has one social group left which she has been pushing him to get kicked out (no reason for him to be kicked so he's still there) and now bullying him to the point where he doesn't want to go anymore even though he loves it and has been going since he was 6. Escalated again today when another one of her bf wouldn't let my son go back to class after asking for bathroom break. The girls parents put alot of money into the school and into clubs and just so happen to be friends with teachers at their school No one seems to be taking any of this seriously my son is so down and barely leaves his room because of this girl I am at a loss of what to do I have tried talking to his group and school and I get no where. If anyone has any advise on what I can do that would be great. TIA

2 Comments
2023/04/17
16:37 UTC

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me and my friends are getting bullied

Trigger warning this does mention sexual assault and someone told me to commitcommit you know what ( unalive thing)if you are really sensitive to that I recommend for you not to read this

me 14f friends 13f. me and my friends are being harassed at school for being a part of the LGBTQ+ and being " fat". we been called slurs the n word ( we are no black they just say for fun ) fat and more. we told the teachers the principles and even helpers . and they're not doing anything. At this point it feels like they don't care. and me and my friends are " the losers" at school even the teachers treat us differently. like me and my friends got separated in gym because we were " to close and being loud" well everyone else was right next to their friends yelling screaming and throwing the yoga mats everywhere.ps me and my friends are quiet when we need to be.we are the most behave and some of the top students. in eighth grade. one boy I will call "A" has been the most rude saying that we called him those names first and even told me to go I'm umalive myself I didn't take it to heart I never do but the most f up thing is he makes fun of my friend will call her Sam for being sexually assaulted and it's not just him it's even her cousin he's a transM we will call him" M" . "M "was complaining that Sam was able to get out of class when we're talking about consent and sexual assault because she wouldn't be comfortable being there. And told her that everyone was traumatized because of what they were talking about. that day I stoped being friends with him and texted him " that was really f***** up and it's different for her because she was sexually assaulted by someone who was in our school " it's been going on for over 2 years and I'm getting pissed off. If no one's going to take it seriously I'm going to have to do something to make it stop.

What do I do?

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2023/04/08
03:44 UTC

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Quiet and bullied for getting angry

All throughout high school and middle school, I was bullied for being quiet. It was always the popular girls and boys that would ask me why I’m so quiet. Then they’d start finding ways to make me angry. And then they laugh at me for getting angry. I never did anything but just let it happen. I’ve been in college for three semesters and hadn’t experienced it again. But now there is a group of three people in one of my smaller classes that have started it again. I feel like there isn’t really an outreach center for bullying in college and I don’t know what to do. It’s making it hard to go to class and I just really need some help.

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2023/02/23
23:29 UTC

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getting bullied again. what should i do?

hi! just went home from hs after getting bullied for the first time in a few years. CONTEXT im 16f (10th grade) in a pretty well known romanian highschool. i’ve been getting bullied ever since i was in fourth grade, but i never expected to get bullied in hs. the bullying has been going on for two months now, where 2 of my classmates (we were previously a trio) started talking shit abt me LITERALLY behind my back (their desks are literally behind mine). i didn’t think much about it then and thought that would be it, just these 2 random girls talking abt me. but now randomly another 3-5 girls from their group started talking shit abt me. again i didn’t think much about it till today when i went to pee and heard 3 girls talking about what they should write on a stall’s walls. when they left i went to check that stall and it was my name next to a bunch of some of the worst words you can call someone in romanian (pretty hard to translate) asked for a sponge from the janitor and started cleaning that stall while hiding my tears (ofc, took a picture before) should i wait until something worse happens or should i tell someone now?

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2023/02/02
17:28 UTC

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School Teasing. URGENT

I have one more year in high school starting in fall 2023. This year in school more than any others I have been faced with other students in my school always come up to me or whisper about me about being gay. I am not a gay man however , Im always on stage singing with my school choir and in my school musicals because its something I enjoy and brings me happiness !! However the amount of teasing I have gotten from this has made me so sad , anxious and depressed and my friends around me have noticed it. Any tips on how to ignore or fight this feeling that I constantly am faced with everyday. Its gotten so bad I feel like my other male friends don't even want to seen talking to me alone during lunch times.

2 Comments
2023/01/13
01:49 UTC

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Getting bullied for haircut

Hey y’all I go to a small Christian school, and constantly get picked with words like “maybe you shouldn’t get a ugly haircut like that”, or “bowl cut” when it’s not even a bowl cut. If it’s not about the haircut it’s about more physical features like being called weak and tiny. I even had one person say to me “you look like one of those kids on Disney shows that gets bullied because of their physical appearance” How do I even respond to that? The people that say the stuff abt me are my friends too. I don’t say anything mean to them, but they get to say mean things about me? It’s so bad to the point where I don’t want to keep going to that school, and cut everyone off. Please I need some advice.

4 Comments
2023/01/09
23:18 UTC

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I'm not sure if I'm being bullied?

Is this normal? I feel like I'm being left out, talked down to and looked at funny in my class. I don't have a history of being bullied. Sometimes some of them are friendly but often just give a very short answer or "forget" me. I would know it if I were being treated normally, right? Please help me figure it out

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2022/12/26
14:07 UTC

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Bullying is not fun

I had a friend K, met her on the second day of school we had a lot in common and decided to meet up. First time she came to my house all was well, second time all hell broke lose she stole, messed up my room and left. She would always do that sometimes she would leave her stuff over and blame me for stealing. She told people that her step brother raped her, said that she was being abused by him and her grandma, she didn’t have a step brother and her grandmother was not abusing her. She was just a liar. I called her out on this once and, she told everyone that I banged her head into a metal pole. Then told all her friends that I kicked her. She had a friend called L she told me L was bullying her and hurting her so because I’m a good person I stood up for her, she then stopped hanging out with me and started to hang out with L I told her that I just didn’t understand why she said L was bullying her. K’s other friend C then tried to beat me up in the bathroom just because I said that I didn’t understand why she lied to me C didn’t get in trouble. K C and L would always throw things at me break me stuff and hit me! All the adults knew and told me to just ignore it. One day yes I forgave K I went to her house there was one other girl there M. K told me to play seven minutes in heaven with her, she took off my shirt and kept putting me on her lap, even when I told her to stop and give me back my shirt. Once seven minutes was up she left me shirtless in her closest and didn’t come back until M dragged her.That was it I texted her the next day that I could not be friends with her anymore. The tormenting only got worse from there. L and C were throwing a sharpened pencil at me per K’s request, they stared laughing at me when I told then to stop. So I threw the pencil right at C’s face and if she had not had been wearing glasses, it probably would have hit her eye. Of course I got in trouble for it. K still says bad things about me to this day today and tries to get me to be friends with her.

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2022/12/01
04:35 UTC

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I am the victim of Cyberbullying & Cyberstalking - PLEASE HELP!

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2022/11/02
23:59 UTC

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Being bullied by my landlord, landlord daughter and my neighbor

They are all friends and passive aggressively bullying me.. Making nasty faces at me, back hand comments, excluding me on purpose.. I have no idea why.. I pay rent and I mind my businesse not sure of what to do. Have no where to go I think they have emotional and sexual feelings for my boyfriend or something

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2022/10/25
16:25 UTC

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People trowing things at me, and harassing me.

I’m new at my school having moved from a country far far away from where I live now. As a person who has never really tried hard at school, I decided to take the opportunity to try hard with a fresh start. Generally I would say that im somewhat liked around the school, but am made fun of quite a lot. People shout my name in the hallways etc… Lately, in a certain class, a group of people have been throwing items at me, like erasers, pen lids and elastic bands. This was very out of the blue, and for someone who hasn’t ever been bullied, was a shock to me.

One day, a kid was shooting elastic bands at me in class, I picked it up before he could. He has the nerve to complain to the teacher about it, the teacher didn’t care. (she didn’t care when he shot stuff at me either) he tried stealing my eraser, to which I broke his elastic band. I got my eraser after he gave it to someone, who gave it back to me after I asked him.

On a more recent occasion, the same guy described me as a “running bean”. (?) He also called me lanky, to which I replied he is too built like a toothpick, he said: “yea, but you are lanky and tall” to which I replied. “I would rather be lanky and tall than skinny and short” On the way back up to the main school from PE, people were throwing acorns at me and my friends, I’ll be honest, I contemplated picking up the acorns and hurling them at the empty skulls of the people throwing them at me, but I realised it would likely make the situation worse. I found out later that they called one of my close friends a Chinese rice farmer. (he’s Asian)

These people are taking a toll on my mental health, I feel a strange sense of sadness whenever they I guess “bully” me. I was thinking of practicing boxing or martial arts for a while, then surprising them the next time they decide to harass me, but don’t want that on my record, reputation or conciencie. I don’t want to be a snitch either, as that would damage my reputation at school far beyond repair. (if you go to school, you know) Does anybody have any insights? Or advice?

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2022/10/17
11:42 UTC

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I get bullied by my classmates since 3 grade and I don’t know what’s wrong w me .

M 15 Since 3 grade (now in 10th grade) I was bullied by 4-5 different groups of people in different schools and I don’t know the reason . I am getting bullied although I do all everyone does . It’s so annoying and I’m so tired of it . What could be the problem ?

8 Comments
2022/09/01
03:06 UTC

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Survey Reddit (r/bullyinghelp)

Good afternoon members of the bullyinghelp Reddit, I am writing this post in order to survey anonymously to obtain quantitative and qualitative data about bullying and thus validate a hypothesis raised for educational purposes. We are very grateful to anyone who can answer this form:

https://forms.gle/8WJVncLQir6cyYRa7

Thank you very much.

Have a nice day!

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2022/08/16
15:05 UTC

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Tattle life - the internet’s “safe space” for toxic tear downs

Having heard of tattle life a few years ago, my curiosity got the better of me…. 4 threads deep on various reality stars and I’d seen enough. The venom these people spout is astounding, even questioning a victim of domestic violence and brainstorming reasons as to how she may have deserved it. I signed up to reply and posted, asking why they were saying these things/ gentle reminder to be kind. Obviously I was blocked instantly having breached the “free speech” rules. Since when is it ok to post malicious fantasy stories about people you don’t know but not ok to question their validity and intentions? This site breeds pure negativity and encourages people who have low self esteem / deep seated unhappiness to plaster over their own struggles by tearing down strangers. It’s easy to bully people from the comfort of your own home, through a keyboard. I wonder how many of these would stand by their comments face to face and behind the anonymity of their iphone/ windows desktop? I imagine <1%. Anyone have any ideas to take this toxic site down?

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2022/08/14
17:41 UTC

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Quienes nos vigilan?

Llevo tiempo con la recurrencia de un hacker en mis cuentas y Smartphone. Han sido tantas sus tonterías que ya me acostumbré.

Hay algo que me llama la atención. Entre sus trucos, a veces aparece contenido muy diferente, como si otra u otras personas tratarán de ayudarme. Me refiero a videos, videos cortos o imágenes.

Alguien me platicó que le ocurrió algo parecido.

Quienes están detrás de nuestras pantallas vigilando?... Y ayudando..

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2022/08/07
07:10 UTC

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Daughter is being blamed for boy picking on her

My daughter is 11, she lives with my mother due to her wanting to be close yo her family and go to the school she really wanted to go to (which her cousin who is her best friend goes there). I'm planning on moving closer so she can move back in with me as I don't want her with my mother long term. Anyway, this boy at her school has been picking on her cousin, when he found out she was related to her he started picking on her as well. My daughter is assertive and outspoken and will stick up for herself but unfortunately that can get her into trouble with bullies. This boy follows her around school and picks on her calling her names and just being a nuisance, he said he does it because it's basically fun. Well yesterday he threw a belonging of her cousins over a fence and my daughter instinctively jumped on him to which this turned into a physical altercation, my daughter did not intend this to turn into a fight as it was more playful fighting on her end she says happens often also but has never turned serious. She accidentally ripped his shirt and this is when he got angry and punched her, ripped some of her hair out and twisted her arm, in defence she kicked him and bit him. Her head was bleeding and she was left very emotionally overwhelmed and crying to me over the phone. She said the school did nothing and he got away with it enjoying the rest of his day.

My mother and sister (cousins mum) did not even contact me to let me know what happened which to me indicates that they don't even see this as a serious issue. My daughter spoke to me over the phone visibly upset and wiping away tears. This boy is much bigger and stronger then her and while she could do better to avoid conflict and avoid him altogether I don't think she was wrong in sticking up for herself and her cousin but my sister has made out my daughter is the problem and is a bad influence on her daughter. I'm disappointed... How do I make them see that she is not in the wrong here for simply sticking up for herself as this kid picks on her all the time?

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2022/08/05
10:28 UTC

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Auxilio, navegación por internet no amigable.

Mi experiencia como usuario de internet, a través de Google, ha sido traumática.

No parece fomentar el fácil y útil acceso a la información. Me ofrece contenido constante a pesar de marcarlo como no interesante o no de mi agrado.

Me atemoriza que me ofrezca resultados sobre cosas que no las he mencionado en sus motores o aplicaciones, pero que si lo he hecho en otras, por ejemplo, que Youtube sugiera inmediatamente videos de cosas que acabas de tratar en WhatsApp.

Los resultados de su motor no siempre tienen relación con lo realmente buscado. Algunos sitios tienen información dudosa o parecen falsos.

Peor, también de forma inmediata aparece contenido relacionado con mi entorno, como pertenencias o características del lugar de dónde me encuentre. Debe ser por acceso a las cámaras de mi teléfono.

El problema es que, muchas veces, los resultados y sugerencias carecen de seriedad y pueden parecer ofensivos aunado a la repetitividad.

Me encuentro muy desesperado porque por más que haga ajustes de privacidad, seguridad y configuraciones, el problema continúa. En lugar de facilitar soluciones a dudas u obtener simple entretenimiento, solo me ha generado estrés, incomodidad y desconfianza.

Sé que puedo estar siendo objeto de ataque de algún hacker.

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2022/08/04
16:52 UTC

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Help please

I’ve been bullied since elementary to high school. I graduated in 2020 but have been struggling to forget about it. Now I work at chipotle for the summer but I’m in college I’m the fall and see 2 of them every Tuesday and I wanna confront them and tell them how I hate them and why they bullied me. But when the time comes I think to myself it’s not worth it they’re just miserable people. But I grew up wanting to know why they were so mean I’ve never talked to them , but they would alway laugh at me . I’m not sure what to do. It’s consuming my brain and I can’t move on. I don’t know if it’s worth it and idk why I care so much about what they think . I’ve always wanted to confront them but idk what to do please help

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2022/07/27
02:10 UTC

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Bullied as an adult, ruining my life

I left a job due to bullying and zero help from HR.

Now I have no money to live on as I seem unable to get another job despite applying for similar roles, doing well in interviews and having years of experience. No one is hiring me.

I now think that interviewers are taking a personal dislike to me. I think I come across too goody two shoes because I dont want to draw bad attention to myself because of previous bullying.

This has now affected everything in my life and I have nowhere left to go. I am broke, cant pay mortgage, used all my savings to save my mental health by getting away from a bullied situation.

Every good thing in my life has ended because people start to bully me. What is it that people hate so much in me that they want to see me suffer?

Why does no one take it seriously?

I have nothing left and considering ending it all. What else can I do?

edit: i dont speak to my family because they have bullied me about my weight and appearance since birth. They made me stop speaking to friends they didnt like despite them being the only people who were nice to me. I stand up for myself and ask them to stop and they said I was behaving that way because I am mentally ill. (I have depression which was brought on by being bullied in school, and I was bullied because I behaved like my friends, but they had a problem with me acting the same as them and turned on me.)

I do have friends now but they are not in a position to help me.

No one ever has the correct answers for bullying. Those that tell you to stand up for yourself have never been bullied or are men.

Guess this is it. Goodbye, good luck to the rest of you.

I guess bullies always prosper.

2 Comments
2022/07/17
11:48 UTC

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