Hey, guys. I've seen a few posts like this, but I thought I would give it a shot. I'm coming up on forty, and I've been a lone wolf most of my life, and over the last few years, I realized I need brothers even more than I need a traditionally intimate relationship. I feel as though I've missed out on some fundamental male bonding moments.

I would love to find a core group of two or three other dudes who would like to be in something of a pack or brotherhood--encourage each other, bond, celebrate each other's wins. I also think it would be amazing to set goals together and help each other develop into better men.

I would also like to set up a dynamic that feels almost primal. I would love to just feel uninhibited around other men and experience some blend of intimacy and camaraderie. I've seen other communities where bonding is centralized around phallic celebration, and I definitely think there's something evolutionary about that unspoken cock-size hierarchy. I would love to find other chill dudes to just comment on it, commit to it, without it being overtly sexual.

Finally, sometimes I just need to "revert back to factory settings" and be a dumb guy. I feel like that's a feature of my personality I need to get in touch with in a controlled and healthy way.

I'm in Chicago. Let's talk.

So i have a question. This Monday I was talking to a friend of mine and we got into an argument, my friend proceeded to call me a bh and a py and I got extremely upset at him and just blew up on him and said some extremely foul, disrespectful, nasty and according to my other friends that heard it “diabolical” shit. I’ve been struggling with some depression and anger, and when I said it, it was like my mind went blank. At the moment I felt justified and my anger was alleviated. I walked away after and went back to my room, sat down and thought about what I did. I started feeling and immense amount of regret, guilt and sadness.

Everytime he walked by I would look at him and just tear up but I kept hiding away from him and others. Throughout the entire week I was just walking around head down and hadn’t felt that sadness so deep in a long time. I went to my therapist and told him what happened and just bawled my eyes out. He told me to apologize to him so I could feel better.

So I got the courage to do it since I haven’t apologized to someone in years. I went up to my friend and promised myself not to cry, but I just couldn’t hold back the tears. He said it was ok and he apologized as well, I thought he wasn’t even going to take my apology but he did. I felt really weird crying though since I haven’t done it in years maybe around 4 years. He gave me a hug and said it’s ok shit happens. I felt a lot better but now I keep thinking, am I less of a man because I was crying? Thanks y’all for allowing me to post here.

Hello! Apologies if this isn't the right place to ask, but I am looking for help for a friend. I am posting with their permission as they don't use reddit at all, and I've made a new account specifically for them. (Also, I'm very sorry if I am out of line posting here as I am female, but my friend I am trying to help is male).

They have been struggling a lot recently with something that happened to them when they were extremely young - specifically, they were born very small (possibly with some intersex presentation) and the doctors at the time urged their parents to have them surgically altered to present as female. They were raised this way, and did not find out until they were about 20. At about 30, they stopped taking estrogen. Now, early 40's, and they have had to go on testosterone for health reasons.

Obviously, this has been a massive issue for them their entire lives. They were sharing how frustrated they were with their current therapist, who is specifically geared towards trans issues. They share to me that they see themselves as a man, but one who was altered against their will. (I am still using they/them pronouns as they still present mostly female and its an ongoing issue for them). I suggested trying to find a therapist/doctor that specializes in helping men who have been through accidents/occurrences that caused them similar issues. Only, I have zero clue how to find such resources because... do I look for a therapist that specializes in penis loss/dysfunction? Are there support groups for this sort of thing? Is there a support community here?

I understand that this is sort of out of left field, but I would really appreciate the help so I can help point them in the right direction. We are in a fairly large city, but also located in the south so there is some built in worry for their safety in general as they navigate this. Apologies if this is in any way offensive, as well, as that was not my intent. Just trying to get a friend some help, as I am completely clueless.

Hey everyone,

I’m a 36-year-old guy living in the Pacific Northwest, and I’m looking to build something meaningful—a tight brotherhood with a handful of awesome dudes.

A little about me: I’ve been in the healthcare field for about 17 years, and I’m all about road trips, camping, hiking, video games, and grabbing good food. I’m into building real connections with people who are down for a laugh, a deep conversation, or just chilling and enjoying life.

What I’m looking for is a small group of guys who want more than just casual friendships. I’m talking about the kind of brotherhood where we’ve got each other’s backs, celebrate each other’s wins, and support each other through whatever life throws at us. Whether it’s sharing hobbies, hitting up local events, or just hanging out and gaming, I’m all in for creating those shared experiences that build a lasting bond.

If this resonates with you and you’re in the PNW—or even if you’re just looking for some solid connections and think this could be a good fit—drop a comment or shoot me a message. Let’s see if we can start something awesome!

Looking forward to meeting some great people,

Inspired by some new posts I thought I'd write down some thoughts here in an attempt to spark some conversation.

What does a 'good' - whatever that means - male role model look like in today's society?

I think we would all agree that boys and young men really need a figure in their lives to model a successful and contented male existence. We use this to inform our own choices and world view.

I didn't have this growing up. Although not the child of divorce, my own father drank himself to an early grave. Putting aside the trauma of that process itself it left me effectively without any male influence on my life.

So, in today's world what does this male figure need to embody to be a good example to others ?

Perhaps more importantly if not a father - son relationship what kind of relationship does a mentor and mentee have?

I wrote this article on Medium to pull together what I felt were reasonable ideas from the men's rights community and back them with research. It’s my way of understanding where we, as men, stand in today’s society.

https://medium.com/@ifelt45/why-they-want-men-to-die-32a3fbe0c515

Hey brothers,

I just published an article titled "Castrating the Wild Man" on Medium. It dives into how modern society is stripping away our primal essence and the importance of reclaiming our wild nature. This isn't just about individual strength—it's about finding and bonding with other wild men to support each other. The article highlights how retreats like those by the Mankind Project help us reconnect with our primal selves for the betterment of our relationships and lives.

Take a moment to read it and share your thoughts. Let's reignite our brotherhood and reclaim our wildness together. https://medium.com/@ifelt45/castrating-the-wild-man-89769c585c4d

It's been 140 days since the last post. We can't let this space die. The mission to foster brotherhood, friendships, and support for all men is unique on Reddit. If you're reading this, you’re part of this wolfpack. Who's still here? Step up and let me know if you see this. We need this community now more than ever. Let's reclaim our brotherhood.

Hey guys I’m a new young wolf just seeking advice on life, I was hoping I could talk to older guys and yk talk about what to really expect out of life I been feeling like I’m lost

Yo 35 yo Lone wolf my whole life and now looking for my pack . I’m a muscular and masculine kind of a guy addicted to working out and gym. Never skip a day and love to see how my body changes and becomes more beast like day after day. Looking for other bros who get the bond in brotherhood like in college lockerooms no judgment and no taboos. Looking for that “all male family” you can always find a safe place to stay and share your weakest points and you will be always feel welcome among your other wolf like bros.

I’m an Alpha so therefore I have a strong personality and sense of leading so I’d like to have a pack on my own to compare , exchange opinions, motivate each other and feel like true alpha bros males day by days . Please have a pic if you dm me .

Let’s Chill and Connect! 👋

Hey there! I’m Dean, 35, and I’m all about good vibes and great conversations. From spontaneous adventures to lazy Netflix marathons, I’m down for whatever.

If you’re into laid-back hangs and making meaningful connections, hit me up! Let’s grab a coffee or chat online. Life’s too short for small talk, so let’s dive deep and see where it takes us!

Drop me a line, and let’s vibe together!

Terrible

Welcome to Rome, a newsletter focused on embodying the bold spirit of masculinity and the adrenaline rush of the daredevil lifestyle. Rome is where ancient valor meets modern bravery, a publication designed for men who live life on the edge. Each edition is a celebration of fearless endeavors, from the exhilaration of extreme sports to the audacious feats of today's adventurers. Our pages are filled with stories that resonate with the heart of the warrior, insights into high-risk ventures, and tributes to the unyielding strength of the male spirit. Rome isn't just a newsletter; it's a manifesto for those who see life as a grand, daring adventure. We salute the modern-day gladiators, the risk-takers, and the boundary-pushers who embody true masculinity. Join us on this epic journey through the worlds of courage, power, and relentless pursuit of adventure. Welcome to Rome, where every story is an epic and every man is a legend in his own right.

Couldn’t hold it in anymore….

I had to go to the bathroom at work today and just let it all out. Haven’t really felt loved or appreciated for a while now. Seems like I’m a self centered, asshole to everyone from what I received. Can’t talk to the wife because in her eyes I’m the issue. I feel like this is an ongoing thing for us men. Get walked over for over sharing, then when you retreat something is wrong with you. We hold it in until you can’t anymore, then we suffer alone. Let me know if someone else is experiencing this.

Something I wrote Sept 3, 2019 that has been in my notes since. But stands true to this day!

Why is the term “fake friend” so common these days? Friends are all temporary. A strong bond with another man is called a brother. I choose not to have friends. I have truly meaningful relationships with men who I call my brothers. Brothers don’t go weeks or months without contacting each other. They are always there and know all the details about your life.

If you think you have more friends than you can count on one hand then you need to re-evaluate your self. You cannot fully give the attention needed for a healthy relationship to more than a few. If you try to it will take the quality out and not give you the time that’s needed for your own self.

I have a lot of acquaintances, ones I’d never invite over for dinner. “Friends” that don’t even know my kids names. They ask you to go out for drinks to catch up. You meet with them and it’s awkward, you leave with that feeling of being on a different planet. Fuckers are the same age as you but your on such a higher level that you feel ashamed for them. How many Facebook friends do you have? How many do you talk to? These people aren’t who they “post-to-be”.

These religious fucks teach you to be friends with everyone, they are “gods children”. But if you don’t follow their ways you will go to hell. But is hell really that bad? Shit if heavens full of these fake bitches, I’d rather stay down here with my Heathen brothers!

So my situation is as follows: I'm 28 and I'm visiting my parents for Christmas. The house is full of people and there is literally no privacy to do the things I otherwise would do. I'm usually a very sexual person but I learnt how to enjoy this setting and I use this forced nofap as a yearly challenge for myself as a "hard reset" for the new year. Currently I'm on day 6. Is there anyone in a similar situation as me? How do you handle it?

Hey, my fellow gamers and movie aficionados!

I’m diving headfirst into the gaming world, currently slaying demons in Diablo 4 and conquering realms in Baldur’s Gate 3. But you know what, it’s not just about the games; it’s about building some strong connections!

I’m on the hunt for some real men, dudes who share the same passion for gaming, movies, and just chilling out. Whether we’re demolishing digital enemies or sharing our life’s goals and challenges, I’m all ears and ready to roll.

You can catch me online daily from 6 pm to 10 pm PST, seeking those manly companions who can introduce me to new games and engage in some deep, meaningful conversations about life’s adventures. If you’re ready for some serious bonding, don’t hesitate to reach out. Let’s form a formidable brotherhood where we dominate in gaming, indulge in epic movies, and share our life stories, gentlemen!

Greetings, fellow gamers!

I’m on the hunt for some kindred spirits to join me on thrilling gaming adventures on Xbox and PS5! I’m currently knee-deep in the amazing world of Baldur’s Gate 3 on my PS5, and the fun factor is through the roof! 🎮🔥

To add a twist, this is my first venture into the realm of DnD games, and I’m loving every moment of it. However, there’s still so much to learn, so I’m hoping to find someone who can show me the ropes or perhaps even a fellow first-timer looking to explore this captivating universe together. 🧙‍♂️📜

With Discord at our fingertips, we can seamlessly communicate and plan our strategies while embarking on these epic quests. And, of course, a microphone is a must for those epic in-game discussions! 🎙️

Age isn’t a concern for me; if you’re 18+, we’re good to go. And, hey, if you appreciate a good dose of crude humor while slaying dragons or battling demons, we’re going to get along just fine! 😄🐉

So, if you’re up for some thrilling co-op action, don’t hesitate to shoot me a message or drop a comment below. Let’s dive into the enchanting world of DnD gaming and forge unforgettable memories together! 🚀🐲

Looking forward to connecting with you,

ClanMacfie

Hello there, gaming enthusiasts!

I’m on the lookout for some likeminded pals to embark on epic gaming adventures with me on both Xbox and PS5 platforms. If you share my love for co-op games like Halo and Diablo 4, we’re destined to form a fantastic gaming duo! 🎮✨

I’ve got Discord all set up, making it the perfect hub for us to chat and strategize while we conquer virtual realms. And of course, a microphone is essential for those intense in-game discussions - we’ll be coordinating like pros! 🎙️

Age is just a number, and I’m totally cool with anyone aged 18 and above who’s looking to dive into the gaming universe together. If you appreciate a dash of crude humor along the way, we’re definitely going to hit it off and have a blast! 😄🤪

So, if you’re up for forming a gaming dream team, cracking jokes, and teaming up to dominate the digital landscape, feel free to slide into my DMs or drop a comment below. Let’s make some unforgettable gaming memories! 🚀🎉

Looking forward to connecting with you,

ClanMacfie

Never got to experience much brotherhood and think I’ve missed out on some of the male bonding experience. Would love a bro to chat with daily and ideally meet in person. I love cars, hiking, camping, kayaking, and tech. I posted on my profile about my ideal camping trip weekend with a bro.

Hello Reddit!

I hope this post finds you well. My name is Dean and I'm a 34-year-old male who is looking for some new friends and/or father figures to share my passions with. I have a love for cooking, gaming (PS5, Xbox, Switch), horror movies, and the great outdoors, and I'm hoping to find others who share these interests with me.

Let me start by saying that I'm an outgoing person who is always up for trying new things. I love to cook and try out new recipes, especially when it comes to barbecuing. I also have a deep love for gaming, whether it's playing the latest blockbuster games or indulging in some good old-fashioned nostalgia. And of course, who doesn't love a good horror movie that keeps you on the edge of your seat? I'm always up for a good scare!

But I also have a deep love for the great outdoors and all it has to offer. love to go camping, fishing, hiking, and traveling, and I'm always on the lookout for new adventures. I'm also a big sports fan, particularly when it comes to baseball and soccer, and I love trying out new beers and foods. I believe that life is meant to be lived to the fullest, and I'm always looking for new experiences and challenges to conquer.

So, what am I looking for exactly? I'm hoping to find other guys who share my interests and are looking for a new friend to share these experiences with. I believe that friendship is built through shared passions and common interests, and that's what I'm hoping to find here on Reddit. Whether it's cooking up a storm in the kitchen, gaming for hours, watching a horror movie, or going on an outdoor adventure, I'm always up for a good time.

If you're someone who loves to have fun and is looking for a new friend to share these experiences with, I'd love to hear from you. Let's connect and maybe plan a cook-out, game night, horror movie marathon, or outdoor adventure together! I'm a friendly guy and I believe that good things come to those who put themselves out there, so don't be afraid to reach out.

Here's to finding new friends and creating lasting memories through our shared interests!

Does anyone else feel an instinctual need to just fall in line when they know a buddy is packing a bigger penis than they are? I’m straight, but it’s just like a respect thing. Comes naturally

Background: We would have finished up our project car the weekend before, one to take on long camping trips. This weekend would be the trial run. I’m thinking a mid 2000’s Lexus GX (body on frame but really reliable) with steel bumpers, oversized off-road tires, a winch and mounts for our kayaks on roof. Like this https://www.treadmagazine.com/vehicles/suvs/off-road-lexus-gx-470/

Friday: We head out after work on Friday and make it to the camping spot with time to get camp set up before nightfall and build a big fire to start grilling steak. Head down to the lake after dinner. No lights anywhere close so as your eyes adjust you can see the edge of the spiral galaxy above us. We go for a late night swim, and discuss philosophy and horse around until it’s time to dry off and get a good nights sleep, enjoying the fresh breeze and the smell of campfires in the air. Embrace our masculinity and the feeling of being in nature.

Saturday: One of my favorite parts of camping is wearing up when it’s still cool and crisp in the morning, dew on the leaves. Get out of the tent blurry eyed and have a shiver, piss and make breakfast in a jacket while things warm up and the sun starts to glow through the trees. Its nice tag teaming breakfast and getting it together so we can start off on our hike before it gets into the heat of the day. Bros are awesome to have to double check backpacks and have as a backup.

Set off together from camp, low near the lake and climb up the mountain as the sun burns off the morning mist. Going from light jackets to tanks as the sun hits us through the forest canopy. Make it to the summit outlook in time for lunch and have conversations just bros talk about. Wind coming up the side of the mountain, the breeze on your chest hair and cooling us down. Share stores as we make our way back down, climbing over fallen trees and discussing what to make for dinner. Get back and hang up our sweat soaked gear and get out my camp cookbook for pro bro on the go outdoor cooking. (The one I use https://www.amazon.com/Campout-Cookbook-Inspired-Recipes-Cooking/dp/1579657990/ref=sr_1_8?crid=2K05VPY75DZ89&keywords=campfire+cookbook&qid=1661816467&sprefix=campfire+cookbook%2Caps%2C124&sr=8-8)

After getting our protein fix, the wind changes and we feel the rain coming, toss our gear off the line into the tent and take an early night, exhausted, aching legs, musky and manly. The rain takes care of the fire for us as we enjoy the sound of it hitting the tent fly. Nothing quite like that sound, even better than a tin roof, especially for going to sleep by. Its nice having only guys out there, you don’t have to worry about nagging from skipping a shower or the other little things guys naturally do on trips like this. Just don’t forget to lock up the food to keep the bears away. But two bros can take care of ourselves.

Sunday: Wake up, sore from hiking all day previous, but enjoying that slow stretch and sore feeling that you only get from hard days like that. I give a good rubdown if you need and we get ready for the morning. Pack the cooler and head down to the water, spend the morning fishing and catch enough to make an early lunch to give us energy for spending the rest of the day doing a kayaking loop around the lake. Teaming breaks in the water under overstretched trees and having a drink with some fist bumps. I love the feeling of the pump I get from kayaking that long and hard. Exhausted after a long day we make quick work of the campsite packing and head home. Good thing we have a camp vehicle just for this now, as after all that we are musky, muddy dudes and don’t have to worry about messing up the daily drivers.

What’s your ideal bromance weekend? I hope to find that with someone some day, Haven’t had weekends close to that since collage.

27 yo Indian man living with my parents. I was down in the dumps but just started on the path of self improvement. Always an introvert, I felt the need for a band of brothers in this age of emasculation of men. What do you think? Say hi.

Came across sub from someone else I followed…and lurked. Trying some visibility to see how that goes. I’m lucky enough to have some close male friends but it’s not something that comes easy and doesn’t always feel natural to me. Joining in hope to get some better insight.

I mean, I know the simple definition, but what are you talking about here?

Is this kind of brotherhood possible among straight and gay guys?

Does it have to involve working out / sports / cars / etc?

Hi. I'm looking for meaningful platonic friendships that have depth and substance; a brother's keeper. I have many varied interests and experiences and will talk about anything.

It would be really awesome to find a buddy or buddies to go camping with, working out together, work on cars together, road trips, hanging out at the beach, being goofy, and just being in the moment together and having fun! Age/race/orientation etc. isn't an issue. Big plus if you have an active, positive spiritual life. Into stuff mentioned on the r/pureretention sub is a bigger plus!

I am 36, in shape fit white guy in south Texas.