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I want to get this off my chest

Ok so a my whole life I’ve felt like nobody likes me and everyone hates me, don’t get me wrong I’ve had friends in the past and still have a few now but I feel like everyone doesn’t really care about me ever. I can tell my family might but I’m not sure I have new friends this year and they seem like they care about me the most in my life but I still feel horrible I feel like I’m just irrelevant and nobody would noticed if I killed myself I don’t want to die but I want to stop existing kinda cause then the pain will stop I don’t know I think I’m ranting I don’t think you care do you think am I annoying I don’t know I want to stop I just wanna jump and stop but I can’t I just can’t but I need to I just

I might just get that knife tonight and kill myself nobody would care anyway.

Sorry for bothering you This might be my last day alive Goodbye

3 Comments
2024/11/01
18:05 UTC

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Finally got a boyfriend did a little doodle of him to celebrate

Isn't he so precious

1 Comment
2024/11/01
17:08 UTC

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"Coming out" story...

Growing up my mom never pushed being a certain sexuality or gender on me, she acknowledged the LGBTQ characters in tv shows and people we've seen in real life the same way she acknowledged the straight cis ones. So naturally, technically, I've been bisexual and transgender since around 1st grade. I never really came out to my mom even though it was very obvious- even gloating to her about me having a little "girlfriend" in 3rd grade. Yet in 6th grade I officially "came out", and heres exactly how that conversation went! "Mom im bisexual" "Ok" "Im also trans" "Ok wanna use the name i was originally going to name you if you were born male?" "Ya!!!" Idk why i wanted to share this i just find it funny

1 Comment
2024/11/01
16:59 UTC

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I hate being bi so much.

Why can't I just pick a side? Fuck my life. I want to just like men. I want to just like women. Why do I have to like both? I feel like a demented pervert. I think about sex almost all the time. Maybe I can slowly Pavlov myself into just liking men, but I don't know If I could be strong enough.

11 Comments
2024/11/01
16:46 UTC

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Actually losing my mind

My story/vent for the day

My laptop is old as shit and can’t run games no more, I’m (luckily) more than halfway through exams and REALLY just wanna unwind with some games, I need it rn, and to top it all off, (don’t ask me how) one of my earbuds fell into some toiletwater D:

1 Comment
2024/11/01
16:28 UTC

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Please help with coming out😭

So i was thinking i should come out to my sister but i'm not sure if i could do it irl, so i was thinking on sending a meme about this, just couldn't find any good memes with coming out as bisexual.

Could y'all help me out with this? Also, do you think it's okay to do it over text?:")

2 Comments
2024/11/01
16:02 UTC

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* finger guns intensify*

24 Comments
2024/11/01
15:52 UTC

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How do I tell if someone is lesbian or bi

In my last post, it was about me having a crush on a girl who I thought was lesbian but is actually straight. I have proof this time because she kissed a boy today and turns out to be homophobic too. Anyways, I was hanging out with my friend, we were talking about how my friends say if you're friend is a boy, it practically means you have a crush on them. Biggest load of nonsense I ever heard. She says that she isn't interested in boys like that. So now I am wondering if she is lesbian or bi. And this is friend is a very close friend of mine and how I met her is a long story. She is the second most supportive person I have ever met(first my best friend).

I think she is LGBTQ+ because she is very butch(tomboy-ish) and she said that she has never had a crush on boys because she "doesn't see anything in them". So idk, please help

4 Comments
2024/11/01
15:03 UTC

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what is the thing that femboys like the most? (I'm 17 he's 18)

5 Comments
2024/11/01
13:59 UTC

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Sorry for the low resolution

27 Comments
2024/11/01
13:52 UTC

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I like to kiss men and women.

I've always known that I wasn't straight but I didn't want to say I was gay because I still liked women so I learned about bisexuality and that's where I am. I figured that our after learning of Nagisa from Assassination Classroom and watching a few of bleach. That's probably the most I can say about it.

3 Comments
2024/11/01
11:40 UTC

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I\u2019m bored y\u2019all give me ideas of what to do

This is probably considered low effort content so I have decided I ummj will write a poem

ZephyrysBaum, that is my name, Why the fuck did I start my poem with that? It really truly is a shame, At least I can find some rhymes, like \u201ccat\u201d,

And I paused my YouTube vid, And it was really int\u2019resting too, By Dr Geoff Lindsey, if you know his schid, About languages, specifically English (kangaroo).

While writing that poem, I accidentally pressed the AMA button.

Yall can ask me questions BUT IT HAS TO BE THE WEIRDEST WIESTIOBS UOU CAN THINK OF (not weird in the weird way but in the like weird way if you get what i mean, like confusing and interesting weird but not weird weird)

Is this high enough quality content?

If the mods take this down I\u2019ll be very disappointed.

VoteZ&E and toodleloo,

ZephyrysBaum

29 Comments
2024/11/01
11:18 UTC

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I told a girl I liked her

This was before I knew I liked male individuals too,

So there was this girl which was admittedly attractive and I said I had a crush on her but she just rejected me (Turned out I didn’t have a crush on her but just some very mild feelings)

But apparently everyone knew that that happened the very next day which is kind of embarrassing but one thing changed too

Everybody stopped asking me whether I was gay which is great I hate saying that that is none of their business

But why do people assume bi-people don’t exist like you can like both men and women?

1 Comment
2024/11/01
07:09 UTC

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Hallo, I have found this place! How is everyone?

8 Comments
2024/11/01
06:06 UTC

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I need help with some internal conflict

I have a crush on a girl, and I’m afraid. I’ve known her for about a few months and she’s way smarter than me (I’m not a total idiot ofc I’m in advanced classes but she’s in the advanced versions of the advanced classes) and I have one class with her but she’s got a personality and ideas that kinda clash with mine (not in like a serious way ofc) but that only makes me like her even more because there’s always a good conversation to be had and I’m freaking out because last time I had a crush I ruined my life and had to move to another state and my mind is just at war with itself

1 Comment
2024/11/01
05:29 UTC

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The best Halloween I have had in a while

To make a long story short, I told my friend (let's call him B) i had a crush of someone of my same sex (it WAS NOT my friend B), and he was really supportive. He also said that he trusts me more than his other friends and that made me happy .

2 Comments
2024/11/01
04:07 UTC

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How was your Halloween? ^^

36 Comments
2024/11/01
03:24 UTC

42

Should I get a bf or gf

I really don't know which one

25 Comments
2024/11/01
01:37 UTC

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7 Comments
2024/11/01
00:12 UTC

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Crazy thing happened

So there is this boy that I think I like, we went trick or treating in a big group but we were just joke flirting the entire time and it was very funny. Then I asked him to go walk me home because I was hella anxious. On the walk home, we went up to a house with pumpkin and knocked on the door, then we rang the doorbell. Nothing happened and then he just said ‘wanna kiss’ so we kissed and then we just joke flirted some more. When I got back home, we hugged and then kissed each other on the cheek. Now I definitely like him and he’s my fifth person I’ve kissed, I’m super fucking happy.

TLDR: I kissed a crush and now I’m happy

17 Comments
2024/10/31
21:40 UTC

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I think I have a crush on a girl

I’m 14f, and i think she is 15. I am still very young and I won’t do anything yet because we are too young. I’m sorry if this is too long, I just wanted to talk to someone about it.

We’ve been classmates since the 2nd grade, we were never that close and we still aren’t very close. I liked her as a person but I never saw her like that. Right now we are in the 10th grade.

I don’t know exactly when it started but I think it was around the start of august I still don’t understand why I started thinking of her the way I did. I never took it seriously because I thought it was just a phase. But as time went by, I started to realize stuff.

I found myself trying to be closer to her, I was a bit jealous of her desk mate who is a boy, I wanted to talk to her more, be near her, and I started trying to study harder to be like her. When other girls hugged me, I felt nothing, actually I felt a bit annoyed. But it was different with her, I loved when she hugged me.

She is very smart, her grades are very high. She plays tennis, She’s really funny, she’s short and very cute, she’s gorgeous, her hair is black and she always has it in a ponytail, and we both have braces. I love her smile, and her laugh. I tried to tell my friends about it, but I don’t think they take me seriously, I still liked guys. I pushed away my feelings but something happened recently,

Her best friend, (who’s my good friend) invited me,her some other girls and a few guys to her birthday party. I thought it wasn’t going to be very fun. But when I saw her through my car window, I became happy. She went to play tennis and came back a bit later. It was the best part of the whole party.

When we were all eating on the couch, she got a call and went outside to talk, She apparently had to go home early but the birthday girl arranged some ways for her to stay longer by asking another girl to drop her off. We played Jenga, charades, together, and we took a group picture, where I managed to secure the position right beside her !

As time went on, my parents called saying I had to go early and they were coming to pick me up. I was sitting next to her on a sofa, the girl who was supposed to drop her off said she would go home late. The birthday girl then looked at me and asked if I could drop her home. I quickly called my mom and my mom said yes!

So after we cut the birthday cake, I handed over my gift to the birthday girl, and she quickly ate the piece of cake, and we both went. We had to walk for a bit before getting to my parents’ car so we did, all alone.

Then, we sat next to each other in the car, and we even exchanged numbers ! (thanks dad) we dropped her off and I stayed for a while to make sure she went home safely because it was dark. She waved at me, I called her a few minutes later.

When I reached home, she had texted me thanking me for the ride, we texted for a bit about random things, I’ve never felt more appreciated. I checked my friends’ stories which were filled with them playing truth or dare and swapping shirts with boys. But I didn’t care anymore, because I was with her.

I’m not sure if it was noticeable but that night, I was almost always next to her. I think I always am. Ahh anyways I don’t know anymore. I’m pretty sure this is all we’re gonna do for the rest of the year. We will be going to different schools, and we’re not in the same friend group. Moreover she doesn’t like girls.

If anyone has read all of this, thank you for listening to me. I don’t have anybody else to talk about this to. she had me kicking my feet

1 Comment
2024/10/31
20:01 UTC

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The Classic Problem

Hey guys, I (M15) have had a crush on a very long and good friend (M15) for 3 years now. He knows im Bi and he supports me, listening to me if i have problems.

For context: 2 Months after i first started liking him in 7th grade (im now in 10th) i just told him. he rejected me nicely, assuring me we'd still be friends.

And we are, to this day. He just doesnt know I still like him. Bad thing: Hes straight and has a gf.

So im not asking you to help me ask him out (its hopeless) I'd like to know how to let go. Thx in advance!

4 Comments
2024/10/31
16:37 UTC

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Happy Halloween

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2024/10/31
13:58 UTC

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My gf broke up with me

My girlfriend and I had a huge fight and just like that she's gone. Like seriously? I've known her for 2 years and she's just going to throw everything we had in the trash? Just like that she's... gone. I can't believe we went from being so close to not talking at all. I feel so lost what am I even supposed to do anymore?

4 Comments
2024/10/31
13:11 UTC

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I’m so confused 😭

How am I into femboys and Tomboys even tho they are literally opposite? 😭

17 Comments
2024/10/31
12:34 UTC

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Confused

Am I faking it and just gay or rlly bi?

Im a 17y/o male whos bi but feel like im faking it nd im js gay

I’ve been questioning my sexuality for a long time, and it feels like the more I think about it, the more confused I get. I’m stuck in this loop of doubting whether I’m truly bisexual or if I’ve just been lying to myself the entire time and am actually gay. I want to be honest with myself, but at the same time, I’m afraid of the truth and what it might mean. Here’s everything I can remember and reflect on, to give the full picture:

  1. Past Relationships with Girls

Throughout my life, I’ve been in multiple relationships with girls. In middle school, I remember trying to be there for a girl I was dating when she lost a parent. We spent a lot of time talking, and I felt like I needed to be there to support her. But when I look back, I can’t help but wonder if I was just seeking drama, attention, or trying to fit into a typical boy-girl relationship rather than genuinely being invested. I don’t remember having strong sexual feelings towards her, but I cared enough to try to get her attention or make her jealous at times.

With another girl I dated, we were always on the phone, but looking back, our relationship was somewhat toxic. We argued a lot, and I often spoke harshly to her. Despite this, I still wanted to stay in touch and be around her as a friend. I showed her my music and felt like I wanted her approval or validation in that way. Even though we were close, there were no intense sexual urges—just occasional companionship.

There were other relationships, too, where I went through the motions of dating, but I don’t remember much beyond surface-level interactions. It’s hard to separate whether I genuinely felt attraction or was just doing what I thought was “normal.”

  1. My Sexual Experiences with Men

From a young age, I’ve had sexual experiences with guys that involved genuine arousal, physical attraction, and sexual urges. Some of these experiences were with friends, and they were more intense and memorable in terms of sexual curiosity and desire. I exchanged pictures and messages with guys and was open to exploring the physical side in a way that I rarely experienced with girls.

Even now, my attraction to men seems to be more consistent and stronger. It’s a feeling that is often immediate and clear, where there’s a strong physical pull. On the other hand, with women, any physical attraction feels rare, distant, or forced. This difference in intensity and clarity is what leads me to doubt my bisexuality.

  1. My Doubts and Anxiety Around Bisexuality

What really messes with me is that my attraction to women feels almost nonexistent compared to my attraction to men. When I look at guys, it’s almost instinctual and physical, whereas with women, I rarely feel anything. I catch myself noticing guys’ bulges or how they stand, and I question if I ever genuinely felt that way about women. The fact that I don’t get physically turned on by girls as much as by guys makes me feel like I’m lying to myself when I say I’m bi.

I’ve had moments of trying to pursue relationships with girls recently, like talking to certain girls, but it feels like I’m forcing myself to feel something that isn’t really there. When I’m around them, I end up treating them like friends more than anything romantic. I go through the motions, like talking on the phone or hanging out, but I don’t feel that strong urge or excitement to be around them.

Even when I do feel a brief connection or attraction to girls, I end up doubting it, like it’s not real or that I’m just trying to convince myself it is. It feels like I’m stuck in a constant cycle of overthinking and doubting every moment with women.

  1. The Pressure of Labels and Self-Expectations

I’ve always imagined myself ending up with a girl. I used to daydream about having that “Scott Pilgrim and Ramona Flowers” kind of love or something like those idealized relationships. But those thoughts feel more like distant fantasies than realistic possibilities. They don’t feel as grounded or achievable as being with a guy.

It’s also hard not to compare myself to other guys who seem to naturally make moves on girls or talk to them confidently. I feel different, like I’m not getting the same strong feelings, and it makes me doubt whether I even have the capacity to connect with women in that way.

  1. Is This All in My Head?

I’ve gone through evaluations, talked with people, and even questioned whether all of this is a result of past experiences or societal expectations. I feel like I’m constantly trying to analyze if I really liked these girls or if I was just trying to fit in. But what if I’ve been lying to myself this entire time? What if I’m gay, and I’ve just been too afraid to accept it? What if these relationships with girls were never real or genuine?

I’m worried that I’m not being truthful with myself, and the constant back-and-forth in my mind is exhausting. I don’t want to hate myself for being gay or feel like I’m stuck in a state of confusion forever. I just want to be at peace with who I am, but I’m scared to confront the truth if it means admitting I’m not bi.

So, my question to anyone reading this is: How can I tell if my attraction to women is genuine, or if I’ve just been lying to myself this whole time? Is it possible that I’m actually gay and have just been trying to hold onto an idea of bisexuality because it feels safer or more acceptable? How do I come to terms with these feelings?

P.S. Reflecting on all of my past experiences and interactions, there are key moments and connections that point more toward being bisexual rather than strictly gay. I’ve had multiple relationships with girls, where there were genuine emotional bonds and moments of wanting to share significant parts of myself, like my music, my passions, and personal experiences. It wasn’t all physical, but the emotional connections were real. For instance, with one of my exes, I felt a strong need to be supportive during tough times and made efforts to engage and bond. Even if my attraction to women wasn’t as intense or frequent as it was toward men, it still existed.

Another point is that I often imagined myself in relationships with women in the long term, envisioning romantic scenarios and trying to make those moments happen. I wanted to experience that ‘Scott and Ramona’ type of relationship. This shows that the idea of being with a woman wasn’t just for show or society—it was something I genuinely desired and pursued.

On the flip side, my attraction to men tends to be more immediate and stronger, which is why it often overshadows my feelings toward women. But that doesn’t negate the real feelings I’ve had in past relationships with girls. My attraction to women has been subtler and less physically driven, but it has been there. This aligns with many bisexual experiences, where attraction isn’t always evenly split or shows up the same way with each gender. Sometimes it’s more emotional or situational rather than physical.

There’s also the fact that in multiple relationships with girls, I wanted their approval, showed vulnerability, and genuinely cared for their opinions and feelings. This wasn’t about trying to fit into societal expectations; it was part of forming a connection. In contrast, my experiences with men were more sexually driven and direct, which created a disparity that makes me doubt my attraction to women. But the truth is, I experienced different types of connections and levels of intensity with each gender, which aligns with being bisexual rather than exclusively gay.

And ive also got erect to straight porn or solo women porn SOMETIMES but its so rare it feels like a coincidence

3 Comments
2024/10/31
04:01 UTC

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What are your guys Halloween plans

I’m going to dress up as a pirate and go to my friends house and watch a movie and pass out candy to trick or treaters

35 Comments
2024/10/31
03:30 UTC

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Friends are a lie I am forever alone

complaining again

6 Comments
2024/10/31
01:19 UTC

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What do i do

So, I might be Pan and Bi and idk how though so I'm just calling myself Pi or Pisexual and hear me out on Charlie Bushnell who plays Luke in the new Percy Jackson show and this one girl I like said she has work every day except weekends which just eliminated all chances of us getting together

8 Comments
2024/10/30
21:49 UTC

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I want a partner so bad 😞😞

shits

16 Comments
2024/10/30
18:26 UTC

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