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Crazy thing happened

So there is this boy that I think I like, we went trick or treating in a big group but we were just joke flirting the entire time and it was very funny. Then I asked him to go walk me home because I was hella anxious. On the walk home, we went up to a house with pumpkin and knocked on the door, then we rang the doorbell. Nothing happened and then he just said ‘wanna kiss’ so we kissed and then we just joke flirted some more. When I got back home, we hugged and then kissed each other on the cheek. Now I definitely like him and he’s my fifth person I’ve kissed, I’m super fucking happy.

TLDR: I kissed a crush and now I’m happy

6 Comments
2024/10/31
21:40 UTC

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Bi books

Hey everyone! How’s it going? I finally published the second edition of my book—revised, edited, and even better!

A little while ago, I mentioned here that I published a book featuring a bisexual main character. I think it’s so important to have more LGBTQ+ characters in fiction, romance, horror, and all genres. And I’m talking about stories with LGBTQ+ characters that go far beyond their identity, where the plot isn’t just about coming out or seeking acceptance from family and friends.

So, I’m here to share my book, Last Act Whispers! https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DLJ9HK76

“In the glittering world of Hollywood, Lola Greene was an icon, adored by millions. But beneath the spotlight lay a story of forbidden loves, heartbreak, and the search for redemption. As her life unravels, secrets from her past emerge, casting doubt on everything—and everyone—she trusted. Will the truth about Lola’s final act set her free, or will it destroy the legacy she fought so hard to build?”

If you’re looking for a fresh, character-driven story that truly values diversity, this book is for you. It would be an honor for me if you’d give the book a chance and read it! And its only 0.99 cents!

1 Comment
2024/10/31
21:15 UTC

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I think I have a crush on a girl

I’m 14f, and i think she is 15. I am still very young and I won’t do anything yet because we are too young. I’m sorry if this is too long, I just wanted to talk to someone about it.

We’ve been classmates since the 2nd grade, we were never that close and we still aren’t very close. I liked her as a person but I never saw her like that. Right now we are in the 10th grade.

I don’t know exactly when it started but I think it was around the start of august I still don’t understand why I started thinking of her the way I did. I never took it seriously because I thought it was just a phase. But as time went by, I started to realize stuff.

I found myself trying to be closer to her, I was a bit jealous of her desk mate who is a boy, I wanted to talk to her more, be near her, and I started trying to study harder to be like her. When other girls hugged me, I felt nothing, actually I felt a bit annoyed. But it was different with her, I loved when she hugged me.

She is very smart, her grades are very high. She plays tennis, She’s really funny, she’s short and very cute, she’s gorgeous, her hair is black and she always has it in a ponytail, and we both have braces. I love her smile, and her laugh. I tried to tell my friends about it, but I don’t think they take me seriously, I still liked guys. I pushed away my feelings but something happened recently,

Her best friend, (who’s my good friend) invited me,her some other girls and a few guys to her birthday party. I thought it wasn’t going to be very fun. But when I saw her through my car window, I became happy. She went to play tennis and came back a bit later. It was the best part of the whole party.

When we were all eating on the couch, she got a call and went outside to talk, She apparently had to go home early but the birthday girl arranged some ways for her to stay longer by asking another girl to drop her off. We played Jenga, charades, together, and we took a group picture, where I managed to secure the position right beside her !

As time went on, my parents called saying I had to go early and they were coming to pick me up. I was sitting next to her on a sofa, the girl who was supposed to drop her off said she would go home late. The birthday girl then looked at me and asked if I could drop her home. I quickly called my mom and my mom said yes!

So after we cut the birthday cake, I handed over my gift to the birthday girl, and she quickly ate the piece of cake, and we both went. We had to walk for a bit before getting to my parents’ car so we did, all alone.

Then, we sat next to each other in the car, and we even exchanged numbers ! (thanks dad) we dropped her off and I stayed for a while to make sure she went home safely because it was dark. She waved at me, I called her a few minutes later.

When I reached home, she had texted me thanking me for the ride, we texted for a bit about random things, I’ve never felt more appreciated. I checked my friends’ stories which were filled with them playing truth or dare and swapping shirts with boys. But I didn’t care anymore, because I was with her.

I’m not sure if it was noticeable but that night, I was almost always next to her. I think I always am. Ahh anyways I don’t know anymore. I’m pretty sure this is all we’re gonna do for the rest of the year. We will be going to different schools, and we’re not in the same friend group. Moreover she doesn’t like girls.

If anyone has read all of this, thank you for listening to me. I don’t have anybody else to talk about this to. she had me kicking my feet

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2024/10/31
20:01 UTC

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Meowdy

32 Comments
2024/10/31
17:35 UTC

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The Classic Problem

Hey guys, I (M15) have had a crush on a very long and good friend (M15) for 3 years now. He knows im Bi and he supports me, listening to me if i have problems.

For context: 2 Months after i first started liking him in 7th grade (im now in 10th) i just told him. he rejected me nicely, assuring me we'd still be friends.

And we are, to this day. He just doesnt know I still like him. Bad thing: Hes straight and has a gf.

So im not asking you to help me ask him out (its hopeless) I'd like to know how to let go. Thx in advance!

3 Comments
2024/10/31
16:37 UTC

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Happy Halloween

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2024/10/31
13:58 UTC

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I shall not stop till I have all the good lgbt girls and boys. :3

16 Comments
2024/10/31
13:47 UTC

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My gf broke up with me

My girlfriend and I had a huge fight and just like that's she's gone. Like seriously? I've known her for 2 years and she's just going to throw everything we had in the trash? Just like that she's... gone. I can't believe we went from being so close to not talking at all. I feel so lost what am I even supposed to do anymore?

4 Comments
2024/10/31
13:11 UTC

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I’m so confused 😭

How am I into femboys and Tomboys even tho they are literally opposite? 😭

13 Comments
2024/10/31
12:34 UTC

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Confused

Am I faking it and just gay or rlly bi?

Im a 17y/o male whos bi but feel like im faking it nd im js gay

I’ve been questioning my sexuality for a long time, and it feels like the more I think about it, the more confused I get. I’m stuck in this loop of doubting whether I’m truly bisexual or if I’ve just been lying to myself the entire time and am actually gay. I want to be honest with myself, but at the same time, I’m afraid of the truth and what it might mean. Here’s everything I can remember and reflect on, to give the full picture:

  1. Past Relationships with Girls

Throughout my life, I’ve been in multiple relationships with girls. In middle school, I remember trying to be there for a girl I was dating when she lost a parent. We spent a lot of time talking, and I felt like I needed to be there to support her. But when I look back, I can’t help but wonder if I was just seeking drama, attention, or trying to fit into a typical boy-girl relationship rather than genuinely being invested. I don’t remember having strong sexual feelings towards her, but I cared enough to try to get her attention or make her jealous at times.

With another girl I dated, we were always on the phone, but looking back, our relationship was somewhat toxic. We argued a lot, and I often spoke harshly to her. Despite this, I still wanted to stay in touch and be around her as a friend. I showed her my music and felt like I wanted her approval or validation in that way. Even though we were close, there were no intense sexual urges—just occasional companionship.

There were other relationships, too, where I went through the motions of dating, but I don’t remember much beyond surface-level interactions. It’s hard to separate whether I genuinely felt attraction or was just doing what I thought was “normal.”

  1. My Sexual Experiences with Men

From a young age, I’ve had sexual experiences with guys that involved genuine arousal, physical attraction, and sexual urges. Some of these experiences were with friends, and they were more intense and memorable in terms of sexual curiosity and desire. I exchanged pictures and messages with guys and was open to exploring the physical side in a way that I rarely experienced with girls.

Even now, my attraction to men seems to be more consistent and stronger. It’s a feeling that is often immediate and clear, where there’s a strong physical pull. On the other hand, with women, any physical attraction feels rare, distant, or forced. This difference in intensity and clarity is what leads me to doubt my bisexuality.

  1. My Doubts and Anxiety Around Bisexuality

What really messes with me is that my attraction to women feels almost nonexistent compared to my attraction to men. When I look at guys, it’s almost instinctual and physical, whereas with women, I rarely feel anything. I catch myself noticing guys’ bulges or how they stand, and I question if I ever genuinely felt that way about women. The fact that I don’t get physically turned on by girls as much as by guys makes me feel like I’m lying to myself when I say I’m bi.

I’ve had moments of trying to pursue relationships with girls recently, like talking to certain girls, but it feels like I’m forcing myself to feel something that isn’t really there. When I’m around them, I end up treating them like friends more than anything romantic. I go through the motions, like talking on the phone or hanging out, but I don’t feel that strong urge or excitement to be around them.

Even when I do feel a brief connection or attraction to girls, I end up doubting it, like it’s not real or that I’m just trying to convince myself it is. It feels like I’m stuck in a constant cycle of overthinking and doubting every moment with women.

  1. The Pressure of Labels and Self-Expectations

I’ve always imagined myself ending up with a girl. I used to daydream about having that “Scott Pilgrim and Ramona Flowers” kind of love or something like those idealized relationships. But those thoughts feel more like distant fantasies than realistic possibilities. They don’t feel as grounded or achievable as being with a guy.

It’s also hard not to compare myself to other guys who seem to naturally make moves on girls or talk to them confidently. I feel different, like I’m not getting the same strong feelings, and it makes me doubt whether I even have the capacity to connect with women in that way.

  1. Is This All in My Head?

I’ve gone through evaluations, talked with people, and even questioned whether all of this is a result of past experiences or societal expectations. I feel like I’m constantly trying to analyze if I really liked these girls or if I was just trying to fit in. But what if I’ve been lying to myself this entire time? What if I’m gay, and I’ve just been too afraid to accept it? What if these relationships with girls were never real or genuine?

I’m worried that I’m not being truthful with myself, and the constant back-and-forth in my mind is exhausting. I don’t want to hate myself for being gay or feel like I’m stuck in a state of confusion forever. I just want to be at peace with who I am, but I’m scared to confront the truth if it means admitting I’m not bi.

So, my question to anyone reading this is: How can I tell if my attraction to women is genuine, or if I’ve just been lying to myself this whole time? Is it possible that I’m actually gay and have just been trying to hold onto an idea of bisexuality because it feels safer or more acceptable? How do I come to terms with these feelings?

P.S. Reflecting on all of my past experiences and interactions, there are key moments and connections that point more toward being bisexual rather than strictly gay. I’ve had multiple relationships with girls, where there were genuine emotional bonds and moments of wanting to share significant parts of myself, like my music, my passions, and personal experiences. It wasn’t all physical, but the emotional connections were real. For instance, with one of my exes, I felt a strong need to be supportive during tough times and made efforts to engage and bond. Even if my attraction to women wasn’t as intense or frequent as it was toward men, it still existed.

Another point is that I often imagined myself in relationships with women in the long term, envisioning romantic scenarios and trying to make those moments happen. I wanted to experience that ‘Scott and Ramona’ type of relationship. This shows that the idea of being with a woman wasn’t just for show or society—it was something I genuinely desired and pursued.

On the flip side, my attraction to men tends to be more immediate and stronger, which is why it often overshadows my feelings toward women. But that doesn’t negate the real feelings I’ve had in past relationships with girls. My attraction to women has been subtler and less physically driven, but it has been there. This aligns with many bisexual experiences, where attraction isn’t always evenly split or shows up the same way with each gender. Sometimes it’s more emotional or situational rather than physical.

There’s also the fact that in multiple relationships with girls, I wanted their approval, showed vulnerability, and genuinely cared for their opinions and feelings. This wasn’t about trying to fit into societal expectations; it was part of forming a connection. In contrast, my experiences with men were more sexually driven and direct, which created a disparity that makes me doubt my attraction to women. But the truth is, I experienced different types of connections and levels of intensity with each gender, which aligns with being bisexual rather than exclusively gay.

And ive also got erect to straight porn or solo women porn SOMETIMES but its so rare it feels like a coincidence

3 Comments
2024/10/31
04:01 UTC

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What are your guys Halloween plans

I’m going to dress up as a pirate and go to my friends house and watch a movie and pass out candy to trick or treaters

33 Comments
2024/10/31
03:30 UTC

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Friends are a lie I am forever alone

complaining again

6 Comments
2024/10/31
01:19 UTC

13

What do i do

So, I might be Pan and Bi and idk how though so I'm just calling myself Pi or Pisexual and hear me out on Charlie Bushnell who plays Luke in the new Percy Jackson show and this one girl I like said she has work every day except weekends which just eliminated all chances of us getting together

6 Comments
2024/10/30
21:49 UTC

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I want a partner so bad 😞😞

shits

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2024/10/30
18:26 UTC

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I'm not well at all.

This last year and a half has been a real downfall, I'm a person with a lot of hobbies in general, I loved skating, drawing and especially music. Then i don't want to go into details, but i started losing one thing after another that a lot of people wouldn't want to lose. And I got into a serious depression, thinking that I wasn't as interesting as I used to be, and that somehow the people around me were avoiding me because of it. I felt inadequate in the way I used to think that I wasn't talented enough at things I used to do just for fun. The feeling of inadequacy had become so bad. I missed a shot when I was playing basketball, which wasn't really new because I was short, I wasn't a great player anyway, but I felt different at the time than I normally do. I just froze, my body went numb and I started to feel very heavy, my breath was very short and weak, as if I was trying to breathe through a straw, my heart was beating very fast but there was no strength in my body to move. Somehow I managed to get out of the court by taking a step back and never played basketball again. Over time, this started to affect the other things I loved, I stopped singing because I hated my voice, I never picked up my guitar again. I stopped drawing because I thought I was untalented, and so on. At one point, I was so emotionally broken that all I did was stay in my room all day and play, I started crying for unnecessary or ridiculous reasons. When the teacher asked question at school, even though I knew all the answers, he never gave me a say, I felt inadequate and cried... Another panic attack. Then i would eat every few days, sleep when bored, and cry most of the time. Luckily, if my sister made me smile a little, I would cry again, thinking to myself, "Look, you just smiled, so you can be happy, I miss being happy". When my friends called me to play games for 6 days, I refused, and when they didn't call me on the 7th day, I thought it was because I was a boring person and cried again, but the next day, when they called me to play games, I refused again. I thought that people didn't want to approach me because I was boring and incompetent, but I didn't even let anyone approach me. Even something as small as breaking a glass was enough to make me cry, and it was starting to get very nauseous, so I tried something not so pleasant. I tried to die, and luckily I failed. Sometimes I still wonder how I got to where I am now and I have a hard time remembering things, or rather, my brain doesn't want to remember. I hated myself so much. And finally, with the urging of my family, I started medication, and now I am trying to continue from where I left off. I don't know why I'm telling this here, I just didn't want to keep it inside of me, maybe I'll be relieved if I tell it. I'm still not completely well, but at least I'm doing the things I love again, and I'm not ruining myself for small reasons like breaking glasses.

7 Comments
2024/10/30
17:37 UTC

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I HATE

Love. I have a love/hate relationship with love. I spent so long pining over someone, we dated for a few months thheeennn they just blocked me! No goodbye message, no explanation, just poof, all my work, gone. I thought it was going good, but i guess they just werent right for me. Fucckkk, why am i so hard to love?? Sorry for my first post in here being a vent i just SIIIIGGGGHHH.

4 Comments
2024/10/30
15:13 UTC

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Time for the "never go for a girl like that, Son" lore

I've ended up in a relationship with a bipolar bisexual autistic and hypersexual alt girl with hells Angels connections and her friend basically beats people up for fun

My Longing for happiness and intimacy is overpowering my rational mind and I need y'all's opinions on this

It might also be time to get some long overdue trauma idk

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2024/10/30
12:55 UTC

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How do I find love?

Sooo heyo I'm a pansexual furry femboy and from California and I just wanna know how do I get like a girlfriend or boyfriend but whilst I'm still closeted... Like I've come out to a few people but their all straight or have interest in other people and even my mom wonders why I don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend yet at my age (I'm 15 btw don't be weird to me) but it's hard to find a partner to love and care about especially since I'm in California and the worst part of California too near LA 😒 but it still sucks that its been 15 years since i was born and I still can't get anyone because I have no good traits 😭

5 Comments
2024/10/30
11:13 UTC

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Loneliness sucks I need someone to cuddle

I just want to be called a good boy and I'm tired of it loneliness I hate you damn it ( is this the right flare to use I'm bad at redditing)

4 Comments
2024/10/30
08:02 UTC

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Where will be his love then?

Hello, I'm a 15 year old cis boy who just so happens to be bi, my friends know of this, and they accept me, so, happy days huh? Not quite, my sister knows I'm bi, and my brother suspects it and I know they'd both accept me, but my dad? For context, I live w/ my dad as my mum is abusive, thing is, my dad is homophobic to the core, and even though I love him, every time he says he loves me it just breaks my heart, and for better or for worse I'm betting on him not finding out, but if he does, where will his love be then? Honestly I dont expect anyone to reply, or even care, but I just feel devastated by this whole thing.

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2024/10/30
06:55 UTC

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I want to come out to my best friend. Advice needed

So I am bi(13) and I want to come out to my best friend(f14). We are VERY close and I want to come out to her, but she is a straight up homophobic Christian. I am Christian too but I know the Bible, I swear there is no scripture that says LGBTQ+ is a sin. She says it is the "biggest sin in humanity". My grandfather is a pastor and he says it isn't a sin. So I don't know what to do. Please can someone help

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2024/10/30
04:55 UTC

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Old account got deleted lmao

But I backkkk!

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2024/10/30
02:49 UTC

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does anybody here get bullied??

53 Comments
2024/10/30
01:40 UTC

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I came out to my mum today

Me and my mum have always had a close relationship and I’ve always been able to talk to her about everything but when I first started questions about my sexuality I didn’t want to talk to her about in case I was wrong or worst case in case she didn’t support me, I eventually came to the conclusion that I was bi and around the same time I began to really like this girl.

However all my friends were constantly pressuring me into telling my mum and although I was worried I presumed it would go well because we’d always been so close and she’d never really been horrible to me.

I had notice little homophobic comments she made but we have loads of lgbtq+ friends so I presumed they were innocent.

This morning in the car I told her I was bi and that I really liked this girl, however the response I got from her wasn’t what I wanted at all.

Long story short she told me that she ‘supports’ me but that I’m too young to really know and understand and that bc I’ve never dated a boy I can’t know that I like girls too, however I’ve read different from my heaps of research I’d done previously to deciding I was bi, she also told me that if I went around saying it I would be bullied and that in a couple years I’d regret it, she told me that I don’t act gay or look gay so I couldn’t possibly and that she knows deep in her heart that I’m not gay, I told her I’d kissed girls and she told me I was just experimenting, she told me that if another boy came along I would choose him over the girl I like and that I’m not bi I just think this one girl is really pretty, it felt like she was constantly coming up with excuses for my thoughts and emotions and although she ‘supported’ me it felt like she didn’t believe what I was saying to her. Meanwhile I was crying and she just kept undermining my feelings I just genuinely don’t know what to do anymore.

In the end she didn’t even leave it with any helpful input and told me that I should just distance myself from the girl I like and basically that I should ‘act’ and ‘be’ straight.

I just don’t know what to do anymore because now I’m questioning myself again but how could I possibly be straight when I have a crush on a girl and when I’ve kissed so many girls.

I’d love some advice!! thank you in advance xx

5 Comments
2024/10/30
00:24 UTC

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How to go further with a crush?

I have crushes that I like really wanna keep going with but idk how to start something as I've been rejected like 3 times. Does anyone know how this works?

11 Comments
2024/10/29
17:43 UTC

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I am a teenage femboy, my sister is transgender and we have a very strict mother, do I have a problem?

6 Comments
2024/10/29
16:24 UTC

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In the happiest healthiest relationship of my life

Hi guys, so for those of you who don’t know, i came out as a lesbian in this group last year but was told I could stay in the group. I now have the most amazing gf ever. she’s everything i could want and more. she and I plan on getting engaged next year and we’re so excited :) she’s seriously the best❤️ i’m just happy i have her. she seriously saved me

4 Comments
2024/10/29
15:46 UTC

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