Hello Berlin and Beyond,

As many of you, I’m also in the boat of being tired of dating apps. How in the world can I choose who’s interesting just by looking at photos? So, I’m doing something a bit bold because, well, life’s short, and why not? If this experiment fails, I’ll still be laughing about it with my raccoon friends when I’m 99.

Let’s begin, then. It’s Halloween night, when the city’s filled with witches and who knows what, and I’m here, hoping to find someone who’s actually looking for me. So, yes, this will be long because I’m not looking for anything short—and if you’re pulled to read all of it, then we’re already off to a good start.

Some details I’ll keep vague for privacy, but here’s a bit about me:

Basics

• Name: Joy (not my actual name, but it translates to that, and I think it fits me well).
• Age: Just turned 35 (although no one believes me, so I guess I’ve got good genes!).
• Height: 174 cm
• I’m from the EU, but on dating apps, I’m from the “Turtle Island of Fiji”—because who cares, and why not?
• I’ve lived in 4 countries, which has shaped me into someone open-minded, resilient, and adaptable.
• I don’t complain about the grey weather, but I’m not a fan of too much heat.
• I adore oceans and could spend hours in the water; if I’m going to go someday, that would be the way to go—happy.
• I play tennis; it’s my safe space, my meditation, and my exercise.
• I’m self-employed and could live anywhere in the world, but I chose Berlin for the second time since 2015.
• I work in cybersecurity, so scammers and sneaky types, please stay away.
• Photography and creativity are passions of mine.
• I’m good at dating myself; I do all the things couples do because there’s no reason to stop living just because I don’t have a partner (yet!). But I’d like to share life’s beauty with someone special.
• I’m layered, emotional, and vulnerable but also strong and never give up.
• I love astronomy, whales, raccoons, cheese, and I’m a little addicted to stationery.
• I have both an introverted, quiet side and an extroverted, high-energy side—they’re pretty well balanced!
• Kids? I’d love to have them with the right person in a healthy relationship, but it’s not a goal on its own.
• I don’t smoke, rarely drink, don’t do drugs, and prefer monogamy.
• I’m very honest and straightforward.
• Spirituality is a big part of me and something I wouldn’t change; it’s made me stronger and is essential to who I am.
• I love board games, karting, and watching football (World Cups and Euros only).
• I love horror movies.
• I’ve visited 38 countries.
• I have a vision board.
• Masculine energy: I respect healthy masculinity and genuinely appreciate when a man embraces his masculine side—like offering to help me with bags or opening doors. I’m very independent and can do it all alone, but I love the balance of energies in a relationship.
• I’m generous with affection and gifts.
• I have loads of empathy, love, and kindness to give, and I’ve learned it’s about giving and receiving equally—when it’s right, it’s a dance.
• I love touch and physical closeness, so it’s tough for me if someone isn’t comfortable with touch.

I’m not looking for just a boyfriend but a true life partner. I know none of us knows the future, and we can only hope for the best, but ideally, I want someone who’s open to the journey of fun, growth, and time together that, with compatibility, can bring us to that deeper connection.

Other Sides of Me

• I’m very bad at baking.
• I have little wrinkles from smiling a lot.
• I often sleep with an open window, even in winter.

What I’m Looking for in You (If you answer yes to most of these, then let’s talk!)

• Age 32-43, height ideally above 172 cm.
• You don’t do drugs, and you know what you want from life.
• You’re aware of both your good and not-so-good sides, and you know what kind of person you want to be with, understanding both sides of yourself.
• When conflict arises, you believe in solving it with empathy and compassion. I’m sure we’ll both be wrong sometimes, but finding middle ground and fixing things (maybe with ice cream and a playful bite) matters.
• You have a secure attachment style.
• You’re open to someone who’s honest, funny, sometimes crazy, sometimes quiet and introverted, sometimes extroverted—basically, all the layers I described and more.
• You have hobbies and interests that make your eyes light up and that you’re happy to talk about.
• Resilient, kind, giving, and self-aware.
• You speak English and are monogamous.
• You know who you’re looking for and aren’t afraid to love and be loved.
• You can defend me from spiders and handle garbage duty (despite my love for raccoons, I have a weird relationship with garbage containers).
• When I cook, you help me clean; when you cook, I clean—teamwork is important to you.
• You’re emotionally intelligent and know how to create a safe space in a relationship.
• You’re adventurous and curious about the world, and you enjoy exploring new places (whether it’s a nearby park or a faraway country).
• You’re thoughtful—small gestures mean a lot to me.
• You’re okay with someone who’s sometimes quiet and contemplative; I need my downtime to recharge, but I also love deep conversations.
• You’re patient and open-minded—you can handle quirks like my love of open windows in winter!

I answered yes to all these points, except the ones about the garbage and spiders. And even though superficial things don’t matter that much, they still play a role in attraction, so I’m happy to exchange a photo in private if you’re interested! 😋

you can write me on telegram @radajoy or here on reddit in chat 🙂

Additional points if you are neurodivergent and/or queer (:

Feel free to hit my dm's

oh and I am 29 btw

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It’s all about love and good vibes! ♥

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Dear Berliners from Germany an elsewhere,

A good friend from Latin America has just informed me that his 20 year old son will be coming to Berlin next month for 2 weeks for a German intensive course. He will be pretty busy during the week with his German classes and is staying with a German host family but my friend has asked me if I could show him something on the weekend. Unfortunately, I have absolutely no idea what 20 year olds would enjoy. Can someone help me out with some inspiration please? Thanks a lot in advance and happy weekend everyone!

Hey guys, I'm hosting and producing a comedy show called Pour Up Comedy, in Mitte. The comedians on the line up are doing longer sets. Show runs for 2 hours max. Seating starts 8:00pm and show starts at 8:30pm.

The lineup of comedians are:

Ludwig Benecke (GER) – [Instagram]
Andrei Palchyk (POL) – [Instagram]
Shari Mari (GER) – [Instagram]
Theo Mason Wood (UK) – [Instagram]
Deo Katunga (Bulgaria) – [Instagram]
Host- Nya Yeanafehn (USA) - [Instagram]

The show will take place at Galerie & Bar Tor218 Artlab, a nice place for comedy and drinks.

We’re offering €2 off tickets for anyone who buys today and tomorrow! Every ticket comes with a free beer, wine, or soft drink. Don’t wait—these discounted tickets are limited! Use “NACHT2” at checkout

Here's the link for tickets: https://pourup0211.eventbrite.de/?aff=red

Hey, are there any other solo goers to any of the above concerts next week?? It would be nice to meet up slightly before starting time and maybe enjoy the concert(s) together. Just in case it makes any difference for anyone I’m 28 M 🏳️‍🌈 (not single), and i speak english, spanish, and german (B2).

Since my original post was deleted due to my own inconsiderate use of Tele / gram links, I will try again:

If you are interested in going to small Kinos like Krokodil, Tilsiter, Acud etc. and need company, you can join my Discord: https://discord.gg/NbWWQruN

There, you will also find a link to „the other service“ if you prefer that one. Hope to see lots of eager members. ☺️

Heyy i moved to berlin recently and just got my papers and tax number figured out :) That being said , I am ACTIVELY looking to get a job !!! I have good experience with Barkeep, Wine Bar, Simple Cocktails (but want to learn more) , Bar runner. Agency model Restaurant Server Studied fine arts

Can not speak fluent german yet but I Am Fluent English , Spanish and Portuguese.

Full availability and eager to start !

psa: i am a queer person

Does anyone have extra tickets for Khruangbin on Thursday or Friday? Please DM only with serious offers :)

Hi guys.

I am hoping someone can help me here, and i apologise if i am trying to farm connections or draw attention to my profile but really need advise and can't afford lawyers since i need to save up for potentially my flight ticket back home and for to have enough till i find a job back home too as i have no friends and family to stay with back home so i gotta prepare for plan B too. But it will truly suck because my step son is here too with my fiance and we are supposed to stick together but if it comes to it... they will follow me back home too.

And I am sorry for if i am posting in the wrong subreddit

A bit of background info: i had arrived in Germany in June of 2022 to reunite with my fiance who was relocated to Germany by adidas HQ. I was lucky enough to get a job immedietly in Karlsruhe and it was a temp role only then after that to find another role in Munich. Due to the current economic turmoil that the automotive industry in specific is facing in the EU specifically Germany, my company conducted mass layoffs of which i was a part of and they are currently in the process of going insolvent.

I have tried to change my LinkedIn profile and CV numerous times and networked but had no luck in getting through for interviews. and the few interviews i had felt like had something personal against me (increased rates of xenophobia towards arabs perhaps after the events of Israel/Palestine in 2023?) even though I had met every single point on the JD and matches the role in terms of experience.

I am starting to think that maybe i meant to go back home but i won't do so without a fight and giving it my all.

Therefore, i need advise here for now on what should my next steps. I am still applying everywhere and lowering my salary expectations to be something like 50K instead of what i received in my last role which was 60K gross annually because i understand the german economy is facing tough times and so are the businesses and i am flexible in that sense.

I am even thinking of prepping a video about myself but can't afford to pay for freelancers a large amount because need to save every penny. Once i have the video ready (up to 2 minutes) i need help in finding someone who can help edit the video for me as i am not an expert. Is there any chance someone can exchange services with me? perhaps we can help out each in some way.

Also, i am not sure what to do about the auslanderbehorde in Nürnberg, they had asked me what my plan is after i informed them of my situation (since my aufenthaltstitel expires in december 2026 but surely this is now a different story since i don't have a job that is tied to it).... but they haven't got back to me yet on next steps and how long i have left in the country. i heard i would get 6 months in the beginning (my last day at my last role was July 31, 2024) but i am imagining i have no safety net at all so i can have a sense of urgency). I am claiming unemployment benefits and the arbeitsagentur is willing to provide me these benefits till end of May 2025 and the BAMF has paid for me to undertake an integration kurs to learn german better which i am already doing and am on my 3rd week so far.

Can someone help me here please?

Would it also be possible to apply to universities for a PhD or a degree? would the authorities allow me to switch my visa? but then i guess my unemployment benefits would stop too...

Here is my profile for reference. https://www.linkedin.com/in/ahmedbucheeri/

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By no means I want to be a professional athlete, but I enjoy running a lot and, after almost getting injured during the Berlin Marathon this year (my right knee was on its limit), I feel I can have some professional help. Thanks in advance!

Hi everyone,

I'm a filmmaking student who recently moved to Berlin. In early December, we'll be shooting our first short film, and I'm planning to make a noir film about a thief robbing a safe.

I'm looking to borrow a small, preferably vintage-looking safe for one day. If anyone in Berlin has one they'd be willing to lend, I’d ensure it’s returned by the end of the day. I’d also be happy to offer a small fee or, if preferred, some food and drinks as a thank-you.

Thanks in advance for any help!

Best regards,

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the person i intended to go with tonight couldn't make it so DM me and you can get the extra ticket for free at the gate of cassiopeia where the concert is

edit: somebody contacted via DM so the ticket is no longer available

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Thank you so much!

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Moin,

I’m a newish Berliner, currently stuck in that “in-between-apartment” limbo and about to spend two weeks in 10409 (Prenzlauer Berg). Even though Im almost a year here, I barely know this area, so I’m looking for some under-the-radar local gems.

Hit me with:

• Restaurants that aren’t just Instagram traps

• Non-smoking bars

• Parks or nice Spatzieren spots (hoping to catch those last autumn colors)

• Meetups, board game spots, cool Verein, maker spaces, or anywhere with friendly interaction

• Local markets

• Interesting or weird architecture and oddball finds in general

• Halloween events!

Cheers!