I've lived in a two bed flat with a live in landlord for ten months now and I've definitely outgrown it. I could write a novel on the ways he annoys me

Since I've lived here he's got a serious girlfriend and she's here all the time. I've been half expecting to get served notice if/when she moves in because he won't need the rental income as much.

I just got home from a weekend with family and gone to use the bathroom that's meant to be just mine (he has an ensuite and room was advertised as having it's own bathroom, he uses it all the time and I let it slide) Found all my towels taken off the radiator and his stuff drying on there again and no toilet paper. So I come out and he happens to he in the hall doing something and without thinking I have a go at him about it being my bathroom and my toilet paper. He gets arsey back and goes "it's not solely YOUR bathroom but if you expect that then that's silly and you should probably move out" and I didn't really have a comeback to that so just went in my room. And heard him back in the living room with his girlfriend going "did you just hear that?!"

I've been looking for other places for a while and a one bed flat came up last week and I sent an enquiry but freaked out at the cost of living alone and didn't reply when they asked about viewing.

Just replied and I guess I wait and see but I rechecked the listing and it's not available til mid December

I messaged someone about a spare room the other day and the guy was a creep over messages

If I get kicked out I'm not sure what I'll do and my heart is pounding

I snapped at him over text a few weeks ago and left him on read when he replied and then we just acted normally to each other in person. I might have dug my own grave this time. I guess I act normal in the morning and see what he does

I have 2 roommates.

A is very dirty and smoked indoor, very immature and takes things personal whenever I tell her to clean up things she forgot. But at the same time, if I dont remind her, she would never do housechores or take out the trash. And if I point that out, she would blame me for “not telling her”.

A also smoked indoor and she had no issue about, she even told me she did that bcs she thought it was cool. I told her it’s not, she had to stop, the first few times she said she will when she wants, she cant smoke outside because it’s cold (?!) then I asked more firmly since it’s health related for all of us. She said she would stop. But then I constantly smell cigarette, and this girl always leaves the kitchen window opened, hoping that would circulate the smoke for her. The wind consequently makes my room cold and I have to wake up in the middle of the night to close it. I kept asking her, she said no she doesnt smoke inside anymore. The same situation is happening right now and she has been very touchy and pissy since I asked her about her unkempt cleaning habit previously, it’s a torture every time I have to talk to someone who behaves like a child.

The second one, B, addressed straight that she refused to clean or take care of what is not 100% hers. I cleaned the microwave last week and 3 days later it was stained yellow. I asked each of them if they know what happened, i didnt mean to blame anyone, I just want to find out the cause to avoid, clean and move on. They both snapped at me and told me my cleaning is not that impressive to put me in a place where I can tell them stuffs.

I have 2 more months to move. I’ve been tolerating more stuffs under the same tone for 2 years and I regret not priotizing myself.

My roommate (20 F) has her boyfriend sneak in everyday at 12 am, everyday, and then they both cook a packet of buldak every single night, and make cuddling and kissing noises just when I'm about to sleep. They both don't really know how to cook, so apparently this is one couple's activity they have decided they'll do everyday. The walls are thin and the gate doesn't shut properly, and when it does we get locked inside. Their chewing, kissing, everything is audible to me inside. Her boyfriend also vapes while they're eating or making out. The very same smell of cheese, ramen and smoke, every single night makes me queasy and 🤢.

Not to mention the utensils that they bang around for an hour, making a ruckus, and they're both horrible cooks, so what should take them 5 minutes, take them 50 with their fidgeting, laughing, loudly exclaiming. This goes on till 2 am, it's audible even when I maxx out my earphones. Her classes start late, while mine start right at 8 am, and whenever I cut myself fruits, it's always dirty with food-waste and my utensils too are always dirty.

By the time I come back from college, these guys lock the room and don't let me in. I took it all like a champ, but now they've become worse and worse. When I confronted them all the other times, they kept telling me to "chill", as if my anger is out of place. It's always 2-3 against one, and they keep speaking over me. When I got a bit direct, her angry ultra opinionated boyfriend started with his crocodile tears, and started playing victim.

I still have 2 months worth of rent to pass, but it's been getting on my nerves now. What should I do? Just wanted to vent.

Sharing a place with another tenant. Whenever one of them is cooking in the kitchen he has his phone on speaker with whatever annoying as heck content he is listening to.

Is it fine to ask him to either lower the volume or put in headphones?

You would think he already knows better.

i have a dilemma. My roomate spends too long in the bathroom. She roughly spend 1 1/2 - 2 hour long times in the bathroom to get ready for the day like showering and whatnot. Sometimes I hear the shower on for 45 minutes. To be clear, I’m living at a dorm in my university so we share a room and a bathroom. the other bathroom in our apartment styled dorm is for my other 2 suitemates, and I typically never use it to get ready because it’s their bathroom. I want to know if this should be something I should have a conversation with my roomate about. Usually on weekdays, It’s not a problem with my schedule but especially on weekends when we’re both waking up around 10am-1pm, I feel she needs to be mindful that like I need to start my day too and she can’t spend 1-2 hours in the bathroom. I have places I need to go and things I need to do and she stops me from doing it in a timely manner. So I’m asking is this worth having a converation about?

So, a recap. He would come out of his room whenever my boyfriend or I would, just stand and stare without saying anything, and then go back into his room. He was going into my boyfriend’s and my personal drawer in the kitchen and using our silverware. I once saw him enter another housemate’s room while they were at work, stand there for a minute or two, and then go back to his own room again. He said that while he wasn’t a doctor or any kind of professional, he doesn’t think I’m autistic, even though I’ve been confirmed as such by multiple licensed professionals - which, to reiterate, he is not (while not exactly creepy, still frustrating). I was washing dishes one day with earphones in, and as I was scrubbing the sink, I got the feeling of being watched; turn to look, and he’s standing outside his room staring again, all while I had been bent over with my back to him (very creepy, definitely giving predatory vibes).

As for the update, creepy housemate has been wanting to be more chatty. That hasn’t exactly meshed well with me being under more stress lately; more stress means I’m more easily overstimulated, so I’ve been leaving my room with earphones in, listening to music while I focus on whatever task is at hand, and generally being more nonverbal during conversation. Creepy housemate has, on several occasions, come out of his room and apparently tried talking with me while I couldn’t hear him. Instead of just leaving me alone while I’m clearly busy with something, he’d move closer until he was in my periphery so I’d notice him, and start talking again once I looked at him, even though I still couldn’t hear a thing he was saying, so then I’d have to pop an earbud out and engage. Don’t know why he keeps doing it, since I haven’t exactly been contributing much to a dialogue, unless you consider grunts and one- or two-word responses stellar conversation.

And now he’s begun to show a bit of a racist side? Like, he was talking about getting called out for roadside service the other day. Car belonged to two Indian guys, who were, in his opinion, “really sketchy”. Not that he ever explained how they were sketchy, just that they “seemed like they were up to something”. He also began talking about a stray cat that would often wander into the shop, and that his friend and coworker would refer to it by the n-word. He and his friend/coworker are both white. Apparently, the cat would also make noises that sounded like it was saying, “N****, n****, n****!” One time, a black guy walked into the shop and freaked out when the cat said that in front of him. Mind you, through this entire anecdote, creepy housemate is fully saying the n-word with no shame. He was also saying all of this within earshot of our black housemate’s door, while he was in his room.

So, creepy housemate is also showing signs of being controlling (the “you’re not autistic because I say so” behavior), predatory (staring at people, especially when they aren’t looking), and racist (a white man who thinks it’s acceptable for him to say the n-word). Add to all of that the overly friendly persona he presents to the world, and it’s giving big “nice guy” energy.

She's nowhere near being a bad roommate, but I'm wondering if I'm being picky. We're freshmen in college & were paired up randomly. We've gotten pretty close, and she's honestly one of the best people I've met so far; but her side of the room is kinda disastrous. Like she keeps everything close to her bed, but you can't see that half of the floor. And she gets mad when i trip/step on on her stuff but how am i supposed to avoid it when its in the middle of the floor T▪︎T she always has cups and food and dishes on her dresser and I'm starting to see flies. I feel like a jerk for wanting to tell her to clean up her stuff but I js don't wanna live like this 😭 + im worried she'll get upset or offended if i bring it up. Am I a shit roommate or is this something I can talk to her about?? How do I even talk about this??

I came home from my night shift to find two orange stains on my carpet, the stains ranged from about 7 feet into my room on the ground to 5-6ft tall on my door and wall. I found my social security card and my checkbook on the ground (I keep them in my dresser) and a can of Sunkist crushed in my sink. By the range of the stains it comes across like my roommate gronk spiked the Sunkist on the floor, the splatter radius was just too large to be that he dropped the can by accident. I confronted him and he said he was drinking last night and no one else was over. He never said he was sorry or admitted to it. Personally I see this as a huge violation of privacy especially these being the SS card and my checkbook. I told him I’m going to be looking for ways to get out the lease early and he stated that’s a little far over a stain. Am I overreacting? Does anyone know if violation of privacy can be a means to abandon a lease?

Hi, It’s been about a month since I last shared an update, and unfortunately, nothing has really changed. Will is still as annoying as ever, and he’s even pushing more boundaries. Honestly, I don’t know what to do about it.

Two of the previous squatters finally left, but they’ve been replaced with two others who apparently have permission from the hotel porter while renovations are ongoing in a new hostel. So, between these two and Will’s constantly visiting friends, I just try to ignore them. But some situations have left me truly perplexed.

One incident happened when I returned from lectures one day to find my bed had been moved—without my consent. They told me the porter had done it, which was bizarre since the porter never enters our rooms without someone calling him. Will then admitted he was the one who asked the porter to change my bed because he “cares” about me and couldn’t stand to see me in that bed. Great, thanks, Will.

Then, one day while I was in the restroom, Will walked in without knocking. This kind of thing happens occasionally, so I expected him to apologize and leave. Instead, he stayed, laughing and joking that he’d “caught me masturbating.” I was furious, yelled at him to leave, and he turned it around, blaming me for not announcing that I was in the restroom. When I lost my cool and insulted him, he actually threatened to hit me with a bucket. That threat made me wary of him, but strangely enough, he started being overly nice after that, which only made things more uncomfortable. I told a few people in the hostel about this, but they just brushed it off as a joke or him trying to annoy me.

I kept my distance, but he started doing other passive-aggressive things, like farting loudly and then asking me how I felt about it. I ignored him, of course, but yesterday he did something even weirder. He started burning an incense stick that filled the entire room with a strong smell. When I told him I didn’t like it, he responded by saying I must be “possessed,” and he brought the incense close to my bed, reciting things like, “I cast out the demons in the blood of Jesus, bismillah,” and other phrases I didn’t catch. His friends were there, laughing loudly, while I was so taken aback I couldn’t even respond. I didn’t even bother telling my hostel mates because I knew they’d just brush it off or laugh.

When I told my mom, she said I needed to stand up for myself,stop being a coward and tell Will to stop acting childish and start behaving like the adult he supposedly is. It feels like I’m somehow responsible for teaching a grown man how to act. Honestly, I’m just fed up.

It’s exactly as the title says. My roommate/landlord (she flip flops between the two) has two cats and the smell and the shit is just getting out of hand. It’s damn near everyday they’re pooing right outside my door, thank god I don’t have to clean it up but it’s still very off putting. I haven’t been home for a few days and today would be the 3rd time she’s known the cats pooped but waited days/hours until she knew I was home to do something about it. I made it very clear to her that the place I lived prior had too many cats than discussed and my living space constantly smelled and I had to clean up after my previous roommates. She’s an older lady too so I kinda feel bad expecting her to clean up after her pets but I also refuse to clean shit everyday (again). I can’t just up and leave any time soon and it’s her home so I highly doubt she’ll get rid of her pets. I really don’t want to relive that (living in/near/constantly smelling cat piss and shit) so I don’t really know what my options are.

this is a long one i (22f) rent a room in a subsidized housing program that is for women who were formerly homeless. i was in a shelter for 6 months and on and off homeless for 2 years before i got this program.

i have three roommates 64f, 60f, and 55f. my worker did warn me that id be moving in a house with older women which i have no problem with seeing as i keep to myself and usually get along with people older than me.

for context, the house has two apartments. the first floor is a separate apartment that a mom and her kids live in so i barely see her. the second and third floor is the apartment me and my other 3 roommates share. when i did a tour of the house before i moved in i saw that my room was on the third floor and very close to my 64yr old roommates room. there are two rooms across from each other with a closet in between, then there’s a small living room with another closet and the bathroom is next to the living room.

my first red flag is that they kept pushing back my move in date and i had to leave the shelter. when i finally moved in the 64yr old told me she was using my room as STORAGE for 2 years. i was disgusted. i have been homeless for 2 years and there was a room available that they were letting here use for storage that’s white privilege at its finest if you ask me.

anyways we we cool at first, she made me a few drinks ordered pizza but i quickly realized she was an alcoholic, and she told me she was a crack addict for 40 years. things quickly went south because she would get drunk and stared saying nasty things, how no one wants a 21 year old in the house ( my birthday hadn’t past yet) and it’s ridiculous how no one would tell her blah blah. very rude, always bringing up my age.

then my ex bf comes over and he forgets to lock the second mudroom door, it happens. she sent me a longgg paragraph telling me he can’t come here acting like a “you know what” he’s black. so she’s also racist. not to mention she made no room for me in one of the closets, she uses both of them and she took over the living room and sits there drunk yelling at the tv all day everyday. luckily i’m not home much now but in the beginning it was torture listening to her cackle like a witch and yell at her movies all night long until 4am.
one night she drunknly told me i would never keep a man because of my weight. she gets drunk and says crazy things. she told me she was a plantation and slave owner in her past life and that black people could sense it and that’s why they don’t like her. i’m half black btw. i can’t make this shit up. she also would talk shit about my loudly so i could hear (the walls are paper thin) saying i don’t belong here, she doesn’t know where i came from but i need to go. i didn’t say anything.

the next day i bring the groceries in and leave the door unlocked because i was gonna go back downstairs to smoke. she runs behind me and starts screaming at me calling me a stupid b*tch like yelling in my face. i’ve been abused most of my life so this triggered me. i asked her calmly not to call me out my name because i have never disrespected her like that. she continues to call me a stupid young bitch, i told her that’s her liquid courage talking. then she continues so i said “maybe it’s time for the nursing home grandma” 😭 she runs to hit me and gets in my face. i’m like lady you’re 40 years older than me acting like this. she starts fake crying saying “in my own home” girl we both rent rooms shut up.

fast forward to last week, she gets drunk and comes downstairs and tells me that her and her boyfriend (married man) were smoking crack in her bedroom at 3am and then she smoked the rest on the front porch when he left. i was livid. she’s like rubbing it in my face at this point. she goes “and even if you tell anyone, you have no proof” she’s a POS.

also everytime i walk from my room to the bathroom she calls me a stupid bitch because she’s right there in the living room. she turns the tv off to listen to me pee. i got a uti from holding my pee because i didn’t want to walk past her. the agency won’t do anything. now ive been here 8 months and i dont give af what she says or does i just tell her to watch her mouth. but she pissed me off so bad last night i was like you know what? she doesn’t need tequila, it makes her mean. so i stole her whole 1.75L bottle and i’ll keep it. she doesn’t have any proof anyway lol im done playing nice

Freshman in college, first time sharing a room with someone else long-term.

• My roommate and I didn’t know each other before hand, we met on the college housing website, and chose a room together based of shared interests

• We had put our typical bedtimes in our housing applications, and mine were like 11 on weekdays and 1 on weekends, his were an hour later on each.

• For the first week or so, things were okay, but the past couple weeks, 3/4 days a week he’ll be up until 3 or 4 in the morning on his xbox just YELLING at his friends or at whatever is happening in his game.

• I texted him the first week he started being loud if he could have his microphone off, not even the game console by midnight on the nights i have to get up early for 8:00 classes, and 2 on nights i don’t have class until 10:00. For like 2 or 3 days he was okay with it..

• Again, now he’s up literally all night just yelling at his game and laughing obnoxiously, i have voice memos but don’t feel it’s right to share them. trust me it’s loud.

• when he finally goes to bed, he doesn’t get up until like 3-4 in the afternoon, which makes it hard trying to be quiet or watch videos for school

So am i overreacting, and the room is just as much his as it is mine, or should i do something about it? I’m not confrontational at all but im losing sleep and having daily inconveniences because of it. I think i’m going to switch roommates the winter semester but I can’t do the rest of the semester like this.

Later when our lease ends, I'm pretty sure we are gonna get charged for it. I didn't cause the stain and didn't do any damaged and don't believe that I will do any damage to the house. I would be able to get my full deposit back right? My housemate caused it so it should come from their deposit right? Or am I responsible for it too since I'm on the lease. What is legally correct?

Should I tell the landlord now? Or is it not necessary?

I am a freshman in college and live with 2 girls (both F18). Let's call one of them J J was my first friend in college and she helped me create a good friend group. I'm a huge introvert and can barely speak in front of strangers so this was a big help and at first I was really grateful to have a friend like her. But then she started showing her true colours. Let me elaborate:

1. She screams a lot and is an attention seeker, like if we're sitting with a group of people, and I'm telling them a story, she'll tell me to shut up, say that my story is boring and talk over me. Once, I was sitting on a sofa with a girl and we were talking, and J came into the room, literally pushed me and sat between us and started talking to the girl.

2. she's really rude. She says terrible stuff about you to your face, things like "I don't think you're capable of doing anything in your life, you're such a loser" which like wtf?

3)She treats people like trash. She literally once admitted to me that she sees the college bff like a punching bag, by which I mean that she'll belittle her in front of others and portrays her as dumb. (She has done this to me as well)

4. She lies a LOT. This means that she can't be trusted at all. She once told me that my other roommate(K) bitches about me and when I confronted k, i found out that she lied. (It's happened a lot of times).

5. She is a huge hypocrite and doesn't have common decency, she belittles everyone but if anyone says something, even jokingly about her, J starts screaming and saying terrible stuff. I do things for her, like picking up her parcels and letting her borrow my stuff or eat my food, but she can't do anything for me. Whenever I ask to borrow something, she magically can't find it or runs out of it.

There's a lot more, but the worst part is: (When I wasn't on campus)SHE USED MY IRON PRESS AND BURNED MY BEDSHEET AND BEDCOVER. And when I confronted her about it (she was the only possible suspect) she completely denied it and started ignoring me

Also, She once commented on my clothes, and I got angry so I spoke to her a bit rudely and since that day somehow I started being alienated from our friend group. They started not inviting me anymore and didn't really speak to me whenever we got to hangout. This was very weird cause I had absolutely no problems with any of them before this. So clearly she told them bad stuff about me, as this has happened to me with K as well. She and K somehow got really close and now K has started become very rude to me as well. And this sucks cause now I have absolutely no one to talk to at campus.

Luckily, the semester ends in a couple weeks and after that I deffo won't room with her again, and will rarely see her as we are in different classes. I really wanna tell her that she's a horrible person but I don't think I'll be able to, I mean what do I even say? (Give ideas) The moral dilemma is, won't I be just as bad as her if I say rude things about her to her face? So, should I tell her?

I live in an apartment specifically designed for young adults who have aged out of the foster care system. Six months ago, I got a roommate, 19 years old just like me. For the first four months, he wasn’t here much, just coming and going about once a week. He’s finally settled in now, though. We were both born in the same month, and the program allows us to stay here until we turn 21, so it looks like we’ll be roommates for the next couple of years.

Before he moved in I maintained the apartment and kept everything nice and tidy. Judging by my roommate's cleanliness I can’t tell he didn’t learn very much growing up which would probably also contribute to the lack of consideration of my privacy from him bringing his friend every day. Anyways, thankfully I made it clear about the cleanliness and that got better.

The apartment we share is part of a transitional housing program with specific rules, including a visitor policy. Only one visitor is allowed at a time, and visits are restricted to between 12pm and 7 PM. My roommate consistently disregards this policy. He frequently leaves with his friend between 10 PM and midnight, and they sometimes return as early as 10 AM. This occurs almost daily.

We have case managers who provide support and assistance. Because my roommate continued to disregard the visitor policy despite my repeated attempts to address the issue directly, I informed my case manager. We then had a group meeting where the rules were clearly reiterated: no visitors outside of the designated hours (noon to 7 PM), no more than one visitor at a time, and not every day. Initially, my roommate seemed to make an effort to comply, reducing his friend’s visits to perhaps four times a week. However, within a week, he reverted to his previous behavior, having his friend over daily and disregarding the agreed-upon rules.

Also, every time I confront him he always says “ok I’m going to try” like what do you mean “try”. It just sucks because I feel like we get along really well sometimes and then there issues like this. I always end up not being as assertive as I should when I confront my roommate because the nice me always kicks in during the moment . It’s always hard for me to be straightforward, but this whole situation is really pissing me off.

Both top locks were locked and I couldn’t get through either door. She had her friends over and as I was walking to the other side to the back door I heard her laughing and say “someone’s trying to get through the front door.”

When i get to the back door the top lock is now unlocked. I walk in to her and her friends standing right where I need to walk through to get to my bedroom. She says hi and her friends all get quiet and they laugh at me as I walk by.

When I told my roommate that was rude over text she told me that’s not what happened. When I asked her to explain why she laughed at me instead of opening the front door, she responded with. “ you won’t understand me and I’m not going to explain.” Like is that considered gaslighting? I felt like I was getting mean girled in my own home lol

My theory is it’s next to impossible, and it’s best to screen potential roommates thoroughly, and have a good escape clause for ones that slip through the net.

Hi, I’m currently living with three girls all aged 19/20. I had previously lived with one of the girls last year but moved into a bigger flat with our other friends. Whilst staying with, let’s call her girl A, she was always quite messy… leaving dirty dishes piled up in the sink, and I’m talking about every single dish in the flat, as well as never take the bins out. Nothing too major I just got on with it but I feel like I need my space to be clean and just wished that she would’ve respected that. I go on placements for six weeks at a time and during this time I’d never come home to a clean flat. I never really mentioned anything but one time I snapped and from then on things got better. Moving on to my current flat situation, I love the girls they’re my best friends but I always feel like I’m tidying up after them. Again it’s nothing too major compared to the other stories on here. Just minor things like vape packages, snus, vapes, even tampons 😣, and the rest. The dishes pile up like crazy and I have been having a go at them about it recently, I don’t want to cause a rift in our friendships but they’re doing my head in. I’ve not got the hardest life and it’s not too extreme but I wish I lived with people who respected my wishes. When confronted about the dishes no one would own up so either me or my other flat mate would just wash them but it’s really annoying because I always make sure to clean up after myself but at least one of them can’t seem to do the same (I say this because I’m unsure who is making all the mess). They proposed that when the dishes pile up we should all just do a few each which is a good way to go about it I guess but at the same time I’m not their mum. I’m thinking about getting my own pots, pans, and plates etc. I just hope I’m not coming across like an arse?? Can you guys be honest and let me know, thank you 🙏

I just had to ask this because I honestly can't tell whether I'm being an overrreactive prick or if my concerns are reasonable. I moved in with a flatmate last year and genuinely had no idea they had a partner. To avoid awkward situations like this I was kind of looking for a flatmate without a partner, and because they had never mentioned their relationship in our multiple meetings and chatting I had assumed they were single. To be fair, I only assumed - I never actually asked (I do feel like now that not mentioning their partner might have been on purpose lol). So the partner stays at our house two nights a week over the weekend, which I know isn't a lot. However, my flatmate and their partner spend from Friday evening until very late Sunday evening always in the common areas, with maybe maximum an hour out of the house or in my flatmates bedroom. With the layout of our house it's literally impossible to leave my room and not immediately be within sight/in common space. I've already had a talk with my flatmate and the time the partners here has kind of been dialled back a bit and they spend a bit more time in the room rather than the common areas, but still not a drastic change. I come and go on weekends between seeing friends and work, and view home as a time to dial down and relax. While my flatmate and I are actually close, they're pretty loud, and because of our house being super small with no noise cancellation I can always hear voices or the lounge room TV at full volume from my room. I really dont feel at home when the partner is here, and feel like me leaving the house during the weekend gives them some time on their own, but the fact that they basically never leave the house means that I don't get that same privilege. There's been many times when I've wanted to invite people over but couldn't because my flatmate and their partner were there taking up all the space.

With all this in mind, my real issue lies in the fact that my flatmate NEVER goes and stays at the partners house, its always our house. I don't think my flatmate has even been to the partners house. So I'm always the one bearing the brute of having an extra person in our space, using all the common areas and utilities as if we had an additional flatmate (as in the partner washes their clothes here, showers seperately etc.), its never shared between the two houses. The partner has a living situation the same as ours with only one flatmate, so it could totally be shared between the two houses. And just in case anyone asks, yes my flatmate has been in this relationship since before we met so they've had other flatmates before me. However, they weren't at the point in their relationship where the partner ever slept over, they only reached that point since my flatmate and I moved in together. When I previously had to talk to my flatmate about all this, I did ask about whether they could stay at the partners house sometimes and they said they'd try for a night. They never did, I'm pretty sure my flatmate still hasn't even been to the partners house.

So I just want to know, would it be fair for me to ask that my flatmate goes and stays at the partners house maybe every second week to share the burden/cost around? I know the cost isn't much and it's more the aspect of not feeling comfortable in my house when the partners there that bothers me. Please let me know whether I'm just being dramatic, I'm pretty new to the whole sharehouse thing and genuinely want to know if I'm being reasonable.

I (F28) been living with two other people, male (slightly older, possibly middle aged) and female (younger, possibly early to mid 20s) in a flat since the beginning of September. I have had issues with female housemate over seemingly obvious things like banging doors and making loud phone calls at 3am. Also being an absolute slob and never cleaning up after herself or cleaning the house and bathroom. My male housemate, on the other hand, has been mostly reasonable and we both clean and discuss issues in the house etc, so we have a pretty okay relationship. My one issue is, this man, never ever knocks the bathroom door. For me, it seems common sense to just knock on the bathroom door before opening it, especially when you share with two other people and typically when no one is in there, the door is open. This has become a huge issue for me, when I am in the bathroom, I have to be on high alert because this person can just open the door randomly at any time and I have to shout someone’s in. I am typing this right now, as he again just did this as I was sitting on the loo like 5 mins ago. I don’t want to bring this up because like I said, I have a good relationship with him and I don’t want to upset that and seeing as I have a fraught relationship with my other roommate , it is important to me that this one goes okay. But this is really bothering me, as I am not the most comfortable person around men (past SA etc) and him opening the door while I am naked/half naked makes me feel incredibly uncomfortable and unsafe. Also, I didn’t want bring it up with him because again, it is just logical to knock on the bathroom door right? I can’t even count how many times this has happened. I haven’t been home since Sunday cos I started a new job in a different city and only came home Thursday night. And he has since done this three times in the space of two days? Ughh I just feel hyper stressed and frustrated about this right now. I forgot to mention our bathroom does not have a lock and I raised it with the landlord when I moved in and he promised he’d fix it and he just never did. Also, I will be moving out at the end of this month anyway, but still it bothers me so so much.

I (F24)moved into a house with an open room, two bedroom house, I didn’t know the girl (F25) before I moved in. She is so gross, leaves dishes in the sink for days on end could be like 5 days, I’ll do her dishes but she leaves food on all her dishes like full chicken breast and leaves milk in cups until it curdles, I don’t know what’s so hard about scraping food off a plate or dumping a drink out. Her dishes literally make me gag it’s so bad. She’ll wash her clothes in the washer and then just leave them in there until they smell like mildew and just keep them there for days and she’ll have clothes in the dryer too so i can’t do any laundry. She has pets that, in my opinion she neglects, doesn’t take her dog out and just lets him poop and pee in the house, has a cat and hardly ever cleans the litter box, the whole house just reeks of animals it’s so bad I don’t even invite my friends over often and if I do I profusely apologize before they even come in. Anyone who walks in instantly gets overwhelmed by the smell, I don’t know if she’s nose blind to it or what and I don’t want to clean up after her animals because they’re not mine, I never wanted to clean up after an animal or look after one so I never got one but I feel like it’s fallen on me to do something. I go to college and work two jobs so it just doesn’t feel fair. She only ever deep cleans when she has a guy over and recently she’s gotten a boyfriend but the problem is that he spends the night literally every night, it’s insane. They’ll use my nice plates and just leave food on it over night which really bothers me, you can dirty your dishes up whatever but it seems disrespectful to use my stuff and just not even bother to clean them. It took literally 9 months for her to even get me counter top space, literally just had all her food in every inch of the kitchen. She was there before me so I understand where she might think she has some ownership but it’s just seems so self absorbed to live like that. This is mostly just a rant, we’re not close at all so and I feel like i’ve let a lot of things kind of build up so I don’t even know how to approach any of these issues. In the past I brought up how it bother me about the dishes and laundry and she apologized and said she would work on it and then a few weeks later things are the same. She’s just so gross.

i know its on me to vet the people that i live with but i would have hoped that living with my sister would have been a safe bet.

The main reason we're getting kicked out is due to noise complaints about her almost 3 year old. He screeches and bangs on the walls and floors the second he gets up, until he hits the bed. I dont blame him for it though, he cant help it. My sister tries to wrangle him but its hard at that age, and i dont blame her either. The Dad though, has been unemployed for almost the entire time we've been here and doesnt help parent at all.

My sister also neglected to tell me that payments were late a few times, i just give her my rent money because there is not a way to partially pay separately.

not even related but theres been so many fruit flies all over the house because they live in a pig stye of old food and diapers.

im just fucking pissed, im disabled and try to not move every year if i can help it, i did that for 5 years and it is not fun.

I also just got a job that i really like and now im probably going to have to abandon that depending on where we end up.

I dont know that im going to stay with her after this household. But i dont want to abandon her.But at the same time she allowed this to happen to all of us.

It's me again.

So, we live in a private hostel, very large one. And it's pretty big so the rooms are also large and we have 6-7 people in a room. Beds near each other's. (It's big, dw). Our room has girls of ages 18-24. All of us students of different colleges. I'm the oldest.

The youngest, 18, almost 19 is a very small girl, physically. You'd take her for 15-16 if you see her. She gets sick and weak easily. And hence she's babied by the rest of the roommates.

Her being sick and being OUR responsibility post. https://www.reddit.com/r/badroommates/s/1uGrZqgs4p

And today, we have a Veg day at hostel. Which means, basic bland food. This is every Saturday. So we don't get up for breakfast because we don't like Saturday breakfast at hostel. We just eat lunch, which again is basic and bland.

So like every Saturday, we go have lunch, skipping breakfast. I decided to eat the breakfast leftovers since I didn't like the lunch served. (They keep the breakfast food right next to the lunch if there is leftovers from morning) And princess here sees me do it and does the same and goes and plates herself some breakfast food, shoving aside the lunch to make space. And she started making faces almost about to cry and say "I don't want it. I don't like it".

I eat the breakfast food and she touches nothing in the plate, continuously whining. And she complained to me all the way to our room. I gave up and gave her my snacks to shut her up. This happened last night also, she didn't like yesterday's dinner so I had to hear her whining, so last night i gave her snacks. The thing is, as our beds are near eachother, she can see if I have snacks and I can't NOT give her something when she's already seen it.

Her family is loaded. And she went like "I don't even have money right now to go eat something from outside". She didn't bring back money this time. Her family ADORES her. She just didn't keep expenditure money. Her dad is spending a ton of money on her diploma. But she insists living on broke college student snacks. I hate this imp.

Hey reddit,

I am writing this on behalf of my 69 year old mother who lives on the second floor of a home / duplex. The woman that occupies the first floor refuses to lock the doors to the home (front and side doors). My mother has her own front door to her unit but it’s no where near as safe as the first floor doors.

About an hour ago my mom was home alone. The downstairs tenant is out of town and once again left the doors unlocked. A woman starts ringing my mom’s door bell incessantly from the side door. My mom looks out the window to see who it is, since it’s past 9pm, as she doesn’t feel comfortable opening the door since this is unusual. She watches the woman (she does not recognize) walk away to a car parked down the block. My mom goes downstairs and locks the side door since she is a bit freaked out now. The woman then comes back with a man and continues to ring my mom’s doorbell. The downstairs tenant texts my mom that her daughter in law needs to get in to let her granddaughter in. My mom does this and the daughter in law starts screaming at my mom that she it’s barely 9pm, so she shouldn’t have to lock the doors. My mom argues back that this her residence and she does not feel safe leaving the doors in locked. My mother gets a call from the downstairs tenant who also tells her there is no reason to lock the doors and she will never lock the doors no matter what.

My mom has previously complained to the landlord who informed the downstairs tenant the doors should be locked, since this has been an ongoing issue where my mom feels unsafe given she lives alone.

I informed my mom to speak to the landlord and demand this get taken care of. Reddit: does anyone have any ideas what my mom can do in this case? Any legal advice would be so appreciated!!

UPDATE: My mom requested the auto lock doorknobs but the landlord said no. Instead they are going to “force” the tenant to lock the doors. But, the landlord also relayed that the tenant was going to try her “best to lock the doors.” So, it doesn’t look promising. Again, if anyone has any other suggestions or ways in which my mom can enforce the locked doors please let me know! I have told my mom she should move but lease is not up for 6 months so, trying to find solutions in the mean time. Thanks!!