So i live at a relatively small apt complex & theres a very cute twink that lives here w his fam. Obviously id like to get to know him but how?

I’m 31. I met my first boyfriend the night I turned 21, we were together for 5 years and then I was single for a year. Met my now ex and we were together for about as long.

I did in my twenties what most of my peers are is doing in their thirties and fourties. I had the career and the house and travelled and did a bunch of cool shit. I moved 7 years ago and never really went out like, ever. My last breakup really fucked me up but it’s been a year and I’m finally branching out. I’m confident in my body, I have a great personality and a variety of interests. I am attractive inside and out. But I feel like the most awkward weirdo going out!!! What the hell does someone who is single and doesn’t have any gay friends do at a bar?

I feel like I was way more fun 10 years ago.

So im in warehouse business & theres cute latino twink that works at my place that ive just gotten to know. I want to be friends w him wo coming on too strong or being creepy. How do i do that if at all. FWIW hes not on my team but we see each other everyday?

My husband and I are about to have the first 3some of our relationship. We've been married 10 years. He's bottom, I'm a top. And our partner is vers.

What are some of your favorite threesome positions where I can penetrate our new partner and he can penetrate my husband. Bonus points if bondage gear can be used.

Thanks!

Hey everyone,

Last week I met up with a guy. I communicated that I didn't do bare sex.

He said he agreed, but before I could ask him to put a condom on he already put it in. I pushed him off and left immediately.

I am fine mentally, however I'm afraid of possible consequences, such as STDs. How afraid should I be of this?

I already have a STD test planned next week, but I'm really nervous about it. I'm just so afraid of HIV and other serious illnesses. How big is the change and am I right to be worried?

last night i (19m) went out to this club with my boyfriend and some of his friends (all straight men and women). obviously we wanted to dance and he basically wanted me to like grind on him and i did and it was kinda nice, but i did feel a little awkward being the only gay couple doing it. i don’t think anyone was paying attention or even noticed or cared or anything but it kinda made me self conscious.

so just wondering how you all dance with your boyfriend at clubs, keep in mind this wasn’t a gay club, just want to know what’s normal for everyone else bc this felt kinda weird to me 😅

Everyone of my friends is saying we will be completely screwed if trump wins this election.

Obama legalized gay marriage right before trump took office. Why didn’t trump ban it then?

I’m straight and married to a woman. But I feel like I’m losing control on a secret obsession I have with porn. I’m addicted to gay porn. Specifically twink porn. I love cumming to boys. Idk how I can keep this going without breaking down. Also feel like a bit of a creep getting off to teen guys.

Can you all tell me how you have formed a healthy sex life as an adult? How do you go about meeting men you are into easily? Where do you go about it? How do you go about it? Apps? Places? What social skills do you need? There needs to be a master class on this. It’s really not as easy as some of you think. Friends with benefits? Even suddenly a date? It’s so not like straight people. Help a fellow out.

So I’ve been talking to this guy and I’d like to start a relationship with him. We’ve been exclusive but haven’t put the label “bf” yet and I’d like to ask in a meaningful way. I have a couple of ideas but wanted input from others or maybe even your experience of when you were asked to be their bf.

Anyone wanna snap?

It's the same cycle over and over. We start talking. He starts being nicer to me and dropping hints. We fuck. He's all lovey dovey for a while until he stops replying. I tell him I want to talk more. He says he's not looking for anything serious. He gets more distant. I try to talk to him and he says he's not gay, or he doesn't want to hook up anymore, or some other excuse. We fight. One of us blocks the other. A few months go by. Until eventually one of us reaches out again. I don't know why I keep going back when I know what's going to happen. I guess I keep hoping that the next time will be different. At least now I'm not as delusional as I was back then. I know he's not the love of my life. I'm exploring other options. But still, I can't stop myself from going back to him.

What facial moisturizer do you use? I’ve been using the Cearve AM and PM, but it makes my face really shiny and irritates my skin. Should I use it every other day? Looking for ways to make my skin look better, but anything I try just irritates my skin. Any suggestions?

As the name suggests, I'm looking for decent apps/ways to find a hookup. I was using grindr but my areas kinda dead with activity so I figured I'd ask here. Thanks!

For years, I've gotten a private thrill from exposing my junk in public. At first, it was just freeballing that got me wound up, because of the unrestrained feeling and bounce, the friction of pants or shorts as opposed to boxers, briefs, etc. As I've grown more daring, I've started wearing long flannel shirts that allow me to slip down my trou, showing half my ass and my pubes without anyone being the wiser. I absolutely love this feeling, walking around in public all exposed under my shirt. It makes me incredibly hot, with everyone going about their business, at work, in stores, and me doing this perverted shit. Today I went commando in jeans and left them unbuttoned, the zipper down, under a long shirt. I was at a local bookstore, and reveled in browsing around in all these sections I hadn't a fragment of interest in (Self Improvement), and secretly pulling my cock and balls out so that I could play with them under my shirt, occasionally while observing a hot guy who was, of course, totally oblivious. At one point, I was down an aisle from a cute Asian twink who was crouched on his knees, having a text convo. I wanted so badly to move close to him and let him see everything on display--who knows, he might even have copped a feel? But I'm not so stupid as to do a thing like that unless I am absolutely sure of the guy's reaction. I can't wait until cooler weather so I can wear my long coats with my pants pulled down underneath, everything swinging wild. I'm a wicked, wicked boy...but hey. When you're a gay man of a certain age in Northeast Ohio, you take it where and how you can find it. BTW, I have not and would not do anything like this in proximity to children or families. I'm not thrilled at doing it around women, either. Naturally, men are my chosen "audience". A few really hot ones wandered close today, never guessing the show that was "behind the curtain".

I've done this while driving, too, unpacking my goods and fondling myself on the road, sometimes very brazenly if there's no one next to me. Last year, I was supervising an employment client (male, young, legal) and wore sweatpants without underwear because the job was very boring and I wanted to entertain myself. I stuck my hand in and grabbed myself every time his back was turned. Once I stepped into a utility room next to the gym where he was cleaning and totally dropped 'em, playing and stroking with delight. A few weeks ago, another male client (young, legal) was shelving goods in a grocery store and I slipped my pants down past my pubes, under my shirt, and walked casually past him as he worked, reaching in and and giving my warm hairiness a tickle. Tonight I cut the pocket lining out of one pair of pants--very soft and light--so that, when freeballing, I can just put my hands in my pockets and have total access to everything, everywhere.

There's nothing lonelier than a middle-aged gay man in the midwest. So I make it work. Anyone else able to identify, or share stories?

P.S.: Comments from men only, please.

I just want to read some wholesome, fun, exciting things happening in your life. Even something that just made you smile recently. I would like respite from the negativity and am choosing to focus on the good.

I’ll go first! I’ve just got back to my usual fitness routine and it has been doing amazing things for my Mental and Physical Health. I’m Bipolar and working out has been a great coping mechanism for my depression while my medications prevent severe manic episodes.

We met as neighbors in the apartment complex where I live. We became good friends rather quickly. He's always been very kind to me and we've never had any arguments. They moved out of the complex in 2019 and bought a house. In 2021 my grandmother and mother had to move out of the house they were renting together and get their own places and he dropped everything and he and I moved both of their stuff out of that house and into both their own places. During that time he was always sticking very close by me. I wasn't thinking anything of it but my mother and grandmother noticed it and they sensed that he may have liked me more than just a simple friend but I didn't pick up on that at all. I think my exhaustion with helping them move was impairing my ability to pick up on it. Anyway, back to recent events. I had a run in with him that sort of made me have suspicions. My grandma and I were having dinner at a restaurant and out of nowhere there he was and he came up and started talking to us. There was a low wall between him and the booth we were sitting in and he's a tall guy so he towered over it so he was leaning down on it talking to my grandma at first but after he finished talking to her he got almost directly up into my face where our noses literally almost touched and he said "how's my buddy doing?" and I said "fine, how are you?" he said "I'm hanging in there?" then he said bye and left with two guys who I immediately recognized from the app Grindr. I didn't say anything and continued eating but noticed my grandma wasn't saying anything, so I looked at her, and she was sort of smirky smiling at me. I said "what?", she said "I think he likes you!", I said "I know, we are friends!", and she said "No, I mean he like likes you". I didn't know what to say so I didn't say anything. Well, last month he asked me if I wanted to go out to lunch and catch up. I told him I was busy but I'd let him know when I was free. He became very persistent saying how he'd pay for everything and maybe we could also go to a movie. I may be totally wrong here and overthinking but I truly believe he wants something more than just friendship with me. I don't know what it could be other than possibly friends with benefits because he's still living with his girlfriend and their kids. Of course that's never going to happen because I am not that type of person in the first place plus I could never come between him, his girlfriend, and his kids but he's very persistent about going to lunch with me. What do you guys think would be the best way to approach this situation?

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I got asked to mod a gay US State sub as the owner didn't want it anymore. I took on the role and trying to make it a better sub.

I put rules in place. Men only, age/city requirements bc I was seeing too many posts with no info or many requesting $$$$, etc. Is there something I could try for all? I have thought about flair tags with locations or top/bttm, etc.

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Its been said 1000 times but im saying again. I'm fucking pissed with the grindr scene. Guy writes he is looking for genuine connection and other things. We both are Sci fi fans, corporate workaholics, and wants to interact people over art. We seem compatible I think. We chat for few minutes before exchanging pics and then he says we are not a match. Why the fuck you say that you seek genuine connection when you prefer 6 packs? Rewrite your fucking bio so that I can block before wasting my energy.

I need to change how I look now. I have put on some weight in past 5 years due to depression and medical issues. I'm fat and I'm fucking angry why I let this go so far. I played soccer in school and now have a bmi of 32.

Brothers, heading off to gym now for the first time in 2 years. Just drop in some motivation to keep this up till I turn into a machine without turning into a shallow asshole. I will still prefer a goofy nerd anyway.

(M22) Does not being wanted or feelings being reciprocated get any better once you’re older in the community, or does it just continue to go downhill? I feel like right now is the time to have fun, and nothing is happening. No guys want me or are interested in me. Is it the way I look, is it because I’m in a white-dominated area, or am I just not what they are looking for? It’s just taken a toll on my mental health these last few months, and it’s not getting better.

I had my first everything happen back in April, and life just sucks rn, and I’m not able to get anyone near me to scratch that itch. I just feel so crazy rn.

so for the last like 2 years i’ve been watching sissy and femboy porn about 50/50 with straight porn. i find myself attracted to all genitalia just the same, but im just not attracted to men. does anyone else feel the same or is this weird? please comment and let me know because im genuinely curious

I know how I may come across in this post, but I can’t keep ignoring how I’m feeling. My (23 M) BF (24 M) and I have been in a relationship for 1 year and a couple of months. He keeps on following other gay guys on Instagram / twitter. I’ve been cheated on in the past, and had a trust-breaking experience in this relationship (not cheating but coming very close to that line). Over the past couple months I’ve been trying to rebuild my trust with him, but it’s been so hard. I obsessively check his twitter followers to see if he has followed any other gay guys, and freak out internally when I do (like I’m doing rn). We had a big fight about this about a month ago, and he promised to try to stop doing that and I said I would try to stop with the trust thing. This past week has been hard, and I’ve been checking every day. Today, I noticed his follower count go up and saw that he followed this really attractive gay guy. I messaged the guy and he said that he followed my BF first, and then my BF followed the guy back. This could mean nothing of course, but my heart rate is going through the roof and my stomach dropped so low. I know this has a lot to do with past experiences, self-esteem issues, etc., but I don’t know how to cope with this.

EDIT: I wanna add that I don’t think my boyfriend has any intention of cheating. I’ve offered to open the relationship in the past/threesomes and he’s denied both times. I’m very much present on his social media, so all of his followers can see he has a boyfriend

So lads I had to get a lymph node biopsy cause they were swollen hear my groin, thankfully all is good. But for the last 2 weeks post surgery I've pretty bad pain at the base of my dick only really when I'm hard and wanking. Literally impossible to top rn with the pain. I'm going to the clinic tomorrow to get PrEP tomorrow, should I mention it there or what do I do because I feel pretty embarrassed about it....... Thanks

Looking to experiment with a guy, just top. Are condoms safe or should I get on prep?

This is excluding during fucking. Also comment if you like to kiss naked , clothed , holding head and kissing etc.

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This is happening with two guys I was chatting from Grindr. One got angry because he said he "created expectations and got sad" when I couldn't hang out with him on the weekend, even though we didn't plan anything and we haven't texted each other.

The other invited me last Sunday suddenly late at night. I have to work and go to the college, and I said I couldn't make it, but I asked him if we could do something another day... he said I was weak.

I always get the feeling I'm disappointing most guys because I can't hook up right away, like, the exact minute they ask me. But at the same time, what would you guys do?