I’m (M25) visiting Istanbul for 10 days, any Turkish bros here who can recommend cool things to do? I’m into ottoman history, books/movies, learning about Turkish culture etc. Also fun with hot guys age 18-27 lol. DM me!

okay so i’m a gay teenager who loves the feeling of bottoming, however i am too scared to have anal sex because every time i finger myself, even when douching many times, my fingers end up having feces on them. this makes me feel disgust and it’s been a problem i’ve been having on and off for up to 2 years now. i hate this and feel like a outcast compared to other gay bottoms because i don’t know anyone else who has this problem and i don’t want people to think im unhygienic and a monster for this. it’s causing me a lot of anxiety and i’m just looking for clarity or opinions/help.

My new guy and I are both in our early 50s and it's been a long time since I have dated anyone seriously and I am not very sexually active; he still is. We started dating about 2 months ago. He likes bigger or fatter or bearish or chub men. Says he has had this attraction for a long time, and he thinks maybe it's connected to his stepfather who was big and bulky and masc in the generic hetero guy way. My guy is thinner and smaller and shorter and is not bald. He is really into me physically- I am very hairy and bearish with a belly, broad shoulders, and beefy muscular. Taller than him but I'm shorter than average for a man in 2024.

One thing I noticed pretty much from the beginning of our physical sexual part of our new relationship is that even just a normal touch, a quick hug, even just putting my arm around his waist or back will cause him to get very horny and very hard very quickly. It is incredible that someone over 50 years of age could get & maintain an erection so hard and strong the way he does, and I'm sure he's popular at the parties he goes to.

But sometimes I'd want to just have a hug or cuddle or do a touch like a pat on the back or something that's not sexual and not meant to arouse. But every single time his penis is hard in a matter of seconds and it's also as if his body has a kind of electricity flowing through it where it's a very intense feeling for him. He also tends to moan a lot with regular touching and kissing and stroking, so when we're actually doing oral sex and rimming he's extremely loud and emotive and feels it really deeply.

At first it turned me on that he is really into me physically and sexually. Now I'm thinking that there's a reason that he is hyper hard and hypersexual with all kinds of touch and interaction even though it's not meant to be sex or initiate sex or to arouse him. He just is and it feels like maybe possibly he was inappropriately touched by his stepfather or someone in his life? I'm not sure what to do because I can no longer match his intense level of feeling and sexuality, and my dick does not get hard and stay hard at my age the way he does plus I have other existing issues so it takes me more time to build up and maintain. What do I do??

I posted this to the askgaybros over 30’s and had a lot of comments and direct messages, so I thought I’d put it out to this group.

Lately I’ve been practicing kegel exercises because I was having some issues with ejaculating. (If anyone knows how that feels, it’s really weird and disappointing).

But last night I ended up spurting far, and straight into my mouth! Has that happened to others? What is your experience? Did you like it?

I've literally been waiting on my friend's girlfriend for about an hour just to get a ride somewhere and she's been taking so long! It got me thinking 'girls..😔'. But now I'm wondering 'do other guys do the same shit?' I've always been able to get ready for school/work, or even just going out, in about 5-10 minutes. It shouldn't take that long, people! So do you guys have a guy friend/boyfriend that just takes an absurd amount of time to get ready?

My ex treated me pretty poorly. He basically tore me down for no real reason and even accused me of ending things after he left me. Even his friends came and said I deserved better. I mean like we ended on good terms and then like right after "were not together anymore so you shouldn't be upset at what I'm saying" type of shit.

I walked away pretty messed up and self destructive. I got back on PrEP and hooked up with this submissive bottom.

He actually ticked almost none of my normal boxes. He was taller than me, older than me by 5 years, into bdsm, he really had a fetish for pleasing his partners (usually I like to do that), and didn't expect anything emotional.

I mean seriously just the power fantasy alone was insane. No matter what I told him to do, he did it. I was able to be rough and made him thank me for it. Then to know that he came without touching himself was just hot. My ex was also a bottom, im verse but out of practice as a bottom at this point, he was the "lay there and do nothing and if the position is awkward I'm not moving we're just stopping" type. All about him essentially.

It just flipped this switch in me that was so therapeutic. I'm still talking to that guy but like only as fwb because I want to be a slut for once. Just having a stranger rave about how hot I am to him and treat me how I needed was so amazing while I was still hurting.

Like I made him beg to suck my dick. Made him deep throat. Made him lack my balls. Made him beg to get fucked and would tease him in different ways. Then when we went at it, whatever position I wanted was what he did. I fucked him for like 30 minutes without a break before finishing and he just kept begging and thanking me.

I still miss my ex in a weird ways. I dont want him back. I dont know if i even want to talk to him right now. It was complicated and fucked up by the end of it. I'm starting to think that I was abused by him and when we met he was recovering from something abusive. I think he projected what happened on to me at the end. I don't think he'll apologize, not because I don't think he feels guilt but because he does and thinks he doesn't deserve to have me in his life now. The irony being a genuine apology for what he did being all I want. It's not the point of the thread though. I felt like I didn't matter to my ex and to have a total stranger treat me like the best sex he ever had was so needed for my self esteem.

I just want to thank those guys out there that are the type to be "I want to just please you and do as you tell me" I needed the cock worship and to go balls deep in a guy and just be complimented the whole way through.

I know that dude was into it but like, it was a therapy session for me.

It was the first night I thought I'd be okay.

So I don’t know if this is some great awakening that gay men have or what but in the past few weeks of my college career I’ve started to realize that a lot of my girl friends don’t really care about me. They’ll invite me to their sorority socials and we’ll have fun and all but that’s about it. They don’t really seem to care about who I am as a person-rather some prop that they can show their friends. In the American high school system, this bond made more sense because there are so few out gay men, but now that people are in the real world things have changed.

I feel bad for those poor freshmen twinks in those all girl friend groups-they’re gonna figure it out one way or another.

Hi, so to give you some context I do suffer from anxiety and paranoia.

I recently hooked up with a guy (3rd time). I noticed at one point during the hookup he glanced at the ceiling a couple of times (seemed unusual and out of character), and I couldn’t afterwards get it out of my head that he planted a camera in the ceiling to record the hookup, especially cause before the first time we hooked up he asked if I would record him and I politely declined.

Would it be disrespectful for me to ask him straight up?

Sorry, I know I have issues that I need to resolve, but I can never tell if my concerns are reasonable or irrational .

Hey everyone happy Halloween!

Just wanted to hop on and express my gratitude to all of the kind gentlemen in this subreddit. I genuinely look forward to interesting posts and I love the back and forth discussions I’ve had on here. It sort of reminds me of my undergraduate years when discussion posts were homework assignments. If you happen to be one of the many users I’ve interacted with over the past year I appreciate you!

I’ve been w my man for about a yr now. We live together. Neither of us meant to in up in a relationship but here we are. In his previous relationship they were into the Lifestyle. I’m a newbie, he has introduced it to me somewhat. For different reasons I think he may be bi. I’m no where near brave enough to open this conversation up to him. I naught as well be a mute bc I have 0 communication skills. Any help would be so appreciated TIA

New to this platform sorry

So, off the bat: this topic is potentially Harry. If anyone at any time tries to be inappropriate or hijack the thread, I will just delete the post and move on. No time for games.

I just recently started dating a guy who is black. I am white. We have a lot in common and are having a lot of fun. There are no actual issues.

However, I typically date younger guys who are smaller than me, and this case is no different. A lot of my past partners have called me daddy, and whenever I get really passionate on bed I like to say things like, "good boy," "baby boy," etc.

I try to be a sensitive person and right off the bat recognized the possible implications of calling my black partner "baby boy," and have instead just been using the phrase "baby."

I know I just need to eventually bring up this topic to my partner and see how he feels about it because it is his feelings that are important. And I will do that when the time is right. But I was curious of there were any black bottoms on here who could tell me how they would feel about such a situation. I feel like having a little bit of feedback from others could help me approach the situation because I don't wanna sound like an insensitive monster when I do eventually bring it up.

So, bottoms of color, how would you feel about your white top saying such things during sex?

I decided to download grindr too see what it was like and maybe hookup. I made a profile that boiled down to "Looking for mostly friends and chats, with maybe hookups if it goes well" and after sorting through random links and old men, I found someone who wasn't immediatly asking for sex. We were friendly than flirting then trading photos (He wasn't exactly my type, but thb he had a really nice cock) and I ended up going to his place. I blew him, and then he offered to blow me, but between nervs and his bad teqchnique (he was basically stroking it dry and sucking just the tip, even though I mentioned that it was dry multiple times. Then he tried to play with my balls was a little too rough, that shit hurt and be stopped after I told him) I wasn't getting hard enough and let him down easy, because this guy was really nice, went slow, checked up on me, and didn't pressure me into anything.

All this is to say that I was happy with the interaction despite not getting off, yet when I got back to my place, I had the familiar sense of burning/shame that I felt when I first denied to myself that I was gay. The next morning it was worse, with a loss of apitite, didn't feel horny at all (strange for me), I even threw up, and it took me forever to finally allow it to subside and go back to semi-normal. I'm not out to anyone in my close personal life, just a couple friends. I am worried that this may affect my romantic and sexual life going forward, and if any people have similar experiences and how they overcame it (also just needed to vent). Thanks

Hey everyone,

I'm a gay man living in Algeria, a place where LGBT rights are pretty much non-existent (if you're curious, just check the situation on Wikipedia to get a sense of the struggle here). One thing that's been getting to me lately is this jealousy and bitterness I feel watching straight women around me find financial and social stability through their relationships, which feels out of reach for me.

For example, I have a cousin who married a guy from the UAE and moved there, and now she's living a stable, well-supported life. I even helped her with her studies when she was in a tough spot, but now it’s like she barely remembers me. Another cousin's husband bought her all the medical equipment she needed to start her own clinic. And a neighbor met someone, married, and moved to the UK.

Meanwhile, I feel like I'm left to handle everything on my own, knowing that as a gay man, I can't openly build a life with a partner here or even hope for that kind of support. It’s painful to feel that people who might not have had to “prove” themselves as much as I have still get these opportunities for stability that feel off-limits to me.

Has anyone else been through something similar? How do you cope with these feelings of bitterness and frustration? How can I focus on my own path without feeling so weighed down by these unfair comparisons?

I’d really appreciate any advice or encouragement. Thank you for reading.

Its such a confusing term since it has many different connotations. It can mean skinny, feminine, young, etc. Like I like skinny guys. I like skinny guys around my age that present and look masculine...but I always get the ick to call them a twink. Since in my mind twink always means underage looking femboy.

Like I can say I like twinks then get hounded by hundreds of guys who are not my type. If I were to say I like hunks or bears...the same thing wouldnt happen.

I wish their was another term for skinny men. Otter possibly but that only means hairy dudes.

I met a guy in 2022. He was really nice but super desperate to have a boyfriend. I could feel that he was very lonely and sad, so I stuck with him and dated him only out of pity. We eventually fell deeply in love. I truly love him at this point and care for him a lot. But I am not attracted to him sexually AT ALL. I think about other people when we have sex and he never makes me horny. I feel that I would get frustrated a few months into marriage and it will make things sour for both of us.

The real reason I started contemplating breaking up was when I found out that there were people interested in him whom he turned down coz he wanted someone more attractive, and I fit his criteria. He told me that he had some "backup options" but he turned them down for me. That made me realize that I made a big mistake by taking pity on him and wasting two years of his life. He could've been with someone who wanted him but I took that spot.

This is my first relationship and I feel evil or at least immature for not turning him down in the beginning. But the thought of having this conversation has given me nightmares and panic attacks for two months. Today, I woke up with a nightmare about having this conversation and I have been in a state of anxiety and hyperventilation for over 12 hours and it's not going away.

I don't care if he hates me after. I just want to break up in a way that doesn't leave him too sad or broken. Heartbreak is inevitable. I just want it to go smoothly. Any tips?

In an interview with Joe Rogan, JD Vance said him and Trump would win the "normal gay guy vote".

As a closeted bi guy with no gay friends I'm confused. What are normal gay guys? And why would they vote for him and Trump (both known bigots) over Harris and Walz (who has a long history of supporting lgtbq rights)?

edit: so many downvotes. more "normal" gay Trumpers on here than I expected.

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I don't want small talk, i want to know YOU, the you that you don't or can't share with everyone, just for a moment, a day/night, just for a place in time, we can just open up without shame, judgement, anything, just two people, two humans getting to know each other more than anyone else ever has... if interested, go ahead and DM me

prefer voice chat, i got skype if game

and downvote all you want, like you do the times i have posted something similar before, because i have had some awesome ass chats with people looking exactly what i needed, and so did they, so hate all you want huns x

I found someone on Grindr, recently, who fucked me back in 2019 or 2020 doing cross dressing now. I'm soft and fem and don't like other fem guys. Around this time, I was just starting out in my grindr world and was just kinda desperate to meet someone. He was smooth, pretty fit, and I don't think he was masc, but he didn't seem fem either to me at the time. If you're to ask me now, I would've not hooked up with him, since I have more experience and not that desperate enough to lower my standards- even though the range of my circle is small. I didn't find him fully attractive, but out of my desperation, I met him. I remember we talked for a good hour before doing anything. One of the things we communicated was age. We were both were in our early 20s. Later, he topped me. Not a good experience. Anyway, earlier this week, I found that he's now doing cross dressing. And what's even more surprising is that, he's pretending to be 18 and says that he's a full bottom. Now, I don't know why he's pretending to be 18 when he's clearly in his mid 20s by now. Idk if that's fetish thing or to lure more men, but it's definitely not a good thing to lie about your actual age. No wonder, his topping skill was bad. After seeing this, I feel very much violated. As I mentioned above, I do not, for a single bit, find fem guys like myself attractive, personally. I will never let a fem guy top me. Opposites attract. The fact that he's doing this, and at one point he topped me doesn't sit right in my head. My whole body feels violated. Looking back, I can see how he ended up doing this. He definitely had a fem looking face. Again, I feel violated. I understand, now, how straight women feel when finding out their own husbands or boyfriends cheating on them with other dudes. I need to take a break from Grindr. It's my fault for being desperate and hooking up with someone I didn't find full physical attraction. If you have the same taste in men like myself, go find a masc attractive man or don't settle with anyone at all. You're wasting your time and theirs, not to mention post-nut clarity. Thank you for taking the time to read this.

Im not having good luck finding hookups on grindr is there a way to get a hookup in public

Ok so I like bigger pieces but everytime I try to bottom for one I tear or bleed 😭 .. last time it was really bad … would anal training help with this or?

I didn’t see this show until i was in college almost a decade after it first premiered. An ex at the time showed it to me and i was kind of blown away by it. I had never seen a gay show before so the storylines and the content was kind of wild to me. I just started rewatching it and it got me thinking: what was your reaction to it when you first saw it? how was it received generally at the time?

i’ve heard certain critiques of it for its content, lack of diversity, and specific portrayal of gay life, but i’m interested to hear what people have to say.

okay so the beginning of the month , i had oral sex , gave someone head , i was nervous , i went a week later to get tested and came out negative on everything , i haven’t had anything with anyone since that person , and now im just paranoid that i have something , my roommates here are sick and i have had trouble sleeping because my mouth gets dry at night that i have to wake up and drink water

I'm gay. My brother is straight. He has a gay friend who faces many challenges. I don't know how their friendship started. That person has many issues. It's very nice of my brother to care but honestly I wouldn't want that person around me. I believe this person is the reason my brother believes gays are doomed to be sad and abused. His friend seems to be both.

I have a bf that my brother knows. For years he was a "friend" until I revealed to him the truth. I'm living in the same house with my brother. When I told him so he froze but he moved on from that reaction fast. He asked the three of us to have a dinner and discuss. We told him how we met and some things about us. Everything was good until later that night

I found my bf crying on his bed. Not sobbing, just watery. I felt awful. My bf is tall and toned, he was a member of the guards of the president in my country. It's a position that's highly respected and with cultural significance (we really value them because they wear traditional costumes resembling our rebellion). And I keep on thinking that I made this person cry. I made my brother cry. He tried not to hurt me and swallow this up, I just found him like that. He said he will always support me but it hurts. He promised to get better but it hurts much knowing that I'm gay.

He said that he was thinking that I was doing hook ups from various apps, that strangers touched me all over my body and were using me. He said that he loves my bf and he knows he's a good guy. But the idea of getting used by men hurts him a lot. Is there something I can tell him? I told him that all these happen, but not in my life. I am with my bf, I love him and we protect each other (btw my bf cannot speak).

I moved into a new apartment complex recently and ran into a few nice guys in the elevator and lobby. They all got my number and texted me that we should hang out, grab a drink, watch games etc. I’m 99% positive they are straight as their gf or wife are next to them all the time lol

Here is the thing- I’m so used to guys hanging out with me just to have sex. So I can’t wrap my head around why they wanna hang out!? Like what is it for them? I guess the “transactional” aspect of the gay culture messes up with my brain….

Anyone feeling the same? Any thoughts or insights will be appreciated. Thanks!