Long story short my partner showed me his baby pictures from when he was our son's age (newborn to 6month) and he's wearing all these cute overalls that his grandmother (Taiwanese) made. All his clothes from those pictures look amazing and I got a little sad that we don't get much variety in the US for clothing styles, especially for kids.

I found some cool Korean kid's clothing brands but I'm not sure how to buy since everything is listed in won.

Anybody here tackle this? Know any Asian kids clothing brands and how to navigate them? Any advice would be much appreciated. We want to celebrate our Asianness as much as possible.

👣Are you a couple expecting your first baby?

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📅 What is involved: You and your partner will complete 5 online modules in pregnancy (1 per week) and a final module at 2 months postpartum. You will also complete 2

surveys — before and after you have completed the program — that gather information about your relationship, your pregnancy experience, your feedback on the STORK program, and your child.

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What would you do?

I'm currently sharing home with my sister in law. I am a strict parent but absolutely never cruel.

My sister in law is cruel with her children, especially with her son. She starts yelling at him for very little, he starts crying and is clearly afraid, she keeps yelling at him expecting him to stop crying and answer her stupid questions, for example: what do you want to eat? The poor boy can't stop crying and will often even vomit in this situations. There isn't a single day that my nephew doesn't get yelled at. It affects the home, I don't like my children having to see that. I thought of even calling the police on her for the way she treats her son.

Should I be more vocal about how wrong is her behaviour? The way she speaks to her boy is horrible, I really feel bad for him. My wife's family disapproves but they rather turn a blind eye than do anything about it.

Hi everyone, I'm a Ph.D. Student in Pediatric Psychology at Northeastern University and I am recruiting participants for a study that examines the barriers to visitations of primary caregivers (parents or legal guardians) during their children’s (ages 0-3) admission to a pediatric intensive care unit (PICU)/cardiac intensive care unit (CICU) or pediatric post-acute care hospital (pPACH)/Pediatric Rehabilitation. I am passing this information along in case there are individuals in your hospital, community, and network who may be interested in participating. If you would be willing to share information about the study with your organization and community, it could significantly contribute to the success of the research, and I would be deeply grateful!

To participate in the study:
- Primary caregivers must be at least 18 years of age.
- Primary caregivers must be able to read and respond to questions in English or Spanish. 
- The caregiver’s child must have been admitted to a pPACH/pediatric rehab or a PICU/CICU in the United States within the past 3 years.
- The caregiver’s child’s admission lasted, or has lasted, at least 28 days.

Participation in the study involves completing a 25-30-minute survey, available in English and in Spanish. [Link to the survey: https://neu.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_86MkLdyB4KIPmBg].

Please feel free to reach out with any questions or concerns. Thank you in advance for your time and consideration.

Hello! I am with a research team from the Duke Identity and Diversity Lab, located in Durham, NC. Our lab is broadly interested in relations among social identities (i.e. race, gender, etc.), perception, and behavior, as well as the emergence and change of social identity features across time. We have a new research project done entirely via Zoom examining Mulitracial and Multicultural children’s social attributions. The study is for children aged 5-7 years and parents to do together. The study will touch on topics related to race, adoptive families, and identity.

If you are interested, fill out this interest form (Click Here ) or email us at dukeidlab@gmail.com.

Here is our website if you would like to learn more about what we do in the lab! https://sites.duke.edu/dukeidlab/

I apologise for intruding your group. As you may be aware, research tends to always focus on the voices of white highly educated people, so I would love to be able to hear from those who do not fit into this group. If you have 15 minutes to spare, please see our study below. We would really appreciate it and it would help inform policy in the UK.

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Are you a UK caregiver of a child who is 5 years or younger? We would greatly appreciate hearing from you on your views and experiences with your child(ren)'s sleep in the UK, especially if you are from groups that are underrepresented in research (e.g., non-white participants, those who have not attended university)**. This questionnaire should take no longer than 15-20 minutes to complete. If you choose to participate in this questionnaire, we will ask you about your child(ren)'s sleep, your thoughts on infant sleep, and your experiences with your child(ren)'s sleep.

For all caregivers who complete the questionnaire, there will be the option to enter a prize draw to win a £50 Amazon voucher.

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I (23y Chinese) haven't really been told about the vaccine until very recently, and my Asian parents barely know about this and also told me to postpone the vaccine until I'm sexually active. It's been shown that the HPV vaccine rate among women from Asian backgrounds is relatively low and shows more HPV incidences, and I want to do something for Asian women as a researcher from the same background.

I'm calling voices from Asian parents in the UK to illuminate the path towards improved adolescent sexual health! Please take the survey to help shape the design of future communication strategies for the HPV vaccine to protect the community against HPV-related risks.

Please find the survey here:

https://qualtrics.ucl.ac.uk/jfe/form/SV_aV1Ct0yTcR2PURE?Q_CHL=social&Q_SocialSource=reddit

Your insights will really help me in pursuing better sexual health for us all. Thank you.

Hello! I am with a research team from the Duke Identity and Diversity Lab, located in Durham, NC. We are broadly interested in social identities (i.e. race, gender, etc.), perception, and behavior, as well as the emergence and change of social identity features across time. We have a new research project done entirely via Zoom examining Mulitracial and Multicultural children’s social attributions. The study is for children aged 5-7 years and parents to do together. The study will touch on topics related to race, adoptive families, and identity.

If you are interested, fill out this interest form (Click Here ) or email us at dukeidlab@gmail.com.

Here is our website if you would like to learn more about what we do in the lab! https://sites.duke.edu/dukeidlab/

What are some of your favorite products made by Asian brands for babies or kids?

For example, I just discovered Grosmimi no spill bottles, they are amazing!

Hi! I’m Filipino so I cannot wait for LO to try Filipino food. But most of the BLW meals I make her are not Asian cuisine at all. Like, omelette, broccoli cheese pinwheels, bread, green beans, sweet potato tots… lol

I occasionally make Filipino food for me and my husband (Vietnamese). When did you guys start serving the same meals you’re eating to your babies that are outside the typical BLW foods??

Maybe my BLW food ideas and inspos are limited?

Please be warned, this is going to be a super long post. If you read to the end, thank you for taking the time. I’m not really looking for advice, maybe this is more of a rant.

Relationship Background: My husband (MH) and I have been together over 10yrs. We’re both different asian ethnicities. Parent-in-laws (PIL) don’t speak much English, so communication between us is usually through MH. I like my in-laws (MH family) and generally get along with them fine. MH and I are FTP (first time parents, 2022 tiger baby), second grandchild in the family, but first grandson from the only son. I have a lot of experience with kids since I come from a bigger family with more kids. My In-laws not as much, also been like 30+ yrs since they’ve taken care of a kid.

Prior to my pregnancy: My SIL had a kid almost 2yrs before us. My SIL basically let her family (PIL & other SIL) raise her kid. And her kid is still always over PIL’s place. My single SIL is always at her place helping her take care of her kid. Her kid isn’t bad, but he has some bad habits (hitting, throwing things, tantrums, etc..) which I believe are the result of her not really raising her own kid. She never really set boundaries either with in-laws or discipline properly (and I don’t mean hitting. Actions have consequences I strongly believe kids should learn this from a young age. You need to set boundaries. There’s a way to teach without hurting your kid). So basically everyone has done whatever with her kid (no actual structural parenting, although she likes to say she’s trying to gentle parent, it’s more like permissive parenting IMO).

During my pregnancy: When I got preggo I already told MH I wanted to raise our kid differently and be more involved in his upbringing and learning. I didn’t want to leave my kid to my in-laws like my SIL. During my pregnancy my in-laws were not very present either. They never visited (they live like 10min walk from us) and nobody ever really asked how I was doing. My MIL always talking about things I need to eat/drink, but she barely ever made anything for me. If these things were so good/important wouldn’t she have made some to bring over more often? She definitely did it for my SIL when she was preggo.

To date: I WFH (work from home) so I take care of the baby and work. My husband also works, but he has a trade job (not office work). My PIL have offered to babysit while I work and I am grateful, but I don’t want to burden others if I am capable of doing it myself. I also know what quality of care I want for our baby. As he’s getting bigger, he’s become more picky since he recognizes faces/people now. Any time we would have my PIL babysitting while we run errands it would be a bit challenging for them.. so MH suggested we leave baby with PIL for a couple of days of the week. At first I didn’t want to, but agreed we could leave him with them once a week (normally once a week we get together w/ In-laws at PIL’s house for family dinner). I also had to start doing some physical therapy so we decided we were going to leave baby w/ PIL 2 days a week. (Full days 7/8am-5pm, I get off at 2pm so I used to go get him earlier, but MH told me to stop doing that and let his parents take care of the baby). If it weren’t for MH telling me to leave baby and if my PIL weren’t feeling some type of way that we don’t leave baby with them enough, I would have him with me all the time instead. I hate inconveniencing others and having to feel like I have to be indebted to others.

Quality of care: since baby was born I never believed in the CIO (crying it out) method or withholding feedings for specific number of hours. I always fed him on demand when he showed signs of hunger. I always comforted him when needed as well. I also check his diaper often and change him frequently since he has more sensitive skin and can develop diaper rashes quicker. I interact with him a lot and try to teach him things so he can be exposed (reading, tummy time, singing, baby signing, etc..) I basically expect this attention to detail in the care of baby and I know it’s a different pace/expectation from my SIL. When baby is w/ PIL I don’t expect them to do all the stuff I do, but I do expect them to follow baby’s routine of how he’s fed and frequent diaper changes. At first my MIL wanted to do whatever she wanted with how often baby was fed. They tried to withhold feedings not on demand but quickly learned the hard way how to fulfill baby’s needs or he wouldn’t stop crying. Now my MIL is weird about changing baby frequently as needed. One time baby had a butt rash worse than normal b/c she didn’t change him after he pooped. She said he pooped already and she changed him, but didn’t realize he pooped a second time. How often are you not checking his diaper that you wouldn’t notice or smell? And how long was baby marinating in his own feces that he got that bad diaper rash? I was hesitant leaving baby for more than once a week after this. A week or so after this I was over my PIL’s house feeding my baby before running my errand and our nephew was standing next to me and he smelled like poop so I stopped feeding baby to check his diaper but couldn’t see b/c he had a onesie on.. so this would require me to strip him down to properly check, but my MIL kept insisting for me to not check, that he didn’t poop and it was the smell from whatever my FIL was cooking. I didn’t want to argue so I stopped and didn’t check further.. after about 40mins when I returned, I was going to take our nephew outside to blow bubbles and he still smelled like poop! So I checked and he did poop so I changed him. I just have to wonder how much longer he would been in a soiled diaper if I hadn’t checked. This is the same care my baby is receiving? This is why can’t trust the care and refuse to leave baby for more than one day a week and only want to leave him for a few hrs to run errands if really needed. I feel bad my PIL don’t get to see baby as often, but their care just doesn’t meet my standards/expectations… I get anxiety so I rather just take care of my own kid. Am I an asshole for this?

Someone commented at a parenting group today that she didn't know how to say "I'm proud of you" in Mandarin and I realized I didn't either.

Google translate suggests 我为你感到骄傲 (Wǒ wèi nǐ gǎndào jiāo'ào) which, uh, is not a sequence of words my parents have ever said in my hearing and frankly does not sound like a thing real people say at all.

On the other hand, I have heard my parents say some pretty approving things:

• 我的朋友都说我很有福气有个像你的孩子。My friends all say I'm fortunate to have a child like you.
• 我不担心你了 I'm not worried about you any more.
• 我吃点苦也值得的 My struggles were worthwhile.

(Apologies if the Mandarin isn't quite right; it's not the dialect my parents and I actually speak.)

Curious for any thoughts people have about cultural differences in parental praise and reconciling traditional practices with modern values. Because I want to be both an Asian parent and also a parent not featured on r/asianparentstories a couple decades later, if that makes sense.

Not there yet but we’ll have an eater on our hands soon. I really want to be able to feed my kid easy to prep foods that are Asian.

Any ideas?

Some ideas thus far are peanut noodles, avocado rolls, tofu, tamago, rice balls with rice seasoning mixed in, bitter melon stir fried with eggs