/r/asexualdating

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Dating can be hard.

Dating as an asexual can be even harder. This is a place for us to come together. You could try to find someone for yourself, ask for advice, support, or just rant.

Please do not message the mods directly, this is what mod mail is for

This is a subreddit for aces, new and old. Our community doesn't have many places for us to come together or even try to find each other to date. Use it to find friends, dates, whatever you want.

/r/asexualdating

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28 [M4F] #Tennessee - Can I have this dance?

Hey everyone, my name is Luke, and it's my absolute pleasure to meet you!

Thank you for stopping in to read a little bit about the man behind the screen, let's get into it!

So, who am I, what am I looking for, and what makes me well, me? I'm glad you asked!

Well, I am 28 years old, I am very tall (I'll leave that up to the imagination so you can guess! Got to have fun somewhere, right?) and I call the great state of Tennessee my home, I have for almost 12 years now.

I am looking for someone who loves love and life as much as I do, I'm a super big empath so someone to complement that would be fantastic, but it's all open to interpretation of course! I want someone to text me cute things throughout the day, if I don't answer for a while double texting (or even triple texting?) to check on me, because even though I'm okay it will warm my big heart knowing you're thinking about me! Someone who loves to laugh, sing in the car, someone who wants to bake with me even though we may not be very good at it, and just someone to call when I'm having a bad day to make it a little better.

And what makes me who I am? I am an empathetic man at my core, a big hopeless romantic, cuddler, holder of hands, provider of big warm hugs, holder of doors, and all these things and more, you'll have to message me to find out the rest, I have to keep some mystery about me, after all!

I love skipping over small talk and getting into all the topics that help me learn who you are as a person. So let's go with these two, what is one piece of advice you picked up in life that still remains with you, and what does being a good partner look like to you? Have a good night/day wherever you are!

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2024/11/01
04:23 UTC

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27 [TM4A] #Online/Anywhere Trans Male who is Tired of Being Ghosted... I have so much Love to give

My name is Mikey. Hello. I am a Transgender Male, I'm Pansexual/Asexual. I'm 27 and I live in Texas

When it comes to Relationships, I do grow attached romantically to someone if I truly know they're the one

I am someone who yaps a lot about overwatch and fanfics and fandoms and has a fun sense of humor and makes funny cute jokes and I want someone who will find it endearing.

I have a YT Channel, I make videos, I edit them, and I have a Roblox Horror VTuber / Overwatch Channel I post almost every day to. It's basically something that I feel is passionate for myself.

I do like to sing, write, draw, video edit and spend time with family and friends. walk and play with my dog, baking.

I'm someone who does have mental health issues and truly wants someone who will love me as I want to love them and protect them so much from any worries they have, and I want them to worry for me

I truly want a lover to love me as I love them My age range of a partner is 22+ and I'm strictly monogamous

I may be Pansexual, but I do prefer femmes (no matter the gender) Cis, Trans, etc.

Please whoever comes across this know I am friendly and kindhearted and whether I'm a catch or not (PS, I'm probably not.) Just know we can be friends, even if I'm not your type. I'll do anything to be the greatest friend either way.

But romantically, I'll be there for anyone who comes across this and even reads it I want them to one day meet my parents, meet my mom on a call one day. The both of us can meet each other's irl or online friends.

We watch YouTube videos, movies, tv shows or anime together. We can play video games. I do prefer overwatch but it's not a big need to play though, I can play other games if you prefer.

Thanks for whoever read this

I truly want to love someone and care, respect, be there, protect and forever let them take my heart and keep it in its fragile state.

In your beautiful hands. I know this seems poetic and long, but I mean every word from the bottom of my heart.

Thanks on who read up this far just know my dms are open ^^ and If you're interested send a shark emoji! (I love sharks)

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2024/11/01
03:27 UTC

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[31F4A] Chicagoland area - looking for relationship & friendship!

HAPPY SPOOKY DAY YALL^^

Looking for.......

A permanent wedding, funeral, and/or obscure uncle's bday party date💓 but seriously, looking for someone who is kind and patient, hopefully a little funny, and a good listener. I'd prefer someone who lives relatively close by, but also willing to chat with people located anywhere (begging aces can't be choosers, I suppose)

Important(?) stuff.....

Self description: dyed red hair, blue-gray eyes, pale skin, chubby, but actively losing (happy to send pics once we start chatting)
Sexuality: biromantic, sex averse. Have zero problem consuming sexual content, but not at all interested in having it myself.
Preferred age range: maybe like 25-35? But willing to go beyond that (no one under 21 tho 🙏)
Potential dealbreakers: I do not want kids, I don't smoke (cigs, vapes, or weed), I enjoy going out for drinks, I'm a Gemini (🫠), I'm not religious

More about me.....

I have a fairly rough outer shell mixed with a belief that humor is the best defense, but I'm a lil sensitive softie on the inside. I'm happiest when the people around me are happy, but would be nice to have someone who takes care of me sometimes too 😌 I think I'm moderately funny, I like to surround myself with people who don't take themselves too seriously, who are open-minded, and appreciate good memes/tiktoks.

My hobbies & interests.....

Anime, traveling, video games, reading, tennis (I play recreationally), baking, manhwa, writing, volleyball (I only watch), languages, being with friends, generally moseying around, exploring, but also being a couch potato 🤠

Feel free to message me if anything strikes your fancy, happy to chat ☺️

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2024/11/01
00:55 UTC

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Hey, any friends welcome

Hiii I’m ray 22 from Florida

I’m biromantic asexual agender . I go by she / they

I really don’t have any friends irl or online , so o trying this out .

I’m an introvert and have mental illness , so anyone with patience is highly welcome and appreciated.

I like anime , music , marine biology , forensics , mythology and Pokémon .

I’m in college but I don’t drive .

I’m also Hispanic and know Spanish and would love to teach you some Spanish .

Just pls be over 18 + and from the USA pls because of time zones .

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2024/10/31
23:09 UTC

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25 F4A Looking for connections

Greetings Amazing People,

Who am I? A Sex-neutral to sex-positive greysexual with demi shades woman in her 20s with invisible disabilities with interests in social and political issues(and more). Btw I am feeling scared to call myself asexual even though I don’t feel any sexual urges, attraction or interests so going with calling myself grey. Also, I am based in India but indifferent to location of the other person.

A few things about me:

  1. I am irreligious(agnostic with heavy inclinations towards atheism)
  2. Not a fan of texting and prefer voice notes and calls(partially due to chronic pain)
  3. Love to listen about a range of things ranging from your pet peeves, favourite weird food combinations, the book that you read, the podcast that you heard years ago, to whatever you can imagine and interested in sharing!
  4. A curious person and loves to gain knowledge.
  5. A music lover.
  6. If you are a patriarchal, anti-vaxer, anti-biomedicine/modern medicine, racist, casteist, anti-choice etc, please don’t contact me. Thanks!

What am I looking for? Building a platonic, non-romantic, non-sexual, non-controlling connection. I have closed the romantic door for myself but you can always ask me why abd we can have discussions about the same but my decision won’t change.

Also, I am a slow texter so please bear with me if you want to or else, take care.

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2024/10/31
23:08 UTC

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T26, LF any connections

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Howdy howdy, Night City! I’m Juniper, but friends and family call me June. I’m from the western border of Canada and go by they/she pronouns. I’m a trans person looking to connect with people of all backgrounds, whether for chats, friendships, or even something more. Distance does not matter for me.

I’m a big yapper (fair warning) and really enjoy people who love to chat or don’t mind listening. Trust and shared interests mean a lot to me in any relationship, whether it’s bonding over a hobby or finding mutual understanding.

I’m disabled and value my independence, even if that just means having the space to recharge. I spend a lot of time in my head and sometimes need alone time to feel balanced.

When it comes to dating, I do not like physical touch (I need to build trust) and sometimes struggle with words, so I show intimacy in my own way. I don’t have many specific preferences outside of valuing monogamy.

As for interests, I’m into both indoor and outdoor activities (though big public events aren’t my thing). I enjoy biking, video games, embroidery, and long 3am walks. I invest a lot into what I love, so if someone isn’t showing mutual interest, I can lose my spark.

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2024/10/31
22:54 UTC

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25 NB4F - looking for a best friend who is a gamer & loves cats

Heyooo! Hope you're having a great day. I'm 25 and non-binary (I think.. lol). Labels are confusing. I'm androgynous with a masc lean, I really relate to Felix from Stray Kids in appearance. I want to transition to be a bit more masc.

I am disabled (mental stuff & autoimmune disease). I'm probably not the most outgoing? But I want to travel still to other countries, and go to arcades and etc. I'd love to try all kinds of new foods. In terms of dreams uhh. I'm currently working on a book of poems, and I'd like to write a comic series.

I'm an optimistic person that loves to make jokes, puns to dark ones. I like pranks and learning magic tricks to show off. I'm an ENFP and Taurus Sun (Cancer Moon & Rising). I have dark brown, short hair, a bit on the chubby side, and I'm 5'1. I like to see the world with hope and hold onto my childlike side.

My interests: Gaming, all art mediums, collecting cards & figures, magic tricks, PC building & controller mods, writing, reading (manga, manhwa, comics etc), Marvel, Pokemon, plushies, kpop, & more

My fav games: Dragon Age, Pokemon, Danganronpa, Assassin's Creed, Life is Strange, Fortnite, horror, other shooters, survival crafts, etc etc. I'll play anything once lol.

I'm open to both friends or more, but I like to be best friends before being more. I prefer femme people if someone wants to be more. If anyone out there is into Dragon Age, that's like my major special interest and pls contact immediately.

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2024/10/31
22:32 UTC

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[Nb4A] looking for a person who is kind and has patience and likes anime. [Cis ok] USA

Hey, I’m ray agender AFAB asexual from Florida . So im biromantic asexual . I’m 22

Looking for a serious healthy long term relationship

I have tried multiple dating apps , but I have found nothing . Getting ghosted and being rejected because being asexual .

I have mental illness so i need someone supportive , loving and kind and definitely need to have patience .

I like anime and music and all kind of animals and reading comics on webtoons .

I’m really nice and I know what I want by now . I have a huge heart and can love hard .

I might also have autism .

I am in college but I don’t drive .

I’m Colombian . First generation Colombian - American

Also just be from the USA pls because of time zones and don’t be older then 27 .

If you want to learn more you can DM me .

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2024/10/31
17:45 UTC

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M21. M4F. Looking for a nerdy or not so nerdy friendship or possibly more.

Sorry if this writing is a mess

Hello, my name is Adam and I’m a 21 year old asexual and possibly aromantic male from Australia and I’m half German and Spanish but I don’t know the languages but would like to learn them one day and go to the countries, I’m an introvert so long distance is preferable until we get to know each other and then maybe we could meet up one day, I don’t mind sending what we look like, I also use discord if that is better to chat on, I also have Instagram and Snapchat but I don’t use them as much as discord and reddit

i’ve never been in any type of relationship and it’s never interested me until recently and don’t know what there are like but I want to try it out, i’ve never been out in a date and i’ve never experienced any type of intimacy, i’ve never kissed or done the deed and both seems really weird and dirty to do but i would try these out one day, i don’t really have a preference on looks but i really like the hairstyle bangs

The reason why I’m doing this is because I’ve gained the confidence, I’ve never done this before and I’m curious to see if I can make a friend or possibly more but I doubt but you also never know and lately I’ve been wondering what It would like to be in a relationship ————————————————————————————— About me

•my social skills are terrible, i’m shy and I’m not good at talking, starting conversations and responding to stuff but I’ve been getting better so sorry if the conversations are dry but if we get the conversations going, I can go well, i’m a good listener though

•I would consider myself a nice, friendly, honest, curious and caring person, I’m never mean or rude and I don’t like to be unless there’s a good reason to be, I don’t even swear, I don’t say words that aren’t considered swear words and i don’t do that weird and creepy crap, i don’t get how people can

•I’m an introvert, so I like being inside all the time and plying my games but I want to start going out to fun places like conventions, concerts and other places like that, I’ve never done any of it and maybe get out of my comfort zone one day, i wouldn’t go to bars or anything like that because it doesn’t seem fun and I don’t drink and I’ve never been drunk and don’t ever intend to be and I don’t do drugs and never intend to do that also but I would try Marijuanna but only the edible kind not smoking it

•I’m a big nerd, i love gaming and anything related to it, i love some universes such as star wars, dc, marvel, pokémon, doctor who and i’m starting to get into warhammer 40k lore which is very interesting, same with dnd lore, i haven’t played the board game but i loved baldurs gate 3 and would like to try out dnd, I used to play mtg a lot but I stopped playing years ago but I loved it and I kind of want to get into it again ————————————————————————————— My interest’s

•gaming: I love gaming, it’s what I mostly do, I play on ps5, I don’t have Xbox or pc, I did have a switch but it got lost, I like story games, rpgs, open worlds and more and those gacha games don’t look to bad, I would try those out.

my favourite games are

•rdr2

•beyond good and evil

•horizon zero dawn

•god of war ragnarok

•baldurs gate 3

•minecraft

•terraria

i also play plenty of online games but the ones i have downloaded currently are.

•overwatch 2

•fortnite

•rocket league

•sea of thieves

•minecraft

i have more, I’d be down to play a game if we have it and supports crossplay if your not on ps5. ————————————————————————————— •TV, movies and anime: I love to watch tv shows but I’m not a movie or anime person, I really like thrillers, sci fi and dramas.

my favourite shows

•dark

•outer banks

•the100

•blacklist

•stranger things

•pokémon

•doctor who

i don’t have a favourite movie or anime but i want to get into movies and anime, pokémon is the only one i’ve watched and i loved it but i would like to watch AOT because it looks cool and don’t know any other anime that is good and maybe we can watch something somehow, i don’t know how it works though. ————————————————————————————— •music: i love music, i listen to it all the time, i mostly listen to rock, pop and indie but my music taste is all over the place and i listen to anything and recommend me anything.

my favourite bands and and artists.

•the warning: survive-Z-disciple-evolve-animosity.

•gorillaz: feel good inc-silent running.

•maneskin: gossip-baby said.

•sheppard: geronimo-dance on the sun.

•ava max-kings and queens-diamonds and dance floors.

•olivia rodrigo: jealousy, jealousy-good 4 you. ————————————————————————————— •writing: i’m a writing a story of my own imagination and i’ve wrote 3 books and currently doing a 4th, i’m also planning for 3 more, i dont read book so i don’t really know how they are like and plus i’m new to this so i don’t really know what i’m doing but it’s fun. ————————————————————————————— •collecting: Legos: I have plenty, I love building Star Wars legos and car legos, also i have a couple of marvel legos and planning to get more soon. Pop vinyls: i mainly collected Star Wars and doctor who but I lost them when I moved so now I only have 3 Star Wars ones, I want to collect more though. Comic books: I’m not a reader but I have some comic books and kind of want to collect more because they are pretty cool.

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2024/10/31
13:00 UTC

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Aroace friends in London UK

I'm just posting here if there's any aro aces or aces like me here who'd like to be long term friends. Someone who is perhaps similar to me, and local?

I'm 20f, in London UK, neurodivergent, I like watching Kdramas (comedy, romance or something else that's interesting). I like authors that write fiction books relatable to real life. I'm very introverted. Do you like kdramas too, do you have similar interests?

If you're also in London too can you send a message? Someone maybe to be like a sister? It would be nice to know a little about yourself as well if you decide you also want to chat and perhaps at some point meet up. But conversations first : )

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2024/10/31
10:56 UTC

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27[M4F] in Melbourne, Australia - Seeking relationship and friendships

Hello! I'm a 27-year-old man in Melbourne, Australia. I'm a counsellor, and also host a podcast discussing psychology. I'm a massive lover of music; it has great meaning in my life and is an amazing form of emotional stimulation, and I write songs and plan to one day play in a band. Outside of it all, I love to spend time with people in the company of nature or animals (brushing horses and throwing balls for dogs, anyone?), have a good conversation, crack jokes (I challenge you to have a wackier sense of humour than me!), and enjoy good food. You may also find me working with my hands on projects occasionally. I'm around 5'10", Mediterranean, slim and well-built, and have dark and extremely short hair. I'm equal parts thinker and doer; I'm passionate about trying to be the best that I can be in every aspect of my life and enjoy the challenge of examining and learning about the world, setting goals for myself, engineering my life, and helping others. I'm a free thinker, so within reason I'm not just looking to associate with people who share all of my values; I want to learn about others' perspectives and see the humanity in people.

I'm seeking a long-term, monogamous relationship with my eventual soul mate, as well as solid friendships. I've decided that I want to remain child-free and live separately from my partner, as I believe that not being co‑dependent creates freedom for us to enhance each other's lives. As long as you're at least 18 (of course!), I'm not as concerned about your age or background; I'm seeking mutual attraction, intuitive chemistry, and the willingness to properly get to know each other, listen, and commit. I'm a celibate, but other forms of physical and emotional affection are fundamental to me, so I'll want to exchange warm snuggles, cute glances, and genuine words of affirmation.

While I'm happy to meet a range of people, I do have my deal-breakers. I am only seeking in‑person relations with people in Melbourne. My hard limits are smoking, excessive alcohol usage, narcotics, crime, and extremism. Please also be emotionally available, communicative, willing to enter in to respectful discussions if we don't agree, and please don't ghost!

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2024/10/31
05:36 UTC

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how do you guys navigate online dating

I've just spent the past few years working on myself and am finally trying to get into the dating scene, but I'm really struggling. People sending things like compliments as starting messages or asking me out the day of is very nerve wracking to me and it feels like people are putting expectations on me before even meeting or getting to know someone. Being trans has not helped me. I've had people tell me I have to be a secret, or they're just wanting n*des but not to actually talk which I started using as a filter for who I invite in, but people just seem very superficial online. I put stuff on my profile to set boundaries and people ignore them or won't even look at profiles. I'm an agoraphobe and I don't have a community with mutual interest to actually meet and get to know people through, so my options feel kind of limited.

What are your guys' thoughts, experiences, comments &c?

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2024/10/31
01:17 UTC

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28 [M4F] Northern Virginia/NoVA/DMV: Seeking Friend & Cuddle Buddy

Hi there!

I’m looking for someone who’s also on the ace spectrum and interested in being friends and platonic cuddle buddies. Local folks only plz.

A little about me:

Some of my interests are sci-fi/fantasy, stand up comedy, movies, cats 🐱, museums, and trying new restaurants.

If this sounds interesting to you feel free to send a chat!

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2024/10/31
00:20 UTC

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27 M4F Wales UK

Hey everyone, I'm curious to see if I can make a nice new connection here. I'm a musician and engineer from Wales; I love writing and listening to music, cooking veggie food, building stuff, deep chats about big topics, sci-fi movies, and wildlife and plants.

I'm looking for someone with some common interests and new ones to explore who wants to get to know each other, go out on adventures, and have cozy nights in together. Think 18 hour all night long dance music extravaganza or a sofa with red wine and Resident Evil; or a niche topic museum with a nice cafe or team working some new recipes and playing board games: or a mission to forage goodies and romp about in a forest all day or staying up til 4am so we can go outside and watch the meteor shower with a cup of hot chocolate. Those sorts of adventures / cozies.

Personality-wise, I'm super chill but an overthinker. I like to think I'm kind, caring, and funny - at least that's what my mates say about me, which is sweet of them. I love having a giggle and don't take myself too seriously.

Looks-wise, I'm pretty tall with big shoulders and chest, long hair that's usually tied up, tidy beard, blue eyes, and often a cheeky grin on my face. I've been told I look like "we've got Jason Momoa at home". I don't really see the resemblance but 4 people have mentioned it so far so I guess that's something. I've also been compared to Brian Blessed so that take that for what you will. I think B-stock Thor or Post Malone if he didn't look like he came from a child's sketchbook would probably apply better, personally.

I've only fairly recently (the past couple of years) discovered I'm asexual, but on reflection I clearly have been for a long time (like forever), so don't have a lot of relationship experience. I'd love to meet someone who wants to build a trusting and supportive relationship together and make the most of our time on this planet together. Let me know if I or anything I mentioned sounds like something you'd be interested in :) thanks for reading.

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2024/10/30
21:28 UTC

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M4F / 21 / Finland

Moikka!

First to introduce myself: I am guy from Finland, soon to be 22. I work quite a lot at the time, but on my free time I like to read or go to the nature. I always have some project going on, whether it is project cars, motorcycles, something with the house, or anything creative. My personality is the stereotypical Finnish guy, I am very calm and don't find it uncomfortable to sit in silence for hours. If you consider appearance important, I am average/slim, 174cm tall, and trying to grow a beard. I think it is good to mention I am absolutist myself, but not like a freaky way. I just don't find it fun at all to get intoxicated in any way, and I am already having such a good time just being myself!

What I am looking, is someone preferably close, ideally from Finland too. I know it's small country, so the changes are slim, but it's worth a try! I did write this in English tho, if you happen to live in different country. I am not really sure what I am looking for in long run, but it would just be cool to meet new people! So feel free to send a message if you want, bonus points for cat pics!

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2024/10/30
16:29 UTC

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34 f poly aroace looking for a partner

Is anyone interested in a long-distance relationship with a geeky nerdy gamer girl(34) who has no interest in the physical aspect of a relationship(aroace) and just wants the company of a fellow geeky nerdy gamer person?I am not picky when it comes to gender, location, or anything like that but I am picky when It comes to ages 29-39 (younger/older is okay as just friends interested please send me a message with an introduction. p.s. i have cats to send you pictures of

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2024/10/30
14:16 UTC

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29 [M4F] #DC Need someone who's ace neurodivergent and a sweetheart who enjoys bad memes and video games too

"Ah shit here we go again" cj voice It's time to make another ad again..

About me:

Hi! I'm 29 Male Gray Ace, Neurodivergent, Gamer, Comic Reader, Bad meme conosseur, obscure internet drama enthusiast, cartoon/anime enjoyer, and more stuff i couldn't fit in here. It's nice to meet you.

I am doing the best I can with the life I live. I do my work hours helping kids in special education. Come back to walk and play with my dog. Then when I'm not on my walks or out with friends, I'm home on my computer gaming casually or watching something.

My pros are that I believe I'm emotionally intelligent, patient, empathetic, funny, and very sweet and romantic. I'm also very laid back and accepting. I'm also very open minded and understand what it's like to be mistreated so I don't do it.

My cons would be that whatever I feel is very transparent, that I get distracted and forget things, and that I have some challenges I'm working to get past. I'm also pretty bad with small talk and prefer to lead it to a deeper conversation.

About you:

You are my ideal girl if you:

  • play video games casually or want to get into them cause of co-op play
  • are neurodivergent or understanding of neurodivergent people
  • you're into other introverted hobbies
  • you are working on yourself or understand what it's like to have trauma
  • can make me laugh or laugh at similar things
  • are affectionate or a sweetheart
  • can poke fun at me or yourself or both

What dating could look like:

  • arcade dates
  • dinner
  • movies
  • playing games together
  • ocassional calls
  • take out and delivery at home
  • watching tv on a couch
  • museum trips
  • going to places together to meet new people

I'm not the person for you if:

  • you are looking forward to having kids and a family
  • you are religious and seeking someone religious
  • you are seeking something super sexual (again as i am gray ace)
  • you are expecting me to change into something i'm not

Here's a couple of selfies I'm proud of plus my shy guy costume for halloween: https://imgur.com/a/jK3N8We

If it sounds like we could match please hit me up, looking forward to hearing from you.

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2024/10/30
11:46 UTC

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22 NB4A USA

Hello! Thanks for taking the time to read this. My name is Salem, I am nonbinary (female presenting), and I’m 22 years old. I currently live in Wisconsin. I work full time in retail in the customer service department.

I am posting on here in hope of finding someone who I can spend time with and enjoy life with. I’m a hopeless romantic at heart and id like to share that with someone.

More about me! For hobbies/likes, I’m a big video game fan, I love animals especially cats, I am into kpop at the moment, and I like to paint with watercolor.

As for how I look, I am 5’8, heavier set, blonde hair, blue-grey eyes. I wouldn’t mind sending a photo if we become friends.

I would say my biggest dealbreakers are

Not wanting to have children (id like them someday)

Not trusting your partner

Not having respect for your partner

Thanks for reading I hope you have a great day! Feel free to reach out to me if you want to chat

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2024/10/30
03:39 UTC

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27m4f US aegosexual, LDR online, friends, something more?

I’m m 27 from the US. Once we get talking I’ll be more specific in the state and such. Im white dirty blonde hair, 5’5” I enjoy going to shows metal is what I listen to 99% of the time. (Deathcore, metalcore, and hardcore) but I like mostly all types. I also enjoy history learning about random things the appeal to me. I enjoy watching YT, true crime, and I also collect coins.

As to what I’m looking for is someone to talk to become friends emotionally connect and see where it leads. I am open to nsfw chats as I am aegosexual my libido is higher then most. and such if want to integrate that into are friendship as time goes on and still keep it sfw as well getting to know each other.

Preferably would use discord would want to move to discord as notifs r better then here. also I’m down to seed a selfie if you are willing to send one right away as aesthetic attraction is something I’m interested in as well. Dealbreaker I do drink a bit more then the avg person something I am trying to work and better myself in my life.

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2024/10/30
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I don't plan on disclosing my ace-ness with anybody besides my partner. Do you expect your partner to be open with it? Are you, yourself, public with it?

I have my own reasons for not being "out" but I was sort of curious where all of you stand. Do you want your partner to be "out"? I never really treated it as something that was worthy of being broadcasted. Idk. It's sad, but people are considerably more lenient toward ace people than they are to gay people so I'm not trying to make it something it's not. I'm not being silenced or anything. However, I just can't see a world in which I'm open with it. I'll probably take it to my grave. Is that a deal breaker for yall?

Ig you can argue that there are different levels to open-ness. I doubt that most of us are transparent with our coworkers like that. Or, maybe you are haha.

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2024/10/30
00:01 UTC

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Debating whether I should post here or not, 23M Europe/anywhere

Looking for friends, possibly something more if things feel right. Heteroromantic ace (demi?) that is into science, a huge endurance enjoyer/nerd, and a bit of a gamer. I am also very interested in getting to know different people, and understand how people differ. I'm open to any conversation, don't be shy :) Cheers!

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2024/10/29
23:29 UTC

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29 F4F - Southern Germany / Europe / Anywhere ✨

Hey everyone :) After focusing on myself for a little while I feel in a place where I would love to meet someone to spend time with, be it a friend or partner. I'm gray-asexual homoromantic.

Listening to and making music is my favorite thing to lose myself in. Last year I started pottery and it's been a strong contender - I also gift my ugly mugs and bowls so if you need something to spice up your kitchen lmk.

Besides that I love going for hikes, travels and adventures as much as reading, playing video games, watching harry potter, learning and trying out new things and watching sunsets/stargazing.

I work as a researcher at university and as a media designer. I love the intersection of art and science so I couldn't decide on one career path.

If you think we would vibe feel free to dm me :)

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2024/10/29
22:46 UTC

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M4F Italy

Hello everyone, I am 21 from Italy. I am currently looking for close friends / relationship, possibly in Italy. My interests are anime, videogames and science. I am ENTP and I am okay with talkative people. What I am looking for is company in a more than friendship but wit no romance or demiromantic relationship. DM me if you'd like to talk to me

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2024/10/29
22:07 UTC

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M4F Northern Ireland/ireland

I’m 25m, Hey!

I’m 6ft 1, brown hair blue eyes I also look young for my age but hey genetics 🤷‍♂️

I’m not very career driven at all for now (I will be once I finish my adventures) and just prefer to enjoy life as it comes!

Looking for someone long term and would prefer someone close do not mind long distance at all if we click!

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2024/10/29
20:32 UTC

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21 M4F UK/Europe

I'm a 21 male from the UK, I'm looking for a relationship but friendship is also fine:) I was 17/18 when I found out I'm asexual. Since then it has been hard to find people like me, so that's why I'm trying this. I feel like I’m quite a funny individual and very easy going, I spend most of my time working but fortunately I love my job!:) I’m looking for someone who I can be myself around, laugh and just generally enjoy spending time with each other. In my spare time I like to go out with my friends(when I want to socialize😭), sometimes play some football/watch football and listen to music. Pretty nervous about all this but if you're interested or have some questions, just send me a message! :)

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2024/10/29
19:14 UTC

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Meeting people like this or through dating apps never works but I guess it's the only option these days

Idk just sucks

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2024/10/29
17:53 UTC

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My partner [23nb] is asexual and I [23f] am not. How do I ask for sex?

Me [23f] and my partner [23nb] have been dating for nearly five years. When we first got into the relationship they explained to me that they were asexual but they have touch aversion and are okay with having sex with me as long as I don’t touch them. During the first and second year of our relationship our sex life was perfect with no complaints but after a while it became less frequent until it just stopped. Now we maybe have sex once a year. However, they talk about wanting to have sex with me a lot and what they want to do but never follow through. It’s really frustrating because I feel like I want them in a way they don’t want me, but because they talk about sex a lot it’s so confusing. I have tried to initiate it myself but they said it makes them uncomfortable so I don’t start anything until they do. But at the same time whenever there’s a chance we could have sex and I don’t bring it up they later say “well you didn’t start it so we won’t have sex.” We just took a trip away from home together for two weeks and for months they were talking about how we were gonna have sex and then we never did. And I asked them about it and they said they were tired but is completely understandable! I don’t want it if they don’t want it! I want to know how to bring this up to them and what to say. I fear if I bring this up they’ll feel pressured into having sex which is the last thing I want. But I also miss the physical connection that we had. I need to talk to them about this but I don’t want to force them into sex. What do I do?

TLDR: my partner is ace, I am not. We used to have sex and now we don’t. How do I bring this up without pressuring them into sex?

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2024/10/29
17:15 UTC

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