Some people feel more connected to one of their identities than the other one(s). Which one do you feel more connected to?

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Two very opposite things but being biaro is much less drama and being in the kink/swinger scene is usually quite chill, no expectations for romantic reciprocation or feelings just good old fun when I want. I even get to have some physical closeness and some regular conversations with the partners I've had, as I love having sexual chemistry. I had a lot of sexual attraction as a teenager since I was 14-15 and I always just thought that meant I was also romantically attracted despite never being interested in and even having some repulsion even dating back to when I was 7.

In fact I feel like because I'm aromantic sex has a deeper connection to me than it does for many Alloromantic people; I need to have a good chemistry on some level to have good sex, and have a good normal conversation with them. Had been into fetishes and kink since I was maybe 16-18 and found a great connection to that and have a great time with it. Kink provides an opportunity for meaningful sexual connections that usually fulfills my intimacy needs. It's not common I even have non romantic emotional attraction to people like alterous attraction let alone want a QPR or similar relationship, that's partially why I've only had one such relationship that lasted longer than a month-2 months. I may have another one but not actively looking as it's quite difficult to find. Sex for me is only for sexual intimacy in which it plays a big role for me. In my previous relationship I kissed exclusively with my partner and I liked it (it's a common swinger condition for couples and both of us were swingers). My first kiss outside of family was sexual even as well.

However I'm so extremely repulsed by romance and the idea of me being romantically involved makes me sick. I have had full blown panic attacks from being confessed to or the idea of holding hands with someone. The closest I'll ever do is a QPR type situation and I do some things like kissing or cuddling in a non romantic way (although my ex couldn't get that into his head no matter how much I explained to him). If I found out my child was dating under 18 I would feel annoyed and worried they wouldn't do their work properly because I see dating as a bad thing, especially when they have school to deal with. I even considered whether I would just not allow it but realised that's not very easy to establish as a rule. Occasionally I do enjoy well written romance that isn't just glorifying abuse or something weird like stalking. I see the negatives/flaws in romantic plots easily because I am not wearing rose-tinted glasses.

Is anyone else similar? I'd be interested to know and what it's like for you. People are often confused by me so I don't tell people outright I'm aromantic but I don't hide I'm bisexual despite my preferred way of describing my sexuality is both aromantic bisexual together.

I know this community is small right now, and I will ask this question again when and if this community grows substantially, but I want to know y'all's answer now.

What do you think the Biaro anthem should be? I know bi has one and so does aro, but since there's such a small amount of people who are both (us) there isn't one for that group. I can't think of any off the top of my head, can you? It should be something that represents both identities. If you don't know of any and you want to, write your own song.

After a week of this post being out, I will make a poll on this very same sub with all (maybe) of the suggestions I get so we can all to vote on it.

My kind of affection

Here is a place for you to ask the people of this subreddit if you're aro/bi/both! If you are questioning, this can be one of the best tools you can use to figure out your identity. Feel free to ask your questions here (along with the appropriate info, cause that's necessary for people to help). And all of you who have come to your realizations and have experience with questioning, please reply to at least one question here, just to help people out. 💚🖤🤍🩷💜💙

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I have had a bit of a hard time with people not understanding what aromantic means. That has probably been the hardest thing about this, but it wasn't even really that hard. Everyone has made it pretty easy. What was the hardest thing for you guys?

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Hello everyone! I'm glad you all decided to join and I hope our community continues to grow!

I got a pin with the aromantic flag on it from a friend. My family saw it and, understandably, had questions about it. I had been wanting to tell them for weeks now but I never knew how to bring it up. I told them and they were very understanding, but they didn't really know what it meant. Then, after what was pretty much the trial run (telling them I was aro), I told them I was bi. It went really well and I'm so happy it did!

There are two flags that are used for Bisexual Aromantic people (when they are referred to at all. Which of them do you prefer?

Yoooo! This is a new subreddit for all those folks who are both Aromantic and Bisexual; such as myself. Please keep things clean here, I have no restriction on it, but I do ask that we all be good people and just keep it clean.

Now, I have no idea if this subreddit will catch on and will lots of members, but if you fit the criteria (just be both aromantic and bisexual) then please consider joining.

Thank you!