Okay, so... Last year, I realized I was on the arospec. I'm "strictly" ace. Mostly bc I'm also sex-repulsed, feel no attraction whatsoever and cetera... And someone told me that acemid would fit better when I said I was angled aroace.

So... my question : can I be angled aroace and acemid or it's impossible ?

Nota Bene : my perception of romantic love is quite strange too. For me, it's like a friendship with sometimes cuddles and hugs, only pecks (can't stand actual kisses and all) and mostly it works as a friendship with... some blurry lines toward romance ? Like, the two people are a couple but also and mostly friends... How the hell do we even call that ?

(sorry that makes two questions T_T)

EDIT : I also know from experience that what can destroy me emotionally in a break-up is if the platonic aspect is also severed. Like- I could live with the romantic/love break-up. But the platonic/friendship one is just atrocious.

I see heaps of people here making charts. They look really cool, and I would like to make one for fun. Is there a post somewhere that describes in what order to put the labels/flow chart kinda thing. I would just like to know the quick basics to organise it 🙃 thanks

So me and my partner have done loads of things since my previous post, while my sexual attraction is super low and I'm for sure either greyromantic or aroflux. I love them so much and happy to have a more accurate label

I know I'm aroace but whether I'm oriented or angled I'm no sure any longer. I use to be so sure I was orientated, but I recently started dating my new partner and feel so much attraction to them, in a romantic sense. If kind of scares me how much they make me feel, but who knows anymore

Someone who is oriented aroace and angled aroace at the same time!Oriented angled aroace individuals are not strictly aroace, and they experience a form of attraction that has a place to warrant beside their arospec and acespec identities but most of the time their attraction might be aesthetic, alterous, platonic, queeplatonic and/or sensual but they sometimes have the possibility of being a form of sexual and/or romantic attraction. Definition and flag design coined by me, please credit if you want to use this flag!

like, oriented aroace people have flags, gay people have flags, straight people have flags.. is there one for bi-angled aroace or is it just the bi flag and the angled aroace flag?

I have finally decided on the microlabels that suit me best. Demirose, Pseudosexual, Miransexual and Lithromantic. Just wondering, as the title says. I'm trying to find a catch all term. I've been kinda using aroaceflux.

Hello. I, a teenager, have been questioning my sexuality for a long time now. I've never been content with my label but I feel like I've finally found one that I can feel comfortable with. The label being: omni-angled aroace. I identify as omniromantic and heterosexual, meaning I can experience romantic attraction to any gender (with a preference for male and female) but only experience sexual attraction to the opposite sex (male). And it gets even more complicated since I'm also on the aroace spectrum, specifically an angled aroace (demiromantic and demisexual to be exact).

I was raised in a fairly homophobic household. Everyone around me would be saying disgusting things about the LGTBQ+ community for unknownst reasons. Maybe it's because they are religious (not to a extreme degree) or maybe it's just because that's how they were raised to think but it always made me uncomfortable and I didn't know why. In primary school, kids around me would start having those childish crushes, you know, the holding hands and giving little kisses on the cheek type of thing, while I couldn't feel more indifferent to it. My parents would always joke around and say: ,, Awww wouldn't it be cute if you and (my guy bestfriend's name) would get married in the future?'', so I convinced myself that I want to marry him. This scenario happened with both of my childhood guy bestfriends and looking back, I never liked them, it was purely platonic and I had just convinced myself that I liked them since the adults around me were saying I did. Entering my secondary school (age 10/11) I still felt indifferent about romance and still haven't had a single crush. ''But it's alright'' I thought, convincing myself that I was just a later bloomer compared to the other kids. At this time my girl bestfriend confessed to me, I respectfully rejected her because I was too scared about what my parents would think. I don't remember having strong romantic feelings for her but they were defenitely different compared to the ones I had with my previous besties. She was devastated  but we agreed on continuing our friendship since it was precious to us both and she procedeed to move on which I'm happy about. This is when I first started thinking about my sexuality and ended up on the term bisexual which I ended up labeling myself as for a long time. But coming into 6th grade people around me starting getting into actual relationship. Yes, most of the times they weren't serious and would end up breaking up after a few weeks or maybe like 1-3 months but it were still relationships. I felt left out, ''why do I feel like the only one who is being left out?'' ''what does it feel like to like someone'' ''wait, have I had crushes yet?'' ''why is no one attractive''. Now it seems obvious that I was on the aroace spectrum but little me didn't know that yet and felt like I was abnormal and that my lack of romantic feelings was wrong. My cousin came out as gay so it made me open up about being bicurious. Both my cousin and my bestie were supportive and they still are! (I don't know what I would do without them) but I still felt uncomfortable about opening up to my relatives because they were and still are homophobic. Then my bestie got into one relationship and after that another, i was supportive but this made me feel even more alone. My cousin also started talking about the crushes he had, ''why does it feel like I'm the only one in this whole world, who feels like this'' is what I thought.

At the end of 7th grade I decided to read more about the lgbtq+ community and stumpled across the aroace term. ''There are people like me'', I finally felt like I belonged. At the start of 8th grade I learned about demisexuality and demiromanticism. ''These terms describe me even better, I can't imagine myself having a crush on someone I met a week ago but I can imagine it if we had a strong emotional bond''. I came upon a reddit post where a person talks about their journey finding out that they are a bi-oriented aroace. ''You can be aroace while identifying as bi?''. I could imagine myself being in relationships with both men and women so i put the label bi-angled aroace on myself. Not too long ago I discovered the term omniromantic (being romantically attracted to all genders with preference) and it described my romantic attraction perfectly. But what about  my sexual attraction? I'm 14, children this age arleady have sexual urges, it's normal. I knew that I'm demisexual but I could only imagine myself having a sexual relationship with a male. I can imagine myself kissing, cuddling, sharing a bed, holding hands, hugging and having romantic feelings for a female but I can't imagine going as far as sex. So I'm heterosexual then? Sexual attraction and romantic attraction are two different things so yes I can identify as heterosexual and omniromantic simultaniously, is what I found out through a few google searches and which is how I came to my current label, omni-angled aroace.

This is the label that hits the closest home, it makes me feel comfortable. I'm so happy to finally be content with what I identify as. I came out to my cousin and bestfriend, they don't fully understand it but they support me. I don't know if I'll ever be  able to come out to my parents and grandparents, they want me to have kids but what if I end up in a relationsip with a woman? Will I ever be in a relationship and if yes, how long will it take? These questions make me anxious, they make me feel like I'm a dissapointment to them. I want to come out to my brother in the future since I have a close relationship with him and I know that he's not homophobic. My sister already figured it out and she has no negative opinion on it, ''It's so obvious that you're not straight'', were her words. Maybe someday I will feel like I can finally fully belong but for know, it's still scary and difficult. Sending out love to all the aroaces out there. 🖤

Hello! I am unsure whether I can use the term “bi-angled aroace.” For context, I…

-Am greyromantic -Probably also on the ace spectrum (still figuring that out) -Have experienced attraction to two genders (although not the same kinds of attraction)

Thanks for your help. :)

Hi friends. I have been doing some soul searching and I believe I am acesepc and arospec. More specifically I hold these identities:

-demisexual/romantic -reciprosexual/romantic -asexual (aegosexual)

I also know that I am Pan (probably Pan aesthetic or romantic- be of the two).

Questions:

1. Is the angled label right with the identities that I hold
2. How often do you share the “angled” part f your identity when being AroAce?

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I have been questioning my identity recently and it's become very frustrating, especially as a non-binary grey-aroace person. I can be a aesthetically and sensually attracted to anyone of any gender, including men, but I'm at the point where I'm not sure if I could experience sexual/romantic attraction to men, considering it takes so much time and emotional connection for me to get to that point and I heavily prefer women/feminine presenting non-binary people (most my closest friends are non-binary/women, and I think in order for me to experience any sexual/romantic attraction to someone, they basically have to be the person I am most close to in my life). I know there are oriented aroace lesbians, but I want to see if there are any lesbians who are not strictly aroace and if the genders in which tertiary and sexual/romantic attraction are felt towards actually match up. I also know labels don't matter much and I don't have to know what I am, I just struggle to be patient in figuring things out/labeling myself.

I've been trying to understand the difference between Angled Aroace and Amid and am getting nowhere. Any help with interpreting this?

Geez my sexuality is a lot more complicated than I thought 😓😓 I rlly thought I was bisexual when I first learned about sexualities 💀 and then it turned into this hellhole LOL

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I'm not allo, I'm just asking your opinion. I know Electio, Oriented and Angled are usually for aroaces, but I don't think it's impossible for someone to be allo in one (or maybe even both?) way (or ways) but still value their tertiary attractions comparably, equally or even more.

So if someone experiences, for example, romantic and sensual attractions but not sexual, could they call themselves Angled AlloAce? Should they make a different term like electio (for anattractional people), oriented (for aroaces with zero romantic and sexual attraction) and angled (for aroaces with little romantic and/or sexual attraction) distinguished themselves?

I'm so happy I found this term! I used to use lots of micro-labels but this is so much easier to say. so uh hello :) I am a bi-angled aroace

I just don't know how to be out to people anymore like what do I say "ah yes hello fellow lgbt person I am also lgbt, what's that you ask? Whats my identity? Ah well a gay angled aroace! Ah you don't know what that is? Well guess I'll have to explain in excruciating detail and hope to god I give my explanation enough justice that you are convinced it is a valid identity" and then repeat it over and over again?

Like don't get me wrong I wanna so bad but it's just difficult.