hey there! i wanted to ask y'all something as i've been questioning my romantic orientation as of late and i think y'all might be able to help me

so, i've been recently wondering if i fall somewhere on the aromantic spectrum, i currently identify as omniromantic + abroromantic achillean. i'm asexual and i always saw the meme of aces finding out they were actually aroace to some extent after finding out what aromanticism was (this insta reel sums it up pretty well lol), i thought i was not aroace for a while because i've read up on a lot of what being aromantic was, it was for my OCs mostly, but still aromanticism didn't fit me, until a while ago, now i'm currently thinking i'm either grey or demi romantic, as those labels are the closest fit, yet they don't fit perfectly, like a pair of pants that is a size too big, it is not uncomfortable but it's not comfortable either, i've searched through a lot of aro labels and none seem right but i don't feel like i'm alloromantic either

it may be that, because i'm abroromantic, i'm just currently going though a patch of aromanticism but i don't think is that because: 1) my abro usually fluctuates between preferences very fast, not staying the same for more than a day, usually changing by the hour, and it always has a male preference, and i've had had aro days before, and it was always a like "why even bother with romantic relationships, it doesn't sound good" before my abro switch back to my usual "omg i love men! i wanna cuddle with boys UwU" and even to my least usuals of "woman are so pretty! i wanna be held by one QwQ" and "having a nonbiny partner would rock :D"; 2) i've realized that i've never "fallen in love" in my life, i've never felt what people say falling in love feels like, never got closed to someone and wish they were my partner, every time i felt "love" was always theoretical or daydreams, like a "i would love to have a partner and do X and Y with them", maybe this is do to me always being a loner all my life so i've never had a friend close enough to fall in love with and nobody ever confessed to me so i never had to consider love in any capacity until now

something i wanna note is that i don't feel like i'm cupioromantic as i feel like i can experience romantic attraction, it has just not happened yet irl, as i've fallen in love/have romantic partners in dreams so i feel like i'm able to be romantically attracted to someone and be in a romantic relationships, tho it might be that i'm just yumeromantic? (i think i am but that still doesn't fully answer my question). also i've had a few squishes (ace crushes) before too, it is rare but it has happened, my most current one being a kinda parasocial one to the youtuber Oz Media, i just hear him talk about stuff he likes and i'm like "you sound so lovely! i would love to be with you/someone like you" (just saying this to give more context)

so yeah, i need some opinions/advise on this, is this experience aro-spec? is there a label for it? or am i just greyromantic + yumeromantic and confused? i know a lot of y'all are aro-spec so maybe there's someone how knows what this is, cause i really would like to find answers and a label for this lol

So im looking for some alien related genderz. I am aliengender, but I am searching for any space or star related ones. Plus alien related ofc. Idrk what else to say, thats mainly it haha.

I just want more alien stuff for my hoard (ofc if i relate to it that is lol)

so please gimme suggestionz and stuff. i might coin some termz for myself because i do have some termz in mind. anyways yer, thatz all lol

WHATATTATATATATTATATATATtAATTATATATTATATA

who was going to tell me what gaybian is first it was Lesboys now

who was

I don't even have a shocked enough reaction image why is this me help sos sos im gay sos

this is the second time all of y'all r seeing me go thru it rn who buried these labels I am just now being informed of them I feel so alive but also WOOOAHAHHWHARARRRRTTTTT WOAH! WHAT! WOAHHH WHATTT!!!! WOH

am I allowed to even be gaybian lesboy pansexual this feels right I didn't know other people felt this too I thought I was just crazy am I crazy am I insane this is wild this is crazy

I like finding things out abt my identity im just so shocked who cloned me and named it "gaybian"

the end thank you for coming to my tedtalk

My hoard is so big by now lol (for me anyway)

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Okay now that I've got that out of the way, I can add on more.
I've talked to my therapist about the whole thing a little more and even brought up the term "median system" up to her. told her a little about it. She said something along the lines of like,, it's a possibility and that most people don't acknowledge their other aspects of themself, and perhaps that is what I'm doing?? but I don't know, that doesn't sound fully,, correct? if that makes sense?
Now, I will add on, some slightly sensitive information
But not go into depth too much-

So I recently moved away from my mom to live with my aunt because my mom wasn't being the greatest. I was a caretaker for my stepdad who's in his 40's, an army vet, and has physical problems that flare up from time to time, causing him to get sick- And my mother didn't help with him so I had to do that-
I think part of this is a slight Identity crisis, but at the same time I've had time to allow myself to fully discover myself.

I know I do not have D.I.D because I would've noticed (with the memory gaps and like being confused abt missing memory). I don't have O.S.D.D. either because I think I also would've noticed at a certain point.
And most I know is that it's caused by pretty early childhood trauma (ages 5-10 or so). Most of my trauma started from 10 and onward, not including the mild abuse my ex step mom gave me by body shaming me and brushing my hair too hard.

I still have a lot of research to do but there are SO so little sources for information due to how understudied and whatnot it is-
I don't want to say I'm a system and have people be like "Well actually, I haven't seen any of that" because they've known me for some time.

Hopefully this clears some stuff up?? or isn't too much or anything

Also I am self diagnosed with (Complex)PTSD, and autism. (WITH RESEARCH AND OTHER PEOPLE [therapist and family/friends] AGREEING WITH ME)
Formally (officially) diagnosed with ADHD, Depression, and anxiety-

NGL I just want to see if anyone relates, I swear any neo pronoun I see I'm just like "oh I could use that" "I could use that too" like there are some i prefer (like wolf, doll, xe, cake, bark?) but all of them are kinda fun for me. Like detective? That's sick. Cat? Blood? Yeah sure I could use those pronouns.

Do you have to relate to your labels to hoard?

Because from what i know, its just a bunch of labels you relate to one way or another so you "collect" them.

But ive seen people say they rlly like smth so they wanna hoard xenogenders based on that thing. But do u actually relate to it? cuz maybe they left the part out where they want terms cuz they relate to them but i feel like it wouldnt make sense to hoard genders just cuz u like their meanings.

I searched up "music" in this community to see if there were any music based xenogenders cuz my gender is kinda influenced by music and i wanted to.. hoard. And i found a post asking for music xenogenders, but this person only said they rlly rlly liked music so they wanted to find music xenogenders?

But they never rlly stated whether they wanted terms they'd relate to or they just wanted terms, so it confused me.

I feel like you'd have to relate to it on some level, not just "I like dogs a lot so imma hoard pupgender, doggender, etc". Idrk a lot about hoarding but ive seen other people say things like this.

but yeah lemme know cuz im confused

So like my friend threw a rock about the size of my palm at this other guy's face for no reason. Like I was there and the guy was just standing there with his friends. The rock hit this dude right in the mouth, making him bleed like crazy. Then both came into the bus, to soonly get brought back into the school by our principal.

The guy who got hit with the rock is getting lunch detention for "aggravating him" (he didn't I saw the whole situation$

My friend who threw the rock got a talking to with no punishment.

This surely seems unfair to other people, right?

And this isn't the first violent thing my friend has done, just the first that caused blood.

I want to stop being friends with him a lot. I was planning on talking with him next week, assuming he'd get suspended but now he's gonna be at school, on Halloween. Halloween's my favourite day of the year and I really don't want there to be any drama.

So I guess my main question is, what would y'all suggest to make it through tomorrow?

Tl;dr: My friend threw a rock at someone and made them bleed for absolutely no reason. Friend is getting no punishment but the guy who got rock thrown at him got lunch detention. Now friend is gonna be at school on Halloween but I don't wanna be friends with him, but also I don't want my Halloween to be ruined.

I've started hoarding green genders and I need more! (I already have: greengender, darkgreengender, sagegreengender, neongreengender, greenaesic, greenlidarkaesic, and greenlightaesic)

Looking for fog and static related genders, well as vague/thing genders (already have forestthing, staticgender, foretidian, thingmutt, anomalic, and dymalic)

No fem genders please, thank you in advance! :D

So I have a friend who thinks she may be on the asexual spectrum and if so wants to know what exactly she is, I asked her some questions as to what could be signs she's on the asexual spectrum

1. Dislike towards acting, appearing or being sexual
2. Hates talking about sex mostly, but maybe could have sex
3. Hates mostly everything sexual
4. On a scale from 0 to 10 in terms of sexual attraction it could maybe be a 6
5. Jokes w/ friends are ok though mostly with partners not as much it seems
6. Has to be emotionally bonded to be sexually attracted (leads me to think she's demisexual or a type of demisexuality)
7. Mostly people talking about her body really puts her off

Does anyone know if this aligns with a specific term or something on the ace spectrum?

Some that are not just plain batgender bc I have that in my hoard already

https://pronouns.cc/@TheScotoHiveMind/Boundaries%20and%20Triggers

We’ve seen people sending pronouns.cc pages here’s ours, and if anybody of age/in the age range wants to chat dms are open and disord is also open. 16+ only, no NSFW.

Discord- .theanimator

I know this is a xenogender subreddit, but it's the only one I really like and trust posting on.

Can someone make a genet and aardwolf therian flag?

I’m pretty when it comes to questioning a identity it ends with “curious”

My name is Springtrap, and I’m here with a few other headmates and all of us have to hide our voices and our personal selves because Vessels’ biological father is fucking ignorant and doesn’t accept that headmates/DID/OSDD-1/Any personality disorders are real. He thinks he’s right we’re wrong so now we gotta be quiet because he doesn’t believe us, and it takes a shit load of ‘don’t do it’ from everybody for me not to lose it on him.

So I'm a very paranoid person and just recently made the decision to stop using my irl first name in favor of the name I usually use online. But I can't help but feel I'm making myself a little more vulnerable to the dangers of doxxing by doing this since it's making it easier to draw a connection between my irl persona and my online one. Does anyone else share in this feeling? Any advice?

https://en.pronouns.page/@SomeoneShiny

take a look nd feel free 2 share urs!!! :D always happy 2 steal other peoples genders :3 feel free 2 steal any of mines 2 if u wanna!!! >_< alsoooo ill be postin about all the ones i made but haven't posted about yet soon lol :p

Either xengoenders or neopronouns or anything else, I am just looking for stuff purely more masculine or neutral masculine (Not connected to feminity or connected to being assigned AFAB). Anything leaning more into "dark" or psychic stuff is also much appreciated.