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I graduated from a tier one college and thought about pursuing higher studies abroad but unfortunately a civil war broke out in my target country and I decided not to pursue this , my backup country was UK (despite getting offers) and they started rolling anti immigrant laws like hot chapathis and the whole anti immigrant thing was going on in September, which was the intake time.Fast forward to December I am sitting for placements in my college because the company I got a job offer from last year rescinded the offer when the market crashed,was shortlisted for the only UX profile after the whole processes but HR today morning suddenly realised that they cannot intake 2024 graduates and the interview yesterday called me in for last round and then told me it was some logistics from the PoC and kicked me out, why am I constantly getting kicked back to the curb after being dangled with hope , atm i just want to land something and get this done with my heart cant take no more of this BS.I bawled my eyes out havent slept yesterday and feel like absolute shit.

I (27F) have never travelled outside India. I want to plan an international trip with my family in February/March 2025. Here are some important details:

Travellers: Me (27F), Mom (61F), Dad (65M) and Sister (38F)

Food: Hard core non vegetarians (sister and I eat everything, dad eats chicken and may even eat pork, mom only eats fish, prawns and eggs)

Health: Mom has Parkinsons and she had a spine surgery a few months ago and although she is allowed to travel, she can’t walk or stand for longer duration

Income: We come from a middle class family and we haven’t really travelled much our whole lives

Interests: Sister and I love Cantonese, Japanese and Thai food and we love unique and off-beat locations

Total Budget: INR 4 lakhs

Days: 5 nights, 6 days

Given all the above, we were thinking of going to Hong Kong and Macau as the Visa is free. Sister and I could take a day to Disneyland while our parents chill. We want to try all the popular eateries and tourist places, but a little bit of research says that the food is expensive and so would be cab fare. Since my mom is not completely physically fit, taking metros may not be ideal for her. Also, Hong Kong seems like a place that needs to be explored on foot.

We’re a bit confused. Need your inputs to understand which place would be a good fit for us. And if you have any suggestions for Hong Kong, please tell us.

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Is there a website that is for more qualified people/people with better jobs? Kerala Matrimony is shit and I only see gold diggers there. I found really bad options on Shaadi.com and Bharat Matrimony as well. Or should I just keep left swiping and find the needle in the haystack?

Hi there, ladies!

I start my workout regimen tomorrow, today had a stress test and was finally cleared to start. Now here’s the catch - I have really comfy workout clothes, but need to figure out good inner wear.

Also, I have always been heavy at my bust and hips, so running has always been a bummer! (No pun intended) I really am on the lookout for good sports bras especially because it hurts like crazy without the support. Also, wouldn’t mind good sports underwear recommendations to prevent chafing.

I have three from Puma, two from Adidas that I wear on the daily but I wear them because they eliminate the need for a bra and are comfy, but don’t really give your biddies any support. Kinda hate that I spent so much on them back then when I bought it, but now making the most use of it irrespective.

If any fellow big biddy ladies have any recommendations, do let me know! Also, for reference, I am an F, so the options for anything under 2K are so few! I really don’t want to spend that much on one.

How does one deal with having no emotional support when they are going through a difficult period? when you either don't have loved ones or don't want to put them through that cause they have their own traumas to deal with? I was talking to a friend and was telling them to stay and continue talking to me because I was feeling very low but they didn't and that just made me feel worse because I don't know anyone who would do that for me, just stay. how do you deal with things by yourself? Not need to talk about it with anyone or just want anyone for moral support

I’ve been dreading my birthdays for the last few years. I turn 23 this week. Some of my friends and cousins are planning a birthday bash which I absolutely do NOT want. I just feel very introspective and moody when my birthday is around (not the way I usually am). Not sure how to politely tell people to just leave me alone on my birthday.

Hi everyone,

I’m a 39-year-old who feels stuck in a loop of neither being able to enjoy life nor save enough money. Every time I look around, I see people—many of them much younger than me—going on foreign trips, partying regularly, and dining at fancy restaurants. Meanwhile, I refrain from all these indulgences, thinking it will help me save more, but I still end up saving only 2-3K a month.

I don’t splurge on luxuries or expensive hobbies. Most of my expenses go toward necessities, family commitments, and small comforts here and there. Yet, I’m unable to accumulate substantial savings or afford experiences that bring joy and excitement.

It makes me wonder, Am I managing my finances poorly? Or is this just how life is for someone at my age and stage? Is this FOMO making me feel worse than I should?

I don’t expect to live extravagantly, but I do want to feel like I’m making progress—either financially or in terms of experiences.

Not so formal wears,preferably closed from front (no birkenstocks then)
With flowy pants
Casual yet edgy
I am in a real dilemma; all I understand is shoes, but enough. T_T help me, y'all.

I have never been to a party like that. My friend is a little upset that her partner went to a bachelor party of his friend and they had a cake in shape of woman's vagina. I have no idea how it looked like or anything. She told me it was bunch of boys in that party. She told me she was feeling very weird and a little disgusted trying to picture that. We were just wondering if it's a common thing in such parties? what exactly different happens in such parties??

I started working out 3 weeks ago. For the most part, I have tried to be regular. Every day brings a new set of challenges. The most difficult part I am facing currently is the pain in the muscles after workout. How to get relief from this pain because its hurting a lot. I cannot keep sane. Can't focus on anything.

Past three days I worked on my chest, triceps and back. My workout includes:

15 mins of cardio + 10 mins of stretching + 30 mins of exercise for the specific muscle group.

Experienced gym goers, I need your suggestions.

Hello Girls, do you have any recommendations for leggings from online store. Something in budget, I have used only “go colours” always but dude the prices! This time I want to buy in bulk for maybe just 6month use. Hence not keen on shelling out lot of money. Myntra hs some options of 3/4 piece combo. I am in general sensitive to certain fabrics so something reliable that you have used and can recommend will be of great help. Love!!!

Also any nykaa makeup product for dark circle under eye coverage? I do not use make up, I need something to just lighten the appearance of dark circles. Lately I can be identified as a close cousin of Raccoon.

As the title says, I got eve teased this evening. I was on my way home, when I heard two people on a bike pass a comment “baal khule chhode hai item ekdam” something along those lines. Initially I heard only something like “khule baal” but as I walked a few steps ahead, they parked their bike and passed just beside me and said the same line again. Mind you, the area I was passing by was like the main road, with plenty of shops around.

I froze in the moment and didn’t know what to do. I walked as fast as I could and reached home safely. I used to feel safe in Mumbai; having grown up here, never thought id say this but I’ve started questioning the safety of myself and other women here.

I am really tired of all the sexism we encounter on the internet on the daily and would instead like to engage in positive women-centric spaces. It can be a subreddit, a content creator's community, a discord server, anything.
I've been following thatgirlevia on Insta for some time and I love her pilates content!
I also loveee sabrinaalexis7pets! She makes content with her pets and her fashion is IMPECCABLE!
Please share your recommendations in the comments.

Hey my friend needs urgent help, she is currently not working. Hence she is looking for some affordable abortion centres, we looked for a place and it looked quite shady plus they are charging 45k. Any help would be appreciated.

I'm a 32B and I'm searching for good 'lightly-padded' t-shirt bra. I've been using zivame for the last 2 years but those got stolen in my hostel.

I'm searching for bras which are comfortable and gives good shape. Support isn't a big factor to me.

My budget is 400-700 rupees. Actually I really wanted to buy the 'wunderlove' from Westside because I had tried it on and it was so so comfortable but, I don't have the budget right now.

So please give good suggestions.

Also, I've never used jockey. How are the jockey t-shirt bras?

When I see my trajectory of life it's very similar to my mum's and I don't really want to end up like her even in y wildest of my dreams. I want to change so much about me. Ofc I know she is my parent n I would be having her traits too but not this much. I tried doing for everything opposite n yet I am here. If u have ever witnessed something like that how did u cope?

Found this in another subreddit n so I googled abt her. She was a single mother when she was hired to do this work.

So more power to all the mothers out there ✨ amd a biiiiig F U to those who tell women to choose between motherhood n career 🙂

I easily gain back the weight what to do pls share tips & whatever helped u

Hi amazing women of this sub! Hope y'all had a great weekend. I am 26F and have been under a dermat for 10 years. I dealt with forehead acne as a teenager, so I reached out to her. I have been following her routine ever since, consulting her occasionally for any major changes.

The products she suggested to me were: Episoft Facewash (both AM and PM), Cetaphil moisturiser (both AM and PM), Episoft Sunscreen (AM) and Acnepads infused with Glycolic and Salicylic Acid (to clean face at PM). When I used to have any major breakout she would suggest (in addition to the things mentioned above): Salicylic Acid gel (AM), Adapalene + Benzoyl Peroxide (PM) + Clindamycin (PM). But these were only to be used when I had active acne and not regularly.

Now I once asked her if I should incorporate some active serums or retinol in my skincare routine but she refused saying I don't need anything at this point in time. My skin is decent- not bad but not too great. It might be from my pov since I see people with bright, glowing, supple skin all the time whereas mine fluctuates a lot. She says my skin is fine and I should continue with my basic skincare. I can't experiment with my skin a lot since it's too sensitive and once I tried using Vitamin C serum & it led to bumps on my forehead.

My dermat is great and one of the very trusted docs in the city and her treatment always shows great results for me. But I am confused as to what should I do. I really want to make my skin look always glowy and supple. Do you guys have any suggestions? Thankyou and

It doesn't really have to be gender or society related but just your partner being an absolute idiot

Remember someone who's birthday gift was robbed by her roomie? Hi guys it's been just few days and I got so many suggestions. But first. I want to thank one redditor who gifted me peri pera!! I love women (exceptions exist)istg. Y'all are just amazing ethereal beings.

Let's start shall we?

I woke up next day to find my roomie all decked up AND I'M DEAD SURE SHE USED MY GLOSS, Because pray tell me why did she suddenly spawned with a gloss when she never had any before. Okay tho I didn't say anything. We were not talking.

I did 3 things- one was to buy the roadside huda beauty stuff and for some reason they actually had some expensive brand dupes. I bought them all. And guess what, some got missing again. Ngl this is very stupid of her because bro atleast give some rest, you're just confirming that it's you!?! Donno if she used it or not, I hope she does.

2nd - I began taking her stuff away one by one. And stashed them in dustbin/Nescafe/ and took her expensive (woosh woosh stuff) and I just threw them away. Idc man I was just way too angry to even think at that moment ngl.

3- I bought a goddamn locker. AND THAT WOMAN HAD THE GALLS TO ACT UPSET. "I don't understand the need for locker, why would you even spend your money for one?" I talked about the theft, she nodded and asked if she could stash her stuff too. (At this point I was just impressed because wow, the audacity lmao ) Obviously had to act all sweet and say I'm sorry but I'm putting my whole stuff here.

I threw almost 1/3 rd of her wardrobe. Which included small stuff like comb and what not, because those are some basic needs that will create issues on a day to day basis. And I stopped locking my door just like the way she does. What's the point of locking the door when thief is deadass inside.

Ig around 2days later she created some noise about losing stuff. Next day she became ballistic. Apparently her expensive bracelet was missing. Who knows who took it? She blamed me. I blamed open door and my peri pera thief. Istg bro couldn't say anything. Next day she became violent and alleged that I took her woosh woosh stuff because I believe that she took my gift. I asked her to involve the warden, which obviously she can not because of the toys hahahaha,

I'll keep it very short now because I guess I got carried away. She almost became physically violent but people backed me up, everyone searched our room which she agreed too because I was not letting her seach my room but when others offered to search, I agreed. Guess what? She was out hostel's bra thief, took a lot of stuff from many other people and suddenly whole dorm was inside our room searching her stuff, they were wary about my involvement as well but they know that my own stuff were missing. Her boyfriend stepped in. Mean while my guy friends searched the boyfriend's room AND GUESS WHAT THEY FOUND EVERYTHING. I MEAN EVERYTHING THAT WAS MISSING. I still don't know where my gloss is. She is rn moving her stuff out, people have threatened her with legal complaints and boyfriend was also caught since her had alcohol with him, most likely will be fined idk... I'm currently eating kurkure and browsing mascara options online, (PLEASE SUGGEST ANY AFFORDABLE OPTION:) While she's crying and moving in with another person. I think my new roommate is atleast better than this one ngl.

So yea happy birthday to me ig, this one was very eventful. Peace out.

What other stuff should I invest in before pursuing this hobby?

Pls give brand recommendations and links if possible!

Edit - I ordered campus k mesh slip on shoes heheh thanks everyone for commenting, it sort of motivated me :)))

I was seeing my picture and I can see one eyebrow being above the other and even my shoulders are not aligned.

The thing is, my face was symmetrical when I was younger and it kind of started becoming asymmetrical in my early 20s and now I am in my late 20s.

I want to know, if it is possible to fix it because I once had a symmetrical face to begin with.

No, this is not a relationship post. This is me asking how can I move on from last year. This time last year was very tough for me. The whole of December was just traumatic. School was killing me I had too many exams, my mother, grandmother were ill. There was a lot of pressure in school, tuition and home. My classmates were a bitch.

I got ill and my mental health became the worst it ever was. I would sleep 5-6 hours only daily and cry every night, every day.

My father scolded me a lot, so did my teachers. And then there was a whole thing with my crush.

Everyday I open photos, and go back only to relive the past. It has become impossible for me to move on, and it's hindering my studies. How can I forget the past? I'm shaking& crying rn just thinking about it.

A close friend is in a very sad state where her MIL and husband (abetted by his mom) absolutely emotionally abuse her. Over chores, cooking, her work. While what to do is her prerogative (leave, stay) I really am agonizing over it. How does one support their friend through this?

Hello everyone, I stopped using insta back during lockdown. It was the time of quarantine when everyone were at home. I started seeing toxic energy there. It was the time when bullies were began to call 'dank'. Reels were also introduced. I was preparing for my competitive exams and those reels made me feel very lifeless. Everyone there were showing their 'happening life' and i was sitting at home studying. Now that i look back to my decision of deleting my insta account, i feel it was the best decision of all. So who else is not on insta and does not plan to go back?

I was supposed to sing 4 songs. Last time I had only 2 and I sang them well. Idk this time everything was uncomfortable.

The first two songs were fine but I could feel the difference from last time in the first song itself. Even the mic felt off. I always had trouble taking high notes. But in the practice sessions I could reach the high notes and could've been even higher. But in the performance, I had to take so much stress to reach that. It was all stomach voice. Or chest voice.

Now I've next one scheduled on 21st. Now how will I be confident? I wasn't nervous at all.

Had a shaky voice even distortions in the tune but at least I looked okay today lol.

These events were the only thing I look forward to.

Now the thing is my last performance went well. Got compliments. It happens to me everytime that the first time goes well then on it doesn't. It's never like I'm full of pride or anything. Why does everything try to "humble" me or smth then?

Getting married in Jan. Tell me what to expect..