Today I'm aching for a real connection with someone who gets me. I want to scream into a pillow. I want to punch a wall. I want to break some dishes. I want to cry with hopes that these tears wash away all the anger and disgust I feel towards humanity.

Ahoo Daryaei. Mahsa Amini. Josseli Barnica. Nevaeh Crain. Amber Nicole Thurman. Candi Miller. Maha Kazem Zaatari. Hind Rajab. Hanan Abd Alrahman Abu Salama. Aysenur Ezgi Eygi. Israa Ghrayeb. The list is so long and incomplete. None of these women are bengali but they were my sisters.

I feel defeated.

I just need a hug from someone so that I feel like everything will be okay even if it's just for a minute. Please reach out.

I (20M) am currently an admission candidate, preparing myself for the hell that's coming in a few months. This is my first reddit post and I don't know where to start.

It's been a year since me and my girlfriend started dating. She's the love of my life. I love her way too much, and the same goes for her as well, but we sure have been through literal definition of "hell" throughout the whole year, gracefully, because of our families. I'm telling you, I have seen a lot of people, and I know how fucking horrible this world is, but I haven't seen a single pair of human as horrible and evil as her parents. I'm writing this down as I can't sleep, keeping my horrible urge to punch my wall and bruise my goddamn hands in check. This shit helped me a bit a few months ago but bruising my hands now can ruin my career now.

Her parents are the absolutely the most toxic, abusive and sadistic animals I've ever seen. She's barely able to concentrate on her studies and she's crying all day, cause her mom is continuously barking at her for little to no reason and at this point she's literally enjoying abusing her. They seized her phone too and they're not letting her make contract with anyone. She says I'm the only reason she's still breathing, she can't let go of a future that we dreamed of. Her results aren't coming great cause of all the shit, making her mom more abusive. She's literally studying 10 hours a day and still they're saying she's not studying at all. They're not even letting her sleep, taking her to a doctor even though she's sick all the time, saying "thik hoye jabe tumi dhong korteso, beshi korle khaowa bondho kore dibo". And now they're threatening her they'll marry her off if she doesn't get chance in BUET. Prottek din ei kotha boltese. They've been physically abusive to her too, and I don't want to think about it right now, I'll lose my psyche. Recently she's saying if they try to marry her off to someone else she'll kill herself, and I've seeing her suffering every single day I know she's not "just saying" it.

We got caught a few months ago and things got far worse. Her parents hate me, and my father literally called them and said I'm a crackhead, I've fucked other girls before etc. He said way worse things we don't even know anything about. I have no idea how a father can say such disgusting lies about his own son. My family's always been abusive like hers, I'm 20 and they still don't let me get out of the house, I can't even hang out with a friend without my mom calling him 10 times every hour. N.B. my father graduated from BUET and he's a government officer, I don't know why he did something degenerate like this. All these took us to one inch from killing ourselves, I still haven't gotten over that trauma yet, it gave me PTSD and paranoia, and made my ADHD worse.

I stopped writing at this point cause writing about it feels pointless now, and the only way I can save her is by getting into a good university and becoming financially independent. Even then, her father is a businessman and what I know is he is a former BNP activist. He does have quite some connections around.

Forced marriages are never legal anywhere right? Is there anything we can do about it if something like that happens? We're planning to get married as soon as I'm 21, even then I'll have to tackle her father as I'm pretty sure he'll pull all the connections he has and put me in jail.(I'll be turning 21 in November 2025). I'm even thinking of making political connections when I get to university even though i fucking hate politics and I wanna stay as far away from it as possible.

Is there anything she can do if they really try to forcibly get her married? I know police won't work...I don't know.

I wanna live my life with her and I wanna see her happy no matter what, there's just no way I can let her go. Her mental health is spiralling downwards every day and I'm the only one who's keeping her mind together, she doesn't have any friends either.

Please let me know what I can do to save her before something bad happens. I can't let anything bad happen to her, I really can't. That'll be the final nail in the coffin for me. I'll do whatever it takes I just need to know what to do... please if any of you have any information about forced marriage laws or what I can do in this situation... please let me know. I've been thinking of changing my birth certificate date and marry her before anything bad happens.

In pictures: Kumari Puja in Dhaka and Chattogram

This happened a week ago. But I can't still get it out of my head. I was called many nasty words indirectly and had to tolerate rude comments directly from distant relatives.

Happened during a family gathering. Its hard to always position my scarf and veil while at home. I was watching a youtube video while laying down in bed. My other cousins were in the room too. Suddenly one of my cousin's grandma from his mom's side came and gave me religious lecture.

Then she went to rant to my aunts and mom that I don't maintain "porda", am "be-haya". I was called in the room my aunts and mom were chit chatting. Got a stern lecture.

So their accusation is my cousin ( who I raised like my son when he was a kid, basically I still remember changing his pants , feeding him bottle milk and liquid food) was "staring" at me. And, somehow its my fault ! Their hypocrisy. He's just a inter 2nd yr kid now. And even if lets assume he was "staring" ; so what ? I know I'm a beautiful woman and people look at me. If he had made me uncomfortable I would've told him so myself.

That hypocrite old hag(OH) was giving me lectures on how women back in sand age middle east never showed face and now in 2024 I'm this this and that according to her , learned a few sacred lines from her too.

According OH, my "value" in marital market has decreased because someone has "seen" me ! You know my aunts and mom too, all of them agreed with OH.

Talking about shapa day, hallfests, maybe hangouts, club activity formal contests (like maybe debate, contests, presentations etc, bosonto boron, university foundation anniversary, saraswati puja and so forth.

Like even type of saree and color advice would be brilliant, I’m out of loop for everything thank you

I am 35f Bangladeshi living in Japan. I will be visiting Bangladesh for a couple of weeks in December. I am looking for semi-formal kameez/kurta with plain and simple design appropriate for my age. I haven’t done shopping in Dhaka for a long time. I am 5’1”, petite built. What are the latest trends in ladies fashion in Dhaka? Edit: I prefer warm muted colors, with small prints or no prints. I am specifically looking for short kurtas.

For those of you who can't read Bangla, the rhyme roughly translates to:

You're goddess, you're matchless

You're feminine, you're virtuous

You're flower, you're florist

You're the one who is Sootlee's dollie

1. All is not as it seems. One id I talked with for days , when I phone called, I realized he was using voice changing app to sound like a woman.
2. Aside from dating app, Idk how to meet women with similar mindset.

My parents will never accept me for who I am. I'm trying for higher studies abroad but my cgpa isn't high. I tried joining a local gym (women only) but not a single person showed romantic interest in me. One aunty who I thought she liked me actually became friends with me so she could suggest her son to me for marriage ! Its frustrating not having a romantic partner. I tried mentioning l,g,b,t,q in my friend circle but all I hear is "haram" "haram".....

I’m not mentally prepared to get married. I have decided that I will not opt for arranged marriage (not saying arranged marriages are bad). How do I make my parents understand this?

PS: I’m too shy to tell them that I want to experience falling in love and starting to think about a future with someone naturally, and not because he’s a suitor.

Reposting here because I got no response on the Dhaka group lol.

Hii peeps,

Will try to take some of your thoughts away from the political stress and anxiety in this subreddit.

To the working women of Dhaka!

I am quite curious if there are any networking groups or fun gathering societies to attend. I lived abroad a few years and moved back to Bangladesh recently. I will be joining a new job so I was curious if there are any events or activities where women can join and basically meet and have fun. Would love to make new friends and connections as most of my friends are abroad.

I would also love to know what is it that you all do beyond work to meet and have fun. What activities or hobbies you would like to do for fun? For example I used to learn horse riding and cafe hopping but obviously cant do the former here so just interested to know specifically about Dhaka career women.

Very excited to hear!

Hey everyone!

I’m in a bit of a tough spot and could use some advice. My girlfriend and I have been in a long-distance relationship for 3 years. I work a 9-6 job, and I try to give her as much time as I can. She has anxiety and often stays awake till morning. The issue is, she sometimes has emotional breakdowns late at night, just as I’m getting ready to sleep. I often accidentally fall asleep while chatting with her, which makes her feel unloved and like I’m faking my feelings.

I’m really not faking, but after dinner, I get super drowsy and just can’t stay awake. She doesn’t understand this and firmly believes I’m not sincere. I can’t marry her until next year, but I want to be there for her now. How can I better support her and help her understand that I truly care?

Any advice is appreciated!

I am M 32 who have pretty bad dark circles under my eyes over 4-5 years thanks to the night shift freelancing work. In recent years it looks pretty bad even for a black skin toned guy. So I am asking the ladies which brand or product should I use because I didn't find any male skincare brand which provides the solution. Any help would be appreciated.

Hi all, I am visiting my relatives in Dhaka the upcoming week and I’d like to take my cousins to a nail salon before our trip. I’ve been a bit lost in finding a salon to go to since I only visit once every a year so this is the first time I’ll actually visit a beauty salon during my visit. My relatives are not familiar with a place to go since all of them get simpler manicures and I’d like for us to get something more interesting. My search only came up to one nail salon and I’ll contact them.

Additionally, could you tell me usually how expensive nail extensions are? I live in Europe and usually get 3d designs so I’ve gotten used to higher prices but it’s out of curiosity to compare. Thank you all in advance :))

i am not allowed to stay out after magrib, can’t go out two days in a row, can’t travel with friends (with my own money), can’t go to movies or concerts without a fight, can’t wear the kind of clothes i want, can’t date, can’t go to work alone, can’t take the cng or rickshaw by myself. the list will go on. and i’ve put up with it for 27 years to keep them happy but i just can’t anymore.

i have the opportunity to leave the country and i have the means to do so but i know that this will create a major rift between my parents and i. i don’t know how to make myself do it. been a “good daughter” has made me deeply unhappy but i don’t know how to break away from the cycle

First context.I am a third year mbbs student in a med school in bd. Used to be computer nerd. For a year only been just studying but nowadays feeling like I need to do start earning a bit. Tuition feels like a good option but personally don't like the idea that I have to deal with hormonal teens and guidebooks again(yuwk!) So want some leads or ideas to use my skills/knowledge from my own domain(medical) to use for earning some bucks. I am willing/able to down 20hours/week if it pays and is something I can do out of my dorm room. Thank you guys a lot from liberated Bangladesh. TLDR:mbbs student WANTS leads or ideas to earn money using medical skills/knowledge by doing any freelancing jobs which need tech+med skills

I wasn't even doing much, just sharing the posts. I just wanted to participate, somehow. I'm stuck at home with 2 kids and I'm feeling useless. I just wanted not to feel useless, I guess. I'm just pissed. A lot.

And I have never been more proud. She didn't have VPN. Yesterday I installed one for her device. Since then, she had seen a few videos and now this 70 year old, super sheltered and always protected woman wants to join the kids. In her words, "the more people on the road, the faster it'll end."

Instead of her pulling me behind, I have to do it. She calmly said, "your babies are young, stay back, my babies are all grown up." Which is, solid logic.

Anyways, if anyone tries to bad mouth boomers, not all boomers, I guess. Also, now I know where I get my rebelious streak from.

The rule in Bangladesh is that you cannot have an IUD unless you have gave birth atleast one child. So, other than injects, Implant seems to be the only long term contraceptives.

How is Marie Stopes in this regard?

Other than Marie Stopes what are the options?

I just got online for the first time. How is everyone doing? Here to support or listen.

The quota reform protests are important - people have been killed by the government, the police, and they've deployed the BGB to crack down on the protests. Amid all this grimness, sorrow, and chaos, I see misogynists making these posts, which I seriously can't explain but only makes my blood boil.

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Where are the feminists? The women protesting - they are there to stand against injustices while your incel ass sits and spouts anti-feminist rhetoric. It's always something, but feminists get dragged by reactionaries for propaganda.

I've seen many on social media saying there's no need for a women's quota. The rhetoric is flawed. The issue isn't with quotas themselves, but rather with allocating 30 percent of them to the FF - they aren't a marginalized or discriminated community, so the quota for them serves no purpose.

The women's quota, along with all other quotas except the FF one, is crucial because, unfortunately, the world isn't all sunshine and rainbows, and not everyone has an equal opportunity to represent themselves. Unless patriarchy is dissolved, there will always be a need for women's quotas.

This is more of a rant post as I was angered by the other posts. Sorry if it isn't well-organized. I hope y'all stay safe.

I (F28) ve been in a relationship with a guy (M29) for a year now, and he has a bit of a drinking habit. Not an alcoholic, but likes to drink beers once in a while, and when in parties. I’m from a modern-relatively conservative family, with zero tolerance for alcohol. I’ve expressed my concern about drinking since the early days of our relationship, but never asked him to stop since it should be his decision, rather than me forcing it on him.

But after one year, now that I’m seriously considering getting married to this person, i told him that he will need to quit altogether when we get married. And this triggered him, he’s saying it is such an illogical thing to ask for given he doesn’t drink much or often, and even when he does its only light beers.

To me, it doesn’t really matter what kind of drink it is, or how frequently he drinks. I was brought up in a family where no one drinks, and it’s looked down upon. I know my parents will disapprove of him if they get to know. My boyfriend’s argument is that he enjoys drinking, he drinks responsibly, and its not like he’ll drink in front of my parents. He also said i cannot ask this from him while me myself don’t do the basics of my religion (regular namaj, and hijab). He told me i can ask him to quit when i start doing a hijab, and wear fully covered clothes. But the thing is, I dont even wear revealing clothes. I just dont do hijab, and while i do wear western clothes like jeans and tshirt, I never show excessive skin, or anything more than a normal kameez would show.

Am i being too hard by asking him to give up his drinking habits entirely before getting married?

I have a very silly one. So I have very cracky bones. I am a bone cracking enthusiast. I am basically a walking bubble wrap. I can crack various parts of my body lol. To start off, I can obviously crack my fingers (including my thumb) as I am sure many of you can too. I can also crack my neck, elbow, ankle and toes. I can sometimes crack my knees, shoulders and back if I get lucky. I crack my fingers like 10x times a day anywhere and everywhere. I crack my fingers to ease awkward moments if I am ever facing any. So it comes in handy. I don’t like to crack the rest in public as I find it awkward lol. If I am in public, then I just go to the restroom and do it. I mean, I still have seen many people do this in public even girls. Since I live in the USA I have seen girls of various races do this, like White, Black, Hispanic etc. I remember in middle school and high school there was always someone turning around in their desk to crack their backs. Mainly girls actually lol. For some reason I have never seen any Bangladeshi girl crack all their bones like this except for me lol. I have seen a few crack their fingers, but that's about it. I am not sure if it has anything to do with race. I know this all sounds very silly, so please don’t judge me. 🫠 I have had this habit since I was 11, and now I am 20. I don’t mind doing it in front of my parents and sister. My parents don’t know how to crack even one bone in their body. My dad gets scared when I try to crack his fingers. Nothing ever pops, so he doesn’t like me forcing it. I sometimes crack my mom’s fingers for her. Whenever I crack my neck, my mom always worries, saying you will break your neck. And my dad has the funniest reaction. This might be the best part. Not only does he say no guy will ever want to marry me if I keep this habit. He also compares me to Gundas (Goons). I mean I can see the picture ngl. My dad says that growing up in Bangladesh he saw many Gundas showcase this behavior to show off their mastani. 💀 I did see few clips in movies and shows where the villain does this lol. There was a meme I saw regarding this but I can’t find it. Anyway, he tells me how’d you learn to do all this? You’re not a man to begin with. This is such masculine behavior. Mind you, I am quite feminine. This is one of the very few “masculine” things you will see me doing. I love how my parents pick and choose. They don’t like it how I am so shy sometimes and that it’s too feminine to survive in this masculine world. They don’t like how I care about my appearance so much because I need to toughen up. My dad also told me that in Bangladesh they crack your neck at the men's salons when you go for a massage. I did end up seeing those barber shop videos on YouTube (mainly Indian) lol. My dad said that when he was a kid, and he went for hair cuts, the barber would mess with him and crack his neck to scare him lol. Before, all of this was low-key a joke between us, but nowadays, he really hates me doing this. He literally gets mad, so I avoid doing this in front of him. This is maybe because I am getting closer to my marriage age before I supposedly “expire.” You can't pay me to stop this habit. I won't survive, and it's not like I am harming my health lol. It’s part of my daily routine. Those few seconds of satisfaction I feel every time is incomparable. Also, I was introduced to doing this by my boy cousin. We had a joint family when we were living in Bangladesh. He’s roughly 9 years older than me. He was constantly around until I was 9. And at that time, I used to see him crack his fingers 24/7. I thought it was so cool, but then I was like, does it not hurt?? How are you not breaking your fingers doing this? It’s literally one of my goals, dream, wish, bucket list idea or whatever you want to call it to go to the chiropractor one day and get my body professionally cracked just for fun.

https://imgur.com/a/xptyH5p This meme is because I am literally that one girl in class before starting a quiz or test.

This girl is literally my bone cracking idol.  https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTNhDW95s/

Another one. https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTNhU8dpX/

More. https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTNhU43VJ/

This one is a chiropractor's video featuring James Charles. https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTNhDnK1f/