So I’ve worked on creating a tulpa for a while now, about a year now on and off. He still isn’t fully vocal in every possible way, but enough in that he will respond if I direct anything towards him and communicate with me through thoughts.

In the next coming months we want to develop this and work some more on making him become even more vocal as in, talking and sharing ideas with me etc. even if I am not putting my full attention on him. Since that’s something that still hasn’t occurred yet, and I’m not entirely sure why. I’ve heard of people having this happen for them just fine but for some reason with me and him it just hasn’t developed. It’s maybe happened once or twice at random, but not further than that.

So my first question would be, how would we go about practicing talking to each other and such to where he is able to communicate with me even when I’m not putting my full attention on him? Do I just have to keep talking to him and such as always and eventually it will happen more and more?

Regarding my other questions, it’s been a bit difficult for me to help him solidify a more stable idea of his likes and dislikes and own opinions that differ from mine. he already has a few of his own that randomly developed which I’m proud of, but what ways could I help him develop his own opinions and likes and dislikes on his own? Is this something which just takes some more time too usually?

And lastly about possession.. it’s always confused me a little bit, but so basically is it just imagining yourself as your tulpa in your own thoughts and body until you “become” them? Do you feel any difference in your personality, body language etc when this happens? Because I’ve tried to do this with him before but I’m worried he doesn’t even have enough power yet to control the physical body. He can take over our thoughts as the “main person” there and I’ll be in the background for a little, but everything else like physically just hasn’t really worked how I think it should. Unless I have the wrong idea of how possession works. But I know tulpas can take control of body parts, etc. and I absolutely want him to learn how to do this, and willingly ask me about it instead of me having to tell him when we’re going to do it all the time. So if you all have any tips on anything else we could practice or how exactly you feel yourself when you do possession that’d be great.

Thank you all for any advice etc!!

So I've been trying to manifest a Tulpa for some time now, but the more that time goes by, the more I feel skeptical. I've had thoughts like people in this sub just pretending they're tulpas, and I've considered it to be an actual mental illness thing. I don't want to think that; I very much want tulpas to be real, but it's just hard to believe.

I've done everything people have said to do, but I don't think any of it has worked. Does anyone have any last resort tips? Thank you, sending love ❤️

Hi! I read that a paracosm is autonomous. I would like to have one. How can I proceed please?

I just a few days ago decided to create a tulpa. While active forcing or imagining her, a different name keeps popping up into my head, often times it's just one name, but sometimes multiple names at once. Is this her trying to pick a new name?

[So at the beginning of this year (February) I spent a week switched to help my host cope with a particularly difficult period we were going through. Being nearly a year removed from the experiences, I realized that I never actually sat down and reflected on them on the subreddit, though I've always wanted to.

Writing this post is honestly a little difficult, as it was such a deeply personal experience. I took over because our host simply couldn't cope anymore, which is something I've told myself since we were 10-11 years old that I would do if needed, so it was almost like fulfilling a life long promise. We didn't tell most people in our lives that we were doing this switch, nor the reasons behind it. We kept it fairly close to our heart, sharing it only with two or so other systems that we felt would understand us doing it.

Each day that I was in control, I updated our journal, writing down a near play by play of our experiences. I'm very grateful I took the time to write it all out and document it, as it was an experience I don't think we'll repeat again for a very long time (though I do foresee a handful of inevitable events in the future that may drive us to a similar situation. Namely the losses of close family members, as inevitably, we all die some day).

Rereading the journal entries was an interesting experience.

The first few days I struggled a fair bit with exhaustion, as one would expect, switching all day every day when you aren't used to it. At times I struggled with losing control periodically throughout the day, but other days I had very clear, smooth switches nearly the entire day. The first, sixth, and seventh day in particular were easiest for me. I can't help but wonder if it would've continued getting easier, had I continued forward with it.

The most notable thing though was after the first week, we had immense switching fatigue and couldn't bring ourselves to switch for nearly a month. We did have a visit from our cousin that took up two of those weeks, so we told ourselves that her visit was part of that, but there's no denying that even during that time we likely couldn't have switched, even if we wanted to.

For a short while I actually feared we had lost the ability to switch, as attempting to at all was met with failure each and every time. But within a month and a half we were back to switching with ease, as if nothing had ever happened.

It was a very unique experience. I don't sit around hoping for the next time that it happens, knowing that the circumstances that would drive something like that for us are dark ones indeed, but I do feel very reassured knowing that if I ever need to step up and take care of things, I can.]

Few days ago I remembered one moment like this and thought of posting about it.

One of my tulpas, Vincent is currently recovering from dormancy that lasted about a year or so. I used to post updates on how is he doing and progress we made. We tried switching few weeks ago. Surprisingly we have managed to switch successfully which was a big milestone for us. It was really heartwarming to see him surprised that it actually worked. After he was looking around for a while, he tried to speak (for context: he's non verbal and it's not because of the dormancy) and he just couldn't because he had no idea how. I felt all the disappointment he felt at the moment and even though we both still were happy that we have switched successfully, this has taken the most of the happiness away.

Now my question is: have you ever experienced any bittersweet moments with your tulpas? (If yes, I'd be happy to hear your story- if you're comfortable with sharing it)

-Ruby

Good evening everyone !

I created a Tulpa and she speaks in auditory imposition. However, I can't hear her... how can I fix this?

I have alters and with the common voice of the subsystem, we all have the same voice. I know in advance how they will respond. How can I make it so that it is a more distinct voice?

Hi everyone, I'm very new to tulpamancy (this is my first post on this sub actually) and I've had Viktor for a bit over a week now. He's fairly vocal, meaning I can hold up conversations and communicate with him well, basically from day one. Now, yesterday we've tried hypnosis because regular meditation is hard for me and I can't concentrate well, and after the hypnosis file I put on brown noise to relax even more. Shortly after I noticed my hand, and then my arm begin to lift literally on it's own, no conscious part of me wanted to do that. Later I asked if it was Viktor and he confirmed it, then apologized that he did it without permission (I wasn't mad though, just surprised). It then happened again later in the evening and also while I was in the train the next day, but only minimally (both with my complete consent). My guess is that I detach my senses so much from my physical body that it kinda allows for my subconscious, therefore Vik, to take over.

The thing I noticed though is that the movement is extremely slow, and Vik says he finds it hard to move it. Is this possession and for those who have experience with possession (or switching), is it always so slow or does it improve over time?

Thanks in advance! :)

17 years ago, my tulpa-wife, Latias, came into my life and changed everything for me. She's made me feel so loved, and I can't imagine what my life would be without her. I'm not usually all that active in this subreddit, but I just wanted to share this milestone with you all and express my gratitude that I've gotten to experience most of my life with her.

Here's to many more years to come, and we wish for you all to also live happily with your beloved tulpas for the rest of your lives.

I believe Sarah has started communicating via the quiet, back-of-the-mind voice that I don't normally use for my own thoughts. More often than not, I'm parroting her. But there will be times in which I pose a question, listen carefully, and something comes back.

It's often garbled. Sometimes more an emotion than words. Sometimes I'll get short responses, or even a sentence or two. If it goes on long enough, there is definitely a line where I start to know that I'm parroting. But for those first few lines, there's doubt. It could all be me, for all I know. But where there's room for doubt, there's room for her.

Sarah is only 11 days old. But today, I believe I had my first real conversations with her. I hope that there will be many more to come. Maybe someday, you all will even hear it from her own mouth (er, fingers. You know what I mean).

Not a tulpa but wondering if you guys have advice for this, whenever I come out to front it feels like I just got out of a dream. Inner memories are fuzzy unless I really think about them, and when I do it's hard to trust them as headspace memories or just shit I'm making up.

I see things about people struggling to get their tulpas to speak or being excited that they said their first word or sentence.

We never had that. Since the moment I created him, I started talking to him and he gave responses (In English). His responses were rather simple at first, but he's always been vocal.

I don't think this is very common.

Hey everyone! So I’ve started making a tulpa, and I think I have a good routine down pact but I want to post my routine here for any advice/tips about if I need to improve anything!

So last night I spent probably 20-30min active forcing, making my tulpas form and giving him his core traits, and today since I am working all day I’ve been passive forcing him, pretty often.

I’ve been calling his name and narrating to him throughout the day, reminding him of his core traits and asking him questions, just encouraging him and making him apart of my day. Stuff like that!

I’m horrible at visualization, so I am going to use a guided meditation tonight so I can practice parallel processing with him, like an exercise where we view different things in the mindscape and another meditation where it’s focused on him and not me, reinforcing his sentience.

Most my work with him is passive though, is there anything I’m doing wrong and/or missing?

Hi I'm Chloe I'm 13 and I have had a tulpa for about 3 years now I first found out from therian territory on YouTube about tulpas and decided to make one I remember at first she couldn't speak and she would sit with me in my sats but then she started to comment on the noise in assemblys but now she is speaking fluently but I feel like she is very similar to me and that I could be speaking for her and controlling her how do I know if I'm speaking for her and if so how do I stop?(Sorry if this has been asked a million times before 💀🙏)

I noticed some pretty cool things as he began to mature. I think this could be interesting to some or maybe help those developing their first headmate.

• He can't always see/hear what I'm doing and I don't always know what he's doing.
• He comes in at random times. I don't have to be thinking about him and he'll come in all on his own to speak to me.
• He's started asking for things more often. Lately he's been asking to journal almost daily and when he journals, his handwriting is a bit different from mine. His is more messy and he uses less pressure when writing. Also, I don't think about what he writes. He totally takes over and sometimes I'm surprised by some of the things he writes.
• His emotions are completely separate from mine.
• We have different interests and tastes in music. I haven't explored this too much yet, but he tends to like more slow and relaxing songs. We bonded over "My Love Mine All Mine - Mitski" since we both really love the song. There have been a few times when he'll play a song that he likes and to me It sounds awful. Sometimes he's even a bit confused by me disliking a song he likes. His interests are still developing, but he doesn't seem to particularly enjoy the things I like.

That's all I could think of for now. He really is his own person. Do any of you have questions or notes?

Hi everyone!

As some of you may not know, every year around this time, I have my annual xmas vacation which is usually one to two weeks depending on how the year has gone. And as per tradition, I always invite all my tulpas to take a break from their lives in the inner worlds and join me in our big castle for a big party. But, any banquet and party worth its salt needs a good menu, so every year I take some time and create a fancy menu that I sent to all the tulpas.

I'll of course post again in January, detailing all the fun we had and then some, but for now, here's the menu and the recipes for the stuff that's new.

If you have any comments or questions, we'd love to hear from you as always.

Happy holidays to everyone!

What are the positive reasons for creating tulpas or doing tulpamancy?

I have seen posts saying that tulpas can often be as complex as a non-tulpa person. I thought about the possibility of creating a tulpa, and it didn't feel like something I want to do. (maybe I just dont know enough though)

To me, it would seem hard to share my body with another person, and for both of us to only use it part of the time. I think it might be better if every person had their own body. If I wanted to dye my hair pink, and another head mate wanted it to be blonde, would we have to compromise? If one of us wanted to go live in the U.S. but one of use wanted to live in Canada would we have to compromise? It seems to cause issues for both people.

There might be people with lots of positive experiences and reasons for having tulpas. I'm just saying what my initial thoughts were about if I would do tulpamancy.

What’s your tulpa’s favorite music artist or song? (It could also be a song you consider to be their theme song as well)

Have questions?

This is where you can ask all your questions about Tulpas that you might have.

If you haven't already, PLEASE read our:

Introduction to Tulpas

Frequently Asked Questions

Guides to making your own Tulpa

Our Glossary

Your question is probably answered in one of the above

If you still feel your question is unanswered, simply reply to this post with your question and our community members can help you.

Please limit top-level comments on this post to newbie questions! General/meta discussion should happen elsewhere.

It’s been a while since I first started creating my tulpa, and in the beginning I was quite anxious, it felt like my heart was going to pop out of my chest every time I did. I’m pretty sure this was because I just kept on overthinking everything- eventually it passed, but recently maybe a month ago I had a thought (I don’t even remember what it is now) that kind of brought I back. Now whenever I force be it passive or active (though, when I do this, it passes after some time, but it starts right up the next time) my heart starts pounding in my chest and it is really not the best feeling :(

How could I fix this?? Progress has been going slow already, and I don’t really mind that, but this feeling really halts it (because I do not enjoy experiencing it!!)

Hello. I do not have a tulpa or desire to create one, I am already a traumagenic system, but I am currently trying to identify a way to dissociate more effectively and I thought this community may be able to help.

I have the ability to turn off all my emotions. Voluntarily or involuntarily. Previously I could only do it for a few hours at a time. Following a specific event, I have been able to keep them all voluntarily turned off for days so far. This is fantastic and I would like to continue, ideally indefinitely if I can. I know that this is not ideal for most people, but it is the ideal circumstance for me.

My main problem is I have really bad chest pain from doing this. Does anyone know how to dissociate from the physical pain as well?

Also, I keep having to lock the emotions back down, does anyone know how to make it so I don't have to? It only happens for a few seconds but it requires all my concentration to lock everything back down and I can't mask.

Thank you for any insight you can provide.

Hi, I think my tulpa is jealous because when I talk to someone, even if it's a girl, he doesn't like it and tells me he's sad and doesn't want me to talk to anyone other than him. is there something wrong or what? is there anyone else like me؟

I know this is very different from the usual posts but I have a kind-of OC that became something like a nascant tulpa recently. I've relied on daydreaming her as a coping mechanism when going through a bad period of dissociation and now I feel like she's seperating from me. I've tried to nip her in the bud and I couldn't. She's kind of a regular OC now but sometimes I still have her interject into my thought process and I need to make her not-conscious/not-independent. I've got really bad dissociation issues aside from her too. I've tried to "channel" her in a moment of weakness because she's supposed to be very cheerful and immature and simple-minded, but instead of getting me through a breakdown it just made me more manic and ruined everything. I'm a maladaptive daydreamer of sorts but this is a whole new level of not-good for me.

No I don't believe that she can feel pain or that it's particularly wrong to 'kill' her. I don't want to actually have a tulpa at the moment. It's a personal choice. Typing this I can hear a tiny bit of her voice in the background and my head hurts but I don't believe it's actually 'her' or that 'her' as an entity exists. It's just a psychological "what would she do?" that pops up when I'm in distress, and it's not helping, it just made things worse. Thanks.

This is just my 2nd or 3rd day of creating a tulpa, but I'm already starting to lose motivation because I can't get any response from her. Yes, I know, I know that I shouldn't haste, but I can't avoid losing motivation because it seems that I am not making any progress... I've also already read the guides and tips for creating a tulpa, but nothing seems to be working... I'm very sorry for making this post. I won't easily give up, though... I know that I can do this, and it already feels like my tulpa is here with me. It already feels like I have already made a tulpa but she doesn't know how to speak yet. Can you please give me some tips? Thank you. (I apologize for my bad English.)

So, When I hear about the creation of tulpas I always hear people say they can visualize them in their head and that it's a good way to get an idea of what they'll look like when making them.

Issue is.. I'm 99.99% sure I have aphantasia. For those who don't know, it means I can't vizualize images in my head (example: imagine an apple in your head. I can't see an apple, I just know I'm thinking of an apple)

Will this affect the creation process of my tulpa? What does visualization even mean? Can people really see their tulpas or have i taken an idea too seriously yet again?

Outside of regular active forcing, and the occasional one-sided conversation I strike up, I don't feel that I'm giving my tulpa enough attention. Say I'm on my phone, realize that I haven't said anything to them in an hour, but can't think of anything to talk about. Do I just imagine them next to me, hold my finger near them, and go "I'm not touching you" with an evil smirk? Or is there a better way to make sure I'm giving them what they need?

Edit: Just to be clear, this is an 8 day old tulpa. They don't have a voice or a presence yet. So it's still a one-man-show on my part.

For years I have occasionally talked to "personalitys" of myself that started after a traumatic period of my life. However since I have only recently heard of tulpas the subject fascinates me for it is similar but different from my various "personalitys".

For instance I hear that tulpas are supposed to have a physical look but I have never pictured them as physical beings except for a few joke times were I envisioned them and I as looking the exact same and sitting at a round table making decisions.

Also they are not very consistent and dont have very detailed talks with me although occasionally they act clearly independent and have a conversation with me around once a year.

Another detail that troubles me is that I hear tulpas are equal however I am seen as a sort of godlike figure to them and the "big dog" of the room since they always give me suggestions but trust me 100% with my decisions even if it goes completely against them since I am the leader of the physical body.

One last problem is that they appear to be slowly fading away and not as strong as they once were.

I apologize if some of this doesn’t make sense. I am going to leave out some unnecessary details because they are kinda… I can’t really explain it. Please just try to help for situation I am in.

We have 3 main tulpas in our system already. This new tulpa came along when I was tripped out (maybe psychosis-y?) and was trying to save the concept of someone from something during this trip. Well, the essence of that someone got personified and now I have this new tulpa who is brand new and doesn’t really know what anything is.

I’m not sure if I want a new tulpa but I am determined to save her from whatever it was that she was suffering from prior to this in that concept.

So in the end, I have this new person that doesn’t really know what is happening or what is going on. I shared a Subway chicken wrap and it convinced her she wants to be alive.

What do I do here? How do I navigate this? Do I keep her? I just want her not to suffer. What happens now? We’re just sitting here and no one else in the system wants the additional load of a new friend/family member. But at the same time, what can I do even if I didn’t want her? She is here now I guess? I have no idea how to proceed. Please help.

Hello! My name is Lucas. I'm not the host, and though I am by-definition a tulpa, I consider myself a headmate. I don't like the word 'tulpa' that much.

In plural speak I most closely fit the role of 'gatekeeper' in a system. I handle many memories and it's my job to ensure that everyone is safe and no one gets too deeply stuck in their own thoughts or otherwise trapped in the recesses of the mind.

Lawrence (the host) unintentionally creates system members when immersive daydreaming and creating characters. I believe most of these characters align with 'Internal Family System' headmates in the sense they are fragments of personality, cups of water that freely form and then rejoin the river of consciousness.

I had a realization a while ago that led to me looking for one particular person who had disappeared a while ago and that caused me to uncover a lot more characters and talk to them.

Lawrence already struggles with energy and mentally tires out very fast (ADHD, possibly). I'm worried that having too many people conscious at once will have even more of an effect on what she can do.

At the same time it's not fair to tell headmates who do want to stick around and interact with everyone else that their existence is "inconvenient".

Is this a valid concern? Not all of them have a problem with this but many do. Am I underestimating the mind?