Hello, I'm 27 I'm fiance’ is 23 he's truck driver were getting married in March I want to know do the ladies that are on road with they're husbands like do you have a remote job so that you can still make money? Is it hard to work on road? I would like to quit my job after we are married and have a at home job so I can work from anywhere so I can work still and make my own money still. I just need some advice and help. I really want something I'm struggling. Also is there anything you all do to help keep your mind busy? Like I have no friends hang out with while he's gone and I have no hobbies. I have ADD SO ill get into hobby than quit. This may not be what this group is for but if not you can delete

Good morning ladies!

Am I happy to find this group. I am currently in a new relationship (4 months in) with the most amazing man, who happens to drive truck. His shifts are months away, more likes weeks, but he does so much to ensure I'm feeling supported while he is away, I want to do the same. What are somethings you ladies do to make sure your men are feeling supported and loved while out on the road.

Thanks in advance. 💜

Okay ladies. My husband is a trucker. He hauls slop, distillery by-product. He delivers to local farms and his boots now have a hole after only being worn for 6 months. What kind of boots does your trucker wear that lasts? Safety toe preferably! Thanks!!

Hello all, what do you store old paperwork in? I am typically a very organized person and I just have no idea what to do with it or something that would hold it all nice and contained.

How long did it take your men to start getting steady paychecks? My man is currently contracted until he can pay off the truck lease and be owner operator, but that'll be awhile. We anticipated this job bringing home more income, but with all the dedications, it's rough. Sometimes he doesn't have a positive paycheck from week to week. Is that normal starting out the first 3 months?

We originally had him coming home every other week, but realized that he has to be gone longer to be able to make enough. The weeks he's been gone are getting longer and every time he leaves it's been hard for me to see him go. It gets lonely and quiet. How are you ladies handling it? Because I'm struggling.

What are some ideas for your hubby that’s is OTR during the week. I always struggle with getting him gifts because he buys whatever he wants…. Any ideas??? Doesn’t have to be trucking related either

I’m just a passenger, and I want a job that I’m able to have while on the road. Any suggestions, pointers or real experiences shared appreciated!

Hi ladies! How do y'all keep yourselves busy while your SO is driving? Just trying to prepare for anything I may need to buy ahead of time 🙂 TIA

Need opinions on headsets. What brand does your significant other like? Any ones they hate? Also your opinions on their headsets? My husband needs a new one and I want to surprise with a decent one.

Hello, my boyfriend is going to start with TMC in January. We are hoping that after his training and 3 months probation period, we can save money and I can ride with him. Has anyone else ridden on the road with their significant others and what are your tips for this?

Was out on the road with my fiancee for 5months, just got home and he's looking for another company to work for OTR. While I did enjoy many aspects of being out there I prefer home!!! Laundry when needed, home cooked meals not to mention daily showers.

Anyway he's always been a ladies man and saw it first hand. And I'm losing my shit thinking about him on the road solo and seeing him maybe 2 days a month.

I've been severely hurt and cheated on in the past and trying not to project that onto him but can't help it.

How do y'all deal with this?

Feel like my heart is being ripped out

Is anyone an owner operator who had apparel made with your logo. Looking for recommendations on places to create our logo and buy apparel from.

I (35F) and dating / going to likely marry my man (31M) OTR Trucker. I found this group and I guess I’m just looking for an outlet to vent or maybe some support. I’ve previously dated men that have to be gone for various amounts of time for work. And I knew getting into this that my man is gone at least a month with 4-5 days home time. Sometimes he’ll stay out for 2 months. Which kinda sucks but I deal with it. I have a busy life and I have found ways to manage with him being gone. His time away from me seems to bother him more than it does me. He’s such a great man and he’s everything I’ve literally prayed for and I get along great with his family. But my challenge is that he is EXTREMELY insecure. Prior to our relationship he had been single for several years. He tells me how he is so blessed to have me and we’ve discussed starting a family. But he makes comments that show his insecurities and idk what else I can do to show him that I’m faithful and dedicated to our relationship. I’ve literally adjusted my life for our relationship because I’m confident in our future together. I do any and everything I can for him and I keep things “alive” for us as well. He’s happy I’m happy but his insecurities are starting to be a turn off.

I have no positive outlook on this situation at the moment... My kids father just got his CDL and may have to go OTR pretty soon. I truly feel like I want to run and jump off a cliff like Bella did in twilight 😅 just for him to know how bad I don't want him to go but then again I feel like it's useless. For context, I'm 26 and he's 30. We have 2 children (2 years old and 8 months old) and we all live together. Not married but are planning to be married in the future. This trucking situation has got me on edge though because I don't want to do long distance (again) ... We already did long distance for about 4 years when I went off to school in 2015. I just feel like it's different now though because we're established and have 2 kids. I may get bashed for saying this but what kind of person willfully gets a job where they have to leave their family, and ARE OKAY WITH IT.

I can't fathom the idea of leaving my kids for months or weeks at a time, I just didn't see how he feels it's such an easy decision and it's okay because it's "only temporary".

I'm just upset with the whole situation tbh.

My Fiancé just left for trucking training and he’ll be gone for a shortish period of time ( a month ) but it feels like my heart has just been shattered in a million pieces, We are both young (very early 20s) and I’m so used to him being home every night. I can’t stop sobbing but I know once he passes training he’ll be home on and off and I don’t want to keep going through this every time he has to leave… so does it get any easier than this?

I just joined the group and witnessed the presence of that power behind every trucker out on the Road- you are real backBone of 'em no matter how much words i get on road of praising y'all the'd still be less when they reach You- Some of you cook mouthwatering meals for them and make them stronger in nutrition Some of you personally book load for them and make them stronger in professional strength - Hats off and salute to each and all of You'

Well talking about myself I'm just a guy who may have worked with many truckers over the regions, no wonder your husband might be one of'em, I won't take much space to write and for your sweeties to read, Just to mention i'm a Problem Solver by passion, by Profession-and i don't do it for money for now I wanted permit from All of you Ladies to stay in here this community, Can i ?

I lost my job 😢 and feel like I’m not gonna get another job anytime soon. I feel like I’m putting so much pressure on him to bring home the money so we can survive.. he brings home a decent wage normally and even with his child support approximately $350w we can save money. But since I lost my job he seems to not be on the road as much which brings his wage down and we seem to be dipping into the savings. Just as I think we’re getting ahead we go backwards 😭

Mr. Peanut Butter is large and in charge

Hello all! I just joined this page, and have been reading everyone’s posts nonstop collecting advice and other tips. Me (22f) and my bf (23m) have been dating for a year, and he started OTR trucking for Pam in April. I mentally prepared myself for this change, and knew it would be a difficult one. He’s home only 3 days out of the month, which from my understanding is unfortunately pretty normal, and I worry about him and his mental health a lot while he’s on the road. Pam has been such an awful company for him to work for, they work him like to the bone with horrible communication from the dispatch team. He gets messed up loads, has trouble finding empty trailers, or is just sitting around waiting for his driver manager to tell him where to go next with no new loads almost every single time. I know he has to get the experience under his belt in order for it to get better, but man it really sucks in the meantime.

My bf is also currently trying to get on a dedicated route, and is considering getting into the lease truck program at Pam once he has the miles for it. Will he be able to get more home time being on a dedicated route? I’ve also heard horror stories about lease truck programs at bad companies effing their drivers over big time, is this something that’s common?

I have traveled with him in the truck already for about a week, which I’ve seen a lot of ppl giving as advice. Other advice I’ve seen is to keep yourself busy, which I do. I’m a full time college student, I volunteer, and I work a part time job right now as well. No kids yet tho.

I guess I’m just looking for any other general advice or helpful tips? I’m trying to hold down the fort at home (we live together) and it’s been hard at home as well, but more than anything I worry about him. I don’t want him to give up on his dream because of a bad company and lack of morale, and I worry immensely about his mental health while on the road.

Any advice, suggestions, tips, tricks etc would be very helpful, thank you!!

First of all I am so happy to have found a subreddit with wives/spouses in similar situations.

I have a bit of a specific scenario and I wanna know what, if anything, you all did/do/would do in these situations.

Firstly please don’t come for me if you don’t understand, but in February our cat got very sick—it turned out to be cancer. This was right after my husband became an OTR trucker. Our cats are basically our children so if you can imagine, this was a huge strain emotionally, mentally, physically, and financially. Everyone in my life keeps asking me “how are you doing this alone?” And I honestly don’t know. I’m watching our baby die essentially all on my own and it has been excruciating. For weeks my husband comes home and I just cry in his arms every night, because it’s the only time I can have that comfort.

This weekend we have to take our baby boy to the rainbow bridge and we only have a narrow time to even do this. I cannot do this alone. We need each other. But he’s gonna be here for only what, 24 hours? If that? And then peace out for the rest of the week while I’m left alone grieving. We’re both going to be grieving enormously, but without the comfort of each other’s hugs and affection, you know?

Top it off that he’s supposed to be home Friday, but of course there’s traffic on the only road to his pickup so now he won’t be home until the middle of the night Friday into Saturday or Saturday morning, which is when we were supposed to take our baby boy in.

So… for any of you who’ve been doing this longer, how do you as a family deal with crises?

Edit: some hours after writing this post, our baby boy declined rapidly. I stayed up with him until my husband could call me after securing his load around 2am, and he made the call to take our baby boy into the emergency vet. It broke his heart and mine to make this decision, but our baby boy was suffering immensely. He passed away peacefully in my arms this morning around 5am. As of writing this, my husband is still 200 miles away. I appreciate all of the kind words for both of us.

Husband is a newbie driver for "welfare" Express and I currently am riding along with him and they , in my opinion, are the most poorly run company I've ever encountered. And don't get me started on the pay. Largest paycheck to date has been $277. And the trucks are shit. Broke down 3 separate times for almost the entire month of July. Longest was 2 weeks and the hotel situation was a joke. Every day we had to pack up and vacate the property until they decided to contact the hotel to reserve. That meant sitting for hours outside in over 90 degrees with all our stuff . What a joke. Since he's pretty new and they're paying his tuition we are stuck with them for a bit. Anyone have good suggestions for another outfit? He's thinking about driving oil tankers which isn't OTR but also a move to North Dakota

my fiance currently is an OTR driver for swift. unfortunately, they haven’t been respecting his home time requests. we are to get married this year, and have a date set and everything. my question is: can this company f-ck over his time off for our wedding? will they even care? we are trying to plan everything and it’s all falling on me bc of this job and i am honestly beginning to worry about our wedding, and if they will even respect that time off.

we are trying really hard to find local work, but it’s been very difficult.

I come across a lot of posts or comments about how the person who isn’t OTR needs to support their partner who is the trucker. What about the person who stays home while their spouse decided to choose an occupation where they’re never home and leaves their spouse handling everything at home alone?

Any one else have any trucker wife memes?

hi guys! i know this is a “wife” group technically, but my boyfriend just started trucking and i couldn’t find any other groups to ask. he’s already been gone over a week, and i don’t know how to feel. he and his family are used to the distance since his dad was a full time trucker for 30+ years until he passed, but i just wanted to come on here and ask advice i guess? does it get easier? or will it be like this every time he leaves? weve been together a while now. hes otr and its already hard with him gone. we don’t have kids yet, so that’s not a concern, but im just really worried about him i guess. i’m not concerned of cheating or doing anything to jeopardize our relationship; honestly its just the distance. is there anything that helps you guys?

{EDIT} thank you guys so much for your kind words. it’s really helped ease my mind. you guys are great❤️

My husband has been a trucker for over two years. When he is on the road he pees in a jug. So now when he is home, he thinks it's fine to pee in a jug at home. This isn't a joke... my kids and I are annoyed and grossed out. He thinks it's funny and says it's the way of the road. But he isn't on the road. What would you do?

It’s miserable being w a truck driver cause there always on the road they have there adventures and I know he cheats he won’t accept but as time has passed he has changed and rather to be out on the road than being w other woman or me

My husband just started work again after being home with me for 6 months after having our baby in December.. he had to go back two months early because of our financial situation… my question to you is HOW!? HOW do we get through without having them home??? I love my husband and he’s the best and he makes me happy and he just started work again and my emotions are so high it’s been 9 hours since he’s been gone and I’ve called him about 6 times already 😭 this is his second trip since he started and his first trip out I felt fine but today I’m just emotional!!! I know it should be healthy to have time apart but he makes everything better for me! I had our daughter via c-section than hemorrhaged 2 weeks later and than had 2 surgeries to Stop the bleeding that did not work at all than I ended up having a full hysterectomy!! So we’ve been through a lot since having our daughter and he’s been there every step of the way! lol sorry for my little rant. I will probably get some backlash! I just know it! But please be nice! I just need some advice on how to keep busy and not be so emotional while the hubbys gone out on a trip for work!!