/r/TheMensCooperative
A community focused on men's mental health that sets out to support men feeling lonely, isolated, depressed, sad, alienated or generally just feeling like shit.
Guidelines
This is a group for men that are feeling lonely, isolated, depressed, sad, alienated or generally just feeling like shit. It is a place for us to share our problems and communicate with other men in a stigma free place. Women are welcome to lurk but the conversations are “by men for men”.
This is a place for us to help ourselves This is not a place for misogyny of hate against women This is not a place to racialize our mental health issues and target “others”
We know our family love us and try to be there for us but often it’s not enough. They end up bearing the brunt of our problems. We know men are suffering and that this creates a violent and abusive world. We know toxic masculinity is a big problem as it is a problem for us too! We often face it first hand and live through it daily.
The Rules of Engagement:
Don’t be a dick. Be a brother, be supportive, hold off on judgments, offer a helping hand. Don’t criticize other peoples posts or how they write and communicate. This is a self-help cooperative group so being helpful and cooperative is quite important.
Give advice, not directions. Don’t tell others what they should do. Share what you did in a similar situation. Give people you story and what worked for you then let them take what they need from it.
Share professional resources. If someone is in need of urgent mental health support refer them to a professional service provider. Use your google powers to help them access mental health support systems and resources. Discuss your experiences but don’t let it be a substitute for proper counselling or medical assistance. If you know somewhere someone can get help share it and we will add it to the pinned post so it can easily be found.
Share academic resources. If you find an interesting report, news article, or anything else please share it with the group. Anything on the topic of men’s mental health is welcome (we even like a good meme from time to time!).
Organize a meet-up. If you notice there are a few other people in the same part of the world as you then organize a meet-up. Studies show that social media is not as conducive to relationship building for men as it is for women, so feel free to take things offline. If you do meet-up then share a post and some pics on what you got up to.
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For my PhD research I'm exploring how men ask for help, more specifically, men with anxiety and men across different generations. I’m hoping that this data will help to inform mental health services and campaigns as to how to better support men with anxiety. I’d really appreciate it if you can complete my survey or help me distribute it.
Thanks for your help!
https://warwick.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_0vpuSdyvQKhgu2i
I am a graduate student conducting a qualitative research project on young men who have exited online groups like the manosphere, the redpill, blackpill, incel etc. I want to learn about the experiences of the men who have left these groups and I am looking for prospective and willing participants who would like to participate in a half hour qualitative interview discussing their experience.
To qualify, you must be: between the ages of 18 to 30, identify as a man or male, and previously had been a part of an online group within the manosphere but eventually left the group.
If you or someone you know is interested in participating feel free to message me
Thank you
Journaling is an interesting thing, I never cared much about it when I was younger but as I’ve gotten older I am starting to see the benefits of it. Now I am not the type of man who likes to speak to others about his feelings, I would rather do something physically strenuous like Muay Thai or weightlifting to help me relieve stress. What I’ve started doing is combine both Journaling and physical activity. I write out my thoughts and then I look at it after I workout, with my mind being clear its almost like I’m looking at my situation from an outside perspective. As men I know most of us don’t like to talk to people about how we feel but what about writing about it.
It doesn’t need to be big wins, I know some men are struggling with mental health issues, if you woke up today and were able to brush your teeth, it’s a win brotha.
For my PhD research I'm exploring how men ask for help, more specifically, men with anxiety and men across different generations. I’m hoping that this data will help to inform mental health services and campaigns as to how to better support men with anxiety. I’d really appreciate it if you can complete my survey or help me distribute it.
Thanks for your help!
https://warwick.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_0vpuSdyvQKhgu2i
I’m reading right now
The hero with a thousand faces- Joseph Campbell
A few other book recommendations
Automotive electric/electronic systems - Bosch *For the men who are car guys
Functional training and beyond- Adam Sinicki Adam runs the YouTube channel “the bioneer”, check him out, he’s different from the other fitness YouTubers, he’s creative and he focuses on other parts of fitness training rather than just weight lifting.
KING WARRIOR MAGICIAN LOVER- Robert Moore
I’ve been dabbling with leathercrafting and I’ve been making my own wallet, I absolutely love working on my car. When I make beats there is a euphoric feeling that comes over me and I I’m in a state of bliss. I envy the men who work in construction, imagine the pride these men have knowing that when they drive by any metropolitan area the buildings there are the ones they put up. With competence comes confidence and what better way to build competence then to build. From the body to the mind.
There are men who draw, there are men who are into agriculture, there are men who are into making clothes etc. One common denominator for all men from every walk of life is the love of building
It’s the end of the week for me but it’s a great time to have a head start on your goals
My goals going into next week
What about yours?
I am a psychology graduate student and I am conducting a thesis research study on Perceptions of Relationship conflicts. The goal of the study is to understand how we navigate and respond to various scenarios of relationship conflict and also trying to highlight the issues that men possibly face over women in these conflicts.
I am desperately looking for male volunteers to participate in this study. Its a quick 5 MIN survey!
https://siue.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_aWyGXGcPMcldYiy
I would be grateful if some of you can take this!!
Thank you.
We see it all the time, men complain about their height, their voice, the way their eyes look. It’s depressing and it’s killing your self esteem, why worry about it. You can control the money you make, you can control your weight, you can control the way you dress and how you smell etc. focus on those things. Don’t fall into that depressing, self depreciating hole where you become nit picky about everything about yourself.
If you want to change, great; self improvement is never bad however keep it realistic.
Walking around in a recent predicament to clear my head I headed into a bar in a new neighborhood
A bit about me I worked as a financial advisor at a UBS for seven years got fired suddenly , I was at my time there naive not to see that people can be jealous got actually no reason. The new hire they brought in to the branch came up through as a teller finally making it to wealth management not as an advisor but as an assistant finally ending in an administrative offer so the focus became get rid of independent advisors solo young advisors doing business on their own, clearly for seven years solo advising work worked out neither did I fail out of the training program, to suck up to older mid level advisors not the highest ranking advisors the mid tier ones trying to force younger advisors to merge their books to those advisors without any benefit. I did well for those seven years always somewhere in the top six that continued till this lc found a roundabout way to get me out. Clearly no client can say I did anything wrong so the lc here contrived a story about general dissatisfaction from the branch what did that mean? I planned to sue not sure if my time is done for that.
So fired for the first time in my life at almost twenty eight my world fell apart. It is in this state I walked around trying to clear my head I walked into this man not more than forties clean shaven looked like one of those guys who you made friends with in high school friends with the guys not the most aggressive mostly shy. He chatted me up while at the bar asked if I wanted to go home with him. I said no he brought out money I counted on the bar table
I feel so lost about where to go or what to do next. I only received a bachelors from the non main campus of my state flagship university. I need advice on what to do how to earn money next.
Hi everyone,
For my PhD research I'm exploring how men ask for help, more specifically, men with anxiety and men across different generations. I’m hoping that this data will help to inform mental health services and campaigns as to how to better support men with anxiety. I’d really appreciate it if you can complete my survey or help me distribute it.
Thanks for your help!
https://warwick.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_0vpuSdyvQKhgu2i
https://edition.cnn.com/2023/09/18/health/male-loneliness-epidemic-wellness/index.html
Several years ago, another dad reached out to me after reading my work about being a stay-at-home dad. He was married, had two toddlers and was not coping well. He couldn’t find another person to talk to outside his family.
When it comes to male loneliness, social isolation hits dads particularly hard, author Shannon Carpenter writes.
He didn’t say it, because most of us men won’t, but fatherhood was taking a toll on his mental health and self-worth. He felt alone — but not because he didn’t have a good relationship with his significant other. He told me it was because he didn’t have friends.
We hear a lot these days about men not finding the kind of deep friendship that helps them through the ups and downs of life the way many women do. I’ve also experienced what has been called the male loneliness epidemic, and many dads tell me it has reached into fatherhood.
More people in Greater Peoria and nationwide are beginning to broach the subject of mental health and the stigmas surrounding it. However, one demographic in particular continues to struggle. Not only are they struggling, but they’re rarely asking for help.
Six million men are impacted by depression every year, according to a 2020 study done by Mental Health America. Even more jarring, men are four times more likely to die by suicide compared to women. Dr. Samuel Sears is the consult psychiatrist for OSF St. Francis Medical Center in Peoria.
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2023-08-23/drum-mens-mental-health-round-table-safe-space/102763950
Now blokes, listen up.
When was the last time you opened up, I mean really opened up to, well, another man?
Men's Table is a network of 1,500 men – from around the country — who are meeting up in small groups once a month to talk about life in a confidential and non-judgemental environment.
Those who run Men's Table say they want men to connect to one another at the pub or a cafe on a deeper level.
A group of men of varied ages sitting around a round table engaged in conversation.
That, they say, enables friendships and, ultimately, can prevent individual tragedies.
It’s not just moms. Dads can develop postpartum depression, too.
As a new postpartum pill for women gains national attention, health experts say it’s also important to highlight men’s mental health needs after having a baby, with researching showing 1 in 10 fathers experience postpartum depression and anxiety.
A new study also suggests addressing paternal mental health is vital for baby's health after finding children born to dads with depression are at increased risk of developing depression themselves.
Hey there, fellow Redditors! This is a research account for data protection purposes, so I apologise for the zero Karma. Are you intrigued by the intricate dance between masculinity, crime, and societal perceptions? We’re diving deep into this captivating topic and want YOUR voice to be a part of our groundbreaking study. Your Thoughts, Your Impact can help reshape the dialogue around masculinity.
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I understand that as a man I am supposed to let go of toxic traits such as an aversion to vulnerability. However, I struggle immensely to allow myself to feel the intense impotence, shame, and terror that surges when things are unraveling and it seems like I'm about to lose all control. This reaction is so quick and intense that it short circuits my ability to allow the feelings in and instead I reflexively tighten up and block out my emotions (or at least try to) but eventually these build-up (especially the shame) and I just lose all control and have to withdraw or hide from the world and am never able to truly process these emotions and them go. Has anyone found a way through this? I think some complicating factors for me are that I'm neurodivergent (ADHD, OCD, High Sensitivity, RSD, etc). Also, I am in therapy and am making some progress but is it painfully slow...
I know this community has been off and on over the last few years. I am going to try and get more active on posting here and hope to get more engagement for us all to share our struggles and support one another.
I am actually doing quite well these days, I have cut back work hours and been spending good quality time with the family. I started reading Zen books again and have found it helpful as a way to stop carrying baggage around for months when it doesn't have to affect me any longer. I have also taken an interest in learning to fly planes so that has been fun as well.