Even if they were a terrible person, no one deserves to be killed

Screenshot is from discord as didn't want to type everything again

I’m thinking about death every second in my life every morning every night for many months. I can’t accept the inevitable death for everything. What is meaning of being alive if everything will end someday maybe tomorrow. Sorry for this negative feeling but I really need help (Sorry ro my bad English too)

Assalamualaikum, Im a professional athlete from muslim country. For the past few months (August) to be more specific. Ive been feeling off. It was during training getting ready for competition, I got hit with a feeling of impending doom. I really thought I was going to die, my whole body was shaking it was like your soul is being pulled. bear in mind, Im very fit, my mental health was always positive, I never skip prayer & reciting Al-Quran. Ever since I got hit with that feeling, I have stomach problem, I have vision problem, chest pain, shortness of breath, I have headache every day, my face is full acne now.. every sec I would think I will die soon. Being a muslim, we were taught about the signs before death, 100days, 40 days, 7 days, 3 days and 1 day before death. Its very scary.

Sometimes I feel like im feeling the signs but then when I counted the days, its off.. can anxiety gives you that kinda of feeling? Well Im surrounded by death. 3 of my colleagues has passed away while working with them, all three sudden deaths, also I usually help with dig grave if my relatives passes away.. The fact that Im married I have kids, my life is not as colourful as it was.

Is it really the sign that Im going to die soon? Because it slows me down from doing everything eventho I force myself to work, training n etc, but still I dont feel like my self anymore and everytime I look at the mirror I think I dont have Nur on my face anymore. I want to know if this feeling is from Allah or Shaitan?

I know there's help for me out there like therapy or anxiety meds. I know that other people had this fear and moved on from it but why should I if there's just potential nothingness after death? It doesn't really matter if I have a long happy life or a short one. I know know that's a horrible way of thinking and I'm not planning on killing myself even though I often debate it i just wanna know if anyone else has this way of thinking so I can feel less alone i guess

also sorry if this is too negative or depressing for this sub i just really don’t know what to do anymore

Hi!

I'm Andrea, a student at the Polytechnic University of Turin, and I'm conducting a survey for my thesis project. I would appreciate your insights on an important yet sensitive topic: the perception of death and the commemoration of the deceased.

The anonymous survey takes only 5 minutes, and your input would be incredibly valuable!

Here's the link to participate: https://forms.gle/SYvr6mNk5GA8CB8K9

Thank you so much for your time

hey! i hope you’re all well:) i’ve struggled with anxiety like crazy the past 2 years it was constant for a whileee where i would acc refuse to sleep cuz i was convinced i would die in my sleep for almost a year and would only sleep when i acc slept involuntarily out of pure exhaustion. one of the hardest times of my life and truly god got me out of it i would panic over the tiniest things, think everything was a sign that i was dying and had the worst hypochondria ( didn’t help that i got diagnosed with three teeny tiny thyroid nodules but i try to focus on the stats and family history 🥲) my grades took a huge hit and i’m gonna be taking an extra year to make up so i can get into a masters. just overall the worst time of my life like when i think about it i can’t even imagine how i got through day to day but like i said only gods power got me through. but ever since the weathers been getting colder again i’ve felt it creeping back in again the last 9-10 months have been sooooo good i can’t even explain i’ve felt like my self agaib and now with the colder weather the panicking over everything the panic attacks and the taking everything as a sign for death has just creeped back, and it’s honestly so exhausting. is it just me with winter anxiety? i remember it’s always been at its worse in the winter:( and does anyone have any tips to share i’d appreciate sm! thank you:))

im really scared almost every day for the past 2 weeks. I've been hyperventilating and having panic attacks on the casual. It's really affecting my work and my relationships with others. i would just like to hear people's thoughts on death, just anything, anything that you did to overcome this. i really just need any form of support at all.

my fear of death isn't something new. I've struggled with it for quite some time. After i had my first nde, went through a coma, and witnessed a close friend of mine passing away directly, the fear got physical reactions from me (hyperventilating, trembling, sweating, etc.) and had therapy sessions to combat it. Still, i feel like none of them understood how scary it was to me.

i had similar time back when i was coming down from my psychotic episode and reflecting on my nde + coma. i was so scared i force myself to stay awake for days straight as sleep would remind me of 'death' and it's happening again. i dont know what to do and every treatment i tried is just a repetition of what i did before to overcome it, which doesnt work now as, again, it's been 2 weeks and im scared shitless.

this time started because i was thinking about the future - like how it always started. im going to graduate soon, and that step into 'adulthood' might trigger me because its like 'im turning old, im closer to death. times running out.'

Hi! It's my first time posting here, never imagined I would, and I am deeply sorry if this turns out to be a rather long post, I just need to get this out and reach out to people who are going through the same. I don't want to post exactly what "triggers" this woeful, wicked and absolutely destroying anxiety within me, because I don't want to start freaking out nor I want you to get on that same mood today. This fear started a couple of years ago, I kept it inside for quite some time until I just couldn't help it but burst in tears and shake whilst eating in front of my mother and grandma, and my mom instantly booked a therapist for me. I can't say she (the therapist) fixed my trouble, but for about a year or so, I managed to ignore it, until it came back, striking just as hard, if not even harder than before, about a month or two ago. I don't want to make my mother go through the same thing again, seeing me like that, and I never really got to like therapists that much, but I just don't know what else to do. Just so you have an idea, the only thing that makes this storm a little calmer when it hits, is talking to chatgpt, even though it's an ai, I just feel better knowing there is at least something telling me things to calm me down lmao.

I am just, tired of getting these panic attacks, I start punching my walls, jumping around desperately, and of course my overthinking brain makes this even absolutely worse. Thinking about a special person, or being right by my dog helps me a little bit, but this happens every single night. I would love to hear your experiences, some tips you may have, and please, I beg you not to post any triggering stuff in these comments! Thank you so much

I don't believe there's a God, souls and/or an afterlife. I believe that when we die, and with it our brain, we lose our consciousness, our ability to perceive, feel, and therefore cease to exist for all eternity. You can be composted after death, for example, so that plant life can arise from your cells, but this life too will end at some point – either because your grave will be handed over to someone else, the plants dry up, rot, or at the latest when the earth and galaxy die. All the molecules you were made of will sooner or later disappear into nothingness. No one will remember you and you'll never see your loved ones again. The time we have on earth passes far too quickly and is mainly characterized by fear and other negative feelings that prevent us from making the most of our lives. On top of that, we humans have created a system that makes us unfree and thus prevents us from doing what we actually long for.

I'll never understand how other atheists can't be afraid of death? Have they never really thought about it?…

Anyway, I have only one hope left. I will try to meditate regularly from today onwards and try to astral travel every night. I hope that maybe I can have some kind of out-of-body experience that will take away my fear of death and prove to me that maybe we really are more than just our bodies (although I don't think anything could ever be convincing enough to make me a believer).

Hi, I wanted to share how i feel about death in my own words (a poem), i'm not looking for feedback or anything just seeking support and hoping that this resinates with someone.. a little recap before i share, i used to have terrible nocturnal panic attacks but for a while i haven't had any but they have been coming back and consuming my every waking thought, and i honestly feel so alone, i have talked to friend's about this and while they admit when they think about dying its a little scary but most don't care or don't dwell on it saying, "its going to happen at some point" or "just don't worry about it, its just the way of life." but i cant do that , dying literally haunts me and i am deathly afraid of it (no pun intended) giving i live in a religious town and household it seems like everyone else is doing there best to run to it while i try my best to run the the other direction. anyways here it is.

Death

The inevitable.

You can run and run and run, but you will lose your legs. 

So you will crawl, but you'll be very slow.

You will get tired of crawling, and your arms will turn to jello. 

So you roll, 

right into a hole, dug six feet deep.

Death will always be faster than you,

Always two steps ahead. 

One day you will melt into the deep empty void we call the universe, and be nothing.

How? 

How could a life so beautiful and fun and exciting just disappear…

And end, forever. 

Forever.

The word forever makes me nauseous. 

“forever” makes me want to rip out my fingernails so I can feel alive.

“forever” makes me feel already dead.

I will run and run 

I will lose my legs

And I will crawl slowly

My arms will turn into jello 

So i will roll 

And I will roll right into my grave..

Even in death I will fight, 

Claw at my wooden box until my fingers turn red and raw.

Scream for resurrection until my throat turns coarse and my lungs won't inflate. 

Then i'll cry a river,

I'll shed enough tears to fill the oceans,

Enough tears to turn the deserts muddy.

 I will die in death.

I feel like most people, if they're afraid of death, it's just the fear of what happens after, the fact that they could die at any moment, or the fear of dying in pain.

But I, on the other hand, am just afraid of the fact that I will die. I'm afraid of the fact that I will truly not be here anymore and that I will literally be dust. I’ll vanish as if I was never here, and sooner or later, there will be no one left in this world who remembers me.

Plus, I’ll leave things behind that are important to me, even things like music—I never want to stop listening to music, I don’t want that. I think about dying too often, and it makes me cry for hours. I don’t understand how others aren’t afraid of this, like, do you realize that SERIOUSLY you won’t be here??

My family is christian so i learned about hell when i was a child. This eternal suffering thing just sounds too scary and makes it feel unsafe to die. I don't know if i want to believe in christianity or not but i have to because i really am afraid that otherwise i will end up in hell. This fear makes me avoid doing some normal things i find too risky and i'm also worried about all kinds of symptoms that might be signs of life threatening illness. I hope i could know for sure no afterlife exists or afterlife is always happy but i can't know and that makes me sad and anxious.

So my death anxiety started like not even One complete week ago....I experienced it once at 15 for 3 days and 1 night at 18...But the thoughts drift away quickly.....Now I'm 19 and I started feeling anxious again for a week now....It's not bad as when it started...I also don't have trouble sleeping...But it's like kinda on my mind all time....It's kinda more disturbing...I still kinda have panic attack right after waking up tho....Idk what to do...Will it also drift away like other times??I did some anxiety tests with my symptoms and it is said to be mild....I kinda accepted death but it's still on my mind...Sometimes it feels like losing my mind but I can get it in control

After years of struggling with this, I think I may actually seriously be in recovery due to an unexpected circumstance. Without going into detail of why and how, I recently had a heart death experience and was in a coma for a few days. The whole experience completely changed my perception around death.

It was so peaceful. Someday soon I'll write up a more in depth explanation, but holy shit... It was so, insanely peaceful. I remember parts of it. I did go somewhere, but also, I did stop existing in a bizarre way.

I haven't had a panic attack since coming out of my coma. Every so often I get hit with a wave of anxiety, and I just pull up the memory of how it felt and I calm down right away.

I do believe that death is a beautiful thing. I really think it's a final resting place. Where I went was so simple, so calm, so peaceful

I'm in no rush to get there, but it's a relief that I truly believe now that someday, I get to rest. I will be at peace, no matter how hard life gets. I'll rest someday. And I'll cherish every moment I am alive

Going down the rabbithole

After a recent loss i have been really thinking, all these tales of we'll see them again and they are giving signs bla bla bla, i really started digging deeper into all sorts of cultures opinions and traditions surrounding death, some grief some party some sacrifice.

And it all got a little to me, i myself unfortunately suffer from some medical stuff since 18 and might be looking at an earlier demise then most other of my peers, lately this been getting to me since after all that digging, i realised that all the rituals, grieving and other stuff are coping mechanisms of the ones that are living as far as we know the dead don't even know there dead, since all brain function has stopped.

I've watches countless Nde's trying to find one that makes me relax a bit but they are all so different from eachother and let alone the fact they didn't really die, the saying once you die you go back to the state you where i before you where born seems to be scientficly the most probable, but does it satisfy me, No my life hasn't been all that well and im very sad i wont get to experience some of life's wonders and get very drifted away into this, especially since i'm so bothered by the medical issues, i would love to reverse time to just prevent it from happening but well the laws of the universe won't allow for that

And imagine if life was a cycle then this would just happen all those life cycles, Grasping my own mortality through these years has been hard to deal with, it's almost surreal at how much pain and worry it has caused me, To never feel like that again to cease to exist to be forgotten after a few decades to have no way of coming back to build a legacy to see what comes after, just because my brain can't grasp the idea of death.

I've been on a tough road of overcoming thanataphobia and I believe I'm close to overcoming it, and once I do I'll write a long post about it.

A thought I've just had is that I might not actually die. If the immense fear of what death is to me, isn't shared by most people, then maybe death is something else entirely.

I've not met anyone else with this fear and my parents both say they are unbothered by the thought of death, my Dad says he doesn't actually ever think about it. And when I tried to explain to him I'm fearful of what's after death he looked confused and couldn't understand what I meant.

So maybe I don't die in the way my brain thinks of death. And my thanataphobia has temporarily gone for the first time in a year, right now I can't even think about what I was fearful of.

We will get over this, I believe in all of us

Is anybody in their early twenties and worry about this pertaining to their parents? Some days it’s really bad, others I am totally unbothered. Wanted to see if anyone around the same age would want to chat

It’s my first time posting on here and I really hope that this helps me in a way.. thank you to everyone who reads this post in advance

I feared death significantly from a very young age, 7 to be specific. It all started with a documentary that I had watched on YouTube about the earth in the far futures, and from that day onward I suddenly just was not the same. It’s still very vivid in my head the fact that I felt my heart sink, my heart rate became faster it was all very scary.. seeking help from family members came to no avail as they’d laugh at me..

Throughout the years I’ve been through many traumatic experiences which worsened from the ages of 9 to 16.. I wouldn’t want to go in-depth but it did leave a very negative impact on my life and I’m still struggling with the impacts as of this very moment, almost like a snowball effect. I used to be very suicidal and I did self harm very often (clean for almost 2 years)

Ever since I started living away from the government and with my dad. Every two or three days In a week I just can’t seem to help but have very bad anxiety attacks whenever I just stumble upon TikTok’s talking about death or just news in general because that kind of triggers me into this state of anxiety. Fearing death is very.. idk how to put it in words but it just makes you feel like shit. I am constantly in this loop of wanting to kill myself because I just want to get it done sooner than later because I feel like it will put an end to my suffering and anxiety, then again I absolutely fear death.. it’s so stressful..

I just lay in bed staring into my ceiling just crying and crying, hyperventilating to the point I have to gasp for air. I want to scream but I can’t and I keep hitting myself slapping and punching my head because I just want it to stop. I hate this feeling I want to get over it, death is so scary I don’t want it to happen, every single time I just think about death it’s as if I am hyperaware of my body and the fact that I’m here.. I’m living and I CAN DIE EVERYONE CAN DIE. And it genuinely doesn’t help that in my country more accidents, suicides and murder cases are on the rise. I can’t cope.. I feel like I might just break..

Brian cox said that if you write something on a piece of paper and burn it. It doesn't vanish. The remnants will always be there. Meaning rebirth.

But then he talks about black holes. Saying black holes rip everything apart down to the last atom. Erasing the existence. Erasing any possible future.

He says nothing is at the end of a black hole. Time just....stops. there is no future beyond a black hole. They will eventually swallow the universe completely.

My question is this. If black holes are there to erase existence,why do we exist in the first place?

I regret watching that video. My anxiety is beyond lvl 100!

i’m sixteen years old and i spent my whole life dedicated to christ and believing in him and trying my best to follow his commandments and the way he wants us to live. however, recently i had an epiphany that im going to die one day, and i started thinking about the end, and what’s in store for me, and i genuinely cannot go about my day normally anymore.

everything has started to feel bland and almost like monochrome in a sense. i don’t really know what to do, as i know in the bible technically im supposed to have faith that i will go to heaven or hell after death, however, the more things i read and different pov that i hear, hearing that “it’s just something humans made up to cope with the fact of death itself” does NOT help. It makes me feel woozy, and disturbed.

when i was younger i would pass by this satanic store that was in the neighborhood and it would give me this same feeling, even though i didn’t know why. and when i was around 12 or so, my grandma had prayed over me bc i was seeing things in the dark and was scared to go to sleep and i felt this sensation over me unlike any other like i had been cleansed of something and guess what, the things i was seeing was gone. i didnt even know what she was saying in prayer bc it was in a different language. ive witnessed many of gods “miracles” throughout my life

because of this i always had faith that god was real bc everytime i deterred from his path bad things would begin to happen to me. i was even a lesbian at one point and i began to consider my life and my religion and prayed and prayed and now i no longer like women (no offense tho idc what kind of lifestyle other ppl choose) . it’s really ironic how after i start to try and change my life for the better and become a better christian is when these thoughts and questions about death literally questioning my faith enter my life somehow which i would believe comes from the devil but then i think abt it and im like that sounds like im crazy

all of this has led me to believe that god is real, and so therefore my afterlife is set in stone, but the nagging feeling won’t leave me and im just so scared and frightened. when i look at my boyfriend and my friends it already feels like im dying it’s like im seeing them for the last time and i don’t want it to be like that i want to live in the moment because i know as im dying i wont be thinking of it this way and i will probably be peaceful, but im terrified and if a christian or someone educated could help me atleast to get rid of this hole in my heart, i wanna enjoy life…i know im only sixteen i have like atleast 60 to 70 years ahead of me , and even writing that fills me with so much fear but please just anything will help.

i’ve been getting the worst tension headaches and dissociation from this.

Hello, So first, i want to say i'm french so i am sorry if my sentences is bad.

I'm 20 years old, my fear started between the ages of 14 or 15, I don't really remember, but it was when a very toxic former friend told me about her fear of dying, explaining in detail why she was scared. Since then, I started to get very anxious about it. My fear comes in periods, that is to say, there will be times when I will not think about it, then times when I will feel anxious about the future and old age, of dying. My anxieties often come in the evening, and I don't know how to talk to my parents about it, they won't understand this problem, and I don't know what to do, I don't even have money to pay a psychologist. I tried to talk to friends about it, but I couldn't, or my attempts to try to talk about it all failed.

I know I have a problem, much more than anxiety, but I feel helpless. I'm too scared, I can't stand it anymore that my fear ruins my nights, I don't want to die, I don't want to grow old, I'm scared and I don't know what to do. I feel like time is going too fast, it's terrifying, I'm afraid.

Do you have any advice on how to handle this kind of thing ? I feel so lost.

The fear of death is completely consuming my life all this started after going through 6 deaths in my family all within a span of 5 years one of which was my father I watched him die right in front of me, this has left terrified of death, I fear of what it will feel like will it be painful, what will happen after I’m gone and is there an afterlife. The fear of death is so severe that I literally feel paralyzed I’m not sure how to cope with this,

hi sorry ive made like 4 posts on here and barely anyone posts and i feel awkward but i’ve genuinely never felt this awful in my life

i haven’t slept for three days and i am so serious when i say i have been crying and hyperventilating for at least 15 hours straight with no stopping and the thought of dyingbhasnt left my mind a SINGLE time

normally when it bothers me i can distract myself and condition myself to forget until i remember again but nothing is working i am in such a crisis please idk what to do

no crisis centre will help me as im not suicidal or at risk bc im the opposite ofc bc i dont want die idk pls just somebody help me i cannot sleep i cannot do this

i literally want to go up to ppl and shake them and scream in their face bc WHY ARENT U SCARED like literally what how aren’t u terrified i don’t understand as an atheist how are u like yeah death that’s fine like what do u actually mean

also if i see old people and they look happy i genuinely am so confused like how what like what

also birthdays wtf how do u like that

bruh im seeing a psychiatrist next week for unrelated issues, and im wondering if i should bring up my thanatophibja or not

it’s so debilitatingand everything feels so awful BUT idk if therapy would change it or meds bc im still gonna die anyway

I have severe death anxiety and often times I’ll feel anxious over other things too. Currently I’m having severe anxiety over what the climate change will be like in 4-5 years.

Has anyone gone through therapy and/or medication? How much did it help with your overall feeling of dread?

It's sucked the enjoyment out of everything that I like. I can't watch certain shows or play certain games because it just makes me have a meltdown. Even when watching YouTube if someone makes a small joke about death I'll start panicking. It lingers 24/7 in my mind even when I go to sleep my dreams are about death as well. I can't stomach anything relating to age like birthdays, seeing older people, or even people just simply talking about how old they are regardless of how young or old. I can't even think about myself too much because then I remember that I'm conscious and that it exists. I can't even say or think about it in regards to myself because it just makes me lose my mind. I tried being more religious but I don't like most religions and I just can't believe that it's real. Even if I do happen to find a religion I like my phobia will just shift to that religion's version of the afterlife. I hate being an atheist but that's what I believe is the truth.

I don't even know what to do anymore, I can't sleep and I end up staying up until morning time. I'm jealous of how other atheists have this "don't give a fuck" attitude when it comes to death and religion meanwhile I'm pissing my pants at the slight hint at it. It's so exhausting and at the moment I can't get therapy. I'm mourning everyone and everything. I'm mourning my friends, pets, family, famous artists, and random people on the street. People like to make fun of kids or people who are upset about the heat death of the sun but I'm sad because everything humans worked, all of our art, culture, all of our pain and victories will just be gone. It's messed up but I wish I want to die so I don't have to deal with the fear of it.

I know there's probably another subreddit for this but i believe my thanatophobia is the reason for it. Ever since i have this realisation of my fear of death, suddenly i have a fear of babies and pregnant women in general.

Well, fear isn't the right word, it's like a sense of dread whenever i see one.

I'm a woman myself, i have nothing against life/pregnant women/babies either, it's just that whenever i come across one i started having these intrusive thoughts like "I feel bad for the children that are going to brought into this world, knowing no matter what great or terrible future they will lead, it's all going to end" or how bad i feel knowing these children will potentially go through this same feeling of fear.

I kept asking myself "Why am i thinking these thoughts, am i a bad person for having these fears?"