around when i had first started i was giving this guy a dance in VIP and we’re talking, he’s asking lots of questions about me. he goes on to asks if i have any kids, i said no and asked if he did and he said no. he then asks me (im a girl) if i potentially have any i don’t know about. i looked at him and told him that isn’t really possible, this man asked why, WHAT DO YOU MEAN WHY, i think i’d know if i had to carry a baby for nine months and birth it. all he said when i explained why that wouldn’t be possible was “oh, ok that’s cool”, it was so stupid it was hilarious.

“We’re just hanging out.”

“I don’t have any money.”

“What happens in the VIP/what do you do in the VIP room?”

“What happens in a lap dance/what is a lap dance?”

“Do I have to PAY (for lap dances)?” (suggesting that it’s free)

“Why is it so slow? Is it always like this?”

“I’m just waiting for my friend/s to come out of the back…”

I asked a guy if he wanted to buy me a drink, and he kept saying, “No, I’m okay… I’m okay…” (I don’t know why, but that really pissed me off. 🤬)

“I got a wife/girlfriend at home…”

“What are you doing after this?”

“How can I see you outside of here?”

“How much for sex?”

“Blowjob???”

etc…

(This one is more of a body language thing, but:) It also kind of annoys me when: I’ve seen it a lot, it’s that moment when, a guy — especially younger guys — will be all over their guy friends and give their Bro a big, huge MAN HUG right in front of me. Or they’re all scooched up together on the couches, touching sneakers, touching toes I’m like… are y’all even attracted to women?? 😒🤨🙄🤦🏽‍♀️ (I call groups like these the “White Sneaker Club.” 👟👟) Sneaker boys, you know it when you’ll see it. Too busy cutting up with their friends, or scrolling their phones… wayyy too absorbed in the conversations with their friend group… clowning around with their male friends a lot… not watching or tipping the stage… refuse to get dances with any of the girls… and not really warm or welcoming or receptive, to dancers in their section/at their table. (Moments like these are inevitable in the club, like, I get it, but they always trigger tf outta me.)

Yall I drank to much at work tonight and I’m fighting for my LIFE rn, Send help Might die

MAJOR CRASHOUT AHEAD LOL

i broke down crying for the 3rd shift in a row. for context, its a saturday.

i made $10.

from 9pm to 3am.

my previous shifts from january look like

$2

-$20

-$20

$80

$300

$60

$10

$140

like is there something wrong with me?? i want to move out of my apartment i cant keep taking money out of my savings.

like genuinely sitting in the bank right now and sobbing.

ive been a monster--talking to every available customer, changing my outfits. my perfume, staying past close to try and close a room sale.

i know its slow season but I've never wanted to seriously blow up my club. they don't care about us, lure us in with fake bonuses and lie about room sales.

i want to get out of dancing more than anything in the world. i need to leave. this job is sucking my soul away and i want to get married to my boyfriend.

GOD I HATE THIS JOB. no one looks out for us. we have to do every little bit of care for ourselves, including our fucking TAXES which i wont be doing because fuck the robbery that is my income tax. this year has been so ass that the govt probably owes me money.

i am so flat broke that i actually lost 5 lbs in January from not having food. this is such a joke. nyc is a lifesucking monster good fucking night fuck trump fuck the rich fucking losers that come into this club and try to suck the life from beautiful young women and pay $20 to rub their dirty cock on my thigh. FUCK. THIS.

I’ve been dancing off and on for almost four years, and this is one of my biggest struggles. It’s really hard for me to rebound after a customer goes out of their way to be rude or disrespectful. It can completely ruin my mood for the rest of the shift—sometimes my whole day—especially if I’m about to get my period since I think I might have PMDD.

On top of that, I’m currently cutting WAY back on drinking, which has heightened my anxiety. I used to drink like 5-10 shots during a shift (and I’m under 5’ tall 🥴) so my inhibitions were completely gone, and I didn’t care as much when customers were rude. Now that I’m mostly sober at work, it’s been harder to shake those negative moments, even though I know this will get easier over time.

I’m also a non-confrontational person by nature, so it really catches me off guard when customers are outright rude or disrespectful. I’ve kind of developed a fear of negative interactions, which sometimes leads me to avoid approaching customers altogether just to avoid the risk. But this mindset is really holding me back, and since dancing is currently my only source of income, I can’t afford to let it get to me this way.

I want to be able to quickly shake off these interactions and not let them affect my ability to do my job. I’m curious—what methods do other entertainers use to bounce back after a bad customer interaction? How do you shake it off and prevent it from affecting your mindset and energy for the rest of your shift?

I have a customer that likes to be referred to as a slave and me a goddess. I really don’t know how to deal with stuff like that. He does give me money online. I’ve only seen at the club a couple times if anyone has any tips on how to deal with this, it would be greatly appreciated.

My looks haven’t changed. I think it’s because I’m not as “fun” I don’t drink. I’m trying to be fun but it’s not working!

What keeps happening to me is that I’ll get a few dances with a customer try get more he’s not buying even if I try converse further he’s still not budging so I leave and watch the next girl get 2x more out of him!

I use to be the girl that got more out the customer now I’m not. I even thought one of the girls put a curse on me haha.

Guess I’m tired of not being the top earner of the night when I’m use to being one. Things are obviously tough because in January but I also had a 1 bad experience just before Xmas of a guy spending on me in vip then losing him to another girl.

I’m not doing anything different in my lap dances. Im trying to be enthusiastic and fun but I can’t seem to get them addicted or “in love with a stripper” like I use to be able to.

are exactly the reason why managers keep trying to hook up with us dancers who are there to do our job and go home and it’s honestly annoying as fuck. y’all shit where you eat, IT NEVER ENDS WELL and the manager moves on to try to fuck another girl. and they don’t question their actions because y’all enable it so the dancers who treat the club like a job have to suffer the harassment. just so unprofessional

yessiriee!!! Yes the fuck i am hunny 💅🏻💅🏻💅🏻💅🏻💸💸💸✨✨✨✨ thanks for the dance,but you can go ahead and try with my coworker,cause I am not going home with you✨✨✨✨

Anyway,Happy Saturday yall❤️ I secured the bag and hope you do too💅🏻✨💸❤️

I’m a dancer and I don’t want this guy to come after me at the club he’s actually my roommate and he knows what I do so anyways I really need a great attorney to help me. He assaulted me at a bar and now I have bruises and a cast on my arm. Can anyone help?

I woke up at like 9am this morning and went on a hike and I am at work rn till 3am and I so tired I’m just sitting in the corner I’m falling asleep. Give me tips to stay awake Also my back hurts LMAO

I’ve been having a tough time with this lately and need some advice. I go in for day shift every day around 4pm, and our club closes at around 2-4am depending on the day. Usually, once I make my goal, I just go home lol. (Meaning if I don’t make my goal, I’ll stay until close or until I do).

However, I always feel bad about this. For example, tonight I went in at 4pm and ended up making $1600 by 12am (thank you Universe, blessed be thy end of January). And then I just went home because I was tired LOL. But now I’m at home and I’m really mad at myself. I feel like I could’ve stayed and made more… idk. I never know what to do.

Also, because I’m day shift I’m usually leaving before 12am and I miss the last two hours of the night where I feel like girls make most of their money. What do yall do? Do you have a goal? A certain amount of hours? Should I start pushing myself to stay or start going to work later in the day?

Okay, so, hear me out.

There is no judgment here, but I call it like I see it.

A lot of the same chicks who I hear constantly complaining and being negative, I also see them sitting around & glaring at customers/with a mean resting face.

They will say things about how “there’s no money in here,” or “it’s all brokies,” etc.

Which, is fair, but. I’m just saying…

They don’t do anything with their stage time.

They don’t interact with guests.

They always ask the DJ to skip them on stage.

They are sloppy drunk, getting too sloppy at work, falling all over the place… they come across manic or blackout drunk a lot of the time. Or they can be aggressive — but not in a “bossy”/“domme bitch” kind of way, just generally unpleasant.

They wear the same outfit every single day.

They’re usually in a bad mood, majority of the time.

I’m coming from a place of sympathy, I’m not coming from a place of hate, trust me, I’ve been there. We’ve all been there.

But I just genuinely want to know if you’ve observed this @ your club?

I’m not saying I don’t have off days too, or moments where I am low-energy.

But come on, really??

Laying on the stage, or sleeping on the couches, on the main floor, when new customers are coming in? You would never catch me doing that. I think it looks very sloppy and unprofessional. And amateurish. I mean, I get it, but… if you need rest, maybe take a night off or at least go in the back room. That’s my opinion, be mad if you wanna be mad but that’s how I feel.

We all deserve to be compensated for what we do (stripping), but some people bitch & complain all the time and yet they are not doing anything especially impressive. So we all deserve to get several bands, or several “RACKS,” just for being there? Or for mediocre performances? I don’t know that I agree with that.

Some girls are better at dancing than others. So, if you can’t dance, or do pole tricks, then at least have a nice personality and look good. Is that too much to ask, or am I delusional here??

It’s just kind of annoying how cocky & entitled some girls are getting lately…

Maybe it’s from burnout, but. I don’t get why they expect to make thousands of dollars, for literally doing nothing.

Like, I get it, we all need money, but. Some people are getting pretty sloppy at work and low quality, I’ve noticed, as of lately…

I just feel like taking a lazy approach to everything, is not gonna be your meal ticket.

This is not only exclusive to dancers— but I’ve even seen it, with the WAITRESSES. Example: One time, I kindly approached one of the waitresses, and I asked her if she had change for $100. And she looked like she had NO IDEA what I was talking about. Swear to God. She looked confused. Then I said, what about change for a $20? And she was like nahhhhhhh and kind of walked away slowly & awkwardly. Like. So unhelpful! (Maybe she was just incompetent?) I tried to explain to her, that I just needed some smaller bills, like $5’s, to tip the staff. No offense, but… Are you an idiot?? Like. I would think this should be a very, very BASIC function of your job? Maybe I just caught her at a bad time. But yeah. Not impressed. 🤨

This is not a hate post, I am just speaking to what I’ve seen, and how I perceive it.

Again, I’m not judging, because you never know what people are going through.

I just don’t really care for rude & entitled people, low-effort, bad energy, and bad/stuck-up attitudes…

💰

🙏🏽 Wishing us all blessings & prosperity. ✌️✌️

So I know this was a dumb ass idea but I started dating the manager of my old club after he started hitting on me & asking me out and he’s given me $, done things like helped pay tuition / bills some vacays & designer, gifts (even though he claims to not like being asked for $, I kind of turned him out bc I’m persistent and always try to get what I want out of a situation but I feel like this isn’t worth it fr) etc but every time we argue which is a lot bc he’s lowkey turned out to be verbally and mentally abusive, dysfunctional and lives in a hoarder home as his parents who passed away were hoarders. He has promised to leave me a 1 million insurance policy he is sitting on when he passes, he’s in his 50s and has dvt/blood clots. However, every time I ask for $ he bitches and moans that I’m treating him like a customer & that I shouldn’t ask for $ if he’s really my ‘boyfriend’ lol. He threatens to cancel the cards I’m listed under and the phone I’m on under his account & to ‘break up’ with me which he did tonight and I honestly just don’t even have the energy to pretend to give a fuck anymore. I don’t know what to do besides hustle and just stay to myself honestly. He’s always claiming I don’t care about him bc of the $ thing but he’s abusive mentally and verbally and doesn’t know how to control his temper regardless.

I don’t know how to sell VIPs or dances. I work at a new club where house fee is $55. I’m also a baby dancer. All the other girls make hundreds of dollars and the most I’ve made here is $100. I made so much money at my last club before I had to leave. I’m not making anything here. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I’m just so unmotivated . But I want the fast money.

Does anyone else tell customers that are not tipping about strip club etiquette? That it’s not a movie theatre? They should be interacting with us? I genuinely feel I make more money by telling them this then if I don’t. I’m a very persistent hustler and I will literally remind everyone in the club this whether they like it or not. Curious if anyone else has this basic strategy when they work. It definitely has gotten me more sales by consistently reminding any person or group who doesn’t tip.

I just want to remind you that every regular has their expiration date and won't be coming to you forever Sometimes it's only a few weeks/visits in the club, sometimes it's months, sometimes years, but not forever. They might die, get bored of club/you, start doing some drama or start being creepy. And it's definitely not worth staying with them, doesn't matter what. They might start to manipulate you, try to meet you out of the club or get you put of he biznes, by don't leat them corsa your boundaries and don't agree for doing something for free/cheap just because they're your regular. I think those things are most important to knew for baby strippers, but I fell like everyone needs that reminder once a while. I've seen too many mistakes like this, with girls agreeing for too much (even if they're not comfortable with them), just because it was "a good regulars". Please, remember you're more worth than those guys.

good evening girls, i hope y’all are having a super profitable weekend at work and/or a great one just relaxing at home. i need the rundown on the clubs in salt lake if you can please, and an idea of what the atmosphere is like. my life is changing up suddenly and without control. life is almost pushing me to leave where i am now, i’ve been house hunting for three months here and literally i’ve viewed five houses this week alone, filled out three applications, and still gotten nowhere. i’ve got two weeks to find a place (PLEASE send good vibes for your girl 🥺😭) or i’ll be in a hotel until i find a place.

i bring up salt lake because my long term bf is in SLC currently for work and staying with family. like my housing situation, he literally searched for months for a job in his skilled trade and got nowhere. it’s the only place he could find work and have solid housing with his family, but his income is good enough there it’s looking like we might just end relocating to SLC and trying it out for a year to save.

i guess my biggest question is if someone could explain to me what’s up with the “[dancer name] - 5pm to 9pm” type of stuff. are they advertising a limited amount of girls for a short amount of time? i’ve never worked at a club that advertised similar to this and their social media pages have made confused about if they’re giving short shifts

I don’t think it’s a bad idea maybe a little dangerous but I convinced him to go to the club and he fell in love with me and spent $$$ 😂 I don’t know if he’s lying though but supposedly he has a couple of houses and uses uber as a way to get out of the house and socialize he’s a older guy he sounds like he has money any tips following this ?

In search for a FREE app that’s NOT wonky to track my mileage for drives to the club & pole studio.

I’ve been using excel but it’s not easy to use unless I’m on my computer and I’d really prefer to have an app to track that, and transfer to my spreadsheet later.

Ladies please drop your best shaving tips for sensitive areas! I am so prone to redness and ingrown hairs and I need the secrets

I’m an hsp. I saw a post on here that said “you rarely see sharks in the locker room, they’re usually making b2b sales”. I used to be like that. I was also in struggle mode and had to hustle. Now I lean more into my natural gifts, charm, and intuition. But at a certain point in the night I hit a wall. If you’re a fellow hsp and can’t work 8 hours straight, what are some things you do to keep going? Sometimes I just literally stop working and go meditate on the toilet lollll….

So I’m thinking of trying to start out stripping in Utah. And was just curious if there’s anyone here who also does it in Utah. Any tips? Advice? Where the best place to start out at? And how do I get my license for it? I wasn’t able to see anything really about the license in this group yet.

I'm in need of advice, I have a customer that after knowing I returned to the club after a long break, wanted to spend time with me and buy dances from me but a fellow coworker who walked up to him first made him promise her a dance and to spend time with her, but after her stage set she went with another customer leaving me and him alone so we hung out and got a dance, we waited for her to come get her dance but she was mad and already talked crap about me to him which already made him very uncomfortable to be around her. saying I was using him, even tho we have known each other a long time. fast forward, we waited for her to come back she never did until she did and at this point it was a bit too awkward so he stayed with me and continued to get dances with me. After that she vowed to take any customer I choose to speak to after this idk what to do. Or how I handle the situation. She said I stole her customer and said she will steal everyone I talk to. did I do something wrong? I don't understand. I'm a OG dancer to this club and haven't been back in awhile and these guys know me but yet l'm always told I'm stealing their guys. I'm just working and letting what they want to give me come to me. This guy expressed interest in me and told me if I knew I was there she wouldn’t even have been an option, but I was fine waiting for after he was done doing his dances with her but she never came back she ended up talking to my boss and the DJ saying I’m stealing customers. I just don’t get it. Am I the asshole?

Edit, I never walked up to them to interject myself while they were talking I said hi on a tip walk and we got to talking she went on stage and he did go tip her and we waited for her to collect her dance so we could get ours and spend the rest of the night together, but she didn’t come back. So he just stuck with me. He already told her he wanted to stick to me after he did what he promised her cause he didn’t want to be mean and I was okay with that. I asked him multiple times if he wanted to be alone with her or would rather spend time with her but he wanted me. :/

Bro is literally MARRIED and has cheated on her countless fucking times. My work bestie has been one of his targets for years, too, and he has professed his "love" for her on multiple occasions. One of our sweetest girls quit recently because he tried to force her to kiss him IN HER OWN CAR after a few months of him gradually getting more, uhh, friendly with her. Tipping her on stage while caressing her ass and shit.

So, mistress is 6 weeks pregnant, and she doesn't live in the same state. He wants her to get an abortion but she doesn't want to because she's sOoOo iN lOvE with him. Tell me why this mf was asking my work bestie for advice on how to acquire abortion pills to SPIKE HER DRINK?????

Anyway, he's just been really bitchy all night long and being unusually demanding. Thursday and Friday ended up being really great nights for us, which was refreshing, but despite how much money everyone was making, he was still acting like his balls were in a knot.

I have fibromyalgia, which comes with a host of other BS like sciatica, fatigue, nausea, etc. If you know literally anything about chronic illness, you know that symptoms are often unpredictable and are frequently triggered by stress, hormonal cycles, and even the weather. I've been in the process of getting off one of my psych meds to switch to something else that will hopefully help with my pain (cymbalta is one of the few meds approved to treat fibromyalgia and depression). Turns out that the med I had been taking, Wellbutrin, was causing me to have horrific stomach pain, trapped gas, bloating, nausea, and dizziness for months.

Between those symptoms, fibromyalgia, and now withdrawal from coming off the medication as well as adjusting to a new one, I've been missing a lot of work. My club is only open Wed - Saturday from 8p-2a, so there isn't a lot of opportunities to work if you miss a shift. I know how much it sucks to be the only girl on a slow night, so I always come in on either a Wednesday or a Thursday as well as Friday and Saturday if I'm feeling well enough. It's never a good idea for me to try and thug it out on slow nights when I don't feel well because I have limited energy for the weekend and I really need to reserve my energy for when it's busy. It's shitty and I hate it, but that's just how it is and I need to work with what I have.

Tonight after close, I was sitting at the bar cashing out my singles when he hits me with the "it seems like your sciatica is feeling better". I said it was, and I'm feeling better overall but my back was bothering me a lot this week. He starts questioning me about the patterns of my flare-ups and other symptoms, heavily implying that I'm lying about being sick, and the only reason why I work on certain days is because I'm making money. While that is technically the truth, what he failed to remember is that I have had flare-ups absolutely kick my dick in the dirt in the middle of hella busy shifts when the club is packed and one of my regulars is waiting on me while I'm shaking and sobbing in the dressing room because my entire nervous system feels like it's been lit on fire. I have had to leave early or stay home on busy nights. Hell, I even showed up to work one week needing to walk with my cane because I had a kidney infection that was making my back hurt so much that my vision blacked out if I bent my spine to the side a little bit. The truth is that ultimately I am a hard worker and a hustler, and despite the shitty hand I was dealt with my health, I still show the fuck up and TRY.

Ngl I'm slightly worried I might be next on his shit list. He already caught a whiff of my wrath last summer when he wouldn't leave my work bestie alone trying to get her to leave work on a busy Friday night to "go for a drive" (suck his dick), so he's kept me at arms length for the duration of my time there. I mind my business, I lift up the homies and keep a positive energy going, and I bring homemade bread and shit to work. I am a goddamn delight to have around lol.

and this club doesn’t have a rule about maximum prices just a $20/song base price so how the fuck am i supposed to know? and hellooo, inflation?! i was like um ok so can i come back and the manager took the longest and most dramatic pause in the world and said “i’ll think about it” so i laughed at him and told him im never coming back. this would’ve been my 4th year working there on and off but honestly glad this happened bc it was super slow there and the only reason i was even able to make money there was charging $40/song or 3/$100 bc of how few customers came in. and im glad i told the manager im not coming back, he was obviously just on some weird power trip bc if i was fired he wouldn’t have said he’ll “think about it.”

anyways, im glad i made a good amount before that happened and those losers had to give me back my house fee. i hope everyone else had a good night! im planning on going to my other club tomorrow night where the standard prices are $40/song🥰