I’ve been crushing hard on a 37 year old guy at work for over a year now. I’m 26 so the age difference isn’t too crazy. I feel like he is interested in me as well. The man is gorgeous, he’s fit and has thick curly hair with an perfectly intact hairline 😩 he’s kind and mature yet still jokey and playful 😍 He’s never been married and has no kids. I wanna be his wife 😩 but my friends always clown me when I talk about him. They tease me about daddy issues. But he’s not even old enough to be my dad? Idgi. My parents would definitely have a problem if I were to bring home a man his age too. What are your thoughts on this type of age gap?

I am a Muslim revert and I’ve been in Minnesota for the last few months for college. It seems like the relations between the two groups are horrible. I’ve seen tons of anti Somali social media posts and I’ve heard quite a few negative comments in conversations I’ve had with white people. Do the majority or a large number of non Muslim Minnesotans have a negative view of Somalis?

Asc everyone. I hope everything is going great for all of you in the last 10 days of Ramadan.

I’m a 25 yr old female and I am pretty happy with my life Alhamdulilah. I don’t think I need to make changes with myself regarding my career or anything else right now. However, my mom has been very fixated with trying to live vicariously through me which I feel like many (not all) Somali mothers try to do. At least from what I know from others and what I have seen here. I understand my mom is coming from a good place and wants me to succeed in life but her unsolicited advice and telling me I need to “make changes” have made me uncomfortable.

For example, yesterday when I came home from praying at the masjid, Hoyoo kept telling me about a substitute teaching job which I see myself doing but then she said things such as how she knows someone who will get me the job. I told my mom this goes against my personal ethics and morals. I do not accept jobs that involve nepotism. I never have Alhamdulilah and inshaAllah I hope to never accept such things unless and only the situation calls for it and I’m desperate for a job.

I feel like my mom and other family members will constantly give me unsolicited advice regarding my life and all of them know what my morals and ethics are. When I told my mom I don’t believe in nepotism and won’t accept a job simply because she knows someone, she looked upset and frustrated and said it was just “advice”.

How do you handle receiving unsolicited advice from your family members? It seems like they want me to change into a person I don’t want to be. Whenever I talk about refusing to do things that go against my personal values, ethics and morals, my family seems to just not respect that. My father has once said to me that I am “no different” and I should just bow down to what people want from me.

Serious answers and serious advice only please. Thank you :)

I’ve been speaking to a man for marriage (he is also Somali) and the way he texts me is so weird. He overuses emojis which makes him come across like a child. And he’s 28 years old..

This will be him

Him: “Hi (my name) 🥺❤️

Me: hi (his name) how are you doing?

Him: I’m doing well 😍 how are you 🥰

Me: I’m good

Him: that’s good 😍 when can I see you again 🥺 I miss you 😞

Like omfg. He’s a sweet guy and he comes across more normal in person (if not a little bit sentimental/emotional, he’ll say that he missed me even when we saw each other the day before) but he texts like a teenage girl. Is it shallow to be put off?

This question may seem stupid. I'm Somali, with Somali parents, ECT, but I have very curly hair (4a-4b) something like that. I recently saw a titkok post from a self proclaimed "Somali nationalist" saying that it is impossible for Somalis to have curly hair, and that all Somalis have straight-wavy hair. Is this true?

I don’t have access to Paysii because it’s not available in my state in America. Online alternatives highly preferred. Also quick! World Remit is terrible alternative because of the delays. 🇸🇴🇸🇴

I’m baffled, essentially totally discombobulated at this unfathomably abysmal ruling. Arabic is a useless language; it’s only useful for religious purposes. Do we have a list of names of this so-called “uluma”? Isn’t the uluma supposed to consist of intellectuals? I never knew Somalis can get xooged like this.

Asc all, Ramadan Kareem. I am looking for job opportunities abroad. I would prefer the middle East especially Qatar but anywhere will do wlh. I currently live in Nairobi, and finding jobs for graduates is very hard for Somalis let alone other tribes in Kenya. I am also introvert, i am particularly not nosy so its hard for me to network with people. Somali community in Kenya mostly employ their own, and i dont really have many connections. Any suggestions Will be appreciated.

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So now the president will get to hire and fire the prime minister without parliament being involved in the process. Before, the parliament would need to approve a new prime minister and could remove a prime minister through a vote of no confidence.

Bribed to vote for HSM’s amendments, the parliament chose to prioritize a short term cash windfall at the expense of the institution’s long term power and influence.

This change also has clan politics implications. Since the prime minister always comes from a major clan different than the president, reducing that office to a secretary type role to the president is a major power grab especially since the president of Somalia is little more than the mayor of Mogadishu and the group there have had most of the presidencies since Arta. It’s not surprising therefore that Puntland is outraged at this.

HSM is overplaying his hand. Constitutional changes are no joke and they require broad consensus. Thinking that he can push through such changes by bribing the corrupt parliament is a mistake.

It’s also interesting to think about his motivations. Somalia will soon get hundred of millions in loans after the debt forgiveness to build critical infrastructure and will soon begin to sign resource contracts involving the ocean. By making his office much stronger, diminishing the office of prime minister, and eliminating parliamentary accountability he’s setting himself up to lord over this upcoming windfall and direct it where he wants, likely first to himself and then the the bombed out town he is mayor of.

What is it like. Is it hard do they check to make sure everyone has to have the right visa? etc. Is it easy to bribe them?

Please only answer if you know anything since speculations is not gonna be of any use.

Salaamullah cida,

Please read this before getting warped in by the buzzword in the title :)

I come from a banaadiri family from my paternal side, even though my maternal side hails from north, west, and southwest all together. Mothers having most time with and exposure to their children, I favor her side of the family, but I still know my banaadiri heritage to an extent. Hooyo being a city child growing up and frequently visiting Xamar as it was the capital; exposed her to the diverse group of people, specifically the local indigenous Xamari people in Xamarweyne and Shingaani. Even though banaadiri people also lived in Jamaame and Bu’aale (her hometowns) she grew up to know quite a bit about them. In return, I also grew up with a very well rounded family that know their people quite well across Somaliweyn Alxamdulillah. This didn’t prepare me for how disappointingly ignorant Somalis can be outside my home. Of course this is through no fault of their own, but I always see it as an opportunity to share my experience and knowledge, but when the ignorance persists through that is when I begin to have an issue.

Some common misconceptions are the widely but mistakenly accepted notion that banaadiri is interchangeable with “Reer xamar” or even “cadcad/cadcadka” which majority of Somalis see as inferior non indigenous people who arrived on boats.

Banaadiri just refers to someone from the coastal cities, these cities whose people (or a fraction of them) shared cultures, lineage, dialects, businesses. This includes descendent of pastoral Somalis (gibil madoow banaadiris) and those of the Arabs/Persians who arrived throughout the first xijri and so on (gibil cad banaadiris) All of which are found from Muqdisho down to Kismaayo (in small/almost negligible numbers) which makes referring to anyone who speaks in a banaadiri accent as “reer xamar” hilarious, because they could be reer marka, or reer baraawe, or ree-afgooye or reer beledweyne, or ree-kismaayo.

Back to arriving on boats thing, arriving on boats throughout the Mogadishu’s early stages and building a legacy in this coastal city for over hundreds of years should really make you a “Somali” but if I say that I might get stoned. Even when some of the same Somalis with this geriatric mindset claim forefathers who arrived from Cuman iyo Carbaha kale proudly, it’s laughable really, but so are many of the things that happen in this bulsho on a daily basis.

Shiikhaal and Asharaaf being titles, have various subclans that belong with the banaadiri people for example.

Banaadiri culture as a subculture of Somali culture does not get recognized often, which amazes me because it’s really rich and can offer a lot of interesting historical and cultural insights.

Additionally, A large number (if not majority) of banaadiris look like any other Somali, sharing phenotypes with the rest of Samaale defendants. Just to name some confederacies/families/clans, moorshe, qalmashube, bandhaboow, Amiin Khalafoow, Iskaashato, and so on. Of course naming them is useless because they really do keep to themselves and are unknown, which is partly why I this disregard exists in the first place I guess. This is a good thing bc they’re rarely ever in goofy ppls mentions and comments, so I really shouldn’t be complaining hahaha.

I guess I’ve answered my own question, but it still is a bothersome thing that occurs more than I’d like it to. Feel free to share if you disagree with me (respectfully if you can) or even if you do agree, and share some perspectives as why this happens and what you see as a possible solution/intervention.

As a city person, I usually expect you to be at least just a bit more knowledgeable on Somalis and their differences and similarities, but if you’re from wajaale or ceelbuur or somewhere that’s predominantly inhabited by the same subclans then of course your ignorance is through no fault of yours, just your environment.

To all my somalis that have had siblings die during their childhood and i don’t mean at birth or miscarriage but you grew up with them for a substantial period and have memories, how would you guys intend on telling your future kids (if you’re blessed w them) that you guys used to have another sibling. (even if you didn’t go through this) wwyd?

With the help of Allah yesterday and last night we have raised 145 usd ( 60 +50) she has received directly on her number and 35 usd I have received on her behalf on paypal. So far we have raised 240 usd total amount. May Allah bless us all for taking part of this noble cause. She still needs help if you can please help her. Thank you all.

Salam guys, so my parents have asked me to send money to my cousin back home, he's jobless and recently got married. He never had a job before marrying and he asked us to pay for her basic needs and if we can pay for her meher too.

Islamically is this acceptable? I thought if you get married as a man you should atleast be able to provide for your new family.

I got in trouble for saying no and that I'm full of kibir cause I have money.

I told my parents it's better for him to have waited till he got a job and got married. But they said he'd be old by then.

How would you respond to this?

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I know that during the civil-war Brigadier-General Mohamed Siad Hersi "Morgan" (son-in-law) commanded the paramilitary wing of the Somali Patriotic Movement (SPM) and that Mohamed Siad "Maslah" Barre ran for president in 2006. But does Siad Barre's family still have influence amongst the Marehan clan in Gedo.

So I used to think there was something wrong with me because I couldn’t stand up for very long time when praying. I thought it could be jinn or shaytan that’s stopping me from praying. Turns out I’m just Somali girl with low iron.

Hi, I’m with a global NGO that has been working with the Somali government out of Mogadishu on programs for women and children to become civically engaged in the government. We launched these programs in collaboration with civil society organizations on the ground in Mogadishu and were invited by the Somali government to visit and see the programs being implemented.

I’m 16, American light skin, and only speak French and English — I also have a Kenyan passport (mom’s side). I checked the State Department and it seems there are a lot of warnings/precautions.

My questions is primarily: is it safe for me to go in my own capacity, even if the government can provide security assistance and meet me at the airport? Will dangerous groups really attack everything and everyone? And is travelling as a “Kenyan” even though I’m born and raised in the USA safer?

I’m not trying to sign my death wish, but I really want to do some good for the people there as well. Appreciate it!

No context just wanted to let yall know

Asc walaalayaal, the last 10 nights of ramadan have began, please dont forget to keep somaliweyn and the rest of the muslim ummah in your prayers, Allah states multiple times the power of sincere dua, pray for the political and economic state of somalia and the wider muslim ummah