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I do Kickboxing and boxing, I wear a patka and have a lot of thick kesh.

I want to keep my kesh covered on the top of my head

however, everytime my patka comes off, any solutions?

So, I am a 15 year old, I started having a corn addiction rrally young, at 9 years old and my I am addicted to this day, I haven't told anyone and I wan't to get rid of it before I get exposed and so I can be a true Sikh but the addiction is too strong...

I've always after 14 yeaes old, every month trying nofap but it doesn't work and I tried everything but nothing. The corn therapy is at 18 years old and If I wait too long I will make a fool of myself. I really want to get rid of it but I just can't...

Please sangat ji, , I think y'all are my last chance to ask before saying confessing that I have adiction to my parents and being shamed.

Where can I get the Jassa Patti turban, wanna use it in my Kickboxing & Boxing.

Hello, recently I've been going through a tough time and am looking for ways to improve myself. My family is Punjabi/Sikh but I feel as if I have not been exposed to religion as much. While reading about the 5 sins and the 5 virtues, 1 of them stuck out to me. Of the 5 sins, one states that one does not have an attachment to the world or people (Moh). Of the 5 virtues, one states to have love (Pyaar). My confusion has to do mostly with Moh, as how can we remove something that is inherently developed as a child? (https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6666355/). If we are not meant to be alone in the world, why is it expected that in Sikhi we shall let go of such thoughts and emotions? On the other hand, where does Love or Pyaar tie into all of this, these two ideas seem to conflict with one another?

Strange thing happened today, I saw this tweet abusing/discrediting Khalsa Aid for providing aid in Gaza/Palestine...I personally am on NO side but felt it was wrong talking ill about Khalsa Aid.

Anyways, I headed down to comments. obviously there were mixed comments but there was one trying to "defend" Khalsa Aid by mentioning Bhai Kanhaiya/Ghanaiya Ji

To my surprise a supposed "intellectual" SIKH account ,started questioning the authenticity of the saakhi asking for source.

Howdy!

I've been interested in reading the Guru Granth Sahib for a while, and have visited the Gurdwara in my hometown a few times with a close Sikh friend of mine (I'm a white Canadian, so don't have a whole lot of exposure to the religion elsewise). I'm having a hard time finding a hard copy English translation of the full text, and am wondering if anyone can point me to one (I don't like reading on my phone, and want a well-bound volume I can carry with me and annotate). Thanks!

WJKK WJKF🙏🏽

I was wondering if there was anywhere where we could search a specific kirtan we’ve heard and get full lyrics (is that the right word?) and English translation?

Specifically for me it’s “Gur Kirpa Te Neech Nivajeya”

Thank you🙏🏽

Sat Sri Akal, I go to an academy that does Kickboxing and Boxing

How can I make a Patka that will last during these sparring rounds?

I have lots of kesh and want to keep my patka on.

Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji keh Fateh.

I’m a Sikh man, late 20s. Haircut, good looking(I’ve been told), relatively fit, Good job, masters degree from top 5 in my field. I come from a Sikh immigrant family that moved to the US when I was 3.

Now my question is, how to find a good Sikh woman in the US? I live in a major city in California with lots of gurudwaras. I have no problem talking to and have dated non-Sikh women, I’ve had girlfriends in the past that were from different communities.

The problem that I have is that I have a self limiting belief of it being disrespectful to talk to girls with the intention of dating at gurudwara, and don’t know how to get things going organically there, as it’s a place of worship. There are parents, family and uncles and aunties present, and I don’t want to get into any problems as I understand in our culture sometimes the elders can be conservative regarding dating etc.

I prefer organic connections as opposed to getting set up through family, but open to how that could work too!

Any tips/dos and don’ts would be appreciated

SSA

What is Budha Dal and Tarnadal? Are there any others like these? Can someone explain the whole thing to me.

I am a Punjabi Sikh man from the US. I will be getting married this summer. My fiancee is white. She grew up in a Christian family and still identifies as such. We have been together for many years, and I love her deeply. We have the same goals in life and live with no vices. Her moral principles align with mine, and those of Sikhism. She is completely loved and accepted by my family. She visited Harmandar Sahib with my family, took an online course in Sikhism, takes Punjabi lessons so she can speak to my grandparents, and goes with me to the Gurdwara.

We will be having an Anand Karaj at our local Gurdwara, and the Granthi is happy to perform our ceremony. We are doing it to honour my faith, culture, family's wishes, and because we cannot feel that our marriage is complete without it.

I know many oppose Anand Karaj for non-Sikhs and that has made me feel uneasy about proceeding. Truthfully, I had no idea this was a contentious issue until after we booked and I started researching online. I feel like my soon-to-be wife is the emobidemnt of a good Sikh, just without identifying as such. She honours me and my faith, so I would not feel right to reject her from my religion when she is keen to be wedded through an Anand Karaj. I feel like that would turn her away from Sikhism which she continues to embrace into her life.

Other than not doing it, can anyone share any wisdom or advice on this commonly debated topic. Thank you!

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Wahe Guru Ji Ka Khalsa, Wahe Guru Ji Ki Fateh!

So I visited India around a month or so ago, myself, my Mother and Sister all traveled for a specific reason, to Kirtapur Sahib and also got to visit Anandpur Sahib. We were blessed with those opportunities, and one thing that I had always wanted to do was to visit Harmandir Sahib at night, to listen to Rehras and to awake early to experience Japji Sahib, I was lucky enough to be blessed to be able spend the night.

We visited during Sangrand, so it was a lot busier than usual. The evening was pretty crazy, so many of us sat and waited to see the Palki, this is where it got a little not nice. There was so much pushing, shoving, the Jathedar's had no real control, letting random people pass through the gates to sit closer to the Akal Takht, many of which just looked around into the crowds rather than be absorbed by any spiritual experience. The rush got ridiculous to the point of us being part of an ocean of people, being physically moved around the whole areas 'chasing' the Palki. When it came time to do Matha Taekh, it was near impossible.

Sadly, the next morning was a similar if not worse experience (moreso due to lack of sleep and probable grumpiness!).

We didn't get to do proper Matha Taekh due to the queuing and waiting, overall we left feeling a little bitter, which was so in contrast to where we were. When I thin about it a month or so later, there's regret and disappointment, in myself but our people. Where was the harmony? Where was the peace? There was just a selfish urge to physically 'be there first', forgetting the experience and the internal focus that just wasn't shared. Thinking practically about it, there isn't anything setup to accommodate wheelchair users or people with young kids which is something basic that probably should be addressed (especially how the whole area has had somewhat of a physically facelift - controversial I know).

This is probably the 9th time I've visited, but for some reason it's hit the most now. Apologies for the long read, I think I just wanted to vent but also hear about other's thoughts and feelings on this and hoping to read about their experiences?

Thank you Sangat Ji, forgive me for any unintended offence.

Wahe Guru Ji Ka Khalsa, Wahe Guru Ji Ki Fateh!

1.) Gurus were from same caste, gender & family / Gurus promote nepotism.

ans- a) Caste - Gurus did not believe in caste no sane human does.

b) Gender - Gurus not being a female is not a fair criticism because anyone deserving should get the Guru ship.

c) Family - It is easier for a child of a doctor to become a doctor because they have financial, educational & motivational base available. Similarly, it was easier for a guru's child to be a guru because they had spiritual base available/spiritual environment around them.

Also, some of the most evil people in Sikh history have been children of Gurus themselves. 'Bhagati' or devotion towards Waheguru is more important to guru than family.

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2.) Gurus died for Hindus and country / Sikhs protected Hindus.

ans- False. Gurus sacrificed themselves for Human Rights not Hindus or a country. Sikhs protected innocents. Some people among Sikhs try to make us feel superior to others so that they can get hold of power and lead community. Their own contribution is zero.

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3.) Why Sikh Gurus are Gurus and not Bhagats?

ans- Some people point fingers at Sikhs for considering Sikh Gurus as Gurus but not Bhagats like Kabir, Ravidas etc. The truth is Gurus themselves mentioned these devotees as Bhagats, not Gurus. These Bhagats mentions Devotees of previous ages such as Dhruv & Prahlad, however they call them Bhagats and not Guru. Guru Nanak did nothing different by calling them Bhagat only. Sikh Gurus were involved in politics and warfare, so we have different worldly lifestyle. There is no doubt that writing of any author in SGGS is equal to us as our Guru because our Guru is Shabad & Guru Granth as whole.

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4.) Why is there only One God?

ans- This can be considered a genuine question. Some say there can be more than one God because followers of monism have the belief of one God as a pre-conceived notion, and they are intolerant towards polytheistic believes and practices. Sikhi has an answer to this. There can be only one God because the God is Formless and there can only be one formless as there are no physical distinctions / divisions like physical deities. Such God is not dependent on 5 elements to exist.

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5.) Guru Nanak was against renunciation but left his family for 20+ years.

ans- Guru Nanak was against renunciation as a way of Mukti. He was a holy figure and his family understood his reasons to leave and promote Sikhi. He used to meet his family in between journeys. Siddhas asked the same thing & Guru Nanak said-

Ang 939- I became a wandering Udaasee, searching for the Gurmukhs. I have adopted these robes seeking the Blessed Vision of the Gurmukhs.

Guru didn't leave his house to find God but to form community.

Sat Sri Akal. I am a music producer and have been thinking to try and bring in new arrangements and experiment with genres to make Gurbani reach an even wider audience.

It would be an experiment in the music arrangement and vocals but the gurbani would be untouched and shudh te saaf.

I just am concerned if that would be blasphemy (baedbi).

WJKK WJKF,

I'd like to start off by saying this is a throwaway but I am a 26-year-old male that is horrified of the future of finding a partner. It's been a fear of mine since I was a child but I was able to put it to rest and set my career, goals, and life together. I have multiple post-grad degrees in STEM from top schools in Canada (did dual degree programs and worked) and I have tried to perfect myself to the tee. I feel embarrassed bringing this up, but I literally only want an attractive S/O in life and I've built myself around that concept unfortunately. Please forgive my arrogance, finding an S/O in Sikhi is a lot more than looks and I'm going against that direction. This was probably built up by social media, competition (mainly me competing with myself if I'm honest), film, TV, porn, etc and I wasn't raised near other Sikh children ever.

To get straight to the point, I've done everything in life with the idea of perfecting it and now the time has come where I have to find a life partner and I haven't been able to breathe with a carefree attitude since I turned 26. Feels like a tsunami of fear falling on me and creating doubts about myself. The fear now strings on the idea of entering OLD (online dating) and ending up with a partner that will not follow Sikhi. I follow Sikhi, but the lack of influence from other Sikhs in my life has resulted in me being 'hybrid' or unorthodox, and being in the middle is like being on the edge of a cliff. My family is perfectly fine with the idea of having a partner that is not Sikh (assume a caucasian for this example). The entire concept of OLD is based on looks and superficial ideas with the hopes of finding a partner that vibes with you, and if we're being honest here, a Sikh on OLD probably won't even find an attractive girl in the first place, since Sikhi is my identity and it will be out there judged as a negative due to internalized racism and prejudice from others. Not even going into mentioning the amount of hate Sikhs have to face due to Canadians fed up with immigration and scapegoating it on those who are Indian or Sikh. My family came to Canada in 1905 and helped in the finding of mills in Western Canada, so I have my roots of four generations here and had an entire generation fight for Canada with the allied forces. I am okay with finding a partner who is not a Sikh and I consider Sikhi as more of my identity and ancestry rather than rules set upon me (like an element of me that can't change like skin colour, natural eye colour, blood type, genetics). I'll never leave my kes and turban and fundamentals of oneness and maryada I promise. Is it okay to find a caucasian girl through OLD in terms of Sikhi, if I'm okay with it and my family is okay with it? Will a caucausian girl be open to the idea of dating a Sikh guy in the first place? I'm very liberal in my views on life and even more liberal on my views on women. I won't force beliefs or force a traditional lifestyle, heck I'd support my S/O if she was an OF model and allow her to wear anything and go anywhere. I'll buy my own place so she can be independent and comfortable. I'll treat her with respect, love, worship and loyalty. I understand the consequences and I accept them, she might use me, walk over me, hurt me, etc. Yes, I understand the cultural differences between Sikhism and atheism/Christianity but as I referred to above, I haven't had any Sikh influences from friends, school mates, extended family on my life and I feel like I've made this goal of mine as the big milestone of life. I feel like some arrogant superficial idiot that can't define my own standards and life. I accept the consequences that might fall on me for focusing on a superficial trait in the building up of my idea of a S/O, such as looking for a caucasian girl means I'm going to need to compete a lot harder and I mean a lot harder to just have someone open to the idea of taking the 'risk' on me. I understand looking for an attractive S/O means you have to be pretty fine yourself and I've focused on that for many years and made myself perfect as I've mentioned. I've punished myself if I was not the finest in any quality or trait (from education, looks, views, money, career, fitness, etc) and most importantly confidence, respect, humor, intelligence, kindness, passion, thoughtfulness, adventure, etc.

What fears me more than what mentioned on finding an attractive S/O is what I would do if I didn't find an attractive S/O. I'm okay with settling down with a partner and following Sikhi, but I fear I will seek prostitution to satisfy this desire I've had since I was a child (with the idea that I failed in life if I didn't achieve it) or leaving a partner I did anand karaj with for a more attractive potential partner, and the risk of destroying lives for the pursuit of kaam and superficial traits. I'm crying as I write this and I have never cried for some years now. Please forgive me for my sins and hateful desires, please guide me. I'll accept punishment for this and understand what it means to lose to kaam and the five evils. Please guide me out of this blind well. I humble bestow upon the feet of the sangat and beg for forgiveness.

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Hi,

I’m Punjabi Sikh, and im not overly religious but I speak to Waheguruji in my head everyday , i used to listen to all my paaths but it’s been difficult finding the time in my schedule to sit down and listen to it properly.

I’ve started listening to Jaap Sahib on spotify every morning on the train, even though I don’t understand Punjabi fully I feel so enlightened and closer to Waheguruji, it’s become a natural instinct to put it on every morning and I love that I can feel closer to my religion. My issue is that i’ve read online that you have to cover you head when listening to any Gurbani/Paaths regardless if it’s listening from a phone.

Could someone clarify this I don’t want to be disrespectful but now that I have an hour on the train I felt it was the perfect time to incorporated my daily paath back into my life again.

Thank you so much ☺️🙏

Saw today was the Parkash Purab of Sri Guru Arjan Dev Ji Maharaj.

Missed the recent Toronto nagar kirtan. Is there any upcoming one in the GTA? How do you folks know when there's a nagar kirtan around? Do we have a separate one in Brampton? Just recently moved to Canada.

I guess the title is pretty obvious, but all the bhagat ji's and bhatts same as our guru sahibs? I mean should they be given the same amount of respect as guru sahibs and were they just as important?

Also are brahmgyanis the same as bhagats and bhaat ji's?

https://youtu.be/M1FwduDjAMA?si=eisBxV3CUtnsgyUT

Been listening to this audio for a while, and love the instrument in the background. Does anyone know where I can find the original clip for the background music?