Hello! I’m new to this group and I felt like it would be good for me to be here because this is the first time I’ve ever dealt with this. My boyfriend was falsely convicted, and is currently serving time and he will have to register when he gets out. He has a daughter and obviously this has a huge impact on his life after he gets out. I was just wondering how I can be a good support system for him. I want to be able to help him through this, and I feel like this group is a good place to reach out :) Thank you 😊

In my free time (which I’ve had a lot less lately than I’d like), I’m involved in some organizing groups and also emotional support groups. Here are two quick stories:

In one of the groups, there was a man who had previously talked about how great his life was and that the registry had almost no impact on his life because he had moved to another state. This week, however, the original state imposed special conditions that will have a huge adverse effect on his life. It’s cruel and ridiculous. Punishment for the sake of punishment.

In another group, a friend I’ve known for several years now announced that his son is coming home from prison this week after 12 years! I am so happy for him and his family.

The highs and lows of being associated with this community are pretty wild. I think we collectively have more appreciation for little things in life than the average person.

Remembering all of the mothers affected by incarceration, supervision and registry. Whether it’s your child, your spouse, your parent or you that’s directly impacted, you deserve to be recognized for being you. Happy Mother’s Day.

Update on my case: So, all through the process I’ve been holding out hope that the charges against me will be dropped without having to go to trial. Sadly, the crown has officially decided to hold a scheduling conference after our last court date a week ago. My lawyer has been adamant through the whole process that if I’d been charged in any other jurisdiction, given the weakness of the case against me, the crown would have dropped the charges. Unfortunately the crown in the jurisdiction that I was charged in, is not very good and does dumb things like this a lot. I wonder if there is any call if we win at trial to sue the crown for pursuing these charges so hard?

In a few days im going to court with my lawyer to have a lobby meeting before the actual court time for him to speak about my character. He’ll give his personal thought about me and has multiple letters from people from my community such as police chief, Harbormaster, after school program executives, parents etc.. all saying the great things I’ve done for the community before I made the biggest mistake of my life that I take full accountability for. The reason for this meeting is because if im given any time at all immigration will get involved and I will probably get deported down the road. Best case scenario he says I get probation and be put on SO registry which I obviously would like to avoid but it’s better than being deported in my eyes. He wants to have the meeting with this specific judge because she’s more lenient with criminal cases than the one I would have down the road because Supreme Court is only held twice a year in my communities court. If you guys have any thought or knowledge of how you think this will work out for me im all ears. I was charged with statutory ROAC who was 15 and I was 23. It doesn’t matter that I didn’t know her age because i broke the law and I take full responsibility just hoping I have some chance to stay in the country.

Many people advocate for death penalty for sex offences (actual sex offences) or even torture. Is this primarily driven by a retributive or deterrent stance ?My time volunteering at prisons gave me the impression that they are hated everywhere even by prison officials

Here is a summary of my situation, which I hope it adds to some data points. I have read through many of the posts here and has been very helpful and also given me realistic expectations on prison, employment and relationships post incarcerations etc. I know I have a pretty hard path ahead but hope to come out the other side a better person. I have 3.5 weeks until my sentencing so I am mentally preparing for everything that I can.

IN, USA. 10 counts of CSAM possession, lvl 5 felony, hired local attorney to get plea deal of 18 months to Indiana DOC. Took plea to avoid fed double jeopardy. Was advised not to go to trial, as ex-wife has recording of our conversations for 3 months. 1 party consent state (don’t need permission from other party to record). 10 years on the register list, and expungement is usually difficult for these type of cases so essentially a min 10 year “sentence”. I was arrested in March, bonded 2 weeks later and going through with the sentence in June. This swift timeline is per my request as I live alone, fired from my job and living alone with no income for potentially months or years wasn’t something I wanted to do. My thought was might as well get done with it and move on with what ever life I can build.

I think I fall into the average demographic, I’m a male, in my 40’s, first time getting in trouble with the law. One thing that isn’t typical is that I’m not a citizen so this will likely affect my permanent resident status here, and I have to hire an immigration attorney so figure that out.

My family is supporting me as much as they can which I appreciate and very lucky to have that. Most of my local friends have distanced themselves, and the further away ones probably don’t know about this yet. Since I understand that employment as a RSO is almost impossible, my plan is to self deport back to my home country, and hopefully any google results of my name won’t hurt my chances of getting hired in a different country. I’ve talked to a few reputation companies and attorneys that specialize in this type of google SEO or article deletion requests, but was told unless a favorable sentence has occurred, it is almost impossible for news stories to be taken down. Also very costly.

I feel as my life in the US is over. My only chance is to hope to restart in a different country. I guess I am sort of lucky that I have that option, though it comes at a cost of my residency. I hope all of you out there get help that you need but allowed to live a productive and more importantly a fulfilling life.

Hi all,

Just curious if you guys studied/ learnt something whilst locked up in prison that helped you after you got out?

Just to be clear, I mean like maths/ science?

Or feedback on the experience

Hi all,

Just wondering if anyone managed to make any money online, instead of actually having a traditional job.

Those people who started online businesses, how did you make it as we have restrictions online?

I am trying to help my son that just got parole from a SO, he is in one of the crazy harris county halfway house with like 400 others. Its a joke, I am not in houston anymore, but will move and rent an apartment for both of use to get him a home. Any ideas of what apartments take SO's,

Hello everyone, sex offender currently on probation in Michigan. I have no restrictions other than paying fees and no contact with victim. I was wondering if I have a business that I have already reported to the SORA office, do I have to report the internet identifier/email of a new Instagram business account even if it’s using my wife’s email and not mine? I do have my phone number listed but the email is hers.

Thanks

My SO finally got to the ten year mark in his registration. In Ohio, tier 1 can petition for early release so we contacted the same lawyer we worked with when we moved here and he was placed on the wrong tier. He said that my SO has done everything he should/could to apply for the petition but said it was a “shot in the dark” and is very unlikely a judge would grant it because the public doesn’t want it. Lawyer did say he would file if we wanted and quoted us 1500 unless we had to go to court then would be more. Not sure if I even have a question… feeling very defeated for my SO and our family.

Anyone know any houses for rent in the Lafayette or Eunice area in Louisiana?

I've been a Dog daycare owner for some time now and do small town politics, nothing involving my history but instead zoning and neighbor issues, I've had to close my business I saw the Massachusetts branch was hiring a kennel manager but I cannot seem to find any information other than a background check needed to be passed for their law enforcement department.

Long story short does anyone have any experience or knowledge or success in being hired. Thanks for your time everyone, and keep your chins up.

We’re invited to a wedding. The venue is located on the edge of a park - I’m assuming he won’t be able to attend with me. Accurate?

I’m finally at a point where I’m starting to look forward instead of backwards to my offense 6 years ago. I really hope everyone gets to this point, while it’s still not easy; it’s hopeful which is definitely a nice change.

Anyways, I have the aptitude for computer programming although I don’t know how yet. I’m considering learning it online but didn’t know if there was hope for offenders getting a job in that field. I have a bachelors degree that I cannot use any longer. I’ve also considered chemistry and/or psychology but I think my ultimate goal with psychology would be achieved by eventually becoming a sponsor for SAA.

Thanks in advance for any advice or guidance!

For those of you who may have been in 2 or more low security federal prisons in your journey, did you find Elkton, with its higher population of SOs, to be better than an low security federal facility? My son can request it but it 5.5 hours from home versus a Allenwood low which is 2.5 hours away. If Elkton is a lot better might be worth it….

Thow away account for obvious reasons. Does anyone here have a good lawyer recommendation in South Carolina? Facing serious charges and want to get ahead of them

Not fully an RSO thing but since I know this will make people happy as it regards constitutional rights.

The US 9th Circuit Court held that "formally incarnated" felons and who have "re-enter society" have the right to possess firearms but left it open that those who were convinced of violence may be able to be restricted.

I don't care how people view firearms I'm hoping this is a good step forward to allowing RSO and all those convicted of crimes the ability to vote and fully utilise all other rights.

I’ve finally been given my charges from the cps and don’t know what to think. Wish I had some idea what the potential outcome will be.

I got 3 charges for making (downloads) all categories with a couple of hundred in each. Also 1 charge of sexual communication.

I’ve looked at the potential sentences. This is a first offence and I’ve done courses and therapy which is helping and made me understand why I did it and ways to prevent it ever happening again.

I just hope I can get through this next stage and get an outcome that avoids prison.

I dated a RSO for almost 2 yrs tried to be supportive keep on task so they could move forward knowing they had a supportive partner even after the fact not knowing they were a RSO until months later and inviting them to stay in my home because there mother left the state abruptly without informing. I then started to see a side of manipulation that was paired with hi lows, lack of accountability, paranoia, and disrespect. I then became attacked because I didn’t see what he saw about others trying to kill him. I became subject to every time I leave and come back my personal items were ransacked or missing. I then found hacking software on my computers uploads of my family identity information. I gave the person a benefit of a doubt then he saw he was into deep he left out of state while on bail I guaranteed. He never helped only cause mental anguish he doesn’t deserve the benefit of being free because everyone is the problem in his eyes. I know individuals like such end up reaping what they sow but being on bail skipping town should I report or wait for court date n which I’m sure will b a no show?

I've just started therapy but I was wondering if there are any online support groups? I would never hurt a child but these thoughts are going to cause me to have a nervous breakdown. Please be compassionate in the comments.

Hi All,

I suffer from BPD, which is one of the main reasons I have done what I have done.

Just curious if anyone else has BPD and managed to survive prison, and if so, how?

Many thanks

So in December I finally finished in the courts with my case. I had sexual contact with a minor. Luckily I am not required to register because the girl lied about her age to me and I plead down to a lesser charge but it's still a felony unfortunately. I'm now on probation for 2 years. The psychologist who evaluated me gave me some very strict parameters that I am supposed to abide by for the next 2 years. No social media. Internet monitoring. No porn. Pretty invasive if you ask me especially since I'm not an offender at this point. Today I went to my first sex offender group counseling session with this same evaluator. An hour and a half. Once a week. For 2 years! And not cheap either. There are homework assignments weekly that take 1 to 2 hours to complete and polygraphs! Well I just don't think I can handle all this and run the risk of failing a polygraph for simply looking at porn once in a while. My PO said I can be re-evaluate if I feel like I'm being treated unfairly and for several other reasons. Well at this point that's what I want to do.

I'm here to ask if anyone has any advice on this in Illinois or has a referral for me in Illinois? Someone less invasive that has treated you fairly and is good and lenient in their evaluation. Or just any advice on the subject would be much appreciated. Thank you all!

I acquired my cdl, but can’t find anywhere that will hire me?

Where did you guys start or if anyone can give me some leads, I would appreciate it!

First PO was moving slow, tried to set me up a few times, and seemed to find it funny. Second PO is actually doing a good job, but she hates when I ask her questions. She seems strict and I don’t know if she’ll give me any leniency on an upcoming deadline.

Now I’m doing catchup. The likelihood of me satisfying my probation requirements are so low right now. I have basically no support and have several limitations/restrictions on top of that.

The icing on the cake: I’m required to pay for everything…Yummy. I don’t have Medicaid right now. I’m not employed. I make just enough to pay bills through self-employment.

So far, many miracles have happened so I won’t lose hope. I keep finding loopholes that help me make things less stressful but I don’t know at this point. Money is the hardest thing to get.

Why would the judge put deadlines so close to my release date? Did he think I was rich? Did he think my family would help me with everything?

If so what is it like? What am I supposed to expect?

So I do not have to register in my own state. Would I still have to register if I go to Florida?? Also if I get off probation do I still have to worry about registering on vacation even though I don’t have to in the first place?