My son's father whom I am still very close with started his sentence in October. He got 4 years flat and was taken in to county. He has been able to speak with us, we visited and could send him money etc. He texted us from his GTL account early Monday morning they were moving him to prison. It has been nothing since then. I called the county jail and asked where did they send him. They told me where he was sent but nothing else. They said they couldn't even tell me was that his actual prison. I found out from a friend he's at a prison for 30-life so it's just where he is for "evaluation/reception" how long does this process take when do you usually hear from them? How do they finally end up gettings calls? I have idea how any of this process works. My son is beside himself and I'm worrying now having anxiety. I knew to expect some days we wouldn't hear from him but this is rough.

Last year around this time, the RemoteCOM software made my laptop impossible to use due to ungodly levels of input lag.

It's happening again now. It used to be just a bit of delay while playing my MMO. Now, I can't even use Word.

Aren't keyloggers known for not using up much system resources to be undetected? How do they write such shitty spyware that it brings a gaming laptop to a halt when they're paid forty dollars per device per month? Every time I have an issue I spend hours and hours troubleshooting, trying to prove myself wrong that the issue is the RemoteCOM spyware, but it always ends up being the case.

I do not want to approach my PO and ask about having monitoring removed or changed; I am highly trusted by my PO and have a good reputation when it comes to treatment, showing up to appointments, good behavior etc, I don't want to bring that into question, and I really wouldn't mind the spyware if it just fucking worked.

I'll be writing a post about how I'm doing and my life and all soon. Really needed to come and ask about this because I'm fed up with the constant problems this spyware causes and ask if anyone knows any solutions.

Throwaway account because I am worried about my brother and don't want to expose him or our family to further scrutiny. We live in Florida. My sibling is a RSO for possession of CP. This happened all over a decade ago and he did his time. However, he has been out several years now and still has his name on the list. Recently, he's going through a divorce and moved back in with our parents, but he still has his old home listed as his permanent address. I'm worried his soon-to-be ex-wife may do something spiteful with that information. His name is still on the house, but they're working amicably on getting his name removed so he can try to take out a different mortgage and not stay with our parents forever. He also uses our mom's e-mail address to sign up for things and she's old. We're close to our 40s and she's older so it's mostly me managing the online side of things when I come over to visit.

Here's the thing... I don't know how to approach my big brother about this, but, after the divorce he signed up for some dating services to get himself back out there. I tried to caution him about it, but, to be honest, I never did a lot of research into this stuff until lately. Something about his ex triggers my protective instincts for my sibling and I think he may be in a reckless phase of his life that his ex could take advantage of. I know she's also on dating sites, ect. and what if she comes across his profile and reports him? He's using his real name and face, it's not hard to tell immediately that this guy is my brother.

He has signed up for Tiktok, has a gaming Discord to socialize with gaming friends, and also joined Fetlife, which I know she has friends on as well. There are a couple of other things not really worth mentioning, but they're all linked up with our mom's e-mail address when he signed up. I discovered this the other day while helping mom get signed into her banking portal and now I'm concerned that he's not reporting this stuff, which I thought he was supposed to do. I don't know why he does things like this, I think it's possible maybe HE knows more about the limitations of his status better than I do. It's a touchy topic, the arrest went down so long ago, we hate bringing it up as a family.

Am I being overly paranoid? Are there actual repercussions for not reporting every little thing when you're an RSO? Should I talk to to my brother about these concerns? He's just trying to move on and has been battling with drinking and depression ever since. I feel like it's only a matter of time before this blows up. I don't want to see my brother back in prison and we can't afford any of the fines that might be imposed.

Was wondering if anyone got into sex offender therapy prior to sentencing? Pros and cons.

I mentioned it to my lawyer but he kind of brushed it off.

For the last 3 years I've been doing a bunch of different stuff to get help. SAA, AA, weekly therapy, inpatient groups, outpatient groups, weekly addiction treatment, weekly mental health groups. Got my mental health issues properly diagnosed, medicated, and managed. Apparently I was misdiagnosed and mismedicated prior to charges. Been free of substances for 8 months and have sponsors for both 12 step programs that I talk to weekly and have worked the steps.

The reason I list all of this is, I feel like I'm plateauing with what I'm doing. I want to go further with the self discovery stuff and have thought about getting into group if that's even possible.

Has anyone done this, did it help or hurt? What are some of the pros and cons. Is the therapy even helpful or is it a money grab?

My boyfriend is worrying about the cost for restitution. Since its to be determined, him and his parents are worrying about it. I just want a generalized idea to maybe ease his mind. Anyone have to pay and what was your total?

(not my success story)

My son got a job! He answers phones for customers calling in to purchase cell phones, phone lines etc. They originally denied him due to his background but he got a letter from his parole officer stating how much work he's done to better himself. Group therapy, individual therapy.

They reconsiderd and hired him! So don't give up!

What does your nonprofit do and what was the process like?

My brother went into custody on Wednesday. We have been communicating through cidnet but he hasn’t read my message since yesterday. Vinelink notified me in the middle of the night that he is out of custody. I’m thinking possibly means he could be transferred soon? I called the jail and they said he is still in their custody. What are all the reasons Vinelink says out of custody?

How do y'all tackle relationships? Specifically, how did you address the friends you had before everything that you basically disappeared from (or did you)? Or the friends you met after who know nothing of your past and love you, but would probably reject you swiftly once they found out about it? I have no idea how to approach either of these types of relationships. I can't let myself get attached to anyone at all anymore, nor can I share much about myself. I used to be the kind of person who craved deeper and trusting relationships, so this has been a huge adjustment for me.

So my fiancé and I were living with his mother, and his sister. My future mil unfortunately passed away from cancer. We had to inform our landlord, and we had to reapply to be on the lease. Well my sil and I passed the background check but my fiancé did not because of him being on the registry. They gave us until the end of the year to move out.

Now it’s annoying and having to pay to apply just to get denied is already stressing me out. There’s not very many private landlords from what I can tell. Any homes that are decent are sadly near schools.

How do people get through specific days that used to be special and full of laughter/love/friends now that they have none of any of that? It's my birthday next week and will be my first birthday since my arrest (whilst I did spend christmas last year in the same boat, it was so close to my arrest I was in shock and didn't really factor it in) and while now I've kind of settled into the daily lonliness and isolation I'm worried that it might push the poor mental health past a certain point with it being a marked day. In the past I'd have many friends sending me love and well wishes, I'd have a wife who would spoil me and would usually see a few people for some drinks. Now I face a day of nothing and noone and will have the same in a couple of months with Christmas (I'm UK based so thanksgiving isn't a thing).

So really, if anyone has any advice on how to get past those types of days it would be helpful - my day to day consists of work then gaming, but I can almost see the dark clounds hanging over the date waiting.

Anyone in the US recently (within the last year) with sex offense misdemeanors who has been removed from the registry and does not have the stamp traveled to Ireland, Mexico, or Europe? Or anywhere else problems free? Or anywhere they had a problem? Apparently the matrix guy is in prison again…

Today at worked I was verbally attacked by customer of our that must have googled me and saw my charges. I’m in a business with a collections aspect to it, she is well past due! Know one here knows… I free it is now just a matter of time due to an angry vengeful customer!

I’m scared, saddened and humbled… and have no one to really turn to. Life is at the best it’s been in 2 years and I just got punched in the gut!

State charge - NY Took a plea (no jail. Probation only) and have a PSI next week. Should I take letters of support to this meeting? What to expect?

Just curious what everyone's thoughts are on sex offender therapy and treatment programs. Was yours 1on1 or a group session? Did you feel comfortable with the therapist? I know some have radical ways of "treating" their patients. Did you find your own, or was it assigned to you by the court? What did you like or dislike about it?

its a never ending feeling of anxiety and depression that's always there, even if it dampens the feeling is always there lingering. There is a million things to stress about and nowhere to run or escape to. polygraphs, daily drug test call ins, Probation appointments, mandated group therapy, having to share every single purchase I've made monthly with my PO, homework from group therapy, court payments, not being able to leave my city and being limited where I can even go in the city. Its beyond exhausting; when I'm going to sleep its like I have permission to shut off my brain and forget this horrible life I've made for myself. In my dreams I don't need to be a failure I can escape reality for a brief period of time.

I’m interested to see if anyone on the registry has been allowed to sit for the BAR exam and practice law in their state! I’d love to hear how that entire process went down

On September 11th, I was released on parole in Oklahoma. I was able to get my first job because of HonestJobs, I waited until I had been out of prison for approximately a week to ensure that all my registration, court fines, and fees were in order. I applied at Pilot Flying J and was accepted as a Cashier. Additionally, I applied at Georgia Pacific for several jobs and was interviewed after being out of prison for five weeks. Approximately seven weeks after making parole, I was formally offered a position at Georgia Pacific, which I will start next week. I will be a converting Technician earning $21.50 per hour initially. I would like to express my sincere gratitude for your efforts and support. There is hope for everyone, there are companies out there that will give you a chance!

Stay safe guys, and sony fall for any traps.

My husband is on probation so at least one officer comes out to the house at least 1x a month. This time they sent 3 male officers and his assigned probation officer (female) didn’t even come. It gives me the anxiety shakes. We follow the conditions and are super respectful every time, but it’s just the fact that it’s happening, you know? I knew what the deal was (at least as much as I could) before we got married, but nothing really prepares you for this. It feels very violating to have officers just able to look through your stuff. I had a feeling they were going to come out tonight and I’m so relieved it went as smoothly as possible and that it’s over now.

Hello there, I just had a question about living with somebody while they're on the registry. My husband will have to register when he gets out and I'm just worried about housing. And what landlords or rental places will say or think . We are in California I've heard a lot of bad things does anybody have any good experiences?

Hello, I'll be going to visit my bf for the first time at fci elkton. I'll be his first visitor as well. Wondering if anyone can shed some insight on what to expect? If they know what I can and can not bring inside? I've read the rules and regulations but they don't always seem to add up to what I'm told from him. Also any idea how long the visit lasts and if both days are allowed?

Hello- I'm happy to have found this space because I've had many questions and felt worried/ashamed to ask anyone.

My partner is on the registry, and we have children. We’ve avoided them having friends over because I felt like it was not appropriate to have children over with out informing their parents, not because I am concerned about their safety or well-being in our home but because, as a parent, I’d be upset to find out after the fact that I didn't have all the info before my child went somewhere.

I am just wondering how everyone else navigates this.

Thank you in advance

Originally I was taken in for sexual assault of a minor with no registration I was given deferred adjudication with 8 years deferred probation for injury to a child or elderly I’ve seen online that on deferred probation you can ask for early release but people who have to register cannot ask for early release will it still be on my record I’m reading so many conflicting things online I live in Texas thank you guys

Wondering what people do for work? How do you talk about your past? What hurdles have you faced with employment?

Hello all, do any of you fellow rso’s live in either MD or Washington, D.C.? How are the restrictions and or quality of life? I’ve been on CA’s list for >5 yrs now and in three years, I potentially will be moving to east coast for work. I will have the option to live in either DC or MD, and per internet research. All I’m reading so far is pretty much the same as CA, I only need to register annually near my birthday, or if I change any of the information I am legally required to give them. I didn’t see any restrictions on where I can live or work. Are there any stupid things like notification of neighbors? Or posting your picture and information in public places? Any information will be greatly appreciated.

I don't know if every Missouri SO knows this (we didn't) but on Halloween you don't have to put the stupid sign on your door anymore. They found that it violates the first amendment prohibition of compelled speech. Everything else still applies.

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Need to ask them a question

Well, we got the call yesterday. Sheriff pretending there is a warrant out for my fiancé's arrest and he needs to go the the nearest bond agency and pay $1500. Luckily, we knew it was a scam. Still rattled our nerves. Stay vigilante and don't fall for these scams. Just a warning for others.