Investing in your self-image is a transformative journey that requires intentional efforts and mindful choices. Here are valuable tips to guide you on the path to building a healthy self-image, ensuring personal growth and wellbeing.

Challenge Limiting Beliefs

Uncover and challenge the beliefs that limit your potential. Whether rooted in feelings of inadequacy or unworthiness, limiting beliefs often originate in childhood. Identify them, acknowledge their impact on your life, confront them and deconstruct them from your present – adult - perspective. Combining analytical thinking with easily learned hypnotherapy processes equips you with powerful tools for a healthy self-image.

Celebrate Small Victories

In the pursuit of personal development, acknowledge, celebrate, and savour your small victories. Every small step in the right direction is a triumph. By appreciating these achievements, you create a positive momentum that propels you towards more significant accomplishments. Once you have that first step in place, you’re on your way – simply build on what you have proven to yourself. 

Own Your Narrative

Empower yourself by taking responsibility for your current situation. Taking responsibility puts you in the driving seat, offering a multitude of options and choices. Seize the opportunity to own your narrative and make decisions that align with your values and goals. Herein lies a route to authenticity, further enhancing your healthy self-image.

Develop Meaningful Connections

Contribute to the world around you by adding value for others. Building meaningful connections with, and creating value for the world around you not only enriches your life but also strengthens your connection with your communities. Embrace the philosophy of win-win interactions to enhance your healthy self-image.

Take a small step each day

Each waking day has three parts: a morning, afternoon, and evening. Challenge yourself to take one small step in just one of these parts each day. Develop a habit of evaluating the most valuable action you can undertake at any given moment. This practice ensures continuous progress and keeps you aligned with your long-term aspirations.

Master Your Self-Talk

Harness the power of your internal dialogue. By actively managing your self-talk, you can reshape your thinking and make it work for your benefit. Cultivate positivity, resilience, and self-encouragement to fuel your journey towards a healthier self-image.

We all have 168 hours a week: use yours’ wisely

Prioritise tasks based on importance and urgency with respect to your chosen goals. Concentrate your efforts on value-adding (and value-driven) activities that contribute to your overall objectives. This strategic approach ensures that your energy is invested in actions that propel you in the right direction.

Distinguish between self-esteem and self-worth

Self-esteem: how we perceive ourselves based on external factors, particularly how others view us. Self-worth: on the other hand, is more intrinsic. It’s about recognising our inherent value as individuals. Your only valid benchmark is your previous self. Shift your focus from external validation to inner growth to fostering a deep sense of healthy self-worth and fulfilment.

Cultivating a healthy self-image is an on-going element of managing your overall wellbeing. By integrating these habits into your daily life, you empower yourself to move consistently in your chosen direction, fostering a positive and resilient self-image.

Commit to implementing just one of these transformative tips into your daily routine. Whether it's challenging limiting beliefs, celebrating small victories, or fostering meaningful connections, each step contributes to your personal growth. Begin your path to a positive and authentic self-image now. Your future self will thank you for the intentional efforts you invest today.

It’s 6am and the hate is already starting. I don’t understand why people wake up and choose negativity like are you unhappy ?

A few weeks back I turned 21. Never even kissed anyone. And I know people keep saying that “sex is overrated” and “don’t worry it’s not that big of a deal”. And be that as it may, but my entire body is screaming for touch. I feel so cold and lonely. It’s not even about sex, I just can’t keep going being this lonely.

I right now live in the middle of nowhere and I’ve been isolated from friends all my life. Even if I did move I don’t know how to make friends, how to invite people over or just how to talk to people. It feels so hopeless. I never made friends in high school because I was brought up in a way where I didn’t feel comfortable with others being in my life, let alone coming to my house. The few people I had some sort of connection with completely cut me off soon as we graduated.

Im at a breaking point, I’m constantly crying, my body wants to feel physical pain because I have no way to let it out or anyone to talk to. Im so alone and I don’t see any way out. I feel so unlovable and worthless. Where do I even start?

I’m trying to figure out what this is/what’s happening with me when I do this.

Long story short, as a kid, my parents (mostly my dad) were always accusing me of doing things that I wasn’t doing and/or basically assigning intentions to my actions.

Simplified example “you knew I wanted you to call me when you got to the football game but you purposefully didn’t. You have no respect for us. Why did we even get you a phone just so you could ignore our calls??” Or they might take it a step further and say “you probably didn’t even go there.” All the while, I just hadn’t heard the phone ring, finally saw the 8 missed calls, panicked, then sounded sketchy when I finally picked it up. Not saying I never did anything wrong to lose trust, I did. But nothing beyond the scope of what a normal teen would do. My sister (2 years my senior) would be allowed to join in on the chastising as well. Often times this did turn into me telling lies almost defensively.

This continued into adulthood (fully independent, self supporting, living on my own) but shapeshifted into different things such as how I was parenting etc. I went out for a night and got an OUI and my dad said “you’re just pawning your kids off with whoever while you go get drunk” (they were with my husband) and later he told my husband I was “probably off getting f***ed.” It was getting the point of ridiculousness. I’d even try to understand where he was coming from but at a certain point I’d just accepted that he thought I was a POS and that’s that.

I once made the comment that every time I would see his name pop up on my phone, I’d get anxiety and every time he asked me a question I felt like lying. I don’t know why, at my big age, I still feel like I need to lie to my dad; but I can see where he’s going with his questions. I know what he’s thinking before he says it. To be clear, by adulthood I wasn’t lying. I mostly just stayed away from him. My only point was that that’s not normal at 28 years old. He then took that as me “admitting hat I always lie.”

I went no contact with him 4 years ago (I’m 32 now) and I’m still trying to unpack all of it. I still occasionally will blurt out a lie if I feel like someone is behaving like an “authority figure” or getting mad at me/giving me anxiety. I’ll go back and correct it after, but it’s really embarrassing. It’s like as soon as my back is against the wall I go into self preservation mode. I talked about this with someone my age who also had harsh/strict parents and she says she does it too.

I feel like my dad gaslit me and shamed me into believing I was more troubled than I am. Does anyone have any insight?

I don’t know what to do. Yea, I have social anxiety, but that can totally be masked as long as you control your breathing and speech and control nervous fidgeting. However, I blush. I blush at everything, especially when attention is on me.. which makes me blush more. This makes me feel like I'm making people uncomfortable. It’s particularly harsh when I try talking to my male professors (im 21F). I literally become a tomato for no reason. then I get flustered and trip over words because I realize my red face is visible and I feel so terrible for the professor I’m talking to. What do I do?This makes me afraid of presentations and overall talking to the male sex!Help :[

I am 16 yesrs old training to become a mma fighter i think i am a scum for some things and a ugrateful to my parents i really dont talk to much with their but i qqnt to become a wealthy fighter so i can in someway redeem myself there is no other think that i loke to do beaides that fighting for me its the best but training every day of week seems to isolated me from the friends that i had and somr times is very tired but i train not matter what happen in my life but i just feel i am not doing enough even if i train in my home lift and train the gym i dont seem resulta and always loss the fights in oractice and tournaments

I used to be the butt of disrespect. From receiving sarcasm, to condescending comments to even straight insults. Worse, it used to happen in front of many people. One time, it even happened in front of a girl I was dating.

Yeah…

Eventually, I figured out what to say to hold my ground and to make sure the disrespect stopped once and for all.

I called it the Nth Pendulum Technique. Confusing name I know. If you think of a better name or analogy, let me know. But anyways.

I’ve noticed most people tend to respond to disrespect in 1 of 2 ways.

1. They’ll laugh it off or go along with the joke.
2. They’ll get emotional and vividly upset. They might even retaliate.

The problem with 1 is the disrespect won’t stop. You’ll become the butt of the joke and others may even join in on the “fun”. Some people may eventually blow up leading to #2.

The problem with 2 is that suddenly you look bad. You didn’t start it. You didn’t start the blows. But now you’ll look like someone who can’t control their emotions and someone who gets angry easily. This leaves a bad taste in people’s mouths.

If you ever catch yourself responding with 1 or 2, it means you’ve swung too far.

If it’s #1, you’ve swung too far left.
If it’s #2, you’ve swung too far right.

The trick is to not swing, the trick is to be so ambiguous that you don’t sway. Like an inactive pendulum.

Let's get a little mathematical, it'll make more sense this way, trust me. Say someone disrespects you to the nth degree.

You want to respond with degree n-1. In other words, you want to match what they said, but with 1 degree less.

Here are some examples:

Him: “Let me break it down for you in simpler terms.”
You: “Sorry, can you repeat that.”

Him: “He’s not the sharpest tool in the shed.”
You: Pause for 5 seconds...

This slight push back will feel like pressure for the one making the unnecessary comments. It’ll make them uncomfortable, almost uneasy. That’s why they’ll stop.

To recap:

If you laugh it off, you’ll appear timid. They’ll keep picking on you.
You’ve swung too far left.
[degree 0]

If you emotionally retaliate, you’ll look like someone who can’t control their emotions.
You’ve swung too far right.
[degree n + 100]

But if you hold your ground, and give slight push back you’ll have the power.
You didn’t swing.
[degree n - 1]

I've noticed excellent communicators and confident people do this naturally. I hope this helped and if anyone has any better ways would love to hear about them.

I (22M) have been a Taylor Swift fan for about 10 years, but it never seemed to be a problem until the last year. Since the beginning, people always knew I was a fan of hers, but I always thought everyone interpreted it in a normal way, like everyone else who is a fan of other people. However, over the last year, I started to notice some things.

First, I started to see that people, except some friends who are also Swift fans, are afraid to talk to me about her. What I feel is that people avoid talking to me as much as possible because they are afraid that I won't accept what they think and will be explosive or aggressive towards them. The thing is that I've never been that kind of person, ever, so I don't understand why they're afraid to talk to me. And those who take risks, always say "ah, don't be upset", "ah, don't be mad at me", and I've never been mad, ever! I'm a big fan of hers, but I'm also not alienated, and I know she can be a bitch sometimes.

Second, even though I never express anything explosively about Taylor Swift (I've even stopped getting excited when she releases something new), I still get hurt when people says some bad things about her, but more for the sake of my self-esteem. As much as I listen to a variety of music — I work at a music newspaper and listen to everything from Arca and Radiohead to Phoebe Bridgers and Anohni —, Swift has always seemed to best capture my view of depression and relationships, so I really connect with her in that sense. So, when people talk bad about her, I feel like they are talking bad about me, invalidating my own feelings. As much as I recognize these negative comments are only about her and not me, it's very much something I have no control over, so I always get upset, even if I never show it.

This whole issue I think comes from when I was growing up. My family never cared about me and I always felt the need to feel different to get the least amount of attention. Hence my thing of listening to different artists, that few people know - apart from Taylor Swift, of course. However, because I was bullied at school, I feel an eternal need for appreciation from others, as if they needed to approve my different musical taste - be it approval from friends, the general public, critics, etc. It's like, they need to understand it's good, and I'm right.

This whole issue came to me when, a year ago, a friend went to describe me and the only thing she seemed to be able to use was "Taylor Swift fan." I don't blame you, but this idea that I feel people have of me — the annoying Taylor Swift fan that no one likes — scares me, because I know I'm so much more than that, but no matter what, people will never see me beyond that.

This scares me so much that there are days when I think about killing myself, just thinking that I will forever be just that.

What do you think?

So this is a cry for help my father has been abusive for about a couple of years now about 2-3 years so this is how it started my father did something I am not sure of but he was a with something but he was able to be released and he was in jail for about 3-2 years before he got out and now he is just more mean and rude should I say he hits me over and over and over again for no reason he even said he was going to hit me and say he was going to run me over with our SUV I was scared I don't even want to write this I can't tell where I live he will find out said something I need help I can't even say what state I am in I am still being abused to this day Reddit is the only spot I think you guys can help me I still have marks on my chest and back from him hitting me and other spots Please help me I'm afraid I'm gonna get killed he even said if I run away he will Kill his self I am not okay this is all I can write if u can message me I may be able to get more out he is going to know so this is all I can write sorry for my grammar issues I'm not really good with english this is all I can write goodbye for now.

I am a man in my mid 20’s. When I was graduating high school and going into college, I felt like I was beginning to have a strong moral foundation and like I was learning who I was. When I turned 19, I had a very traumatic event happen in my life and it made me fall into a pretty deep depression. A lot changed very quickly in my life, and the years just kind of got away from me.

Now, I’m realizing that I live a very sedentary life. I don’t do much. I don’t have many strong opinions. I do have a fiancé, but little family that I care about and some friends that live halfway across the US. I was talking with a work friend earlier and it made me realize that I truly need to learn WHO I am again. Does anyone have any recommendations for where to start? Books to help me develop these questions for myself? Podcasts? Apps? Any help is appreciated and I’m happy to answer any questions to help narrow specifics down.

Hey folks,

I could really use some advice on a little struggle I've been having lately. You know that feeling when you're trying to focus on one thing, but your mind decides to throw a party and invite five different thoughts to the mix? Yeah, that's been me lately.

I'm on a mission to hone my focus skills because, let's face it, being easily distracted isn't doing me any favors. It's like my subconscious has its own agenda, and every time I try to rein it in, it's off on a tangent again.

What's really weird is that the only time I seem to be able to think straight is when I'm feeling a bit scared or under pressure. It's like my brain kicks into survival mode, and suddenly, I'm all business. But living in a constant state of anxiety isn't exactly conducive to creative thinking or giving my all to a task.

So, I'm turning to you lovely people for some advice. How do you build focus and keep your mind on track when there are a million distractions vying for your attention? And more importantly, how do you shake off that nagging fear of failure that seems to lurk around every corner?

I'm all ears (well, eyes, technically), so hit me up with your best tips, tricks, or even just words of encouragement. Let's conquer this together!

Thanks a bunch

These social media influencers keep saying to follow your calling and go what your heart says, I don't understand how you listen to the "calling". I have multiple interests in wide disciplines, and it's hard to choose cause i love them all. I never understood what I wanted to do, or who i am. does every know what they really love and want to do? is it just one thing?

My birthday (May 23rd) is coming up and my mom keeps on telling me I don't act like a teenager because I act childish. I wear kawaii clothes and I talk about anime and video games, and she says it might get me bullied since I'm gonna be moving again to a new school (This is gonna be my 3rd school). And obviously, I don't wanna be bullied again, and I want to make friends because I didn't make a single one at my 2nd school, and all my friends at my 1st school abandoned or left me for other people

So lately I've been trying to make myself more like my classmates. I started wearing make-up, stopped wearing kawaii clothes in favor of aesthetic trendy ones, tried to stop being suicidal all the time and tried replacing my interest in anime and games for things that my classmates are interested in, like aesthetic fashion and make-up

I'm having a lot of trouble because I still want to be myself and acting like someone I'm not feels like torture, but I also want to fit in because I'm growing up and my mom says that this is for the best. After all, I believe that the most important part of my life is making others happy, and I really don't want to disappoint my mom or my peers by being myself. So are there any tips on how to fit in or be normal?

I’m in my mid 20s and very unsatisfied with my life. Everything that I’ve tried to do to improve my situation has failed, but I still keep on trying and failing.

I don’t want to wallow in self pity. How do you remain positive when you have nothing going for you?

hey everyone,

wanted to share my story of how I cut my screen time by 70% and replaced almost all of it with reading.

I used to be the type of person that scrolled through YouTube shorts / reddit literally the moment I had any bit of free time. it could be the smallest little opening where I have a break, like when I need to wait in line for like 10 seconds for the subway, and I'd jump into Shorts and get a hit of dopamine. it was fucking terrible.

I always told myself that I wanted to read more, but as most people do, I would just tell myself that but never actually act on it. I'd have books lying around that I'd buy and never read.

it was only when I actually put intentional thought into controlling the friction in my daily life that I was able to finally replace my useless scrolling with something healthy (reading)

my blunt advice to anyone interested in doing the same:

1. if you're using physical books, good luck ever reading them. physical books are way too cumbersome. you need to make reading as enticing as using addictive apps. get an eBook app (I use Apple Books) and put it right on your home screen. it should be accessible in one click, anywhere you are. that's the only chance you'll be able to combat how accessible social media is.
2. on the flip side, make it hard as hell to open social media. don't just download an eBook and hope and pray that you'll make the right decision. but also don't completely lock away your apps. you'll just get pissed off. find a tool that adds friction to opening your apps (I use superhappy ai, it makes me chat with an ai before I can open anything). that means you still get access, but most of the time will choose your eBook because it's instantaneous.
3. do both 1 and 2. this one is the reason most people fail. a lot of people try to download screen time apps without having an alternative thing to do on their phone. good luck with that. you'll get way too pissed off at your apps being blocked. you need something else on your phone to do while your apps are blocked. ebooks are my choice, but it could be journalling, Spotify, whatever

hopefully this helps. I can't stress enough how important it is to experiment with what works for you though. it's been a long journey for me but I think I finally cracked the code on how to make my monkey brain get off of these damn social media apps. good luck!

I really Really need this in my life, I respectably do not care about any comment not giving me advice for it, I am 23, an Grown man, I am doing everything under the Sun and with in my power to fight my many demons and many Problems, I do not need any advice other than what I'm asking, This one thing is the most important key I truly need to cause the Domino effect in my life, its maybe some sort of ritual physically, mentally, or psychologically, for example Maybe some sort of mental meditation, or CBT, or an Punishment reward system, Or something else I haven't thought of yet, I please ask that anyone who knows how to actually help me in this to do so,

Sometimes I get sad because of small things (or maybe I try to convince myself they’re small) in my life or relationship and I feel like it overwhelms me and my emotions are all over the place.

I’m bipolar II but was diagnosed not that long ago, like 2 years already, and I'm still trying to understand how to deal with my emotions and all. I'm on medication so I'm stable.

But sometimes due to stress I feel sad and lonely, lonely like I don't have anyone to talk about this that will understand exactly how it feels. So I feel sad and don´t talk about it to my boyfriend because I feel like I´m susceptible and I don’t want him to think that about me.

I try to talk about these things with him but it’s so hard for me because I don’t want to be seen like “too sensitive”. But maybe I am and I hate it.

I feel like everything feels like too much. And I don’t now how to stop feeling overwhelmed.

Hello! I'm a 20 year old student that's currently taking a year off of school, this is because I want to change degree and to do that I have to wait until next October (I decided this in March and since then I haven't been doing much).

Since March when I decided this I really haven't made much progress and have in fact fallen into a depressive state, I stay inside 5 or 6 out of 7 days and I just play videogames and scroll social media, whenever I do go outside I usually see my friends or my girlfriend but these people are busy so sometimes I just go on a walk alone.

Staying inside all the time has made me fall out of love with a lot of things that were good for me (reading, working out, hanging out etc.), it has also increased my anxiety and even made my hygiene worse which I feel very insecure about.

I took the first step yesterday by getting app limiters so now my max screen time between my pc and phone is 5 hours(I know its still a lot but its a start from 12) but now I feel a little lost and want some help/advice on how to move forward and become the person I used to be! Thanks a ton in advance

Do you exhibit these behaviors when you're in relationships?

1. Needy and clingy, and always anxious
2. Controlling, wanting to 'fix' or 'rescue' partner
3. Putting your partner's needs first, letting their mood impact yours & feeling responsible for their emotions
4. Constantly seeking reassurance and terrified of them leaving you
5. Date people who may be emotionally unavailable or have addiction issues (video games, alcohol, work, hobbies, substances, gambling...)
6. Feeling drained in relationships because you give so much
7. Do you neglect your friends and your own interests to be immediately available to them?
8. Do you feel empty without them, even though being with them is torment?
9. Being in love means being in pain

If your answer to the above is yes, please fill out my questionnaire!

I'm currently conducting research to create an app to help people like us, as I've been through many unhealthy relationships and being in love literally was painful each time. If you'd like to try out the app, please also leave your email so I can reach out to you!

Questionnaire here:

https://tally.so/r/woA851

I (23m) have struggled with feeling close to people for a very long time, every since I was a child. I don't lack empathy, and I care for others. If I see someone get hurt, I feel sad, and I can relate to people and their feelings.

However, I constantly feel alone. I have many friends, and I know they are real friends who care for me and have my best intentions in mind, but I don't really feel much of a connection to them. I don't feel much connection with my family, I never really feel proud of anything, and anything I am affiliated with I don't really care for. I also struggle a lot with romantic attraction. I don't really get attracted to people, and even if they are objectively attractive, I don't feel a connection with them.

Basically, I never feel like I am in a group. Even when I physically am, I emotionally feel alone.

What should I do about this?

I was raised by parents who only ever communicated approval when my behavior was notably "good" and far more often punished for "bad" behavior.

Out of that environment, I have come to believe that my value is directly tied to my performance, whether that be in the personal or professional spheres. Objectively, I know this is false, but I do not have any idea how to correct this belief system. Lately (over the last 2-3yrs), the beliefs have significantly impacted - almost disabled - my ability to correctly interpret/translate input, whether that be what I hear, observe, read, etc. My thoughts turn every input into a reinforcement of "you are worthless".

Ultimately, I now feel unable to accurately understand the world around me and how I relate to it without feeling worthless within it.

Help.

Has anyone overcome a similar belief system?

If so, how did you do it?

What wisdom/advice do you have for me?

Thank you.

Many people understand that procrastination is an irrational behaviour that is driven by emotional responses to stimuli (i.e. tasks).

Many people also understand that it is a demonstration of the human tendency to avoid pain and seek pleasure.

However, most don't understand that the root cause of this irrationality and emotionally driven behaviour stems from the deepest parts of our psyche, rooted in our own self image and limiting beliefs.

I made a video discussing this topic, based on my own experiences, reflections and study and outline the method I developed for myself to address procrastination at its root cause so I could ultimately control it and rid myself of it for good.

In short, the process is as follows:

1. identify the task that is causing you to procrastinate
2. identify thoughts and emotions that arise related to the task
3. delve into your psyche and identify if you have any limiting beliefs that are related to these thoughts and emotions and if this forms part of your self image
4. if so, determine whether these beliefs and image are true and valid (they probably aren't)
5. create a new image and beliefs about yourself that relate to the pain you're experiencing and task you're avoiding
6. feel the emotions and think that thoughts that correspond to your new beliefs and the subsequent completion of the task as if you've actually completed it
7. do the thing that it is you're avoiding
8. repeat until this is fully integrated into your psyche.

You can view the video in full here: You Can't Stop Procrastinating Because You Don't Understand This.

I hope this information helps someone, it's certainly helped me.

Cheers.

This is so frustrating for me. In relationships I will know exactly what i want to say but its like theres a mental barrier stopping me from saying it. Its like anxiety. Even if I know something is safe to say, I cant get the words out. I usually resort to typing it in a message instead which feels so immature. Partners get frustrated at me and beg me to speak and I cant. The more time that goes along without me saying something the harder it gets to say.

The earliest memory I have of this is asking my parents to go to friends houses. Any time I’d be invited somewhere or want to ask them something Id text my mum instead. My mum I can talk to her about anything and I’m very open with her and trust her. I know she isn’t going to shout at me or anything and will probably say yes to going to a friends house but there’s just something there stopping me?

With boyfriends I will want to go somewhere or do something but again, I cant say it. & I overthink and get so ashamed of not being able to talk which makes it worse. I sort of shut down like i’m giving silent treatment.

Thing is I’m a very (overly) open outgoing person usually so I dont understand. I’m not worried about the response. I want to fix this problem as it ends up me crying out of frustration and embarrassment. Help please does anyone else have this and why?

since this year my life has been gradually going downhill, in january my dad died and i lost all motivation. my grades have been declining and my family was arguing nonstop, and recently i wrote final exams and i fucked them all up because i couldnt bring myself to study even if i tried. now i may not get into a good school, and even if i did go to a good school i dont even know where i want to go and what to do in life, i have zero hobbies and i dont go outside, i watch movies all day and sometimes play games but even that got boring and i used to play them 24/7, my only friends dropped me in april and found a new one, i despise all my annoying ass classmates and also i look like a pedophile and no girl has showed interest in me ever except maybe for jokes in 5th grade. i also got misdiagnosed with aspergers but i cant do shit about it. so i look like a goblin, have shit grades, zero hobbies and motivation and im classified as a a retard. is there any point in continuing this?

and also my life for the past couple of years is centered around nostalgia, all my interests are ones that ive had as a kid, i play games i played as a kid and i only like cloudy days because they remind me of my childhood the most i despise any other weather. and for some reason all of this gets worse during sunsets, i want to jump out my balcony whenever theres a sunset because i get so miserable

i identify myself as a woman and all this years i dated with many men. my last relationship longed 8 months and this month we broke up because of my sexual feelings ended with him. I thought i became asexual but i realized that im attracted by women. My feelings are complicated and idk how to feel and what to do.

To preface, I have never been diagnosed with social anxiety, and I feel I am usually decent at interacting freely and engagingly with people rather than not. However, this ability changes quite a bit. Moreover, I find myself blundering through conversations and feeling as though I blurt out whatever without thinking through what I am saying.

Its not an issue of saying insensitive things, I never say anything offensive. It’s more like I can’t shut up and my thoughts come out super disorderly. Sometimes its an issue of how I physically am interacting, like I can’t control how I act.

For instance, I just leave interactions without any reason, maybe in the middle of a conversation. I do it, as if in auto pilot, and then immediately understand that what I did was strange.

Other times it’s like I will overshare without realizing, or unable to respond to questions appropriately, and my answers come out confusing.

Things like tone of voice aren’t usually an issue but sometimes I feel like even the filter I put on my tone is missing their marks.

Anyways, wondering if anyone has any advice or insight. Is there a way to be more conscientious and calm when navigating life?

I remember when I was starting out on my self development journey one of the most powerful and impactful things I did was take the time to think through and actually articulate what I wanted my life to look like in a structured manner. I didn't really know where to start so at the time (2020) I resolved to shell the 16 bucks and pay for Jordan Peterson's future authoring program. The program took me roughly a week to complete, and in my opinion was too long. However I did find the section on developing a vision / idealised version of yourself in the future to be the most useful, as it gave me a guide to follow and develop myself towards. 4 years later, I can say I am well on my way to achieving the majority of those goals. With that said, I do find the pay wall a bit frustrating and appreciate that not everyone can afford it, so I created a GPT to walk through the same series of questions and give everyone the same experience for free.

Future Vision Authoring GPT

There's a lot of hype around habit formation, but I've found that it's the tiny habits that make the biggest difference. For me, it was drinking a full glass of water first thing every morning. It sounds silly, but it kickstarted my day, made me feel more alert, and created a chain reaction of other positive choices.

What's your "one tiny habit" that has a surprisingly big impact on your productivity or well-being? Share your wins!

I'm curious if anyone uses apps to track tiny habits or build routines.

I want to find more podcasts, by women, that talk about self improvement through the mind, body, and spirit. I would like something that motivates me and also allows me to change my mindset toward a more positive track. I’ve tried to get into some that were recommended on tik tok but the only one I found I decently enjoy was the Guide Me Glow podcast by Shannon Tang. I hope this isn’t weird but I just found her voice and accent very soothing lol. And I also loved the way she viewed the world around her. I also like to watch Caroline Manning on youtube sometimes, I find her lifestyle very peaceful and productive. Please help, thank you!!

Someone that used to be my friend keeps harassing me wanting to fight me. He wants to fight me because I got offended at something he said to me. He got offended because I got offended and now he’s talking about fighting 🤷🏽‍♂️