As a 26 yr old woman, I'm wondering how men cope and handle their emotions and their feelings.

For me, crying is a response that I feel like I can't live without so I have a hard time understanding how a lot of men function without crying. It releases the emotions out from my body and helps me feel better. I've also learned about the phenomenon that emotions and traumas can build up in your body that you're not even aware of. Like how for women (maybe men too but i haven't looked into it) a lot of emotions can be trapped in your hips and i believe it after doing research and because it happens a lot in yoga and even to me I go to yoga on and off and with certain hip stretches, the waterworks just come out from my eyes and I feel so emotional. Not all the time, sometimes. It usually all gets released after 2-3 yoga classes and then I'm good until I have more emotions trapped and it gets released again.

I think for men it would be difficult because men are generally less flexible but can still gain benefits from yoga practice.

I feel like for me my emotions get released mostly from crying. Sometimes when I cry it's also releasing past stored emotions. Which is why sometimes I cry more than I should on something small. So I'm just wondering where men's emotions go if they don't cry? Do they just get stored in your body and keep building up? Maybe without even knowing or aware of it?

I have also heard that for a lot of men, sadness comes out in the form of anger instead of sadness because it's more "masculine". But the emotion their feeling inside is sadness but the reaction/response is anger.

Men of reddit, what do you do or feel when you're sad? Do you cry? If not, where do you're emotions go? What do you do to cope and heal? I'm very curious and trying to understand, thank you :)

Hi, I’m 27 (F, Indian, living in India). Last month, my boyfriend ended our relationship, saying his parents, who had initially supported our marriage, suddenly changed their minds. My family met him in August, but shortly after, my grandmother passed away. During that time, his parents were expecting a follow-up call from my family, which didn’t happen due to our grief. Now, they’ve decided not to proceed, saying they’re done waiting, and my ex says he’s realized he no longer has feelings for me.

I started therapy to cope and was beginning to move on. But today, after an argument, my mom asked me to leave. Though I’m financially independent, everything feels overwhelming. Has anyone else faced a similar situation, and how did you cope? Any advice would be appreciated.

I'm a 26f, I just want to start a conversation about this topic. I notice that objectively and physically speaking, the way I look and feel depends on how well I am.

I'm beautiful and glowing and smiling and my skin looks good and clear and fresh and my face and eyes are bright and gorgeous, hair full and shiny, and everything just looks so good when I'm in a good place and happy in life.

When im struggling, not doing well, depressed, stressed, or in a bad relationship, etc, I notice that my skin looks awful, my face looks droopy, hair falling out, I physically feel bad, and I just look overall ugly and unhappy. Thoughts?

I'm just not in the best place right now and I notice I'm not as attractive as I was before when I was happier.

How to deal with loneliness from all your friends being in College while you’re stuck behind?

Hello everyone, I graduated hs in May of this year and am planning on going into the trades. My friends all went to college, which is making me feel unbelievably lonely, they keep sending me pictures, videos, and other stuff telling me about how much fun they’re having and how they’re getting the college experience partying and all that.

I’m not getting any of that, I’m stuck at home working at a pizza place in a small dying town. I don’t mind working it’s one of the few things that makes me happy, but I hate how lonely I am. There’s no people here to make friends with, and I feel like a complete loser being all alone while my friends hangout and party.

I have no clue on how to handle this, I’ve drifted away from them in general and it’s driving me insane. There’s also the fact that I realistically know I’m never meeting a partner either in the trades because the trade I’m looking at less than 3% of the population is female and obviously since not going to college that isn’t an option.

I know it probably sounds dumb as shit to anyone who’s older than me (19) but it’s something that’s genuinely dragging me down. I don’t want to be lonely, I want to party like people my age, I want to go out and meet girls, but it just feels like that’s never going to happen.

(Why don’t you just go to their party’s? | Work and they’re at colleges about 2 hours away, plus they don’t invite me so there’s that.)

As the only son in a wealthy family, my life was set up for me from day one. I went to good schools, had tutors, and was signed up for extracurriculars like taekwondo, piano, and badminton. Since I was the only son, everyone around me, from family to employees, kind of assumed I’d take over the family business someday. But even with the big house, maids, and drivers, my parents made sure I didn’t get spoiled. They kept my allowance pretty tight, just enough for a basic meal at school without extras, so I learned early to be thrifty and find ways to make extra cash, like helping classmates with their math homework.

This mindset stayed with me through high school and A-levels, where I did really well and even started learning about business and investing. But things changed when I got into university in the UK. I was proud of getting into a top school, but suddenly I was surrounded by people who were not only smart but also incredibly driven and disciplined—qualities I realized I was lacking. At first, I pushed myself to keep up, going to every class and trying to be disciplined, but it didn’t last. I’d get stuck in this cycle where I’d waste entire days on social media just because I finally had that freedom, and each time I failed to stay focused, my confidence took a hit.

Over time, I started making excuses, telling myself it didn’t matter if my grades slipped or if I didn’t try as hard because I was financially “ahead” of my peers. Little by little, I lost a sense of who I was, focusing more on how my family’s money set me apart rather than finding my own path. Now, I’m nearing the end of university, and while my classmates have built up impressive résumés with internships at top companies, I’m here with no work experience and not much drive to change things. I’m only 23, but I’m already worried about what direction I’m heading in. It feels like if I keep coasting, I’ll just end up wasting my life and the potential I once thought I had.

It's already been over a month since I was on a month long vacation with my two friends. Since then almost every aspec of my life changed and I don't feel like myself anymore. I thought it was vacation high and I would get back to normal, but I'm not sure anymore.

Don't get me wrong, almost all the changes are positive, like instead of gaming I'm running or going to gym, my apartment was never cleaner and I eat homemade food instead of ordering, but it's not me or at least doesn't feel like it.

All these changes also contribute to me loosing those mentioned friends. We were big gaming buddies, but now I'd rather spend my time on another activity, but I really miss them. I tried to convince them to join me in other activities outside of gaming, but with no success. We still go out sometimes, but not as often as I would like and it's getting harder to convince them.

I understand that if I didn't get used to my new me myself then I can't expect them to do the same and I can't go back, because I'm not him anymore, but I'm just really scared of who will I become and being alone again....

I don't know how to move on from my girlfriend, whom I broke up with two years ago, since every time I go anywhere, I can't help but be reminded of her. In my mind, I keep seeing her with a new guy, which makes the pain much worse. I know I have my entire life ahead of me because I'm only 17, but she was a major part of my teenage years. When we first met at the age of 15. Help me stop thinking about her and becoming jealous, please.

Hello, so I’m turning 30 tomorrow. I’m married to my husband who’s in another country and the visa processes are in the works. The past few weeks have been challenging for me. With my two sisters migrating to two different countries. And I’ve been feeling a lot of pain lately in my heart. A kind of pain I cannot explain. I live with my mum currently and knowing I will be leaving her alone soon is breaking my heart daily. And I’m having some communication difficulties with my husband cause idk how to explain how I feel when I’m so overwhelmed with how I’m feeling. My husband does care but not the way I would like to be cared of. I don’t blame him cause it’s his ways. So I’m just buried in work. I just keep working so I won’t feel that loneliness that I got no one to really share any of this with. So tomorrow I’m going to take a small solo travel to the beach side in my country to feel a bit free. Cause I don’t have anyone to celebrate it with here. I don’t want to celebrate with my mom alone in our house cause that’s just sad. Like I didn’t expect I’d be home to celebrate my 30th. I just feel very lost this time. And blank. So blank. Just wanted to word vomit some things I’m feeling. That’s all. Good day all.

Hey, Reddit! 👋

So, I recently stumbled across this article that promised to help totally eliminate anxiety in just 7 days. As someone who has struggled with anxiety for years, I was curious (and honestly, a bit skeptical). But I thought, why not give it a shot?

Here's the challenge breakdown: each day, there’s a specific, practical activity to try. It’s like a mental detox, one small step at a time, but with a real purpose. From practicing gratitude to learning how to disconnect from the noise of life—each day felt like it was peeling back a layer of my anxious mind.

I won’t spoil all the details, but I’ll say this: it wasn’t magic, but it did change how I approached my anxiety. Some parts felt hard, some parts felt easy, but every day taught me something about myself.

If anxiety has been a pain point in your life, or you just want to try some new tools to stay grounded, check this article out. It might just be the reset you didn’t know you needed. 😊

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Has anyone else here tried similar challenges? Let’s hear your stories!

I know my opinion is going to be controversial, but I would just like to share my story and more food for thought.

I am 35 y / o and have been on a self-help journey for the last 15 years. Last month I started to observe people who are in my life. 5 friends & my family members - so I have known them 'my whole life.'

I asked myself, 'Where am I now vs them'? When we were 20, I started self - a self-help journey, and they didn't. I was on this 'great path' vs them. I had everything set up great for myself.

15 years later, I am more or less at the same place. My friends all 'improved' in life. I started to analyze 'What was the difference?'.

I heard so many times comments, 'There is a difference between ACTION and just a THOUGHT. The difference was/is that for the last 15 years, I accumulated useless knowledge - that can't be implemented effectively in life.

Self Help got me in this cycle, whatever problem I have, 'I need to fix it,' 'I need to analyze,' 'I need to find why I feel this way,' 'I need to control my thoughts,' etc. - we can use whatever here.

A few months ago, I lost my job. I overcomplicate what needs to be done. It's been 2 months of unsuccessful search. My friend got it in 1 week. I know there is also a luck factor, but what was 'the difference?'.

Well, when he faced the situation of losing his job, his next action was to call/send a CV. My reaction was 'Self Pity Party for 1 month' - because 'I need to lift myself'. In reality, I don't need to lift myself. I just need to do s***.

Self Help is this feeling that 'I am doing something for my life,' but in reality, it is a 'pointless act.'

Why I believe it's hard to implement it in life? Example: setting up goals - it's great, but we don't know each step that needs to be taken to reach the goal. If we need to have a step for everything, we just end up in a 'cycle of gathering more information'.

If I take example of my friend. When he faced the situation of losing his job, he felt horrible and was depressed for 1 week, but he took action. Because he was not 'worried' about all the steps. Some things in life are just 'luck'; we don't control everything. He does not have this knowledge of 'Analyze why you feel this way and that BS'. He didn't spend 1 month creating a 'perfect plan', but he started 'doing' - even If he didn't know what the next step was going to be.

Comment below if you feel the same. 👇

So my sister,her boyfriend and I all went out to drink for Halloween. After two drinks we were. Completely done for the night, we ended up getting over served, my sister and her boyfriend have been fighting the last few days because he’s really not into the relationship suddenly and she just wants to make it work and he has made it clear his priorities are himself then his feelings before anything else. Theyve been together for a year and just I got into a fight with him cuz she blacked out from the amount of alcohol and tried to move her and she threw up so he left her where I was also just as drunk and tried to help her. She was crying saying she just wanted her boyfriend to take care of her and I got fed up and asked him what is he was doing, does he not care that she’s passed out In Her own puke etc. His response was that I was taking care of her so he doesn’t have anything to do with it. I got fed up and told him I’m sick and tired of how he’s treating her and what is he going to do. I don’t know what to do now. It hurts me because I know it’s going to hurt her when she realizes the fight that happened when she blacked out and I’m just at a loss for everything. She’s insisting he’s the one and nothing will ever be the same because of his attitude and she’s just as lost.

I've spent the last 20 years on self-improvement. It was rough. I won't go into details, but I've gone from being a loser living in my moms literal basement to having what many find an enviable life. I own a business, have great relationships, have traveled the world, etc, etc.

I'm at a point where I want to help others.. not just *want* to.. but I don't feel like there is anything else meaningful for me to do.

And yet, despite all the self-improvement content and forums out there, I'm lost as to how to personally be involved and make a difference.

I have answered people's questions on this and other subs, but most people are not serious about change, and are just there to vent. I've started making content on YT, but the algorithms love lowest-common-denominator, tell-them-what-they-want-to-hear, entertaining nonsense.. and I'm just no willing to demean myself to create that.

I find the most satisfaction in offering one-on-one mentorship (or coaching, or whatever you want to call it), but it seems to be an extremely tough sell.. even when offer to give it away for free! There are so many coaches/mentors/gurus etc out there, and they are so good at marketing b.s., that it's very difficult to be found.

My apologies if this comes off as a bit of rant. I don't mean it that way.

I'd love to have some answers from the self-improvement community on *any* of these questions:

1. Has anyone here managed to turn their self-improvement journey into a meaningful vocation?
2. Of the people who are working on self-improvement, how many are seriously invested, and how many are just looking to blow off steam?
3. Does anyone have suggestions for me, personally, as to how I might proceed?

I am extremely guarded and closed off. I’ll admit I act like a jerk a lot and I completely detracted from my emotions. If I feel pain I won’t tell anyone and I won’t acknowledge it . I’m also extremely lonely.

I don’t know why I’m like this but it’s been going on for 3 years and I’ve just accepted that it’s who I am.

I didn’t grow up with any trauma in my life and I haven’t experienced anything near death nor did I have an abusive childhood.

But I kinda wish I did so I would have justification to why I am like this. And as sadistic as it sounds, I think having trauma and persevering is so cool and badass. It also gives a person character and a cool story to tell lol.

So yes I kind of wish I had trauma.

I’ve wrote a post about this before but I have an unhealthy obsession with a fictional character. Levi Ackerman from aot. I’ve kind of developed a lot of his habits like being stoic and blunt. The only difference between me and him is that he grew up with trauma and he has a reason for acting so closed off (because he lives in a literal war zone lol) . I don’t nor have I been in a situation like that and now I feel like I just act stupid. And for some reason I want trauma to be closer to his character.

Sometimes I dream of being in an alternate reality or a different verse where I was in a near death experience kind of like a zombie apocalypse or even aot itself lol. Life just is so boring. I mean the cycle of life like growing up going to school, getting married, getting. A job, starting a family, etc.

It would be cool to be in a situation where my flight or fight response would kick in with endless amounts of adrenaline and dopamine.

I know it sounds silly but it’s an actual problem and PLEASE if you have any advice help me out.

I am an 18 yr old female in her freshman year of college to give perspective.

hey guys, I really have no idea what to do or who to talk to about this, but I've been dating a girl for a few months now and I'm pretty serious about her. for context me and her met in university in our first year and for my second University I transferred to another country in another timezone. my girlfriend never used to go out clubbing before but this weekend she's just been going on and on about going clubbing with people I dislike. I try my best not to say no to her, but seeing her prioritize going out with friends and shopping for her club nights and other bs like that makes my whole body feel extremely weird. I won't deny that I am extremely possessive over her but my whole body feels like Its screaming at me to ask her not to go out tonight and I have a terrible feeling about it. but for some reason I just don't wanna say no. I want her to decide not to go out on her own accord even though every single bone in my body says I should tell her not to go out, I find myself unconsciously expressing disdain for the fact that she's going out, but when she asks how I feel about it I say "no baby go" "have fun" "ill be asleep anyway we won't be talking" am I overthinking like crazy or should I trust my gut????

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I feel like a real piece of shit—and I was! And I also know that wallowing in that feeling isn't helpful to the person I hurt (with whom I'll be having an extended break of contact) nor to myself, and I gotta get a grip. Looking for ways to stop myself when I start spiraling in my thoughts and also maybe what to do if I'm concentrating on something else and I notice the guilty feelings creeping up. Thanks!

i don't know if this is where I should be posting, but I could really use some tips or advice.

I know logically that people aren't attacking me when they give criticism, they are trying to help. but I tend to shut down and feel like a failure when they do.

I don't want to blame my childhood for my problems now, but after getting in a fight with my boyfriend I had some reflection about this.

I realized the feelings i struggle with feels very much like when my parents would sit me down and scold me for failing to keep up with chores/schoolwork or for my attitude.

just so much pressure to reach their standards, but I'm just a failure and a disappointment.

I really want to grow into a better person, but I just don't know where to start.

For past few months IAM dealing with some sort of false memory. Few months back I had a thought that earlier in my life I believed that I have done something inappropriate with someone and that thought didn't appeared in my lifetime again. I remember that at that time this was a vague thought but at now at this point in life when it came in to my mind evidences suggested that it didn't happened like I believed earlier it was something less inappropriate and that less inappropriate thing didn't ever poped in my mind too but I definitely know that that less Inappropriate thing happend which resonates with the inappropriate thing, every environmental memory which was linked to my thought about inappropriate thing was present in that less inappropriate act. So I gathered evidences in my mind about this that instead of that inappropriate thing less inappropriate thing happened and I have no memory of that how inappropriate thing happend executed and I imagined different scenarios linked to inappropriate thought and I concluded that it doesn't happened becase that thing was kinda impracticable too.

But what if scenarios keeps popping in my mind that what is that inappropriate thing is true. Secondly since iam overthinking a lot about this thing so the evidence about that I have no memory of this thing , due to overthinking it is erasing the line between real and false memory because I have been continously thinking about this for past many months Thirdly I gathered a evidence since it didn't popped up in my mind in my life so it is false memory but what if scenario arises that what about that thought your thought earlier for example due to which that inappropriate thing thought might have resurfaced earlier.

I hope I have explained well my scenario I am desperate want to come out of this loop and scenarios which is disturbing me a lot I can't sleep I can't focus on my tasks in night I cry a lot due to overthinking and depression. Please please someone help me or share if someone had same experiences.

Everything started 5 months ago when I saw her at uni and started talking to her. Over the summer, we chatted every single day, she told me a lot about herself and so did I. We had great time, even though it was only over internet, because we lived in different cities and we could not get together. She goes to the same Uni as me, and we have a tone of things in common, and when I say it, I MEAN it. She is me and I am her. But this last month was tough. She is holding back, idk why. And it is so frustrating. Firstly, she barely texted, well I always started conversations and it was not a change, that I did not text her for a day and she texted first, I thought this was an amazing sign. But lately, she's been replying to my texts coldly, like she says bare minimum. I went out with her once, but after that, she rejected me 3 times, yea, I know, 3 is way too much. Note that she was acting this way before we went out. She had grate time and so did I. But now, she literally does not text me anymore. I texted her something today, and only thing she said was: "nope". She could have said soo much more, and I know she would do so in the past, but know she chose only that. She is sending mixed signals, Our 109 Tik-Tok streak ended because I did not text her first. I thought she was done with me, but she restored it, like why? I know some might say this is childish but it is not. I genually like her, she is also not type of girl who dates every other boy every other week, and I am feeling bad. If she does not like me, I at least want to know that. I know that not everybody will feel the same as you do towards them, she is very good girl and I genually wish the best for her, but if there is a chance of me being with her, I would take that chance. But if tehre is not, I would at least like to know that, so I can start moving on, because this is eating my brain, and I am too young, there are many things I need to get done. My life will turn over if I do not get this situation sorted out. What would yall recommend, cause I really do not know what to do right now. She with her mixed signals is driving me crazy. oagbipqekgnpiqnfingf.

Thanks for staying <3.

You know that nagging “What if?” feeling that creeps up at the weirdest times? I just read an article that dives into when those everyday jitters are actually waving a big red flag at you. Spoiler: constant anxiety isn’t just “part of adulting.”

The article breaks down some eye-openers, like:

• Why your brain sometimes acts like it’s training for the Anxiety Olympics 🥇
• How it’s not normal for random stress to mess with your sleep, social life, and focus all the time
• Tips on spotting when anxiety is crossing the line and what to do about it before it gets worse

This hit home for me because it’s easy to brush off anxiety as “just stress,” but sometimes, it’s worth taking a closer look. If you’re finding anxiety creeping into every corner of life, this might be a solid read. Here’s the link if you want to check it out!

Link to the Article

I hate everyone. I get pissed looking at people especially girls my age they act so dumb and foolish.

My college roommate was a dumb foolish girl I wanted her to leave so I found a way. She created a huge mess and stank up the entire place. I'm a bad person. I act like a jerk towards others. I am emotionless and I don't feel any empathy for others. I push others away and always have my guard up.

I don't ever show my emotions and if I do I find a way to shut it off right away.

My face is always monotone and I rarely show any expression. I speak in a very harsh and blunt way. I know I have a problem. I am extremely lonely. But I just can't make a friend or let people get close to me.

I’m not going to therapy because I don’t want to make it an official problem. I’m not one of those sad emo kids that mopes around and plays the victim. I’m stronger than that.

Another thing: A lot of people talk about the 48 laws of power. It's a toxic book I know but it will help me forget about my loneliness issue. Is this true? Please help

I graduated high school four years ago, but I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life until later. I started community college at 21M but wasn’t taking it seriously. Now, I’m 23, about to turn 24, and I’m finally on the right path. I know exactly what I want to do, and I’m passionate about it. My only concern is whether I’ll be able to land a job after graduating, as I’ve never had a job in my life before. I also didn’t do that well in school in the past, but I’m currently fixing my GPA. The semester is almost over, and based on how well I’m doing now, I should end up with a GPA around 3.0. I’m hoping this will give me a shot at landing an interview or a job through a co-op or internship.

To give you more context, I’m majoring in software development at a community college that has a great program. From what I’ve heard, a decent number of students land jobs through the program. But I’ve also heard that some students go through the whole curriculum without getting a single co-op or job. That’s what concerns me—whether I’ll even be able to land a job, or if I’ll end up needing more time in college, potentially graduating when I’m 27. I know it’s my own path, and I shouldn’t care about that stuff, but mentally it does affect me. It makes me feel like I wasted my life in the past. I kind of beat myself up about it, and I know I need to work on being kinder to myself.

Currently, I’m taking two online web classes, which aren’t live, so I don’t even get to see or interact with anyone—not even a teacher. I could reach out to them if needed, but I’m mostly home all day since the classes are online. On top of that, I don’t have a driver’s license, so I feel even more isolated.

For the past four years, I’ve essentially been home every single day. I can literally count on one hand the number of times I’ve left the house this year. My daily routine is wake up, study or do schoolwork if needed, play video games, maybe work out a little, and then I’m back at it the next day. I don’t have any friends, and I haven’t had a girlfriend since eighth grade. I also realized the friends I had in high school weren’t really friends, so I’ve been completely isolated for years.

What makes things worse is that I sometimes find myself looking at the social media of people I knew from high school—people I used to like or considered friends. I see them enjoying life, graduating, having careers, starting families, or just living a fun and carefree life. There was even a girl I had a crush on who now owns a successful business and has a kid. I want to stop reminiscing about these people and what’s going on in their lives. I want to move on completely and forget about them because I’m sure they don’t even think about me. Living like this, being home all day and seeing these things, makes me feel like I’m stuck and unable to progress in my own life.

On top of all that, I’ve struggled with a porn addiction in the past, which made me feel even more depressed because I didn’t have any real connection with anyone. It used to be a lot worse, but it’s gotten better. I’ll go long periods without it, but it’s still something I find difficult to completely stop, especially with the way my life is right now—isolated, no friends, no social interactions. I don’t want to feel this way anymore.

I’m tired of living this way. I’m tired of just playing games, scrolling social media, and feeling like I’m wasting my life. I feel like I’ve lost touch with what it’s like to actually interact with people my age, and it’s starting to affect my mental health. I’m not a weird person, and I think I can hold great conversations when I meet people. I’ve even been told I’m good-looking and in shape, so it’s not that I lack confidence—I just don’t know where to start.

I want to meet people, create new connections, and have a more fulfilling life. I’m not looking for long-lasting friendships right away, just the opportunity to meet people consistently and start getting out of this routine. What can I do to improve my situation and make my life more meaningful? I’m productive at home, I study hard, and I take care of myself, but I’m stuck in this loop of never leaving the house or having any social interaction.

Please, any advice would be appreciated. I just want to figure out how to make things better and start living again.

So I have a overwhelming urge, desire, passion to wanna make a impact with my story!! I have a strong message and don’t shy away from any opportunity to share it when asked. I have told my story as a inmate to inmates, was part of the scared straight program as a inmate to high school students headed down the wrong path. I have brought meetings into juvenile correctional facilities and shared my story, and have spoken in rehabs.

I have a powerful message of hope, a message that shows the power of resilience and how unconditional love was everything I needed to turn someday into day one!! I have survived through alot of hard times, I have been in the system since I was 13, hung out with the wrong crowd, started using drugs at a early age, battled substance abuse most my life, have been shot, stabbed, between the age of 25-35 I did 7 1/2 years in jail, joined a prison gang, survived cancer, and out of all that, it was nothing compared to the narcissistic abuse I barely escaped with my life!! I made thru all that for 1 reason, and that’s my son!!

I believe I made it through all that to help others who can relate to anything I share in my story, and I genuinely care about people struggling to hold on, I absolutely love to see people win!! I go into every speaking engagement with the hope that what I have to say registers with just one person, that’s one life that hopefully got talked off the ledge!!

I don’t know how to start, how to make this my life, how to get plugged in with people to make this happen. I’m dying to find a mentor, someone who knows how to push me in the right direction, who will show me the ropes. I don’t have thousands of dollars to spend on this course or that course, I am a single father who is barely getting by, and without help am afraid that I’ll never get a chance to see how impactful my story really is!! I’m not looking for any hand outs, I’m ready and willing to work harder than anything I have ever worked for in my life, none of it would be work, it’s my passion!!

Please if yall can help me out, point me in the right direction, it would mean the world to me and the payout on the investment is well worth it!!

I know people say that they feel lonely. but I am LONELY.

The only people I really have are my parents. My sister doesn't even talk to me she's just doing her own thing. I don't have a single friend. Only a few acquaintances that I talk to once ever month or something. And I'm being honest. I'm in freshman in college right now, everyone my age is going to frats, Halloween parties and even if I wanted to go (which I don't) I don't have anyone to go with.

Sometimes I even go days without talking to a single soul.

I am 18 right now very young. But even in high school I wasted my entire experience. I never went to a single party, a single dance, I didn't even attend prom. And I know I'm wasting my life.

That's why to cope I have delved myself into work. So that I feel like I did something worthwhile with my life and I won't regret anything in the future. I find success in only schoolwork, grades, passion now because i have frankly given up on my social life and friends.

I've just accepted that it's who I am. But every now and then I get sad. I look at other people and get sad.

Please help me

Hey guys. So I don't know if you are familiar with the character Levi Ackerman from the anime Attack on Titan. I have an unhealthy obsession with Levi.

I analyze everything about his personality so I can be like him. I even developed his habits like his stoic demeanor, his badass attitude, and his harsh way of talking to people. I act so closed off as him that I literally pushed all my friends away and now I’m afraid people just see me as a jerk.

I love how he’s so excellent in his field. That’s also what I’m trying to do I’ve kind of became a workaholic now lmao. I dismiss emotions and act very guarded around people it’s hard for me to make friends.

This is become a big habit that I can’t get myself out of.

Levi is so badass and cool. But irl I don’t think his characteristics are helpful But in my eyes I see him as perfect.

In every situation Im in, I think “What would Levi do” because I want to be exactly like him.

Also, I can’t make myself develop feelings for any guy (I am a female) because they just simply can’t compare to Levi EVEN THOUGH HES A GODDAMN FICTIONAL CHARACTER.

It’s becoming a problem that my family thinks I act too masculine and I should be more like a girl. ( I am not lesbian lol)

I know it sounds really weird lol but It is a genuine problem and I don't know what to do.

So I (28M) am a gay man who can’t seem to find the right path to anything in regards to dating. It’s now been 6+ years since I was in a relationship with my last ex, and since then, I have been single who feels like they’re on clearance. My last ex was 19 at the time and I was only 22. We went to the same school together with the same group of friends. Eventually things would take a turn when I noticed he wasn’t keeping any of my promises and wasn’t being too serious about our relationship together. Me and a lot of my friends at the time realized what was happening and it would get to me for the better or worse. I had noticed that he would start getting more and more intoxicated whenever he was in school…much less at his new place. For the record, he moved into a friends apartment who was also the same age as my ex. This was where he took advantage of everything and decided drinking was a fun thing to do, even at home. The promise I had asked him was that he would not drink even if he was in school, regardless of where he was. This was the same promise I kept with my mother since she was also in school full time. She never drank at home while she was studying, and neither did I. Eventually when I heard that he was drinking more and more often, I basically went up to him one morning (and this was a lesson I had learned ever since then as well as the hard way) and basically asked him “Well, which one is it gonna be? Me or the alcohol?” And that’s where things got messy. I eventually learned the hard way that you can’t convince someone who becomes an addict to stop their addiction that fast. He did eventually break up with me through a Facebook Live video. And ever since then I have not been able to open up to a relationship for the sake of trust and honesty.

I’ve never really experienced how it really feels to have a long term partner since then, and I am feeling that fate has a path for me that I am not seeing. Maybe I’m not fit to date, or maybe I’m picky, I don’t know. But any constructive criticism or advice would be appreciated. I can take it…I just need someone, or people, to tell me what I could be doing wrong or what I could do better.

My English is terrible, I don't even know if I can put a page for "private fundraisers" here.

If not, I apologize.

https://zrzutka.pl/mpbdm2

I am very disgusted at a character trait of myself: I am way too focused on other people. I am very judgmental towards them. For example, in the gym, I constantly find myself watching other people workout and silently criticising their form, choice of exercises. I know that I would be way better off focusing on my own workout but I keep relapsing. Furthermore I‘ve noticed that I can become pretty jealous of other people’s possessions if they have more than I do, even close friends and it scares me that I have these feelings. I am also too concerned about how other people (friends) see me. It even goes that far that I directed a girl that tried to hit on me at the club to approach a friend of mine, because I was afraid of being rejected in front of my friends (yes the girl hit on me, so not really rational).

These are some things I‘d like to improve my character on. Throwaway acc, hope I am using the correct subreddit.

Recently everything seems to be going fine but I just don't feel happy with my life for some reason. It doesn't feel like there's much reason to it all. Everything I seek out to do, everything I try to enjoy, as soon as I try to share it with one of my friends saying "hey i can finally do something!!" they make it sound like anybody can do that and they've also been doing that exact thing every day for the last year.

Like... I love the stuff that's been going on recently. I got a new pc, got a cat, and sure, they do make me a lot happier, but there's still just a void that just doesn't seem to be getting any better no matter what I try.

I just want to be able to feel happy while living my life but I keep getting farther and farther off that goal every day. I don't know what to do anymore so I figured... Why not type something up here and see if there's anything that could help. Thanks for reading.