I am 25 years old was taking T for 2 years and 7 month I stopped like a month ago. I’m living abroad now which haven’t able to go to the gyno.

Been wondering when will my period be back, and if my estrogen levels will get back up again like pre T on its own and fast or I need medication for that.

What was your experience?

I'm posting this here due to pregnant FTM content and don't feel like dealing with the transphobia of the general AIO subreddit.

I am in my 30s, am a visible trans guy, live in CA, and am 18 weeks pregnant. My husband's parents live near Houston and they really want me to come visit them for the holidays. I just... don't want to! And I told them so. I tried to talk to them about the 10k bounty on trans people, but they said that happened in Odessa but Houston is liberal. Also, I don't plan on having an abortion or anything, but what if something happens health-wise while there and I need to go to the hospital? I don't want to die because they refused to perform a medically necessary abortion. Pregnancy related deaths rose by 56% in Texas after the abortion ban. His parents just say that I'll get the care I need if I just advocate for myself. What do you guys think?

My daughter will be 18 months old when my son is born next year.

She’s very independent and ahead with her milestones (already walking well and starting to talk more at 12 months). Buuuut she also hates sharing attention. Like, a lot.

She’s very sweet most of the time but sometimes she gets too excited and hits or bites things (the cats or her slightly younger cousin, neither of which seem to mind very much but I still don’t want to encourage the behavior).

Anyone else with a similar age gap for their kids? What was it like? Am I just overthinking things?

I don’t even know how to properly introduce them. She’s not quite old enough to understand she won’t be an only child for much longer. I feel bad because I don’t want to spring a new baby on her all of a sudden.

Hi guys! I’m 34y/o and almost 6 years on T. I’ve known for most of my life that I want kids, but I couldn’t freeze my eggs before starting T because I was on crappy graduate student insurance and couldn’t afford out of pocket either.

I’m now in a much better place financially, and cognizant of the fact that I am old enough that if I’m not getting pregnant within the next year or two, I really need to get some eggs harvested ASAP (I technically could have kids now-ish but I’d be more comfortable if I waited a few years longer to have more money saved and get a little more solidly established in my career).

Before I got on T, however, my cycle came with pretty awful mood swings and my mental health would tank basically every time I had PMS. The first year or two on T was kinda rough too, but since then I’ve felt so much more emotionally stable, and a couple years ago i was even able to taper off the antidepressants that I’d been taking since I was a teenager. So I’m really worried about messing around with my brain chemistry again by going off T, taking a mega-dose of estrogen and whatever other hormones are needed for egg-harvest, and then getting back onto T all in the span of a couple months.

And even if I get through the egg-harvesting cycle, I’m nervous about my mental health while pregnant- partly because there’s some inherent social discomfort to being pregnant as a man, but mostly because I’m worried that it’s going to be 9 months straight of crying-for-no-reason estrogen-brain (plus whatever postpartum depression follows) AND THEN the readjustment phase of wanting-to-punch-things-for-no-reason early testosterone-brain.

I’d love to hear the experience of people who have been pregnant and/or done IVF after a few years on T and whether my fears are reasonable or if I’m over-catastrophizing.

Fair warning, this post requires a lot of context to get to the point- and I do use feminine-aligned words to refer to my chest in this post as that is what I am comfortable with. I'm a 22 y/o transmasc (nonbinary/genderfluid), started T in September of 2021. Was on depo-provera birth control for a year or two. Come July of this year, due to financial stuff, my wife (33 y/o transfemme) and I had to stop our horomones. She was on E (pills for most, then the shot for a few months) for 2-ish years. Also due to finances I had to stop my BC in August. Wife and I recently (since moving across the country to live with family and getting a steady income job) decided we want to start a family, have at least 2 kids. So, we've been trying. As one does. Recently, I've been having a lot of symptoms. Nausea, food cravings/aversions, breast swelling/tenderness (to the point my breasts are significantly larger & heavier/denser than pre-T me), tiredness, frequent urination, etc. I've always had a rather inconsistent period, my last one lasting from Sept 8th-29th (yes, I am only counting the days i was properly bleeding- my periods are just that long). I've been trying to use period tracking apps, & according to two different ones i have- both say I'm about 2 weeks past due on a period. I have been trying several different pee on a stick/in a cup tests for the last month, one had the faintest positive line, but all since then haven't worked at all, or were negative. I'm wondering if it's maybe too early still, or if my horomones are just so whack that pee tests don't work for me. I want to get a blood test done, but need to wait for wife's first paycheck. Has anyone out there had a similar experience or am I just weird? Any advice/information at all would be appreciated- loosing my marbles a little bit here waiting for any solid confirmation that I'm actually pregnant and not crazy.

I delivered my second son on the 31st of October. :) he's a healthy baby boy, weighting 4 kilograms at birth. he joined his older 1,5 yo brother

to everyone struggling now - remember, everything's going to be good

cheers from me and my precious Halloween baby boy 👻

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I'm 21, getting my birth control removed next week and then ttc. Not on T or anything yet, so part of me is worried about the dysphoria that will possibly come with it.

I guess I am coming here for advice from those of you who have done this, since having a community seems so invaluable. Anything you would have done differently? Anything to remember throughout this? Any bits of wisdom?

I feel like this is a commonly asked question, but I haven’t seen much info on it so I will ask here. So, I’m planning how my transition will go and one thing I’m thinking of is raising kids. I’m not super dysphoric about pregnancy, so I’m not opposed to having biological kids in the future. However, I’m more concerned about the health of the children as a result of HRT. I know that you have to get off of T for a while, but my concern is more if the pregnancy is still safe even after my regular cycle is back. While I’ve seen many examples of kids who turned out just fine, I wonder if there is a study that tracks biological children of trans men, especially long term.

I’m 34 and nearing the age of dwindling fertility. In the last month especially I’ve been thinking about if I want to ttc another child now before my chances lower and before I have a hysto (likely in the next couple years). I’m curious what other folks pregnancy experiences were like around my age. My other pregnancy was in my late teens and felt easy breezy but I suspect that had a lot to do with my youth. Now I’m an old man with creaky joints and sore knees lol. Thanks to all willing to share their experience :)

I’m 36 weeks pregnant. Just had my 36 week ultrasound today and finally got to see our little boy on the 3D ultrasound for our growth scan!

Currently he’s measuring 37 weeks and 4 days at 6.9 pounds and he’s looking like a chonky boy. Doctor said we could be looking to do an induction in 3 weeks cause of his size and I couldn’t be more excited. He’s head down, but hasn’t dropped. I do feel amazing physically though and some days still don’t even feel pregnant.

I’m almost done with this journey and have loved sharing my experiences with all of you!

Hello, I am a 17 year old trans man and I want to start a transition and I would like to have an egg retrieval in order to transfer them to my wife in the future but my endocrinologist tells me that it is too early and that follicular maturation is probably not done, is this true and is this risky? Can I do the puncture through the stomach and are there any clinics that do it, if so which ones? And is it a better idea to do it before because I tell myself that the test could damage my eggs etc..

Hi,

I'm looking for a gender neutral app to track pregnancy in the UK. One that will tell me what fruit the baby is and stuff without misgendering me too much 😅 I've seen other people mention Clue, is that available in the UK?

We're also looking for a book in the vein of "what to expect when you're expecting" - only I've heard that book specifically is now considered outdated. But a book covering all the fun lil surprises I might not be aware of in pregnancy.

For those who saw my previous posts, today has gone much better than previous weeks 😊 Had an appointment with Fertility Clinic today.

Next step is being matched to a donor! We've given them our wishlist and they'll email us some options to peruse. Then once we're matched, I need to call them on the first day of my next cycle, they do a scan of day 12 of the cycle, and depending on the results of that scan, if they like what they see, we MIGHT be able to give it a go in November!

Alternatively we might need to wait until December and have a medicated cycle.

They've told me to start eating (& drinking)(or not) as if I'm pregnant now, to get into the habit - avoiding caffeine, alcohol, oily fish, switching my vitamins to pregnancy Vitamins, taking folic acid, etc - so it feels very real and close now. We're almost started!!

So I have tried my best to be on good terms with everyone around me. It has been a genuinely mentally challenging pregnancy thus far but I just feel like it’s getting worse. My mom has been my biggest enemy and ally throughout this. My mom and I have gotten into an argument about me being a failure just because of my pregnancy. I tried to push that aside and forgive her. Everything was fine until today. I haven’t said anything to her since it’s the morning and she seemed in a bad mood already. She later on got mad at me for not letting her touch my stomach the night before just cause I wasn’t feeling comfortable. She said it hurt her feelings and how I basically hate her because I wouldn’t let her. She then proceeds to say I take out all my anger on my family. Which is not true because I am super close to everyone in my family except her. For some reason she always resented me and I try to get along with her as best as I can. But I feel like she does this on purpose to almost see me suffer which I just wish we had a normal parent child relationship.

So me and my partner we want kids. It's still really early but I can't stop thinking about it and I really would like some help.

My partner (trans man) he has problems with he's periods but he really wants kids. He's taking the meds and stuff but sometimes it's still a problem. Adoption is also really hard and expensive for us here. and having someone carry our baby is also hard but it still means he'll have to keep he's eggs. I'm not that informed on this and Google is not helping.

For the life of me I can't find straightforward answers on Google so now I'm here. I really would appreciate your help.

Hi everyone,

I'm just curious about what the process looked like for anyone who was already on Testosterone and then came off to conceive.

How long did you have to come off T before getting pregnant? Did you take any fertility meds? How long after birthing did you start T again (if not chest feeding)?

I know I won't be able to chest feed due to having DI top surgery many years ago so I'm curious about what the process looked like for anyone in a similar position!

Hi all, I'm 20 (ftm of course) and I recently had a one-night stand and now I'm pregnant. I'm not sure what to do, sure I want a family but I didn't think having biological children was gonna be how. I'm scared that I'm pregnant. I haven't decided if I want to keep it or not but, miscarrying or terminating sounds so heartbreaking now that I know I have a mini-me growing. On the other hand, I know pregnancy will destroy my mental health. I haven't told anyone yet and I'm just so scared of the future. I guess I'm just asking for some advice or reassurance.

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Hi everyone! I’ve been off of T for a little over a month in preparation for TTC. I still feel sure that this is what I want, but I’m finding the transition super rough (emotionally, and in terms of fatigue/skin changes/other things that react to dramatic hormonal shifts). Anyone else have a tough time coming off of T? What, if anything, helped?

Never imagined I would get sooo big having big baby & carrying a lot of fluid too. Feel so self conscious when I go out as its pretty obvious iam not just a guy with a beer belly. My other problem is almost nothing fits and my skin is so stretched and ichy can just about get into my dungarees but when at home usually just wear a dressing robe & have the heating on. Oh did I say have ugly popped belly button linra nigra & stretch marks leaking nipples....rant over!! PS my midwife recommended actual maternity " over the bump" panties" they are huge & gross but they DO support my belly

hello

i’m 18 and i’m not pregnant nor do i plan to be until the future when i’m around my 30’s, but i’m wondering- how do you seahorse dads deal with people who might be mean to your kid because you are trans? i also have a boyfriend so how do treat your kid when they tell other people that they are from two gay dads and one of them is trans? just wanting to hear your guys experience and if any parents had directly reached out to you because of your identity

I miss my son and his sweet sour milk breath, His stinky little toes and his amazing little giggle. I miss hearing him call me dada I miss holding his little hands while he walks around the house. I miss our nightly snuggles and how he’d snore. I miss this all so much I hope to do it again soon. Life takes many twists and turns but I regret none that lead to my experiences with my beautiful baby boy I hope he never forgets me.

Hi!! So unfortunately I’ve gotten such mixed information about this and I’m so grateful to find this wonderful subreddit!

Basically, I’m about to start t any day now (once my anxiety is better about beginning lol). 12.5 mg of gel (1%) once a day, and I’m also on hormonal BC. However, there is a chance in the future that I’d love to have a bio child, and I’m worried about my eggs.

I’m already 30– and now about to start t. My own mom had me later in life (38) but I know the chances are less and less likely. Should I postpone my t to get my eggs harvested asap? Or would it be okay to take my t, and then stop when I would begin that process. I’m finishing up a terminal degree rn, and wouldn’t be able to have kids until that is settled so— 33-35 would probably be my ideal timeline.

I ultimately decided to keep this post up but remove the content because I was in a bit of an emotional/vulnerable moment when I posted it. It's better to keep these things private.... HOWEVER, the two comments below are fantastic, and there are likely others like me who have struggled with this. So I will the post up with the tldr but remove the sensitive content.

Thanks for understanding!

Tldr: had debilitating periods until lates teens then stopped getting periods all together. Diagnosed with pcos but have no idea how to proceed with determining my ability to have kids before going through with phallo.

Little baby H was born on Friday after a very stressful week in hospital. Currently recovering from a c section and adjusting to fatherhood. It's crazy scary but exciting too. I need some name ideas for him and maybe some advice on sleeping if anyone has any, he just wants to be held all night and I can't do that because until I move into my new flat next week I have a single bed and that isn't safe to cosleep in. He just won't sleep. I'm trying swaddling tonight to see if that helps.

Hey yall. I'm 20, not pregnant or expecting, I've been on T almost 2 years now and also have birth control.

Me and my cis boyfriend want a kid in the future, but obviously we do sex things and I can get overwhelming worried about getting/being pregnant unknowingly. I take pregnancy tests almost every week because I worry so much. I know the chances are low to zero, it's not fully rational.

I've decided that if any of those tests are ever positive I'd keep it but since I'm still on hrt and obviously we aren't trying, its still anxiety inducing. Especially since hrt is harmful to a fetus. Can anyone here tell me about your surprise babies when you were still on t? I guess I'm just asking to help myself.

Thank you anyone who replies with their experiences :)

This is technically an update to my previous post, although it's also kind of more of the same tbh

This week's appointment went very similar to last week, with the same basic message, although this clinician was able to frame it in a softer/less negative manner - but same basic message

NHS has 98% likelihood turned me down for top surgery because we want to have kids

Now, obviously I knew I couldn't be operated on if I was actively pregnant, but I didn't know that if I get to the top of the individual surgeons waitlist and was pregnant, they'd kick me off and I'd have to start over again (the waitlist I was on previously was just to discuss getting referred for top surgery, there's more waiting after that)

• Never mind that most surgeons wait lists are long enough to get pregnant, gestate, and give birth
• Never mind that we don't even 100% know if I can get pregnant, I have higher than average odds of not being able to due to medical history
• Never mind that the NHS won't pay for me to use a surrogate so that I don't have to do it
• Never that mind that I lost all this weight that I didn't particularly want to lose in order to qualify for top surgery

This clinician also actually acknowledged the delays the gender clinic has caused me. They aren't able to change anything though.

They want us to speak to the fertility clinic and get a timeline, although I don't particularly see how that will help, they can give us a timeline for starting but not necessarily for successfully finishing

And they're also going to speak to the surgeons to see what thier policies are for pregnancy on the waiting list before they offically decide

But it seems like a forgone conclusion to me

I'm so frustrated and upset, although after last week at least it came as less of shock

I don't want to be a mother, I want to be a seahorse dad, but I haven't had T and I haven't had top surgery

Once I'm pregnant at a certain point I'll have to stop binding (if nothing else, bump will break the binder) and I won't be able to play ot off as a beer belly

And I feel like an idiot for trusting them (the gender clinic) with actual information about my life

Anyway

We got an appointment on Monday to discuss paperwork & implications counselling so hopefully we can get a fertility timeline then

I’m 16 so I have to live at home, my parents don’t accept me and I’m worried they are going to call me mama, I’m okay with it but I just don’t want to confuse the kid because my boyfriend is going to call me dad and so are my friends

Side note I don’t actually know if I’m pregnant and my parents don’t know I think I’m pregnant but my period is 8 days late and I’m nauseous as hell and I constantly have to pee, I’m getting a pregnancy tests Friday from a friend and tell them then (if I am pregnant I’m five weeks!)

So i’m currently 5ish months pregnant, 18 y/o and it’s definitely been hard on me emotionally. The whole becoming pregnant was not planned but i chose to stick with it and keep my baby. I have no emotional relationship with the father but he kinda pushes it on me but that’s a whole other thing. Going through this has been super challenging especially with my dysphoria, like i’ve struggle to even go out just because of how embarrassed I feel. One thing I am really fearing is to breastfeed just because I genuinely do not feel comfortable doing it, but my mom has been pushing it on me saying that it could mess with the baby’s development if I don’t do it. So that feels like one of the biggest hurdles for me. I also lost all of my friends, which I get we’re young who wants to be around someone with a child this early. But it would be nice to have outside support other than family. I really have grown close to family because of this but I really just want to relate to someone and be able to get advice and not be judged for asking questions.

Title. Is there any updates with ivg, chances of human testing and such?