Hi everyone!! I am a 33F looking for new friends. I am a new mom of a beatiful baby boy and I spend my time working or home with the baby. I like to play videogame, reading romantic books and watching TV shows. I am looking for someone I can talk about anything, on almost daily basis, someone I can built a friendship with! I really hope to meet you all!

P.S. english is not my first language so sorry if my wording does not make sense!

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Hello everyone,

It seems that since I last was here, this place has added a nice amount of people into this subreddit. I haven't been really active on Reddit as much, but I feel like I might be opening it more often again.

I remember being invited here at the beginning of the year and thinking it was an amazing idea to create something that does feel safe for its users to just actually just talk and not necessarily keep wondering whether someone has any ill-will or not, so growing this community would really be awesome, and I hope that happens a lot more as time passes by.

I'm posting this just as a way to say hi to everyone who is either new or old to this subreddit, and I'm hoping to talk to some awesome people!!

Have some lovely holiday times, and hoping to hear from the people more!

Hey everyone,

Firstly, I'd like to start with an apology. I haven't been as active here as I'd like, and unfortunately I'm quite backed up in join requests at the moment. This past year has been particularly rough on my mental health, and between that and constantly seeing the worst of these subs (I made it my business to seek it out after all), at some point, I burned out pretty hard from my responsibilities here on Reddit. I'm trying to ease back into things, and I promise I'll get through all the pending requests soon, and be more active on the other subs I moderate.

That being said, expect to see some new members trickling into here in the coming days. I hope to see more steady growth for this community moving forward, and I encourage our older members to post again and connect with newcomers.

As always, please don't hesitate to reach out to me with any comments, questions, or concerns. I look forward to continuing this journey to make this the safest friendship community on Reddit with each and every one of you!

-- expose

I mean, we might not but wouldn’t that be awesome?

(Read bolded text for a summarized version, I'm sorry this is so long and I hope I don't get in trouble for that!)

After coming back from an almost month long vacation in Europe… I’m finally able to post… I'm in 11th grade from Canada, and I'm looking for some cool friends who will be actively interested in my interests just as I am in yours! (I simply cannot seem to find anyone who actually shares interests with me). Also, no matter how long its been since I posted this, I still want friends (I'll indicate if my age has changed).

Important information: I'd prefer to be friends with people aged 13 - 17, But if you're older it's fine as long as we have common interests and/or I feel comfortable. My timezone is EST (I personally don't mind if our conversations cannot happen live aka turns into a penpal situation)! I do want to voice call at a point (You don't have to, but I'm just saying that I would love if we could because it makes for good social interaction). I most likely will not give you my image because I don't feel comfortable with that. English is my first language, with French and Sinhalese both kind of my second languages (not sure which I'm worst at, probably French). I’m also trying to learn German (though I haven’t been able to make much progress for awhile)

Preferred method of communication: First Reddit (we get to know each other a bit here), and then Discord.

My interests: please read at least the bolded text (but preferably everything ahaha-)

• Firstly I have to say I am deeply obsessed with the anime Hetalia, so if you're Hetalian and also have other interests shared with me, PLEASE comment below!
• I love learning about history & culture, languages and travelling. I'm not a professional, but I would love to talk about cool things we learn and see! So far I’ve been to multiple states in the US, England, Sri Lanka, France, Germany, Luxembourg, Belgium and The Netherlands.
• I have a weird obsession with all things military-related. I have no blood relation to the military but I just think it's interesting and I respect our armed forces. I'm not an expert though- I don't know how everything works. It's also to do with my previous point and next point. (If you have something to do with the military whether it be family history or your own interest, I would love to learn from you!)
• I love to collect antiques (mostly paper items/ephemera, especially postcards but also photos). My collection of postcards is huge, Honestly, I probably have well over 1000 at this point and my latest goal is to try and re-organize them all chronologically. My oldest postcard is from September of 1900, but I think I have some photos that are even older. The postcards I most like to find are postcards from soldiers, and I've got quite a few WW1 postcards, along with some WW2 postcards (all sent from basic anyway, but I really want stuff from the field post!). If you have any questions about the stuff I have, please ask because nobody else does but I like to talk about them :'). And questions about other antiques I have!
• I love to play Roblox. I mostly like playing horror/weird games, building games and survival/warfare games, but I can try whatever you like too, we can play together! (I love Bloxburg and The Mimic)
• I love architecture and I want to be an architect/interior designer. I'm very much a "tech" student at my school! I can use AutoCAD, photoshop, editing software and the machines you'd find in a construction shop (I took technological design, communications and construction in highschool so far)
• I love drawing, sewing, writing and making music. I'm only good at sketching, but I'm trying to paint as well (my latest painting is of a Canadian battleship in war, currently in the midst of painting a U-boat). I like to sew stuffed toys mostly. Writing is a passion I used to do when I had more time, hopefully I’ll feel inspired to start again soon (I only really write Romance because that's the easiest, but I want to read your stories too!). I play the ukulele and guitar, but not a pro at either (still trying to get the grasp of guitar), and I also like to write songs, so perhaps we could write one together!
• I like to learn languages, and I'm currently trying to learn French and German. If you speak either language, or another language, I would love to learn from you!
• I'm very patriotic, but not a nationalistic way. I love Canada a lot, so if you're Canadian, I probably love you. That being said- I love the world, so whatever country you are in or you're from/tied to, I most likely love that country too!

Why you MIGHT not like me: So nobody is disappointed...

• I don't play videogames much, other than Roblox. I play the Sims and Minecraft occasionally, but mostly only alone. That doesn't mean I don't want to hear about your games, especially if you're really passionate about it and like talking about it (and I love to hear about those realistic war games with cool storylines! And also indie/dystopian horror games!!)
• I don't really like nor play sports (but I do appreciate Hockey, Curling, Lacrosse and other winter sports).
• I'm not an avid movie or tv show watcher. In other words, I rarely watch new movies, and I don't really watch tv shows at all (I don't have Netflix or Disney+). That being said, my favourite movies are Coraline, Pan's Labyrinth, Un Monstre à Paris, The Maze Runner, The Nun, Tangled, Avatar and the Narnia movies. I also love the OG barbie movies because yes.
• I can get busy sometimes. I do like to talk a lot, but sometimes I get tired because of school, so I may have to stop talking for a few days, maybe even a week if I have a big test/project, but of course i'd let you know if I have to go. I’ll try not to let that happen though! If we’ve been talking for awhile, just know I’m a no-ghoster. I’m not going to give anyone the trauma of being friends with someone for a long time only for them to dissapear.

Anyways- if you're still sticking around, wow, I hope you can submit this for your reading assignment instead. Please comment with your age at least, and tell me what you think of anything in my post, interests we share, or things about yourself! (Also mods, would this post count as one of the "...longer, particularly high-effort posts" listed in the rules?)

We’ll be having another movie night at 18:00GMT/13:00PST/19:00CET on discord.

We’re currently in the process of voting for which movie we’d all like to watch this time so if you let us know that you’d like to join us before the day you can also vote to choose.

We’re picking from these movies;

Joker (2019)

Pan’s Labyrinth (2006)

The Great Gatsby (2013)

Sonic the Hedgehog (2020)

We’re happy to have anyone that wants to join as we don’t have any age biases as long as you are 14+ and abide by the usual rules of conduct. The majority of our group members are 18-35 so it is preferable if you are similar ages to us however we do have younger and older members so if you are not it also isn’t an issue.

There will be a discussion through text throughout the movie as voice chat can get a bit distracting.

Group size so far is about 6 people but more people are welcome to join.

Comment below if you would like to join us and also if you’d like any additional information about the event.

I'm really into all kinds of storytelling: movies, TV shows, video games, books, history, etc. If it has any kind of narrative I am extremely interested and excited to explore it. I write stories, thrillers mostly, that is easily my favorite genre across-the-board. I listen to all kinds of music because I create playlists for the tone and atmosphere of my writing projects. So there is a huge range of things I find interesting and would be excited to learn about with or from you.

Here's a list of some of my favorite stories: Coraline, The Lord of the Rings, Knives Out, Jin-Roh: The Wolf Brigade, Ghost in the Shell, Studio Ghibli, Shadow of the Colossus, Star Wars, The Twilight Zone, every South Korean thriller I've ever seen, The Adventures of Tinin, Avatar: The Last Airbender

We’ll be having a movie night at 18:00GMT/13:00PST/19:00CET on discord.

We’re currently in the process of voting for which movie we’d all like to watch so if you let us know that you’d like to join us before the 5th of March you can also vote to choose.

We’re picking from these three movies;

Princess Bride (1987)

Spirited Away (2001)

Death Becomes Her (1992)

At the moment, it looks like we’re leaning more towards Spirited Away.

We’re happy to have anyone that wants to join as we don’t have any age biases as long as you are 12+ and abide by the usual rules of conduct.

There will be a discussion through text throughout the movie as voice chat can get a bit distracting.

Group size so far is about 5 people but more people are welcome to join.

Comment below if you would like to join us and also if you’d like any additional information about the event.

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Hello there everyone! I've been checking in on this subreddit every couple of days since the very beginning and I only get happier every time I see the number of people increasing. It means our wonderful mods are finding others that must be interesting and great.

Now of course, that doesn't mean we're all gonna become automatically friends out of nowhere, it's a process and I'm definitely biding my time here and hoping to see what others are about on here.

And I suppose this is part of why I was curious about posting this right now and I would love to hear answers from anyone who is willing to talk.

I'm genuinely curious to know what you're looking for when you open Reddit. What makes you feel like Reddit is an app worth having? And even more on that, I could add and state this question on a deeper level. No one would probably want to get that deep yet, but what are you also looking for in life in general?

I guess this is my way of of trying to find out about you wonderful people here and see how those brains work. Also, maybe others would find what you write interesting and would want to talk to you as well.

If you can't tell already, I'm a detailed person, so please feel free to be detailed as well if you are able to.

Hope you all have the day you deserve today!

I’m one of the first in dis sub but I haven’t posted yet I was waiting till there was a little bit more people. I’m hoping to make friends around my age 16-19 and with similar interests too. I’m a big hammer, I’ve played skyrim inquisition rdr2 HZD and a bunch of others. I AM A DIE HARD STAR WARS AND KNAYE FAN AND WILL LOVE YOU IF YOU LIKE THEM TOO 😂. Other then that I love cooking and I’m vegan so I like to invent new meals that I can eat. I also do 2 sports vball and track and love to run. I love playing with my dogs and volunteering at my city’s animals shelter. Pls start the convos in the comments pls!

Welcome newcomers to the sub! I'm a 21 year old college student hoping to make some friends! I enjoy hiking, have done a little photography, and am looking for people to talk to on a somewhat regular basis. I don't have to text with you 5x a day or something crazy, but saying hi every few days, along with a good conversation now and then sounds good to me. So kind of a casual / long-term chat buddy is ideal, if that makes sense.

If you're interested, comment here as per the sub's rules, and we'll start the convo here. Also, try and get certified! Safe means safe after all, right?

Apologies for possibly breaking one of the rules, but I will literally have a headache trying to right same thing but with different words

Hello! My Name is Alex. I wanna keep trying to find new friends to hang out with and hopefully surround myself with people who can encourage me to draw and whom I can encourage back. And some other people to maybe VC with during video games. And maybe even friends to watch movies with someday!

Stuff About Me:

Introverted

From: United States, TN

Timezone: Central Standard Time

Available on the most: Discord, Instagram, Telegram

Also Available on: Snapchat, Messenger, WhatsApp, and Pinterest, Tumbler, Steam, and Xbox (I have an account to play Minecraft on, but no console), I doubt anyone really uses some of these as social media, but the option is there.

Favorite Hobbies: Drawing, Sketching, Watching Movies (usually animated), some reading, playing videogames (I don't play alot of shooters :p ), watching YouTube ALOT, and hours of day dreaming and thinking up lore

Some games I have: Portal 2, VR Chat, Left 4 Dead 2, Dead by Daylight, Rec Room, The Isle, Don't Starve Together, GMod, Minecraft Bedrock and Java

Interests: Mythology, Paleontology, Nature and Space stuff

I hope u all have a wonderful rest of the weekend 😊

There's 28 approved users so far (yay!) but 50 (🤯) people have joined the sub . . . 👀 How about you guys check out this post to learn how you can get approved yourself! We'd love to have you aboard! Please remember that it is against subreddit rules to reach out to our users without commenting, and to do that, you have to first become an approved user!

As for our existing approved and certified members, let's make some more posts on here to liven the place up a bit pretty please? 😊 In the meantime . . . idk, comment some of your favorite songs below or something!

Hey everyone, I’m a 21 year old woman from the Midwestern US and I’m hoping I can meet some cool, interesting (and safe) people on here.

I love music and literature, and I’m happy to trade recommendations on books or albums if our tastes click. I’m especially into hip hop and experimental stuff (very generally ) but I love anything that’s different.

I also love history and art and taking walks in old cemeteries. Although there’s also a side of me with a very obscure and goofy IG meme page. So if you wanna talk about artsy stuff and/or just share memes and chat, I’d love to get to know some people!

Edit: 21 now! and 9 certified! Remember to certify (check the other pinned post) if you haven't yet!

It's so great to have you all with us! I'm so excited for the future of this community, and I hope you are too. Make a post (remember to certify yourselves first!) and introduce yourselves when you get a chance if you haven't already! If you run into any issues, or have any suggestions for improvement, please don't hesitate to reach out to me.

If anyone who I reached out to via Chat is reading this and hasn't been added as an approved member yet, please send us a Modmail, and I'll get you set up.

Anyone else reading this who wishes to join us, please follow the instruction on this wiki page.

Thanks everyone! I appreciate you all!

If everything was done right, I should be getting an automod comment on this post with two report links built into it!

Edit: IT WORKS!

More details:

I just added a sidebar widget with report buttons so people can use it to report to modmail instead of pressing the report button on posts/comments. It works great on desktop, and kinda OK on the official reddit app (you can see it in the about tab of the subreddit), but a lot of 3rd party mobile apps don't support it, and it's still not the easiest thing to use on the official reddit app.

SOOO now I've edited the automod comment to prominently display two links, one to report the post itself, and one to report a comment.

What's special about these links (and to a degree, the sidebar links), is that they automatically populate the Modmail with a report form that guides user on everything they need to enter. Additionally, the links below (unlike in the sidebar) ALSO automatically fill in details like a link to the post being reported, and a link to the author of the post! This makes it super easy for moderators to investigate reports and act quickly.

Feel free to use this space to give me your thoughts on the new features (both the automod report buttons, and the new sidebar report buttons), as well as your thoughts on the automod comment in general.

Love y'all <3

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Hello! My Name is Alex. I wanna keep trying to find new friends to hang out with and hopefully surround myself with people who can encourage me to draw and whom I can encourage back. And some other people to maybe VC with during video games. And maybe even friends to watch movies with someday!

Stuff About Me:

Introverted

From: United States, TN

Timezone: Central Standard Time

[My Phone Broke And Now I Have Too Borrow My Mom’s Phone, So I Can’t Communicate Outside Of My Home and Can’t Log Back Into Curtain Apps]

Available on the most: Discord, Instagram, Telegram

Also Available on: Snapchat, Messenger, WhatsApp, and Pinterest, Tumbler, Steam, and Xbox (I have an account to play Minecraft on, but no console), I doubt anyone really uses these as social media, but the option is there.

Favorite Hobbies: Drawing, Sketching, Watching Movies (usually animated), some reading, playing videogames (I don't play alot of shooters :p ), watching YouTube ALOT, and hours of day dreaming and thinking up lore

Some games I have: Portal 2, VR Chat, Left 4 Dead 2, Dead by Daylight, Rec Room, The Isle, Don't Starve Together, GMod, Minecraft Bedrock and Java

Interests: Mythology, Paleontology, Nature and Space stuff

I hope u all have a wonderful rest of the day ☺️

What is /r/SafeFriends?

This community was built to provide a safe place for those who have proven themselves to be outstanding, long-term users of Reddit to meet each other and build friendships. Unlike existing public friendship-oriented communities here on Reddit, we take a safety-first approach to prevent repeated harassment and ensure all members are certain of who they're interacting with.

Why are the requirements to join so restrictive?

Our community is intended for users who primarily (and actively) use a single account, and plan to continue using that account in the long-term. It is not for those who frequently make new accounts or cycle through alts. Other members should be able to rely on your account to be a fair and honest representation of who you are. The requirements to join were intentionally set high to reflect that. We realize that there are many who may fall short of these requirements, despite being the type of user we're looking for, so exceptions can and will be made frequently, based on a review of the user and their history on Reddit. So, if you think you'd be a good fit for our community, please send us a request to join!

We do understand that there are those of you who frequently make new accounts or cycle through alts for various reasons who are legitimately searching for friends. /r/SafeFriends may not be the right fit for you, but there are already over a dozen well-established public communities (as well as likely hundreds of smaller ones) on Reddit for making friends, and we recommend you check them out. The creator of /r/SafeFriends is also a moderator on /r/MakeNewFriendsHere and /r/Friendship and personally vouches for both, as well as their respective moderation teams. Please keep in mind if you do decide to participate in any community, to read all of their rules carefully before doing so.

Why are the rules so strict?

/r/SafeFriends, above all else, prioritizes the safety of our members and promoting high-quality engagement. Unfortunately, the tools and systems that Reddit has in place are ill-suited for limiting unwanted interactions. This problem is experienced quite readily in the numerous public friendship communities. The strict policies we have here all aim to remedy that as much as possible. We realize that they're not always the most convenient, but better security always comes at the cost of convenience.

For instance, even banning a user from a community does not stop that user from being able to view it. It only prevents them from posting and commenting directly on it. By requiring that interactions to begin in the comments, our members can be certain that the people they're interacting with are approved members of this community (an assurance that public communities can't make).

We take each and every one of our rules very seriously, and expect not only that every member follows them, but that all violations are promptly reported with evidence via Modmail. It's only with the help of every community member that we can continue to be the safest friend-making community on Reddit!

Why are "DM me" comments not allowed and why should commenters initiate private contact first (after first commenting)?

Reddit places a limit on the number of new chat requests you can make per day. This limit is very small for new users and grows over time. Claims of chat being "broken" or asking users to send a chat request first is often a sign that a user has met their daily chat request limit. As new accounts are not permitted in this community, this will often mean the user sent out a large number of chat requests recently. This often happens when a user goes through a subreddit and rapidly sends multiple low-effort chats to, for example, every young woman they see posting, without first reading the posts. This policy is here to combat such behavior.

What do all these flairs mean?

Our "Certified" system ensures that users have read the rules before participating in our community. You must be a "Certified" user in order to post or comment. This provides an additional layer of assurance for our community and shows that not only was the user approved for our community via moderator review of their profile, but that they also understand what's expected of them here.

Users tagged "18+" may have some sexually explicit or suggestive content on their profile in limited amounts, as accounts that are primarily or solely used for sexually explicit or suggestive content are not allowed. However, these accounts are still held accountable to all other community rules, and such content may never be posted here. Minors are advised to not visit profiles marked "18+".

More to be added as I think of it . . .

Questions to add:

• Why restricted?

I think I've finally got Automod configured in a way that I feel comfortable launching this community with. There are still more rules to add, but are not critical, and I can add them afterwards. I expect to launch in the coming hours.

I've made some changes to the rules for added clarity. I suggest you look over them quickly so you're aware of the changes. Everyone who has already gone through the approval process will remain approved, so no need to worry about that. For the earliest users who were here when I originally set up the approval system, note that approving yourself from within your post is no longer an option. All approvals are now done in the approval thread, prior to being able to post or comment.

Please remember that once we launch, the subreddit will be transitioned to a restricted community. This means all posts and comments will be visible to anyone on reddit (though posting and commenting will still be limited to community members who are approved). This also means all rules will be strictly enforced following the transition, so please keep that in mind for any further activity on this subreddit.

This post is stickied for now, but once we launch, I'll be replacing this with a short FAQ (with more to be added later). Please check it out when you get a chance!

Thanks for helping test out the systems as I built them, and I hope everyone has a great time here!

Hey! Was invited to this sub so thought only fair to try it out, as the title says im 21 from Scotland, into more of the alt scene so anyone with interests in tattoos/piercings/paranormal! Also a light gamer (currently working on getting my PC set back up). Not fussed on gender/location, but prefer talking to people around the same age point so 18-25 please! Feel free to put a comment up and see if we click+want to move to chats. Thanks for reading 😌

Why does every word start with caps, do you ask? Well, It's a title and when you write titles, you just gotta go for it!

What is this weird niche reference all about? It's as tough to answer as finding the passwords of this subreddit is... Unless you know it, you won't get it. Okay, fine, I'm just an idiot thinking someone would watch the things I do.

I promise I'm not an idiot... Kinda... Am I?

Okay, seriously, this is just a test post. Everything you read before this was automated by a bot and in no shape or form represent the way I get when I'm feeling a bit crazy and just thinking of random things.

Thank you for your time and attention.

EDIT: Thank you so much for helping me test everything out. As we are transitioning to live, I'll now be retiring this post.

I'm glad you're here with us! I'm really excited to be doing this, and I'm looking forward to the day we launch officially. But for now, we are still very much in a testing phase. That being said, there are some key differences between how the sub is currently set up and how it's intended to be set up when we launch that you should be aware of. These are for testing purposes.

• The subreddit is currently set to Private. This is so that all activity while testing remains hidden from prying eyes. When we launch, the subreddit will be set to Restricted instead. While this will allow anyone on reddit to then view posts (which I hope will entice users to request join the subreddit), what will not change is that only approved members will be able post or comment. Users will continue to be added only after manual review of their account, at least until I can no longer keep up with join requests, and a better system is required. But be assured that any automated solutions I look into will only be implemented if I can ensure that it doesn't compromise the safety of our members.
• When the subreddit launches, user flairs will be used to enforce various policies. Naturally this means they'll be locked and unavailable for use by members. However, during this testing phase, I've unlocked them, so you can choose your own flair from the ones we've defined. This is so you can test how the different flairs affect functionality throughout the sub. Recommendation: Try posting first without giving yourself a flair. The flair system is now pretty much fully developed and tested. That being the case, I'll now be enforcing and locking down user flairs. If you're joining us for the first time, be careful (😉) and read all the rules!
• While in this testing phase, some rules (posting frequency and length limitations, spamming, and such) will not be strictly enforced. Feel free to be active, maybe interact with the other early access members here, and have a good time. I'll alert everyone as we get closer to an official launch and the rules become strictly enforced.

Please give me feedback on everything! What you like, what you don't like, and everything else in between. Every little detail matters to me!

#I HIGHLY recommend you carefully read (not skim) all the rules before doing anything else.

#And by "HIGHLY recommend", I mean do it 😊

I'll be adding more here later as stuff comes to mind. For now, I hope you enjoy your time here, and thanks for helping me build this community!

##Draft material for an FAQ and mission statement below:

What is /r/SafeFriends?

This community was built to provide a safe place for those who have proven themselves to be outstanding, long-term users of Reddit to meet each other and build friendships. Unlike existing public friendship-oriented communities here on Reddit, we take a safety-first approach to prevent repeated harassment and ensure all members are certain of who they're interacting with.

Why are the requirements to join so high?

Our community is intended for users who primarily (and actively) use a single account, and plan to continue doing so in the long-term. It is not for those who frequently make new accounts or cycle through alts. Other members should be able to rely on your account to be a fair and honest representation of who you are. The requirements to join were intentionally set high to reflect that. We realize that there are many who may fall short of these requirements, despite being the type of user we're looking for, so exceptions can and will be made frequently, based on a review of the user and their history on Reddit. So, if you think you'd be a good fit for our community, please send us a request to join!

We do understand that there are those of you who frequently make new accounts or cycle through alts for various reasons who are legitimately searching for friends. /r/SafeFriends may not be the right fit for you, but there are already over a dozen well-established public communities (as well as likely hundreds of smaller ones) on Reddit for making friends, and we recommend you check them out. The creator of /r/SafeFriends is also a moderator on /r/MakeNewFriendsHere and /r/Friendship and personally vouches for both, as well as their respective moderation teams. Please keep in mind if you do decide to participate in any community, to read all of their rules carefully before doing so.

Why are the rules so restrictive?

/r/SafeFriends, above all else, prioritizes the safety of our members and promoting high-quality engagement. Unfortunately, the tools and systems that Reddit has in place are ill-suited for limiting unwanted interactions. This problem can be seen quite readily in the numerous public friends communities. The strict policies we have here all aim to remedy that as much as possible. We realize that they're not always the most convenient, but better security always comes at the cost of convenience.

For instance, even banning a user from a community does not stop that user from being able to view the community. It only prevents them from posting and commenting directly on it. By requiring interactions to begin in the comments, our members can be sure that the people they're interacting with are approved members of this community (an assurance that public communities can't make).

We take each and every one of our rules very seriously, and expect not only that every member follows them, but that all violations are promptly reported with evidence via Modmail. It's only with the help of every community member that we can continue to be the safest friend-making community on Reddit!

Why are "DM me" comments not allowed and why should commenters initiate private contact first (after first commenting)?

Reddit places a limit on the number of new chat requests you can make per day. This limit is very small for new users and grows over time. Claims of chat being "broken" or asking users to send a chat request first is often a sign that a user has met their daily chat request limit. As new accounts are not permitted in this community, this will often mean the user sent out a large number of chat requests recently. This often happens when a user goes through a subreddit and rapidly sends multiple low-effort chats to, for example, every young woman they see posting, without first reading the posts. This policy is here to combat such behavior.

So this post is an attempt to make things work properly. I'm not quite sure how many characters I'm using, but I know I have to have enough.

One character is Elsa from Frozen. Olaf is also a character. Then, there are characters like Pam from the office. That's three characters, is that enough? Or does it mean something different? I get so confused!