Ever find yourself chatting with a stranger and wondering if there's more to explore, beyond just conversation? Sometimes, curiosity leads us to think about connecting on a deeper, more sensual level—without the constraints of societal norms. Personally, the chilly weather lately has me longing for someone open-minded, someone who understands that embracing desire doesn’t need to be taboo. I’m all for breaking away from the ordinary and finding those who are comfortable seeking more in a discreet, judgement-free space.

Let’s build a genuine connection where we can explore without hesitation, leaving expectations aside and letting the experience flow naturally. I’m looking for a fun, open-minded FWB who’s in tune with this kind of vibe.

A little about me: I’m a tech professional from the Bay Area, passionate about meeting interesting people, exploring new places, and diving into anything that piques my curiosity. I love hiking, traveling, being a coffee aficionado, and long drives. Not your typical “hunk,” but I know how to keep things smooth, light, and engaging—ready to help you step into this adventure.

Hey there! 5’10” 190lbs male who works out often! I’m looking for a female to explore kinks with and build a friendship and go out and do stuff together! Not looking for a one night stand looking to get to know one another and have fun together! Some of my hobbies are working out at the gym, going on hikes, trying new food places, cars (whether working on them or admiring lol) and of course trying new bars and breweries! Don’t be afraid to send me a message! Look forward to hearing from you!

So I have gone through this a few times. Both on this account and alt-accounts, and as most men can probably agree on, it’s a shit-show!

Many of us are here for the same reason, but the effort being put in varies a lot. As a guy, you are obviously not going to get many replies, while as a woman, you are getting inundated with replies.

My biggest gripe is that there are almost no effort being put into a reply. And when I write that I want to verify, it’s because Reddit, like most apps, are full of fake profiles and scammers. We all want to be discreet, and we should all feel safe, so why is it impossibly for 99% to agree to do this? It’s easy - take a picture of you holding a note with your Reddit username. You don’t have to show your face until you feel safe or meet in public.

Anyway - it’s increasingly frustrating trying to deal with anyone who replies. If you can’t/wont verify, I will assume you are a scammer or some kind of sex-bot who is needing a charge. I can only imagine the shit that you women have to go through with the amount of replies you get.

This is already way too long. If you have read this far and feel similar, are in the Bay Area, a woman and wanting to talk to a, somewhat, ruggedly handsome fellow from Europe. Someone who is healthy and happy, a damn good dad, quick wit and who can beat you in chess and settlers of catan, then please reach out.

Hey there! I just got my own apartment here in Palo Alto and would love to host a couple to help me break the place in. I’m happy to just watch and enjoy the show or join in on the fun. A bit about me, I’m a 28 year old white m with brown hair, blue eyes, athletic build and thick 7 in bwc. Let me know if you’re interested, would love to chat to see if we hit it off and am happy to share pics

Hi there! I’m Summer (a nickname), a 31-year-old woman looking for someone special to share meaningful connections, fun dates, and a life built on trust and affection. I’ll be moving to the Bay Area soon, but I won’t be there for a few weeks. In the meantime, I’d love to chat and get to know each other first. That said, I do have a life outside of Reddit, so I might take a bit to reply—but I promise I’m not ignoring you!

About Me

I’m a mix of sweet and spicy—a nurturing, affectionate partner with a playful, adventurous side. As a passionate foodie and music lover, I’m always on the hunt for the next incredible meal or live show. I love exploring new places, discovering hidden gems, and creating unforgettable memories.

What sets me apart is my thoughtfulness and care. I notice the little things that make life brighter, whether it’s surprising you with your favorite coffee, planning a date tailored just for you, or cooking your favorite meal from scratch. I bring comfort, fun, and warmth into a relationship, and I genuinely love making my partner feel valued and supported.

I also thrive in the dynamic of a 1950s-style relationship. I want to spoil my partner with thoughtful gestures—cooking your meals, tying your tie in the morning (after a quick lesson!), or offering massages when I just want to be close to you. In return, I want to feel safe, adored, and taken care of. While I enjoy working now, I eventually hope to transition into being a stay-at-home wife most of the time, focusing on building a loving and supportive home life.

I do have a preference for Asian men, but I’m open to anyone who connects with me. Just be someone who takes care of themselves and is on board with the kind of life I want to build. Also, to be clear—I do not want children, so we need to be on the same page about that.

If you value connection, affection, and building a beautiful life together, we might just be what the other is looking for.

Close your eyes for a second. Imagine us—sharing a mischievous grin across a candlelit table, your fingers tracing the rim of your glass as you try (and fail) to hide that smile. The kind of chemistry that turns heads. The kind of connection that makes strangers wonder, God, what’s their story?

I’m 26, 6 feet tall, living in San Francisco—but let’s be honest, the details that matter most aren’t just stats. I’m the kind of man who will tease you just to hear you laugh, who knows that stolen glances can be as electric as stolen kisses. I want to memorize the way you bite your lip when you're thinking, the way your breath hitches when I pull you closer. But more than that—I want something real. A love that’s both playful and deep, passionate and steady, built on trust, adventure, and a ridiculous number of inside jokes.

I’ll make you laugh until your stomach hurts. I’ll listen when you need to be heard, and when words aren’t enough, I’ll know exactly how to speak without them. I’m here for a woman who craves not just romance but partnership—something thrilling, something lasting.

But let’s be real—connection is best when it’s real. So, before we dive into late-night talks and stolen moments, let’s verify each other. No catfish, no games—just two people seeing if that spark is as undeniable as it feels.

Now, tell me… what’s the first thing you’d want us to do together? And don’t hold back—I like a woman with a little imagination. DM me.

Hi there! I’m looking for a cute local girl to have some fun with. A little about me. I’m a 28 yo asian guy. I’m decently tall at 6’1” and hwp. I'm in the SF area so hoping for someone decently close. In terms of sexual interests, I’m vanilla but looking to explore more kinks. I consider myself a dom so hoping for a sub. I’m pretty vocal during sex if ur into that. I’m pretty nerdy pop culture wise so can talk about anything there. Send me a chat if you are interested. Hope to hear from you!

Hey! 31 year old white guy living at Parkmerced. Open to any of the following:

A cuddle buddy. Doesn’t have to be sexual, we could just cuddle and make out either while watching Netflix or in bed. Open to it being more sexual though if you’re open to that.

A lucky lady to practice going down on. Very much into romantic foreplay. Ideally i’d dim the lights, light some candles, lay you on my bed and kiss you passionately, kiss and feel my way down your body until I hit your sweet spot, and stay there until your legs are quivering uncontrollably 😉.

I can host, but I do have an adorable dog living with me!

Hey everyone!

I’m a 34 year old Desi man, shy and introverted for the most part, looking to explore new things.

As the title says, I’m looking for someone who would be interested in going to Twist (https://www.twist-sf.com) together. This is going to be my first time. If you want to show someone around, I’m happy to learn. If you also want a partner and are new, let’s learn together.

You are also free to set any boundaries for the event, and there is no obligation from you to do anything with anyone, including me. I’m interested mostly in just experiencing it, and would like someone I can feel less awkward around.

A little about me: Indian NRI, 34, 5’9, 165 lbs. Open to answer any questions about myself and exchange pics in PM.

If you’ve read this far and are still interested, please reach out and we can get to know each other better!

Bi college student looking for someone else around my age to check out steamworks with on a Tuesday night (cuz 18-25 gets in free). I’m 6’0, 170 lbs, 6.5” cut, Persian, slim fit + hairy. Please be chill, discreet, and hygienic. If interested Dm me with pics and stats

Let’s face it, there is a certainly allure to the random, NSA, formerly-Craigslist-style casual encounter. On the other hand, there are certainly ahem benefits to the familiarity (physical and otherwise) that comes with a steady partner.

When I last lived in SF I had a lovely friend with whom I shared such an arrangement: a fun, flirty friendship based on mutual respect and in substantial part on non-reciprocal oral. She’d text me when she had time and inclination, and I’d do the same, somehow almost always managing to fit each other in. We’d construct the sort of adventurous scenarios that really only come with time and trust. Meeting at an out of the way public place, for instance, visiting at/near work, or briefly in the morning for a wake up visit or before bed for a nightcap. Along the way, we struck up a genuine, supportive friendship, pairing our visits with dinners out or in, wanders to the Ferry Plaza farmers market, movies, all with the promise of excellent company and at least a little excitement every visit.

Here’s the rub: I moved out of SF at the start of the pandemic. But, I’ll be in SF about 1/2 of the year in 2025, just about every other month. It would be ideal to start the getting-to-know one another in advance so we can get straight to the fun when I get there.

I’m cognizant that this sort of thing isn’t for everyone. Sometimes life circumstances make the emotional closeness I describe difficult. And for some the anonymity of a truly random act is simply validating. But, for me at least, the real fun starts when you really get to know a partner. If you feel the same way, I’d love to hear from you.

Oh, and because it’d be helpful for you to know, I’m 6’2”, dark hair and eyes, exceedingly well educated. I don’t work in tech, or anywhere even close. I’m very open to age and appearance, I’m more interested in your ability to contribute to a conversation and your enthusiasm about the scenario I describe. If you do write, please let me know what appeals most to you about it.

Thanks for reading, and good luck finding whatever it is you’re searching for.

For tonight, I’m very interested in sucking cock

I’m an experienced sub/switch and not at all new to kink. Outside of kink, I’m a well-adjusted, professional type. I’m 6 ft tall, and fit but not muscle-bound. I enjoy being outside to bike or be on or near the water. I have some creative interests too—and love getting out on weekends.

As for what I’m looking for here… Although I don’t identify as bi-romantic, in the context of power exchange I love to explore my bi (bottom) inclinations. I’m looking for others who might appreciate that.

Specifically, I’m looking for anyone (especially dommes or MF couples) who have some dominant tendencies and who’d be interested in coercing and encouraging my bi side to come out. I view this as power exchange play, but it doesn’t need to be all handcuffs and leather.

Happy to share more, and a photo, in DMs.

Hi Everyone,

So I’m a 25 year old dude, who I’d say is somewhat good looking, I’m 5’8” tall and in decent shape. What I’m Looking for is a fun fwb relationship where we can feel like friends and lovers at one lol. Some things I like to do are hike, go to the beach, photography, and play sports.

Sexually I’m mainly into Vanilla but also a lil bit of rough as well, so hmu if you like both.

Requirements for you:

-Between San Jose and Redwood City range, so we don’t have to go a long way

-22+, but lowkey have a soft spot for 29+ lol

-race doesn’t matter

Send a message with a sfw picture of myself and I’ll send one too, so we can be clear about mutual attraction. After that, let’s meet up for a drink to confirm we’re real lol and go from there.

31 M 5’11” 175

Tried jerking off with another straight guy to pussy porn. I was really turned on.

Looking to try it again and possibly do more.

Looking for other curious/straight/bi guys to explore with.

Please be discreet…disease and Covid free.

Send stats in reply.

Thank you!

DL bi/gay guy with a massage kink. I love creating a space for guys (and hopefully couples soon) to completely disconnect, unwind, and feel amazing.

Not looking to film, but here are some videos I’ve made in the past for your reference:

Me massaging a 22 y/o straight guy from Switzerland

Me massaging a 28 y/o college bro

I’m clean and discreet, with test results from earlier this month that I’m happy to share if you’d like.

I host in a private, cozy studio cottage in Berkeley. It’s comfortable, warm, and relaxing—complete with a massage table, soft lighting, and soothing music to help you fully unwind.

About me: I’m 27, 5’11, stocky with an athletic build (not ripped or slim), easygoing, and completely discreet. If you’re a couple, I’m open to that too, but I ask to meet for a solo session first.

If this sounds like something you’d enjoy, hit me up with your stats and once I accept the chat, send a couple of clear, recent pics (no face is fine) so I know you’re serious. Nudes definitely get my attention ;)

Available as long as this post is up!

At 28, I've been in a committed relationship for four years, but lately, I feel a tantalizing void. The spark has dimmed, and I'm yearning for something to reignite that passion—something thrilling and intoxicating.

Nestled in the East Bay, I’m on the hunt for a discreet, regular connection with someone who can elevate the mundane to extraordinary. No strings attached—just raw chemistry and the chance to indulge in something deliciously real. If you're easygoing, drama-free, and crave a bit of adventure, we’ll likely ignite a connection.

A little about me: I have mocha skin, stand at 6’0” with a lean, athletic build, and I thrive on an active lifestyle—be it hiking, long walks with my dog, or intense snowboarding. But I can also lose myself in the kitchen, baking sweet delights while the world fades away. I adore a good laugh, especially when it’s laced with a hint of politics or current events, and I cherish meaningful conversations as much as I do playful escapades.

I’m particularly drawn to women in their 20s to late 30s, with a special allure for those who exude confidence and depth. All shapes, sizes, and backgrounds are welcome. This isn’t about changing anyone's life—it’s about sharing stolen moments and rekindling that spark of excitement.

If this stirs something within you, send me a message and let me know which song moves you.

Let’s add a touch of intrigue to our lives.

Hey! I’m 23, 5’8 and a sub college bottom looking to submit to a guy (I have a pic in my post history). I live in SF and can host sometimes late at night or travel; I’m also down for car play too.

I’m pretty sub and open to kinks as well, it’s also cool if you’re curious or if you’re older. If you’re straight, I’d be down to blow you while you watch whatever gets you off.

If you message me, please include some information about yourself so I have an idea of what you look like. I’m DDF and tested neg for everything as of Nov 2024, I’m also on prep. Looking forward to chatting with you soon! :)

38m SF, caramel skin VGL. I'd like to chat with locals about past sexual experiences and how they've impacted us. Maybe they are unique, traumatic or just makes us feel alone. I've found that talking to others can help. If that also leads to mutually interesting and cathartic roleplay ideas, perhaps that's even more fruitful. If this interests you, reach out - any gender.

I am looking for my little and someone that I can enjoy time with and hang out with. Someone to be there for me and me for them in this crazy world. Open/want to a relationship or something consistent but am okay with something more casual as well.

Me- 5'7', East Asian, and healthy/lean. 160ish I do like working out and exercising. gained some Covid lbs I’m still working off. But if you like a little dad bod, not going to complain about cutting cardio out.if you enjoy exercising that’s a huge plus. Gym buddies! lol

Some kinks: Daddy daughter, pet play, rope, choking/spanking, light bruising/punishment (spanking, etc.), rough, can also be sweet when needed, would love to incorporate a mommy into the RP (ie we have to sneak around and keep it a secret from mommy, or daddy is pissed at mommy so he goes to you). In general I also have a lactation, degradation (pretty big one actually), CNC and of course other dom/sub scenarios like teacher/student. These are just some of mine, there a more but drawing a blank when writing this.

Also love showing you off, would love for you to wear skimpy outfits (literally found out they’re called tiny tops, basically anything that your parents would not allow) when we go out so I can show you off the everyone and make them all jealous ;) Bonus points if you’re a typical Gen Z that posts tiktok dances in said skimpy outfits, I won’t mind and can even help film. I mean it is fall, would love to help you film tiktoks in those cheer/sorority outfits and uniforms.

Also if you’re interested, I’ve been interested in the idea of making some content with a partner. Again nothing set in stone just an idea. The only reason it even popped up is because I know that the whole daddy daughter ddlg kink is very popular. Ever since COVID who hasn’t thought of doing OF and making 3x the amount of your normal job.

Very good looking married masc bottom here - 5’11 210 white/latino mix 7.5”c big bubble butt - looking to take control of my sex life while keeping home life safe/undisrupted.

Seeking a married/committed top FWB who wants a bottom they can trust/rely on to fuck regularly.

Serious inquiries only - looking for safety/communication and consistency - (live in SF and commute daily to Mountain View - available after before work 6AM and from 3pm Mon Tue & Wed only - cannot meet any other days of the week).

Ideally would want to get a room weekly - have you walk in and either start fucking my face/throat or go right into my ass and start fucking until your pounding and sweating from how hard/long you’ve been going. Also down to meet regularly via car before/after work for just oral.

Hit me up and be down to swap pics if you are serious about forming a fwb situation. Will not meet blindly - looking to plan on initial meet up - plan first hook up and go from there. Not wanting to endlessly chat - thanks and will be posting till I connect with the right guy

+++guys bigger than me +++++Latinos

^(I don't know if it's the way I laugh or because I enjoy making someone's day, but I tend to make people feel good. What's the most attractive thing about you? Let's dive into the conversation and see where it takes us.<3)

Is there anyone else out there who wakes up after a few hours asleep and finds themselves now dealing with random insomnia? If so, what do you tend to do in the wee hours? Anyway… just curious if I’m alone and how do you cope.

Random thoughts, questions and conversation…etc :)

Rumor has it there are women who really like to do this or really want to learn. Is that you?

Married perfect gentleman who was always generous in bed and always preferred penetration would like a blowjob for once. Any age or experience welcome, whether you do this all the time or want to experiment.

I am happy to reciprocate since I am the type who would want to please a woman anyway, but I won't insist if you don't want that.

I am clean (hygienically and health-wise) and would be a perfect gentleman. You can go to work on me or be passive and I use you. I have brown hair and eyes and Italian ancestry, and am 5'11" and 188lbs. I teach college so probably won't be ready to share any photos too quickly. Extra credit if you're a student but my age and older is fine, too. Obviously married is also okay.

I'm attractive enough to get glances and want the same.

Please begin by telling me your location, age, and why this interests you in some grammatically correct sentences. Even hints that this is a business endeavor on your part will be ignored.t

Hey 👋 I'm a fit 5'11 South Asian male. I'm smart, funny, adventurous, and love having a good time. Currently in a situationship but she is out of town for weeks at a time and I'm looking for some more human interaction. She's cool with it.

I would love to take you out, watch movies and 420, explore the bay. I can host in my sunny apartment. I'm big on consent/resepect and I know how to make it sexy. Down to swap sfw pics. Looking forward to meeting you!

About me: 23,East Asian Chinese, Female, 5”6, average size, working as a legislative aide

Some of my hobby: binge watching Netflix, listen to music (mostly pop)and podcast, explore new restaurants and bars, traveling, baking, going on walks.

Looking for: friends or more like fwb ,only East Asian especially chinese , someone around my age, preferably taller than me but at least the same height as me,share some similar interest! Only looking for someone under 30, no couple and please say something other than hi for a response!

I LOVE breast play. It's the perfect combination of arousing and relaxing. So it's definitely a turn on for me. But what appeals to me most about suckling, nursing, and handling a pair of heavy, natural tits is how good it feels for you. Even though breast play is easily one of my biggest fetishes, the real attraction is feeling and hearing you react to having your nipples given the attention they deserve, and by someone who knows how to give it. Slowly and deliberately. At least at first. I want to take my time building the sensation for you. I want to hear your breathing get heavy and gradually turn into moans that you can't hold back. I want to feel your body literally shaking from finally feeling what you've been fantasizing about feeling again... or maybe feeling for the first time. And, it's certainly not a requirement, but if you're able to orgasm from breast play, I would be more than happy to assist.

I'm 5,11”, chill, respectful, and vaccinated. I love movies, music, being creative, hiking, and breasts. Especially sensitive breasts that belong to a fun, attractive woman looking for someone to relax with. It's no secret all men love tits, but I often hear about how many men will give the breasts some brief attention before moving on, or skipping them altogether. I'm looking for someone who has been (desperately?) craving a man who will take his time, draw it out, starting off nice and slow with the understanding that there's all the time in the world to slowly build an intensely pleasurable sensation for you...

Regarding size... I'm very open. Do I love big, heavy natural tits? Yes, I do. However, would I be just as enthusiastic about small breasts? Fuck, yes. I would happily lick and tease your sensitive little A cups too, playing with them however feels best for you.

Because ultimately, that's what turns me on the most. Having control over your pleasure like that, and discovering how to make it feel as good as possible. Can you orgasm from breast/nipple play? Let's find out.

Side activities... Another thing I love about breast play is how many options there are for positions and additional hands-on fun. Like, I love fingering. If you're open to being fingered while having your nipples suckled, that would be even hotter. Also, if you need something to do with your hands, you are more than welcome to stroke my hair or we could zone out together while I latch onto your nipples and you scratch my scalp.

Happy to share pics and go into agonizing detail about how I'd like to handle to your tits. If this is something that appeals to you, let's talk about it. Just to be clear, lactation isn't really my thing. I definitely enjoy the nurturing, comforting aspect of ANR but I am specifically seeking someone interested in enjoying dry suckle sessions together. Long ones. Until YOU need a break :)

I'm open minded and mostly looking for a genuine connection with someone who wishes they could meet someone handsome and fun who can give your aching, needy nipples all the attention they need and deserve.

I would love to have this mutual interest be a central part of a romantic relationship, but I'm absolutely down for something casual with a fun, flirty friend too. I have no expectations other than wanting to make a genuine connection with someone who loves having her breasts sucked on. Or, maybe you're just extremely curious about experiencing it? Let's talk. This is honestly something I could enjoy every single day (multiple times a day) with the right person. I have plenty other fetishes I'm happy to discuss at length as well (feel free to ask away), but breast play is a 10 out of 10 for me, and if it's a big turn on for you too, I would love to hear from you.

Fairly new the game. Want to find another asian girl to have a good time and maybe teach me something haha. Or we learn together :)

5'5" Taiwanese American, 130lbs. Hoping to find someone around my age and ideally my height/weight or less. Let's chat and exchange pics to see if we vibe!

Hey I'm just throwing this out there. I'm not sure if I'm going stay in the bay area for the rest of this year. I'm wondering is it possible to actually meet genuine people on this subreddt? I don't really have any friends left in the city, I've been doing my own thing for awhile now.. but it would be nice to find someone new to talk to and get to know. I'm a 31 year old single male in SF. I'm a pretty chill laid back guy.. I don't really like large groups and prefer one on one interactions. I realize that I don't really need a big friend group, just a few solid ones is all you need. I enjoy exploring the region, day trips, concerts, indie films and music, themeparks, animals, food, and much more. I'm mixed raced, open minded, and just trying to vibe with someone new. I don't really like social media, and try my best to live and enjoy life with out it. I'm looking for a like minded person, but just someone not self centered and humble/sweet. I'm into learning new stuff and trying new things. Let me know if anyone sees this!

Hello! if you see this post it means I am still looking

I am a mature, experienced kinky man - on the Dominant side, seeking a younger submissive woman to connect with.

Ideally for guiding, helping to explore and building trust and fun;)

About Me:

• 5'7 exactly and proud of it! Shortish black hair, brown eyes. 210 lbs. Muscular broad shoulders big chest powerlifting body.
• Hypersexual, kinky, yet respectful of limits. I only get pleasure if you get pleasure.
• Cat dad, cook, sports fan, video gamer, silly witty and sarcastic. I will tease you with words, then with my cock ;)
• Always try to be kind but have very little patience with selfish people. I work at a non-profit because I like helping people.
• I work full time, have my own place, pay my own bills.
• Creative, nerdy, and love girls who are self driven and passionate about their hobbies.

About You:

• Into dirty talk, mild degradation with praise, being called names sexually, slapped, punished and praised.
• prefer obedient partners
• Working, or in school. Not a gold digger.
• Clean, well groomed, shaved.
• Petite to curvy shape. Cis female.
• Open to any race, but I LOVE mixed race(white/asian) girls.
• 18+, any experience level

I live in the SF bay area, but willing to travel with the right committed girl, once trust is established. No, I not PayPal you the first time I talk to you. Hope get some serious responses. If you are going to send one message then delete your account or ghost me please do not bother. I also love online chats and relationships, but I prefer to eventually video chat since that is WAY more intimate then just typing to a screen. Plus it helps both of us verify that we are both real people.

P.S. I think we are all sick of flakes here on this site. I am looking for someone serious about all this.

I’m searching for a confident, adventurous woman between the age of 24-36 (+/- 3 years) who enjoys testing limits and pushing boundaries. If you love to challenge your partner, provoke reactions, and get playful with power dynamics, we’ll get along great. I’m drawn to women who have a bit of a bratty streak—someone who enjoys making things a little difficult but knows when to submit and accepts her punishment (spanking, denial, wax, collard, anal, etc)

A bit about me: I’m 5’11”, 265 lbs (on a health journey), Mexican, with a fulfilling career. I'm passionate about photography, video editing, and storytelling. When I'm not working, I’m hiking, attending concerts, and looking for my next festival adventure.

I’d prefer to connect with someone local to Monterey/Santa Cruz, but I’m open to the Bay Area if the chemistry is right. Let’s skip the endless texting and meet up in person sooner rather than later.

If this sounds like something you'd be into, send me a message with your age, location, and whether you're a dog or cat person. Let’s see where this goes.