24M I had my first love back when I was 19 while doing my bachelor's she(19) was in the same class as mine, Kind, beautiful, charismatic.

She comes from a well of upper middle class family and I'm from a lower middle class, we fell in love madly but then I got hit by reality I was an average student, where I thought to myself that I had no future, no backing of family cash, no home or any assets attached to my name, and she being from a well off family she had everything,

I felt insecure and always thought she deserves better.

She always supported me, never spoke of any financial matters, she was the one who always took me out on date. I didn't had any cash to take her out back then.

As a kid I used to see dark markings on moon looked like the shape of dargon, but she told me if you look at this ways it's actually a rabbit. After that night I always see rabbit's Marking on the moon.

After three year I broke off with her saying you deserve better and I should focus more on my studies, and went to do my master's but I always loved her, I wanted to give her the world, but I had too much responsibility to take care of sick parents, brothers education, sisters marriage.

But I always remembered her and missed her looking at the moon, and how I see a mark of rabbit instead of a dragon.

Now I'm 24 I have everything a great job, great life, most of my responsibilities are cut down but what I don't have is her.

I had a short relationship in my master's but I didn't feel the same way what I felt for her.

I may never feel the same feeling what I have for her for anyone, it's okay and I acknowledge it and cherish the feeling I have.

We have mutual friend where one of them mentioned that she's having a best days of her life have a bf who takes good care of her and she's doing good in life.

I was happy for her, I want her to be happy and have a great life but some part of me wishes that guy could have been me.

I'm writing this in a sleeper coach bus while looking at the moon rn because it reminded me of her and how I was dramatic about her safety when she mentioned she was visiting her aunt and had to travel alone in a sleeper coach bus.

A few days back, I had my college farewell. Everything went well and even I had given my farewell speech which everyone had appreciated.

You can checkout my breakup story here: https://www.reddit.com/r/RelationshipIndia/s/znkDjV9CEQ

For crux: Recently I had a very harsh break up with my gf(M22) of 2 years a month back. She is in love with her cousin brother right now. Even though her brother already has a gf but still she likes him and calls him Babu Sona, etc and they talk all day late night. In March, even she threatened me with a Gun on video call where her cousin brother was threatening me with a Gun on video call and she was giving a thumbs up as a cheer up for what her brother was doing. Our common friends had seen the video call when he was threatening me.

Lekin abhi jab me jab enjoy kar raha tha toh Mera ek friend bola ki hn bhot hasne Lage ho uske jate hi. Toh uska mane reply dia ki ab mujhe nahi farak padta usse because the way she treated me in the end is like sh*t. Tabhi uski ek friend tezi se bol badi ki hn hona bhi nahi chahiye Jo ki mujhe odd laga kyuki ye insaan itna bolta nahi hai.

I know ki jo hamare friends group me common ladkiya hai vo uske ghar jati rahthi hai. I know ki usne unko pura manipulate kia hai but what hurts me is that ki inhone dhekha tha ki how she was treating me and how her cousin brother threatened me on call. Me ek jindagi or maut ki ladai se bach ke aya hu or ye sab dhekhne ke bad bhi ye log aj usko support kar rahe hai.

I can't understand ki koi ase kase kar sakta hai yrr. Jis insaan ke liye me kuch bhi kar sakta tha. I was loyal af. Jisko me railway station pe pick or drop karne jata tha jab bhi vo Ghar jati thi. Fir jab vo insaan mere room pe ata tha uske par tak dabae mane ki thakh gai hogi. Ye sab hote hue bhi us insaan ne mujhe itni gandi tarha treat kia last me. Upper se Jo logo ne ye sab dhekha or mere efforts dhekhe us insaan ke liye fir bhi aj vo log uska hi support kar rahe hai.

Literally me pure raste roya hu is bat pe metro me. Ki ek jindagi or maut ki ladai se bach ke aya me or aj Puri duniya mere khilaf hai. Jis insaan ke liye mane itna kia aj vo hi mere Jan ke piche pada hai. Pure 2 ghanta me crowded metro me farewell se ghar ate time khada raha kar me roya. People was watching me. Me khud apne apko control karta fir vapis se Rona ajata. Me kisse ye bat kahu mujhe samaj nahi ata. Gharwalo se bol nahi sakta kyuki vo alag tension me ajaenge. I am trying myself to move on or kafi had tak mujhe lagta hai hogaya hu but fir bhi ye khayal a jate hai daily.

Abhi me apne studies or Kam pe focus karne ki koshish karta hu but bhot jaldi burnout ho jata hu. I am battling myself in my thoughts.

Last me ye hi kahuga ki life ne mujhe ek dam bottom pe fak dia hai. Kabhi socha nahi tha asa hoga mere sath. Nahi karna chahiye tha kisi ke liye itna taki uske jate time itna dhukh na ho. Meri galti hai sab. F*CK!! 😭

Sorry agar mere posts se pareshan ho, but this is the best place to rant and talk to people 🙏

While she's adorable and I deeply love her, I'm currently focused on studying and pursuing a career in the IT industry. This means I can't give her as much time or attention as she'd like. She doesn't seem to grasp this and insists on constant communication, leading to lengthy arguments and her crying every day. Despite her promises to support me, she repeats this pattern. It's heartbreaking to witness. I understand she loves me and craves more attention, but I genuinely need this time to improve my coding skills. I'm torn about what to do."

In our house, we don't celebrate these days. We don't even celebrate our birthdays like we don't even say "happy birthday," and I've never heard anyone in my family say it to me.

I didn't even remember today was Mother's Day until the afternoon when a neighbor didi(who moved a year ago) came to our house. She brought two cakes, one for her mother and one for my mother, and wished her a happy Mother's Day. She's a very good lady, she spend good amount of time in our house on weekends, whenever my mother or I make something special, we share it with her. But after this, I just feel guilty that I didn't do anything for my mother.

I (24M) am single, and was approached by a friend's friend's friend (23F) over social media. We texted for a week, but barely. While picking a time and place to meet, she had a very strong opinion about where and when, including what to do. I being myself was punctual, and texted her telling "call me when you're nearby", to which her reply was "okay so I'll be about an hour late", but I think she would've taken more time. I replied telling "okay I don't think I want to wait here for an hour, sorry! Let's meet another time". She probably felt bad, called a couple times to arrange for an alternate location because I told her that I'd leave. I lost the interest to meet her on this day, because it was quite hot. Besides, I don't think it's very nice to be more than an hour late to your first meet especially after you picked the date, time, place, and what to do, even though I had initially suggested we meet later on the same day. I pre-empted myself from doing a bunch of things because she told me that she'd wanted to meet early and leave early. Was I wrong to tell her that I did not want to wait? She's sent screen-long messages telling she feels bad. Should I continue talking to her? My friend's friend adviced against it, but I'm single af.

TL; DR - She decided where, when and what, and forgot about it. I did wait, and left. Was I wrong?

You are not a bad character human. I don’t know why you fell out of love with me and us. It is okay. May be we were not meant to be together. I am really sorry for my bad words which I said while being in our relationship and after that. I was too farsighted maybe, lost our present moment. I was too concerned with the future. The dreams of growing together, learning together, raising the kids together, your support everything is just gone. And I am fine with it.

It is and will be really tough for me to open again to a new person completely. It will take me years and of course I know that the other person won’t like my habits and nature as I am different. I am not close to my family, never was and I don’t think so I will be. Although I will try my best but it is tough to change. I am sorry. I am really. Hope you find peace and solace in future. I hope Karma do not hit you. You were my sweetheart. I poured my heart into you dear. I did. I was ready to sacrifice it all for you. But at the end you sacrificed our relationship and me. May be my past Karma was not good. I am really scared. I don’t love you now though I am sure of that. I am just trying my best to NOT remember our memories. I don’t think so that any woman can ever love me like you did at least for 7.5 years which you loved me dearly. I am greatful to you and our relationship for what all we had. You have found someone new, good luck to you. As if I was the one who was more devoted in our relationship, as if I was the one putting more efforts and making up for your loss.

I am a very very sensitive human unfortunately, I never really had someone true to me, I thought you were the one, I thought I have found the person I was looking for but at the end you are not. You are not. I am greatful for my conduct, never thought bad of you nor will (Krishna ji please forgive me if I ever said or thought bad for her). I am happy that you will live good life and the other person will keep you happy(hopefully). May you achieve all the success and happiness in life dear. I must have hurt you a lot of time in these 8 years, I am dearly sorry for the same. Life and relationship in general are very complex. Its better not to have any expectations from the other humans. We can only control ourself and our thoughts. Feeling light and I think it is high time I STOP blaming you when I feel low, it is me and myself who is responsible for my own happiness. My blessings are always with you. I feel alone and misunderstood, but it is fine I am not here to please anyone from now. Dated 12-05-2024.

I matched with this girl on Bumble and we connected on Instagram, since then we have been talking about general things. I am not interested in her as a romantic partner tho I like talking to her as a friend but I am really not sure what she is expecting and neither has any of us talked about it yet. Though I don't want to hurt her feelings given that if she is expecting a romantic relationship later but at the same time I also don't want to stop talking to her so I am just going with the flow unless she specifically asks me about a romantic relation. I just feel selfish atm and I might be wasting her time. Should I do the hard talk or should I just go with the flow?

I (25M) and my girlfriend (26F) have been dating for almost 2.5 years .. We both had past I had just 1 girl she had 3 boys and she was really nice with them use to do things she never did for me , buying them gifts initiating sex more & was really involved and met his last ex’s family , I was the same however I was not that much physically active in my past .She tells me she use to do a lot of things in and outside bed with her ex …. I only the other hand received sex a handful of times (she seems uninterested) …. I just received 1 bouquet a cake (on my birthday) , 1 pullover and 1 chocolate till date . I on the other hand gave her countless gifts , clothes , custom gifts , surprise dates , took her to shopping , drives , Handmade scented candles , order her food , buy gifts for her family ! When I confront her she says “oh now you want princess treatment “,but me Gucci and diamonds then ask for all this .I know I am wrong at comparing but I feel she don’t value me ,she say”I never loved someone this much “ but her action says something else …. She dated her ex for 3 years she even got pregnant , She even introduced him to her family ! When I ask her to meet mine she denied….we have a lot of fights because of all this …..idk what to do …. I’m happy with her and want to stay ….. Suggest me something

Some background. We've been together for about 3 months now. Last week we had a great sex throughout the week. She should get her periods by 30apr (considering her periods are usually late by 10 days, they should come by 10may) but she didn't got periods by 10th May and she is at her hometown right now and will be back after a month. She's not allowed to step outside her home (very strict household) What can we do if she's really pregnant? Can we get an abortion after 5week of pregnancy? What's the legal documention to be filled? And should our parents be involved too? I'm panicking tooo much, my parents will accept it but her parents, don't know... Also there will be huge financial burden on me if it happens!!

I feel terrible writing this but if it's true, I think me and my gf should know. It started about 2 to 3 months ago, and only now I can feel that my behaviour patterns and the way I act in my relationship is changing drastically. Some changes include;

1. The way I previously apprached a disagreement with her was with complete patience and regard. Now it's just I get instant headaches, lack of empathy, and i also feel a sort repulsion with such disagreements.

2)The feeling of "she's getting on my nerves" Or "This relationship feels too much" have become so frequent and intense. 3) The feeling of an emotional burnout for the most parts. 4) The previous visions of "our goals and togetherness" are shifting to "my goals, my life, my schedule etc. " 5)The relationship has either started lacking a sort of "Magic" Or now I'm being blinded to that magic. (I hope you get this point, I could find no better way to communicate this) 6) This relationship now is too much sacrificial from a personal pov(Or it was from start, and I'm noticing this just now)

...... My care, respect and regard for her is same if not more than before but it just feels like I'm giving myself excuses everyday to go on in this relationship or the fact that i don't wanna do something that will hurt her(I'm aware this is very harmful for both of us)

I need perspective, I need some reasons, I need something, anything on this situation because God I've been feeling terrible lately. Thank you if you took the time out to read. <3

22(M) Here - Fiancee 22(F) : Relation of 3 Years

I Love A Woman - She's Daughter of My Family Close Friend's ; We Know Each Other Since Childhood But Involved Romantically With Each Other 3 Years Ago At Age of 19

We Had 1 Year Relation Long Distance - After That

I Sent Marriage Proposal To Her 2 Years Ago - Her Parents Accepted

I'm A Bachelor Student Graduating This Year

I Planned to Get Married After My Graduation

In A Meanwhile

My Fiancee Shifted To My City Because of Toxic Environment in Her House - Her Biological Brother Harass Her Physically And Her Both Narcissistic Parents Fight With Each Other On And Off Regularly

She Start Living With Her Sister Who Studying Here in University in My City

My Fiancee Didn't Have Any Qualification Yet - And There Are Not Good Job Opportunities for Woman in My Country

Therefore I Didn't Let Her Do Any Job And Started Providing For Her

I Work Part Time After My University Alongside Working On Side Hustle

I Provided for Her 1 Year - From Apartment Rents to Food , Shopping , Medical Checkups

I Love Her A Lot Therefore Provided Everything Best I Can

Fast Forward ⏩

After 1 Year of Providence - I Had Some Work Issues Because of Terrible Economy Condition

And She Cut Contact With Me for A Month - Came Back to Share She Love Someone Else Now 😔

She Betray Me

I Blocked Her Everywhere - And Tried to Move On with My Broken Heart

I Did No Contact for 8 Months

Financial And Emotional Loss Was Unbearable But I Tried My Best to Get Myself Busy in Studies & Work

After 8 Months - She Returned Back

She Came to My House + University ; Cried And Begged She Wanted to Come Back But I declined

This Keep Happening for 2 Months Straight

After That My Friends And Family Involved And We Patch Up Again

I Foolishly Take Her Back

After That We Talk With Each Other for 3 Months - I'm Graduating Soon So We Planned Our Wedding in Winter ❄️

But Out of No Where - She First Fight With Me on Some Useless Thing And Left Again

I Tried to Contact Her - I Even Said Sorry to Her Multiple Times But Her Behavior Was Very Weird

Whenever I Met Her She Behaves Fine But As Soon As I Talk to Her On Msg ; She Start Avoiding Me

She's Flaking On And Off

I Don't Know What Kind of Narcissistic Abuse This is - But It Hurting Me Very Badly

We Were Going to Marry This Winter But It Doesn't Seems Like It Will Happened Now

I Don't want to Share this whole Thing with Other People Because it Embarrassing

I Don't Know How to Process it And Move On 😞

Her Coming Back Revive Everything I Had With Her - Now I'm Going Through Same Emotional Suffering Which I Gone Through Last Year

I Hear from Her Friend ; She's Talking to Someone Else And Even Planning to Marry Him - This Thing Hurting Me Even More

Idea of Her Seeing And Being With Someone Else 💔

I Don't Know Why She Did It - Why She Came Back And Pursue Me for 2 Straight Months Again And Again Until I Taken Her Back

I Don't Know How to Process This Weird Situation & Move On 😔

He has elder brothers(cousins) who have 3-4 gfs at a time. Even her sister told him once that you shouldn't break a girl's heart, instead you can fix 2-3 hearts at a time. So he has the whole environment around him that normalizes having side chicks and makes him think that this is not wrong even when we all know that it is. I'm 100% sure that he loves me so much, even I do. He is too serious about me, serious enough to marry me. At present he is totally loyal to me. However while discussing these things, I opposed him by stating that such kind of act would break my heart. He responded by telling "don't start this again, shadi toh tujhse hi karunga na(I will marry you eventually) ". Since these days we don't get much time to talk( we are in long distance relationship) due to his busy schedule. These things are constantly revolving in my mind and making me anxious. I have lost my appetite totally and living in a constant fear what if he does this. I really don't want suggestions like breaking up as this is only a bad side of my relationship. He loves me so much and I just want to fix these problems and live with him happily. He is a man of his words so there's no chance that he is giving me false hope. The only problem is my anxiety attacks and the fact that I can't explain to him cuz these days are actually important for his career and so whenever I talk to him about these things, he ends up thinking that I'm not supporting him in his difficult phase of life and doing kalesh. I know when this time will over and I will explain how I'm feeling he would totally understand it but now I am not able to either tell him or get rid of my anxiety attacks.

I’m at talking stage from last one month with this guy who insists on talking on video call. And I finally gave in and picked his call. I don’t like the awkward silence so I kinda yapped non stop for 5-6 mins and he started yawning so I asked if I’m boring him to which he replied and said no you are very soothing and said that he needs to sleep and cut the call after saying goodnight but what type of behaviour is this? You insist on calling and then you back off 😵‍💫 Why do guys do that? Share opinions

Hello,

I'm a 26M, and my girlfriend is 25F. We've been in a relationship for about five months, and both of us were single before. Lately, my girlfriend has been expressing concerns about whether I love her enough. At times, I find myself agreeing with her, as she often mentions how much she thinks all the time about me. While I do love her, I don't always express it in the same way she does, and I'm unsure about what's happening between us. She lives alone and doesn't have many friends to spend time with, which makes her miss me a lot. She frequently brings up the topic of long-term commitments, which leaves me feeling unsure about the direction of our relationship. She prefers me to be with her as much as possible and gets upset when I can't make it. I'm trying to understand what's going on and find a balance that works for both of us.

PS: She sometimes gets too much intimidating by removing her whatsapp DP and not messaging me for hours when I don’t go to her room.

Hey,

I use this chitchat app it's an app where people come and talk to random people based on interests(kinda sub for Omegle), I am a Software Engineer working in Gurgaon, I met this LSR Girl super funny and super great. We kept talking for almost one to one and a half hour. She was super good to talk with, we flirted well. She was into Finances a bit, and I suck at it, so with I asked her out and she agreed by the end. She was downloading insta, meanwhile without notifying her I went AFK for almost 5 mins. I was not able to connect with her as I operate on that platform via Incognito Mode and the tab was closed and everything was gone. I think what we talked was really special(there are details to it which I don't prefer sharing haha). I would appreciate someone helping me out to reach her, and please refrain from making any negative comments about it here.

Intent of this post: Please get me connected from one of the LSR people here if possible with proper socials, so that they can help me reach her!

My 'F28' partner 'M28' thinks i take little things to my heart and he is scared to tell me anything coz i take everything to my heart and feel bad and shut off which in turn makes him guilty and feel bad.

This was kindaa eye openerr for me and i have been thinking our conversation all over again and realised that he might be right.

But the issue is i have been like this for a long time, i tend to take myself out of the tough conversation and try to explain things to myself and calm down first and then talk but he says this approcah is wrong, he wants to talk and sort it out . He wants a partner with whom he is able to have a conversation openelt which I agree. Also i told him i would try to change it but then he says he likes the way i am . And i dont know how toobe forward from here.

What can be done? The length of relationship has been 3 months TL;DR my Partner thinks I shut off completely when he tries to tell his feelings which makes him hesistant to tell me things coz I take little things to my heart.

My gf broke up with me more than an year ago. It was 5 years old rs. I told my parents about it. My parents were against it because of inter-caste. I fought with my parents for her. I was ready to fight for us until it works out but but she said choose parents or me.

How do i move on? It's difficult to forget the past and talk with other girls.

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Perhaps a stupid question, but why do you all look for relationship, like what is the drive to go that far just for a single person?

Suppose, you have a good life , a pet, good lifestyle, stable career - congratulations, you have already crossed 90% of the population! You can live on your own, have so many good friends, a good support system, good parents - love can exist in so many forms other than romantic ones..

But yea, this is my question out of genuine curiosity - why do you chase after someone who doesn't even return it?

Been dating her for 2 years. She is BTech grad. Working in MNC and has better package than me (M27). But my overall income is higher than her. She is below avg in looks and I have been good with girls. Can say I am above avg.

I dont wish to date anyone and have never been into dating culture a lot. Just that I found this iron-deficient woman cute and I wish to get married as I see a future. But she hasnt yet spoken to her family about it. Just so hopeless as I am 27 years and my parents are looking for prospects.

But I know that in AM, its a whole new level of transaction with 10000s of lies. Idk what to do.

We started dating when we were in 10th standard . He was my childhood crush . We were both from different religion but things went fine for next six years . We were in long distance which is common in India

After 6 years things got toxic . And he went to another state . The breakup was ugly . Very ugly . He went there took a home with his friends . Always partied and had the time of his life . But he would never let me move on but still did not want to commit He’ll say he is busy and need a break .. i would cry and beg him not to do this … after 1-2 weeks ill become stable again … he’ll call again talk and make me attached… then he will leave again … this went on for about an year

After that i started to heal and move on… he came back home .. called me again and practically begged on my feet to patch things up … he promised me he’ll take care of me and never hurt me again

Things were great for almost an year … i was so happy and thought this is it … i got really attached and i guess he sensed it … he started to pull away from me and there were some instances were i really got hurt

• during these 7 years we never celebrated valentines day … this time I specifically told him i wanted to celebrate it … i told hime beforehand i did not want anything expensive just a rose would be fine

I printed our photos like a fool and made a card … but he bailed on me on that day That really broke my heart 🤡

• once he went on a trip … i told him a small souvenir would be nice … he told me he bought me a ring

We met 4..5 times after that but never gave it to me and would give some random excuses like he forgot to take it or it is with some friend … after a while i got the hint and i calmly asked him if he really bought me that ring and i wont get mad … after some time he admit that he lied to me and there was no ring 🤡

And now he completely stopped respecting me … i am a student … i come from a middle class family … i have great friends …. Great family … i do part time job… i am good looking… we have great intimacy Why am i not respectable I was 100% honest and transparent with him … i loved him a lot … I expressed my concerns … had an honest conversation …

But he never wants to talk about our problems .. he says really hurtful things when he is angry … like i am pathetic … my voice makes his ears bleed … “ maybe ill respect you if you have a job “ … if i cry he will make me cry evenmore after all this he will say that he wants me and he loves me

If i bore him why is he still saying that he loves me … why do i still care about him ? Why do i still believe that he loves me ? Everybody respects me and loves me but why am i not respectable enough for him Why is it so hard for me to breakup

So I am 24(M) and she is 23(F). Both of us were virgin and we had our first sex but it was weird. I have small dick (12-13cm when erect) and when I tried to penetrate I couldn't do it(I guess). She said it was hurting and I wasn't putting in the right hole; she didn't bleed too. I feel so disappointed like I couldn't satisfy her. First experience and it was awkward. She tried to console me and we had laughs too.It seem so easy on movies but I couldn't fully insert my pens even after finding right point with my fingers. Is it because I watch too much porn and masturbate alot or do I have a problem. We both are a little overweight for our age and height. I want to make second impression good as hell. Give me advice. It's not like I was tired. I had enough energy but my dick wasn't up with me.

We were involved in sex last month. It was totally with protection. A day after, she says that a whitish transparent discharge was seen. She says that its not normal. On the same time she feels fatigue and mild headaches at evening.

After 4...5 days she says that a whitish slightly thick fluid got discharged. Now her periods was due on 9th and has not occurred yet. We both are tensed after this.

Any help would be appreciated! Does the transparent discharge on next day mean she's pregnant?

Hey everyone,

I'm in a bit of a tough spot and could really use some advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 1.5+ years, and overall, things have been going really well. We're at a point where we're considering introducing our parents to each other to take our relationship to the next level.

However, there's one issue that keeps resurfacing, and it's starting to weigh heavily on me. My boyfriend has a habit of fake swearing and lying to me, even over trivial matters. The first time it happened was back in December 2022, and I expressed to him how much it bothered me. I had a past where my ex cheated on me for 5 years and I cannot handle it if my partner lies to me about anything.

Today, it happened again, and it's the third time now. He was upset with me and chose to ignore my texts. When I confronted him about it, he lied and fake swore to me. It's disheartening because I've made it clear that honesty, even if it hurts, is crucial to me in a relationship.

I'm at a loss for what to do. On one hand, everything else in our relationship seems to be going well, and we're considering taking significant steps forward. But on the other hand, I find it incredibly difficult to trust someone who repeatedly lies to me, regardless of the reason.

Has anyone been in a similar situation or have any advice on how to handle this? I want to address this issue before it becomes a bigger problem, but I'm not sure where to start. Any insights would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks in advance.

PS: I am sure that my current BF is not cheating on me.

At 1 AM last night, my half insane ex situationship blew up my phone with calls and the most insulting texts. For more context, him and I had gone on a few dates last year and had parted ways (or I had tried to, while he forcefully tried to maintain contact despite being blocked) after he had told me that he just wanted something casual and would not date me.

Some time later I had started talking to my now boyfriend and moved on.

Last night's messages began with screenshots. Specifically, Hinge screenshots, detailing everything I had ever said about him. The name of the sender had been cut out but it could only have been one of my 3 female friends (21F) as this conversation had only been had amongst the 4 of us. There were implications of two timing, my apparently having enjoyed his scary behavior (I had cried in front of them and had expressed fear and paranoia after he would not leave me alone). She had even gone to the extent of assuring him that she could provide him with screenshots over email.

The friends and I had stopped talking after some disagreements but I was under the impression that it was an amicable parting. We might not have been on talking terms anymore but there was no resentment amongst us. Apparently not.

Here's to a toxic and dark side of female friendships.

I've been wondering lately how commitments have drastically taken a dip in the recent times. How a lot of toxic behaviour and polygamy has been normalised in current day situation. I don't want to be too specific tho. You guys can go ahead share some of the craziest situations you've come across. Are we heading in the right direction? Are social norms created by humans just a way to regulate fun? Is doing what we feel/want more important than worry about norms? Are we going to live happily with the same partner throught after marriage(considereding the crazy amount of shit we do during our bachelor/bachelorette life)? Is temporary happiness really worth facing consequences in the future? Im just contemplating on life, guys!

Is it cheating when a girl that is already taken, yet, accepts sexual and romantic flirts over text msgs from dozens of guys, and she doesn't shut it down, or mentions that she's with someone, and keeps this texts hidden from her boyfriend.

Does it fall under the cheating category? Note that she doesn't flirt back, yet she reply with smiles and shy faces.

Examples are:

1 - Your booty is the perfect shape, the way I like it. And she reply with shy faces.

2 - your skin smells like heaven Reply with dots....

3 - I told my mom about you, and how you will be my entire future and life. She replies 'did you really tell your mom that?'

4 - I want to be next to you, hug you, and we never talk She sends dots...

5 - I want my kids to be from you Replies with smiles

Etc....

Notice, she is with someone, and she never mentions him or shuts down these flirts and wants them going, and hides all these flirts from her boyfriend!

I’ve been single for a long time now and i am finding it quite difficult to find someone compatible. I guess my question is that, is it really that difficult to find somebody? If not then what am i doing wrong? It was not so serious until recently because my studies are almost over so i know it’s going to be even more difficult now to get someone. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Update on my last post (2nd or 3rd recent on my account).
We broke up 20 days (it was her call, but she used to do this every then and now before and I'd convince her - ngl I think she liked that I always did). I haven't contacted her since. At first, after everything, I felt a bit relieved that we broke up for good unlike before, I felt free, I felt a weight lifted off my shoulders. I was pretty quick to text other girls - in hindsight it seems like a coping mechanism. I thought I moved on, but it hit me suddenly yesterday that no. I've decided not to text any girls cause honestly I don't have that energy anymore, I'm not going to chase, I'm going to focus on myself. It hit me yesterday, I really miss her, I don't know if I regret not doing so, but I've started to think maybe I shouldn't have given up so easily we broke up, maybe I should have convinced her, or even argued more - but no I was like "fine" (unlike all the times before), at the time I felt relieved. Now I just miss her man, no one's like her, no one will be, she's just different. I keep thinking about our good times, how good she is, how pretty and cute she is, I keep wondering if I blew it. It's on my mind - maybe I gave up too easily, maybe I should have not been as stubborn (I was never before on all the times she used to this) - I don't know. Trust me she's a good person, apart from the thing in my previous post (but i guess that is my problem, that is my insecurity and toxic-ness towards that topic). She's far from a red flag, she's perfect. My minds been all over the place the past few days - it hit me hard, after fucking 17 days thinking it was for the better. What's worse is we were doing long distance for the past 3 months, and I'm coming back to India for like a month in mid June - I was planning to visit her for a week to 10 days (she moved to a different city as well) - but now I thought of mid June scares me - how am I supposed to be in India and not visit her and go to her new city :(( honestly that would make me feel....idk. I don't even know what I'm saying but I really wanted your guys support and advice, just wanted to tell someone :(

I'm an 18-year-old female feeling quite anxious about my family situation, and I could really use some advice. Here's the rundown My dad and mom have been separated for years now, but they never legally divorced. Recently, my dad got another woman pregnant who he was cheating on my mother with for several years, and she's about to give birth. However, they are not legally married on paper. But they did have like a "marriage". I also wonder if they did get a marriage certificate if my father just lied and said that he had gotten a divorce. Is that possible? Do people do a background check before issuing marriage certificates?

I'm worried about the implications of this situation, especially regarding my rights and my mom's rights. Could the other woman try to take away things from me and my mom because she's having my dad's child?

Does their relationship hold any legal weight since they're not officially married? What rights do they have, and what rights do my mom and I have in this situation?

I'm feeling really overwhelmed and uncertain about what to do next. Any advice or insights would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.