Not me this time, it's my friend M17 who asked me for help and he isn't in reddit so I am asking for advice from his side.

To jo usne kaha about his situation wahi keh rha hu. So uski bachpan ki dost F18, dono droppers hai or doing long distance right now. To unka ye relationship suru hua tha last year March ko, ladki ne usko propose kiya tha or he said yes and they came in relationship or sab sahi chal rha tha unke bich.

Or chize hamesa sahi nahi rehti thi ups and downs bi the. I mean ladki apne family ke samne kisi dusre ladke ke saath baat nahi kar skti kyuki ladki waale ki family thodi conservative hai or ladki bahar rehti hai in another state apne aunty or nadi ke saath or family issi city me hai jaha Mera dost or me hu. Or jab uski family us ladki ke pas jaati tab un dono me baate nahi ho paati thi par somehow mera dost managed that all and being patient with her.

To hua yu ki is year March ko us ladki ki family us ladki ke ghar gyi thi or around August ko gye the sayad kyuki wapas August ko hi aayi thi mere dost ke pas. They talked nicely or pehle do mahine sahi gye or October ko us ladki ka birthday bi tha to even in long distance usne meri help leke we managed to make a small but nice birthday setup or in video call they celebrated her birthday happily.

Sab sahi chal rha tha until after dussehra wo thodi distant hone lagi mere dost se idk why only God knows kyu or mere dost ko kehne lagi "can we be only friends?" Or as per mere dost ki logic wise us ladki ko ye lagta ki uske wajah se mere dost ki studies pe asar pad rha or whatever but somehow un dono ne things sort out kar diye the.

Or november ko us ladki ki family aayi thi uske pas for some days and wapas bi aa gye or saath me wo ladki ka behaviour bilkul badal hi gya as per my friend or wo keh rha tha ki wo ladki jyada tar uska koi best friend hai M21 jo us ladki ke saath school me saath bi tha uske saath jyada timespend karti hai in calls and msges and even prioritize him more than my friend or puchne pe wo mere dost ko kehti ki wo uska sirf friend hai but mera friend bohot insecure tha or hai us baat pe kyuki us ladki ne mere friend ka "I love you" ka reply dena band kar diya or even mu pe bi bol diya I love you mat bolne ko giving no explanation to my friend.

Or in December kal raat hi mere dost ne as confrontation us ladki se baat ki saying ki let's fix this all problems in us with a genuine convo or at other side us ladki ne convo se pehle hi usne keh diya mere dost ko she had enough or wo breakup karna chahti hai mere dost se. Mera friend being so shocked or hurt somehow pucha ki kya hua reason btao to after too much insist us ladki ne kaha ki mere dost ki chill waali attitude or wo ladki jo kahi bi ghumne jaaye jiske saath bi jaaye even ladka bi ho saath me Mera dost jyada react nahi karta or that's the reason wo breakup kar rahi. Mere dost ne in reply bola usko ki usne sirf is liye itna react nahi kiya kyuki usko us ladki pe bohot trust hai or is liye he's pretty confident wo ladki uspe cheat nahi karegi but ladki Maan ne se rahi or said breakup karna hai usse or as a friend rehne pe baat fix huyi un dono me.

Mera dost somehow ab bi chahta hai to win her back kyuki he love her truly but he don't know how. Mene usse kaha bi bhul usko aage badh jaa lekin wo maane tab na. I also understand him ki uske liye ye aasaan nahi hai but as a good friend I want to help him. So yaaro give some genuine serious advice ki kya karna chahiye abhi usko right now or share this post more taaki mere friend ki help ho jaaye.

Or yaaro one more thing point to be noted, wo bohot jyada sensitive hai even told me about su!c!dal things karne ki baat usko aa rahi dimag me after this or somehow mene samjha ke control me rakha hai usko. So yaaro help kardo mere friend ki with some genuine serious advice ki kya kare wo abhi.

TLDR: My friend was in relationship with a girl but suddenly for some reason she broke up from her side but my friend couldn't move on want to win her back again and asked me what to do.

I have a girlfriend since 3 years whom I wanted to marry. I know that she loves me but she doesn't show it often. Also there is caste difference due to which she is worried if her family will accept or not. Thats why she is sometimes bitter to me. Recently I went to a solo trip where I met another girl. She is quite like my girlfriend but she is also bold and strong. I did not tell her that I am committed. I fell for her and we kissed each other. Next day in the trip she started discussion of marriage. I could not stop myself from discussing about it. Now I am back from the trip. I don't know how to move ahead. I know I have done wrong. I just want love.

Please help me to deal with the situation.

I am against grand weddings because we come from a middle-class background. Both my girlfriend and I are in government jobs, and I believe there’s no point in pretending to be something we’re not. The main reason behind grand weddings is to show off wealth and make people think you're rich, which doesn't align with our reality.

For me, a wedding is not about a lavish party; it's about honoring customs, culture, and the symbol of joining society as a married couple. In my area most wealthy people like politicians, usually avoid grand weddings bcz many people can't be invited in the grand wedding. Real happiness is when all your family is together enjoying and giving you blessings for new journey of your lives. I tried to make my girlfriend understand it but she got angry saying it's my dream. How can it be a dream. Spending all your savings just to pretend.

How to make her understand this?

I feel lost in my relationships with my girlfriend and mother. This will be a long post, and I need some solid advice.

I am a 29-year-old man in a relationship with my best friend, who is also 29. We have been best friends for 14 years and have been in a romantic relationship for the past 2 years. I moved to the U.S. in 2018 to pursue my studies and currently work a stable job.

I am a single-parent child and lost my father at a young age when I was 12. After that, my mother raised both me and my sister, who is now 26 and studying here in the U.S. My mother faced many challenges after my father's death, particularly financial problems. She sold her gold and our properties to pay for our college and university fees, doing everything on her own with no help from anyone.

Since getting a job, I have been able to provide a stable life for my mother and sister, and I am happy to take care of everything, as I deeply appreciate all the sacrifices my mother made while raising us.

When I was in 10th grade, I met my best friend, and we immediately felt a strong connection. I was a shy and introverted person, having become more introverted after my father's death, while she was extroverted. Despite our differences, we had a great bond. Unfortunately, after school, we only met in person 2-3 times, even though we lived in the same city. However, we stayed in touch by talking and checking in on each other on a monthly basis, sharing everything in our lives. She has been a significant part of my childhood.

In 2018, I went to the U.S. for my master's studies. Even while living in different countries, we maintained the same bond. Things changed in 2022 when I returned to India for a short trip, which ended up lasting a year due to issues with my U.S. visa. During this time, we grew closer, and before I left for the U.S., we confessed our feelings for each other.

After entering the relationship, I noticed that we were having a lot of fights, often every second week. She expressed that she wanted someone more expressive and extroverted, someone who could show her off. I tried to be more outgoing, sharing our moments on Instagram and during video calls with friends, even though it was challenging for me as an introvert.

We also took a trip to Europe; she came from India and I came from the U.S. for 10 days. It was a great trip, but we had a fight in the middle of the road while everyone was watching, which was traumatic for me. I tried to avoid certain topics to prevent another fight, and overall, the trip went well.

There was an incident in December 2023 where things escalated, and I had an anxiety attack. I had to take a cold water shower in the middle of the night and called my mother because I wanted someone to help ease my feelings. The next day, after our call, my mother told me to consider her just a friend and not to think too much about it. I was shocked and explained to her that it was nothing major; we had a silly argument, and I ended that conversation.

In September 2024, my girlfriend asked me to come to India and talk to my parents about our relationship, considering our age. I booked my flights and arrived in India in November, which is her birthday month. I knew it would be challenging to convince my mother to accept her due to past incidents. On the day I told my mother, we had an argument, but thankfully, my sister helped by encouraging my mother to hear my side of the story.

In the following days, we discussed why I liked my girlfriend and listened to my mother's thoughts. She was looking for someone from the US within our community, believing that this would help both of us be independent and have stable jobs. My mother suggested I look for someone who studied in the US and also had a stable job.

I explained to my mother that I loved my girlfriend and that we would manage everything together. My girlfriend is highly educated and has a good job in India, but if she plans to move abroad, I think she may need additional education in the US.

After these discussions, we went to Goa to celebrate my girlfriend's birthday and later returned home. Before I left for the US, my mother asked me to take six months to think everything over before making a decision. I agreed as she needed some time to accept our situation.

I also met my girlfriend's parents, who were supportive and expressed similar sentiments.

The day before I was supposed to leave, I got into a bike accident and injured my legs and hands. On the day I was leaving for the US, my girlfriend mentioned that her mother wanted to visit our home. This was on short notice, as they arrived at 4:30 PM, and I had to leave by 6:30 PM..

Although my mother was initially angry about the visit, it started off well. However, at one point, my mother brought up old conversations related to the trauma she experienced after my father's death, which shifted the focus away from discussing our future. Unfortunately, we were unable to make any progress on the next steps in our relationship at that time.

My girlfriend and my friend came to the airport with my mother to drop me off, but I noticed that my mother was angry and wouldn't look at my girlfriend. I was aware of everything happening but felt that if I said anything, it could be devastating, so I said goodbye to everyone and went inside early, thinking they would head home afterward.

Later, I received a call from my girlfriend. She told me that my mother had said it was a bad decision for me to come to India, which upset my girlfriend and made her cry. I assured her that I would talk to my mother once I got back to the U.S., and I apologized to her.

Things got worse when I returned to the U.S. My girlfriend was now angry and started insulting my mother and sister, claiming they were manipulating me.

Last night, December 2nd, she was extremely angry and verbally abusive towards me and my family, calling us spineless men who can’t speak up. The situation escalated quickly; she was speaking so loudly that her parents overheard. They took her phone and asked me about my intentions, to which I replied that I wanted to marry her and that I would talk to my mother about it.

However, she remained angry with me. I kept apologizing and asking her to let me discuss the situation with my mother to try to fix everything, but she refused to listen. She claimed that everyone in my family would suffer and said many hurtful things. Eventually, she blocked me. I tried to reach out to her via email, but she told me it was over and that she was done, stating she couldn't stay with a spineless man.

I cried in my office, feeling utterly lost. I don’t know what to do. I am emotionally hurt, physically affected, and mentally drained by everything that has happened. I need advice on what I should do here.?

Last post : https://www.reddit.com/r/RelationshipIndia/s/ziJPp3q3d8

Thank you everyone for the advice you gave. Firstly, I'm not blaming anyone. Not calling anyone bad or anything. Just wanted to rant.

And goshh I love reddit. No sugar coating, nothing. I needed it. I needed some scolding. Khud se toh samajh aati nahi mujhe.

And I've decided not to talk to either of them.

Turns out guy A just wanted to talk dirty (while dating someone else btw)... And he knows how I get when someone appreciates me, or says something nice to me. Khair. Leave that.

Guy B is just not for me. I like expressive guys. He's not that expressive. I mean ab toh nahi hai. Can't force him to talk to me. The more I hold on to him, the more I'm gonna get hurt. Maybe he genuinely wanted to stay just friends. And did the flirting intentionally. Idk. Zyada sochungi b nahi ab.

And thank you for the DMs as well... Don't want a guy C 😭.

Will avoid any new conversation. Especially online.

Thank you

My crush sometimes ignores me or I feel she is ignoring me if we encounter she talks. We always have deep eye contact. We exchange smile and greetings to each other. By the way I am introvert.

So, I'm (22f) really new to the relationship angles but I know a bit about what it is like. Anyway, recently, on Dec 1st, I got into a relationship with this guy (23m) whom I knew for a couple of months from the coaching centre I went to. He's a nice guy but we bicker and fight more than we're nice to each other. Roasting each other is our thing. He's so unromantic and I'm a hopeless romantic, this is our dynamic. So, just like three days into the relationship, I don't even feel like he's my boyfriend and I'm so morally confused because shouldn't I feel like he is? He texts me so less. Didn't call since our date on Dec 1st and went to sleep the moment I reached home and texted him that, it was very early but I understood that because he's working night shifts and I work day shifts- at different companies. And if these are our starting days, our honeymoon phase, shouldn't it be the opposite to what it is now? I feel like we're more of a couple who got so used to each other in their relationship and don't even talk but shouldn't this happen at a later point of our relationship? Am I doing something wrong? Sure we both decided to just give it a shot but if this is his best, I'm genuinely concerning and confused as to what I should do...

25M here in a relationship with 23F for more than a year everything's going good we both are really into each other and have been physically to couple of times but she don't want to be physically not because she isn't comfortable it just that if we don't have a future and end up breaking up then it'll be hard for her to move on from me I have said her that I'll stay with you through thick and thin why would i enter a relationship just to end it? Yea we all can say that we don't know anything about future anything can happen but you should be always be committed today which i am but I don't know what should i do so that she doesn't live in this fear. We have had this conversation a lot of times but always she gets upset with this.

I need some advice. I 23 F (from Pune) have been in a relationship with a guy 23m(also from Pune)since the past year. We're complete opposites personality wise. I'm introverted and prefer to stay indoors whereas he is extroverted and prefers to go out and spend time with others. This wasn't an issue before but since the past 2-3 months he's been going out a lot with this female friend of his who we'll refer to as C. I voiced my discomfort to him but he brushed it off the first few times. Then I started to feel that maybe I am doubting him too much and it's just a harmless friendship between a guy and a girl. But then last week I noticed him recieving late night texts at around 2am. I checked who it was as he was sleeping and it was C. Asking him where he was and why isn't he replying and all. Then I scrolled up and noticed they talked a lot. Like a lot lot. And those texts were ranging from I love yous to you're the only one who gets me and stuff. Didn't find anything explicit sexual as such but this disturbed me a lot. And I've been ruminating on this since then. Idk what to do....

21M. I am a BSc student and I’m into cybersecurity, AI-ML, full-stack development, science and technology. I want to establish a start-up in future. Psychology, philosophy, mythology, and religion interest me. I am very religious, but don't take it otherwise, I can be fun. Beyond that, my real passion lies in art—writing books, and poems, and creating art. I also enjoy cooking, playing the flute, and singing. Work out, skincare, fashion are my passtimes. Honestly, I love dabbling in just about everything!

I am looking for someone to gossip. I’ve got plenty to share, but no one to listen. Just recently I had a weird dream, but bruhh, no one to gossip about that. So, slide into my DMs only if you’re genuinely interested, have time, and share similar interests. Please, no advice about joining clubs or cafés, or posting in some other sub (this sub is my last resort) and no one-sided interactions. If you’re just scrolling or can’t invest your time, feel free to move along. Please don't DM out of sympathy.

I (20M) and my gf(20F) have been in Idr for past 7 yrs.we were broke up like a year ago due to some disturbances and get back together a few months ago.we decided to meet .I came to home from the clg for meeting her. As planned she wants to meet me one day after she attended her interview.I started at early 5 in the moring on bike about to cover 65 km to meet her.on the day before, she called me saying that she wanted to bring her friend aslo.I said no.actually she is actually mutual class mate of ours during our 10th standard.I said I couldn't feel comfortable.if you think she is going to feel bad, I said her to just inform that we are going. Don't even ask her casually to come with us. But she asked her and she said yes.we went to temple on that day and went on shopping. We couldn't even say love you infornt of her.after that day I wanted to tell her that I want to meet her another day after she completed her mis exams.so we could have some privacy.she said if possible we will meet.yesterday she attended her last mid exam which had ended at 3:30pm.she said i want to go home.I told her to stay in the hostel for one day. Tomorrow I will pick up you and leave you at ur home town. But she went home. Am i too obsessed?

I'm a 24M who’s barely dated. A bad relationship at 17-18 left me with trauma, and I’ve avoided dating since, never feeling any girl was the 'right one.' I either don’t approach or end things early if I feel it won’t work.

Talking to women online has helped, but I’m losing patience. I’m romantic yet inexperienced—I’ve never even had a kiss. I want my firsts to be with the 'right one,' but I might give in and settle randomly out of frustration.

I also have a lot of fantasies but am shy and inexperienced. This duality is polarizing for me, and my repressed emotions haven’t been expressed properly. I want to set a goal for myself to have a girlfriend by 25, to feel confident, and to attract someone I truly like.

How do I align my mindset and navigate these emotions?

So, this girl i am dating. Tbh is a bit immature and entitled. No i am not being a mysogynist here but the reality.

She comes from a family who deals with construction, so has some cash load balance(iykyk). So in short they spend a lot on things..

She doesn’t have a job yet and i hardly think she would like to continue with the job later in life. Maybe assume her max salary(given the role she’s going for) will fetch max 10-15LPA..

I am someone who’s earning around 34LPA..

I have my parents house, which is not bad and being renovated too.

And she’s demanding me to buy a 2-3 crore triplex, which is financially not possible for me. I mean yes i can buy and pay the emis, but at what cost? I wont be able to spend luxuriously if i do that unless i get somewhere around 3-4 lakhs per month. Which is highly unlikely given the current market scenario, atleast for 7-8 years more…

I told her this and she says my parents will spend a lot on the weddings and this is expected from you.

She said ask your parents to pay half and you pay half and take loan.. I am astonished. Is this a right mentality? Or me being an idiot by continuing with this girl?

So I'll tell a Lil about myself first. I'm a doctor. Preparing for MD now. And I'll say it gets a Lil lonely when you're at home, all by yourself. And during this time, idk how many people I've talked to. But talking is something and developing a liking towards someone is different.

So I met this guy A on cod. Got to know him, became friends fast. He produces music. But he's a nice guy. I like him as a person. Developed a Lil crush on him. Told him about it. And he was very mature about it. He said what every other guy says "I'm not in the right space rn. What you have for me is not liking. You just fancy me. I want to be in touch with you. But I can't date anyone right now". We were still friends though. Used to play, talk.

During that time I met another guy B. On a telegram group. Reminded me of someone I was involved with in college. That was also a situationship which didn't end well. But I felt like he was the male version of me. He was talkative, he was funny. Didn't like his looks at first, but as time passed, it felt like he was my prince charming... So handsome. So I invited him to the game as well. I thought he's just like me. Maybe we can become good friends. We talked a lottt. He was a bgmi player and I was a COD player. But still he used to play with me. He used to say "mai tere liye aata hu khelne bas, agar tu baat hi nahi karegi toh kya fayda". And in case I invite anyone else, then also he used to get jealous. Ki mat bulaya kar dusro ko. I told him about guy A. He asked me to stop talking to him. Because he's not good for me. And he's saying this because he cares for me. So I listened to him stopped talking to him.

And things were going well. And suddenly he started to distance himself. Not just from me, but from everyone. And I also did a few things which made him feel like I'm dramatic, and childish. Anyway, I can't change how he thinks. But he said I'm just like everyone else. So that makes me questions, does he flirt with every girl he knows, does he call them, does he video call them, does he get jealous of them. Like wtf. Maine shayad galat samajh liya uski baato ko. Maine shayad iske concern ko jealousy samajh liya.

Khair... After some time he started flirting with someone new. On the same group he used to flirt with me. Turns out he has been flirting with other girls on other groups as well. Har group pe ek bandi thi uski. And mujhe laga I'm special. Anyway, so decided to stop talking to him. And move forward.

Now the twist comes. Today is day 1 of me trying not to talk to him at all. Yesterday he saved all my snaps. Pretty useless snaps. I wanted I ask why, but I didn't. Don't wanna initiate a conversation. Today he send me some video, to which I replied, and usually he takes hours to reply to my texts, today he did instantly. I wanted to talk more, but I didn't.

And GUY A TEXTED ME SAYING "I MISS YOU" Behenchod timing dekho. wtf. Like where were you pehle. Why are you coming back now.

Okay maybe he just wants to be friends with me. But idk... He has soooooo many friends. He's one of those cool kids. And I just a boring doctor. Why miss me ? I'm not even that interesting. Ugh

Okay aaj ke liye itna hi

TL; DR - guy A met me, talked to me, and said he wants to stay friends. Guy B came, acts jealous and lovey dovey, but doesn't say whathe wants. And guy A comes back in life after guy B leaves.

My girlfriend (19F) and I (20M) are planning a movie date, and we both kind of have a thing for making out in theaters. If things heat up, we’re even considering taking it a bit further. For anyone who’s done it before—was it chill? Like, would the theater staff actually care or cause trouble if they caught us? And what should we keep in mind to not get into any awkward situations?

I think I'm a very old-minded person. I don't like it when people wear such types of clothes. So the thing here is, my gf goes to a coaching and many events happen every month. This time there's this event and she's wearing a full bodycon (they're body fit, right?). I think that kind of tight dress isn't appropriate for such places. I mean, it isn't a party or something. No one else there wears these kinds of clothes except her.

I know it's not a good thing to tell someone what kind of clothes one should wear, but I get very uncomfortable whenever I try to think about it. She has already told me multiple times she likes to dress up but I don't think every time it's necessary to do that, and now it's a step further with these kinds of clothes.

My friend lost 4 lakhs in trading and he has alot of debts piled up credit card bills, emi etc etc.

He is struggling i can see that, but i feel very hopless as i cannot do anything for him except for offering support.

I feel like he is slowly fading away and i am afraid if he takes any wrong step, so i check in with him daily but he acts like everything if fine but i can sense that he is not fine and he is hurting in deep.

I feel so hopless, what can i do to help him? i dont think my words are reaching him or they are enough for him

I tried to make him laugh , but that lasts only few minutes.

i have never felt as hopless as of now, pls tell me all the ways i can help him, i would be very grateful.

TIA

PS: He is in talk with a advocate and trying to figure things out, but he is still very worried about the whole situation

So.. first of all, as i am typing this, i am not at all sad about anything. Infact, idk, i just feel like laughing about the whole thing. So.. i subtly told this girl that i like her and in response to this, she told me that she just doesn't want a relationship right now and then she gave me a bunch of reasons about why i shouldn't date her. She specifically mentioned that she doesn't want to ruin our friendship. Now, here's the funny thing. I asked her if i could call her cutie or with any other term of endearment and to this she replied that she likes it when i call her that. So.. i do. She also comes and hangs out with me, like only the two of us. Like i mean, she did this twice in the three weeks that we've been talking for. First was normal, the other day it was my birthday. I also don't have a bunch of friends, so is she doing all this out of pity? Like just to make me feel better. But i really don't need this, so..

She's even up all night talking to me. 3 in the morning is common, sometimes it's upto 6/7. I also jokingly tell her that she broke my heart and all that, and to this, she just says that i can find much better girls. And she sometimes act very needy and wants me to just keep talking to her because apparently even she doesn't have a whole bunch of friends. She talks in baby language about how i shouldn't be lying to her.

oh and one more thing. we also talked about how she still talks to her ex as a "friend" and i don't. I'm pretty fine with being just friends because she's one heck of a friend. But idk what's going on here? when i asked her why she straight away denied, she said that she likes me like a friend and not in the "love" way. but she said it in a very weirdly pitched voice. I also constantly talk to her about how she should've been my gf but she never seemed to take any offence about it. Am i overthinking the whole thing?😂

or do i have to read between the lines?

I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 months, told my family about her, she also told her family about me, was thinking about marrying her.

Realised that it just won’t workout between us, now I’m getting desperate for attention that she used to gave me, all of my friends told me she is not the one, ignoring all the red flags i decided to give it a shot.

Bc pookie nhi banna ab, toxic hi theek hoo.

Zomato at 10 pm is like "Make love not food" 🫠😂😂

I have been crushing over this girl whom I met at work. I exchanged numbers with her almost a month ago. Our workplace is not a typical office cuboid or something like that, it is very much public place. So basically what I am saying is that you can't talk freely or at times can't talk at all without other people with extremely nosy & making a mountain of a molehill. (It's a fairly backward thinking type of city)

Anyways back to it, I have been chatting with her, her replies have been short but at workplace when I see her, her eyes are like hooked on with mine. Not to forget her beautiful smile.

So on Friday I asked her out anyday of weekend to which she replied she was busy coz she had to study for exams. (Yes there's an exam this month I gave it too few yrs ago). Wasn't sure about Sunday & since work came up on Sunday, I didn't texted her either.

But late last night she texted something back to a reel I sent her and since it was extremely unlike of our previous conversations so I texted "that today a miracle happened since you texted this time of the day"

No reply came to this so even later in night I uploaded a WA status (only for her) which was a meme on the line of "She ignoring me. Me still putting in efforts knowing she's ignoring me". I checked it and saw that she viewed it in the morning. But my message from earlier night was unread till 11 am. After that I Didn't get a chance to see WA.

At work today I saw her, she saw Me; but she went on coz she was with her coworker and it was crowded place. (This happens a lot)

Now when I got back home, I checked WA, there was the usual 1 word reply "Achcha". But on her status update (which she rarely uploads, atleast with Me I think) she uploaded this beautiful pic of her with bgm music (maine khud ko - ragini mms2).

I just want to reply to her that "hey CBI is looking for you. The Cuteness Bureau of Investigation" or with that SRK om shanti om falling meme. But I don't know how or what to do!!!!!!

How should I respond to this? Should I respond to it? Did she upload this just for Me or in general or for someone else?

Is she even interested in Me or have I been creeping her out all along??

PS - why are romantic things so complicated in life?

THE ONLY REASON I'M POSTING ABOUT THIS IS BECAUSE I WANT YOU ALL TO BE SAFE THAT'S IT.. I got dm of a girl... Long story short she was HE.. What's wrong with people Pagal hoagye hai kya log..itna neech kaise ho skata hai koi... You girls be safe please...

I'm just angry right now..ye kya tarika hua.. Now how would I trust someone if they are genuine or faking to be someone else.. Hadd hoti hai...

Jo log keh rahe hai ki itna kya hoagya ki post karna ho raha... Tum khud bhi yahi sab karte ho kya?

Here's the thing. There is a girl, 2yrs junior to me at college. I recruited her into a college media platform team I was heading 1.5 yrs back; and since then we've been in touch; but not so often. She looks at me as a senior only, gives respect. But we've had some fun convo when we both have ranted about our college and course.

Now to this particular conversation: I'd replied to her back in early November in a conversation, but she suddenly ghosted me. Didn't reply for the next 15-20 days. Now since I know she's a junior and I should respect boundaries and limits, I never double text her or stretch the conversation more than necessary.

Last week she came back and apologized that she completely missed my text and forgot to reply. Knowing that she might take me for granted if I reply instantly (I feel I've to maintain a certain level of authority as a senior) so I didn't reply for a week.

I replied today, where I said:

Me: You should be sorry! Looks like your immediate seniors haven't taught you that you don't take more than 15mins to reply to a super senior's text! (I added at the end to make it sound more sarcastic and less offensive)

She: ji sorry sorry)

ji maafi maafi (T: Yes yes,

Me: Aisi maafi se thodi chalega! (T: Such apology won't do)

To which she replied;

She: I'll do whatever you say to redeem myself; but you're hardly free right...

Now the thing is, she's attractive and beautiful, and I would atleast want to tell her that, maybe ask her out on a date? But I'm not sure how to do it, plus how to get out from the senior's image from her mind.

So guys, what will be a good, mildly flirty, but harmless reply to this, so that she knows I'm kinda interested in her, but not enough for her to creep out!?

I need opinion on something that has been getting me confused

I know I am a smooth talker with girls and I am great at interaction in-person but online is not my cup of tea and due to which I am not able to get girls and also due to past encounters now I have become a man who doesn't like to share his feelings (trust me I am writing this with mixed thoughts)

Also I am that boy who cares for people and loses his value give me some guidance on that too

I (21M) need advice and support for relationship issues (family and love)

Hey y’all, first post on this subreddit

I (21M) just recently graduated from university. I studied in Malaysia. Come from a middle class family. Lost my scholarship in sem 1 due to average performance. Family somehow managed to pay for tuition and manage my expenses here. For context, we were your average delhi family, grandfather was a govt employee and we were 9 people in a 2 bedroom apartment. Dad struck rich in 2016 when he started his own business. Amassed a lot of savings as we barely indulged in a fancy lifestyle. Had enough to send me abroad, albeit the fees in Malaysia is comparable to unis like Jindal and Symbiosis and living expenses is less than Mumbai.

Business shut down in 2022 and he has exhausted all his savings trying to manage my tuition as well as my sisters who goes to a really expensive filmmaking school in mumbai. I begged him to let me continue in Malaysia as we dont automatically get a graduate work visa like in other countries. I got a new scheme visa that allows graduates from 25 select countries to work PART TIME/TRAINEE roles.

A lot of strife in my family due all this considering how expensive everything was getting. My motivation was to further my career abroad before going back to get exposure in an international environment as its a once in a lifetime opportunity. My other reason was my girlfriend (21F). Shes an NRI from Thailand. We have been living together since May until now since she went back to Thailand for her sem break.

I have been taking care of all our expenses while continuously finding an internship. It took a while and she was very supportive, but idk what went wrong. A month ago she cheated on me when she went clubbing and then proceeded to go on a date w that dude and lied to me abt it. It was very ugly. I cussed her out a lot because I fought w my parents to stay in Malaysia and i’ve devoted so much time, money and emotions into this woman. I am not justifying my reaction. I am deeply ashamed of how I reacted and I am working on improving my temper. But this was the first time I ever raised my voice at her. I asked her if she still loved me and she said yes, she only did it because she needed a distraction and I somewhat get what she means cuz we were having quite a lot of arguments. I don’t condone cheating however and we ended things. Well, I forgave her but she still went along cuz she needed to heal and I agree, I do too.

Our parents knew abt each other, but she told her mom I cussed her out and now her mom is super mad at me but still wants her to live with me, i take the couch. I pay 35K INR for rent and she takes care of the wifi, electricity and water bills which is around 7K monthly.

I can’t leave her stranded but at the same time I dont know if I can go through with seeing her with a diff man again esp when we’re sharing a house. It took me so long to get a job but I finally managed to land an internship at a VERY BIG MNC. I start tmr (hybrid conditions with only Wednesdays and Thursdays WFO).

The pay is okay for an internship, 28k INR when converted but that doesn’t even cover my rent. I just feel very lost and like a burden on my family and with all the other shit, I just really need advice on what to do. I don’t want to take therapy yet because I am starting my job tmr and Id have to disclose it. I can’t risk blowing my job cuz I disclosed that I haven’t been facing any mental health issues.

PS. Sorry for the repost, figured the rules out.

When I was in my early teens I had crush on this one guy he was so beautiful..his eyes.. lips..face everything was just perfect...I could stare at him for hours without blinking he was that beautiful He was older than me and I was never interested in approaching him.. He used to wait for me when I used to come back from school just to have glimpse of me.. that sweet innocent puppy love..we communicated through eyes.. never spoke to each other..

I fell in love with him during winters so since then I always associate winters with love..and new beginnings in my life.. When I got bit older I confessed my feelings and he confessed he felt same but things didn't work out due to age gap and some other factors... The kind of heartbreak I went through with him was so bad..it made me sick..I cried so much I got 100+ degree fever that night..the pain in my heart was so hurtful..so bad it made me forget the pain in my body due to fever...I lost all of my hope and faith in God..I asked God why all these happened to me..the kind of pain that makes you think nothing is left in this life anymore..body mind and soul everything feels empty..and life feels purposeless I wish I could hug my younger self..

Now that guy is married with this beautiful woman..she is extremely gorgeous and sweet.. They recently had a baby boy..that little buddy got his eyes and lips so beautiful may God bless him.. My heart felt blessed seeing him being the father he always wanted to be..and coincidentally the baby name I chose for my future baby I never shared that name with anybody... He kept that name..how magical that coincidence is...

Now I look back and see how much I have healed and moved on from near death wala heartbreak experience when I felt lost and hopeless.. Now here I'm seeing him become the best kind of husband and father and my heart is just filled with joy seeing him getting everything he always prayed for...

I prayed for him always.. my love for him has always been unconditional.. seeing him happy I'm beyond happy..

People who are going through heartbreak I would just say...you will move on one day for sure and yess you will fall in love again have faith okay?

Hey everyone somedays ago i got a notification from snapchat that someonesent you a text or snap- something like that . This is what i usually recieve and whenever i clicked on them it opened nothing.. so some days ago my crush was using my phone ( I love her more than anything) we were at train .. at that time the notification appear suddenly that ❤️s❤️ sent you a story or snap like that - at that time i thought that she might know that its fake notification that snapchat usually send so i also didn't tell her anything but after some hour she told me that she thought it was some other girl who send me a snap then i tried to make her understand that its just a fake notification but she didn't believe on me 🙂 she said she understand but i know that she didn't believe on me ! ( I love her more than anything and i dont want her to misunderstood me) -----

Guys now tell me why snapchat do that to me by sending this freakinggg fake notification

I’m a 27-year-old male with a stable income. Recently, my family started searching for a match for me and introduced me to a 23-year-old woman. We had an arranged marriage meeting where we discussed various topics, and I feel most of my concerns were addressed. I believe she also gained clarity about me. However, the 4-year age gap between us has been on my mind, and I’m unsure if it could be an issue in the long run. Can this work out? I’d appreciate some good suggestions.

I matched with a girl on a dating app two weeks ago , had a long conversation till 5am ,later moved on insta.

(About me : never been in a relationship, no casuals, and signed up on dating apps to search for a long term relationship a month ago)

She's cute and yaps a lot , I was shocked to see her voice notes , was something new for me ( it was her yapping lol) . She had an ex whom she broke up with as he cheated on her , she was saying she's attempted to give up on life once, and is now taking therapy sessions.

(She mentioned she was ready to live with him even if he didn't loved her just be with him)

Has daddy issues , says dad is emotionally unavailable and blamed her as she's just acting because her grades are falling. She flirts with me but half of the time I don't even understand if I'm a side chick of her's or she's actually flirting or just wants to be friends or whatever. (for me she's like a cindrella princess, Out of my league, even when compared to her ex I would be a clown 🤡)

I feel like I've missed out on a lot of things in life as she was telling about her friends and shit. Literally people of my batch spent their teenage grinding, studying never had time for other things. She says love is blind and can happen at any age I tried to argue it's just attraction and how can you imagine a life with someone when you just passed out 10th . (She had a male bestfff who was her ashiq at a time and she rejected him to be with her ex and now he has got gf but both are still bestffs 🙂)

Calls me bro, sends me reels of girls saying let's simp on them together, I'll find someone good for you , I had a friend who'd be a perfect match for you .

I'm so confused at this point , what does she actually want from me , today she randomly texted if she should call her situationship and enquire about him as he funked his government exam. Man we're flirting above and now you come up with this . I told her it's her choice do whatever she wants.

I've already the deleted the dating apps , all the girls I matched with are just outta their relationships now looking for long term relationships Trauma dumping, what should I do with the useless info of your ex 😭, how you spent special moments with him.

TL;DR: Matched with a girl, vibed at first, but now it’s all mixed signals. She flirts, calls me “bro,” trauma dumps about her ex and therapy, and talks about her situationship. I feel she's out of my league and completely confused about what she wants. Deleted the dating apps—what do I even do now?

Been in the AM game from about 2 years now, almost all the girls that have approached me, ghosted me for reasons unknown.

I have a home , car , good income in a tier-1 city, for that matter.

Are you already in relationships, is basically my question?

If Yes,

Please tell your father, he is desperately trying to find a match for you, respect his efforts

Don't keep him in delusion.