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I am 27(f).I've been talking to a guy (M/30) for around 3 months , he's a nice guy as a person but I don't feel anything for him, besides, he's not my type.i like people who are fitness freak, concious about health. He's none of that. Now I am 27 don't know when will I get my perfect man!! I am not desperate though. But should I keep him just because he could be a good partner?? Isn't it morally wrong?? I could give it more time & see how it works but since it's been 3 months & no feeling for him,I can't assure that I will develop feeling for him . Should I just be with someone because of his handsome salary & he's good as a person?? Isn't it wrong that I don't desire him & still fooling around with him??

I’m 27… okay not yet.. but I get there in less than a month. I’d like to think I’m smart, and pretty (at least to the ones that love me)

Had my fair share of attention from the guys… but realised a long time ago I didn’t swing their way. I’ve always been a girl’s gurl ✨

Knew when I was 16, accepted it at 26 :’)

But ever since, I’ve never dated. Not one, not half, not even a situation-ship. Amazing luck I tell you. Always fallen for the straight ones… mostly a best friend who’s gone out to know I felt a certain way about them, and did their best to get me through it…

And now here I am, turning 27 like I said, and a virgin… in every sense of the word.

Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not waiting to get into bed. I don’t miss that cause I don’t even know what it’s supposed to feel like.

But what I miss the most is the lack of romantic love - I have no clue what that feels like. 27 years later, I don’t know what it feels like to be held or loved physically

And because of the lack of it, I fantasise the hell out of it. Hopeless romantic if you haven’t already figured. And so…. I miss it more than I should. You know that feeling when you’ve never had it, and so you want it SO BAD…! Sucks big time :(

And in the mean while you’ve got all these feelings for a really good friend who’s… taken. But these feelings, they’re barely taken. They’re sitting here with me, cause I have no where else to let them go… and so it’s just getting heavier…. And some days I offload, tiny little pieces, in the form of ‘friendship’… but on other days, those pieces are handed back… and it gets heavier than before (thankfully I’m in love with quite the gem of a human…)

Anyone here relate?

My girlfriend has 2 Instagram accounts. The first one is her real account and the second one is her fake account. We had a fight in between due to which she unfollowed me from both her accounts. When things settled down she followed me from her real account but not from the fake one. Later when I sent a request on the fake account she did not even look at it, accepting is like shouting from another galaxy. Then I did not pay much attention but today when I saw, she has put her photo on her fake account but not on the real account. When I last saw, she had followed many boys from her fake account and many boys were following her. Should I ask her this? Because if I ask then this will definitely lead to a fight and she will feel that I do not trust her. What should I do? (also forget to mention that these days her behaviour is soo changed. She used to be rude many times but in these days she is treating me like prince charming) (btw we are in long distance relationship)

Basically the title. Everyone is ready to get triggered and lash at you instead of having a civil conversation. Isn’t the point of dating apps to find people who match your preference. But its like you are not even allowed to have a preference!! Replies from women only.

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Hello everyone, this is my first post on reddit.

So i am 25M(5'11' with average looks or not sure) working as software engineer in one of the good company and earning decent, I've never been to any relationship my whole life and never touched a women like holding hands etc, I used to like one girl in college but couldn't ask her out and now she is nowhere to be found

I've never had any courage to ask any women out, I don't know why, I am not close with family much as i was sent to boarding school since i was a kid so most of my life went in hostel, I don't have any close friend, i do have 1-2 good friends who're there most of the time, All my life i've done most of the things alone and i've had really tough time throughout. I've always believed that someday, i'll have someone but now looking at future it seems impossible, i don't believe in online dating or anything hence i haven't tried it yet.

I spend most of my time building my side hustle idea, i run long distance marathons which helps me being mentally tough than any other people around, I tried to find someone to date seriously in banglore but i couldn't find anyone who want serious relationship, i am not into hook ups and i am not okay with someone who does the same, I feel like i worth more than that thing,

I don't know what to do, most of the time i don't feel lonely but sometimes in middle of the night, it haunts me, It freaks me out and I go for run to calm my self down,

Any advice to find someone who is serious in banglore?

The (worst) part of adulting is people drifting apart. A Times when there was a strong bond that you would do everything together but now even wishing on their birthday feels a task. Have felt it twice recently.

First incident with a cousin which was part of a 3 person strong bond where we had planned life together, careers, schooling, future. She had her birthday yesterday but I didn't feel the urge to wish her. She recently had internship in Bangalore and I made all the arrangements for her but to my utter surprise there was no thank you, no call afterwards. As if me making all the efforts don't count. Alas.

Second incident is with someone I had planned to spend my entire life, literally. I made career switch keeping her in mind, moved back to hometown just to make her feel comfortable living around her parents. But life had different plans..

I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend since last 3 years. Some context: Its been LDR for majority of period, she resides in BLR, I live in Delhi. We meet frequently, can say at an interval of 1-1.5 months.

The thing is now both our families know about our relationship, and I have even met with her family once. She wants to get married next year, but I still feel I want 2 more years for myself - for career growth/ travel and moreover my elder sister is still unmarried ( biggest concern). She knows about this but keeps on pressurising me that what if your sister doesn’t get married next year also, gf is not ready to wait and says we should get married by then and cannot wait for long. Moreover her parents are so ready and excited that they have started calling my mom and me to wish on festivals/ birthday as if we are at final stage before marriage.

All this is creating so much stress on me, Im not able focus on myself, nor Im able to plan anything for career or personal life. It seems like some time bomb is ticking, which will explode in just 1 year.

I have clearly communicated everything to her, and we have had enormous fights due to this. We even were on verge of separation few months back and LDR and marriage timeline was one of the reason for it. But we share such a strong bond and love for each other, we decided to continue.

So the situation is I’m under constant pressure and feeling low and mental health is shattered right now, not able to think anything. Suggestions and advice are welcome!

Just wanted to share the pain I’m feeling deep down. I’m 23 (M) and never had a perfect family. My father was abusive and a heavy drinker. Since I was a child, I always saw him beating and cursing my mother, being extremely strict, so I never developed any love for him, just fear. I used to be really scared of him. As I grew older, I stopped feeling that fear, but I never developed respect for him either. Now, it’s been 4-5 years since I last spoke to him, even though we live in the same house. In fact, he doesn’t talk to any of the family members but often curses us, saying things like “go die” or “throw yourself under a train.”

My brother, who is 26 now, and I never got along, mostly because he’s always acted like he has some authority over me. He never tried to be friendly and instead took after my father, strict and overbearing. When I was young, I was afraid of him too, and that fear has stuck with me. Now, at 26, he’s unemployed and has become an alcoholic. For the past 2-3 years, he’s been drinking daily, probably because his joblessness makes him feel depressed. He keeps his room locked all the time, wakes up around 2 p.m., eats his meal around 4 or 5, goes out, and comes back drunk around 11 p.m. or midnight, keeping my mother awake to open the door for him. I suspect he’s struggling, but I can’t help him because he’s super aggressive and can’t control his anger. If you try to show him the reality of his situation, his first instinct is to fight.

My mother, whom I love a lot, is someone I’m sadly starting to feel distant from as well. She has begun enabling my brother. She borrows money from me and gives it to him. I have a job, and every month I give her some money to spend on herself, but not once has she used it that way; it always ends up in my brother’s hands for drinking. For the past couple of months, I haven’t given her any money. She’s a housewife and doesn’t have a good relationship with my father, so it feels wrong to not help her. But at the same time, I feel that whatever I give her will indirectly go to my brother. Now, it seems like she loves my older brother more than me, even though he’s in debt and struggling. This has led me to feel less affection for her as well.

My sister is decent, but since she got a boyfriend, we’ve grown apart. I gave her space, and in doing so, we just lost the connection we used to have.

As a family, we don’t communicate with each other unless it’s absolutely necessary, and I feel like everything is falling apart.

I have my own issues, but I’ve invested time in learning skills, and now they’re paying off for me. For the past few years, I’ve tried so hard to help my siblings start something—to learn a skill like coding, motion design, or video editing—so that they’d have something to do besides waiting for a government job or scrolling through social media all day. None of them listened or invested any time in learning anything beyond their formal education. Now, I kind of look down on them for that.

We’re just a family that lives together like people in a hostel. I barely exchange a word with my siblings in a day. It makes me sad to see everything falling apart, but I don’t feel like there’s anything I can do. Every festival that comes reminds us/me of how distant we as a family are. And I feel this dysfunctionalism started with my father, if he was different, bit loving, things could’ve been different

So my bfs university best friends wedding is today . My bf being abroad wasn’t able to attend. So we were on meet online talking while one of his frnds called from the wedding on his phone . I could hear their conversations nd everything he did in front of me while I was on meet on his laptop. So during his convo they were like one of his friend is just getting the girls drunk and setting them like “ x and y to bandiyon ko daru pila k set kr rhe h “ the girls from brides side I guess . And it made me wonder if my bf could go , wouldn’t he be accompanying his friend too ? I mean I wouldn’t even know and he would have been flirting and drinking w girls ! ? Am I overthinking? Or do guys in these situations stay out of these situations if they’re committed?or just accompany and go along w their friends !?

So, me 20M and my GF 20F (both hindu) were in relationship for the last 3 years. Things were smooth throughout and there were little fights for time and attention sometimes. 3 Months Back she took admission in the same college as mine, in the very beginning we were spending good time but then she started roaming around with other guys and started responding to me very late.

She's very close to a Muslim Guy (2.5 year older than her) When I asked her about the same she said that she doesn't feel the same with me and is not happy with me anymore. She then suddenly said she wanted to break-up with me and stated that it's not because of the "Muslim Guy" but her personal decision. I don't think the same because the whole day she stays with him roams in his car and she seems to ve very cosy with him. He could hold her by her wasit and she didn't even flinch.

I remember that my GF used to be very close to me and don't let sny other guy roam around her. But IDK what happened in these 20-30 days that she forgot her 3 year old relationship and blocked me from everywhere and still continuing to be with that guy terming it as only friendship and nothing more than that.

That Muslim Guy is kindof local gunda and always roams around in a group of 4-7 Boys of the same type. Also my GF (currently ex) is the only girl in the groups of 4-5 Boys, I'm genuinely do concerned about her but she doesn't seems to give a fuck about me rn.

IDK what to do now, please help.

edit: why im so concerned about this girl is because she's my childhood friend (almost 10years) and then later became my girlfriend. we were very happy & compatible sexually as well. So I lost a good friend & girlfriend because of a guy who came just a month back in her life.

(Sorry for the weird title, I tried to put as much details as I could 😅.)

So, I was going on a trip with my friend, we wanted to play uno, uno is not fun with only 2 people, so I searched who we could play with, there was this girl who was travelling alone, I asked her. We played and talked for a few hours.

She was going to her university. So, after reaching the destination we exchanged insta IDs, and parted ways.

My friend later told me that he thinks she liked me, I also thought the same but I don't trust myself with such instincts, esp when I also liked her, she was smart, nice and cute.

We talked a little over insta, for a day or two, that's it. (I am not a text person.)

One month has passed, I don't want to not-try talking to this person, I rarely like people now a days. My another friend also suggested me to try talking to her.

Now, my guess is she will be coming to my city on the way to her university after diwali holidays.

Should I try approaching her, or this will be too much too late? If I should, how? What can I ask her. I don't want to be a creep or sound like despo. I don't want to make it a proper date, I would prefer going out as friends only.

Please share your opinion, and suggestions for me, also feel free to ask anything, or critique me.

Hi everyone,

I’m a 28-year-old male, and I’ve been in a loving relationship with my girlfriend, who is 25, for the past 1.5 years. We both work in the software industry, earning around 1.5 lakhs per month. Our relationship started at work, and we’ve built a strong connection.

Recently, we decided to inform our parents about our intention to marry. My parents were supportive and agreed, but my girlfriend's father has strongly opposed the idea. Here are the reasons he provided:

1. Cultural Differences: He believes that our cultures are different and worries about how his daughter will adjust to life in Maharashtra, especially since we speak Marathi and they speak Telugu. However, my parents understand Hindi and can communicate in Hindi.
2. Caste Concerns: He fears that marrying outside of their caste will lead to societal backlash. He mentioned that this could impact his other daughter, who is currently in engineering, as potential suitors may be deterred.
3. Rituals and Customs: He expressed concerns about the customs and rituals associated with their caste, questioning how they would be maintained in our wedding.
4. Societal Acceptance: He mentioned that society wouldn’t accept an inter-caste marriage and that no one would attend the wedding.

He has made it clear that he has no intention of discussing marriage with my parents and has threatened to leave the house if she chooses to marry me.

I feel helpless in this situation. We both love each other, but the pressure from her family and the societal implications are overwhelming. I would appreciate any advice on how to navigate this situation. Has anyone faced something similar? How did you handle it?

Thank you for reading.

So we are having breakfast together, my MIL, husband and I. And she's asking how we are managing our day to day life. I compalined about my husband and it's a very fun discussion where she's pressing him and we all are joking. Suddenly, she revealed that while convincing his family for our marriage my husband once threatened to elope if they are not agreeing. My MIL wasn't on board at first because I come from a different state, community, caste (and beauty standard; all my in laws are criminally good looking and unnecessarily fair😅, including my husband. I on the other hand am dark skinned and unremarkable except to my husband). Now my husband is not overly emotional type and I always had the idea that he was calm and rational while discussing our relationship with his family.

Yesterday on our way to airport I teased my husband about his elpoing threat and he gave a long stare and said "you know I would have done it". It was a cozy moment. :)

You can share your recent warm moments in the comments.

I love my wife, she loves me. This rant is not about infidelity. It's about a guy who just can't mind his own business. My wife and I have been married for 11 years and have a loving and transparent relationship. She was dating this guy in college and they broke up because he was abusive and controlling and she caught him cheating on her with another girl. He wanted to stay friends with her and she stayed neutral because she had to see him everyday back then. Later she blocked him as she graduated. I met my wife 3 years after their separation and she told me everything about him quite early on. After we got engaged, found her contact from some sources and wanted to attend our wedding and he invited her to his wedding and claimed in his message that he can't be happy without her presence during his wedding and he was begging her to attend his wedding for the sake of his happiness. She blocked him again without replying. We got married and life went on and fast forward 11 years after our wedding and 15 years after their breakup, last week, she started getting messages through email from him asking about her well being and all the messages included him talking about the memories about when they were together and how beautiful she still looks after all these years. My wife did not reply to any of that and showed me the emails that so that I am not in the dark about anything and blocked him again.

I trust my wife and I'm not worried about her trying to establish any communication with that man behind my back but I'm genuinely confusef and curious on why this guy is acting this way after so many years. It's just curiousity and I'm not doubting my wife. I've lived with her for enough years to know that she will not entertain him. Please give your inputs on what you think his intentions might be and how to handle the situation if he tries to find another way to bother my wife again.

I am 20(M) and my gf is 20(F). We have been dating for almost three years. One day her mom invited me to come to their house for Janmashtami Celebrations. She had called my mother so that I can go. Just for formalities. Now she had called and my mom’s phone was on silent, she didn’t pick up. So, I came home and told her why didn’t you pickup? (I didn’t know, her phone was on silent) and told her to call her back. She flat out refused to do so. And told me that she is inviting, she should call. Now I also kept forcing, also my gf also kept forcing her mom to again call… this resulted in a bitter altercation. And at the end, although my mom didn’t want me to go, I went.

Now according to her, I have sold myself to them(her family) and they will use me and I have disrespected her in front of them and what not. Now, she doesn’t allow me to go with her anywhere or meet her. I go, by telling I am meeting with my old friends. I don’t live in my house, I live in hostel in another state.

So my bf is 26 I’m 24 . I’m very fair being from hilly north India but my bf when he moved abroad he still was like white girls this that . I’dk why Indian men keep this blondes on pedestal? I f so sad hearing all that . Like he praises them like they’re some other superior breed .
I wonder all the Indians living abroad and married or in relationships w Indian girls pls share how do u not cheat ?

Hi everyone, I 30f and husband 32m. Married for 2 year So my husband nature is like he is a very practical and non emotional guy. He is atheist. He doesn’t like if someone interferes in his life at any cost and if someone doing it he tolerates for sometime but later he distance himself from those persons. And my inlaws are like typical indian parents they usually interferes in his life even they know his nature that he doesn’t like that. And they had ancestors money so had lot of attitude. My husband is like I don’t need money I just need peace in life and happiness at home. Due to these there is a lot of conflicts between them. Now the situation is my husband doesn’t went to hometown from past 1 year. We didn’t visit for last Diwali and this diwali also. And inlaws are also like they remember on diwali that please what other peoples say blah blah. They didn’t care about the root cause of the conflict and try to resolve.

I have normal relationship with my inlaw Inused to visit inlaws home on some occasions like for some Pooja or some family programs once or twice alone without my husband. They asked me to explain my husband but When I heard him he seems right to me.

I don’t know how to handle such situations sometimes I ignored sometimes its very frustrating like kaha fas gayi me.

I don’t know please someone guide me here.

A curious question to those who seem to have found the right person for them: How do you know it? And what made you feel the need to fight for that relationship despite some cultural, traditional, or religious barriers?

Hi I’m from the uk just wanted to know some things

So I’m British Punjabi Mr Singh 19 and 5 foot 7 (might aswell include everything) haha and I’m born in the UK and travel to India every 2-3 years but I’ve noticed especially online that people from India suddenly within the past few years type in very clear English and share similar ish humour such as with memes and stuff and when I get married in a few years I wanted someone western style obviously kind hearted sikh and decent looks but seeing online it seems I may still get along with girls from India more than I thought I would how do the girls in the subreddit feel would u get along with someone from the UK or would it feel weird ?

So, first of all, I'm not a pervert. My girlfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship. We haven't had any sexual intimacy or even discussed it until today when I asked her these questions:

1)Do you think we are sexually compatible? 2)Is it okay if I masturbate while thinking of another girl? Her answers were:

1)I don't know. 2)Yes. From these answers, it's clear she's not sexually attracted to me. I asked her directly for a yes/no answer, but she said she didn't want to talk about it.

I'm not insecure, but she has done all sorts of things with her ex, including sexual activity. It's not that I'm asking for nudes or anything sexual, but I have the right to know where she sees me sexually.

Considering she's not sexually attracted to me, is this the end of our relationship? What can I do to salvage this?

So me and my boyfriend (both 26) have been dating for more than 4 years now. I have been working since 2 years in a well paying corporate job while he is preparing for UPSC.

Everything is good between us, we communicate everything and have a lot of love and respect for each other. I love him so much that I see myself marrying him someday but the problem is that he is not serious about his career. He says that he wants to crack the exam and become an Officer but he doesn’t work hard or put efforts in studying.

Now I don’t want to put pressure on him or control his life but I’m also worried about my future, as my parents will be asking me to get married in 2-3 years, and obviously I want to get married to someone who’s successful and also earns at least the same as me if not more.

I have also tried to convince him to try his hands in corporate but he says that he wants to crack UPSC only as it’s his dream.

So now I am stuck in this loop of trying not to put pressure on him but also being passive aggressive of the fact that he’s not putting in the efforts for his (our) future. I don’t know what to do anymore as I don’t want to breakup with him just because of this… I just wish he gains some sense and actually puts in some efforts for fucks sake and stop acting like everything is a joke.

A perfect relationship is a myth and its time people understand and recognise it as early as possible! I had my share of ups and downs in a relationships in past but all I understood that there is nothing like a textbook or cookie cutter cut or a benchmarkable standards!

Each relationship requires time, energy, lots of efforts, sometime ignoring lot of stuffs to nurture the relationship! There are two different individuals from different thought process and upbringing and past and they ought to have difference in opinions on everything!

How do you guys see or feel this?

We’re dating since 1 year and he’s done this so many times. I always forget about it because he cares and supports me no matter what. Yesterday we went to see bhool bhulaiya 3 and when Tripti Dimri came he said like she’s so beautiful and I was like yeah. I mean it’s okay to say that bec she’s an actress but after a while during the movie itself he said to me I’m definitely marrying tripti only. I laughed off and said like as if she’s gonna ever talk to you. But that thing that he said really hurt me. During the movie he kept looking at her and then glanced at me as if he’s trying to do a comparison. Also whenever we meet we have sex. Yesterday after the movie he told me he’s eaten too much and can’t and is sleepy. He’s just behaving weird after watching the movie. I don’t know if I should end things because that comment really hurt me and idk what’s up with him.

My girlfriend(22F) and I have been in a relationship for more than 2 years.

I’m the kind of guy who doesn’t like drinking or smoking (but I don’t hate anyone who does). I just find fun in many other things, so I choose not to. When we started our relationship, she was the same, but I didn’t love her because she didn’t drink—I loved her because I liked her so much.

After getting into the relationship, my girlfriend said she wanted to try drinking at least once, and she wanted to do it with me. At first, I hesitated for many months. She would casually bring it up once in a while, and I finally said, "Okay, let’s try it on a special day to remember," but that day never came.

Then one day, on a more serious note, I agreed, and she said, "Okay, for sure." But later, after a week, she told me that she had a drink with her friends. These weren’t even close friends, and it wasn’t a special occasion—just a normal hangout.

It really broke me because I was ready to give up my mindset for her, but it felt like she didn’t want to share that moment with me. When I expressed how heartbroken I was, she said I was overreacting. After a day of arguments, I said, "It’s fine, but please don’t hurt me like this again." I also told her that if she wanted to drink from then on, she could, but the special moment of sharing our first drink together was gone, and I didn’t want to do it anymore.

Then she promised me she wouldn’t drink again until I did, but I never asked for that promise.

Now, five months later, she casually told me she was going on a trip and would drink with her friends. It felt heartbreaking again because I had never asked her to make that promise, but now she was ready to break it again. We argued, and I clearly told her it’s her personal choice, and I didn’t want to control her, but this is really hurting me. I said that if this keeps causing problems in our relationship, I would want to break up because it feels like she cares only about her personal choices and expects me to be okay with everything.

I’m happy to be understanding in most things, but in this case, it’s heartbreaking because she’s breaking her promise over and over again, even though I never asked for it. She keeps making promises, and then it feels like I’m the one who’s wrong when I express my hurt.

In the end, I told her I wouldn’t leave her, and I’m sorry, but we had another long argument. I agreed that I didn’t want to put pressure on her, but I couldn’t accept this all of a sudden. It feels like she wants to drink regardless of the promise she made, which I never even asked for.

Now she’s saying I’m immature and that last time I overreacted & even now, and she feels like I took advantage of her vulnerability. I even told her that I’d be willing to drink with her now as a company, but it seems like she wants to drink with her friends and have fun. She’s saying she made all those promises just to make me feel better, but now she wants to try other things, like smoking, since I haven’t changed my opinion in the last five months. She feels I’m being closed-minded and says it’s suffocating her in the relationship, but she never told me this until now. When I said that it was wrong to make false promises & do like this she said "If you want to prove this point - We can go to therapy but you will be more depressed to know I have made more sacrifices and If you think being open-minded is a big sacrifice it's not - that's something everyone should do".

I feel really bad for making her feel this way because I care about her feelings. But I also feel hurt, and when I try to explain that, she says I’m hurting her by not being okay with it.

Some people can be resentful without any clear reason. I’m 26M and visit my girlfriend’s (24F) apartment almost every weekend from Saturday morning to Sunday. We're planning to get engaged soon. The apartment is a 3BHK shared with two female flatmates—one is 36 and single, and the other is 27 and engaged. I have a good rapport with the one who’s about to be married; she’s chill about my visits, and we enjoy each other’s company, often sharing meals together.

The issue is with the 36-year-old flatmate who seems to have a lot of issues with men. I respect her space and never intrude. When I visit, I go directly to my girlfriend’s room and usually stay there without venturing out. However, she seems to be constantly hostile towards me. For example, one time the kitchen switchboard wasn’t working, so I offered to fix it since I’m good with those kinds of repairs. To replace the switchboard, I had to cut off the electricity for about 10-15 minutes. My girlfriend and the other flatmate even knocked on her door to ask if it was okay to turn off the electricity for a while, and she agreed. But then, five minutes later, she stormed out of her room and yelled rudely, “guys baad me nhi kr skte kya,” and went back into her room. I felt that was unnecessary since this was a common area and I was doing it for free.

Often, when I’m cooking with my girlfriend and she happens to walk by, if we make eye contact, she glares at me and mutters something under her breath before leaving. Because of this, I try to avoid interacting with her as much as possible. Recently, she decided to move out and called the other flatmate, badmouthing me for about 15 minutes, saying, “yahi pada rehta hai mahine 18-20 din,(I have a steady job from Monday to Friday so We are barely able to meet on weekdays)” and making negative comments about our relationship, like “ki ye sb kuch aage tk nhi chalega Inka bhi breakup ho jyega and stuff, isi ki wajah se flat chor kr ja rhi hon me.” The other flatmate called my girlfriend and told her everything.

I find this behavior so childish. I get that my visiting every weekend might bother her, but as a 36-year-old, she could have communicated her concerns to my girlfriend instead of acting this way. I really don’t understand why she feels so resentful and hostile toward me.I mean kabhi ye sb ladko ke saath nhi jhela. Jo rehta sidha bol dete ek dusre ko. Kisi bhi chiz se issue hua to bs bol dia ki bhai ye issue hai.

This situation has made me hesitant about visiting my girlfriend now, and I’m wondering if it’ll be the same with her new roommate. Should I stop visiting her flat until we’re married?

Apologies for rambling. I just had to console my girlfriend and held back to avoid making her worry, so I needed a place to let it all out here.

Hey Reddit, I’m a 19-year-old guy looking for advice on a situation that’s been weighing on me. I’ll try to give the full context, so bear with me.

I have a best friend, let’s call her J. We’re super close, and over time I developed feelings for her. I hadn’t directly confessed because I wasn’t sure if she felt the same, but she sort of figured it out from my actions. We’d have intimate moments like cheek kisses, holding hands, or touching in ways that were beyond typical friendship boundaries. She often reciprocated, and we text every day for at least two hours – it’s been like this for the past eight months.

We’re also in the same friend group with three others, lets call them umm A, B, and C. They all know we’re close and probably suspect that I have feelings for her because they see the way we are together. Things were going along just fine until J randomly asked if I had feelings for her. I was nervous but honest and said yes. She admitted she feels the same, but then things got complicated.

J said that getting into a relationship would be “wrong” because most relationships end in breakups, which would make it hard for us to stay friends and could mess up our friend group dynamics. I tried explaining that I’d like to give a relationship a shot, but if she wasn’t open to that, it’d be really difficult for me to stay just friends with her. She understands my side but told me that while she’s not ready to be in a relationship, it’s my choice if I want to keep talking to her or not.

I can’t imagine cutting her off, and she knows that it’s almost impossible for me to do so. So, we’re still talking every day, just like we used to. She also suggested that I wait until she feels comfortable with the idea of a relationship. But the thing is, I sometimes feel like she’s just keeping me as a backup or waiting for something better.

Our mutual friend, C, advised me to keep things as they are and not distance myself from J because it could ruin the whole group dynamic. So now I’m torn. Do I keep waiting in the hope that J might eventually want a relationship, or do I distance myself even though I know it’ll hurt? Or is there some other option I haven’t considered?

Any advice or suggestions? Has anyone been in a similar situation? I could really use some perspective on this.

My Mom requested me to get married soon. So that she gets relieved of her tension. I am sorted career wise. I am in a good government service through UPSC. My parents are getting good rishta. But I don't think that I'll be ready for marriage in the coming years. I am anxious. Don't know how to deal with parents. They are getting into my nerves.

Some backstory I'll tell u guys in short so basically I been single my whole life so frustrated (wanting to makeout) texted a girl (my friends told me to talk to her)before diwali party all was good on diwali party we were on drive i stopped the moment was very good then she checked my phone and found another girl and she started crying why I did this and all that but In my defence we were in talking stage i didn't knew she was so attached to me we had talked like for 12days then I dropped her at the party and went with other girl in front of her eyes(my friends told me to). Next day I felt bad for first girl cause I liked her a little so I called her and consoled her then we started talking again all was going well we met on second diwali party I was roaming with her whenever she came to me a she couldn't leave her friend Alone. We also talked till 4 after reaching home.next day my friends called me that she was bitching about me and how I was roaming behind her like a dog . So I blocked her and on call called her whore then and sent her sexting screenshot. That night I came to know it was fake and my friends wanted to ruin my relationship cause they didn't get along with that girl and wanted revenge i then deleted all her screenshot and apologized to her all day and begged her for 3chance .

she said she would do this only if will remove all the girls from your insta and cut off from those friends only then can u talk to me. Now the thing is I agreed to remove all girls when we come in relationship but she's disagreeing I also said to remove half now and half later in relationship she disagreed i also said she can have my insta but she's disagreeing . So I AM finding it a bit fishy and think she will ghost me after removing all the girls or spread it in people that I am a simp for her I think she might try to take revenge and then make fun of me. I never intended to hurt her my friend group gaslighted me into thinking it was all okay they don't know anything about how I called her today and

What should I do need your advice should I remove or not she has given me one day?

This was my second sort-of relationship in 24 years of my existence and calling it sort-of because it was never going to turn out into an endgame. Soul reason being he is a single child and a gujarati while i happen to be a south indian. It's honestly been a hell of a ride full of deep emotions from both sides and i honestly have no regrets in the time that i have spent with him except for the fact that all those moments have become mere memories. And it sucks for me because no matter what i haven't been able to accept the fate of this relationship and i constantly keep questioning as to why this has to be this way? can i get some thoughts on how despite everything we've had, this guy is willing to just give it all up for his mom? Am i being selfish because i have always known that he would never go against his mom's decision of marrying only a gujarati? Also, i was away for 6 months now and i just found out that he had been going out with a girl that his mom found for him and they met during navratri while i wasn't there. And i happened to find this out now through mutual friends and when i confronted him, his response was that he didn't want to hurt me so he hid it?? I have to stay away for another 6 more months due to work and he made it clear that he can't go against his mom's word and that he cannot promise to wait till i come. Is it really that hard to fight for our relationship for him or was he never going to do that ever and i just had false hope?

Also why tf do gujaratis marry only gujaratis??