I am pretty worried after my recent breakup(a 2 year old relationship, kind of first one, 3 months since break-up). Currently I am 27 and I do not seem like things would go around right from now. And I don't even have confidence to approach a girl for love and being into a relationship.

I even started joining many subs for hookups, though I did not receive one, i don't know why. I don't have any obsession to girls or ladies but I am worried if I could not share happiness or love with someone.

I am still attached with my ex due to her emotional blackmailing and torture from her. But I started to know that she is moving on and I'm happy for the same, i would also like to move on but being single/alone will be harder. I moved on before 1 month but all got fucked up after her abortion(I was in physical attachment and quite sure it was me as she is still not into anyone)

Issues made us to breakup were over possessiveness from both side, physical abuse, verbal abuse, she started hurting herself etc. all these things made me to think twice and better to split up than being together. Being together may create an outcome of sū!¢!d€ or d€@t# of both. It was hard to decide but even though I took the decision.

I have not been to any therapists while she went to many but nobody helped well. Atlast chat gpt giving good advice to her these days. I have not tried chat gpt yet, coz I thought of posting it here and know real time experiences. Suggestions or some life experience may give some confidence to me for living a happy life. Getting older is hard. Also if there's any therapists who could give good advices (who cannot comment in posts) can DM as well.

I appreciate you for taking time and reading the whole post ♥️

I am pretty worried after my recent breakup(a 2 year old relationship, kind of first one, 3 months since break-up). Currently I am 27 and I do not seem like things would go around right from now. And I don't even have confidence to approach a girl for love and being into a relationship.

I even started joining many subs for hookups, though I did not receive one, i don't know why. I don't have any obsession to girls or ladies but I am worried if I could not share happiness or love with someone.

I am still attached with my ex due to her emotional blackmailing and torture from her. But I started to know that she is moving on and I'm happy for the same, i would also like to move on but being single/alone will be harder. I moved on before 1 month but all got fucked up after her abortion(I was in physical attachment and quite sure it was me as she is still not into anyone)

Issues made us to breakup were over possessiveness from both side, physical abuse, verbal abuse, she started hurting herself etc. all these things made me to think twice and better to split up than being together. Being together may create an outcome of sū!¢!d€ or d€@t# of both. It was hard to decide but even though I took the decision.

I have not been to any therapists while she went to many but nobody helped well. Atlast chat gpt giving good advice to her these days. I have not tried chat gpt yet, coz I thought of posting it here and know real time experiences. Suggestions or some life experience may give some confidence to me for living a happy life. Getting older is hard. Also if there's any therapists who could give good advices (who cannot comment in posts) can DM as well.

I appreciate you for taking time and reading the whole post ♥️

Hey! Not sure if this is the right community to post it, just was looking for some advice. I'm 21M. Never dated. Parents are chill about dating and stuff. I study CSE. Date to marry kinda person. Welp the dating scenario in my city is pretty bad. I even know people who get in relationships just to increase their body counts and break up after. I still as a grown up dude think I wanna keep that number to one person only. Breaking up after that much commitment is just life-trauma and cheating on future wife for me. so I thought its only logical to wait till marriage.
The problem I am facing is how to find someone who shares similar beliefs. The reason why Ive lost hope and came here is I did have crush on someone who shared same beliefs and said caste wd be a problem in the future and thus they didn't pursue me. Talking stuff like this to people is sometimes embarrassing as if they don't think similarly they just judge you or call you immature. I feel like the things I believe are quiet outdated and I might die single.
The thing is I am kind of popular in college right now as I am placed with highest package of current batch and nor I am bad-looking, and I can take advantage of this situation, as most my friends say terese to koi bhi pat jayegi ab, but am confused what to even do, as I am a nerd with 0 social awareness. Any advice wd be appreciated. Thanks!

can we really love someone unconditionally. i do love my girlfriend a lot A LOT but even than i am not sure i can really love her unconditionally . like if one day she were to stop loving me would i still love her ?

i am not that mature in terms of relationship . i would prefer advise from someone more mature

Let me describe myself I am not a good looking handsome guy I am an overweight guy with a depressed life that i couldn’t succeed in my exams I was happy and studious earlier but since i didn’t get what I wanted i became depressed

I met a girl when me and my friends had gone to a cultural event in another city She too had come She was my junior from the same college I won one of the events She congratulated and we spoke to each other I developed a liking towards her She texted me in the evening that she would like to join me and my friends if we plan for a night out And then me and my friends along with her went out roaming in the city One of my friends and she shared similar interests They got along well And then my friend confessed he was falling for her I knew i had no chances but i knew my friend would get along I didn’t speak about my feelings The next day i had to start my journey alone Meanwhile my friend and her got along so well And then my friend confessed his feelings for her She said she was already in a relationship with another guy My friend started convincing her He was decent looking,well off and the same caste as hers and she was in a dilemma He was brain washing her and she was trying to decide between the two as her long distance boyfriend hadn’t been good to her in recent times She was trying hard to choose one amongst them and she couldn’t She could neither accept my friend nor her boyfriend She was doing this for a week And then she said she wants her boyfriend and she said no to my friend I respected her decision And then after 2 weeks her boyfriend broke up with her telling she shouldn’t have thought about another guy

Now this girl suffered like anything She was crying She did everything in her power to bring him back She called his friends Called him from her friends phones Went to his college which was at another city Begged him like anything He didn’t give in

Meanwhile i developed a hate for her We didn’t talk much But then she used to call and cry It was so hard to see her like that I had gone to my friends sister’s marriage with my friends and her and while returning it was just the both of us travelling in train My friends stayed back

I avoided her for the 1st one hour of journey It was a sleeper She sat with me and was talking about her life and so did i And 10 hours of train journey went just like that I was falling for her again I felt something i have never felt in my life I wasn’t sure though The conversations became very different between us from the next day We started texting a lot I realised i was in love But i was confused because my friend did like her He wasn’t serious but still it bothered me After a week when we were talking she hugged me and said she has high respect for me and i am like her brother I guilt tripped and I told her that i didn’t see her as a sister and i really love her and i am sorry for developing feelings She started crying on the call and she cut my phone and blocked me I made my friends to talk to apologise but she was yelling Somehow i called her and tried to apologise and comfort her and it went till 1 am

She said she loves her ex and she needs time and she asked me to wait This went on for a month We both would go out after our college eat She had a wavering mind She would ask me to wait and then she would say no this wouldn’t work I somehow contacted her ex and asked if he would come back for her Knowing the chances were slim and since I loved her way more than everything i tolerated everything She would say she doesn’t want me and then after she would want me And then a month later i took her to the city where her ex was studying to get a conclusion He said he doesn’t want her And 3 days later she said she loves me Initially things were good but later on she started to compare and cry to my about her Then she broke up with me multiple times because she loves him She told her friends in college that im just a friend and it’s me who loves her and not the other wise She would block and breakup with me very often All this happened in 2022 In 2023 there was a major fight She was talking to her ex boyfriends friend and stalking him I knew it she lied to me And she was doing things behind my back I called her a bitch which had been a traumatising word for her She left me broke up with me and started talking to her ex saying she was single she didn’t love me and she wanted her ex back I suffered like anything to bring her back I fractured my leg I was blocked but still i did everything to After knowing i was heartbroken I died literally I wanted to leave her but still i couldn’t i thought i had traumatised her and i pushed her So i apologised and then after a week or 2 we fell in love again As expected we broke up again She said to be with me feels like her husband is dead and she’s forced to live with me Things didn’t work out for obvious reasons I tried everything but she didn’t give in Then she wasn’t sure of a relationship for a month I somehow got to know she got into tinder and bumble I gave up hope and I blocked her across everything with pain She then contacted me through my friends and said she wanted to see me We both fought over she cried and i couldn’t control I gave in

Every day from then i couldn’t trust her I feft like she is going to cheat on me I was so insecured that every day i would fight with her for cheating on me And since i couldn’t believe her i would keep on questioning and doubting her She did talk to her ex and i found that out In December 2023 she said she couldn’t get over her ex I couldn’t handle this anymore and decided to breakup and block her I got to know she was with another guy but later that guy was already committed and he was very decent and they were just friends. After a month we got back together She seems to be changed She tries to be true and honest But Ive become toxic I don’t like her to talk to other guys I keep on doubting and questioning her I am not happy She wants to fix this Even i love her but i can’t stay with her as i dont trust her I don’t know what to do

About 6 months ago I came to a new city for my masters I came to know my ex gf also goes to a college in the same city .God knows why when I was coming here for the first time I found her at the railway station boarding the same train ,she was in the same coach just in the adjacent cabin.We broke up approximately 4 years ago because of my ignorance and immaturity ( I was 17 then).Ever since she left I am not able to move on .I think it was because I couldn't get full closure on our relationship.Can I give her a text for meeting up .I don't want to rekindle anything just want to talk to her .Already my brain is screaming at my heart ,don't do it stupid and most of you guys would say the same thing .No worries any suggestions would be appreciated

I had my GATE exam on 1st Feb, I was in different city so I had to travel for the exam, I needed to wake up early at 4:00 AM. My girlfriend, and three other friends woke up at 4 and called me to make sure I was ready for the commute. The exam went well, but it still was a mental toll, I was a bit stressed after the exam, but when I stepped outside the centre, I saw a small heighted glowing happy face aka my girlfriend with a cute bag in her hand, it was such a sudden rush of happiness, overwhelming emotions, apparently she travelled 30 kms and waited outside my centre to give me surprise, she also bought cookies and gifts with her (a golden rose, a cup with monkey printed, Ferrero rocher, she ate them herself later lol, and 7 different handwritten cards for the valentine's week), that moment was sooo long, all my stress, tiredness vanished and I told her all about my exam and she listened happily on our route to a gaming zone, later she bought me a cool jacket too. I swear when a woman loves, it's epitome of humanity and love, how lucky am I to have such friends and companion. Though currently I am struggling financially, I am going to make sure to keep everyone who loves me stay with me and happy, provide everything to them. Love is a very beautiful thing guys, I pray everyone finds theirs if not yet found.

Tl;Dr - gf gave surprise visit after exam with gifts.

I (22F) and my boyfriend (23M) have been dating since 7 months. I am the type of person who dosen’t want to have sex for now. Recently we were cuddling and he tried to take off my clothes. I got uncomfortable about him trying to remove my pants. Idk if he’s right for me or not. He cares a lot about me but did this as well. Should I break up with him?

I (27M) have been in a relationship with my girlfriend (24F) for almost two years. We had talked about getting engaged this year and marrying next year. I told my parents about her in August, hoping for their support, but what followed was four months of emotional turmoil. They were against the relationship, and I had to fight daily to make them understand how much she meant to me.

During this time, I kept asking her to talk to her parents, but she kept postponing it, saying it wasn’t the right time. Meanwhile, I was mentally and emotionally exhausted, constantly battling my family. Finally, after months of struggle, my parents agreed. I was overjoyed and told her that we could finally move forward and involve her family.

Instead of excitement, she hesitated. She said she needed to discuss a few things before committing to our future. We had shared countless happy moments, and she had even moved into my place, but she was also feeling burned out from work and travel.

My parents, especially my dad, gave me a deadline of mid-last month to align both families. I did my best to reassure her about our relationship, but she kept delaying things. Just before a long holiday, she told me she needed to feel happier in our relationship before taking the next step.

Despite everything, I told her to take space and focus on her personal goals. Then, last week, my dad was diagnosed with cancer. It was a complete shock, and I needed support more than ever. My parents begged me to give them clarity on my future. They were also under societal pressure to get me married soon and had started bringing up arranged marriage proposals.

But none of that mattered to me. I wanted her. I kept holding on. However, my dad, in his suffering, told me I was killing him by not making a decision. He resented my girlfriend because I was prioritizing her feelings and giving her space, while she resented my family, fearing they would try to control her life.

I made it clear to everyone—my career isn’t based in my hometown, and I haven’t lived there for the past five years. That wasn’t going to change. But between my father’s health and my mother’s frustration, I was stuck constantly trying to calm everyone down—her, my parents, myself.

Then, in the middle of everything, my family snapped. My dad was suffering, my mom was lashing out, and suddenly, everyone blamed me for my father’s declining mental peace. In that moment, I stood my ground and told them I was going to marry her.

She has a lot of childhood trauma and hates feeling controlled by men. And here I was, unknowingly adding to the pressure by repeatedly asking if she could think about the future now.

Then, out of nowhere, she said: “Get out of my life.”

It was like a slap in the face. I begged her to stay. I asked her to reconsider. Nothing worked.

Now, I don’t even know how to tell my parents. After everything I fought for, after putting everything on the line for her, she just… let me go. I feel embarrassed. Maybe I did something wrong. Maybe I pressured her too much. Maybe I should’ve handled things differently. But all I ever wanted was a future with her.

TL;DR: I (27M) fought for four months to get my family to accept my girlfriend (24F) and our future together. When they finally did, she kept postponing talking to her parents. Then, my dad got diagnosed with cancer, and my family pressured me for a decision. I told them I would marry her, but under all the stress, she told me to “get out of her life.” Now, I don’t even know how to face my family, and I feel completely lost.

So I met this person in the office, which I connected with and became friends with, but lately she's been acting distant, which is making me miserable. I thought I found a friend because of how lonely and difficult my life has been, but recently she stopped talking to me, and I feel like I'm forcing my friendship on her, and I try to not talk to her, but I end up talking to her, and she behaves dismissively. Maybe I have been more clingy and desperate to talk to her lately, but I don't know how to navigate this. Like, I haven't texted her in 1 week, but I met her in the office today, and I ended up talking to her, and now I'm feeling miserable.

We were in relationship and suddenly she broke up with by giving me the reason that their parents won’t agree. So I was like we’ll make them agree and I was like promising we can make it but she was not agreeing and few time when I asking her to come back she didn’t respond me properly. I thought there should not be any ego or even I left my self respect and I was going back to her asking to come back. Meanwhile I met one girl online and I shared all my problems with her and she made me think like don’t leave your self respect and all and made me think that I should not get back to her and also I became bit close to her and started some flirting when I was drunk and it carried on. When I was in trip my ex logged in to my Instagram and checked all my text with this new girl and called me scolded me that she wanted to get back to me but after seeing these msgs she don’t want to come back. When I came back from trip I started to sense something wrong with new girl and I check and got to know that what she has said to me was all lie so I was shocked to hear her truth. Then I realised that I made mistake by talking to this new girl. Now I want to go back my ex but she is not accepting me but I really loved her. Actually when I was talking with this new girl also I used to think about her only and also there something different when I used talk to her but there no spark with this new girl. Now I’m asking sorry daily to her but she is not ready to come back and I’m unable to forget her. Every time her memories are only flooded in my thought and why u made this mistake. So what I have to do to get her back now?

I (28f) married my husband (29m) last year after 1.5 years of dating. Our honeymoon phase was amazing to say the least, it felt like a dream.

Things gradually started getting worse- he grew up over pampered with severe anger issues with parents who never scolded him, he has zero maturity and empathy. I have severe anxiety and I am a control freak. Match made in heaven!

Fast forward to now, we dont see eye to eye on anything. Keeping our past aside i just want to focus on this last one week and every fight and get some honest opinion! Can counselling fix this or should we head for a divorce!

So last week began with us booking an uber shuttle to work since his car is in servicing. His shuttle is scheduled for 8.30 , he leaves at 8 to reach the spot pf pickup. However, i was 2 mins late. 2 mins. We could have easily caught the shuttle. ( because i was packing dry fruits for myself AND HIM). He fucking left without me because apparently he hates not following time and gets OCD and anxiety. He will make these weird faces and act like a crazy person for something so trivial and after 5 mins calm down like nothing has happened. It gets on my nerves!

I lost my shit, gave him horrible abuses, asked him to die and what not and went to my dad’s place. He calls me like nothing has happened. Apologies are like- I shouldn’t have left but time is time. You cannot be late and not suffer consequences!

Anyway two days after, I return ( read: bound to) because of a family event. He acts all nice and soft, apologises consistently but I know its not gonna last anyway.

In between a lot of minor arguments also take place. Fast forward to saturday, the most horrible thing happened. He wanted to go to the market to buy some wardrobe handles, i ask him not to as i was feeling unwell and wanted him to stay. I didn’t wanna be controlling so i was really soft about asking. I suggested we could order what he wanted online and it was just wardrobe handles , kya farq padta hain if we are short of options online.

Well, he stayed back but then kept torturing me by constantly bickering how he is paying double online, how i should bear that expense, how the handles he wanted are only available at his market, and how he needed them that day only. His constant whining was unbearable. Felt like i was dating a teenage girl. Next , to torture me he turned on the tv at a high volume knowing it gives me a headache especiall when i am going through something.

I had no energy to get triggered. Kept telling him, ‘ dont start this fight, its gonna start ugly, dont trigger me. Leave this room. Atleast Shut down the tv or use headphones .’ He is like why will you always win and control me. I am not your servant. Its my house so you leave if u want to, not me.

In a fit of rage, i kick his leg thrice. He hits me back , kicks my leg too several times. Then i threw my bottle at him and threw the remote. He lost his shit and slapped me. Then forcefully dragged me through the hall to the guest room.

I was shocked and traumatised. Every time i thibk it cannot get worse and it still does! This was the first time it had gone physical that also this bad. I got extremely sick as i already had food poisoning. At night i wake up to find him sleeping beside me. At morning i wake up to him kissing and saying sorry. He leaves the house and returns home bald, claiming that this is his way of repentance and he would do anything to change. Bullshit, lol. But he also keeps saying i am also at fault as i hit him too. He never grasped how big of a deal it was to me. I ask him to get therapy , he says he doesnt have the money. But he has money for skincare and everything else and he has ocd about that too. Nobody can touch his things or use it.

Yesterday afternoon, i ask him to help wash my clothes (his mom washes his) he acted like he was doing such a favor and replied ki phir tum bhi mere liye thoda kara banado. I can do it obviously but dint like his tone, why this competition?

I tell him that he isnt very sorry so i wanna go forward with the divorce. I tell him i despise him and i am disgusted by his body, that i hate fucking him, i cry for absolutely an hour, i beg him to leave me saying he doesnt want a wife who hates him this much.

He breaks down too, saying he missed how we were, that no matter how bad things get he will never give up on me. He said he really loved me but i am always controlling him which triggers him and makes him want to fight what i say even if i am right. He said we can fix each other even though the sanctity of our marriage is long gone!

For a second i still had hope. Unlikely, i know but still i did. Then comes today morning. I am in the room changing, he needs something, he is hurrying but he bangs the door loud and shouts, ‘darwaja subha se band rakh dete ho, kam rehta hain’ . I replied rudely cause why did he shout. I am not this person but he instills so much anxiety and i have become so irritated and harsh. He comes in and we argue a little but he threw his bag away and it really scared me. He started abusing which i was recording so he came to snatch my phone away. After this i left, I am not going to his house again. Its not the throwing the bag or the phone, its normalising violence. For the first time, i felt scared of him. I realised i forgave his hitting once so he has become normalised to it. This is how abuse begins. He cannot get away with it so easy the this becomes normal, so i left.

Two things i need to mention here- I need to say here that he has his ways of abusing me before also, he had deleted all contents of my phone once against my will, he abandoned me and went out to eat in our honeymoon when i said i didnt want him to go eat outside the airport cause we might miss the flight, zyada kharcha karke flight me kha lenge and it was really anxious, waiting for him, he rash drives when we argue while driving, he has behaved badly in front of his friends and family too for very minor reasons. He does not respect me at all. After I accidentally got pregnant and he initially wanted the child ( i was unsure) but when i had said that i dont wanna stay with his parents ( they are problematic and i dont want him to have support while i toil my asses off in the same house with both of us having full time jobs) , he backed off. We were not ready for a child but he was tremendously unsupportive, forgiving that required a lot of effort from his end but all i got was abuses and bickering and i turned into such a bitter person towards him too. I cant recognise myself anymore. He has ADHD and cant listen for more than 5 mins.

Another thing to mention, my family isn’t very supportive. I have a stepmom and she is not very fond of me. My husband earns 2.5 times my salary and we recently bought a house together. We bought a house very close to his workplace because he insisted so it cost us way more than our budget. We decided we pay for the house 40:60 but i wont contribute in household kharcha or travel expenses, that was our deal! So parting ways is legally too much work with the house and everything. Please help! I am ready to answer any questions if you have any doubts!!

Well, so let there be a girl 'X' and She's the 'one'... So, I met her 2 years ago... And we have been really good.. like! We have been talking till 4 AM and all.. Sometimes We did.. sometimes we didn't! But still! Now, basically I am her Bestfriend and we're really good! She is on the dominant side and I am fine with it... Everything was going fine and We talked that way and all... So, everything was fine! Just this week we had a farewell... And this is the worst trait of me and that is.. being shy! I just don't know why but I just don't Talk to her while being in the friend circle.. well, Our relationship was always being forced by our friends and all... So, this was the day farewell was and She was continuously being said that this might be the last time you might be meeting so, just get a picture... Get a picture.. and many of her friends called me and everything.. but I just kept ignoring or being shy.. and just postponing it.. and In the end everyone had a picture with her... The whole class did.. except me! Her only bestfriend.. and I just don't know.. why!? I did that! She then messaged me and I made it worse by just blame shifting... I just don't know what do I do!? And now I am just regretting that I couldn't even get the last picture and I am just in guilt... So, what do I do!?!! Guys.. help!!

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So, I met a guy on Hinge, and I immediately liked his profile. We texted and talked for a few days, and we instantly hit it off. I wasn’t looking for a serious relationship because of my past relationship traumas, but I liked him enough to give it a try. He seemed equally interested in me—we talked every day and even did video calls.

But after about 20 days, he suddenly stopped texting and ghosted me without any explanation. At first, I was upset, but I moved on. I eventually started talking to other guys on Hinge again.

Then, out of nowhere—about a month later—he texted me, apologizing and explaining why he had ghosted me. He said he got scared because of his own traumatic experiences in relationships and panicked. He told me he was really sorry. I was angry, of course, but I forgave him, and we agreed to remain just friends.

A few days later, one evening, I got a call from his number. When I picked up, it was a girl. She asked, "Are you dating him? Because I’m his girlfriend."

I was shocked but told her the truth—that we weren’t dating. We talked for a few minutes, and she told me they had been in a relationship for the past three months. After the call ended, I was stunned, but honestly, not devastated. I had already moved on from him, so in a way, his ghosting me felt like a blessing in disguise. If he hadn’t, I would have been much more hurt.

The next day, he called me and explained everything. He told me he met her three months ago, and within ten days, they were in a relationship. But soon after, he realized how toxic she was and how incompatible they were. He said he was emotionally miserable, so he turned to dating apps again to escape his reality. He admitted that he was wrong for cheating on her and for hiding the truth from me, but he said those three months with her were absolute hell.

I listened to him, and despite everything, I forgave him. He opened up about his emotional struggles, and I patiently listened. Strangely, after that conversation, we felt even closer. He told me he genuinely liked me—especially after seeing how maturely I handled everything.

We started talking again, and we’ve grown to like each other again. We both intend to date, but he’s been honest about needing some time to heal from his past before he can fully commit and be emotionally available for me.

Since then, things have been wonderful. He genuinely likes me, cares for me, listens to me, and even responds calmly to my tantrums and drama. He makes me smile in ways I didn’t expect. He checks up on me throughout the day, remembers the little things I say, and always makes an effort to make me feel special. When I’m upset, he patiently listens and reassures me instead of dismissing my feelings. He’s thoughtful, kind, and genuinely wants to be a better person for me.

And, well... I think I’m slowly falling in love with him.

I just wanted to share my story. Before I completely fall for him and fully commit, I’d love to hear your opinions. Am I making the right decision by giving him another chance?

Hello people. So my ex from college days is back in town and has reached out to me to catch up. It was a complicated situation back then with messed up feelings for each other, though we were never officially in a relationship. We parted ways 5 years back because it wouldn't have worked since she wanted a different lifestyle out of the city. We got back in touch over social media some 2 years back since she was away. Now that she is back in town she wants to catch up. I said yes. But am confused what should I expect and what could be the do's and don'ts. Please advice me.

Sorry, idk her exact age but she’s a year or two younger to me. So, I went out w this lady I met through one of the social groups online. We initially had good conversations online and then later thought of a quick catchup which we did.

It was all good and great but when the waiter came in with the bill, she grabbed it so fast and didn’t even let me see. I insisted we split the bill instead but she straight away refused and just wouldn’t budge. It wasn’t a very expensive place either but still. She said it’s my invite, so it’ll be on me! Good thing? Bad thing? Cute thing? I’ve no clue.

By now, I told myself- okay, so this could mean she didn’t like the way our meet-up went and probably ending things by getting the bill entirely.

We went home later and our conversations are still going as usual? Now, I feel maybe she really wanted to get the bill and no hidden meaning like she didn’t like the meet or sort of things.

Anyway, wanted to know what you guys think about it? I told her the next one would be on me and I’d like to ask her for another meet-up (not sure if I can label it as a date), how long should I be waiting to ask her about it?!

Would really like to know your opinions as I’m kind of confused about what’s going on. Thanks in advance 🙃

Throwaway because he has my main.

We broke up. On good terms. I am writing this because my heart is too heavy, I don't want him to cry, and because this is where I met him.

I DMed a total stranger on reddit roughly six months ago, not knowing how drastically that will alter the course of my life.

We were both going to move countries for college. It didn't work out for him. Six months later, here I am, in a foreign land where we were supposed to be together. Everything feels pointless now. I dreamed for years and worked hard to be here, but it's not the same anymore. In the very last moments, this dream went from being about me, to us. And as guilty as I feel being here without him, I cannot abandon this, even if I wanted to. My parents worked too hard to get me here. We had already decided that if it didn't work out, we won't trouble ourselves with a transcontinental relationship. It was already too painful being in a long distance relationship in India. Painful not because we were incompatible, but because we were simply incapable of being so far away from eachother.

I had never, in my wildest dreams, thought that I would find my significant other in a part of my home-country that I have never visited, just months before I leave India. He's from Delhi (I KNOW GUYS I KNOW), I'm from Gujarat. We have a lot of other differences, but if it wasn't for the physical distance, nothing would've stopped us. Some of you will ask why part ways if we're so in love? Well it's far more complicated than that. But this post isn't about what's keeping me from loving him, so I won't go into those details. So what do I love about him? the list is virtually endless. From his elite sense of humour, exceptionally witty banter to that stupefyingly gorgeous face (I won't even get started on how hot he is), there is nothing to not love in him. He is the definition of "too good to be true". Most importantly, I love everything about us. From our inside jokes to the way he finishes my sentences. We have a way of making eachother laugh. I love who I become when we spend hours talking on the call. We've pulled eachother out of some very dark times, whether it was by venting, advising however we can or just sitting in silence together as we wait for our future to unfold. He is my bestfriend and lover in one person. This post cannot possibly summarize our relationship or the dreams I have for us, but I wanted to give it a try.

So, why am I writing this? I don't know. It gave me a good cry. And I hope all you lucky fuckers who live with their partners are making the best of it because only god and my wet pillow know how desperate I am for a hug.

H, I hope this isn't the end. I hope we meet again. I hope I get countably infinite chances at making you laugh. I love you.

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I live with my mom and sister in a city different from where my dad lives. My dad works in that city and is about to retire. My mom stays with my sister to take care of her needs while I have been provided accomodation by my employer. I am staying with my dad for a few days. I have visited him earlier around 4 years back and caught him chatting with some lady late at night. I had warned him about the consequences and asked him to stop. He said he will stop. I didn't reveal it to anyone else including my mother. Today I thought of going through his chats to find out if he has really stopped. I was shocked to find his chat with an office colleague of his where he has sent romantic messages. The office colleague doesn't seem to reciprocate towards his romantic messages but answers when his messages are normal.

For context, my dad has had affairs with women since I was a 6 year old child. My mom has exposed him in front of his family with evidence. He has been advised by multiple people. And then the husband of one of his affairs threatened him one fine day when I was 15 year old and he stopped or so we thought. I have grown up in a household with frequent fights between my parents. At 17 moved out of the house for higher education and my mom and sister moved out about 2 years back when my sister got a job at a different city. My mom accompanied her to take care of her chores. My mom has been the happiest since leaving that house. My sister is getting married in a few months and I don't want to damage the happy mood we have in our family because of my father's lust. I am afraid if he could be subjected to POSH which could bring shame to the family at this point of time. I have not confronted my father regarding this because it disgusts me. I don't want to spoil the good time l have come to spend with him. My bond with him has been good or so I think. But I don't know what to do with the information I have got. Should I tell my mom, should I confront my dad again or should I ignore this and wait for 2 months when he is going to retire and eventually move to our hometown?

Let me preface this by saying, I'm not Indian, my husband is. We already had a court ceremony in my home country (just us and 2 friends as witnesses). We will be having 2 more weddings, 1 for his family in India and 1 for my family here. We were talking about traditions during the wedding ceremony in India and he said I have to touch his feet. I already touch his feet as a sign of respect and love, I do that to all the elders. My husband is Sikh, I know this is a Hindu tradition and I could not find a single reference to this in the Gurbani, I again have no issues with doing this, I jokingly said that he should touch my feet too. He hated this, said that he won't do that. I asked him why? He said "because it signifies I am god to you". I am a white Christian woman, I love my husbands culture, I respect his religion deeply, often including Waheguru ji in my own prayers. But to call a mortal man a god, goes against my religion, I see god in him, but he isn't my god. My husband kept bringing up tradition and culture, but he isn't traditional at all, doesnt wear turban, doesn't go to Gurdwara, doesn't pray. I mean again, he's married to a white girl. He kept getting really angry, I was just asking questions trying to find an actual reason but there wasn't one. I asked him where it said that in the Gurbani, why can't the tradition be changed a little bit, why is it such a big deal? Then I said "I thought Sikhi was about equality between men and women, so am I not god to you as well?" This is when he went insane, called me a psychopath, said "this is why people hate feminism is because of brain dead idiots like you." Then told me many many time to F off and to f myself. I don't really know how to feel and what to think. He just said "fine we won't touch each others feet at all". I again said that I have no issues touching his feet but I just wanted to understand why he couldn't make this small gesture to me. In my mind doing this would signify that even though we are of 2 cultures and backgrounds we are equal as partners. Even in my cultural wedding we have a traditional ribbon tying. Binding each other for life as equal partners.

Let me know what you think of this, really just to rant but always eager for advice.

LONG STORY AHEAD

I am 23M from rajasthan currently in gurgaon about to complete my MBA.

Throughout my dating life whenever have I thought about getting serious with a girl, she fucking breaks my heart and mera katt jata h. Kaafi time se I was a fuckboi and jabse MBA start kiya I thought nahi abse I'll be better. Because I was and still am craving for love, to be loved, intimacy and we all know intimacy does not just mean sex

Through my class here I made 2 friends (both F23) and both of them were committed at the moment but one of them used to like me and flirt with me on and off. I really liked her and we started spending entire days together from good morning to good night. Finally one day she broke up with her bf and the road was clear ahead for me, I started pouring in more efforts but sometimes she acted wierd. One day when we were sitting together she just asked me whether she liked me or not and I defo said yes and she told that she feels the same but needs time as she just got out of that relationship I said okay. But just because of my craving for love and previous heartbreaks I grew impatient. The other girl now started to like me, we got touchy and all but she kept saying that she is serious for her bf and shit. She used to say "I love you" but "I am in love with him" which I know is just shittalk. She used to care for me a lot in just the way I wanted and I started getting attached to her, the only mistake I made was that I thought she would be rational and logical and would break it off with her bf eventually but she didn't. She went behind his back to get romantic and physical with me all the time we were together, up to a point where one day she was blowing me off while talking to her bf on a call. All this but she kept saying no no I can't do that, I can't break it off. And she didn't even let me have sex but went up till third base with no issuss, said that sex is something big.

Time passed by the previous girl whom I originally liked kinda moved on and now is in a relationship with my friend who is just not her type and this 2nd girl and I are now just friends and she is still dating her bf.

I know its a long story and I know I am the fool here but I guess maybe I just wanted to rant a little. Lemme know your reviews and suggestions as to what can I do now.

Thanks for reading

Am i overthinking and feeling bad over nothing ?

I am 21F and my boyfriend 21M . We were in a relationship for 2.5 years. When we had an argument recently, (almost at the verge of breaking up) he reached out to our mutual classmate for advice since she happened to ask him advice too in the past. He simply wanted a fresh pair of ears and eyes for honest advice and didn't consult me coz all our conversations ended in fights. Now we sorted things out and rectified our flaws but why can't I not stop thinking about it. He confronted about talking with our mutual classmate after we resolved things. Idk how to feel about this ? PS : the mutual classmate was supporting me in the discussion and advised him not to break up

I'm 25M and she is 28F.

This is like my third time meeting a woman. She turned out to be so awesome. She's funny and she talks so so much!! 😍

Our preferences are so alike.

Although, we have decided mutually that this thing between us can be best described as a situationship. (Me using fancy terms like these, who would have thought 🤣🤣) We were holding hands almost the whole time!!!

Before meeting her, I used to think there's no girl who is made for me. But I guess I was wrong.

I used to pray for times like these 🤞🏻❤️

Grateful 🙏🏻

This rant is going to be rather long cause I've no other space to express this.

Exactly one year ago, I met a girl. She was a friend of my friend's bumble match. We talked ,hanged out and vibed so much. We started dating very soon.

Now I'm not someone who have been in a relationship for a very long time as I had commitment issues. I've had dated 3-4 girls but it never went past the dating period.

I told all these to her during the dating period and she looked okay with it. A couple of months later I asked her if she wanted to take things forward and we got into a relationship, since I felt I really love her.

She also had her own past, her ex gave her shitload of trauma by going behind her back and flirting and cheating multiple times. She still hasn't recovered from it when we got into relationship.

Not soon after that we started living together, She was staying with me and a 2 of my male friends(because we were sharing the apartment). It is the only friend circle I have and she got along with them pretty good.

She was not working back then and so I was happy to take care of all expenses because i had a more than decent paying job.

Everything was butterflies until at some point I noticed she burst out at times and says anything to make me hurt, including that I'm a pervert and how I only uses girls for my sexual needs. After the out burst she does apologise to me. This happened a lot but I let it slide as I know where it was coming from. I assured here that there's no need to feel insecure or distrust me cause I'll never cheat on her.

After a couple of months we went back to our homes because both of us were preparing for exams. I was trying to crack Upsc, so I left my job and she is an mbbs Graduate trying to crack FMGE.

After it got into a long-distance relationship, her outbursts started to be more frequent. Every single time accusing me of being a pervert or a cheater, who might cheat. She started bringing up my past and said that I don't deserve to be in a relationship etc. All this went on for a long time. And when she does this outburst, she constantly hits herself or tries to hurt herself. I tried every single way to make it right. And even when she is at home, she at times does this outburst in front of her parents.

I tried to understand her behaviour and asked her to be calm and to talk it out. But lately things are getting pretty bad, she constantly fights and slurs at me, making me feel bad about myself everyday.

She tells me that I have no time for her because I don't spend as much time with her as I used to. How can I? I am preparing for UPSC and I don't have much time left with me and especially at this stage when I am attempting a prelims, I really don't have much time to waste. But that doesn't mean I don't call her everyday. I call her every single day and talk to her for at least half an hour, but looks like that is not enough to maintain a relationship. It got worse to a point that she even started getting frustrated when I talked to my male friends, the same friends who she is also friends with who were in my apartment.

Back when we were staying together, I had to cut off a couple of my female friends. One of them who was of great help to me in the office, because my gf felt that the girl was trying to hit on me, or she felt insecure about her, I don't know why. I tried every single way possible to make it right, and because of that, I cut her off without any reason.

Cut to now. My gf tells me I don't want to meet her and I'm taking no effort to meet her. Her place is pretty far and I've to take a train, book a hotel and now being jobless I've no money for that. Even at her home they don't allow her to go out like that and still she says it's only because of my lack of interest.

When things were getting worse with each day I told her that it's better to go for therapy, and that I'll arrange money somehow if she can't. She still doesn't care and constantly berates me.

(She knows all this stuff she's doing is because of her past trauma).

When things got heated up, I told her it's better to breakup but she started hurting herself. And she weeped uncontrollably. When I see that I don't feel like leaving her alone. She doesn't have any of her friends with her now.

I don't know what to do. I can't deal with this, I can't focus on my studies, the very thing I quit my job for. I've been experiencing insomnia lately and my mental health is draining.

This guy I've been seeing for 6 months now. I've always asked for clarity whenever I am with someone. So when we started seeing each other this man made it clear that firstly he wants to make his career and does not want to drag me into whatever mess he is in(financially). But now it's been 6 months and obviously I need some reassurance that i am not wasting my time. So i had a conversation and now he has all the reasons in the world (all his personal problems) to not commit. He is asking me to wait and see but do not get my hopes up. Also this man has really shown me how I should be treated, taking care of me, making me happy and always been loyal(that i know of) Considering he doesn't even call me his girlfriend,Now I can't really figure that if I should stay and wait for him or just leave.

I’m 25F, he’s 26M.

We met online and come from different parts of India. We were internet friends before we started dating around 2020. At the time, we were both in college, so funds were always an issue when it came to meeting. Plus, the lockdown made things even harder. Over the span of five years, we’ve only met three times, for a week each time.

About a year and a half ago, he went abroad for his studies. He promised to visit every year, but it’s been 1.5 years, and I still haven’t seen him. Due to financial constraints, he can’t return to India yet.

I broke up with him about two weeks ago because I was just so tired of waiting. He said that once he gets a job, he’ll visit India twice a year to see me, but I’ve lost faith in that promise.

My brain tells me that I’m being selfish and should wait, but my heart knows that even if I do, it’ll still remain a long-distance relationship until we decide to get married. Even then, I would likely have to relocate because he doesn’t want to come back to India.

I did want to end up with him, but I’m just so exhausted by the distance. This time, I really want to stick to my decision to break up. Maybe I’ll regret it later, but right now, I just want to be happy.

Am I being selfish?

Somebody thought I was being inconsiderate in my previous post. I thought I would not slander her name or reputation by sharing all this. I never intended to do this, so here's the full story.

https://www.reddit.com/r/RelationshipIndia/s/53K1PFywZ7

I was dating this girl (and it has been a few years since I had moved on from my ex). She happened to be a co-worker. She had a very complex childhood. She grew up mostly away from her parents as she completed her education while living in Hostels. Her parents weren't looking eye to eye; so at the end of each term, she lived with her grand parents. Like me, she too, didn't experience a lot of love during her childhood.

She was physically tortured and abused by a group of guys during college fest. She had a few scars that were a reminder of that incident, so she didn't have an easy life. She somehow got into deejaying and made a name for herself. It was a comfortable life. That's what her life was prior to joining corporate. Her life turned upside down, when lockdown happened and she could no longer find gigs because pubs were not operational.

At work, everyone recognized her and were very appreciative (she was like everyone's favourite child) but I was too oblivious to notice that she existed. I used to go to work, finish all I need to do and head home. She felt that she used to get validation from everyone but me, so that's how it started. I barely knew she existed. One day, she struck a conversation with me to find out if I was really being a jerk.. and then, that got us talking.

I didn't have feelings for her initially. I thought she's just another co-worker. But, somehow that turned into flirting. I was feeling a little low, I was already 30, my social circles were diminishing. The ones around me were tying the knot and busy with their own thing. So, I felt like there were limited things for me to do. At a time like that, you feel very lonely. I spent most of my time at work, so there was no chance socializing outside. Like everyone else, I thought I should settle down too. If anything, I wasn't going to get any younger. I thought I'll give it a chance to see where this goes. I said that I wanted to date her, and she said, you know what I was waiting for you to ask!

That's how it started.

Right from the get-go, I felt our relationship was strained. We both were hard working, mature and (I never had this problem before), our conversations would just end abruptly. I never had this problem with anyone else. I can talk to anybody about anything, but with her, I felt that were long pauses. At one point, I felt I was forcing a conversation. Maybe it was our stress talking, I was dealing with a family emergency. She too, had her own problems.

To put things from her perspective, during lockdown, she had lost both her parents to CoVID. She was very lonely - and she used to volunteer at the orphanage. She came across a baby, ~ 6 months old, abandoned by her biological parents. My ex decided to give that baby a second chance at life and decided to raise the baby herself. When we were formally in a relationship, the baby was over 2 years old. I haven't come across anybody who would be brave enough to do that so, I was staggered about the whole thing. Plus, she was taking care of the baby while working, full-time. It was difficult position to be in. (Yep, I got into the relationship knowing about the baby).

We were not able to give each other too much of our time. Our conversations were usually brief. I had to take care of my mother who was hospitalized and it was the most difficult time in my life. I tried to make it work, I could only manage to meet her for 30 mins every day. A few months into the relationship, things were little better. I thought we should move in together in a few months. At least, we will have some time for each other. If need be, I could help out with the baby.

This one time, we went out and she brought the baby along. We had such a good time. I was happy, I felt this is what was missing from my life. I suddenly had a moment of “clarity” and so I asked if I could marry her, she smiled and said "Yes". I wanted to get a ring and ask her again.. and do it properly. I was quite looking forward to that.

I was proud and happy about having her in my life, so I started informing my family members. They were really happy for me. I was often planning for the future. I wanted to understand her family dynamics, how we're going to move-in together. How to introduce her to my family. I was always planning ahead. In our minds, we had already tied the knot. I always think of getting her some souvenirs or gifts if I was travelling somewhere. I had taken up that responsibility of looking after her. There were sometimes where she was irresponsible, like she'd keep losing her wallet, which would have all her banking cards and her identity card. When accounts were blocked temporarily, I used to give her cash so that she can sustain herself until the issue is resolved (and this has happened multiple times).

Things really got worse when I had went for a biking day trip across south India (just to take a break from work and issues at home). The second day of my travel, I realized that she was not returning my calls. I kept trying everyday. It was only when I returned from the trip, she said that she met with an accident while traveling in an autorickshaw and suffered a broken rib. She didn't tell me that because she didn't want me to get worried and cancel my trip. We started to have friction during her recovery process. We were fighting often and for petty reasons. She used to change the goal post whenever she wanted.

This one instance, she told me that she was going to the doctor for a check-up. I remember I was driving home from work, and it was already too late. I still offered to take her to the hospital since it was a weekend. I reached home late and I woke up late (next) afternoon. I called her up first thing, and I realized that she had already visited the doctor and was on her way back. We fought over it, but I remember clearly that she didn't mention the time. Even if she did, I would've expected her to atleast give me a call, just the same effort to request an Uber cab.

The same person, once called me up one evening to tell me that she was admitted at the hospital for having high fever. As soon as I heard that, I sprung up from my seat and I said that I was coming to see her. But she outright stopped me from meeting her. Her landlords' wife accompanied her to the hospital and she wanted to avoid awkwardness. I'm like, wouldn't this be the right time to tell them that I am in a relationship with him and he's going to marry me. Even if she didn't want to make things difficult for her, what's wrong if she would've said that I was a friend? But, she didn't call me for that, she said she wanted some cash because she didn't carry her wallet or insurance.

Anyway, a few months later, I broke the news to my mom. I told her that she's the one that I want to marry. My aunt and uncle were most excited about this and they were like, we are ready to talk to her parents. Lol. I also told one of my lecturer whom I consider as a mother figure. I told her about the kid and how I can bring it up to my parents. She was very sweet, and said, "Son, your parents would be lucky to have a daughter in law, who showed kindness and gave one infant a second chance. Maybe your parents will grovel about it for a week, but soon they'll accept her". That was a very good conversation we had.

A week later, my lecturer called me to ask about my girlfriend and the child, questions like, "When did you say she was adopted?". Basically, she said she adopted a 6 months old infant, when she was 24. I started dating her two years later, so the child was 2 years and she was 26. I was 30. My lecturer said, it's very difficult for someone to adopt a child in India. The laws are very strict, and you need to meet some criteria and once you meet the vetting process only then, you can adopt. Obviously the vetting process includes, the background of the person, the mental health history, criminal record history and they even check your employment records and if you are wealthy enough to take care of the baby. Apparently, this lecturer knew someone who have been trying to adopt a baby the entire time but were denied (and they are very wealthy). So, she called, asking how did she manage to adopt a baby so quickly? There are families who have been waiting for years.

Now obviously, all fingers point to the legitimacy of the child. As you read this, god as my witness, it didn't matter to me that if it was her child. I was ready to accept her. My lecturer said, whatever her past is, she still has to come clean and tell you if it is hers, you need to know the truth. You know, how I learnt the truth? She had a scar on her abdomen which resembles like C-section. I remember seeing this scar when we were spending our time in a hotel to celebrate our time off. She told me that she had pancreatic cancer and that needed a surgery. I didn't think much of it then.

After this unsettling news, instead of working, I was scouring the internet and it turns out that the scar on her abdomen resembled exactly what a C-section scar would look like, the size and the location, too.

I knew that the situation was FUBAR.

I couldn't tell this to my lecturer, for obvious reasons. I tried to play along. I wanted to give her opportunity to disclose the truth. I think a few weeks later, I receive another call. She was panicking and she said that her daughter had swallowed a silicon tip which belonged to one of the headphones she was using. She wanted some cash for emergency, which I sent. I was asked her multiple times where she was taking her? but she didn't actually respond to those messages. I had to dig that information out through continuous questioning. She told me that she was taking me to Hospital X, then she stopped responding to my calls or texts. X has three different branches. Although, I had half information, I thought I'll visit the branch closest to her house. When I reached there, I called her up, but there was no response, so I checked the ER and Triage. It turns out her daughter wasn't admitted there. I'm like, okay I'll head out to the next branch which was far away. I decided to ride there, when I got to the second branch, they told me that this is a speciality hospital for pregnancy and deliveries. They wanted me to try the other branch. Now, I've lost my patience, I still rode to the final branch.

When I got there, I knew she should be here. I tried texting, calling but there was no response. I eventually got a text from her saying that she was sorting out the insurance and she would call me back. This really pissed me off. How hard is it for her to tell me that she was in X floor in X building near X room? At the most 60 seconds? She said she was dealing with something important, I understand. But, wouldn't you want your better half to be with you during crisis? The way she chose to ignore me really irritated me. I decided to wait for 10 mins. Since I didn't get a call back, I didn't even bother asking the reception, I decided to head home.

The best part? I didn't get a call back that day. I got a call back two days later. She told me that her phone died and there was no way to contact me. She even decided to go house hunting with her FRIEND (for context, she had been telling that the land lord has been a pain in the ass), but in the middle of a crisis?!! I asked my friend if I was overreacting and he said it, if she really wanted to contact you, she would have found the means to. If she wanted you to be there, she would asked you. It's not like she was technologically handicapped.

I like how when she does things the goal posts change conveniently. That was the last straw. I sent a long text why it wouldn't work out between us. I even told her that I knew that she was lying about her child.

I even imagined, if something were to happen to me and if my parents tried to contact her for an update, would they even know where to find me? She did send a message to apologize for her behavior but she still defended her stance and said that she has the court papers to prove that her daughter was adopted.

If I questioned the legitimacy of the child, wouldn't you as a mother send photos to prove it? Apart from saying it verbally, she didn't send it. Or, if she said, meet me personally and I'll show you whatever you need to see and we could meet your parents. Nope. She didn't say anything of such sort.

Every time we fought, I felt bad because I thought I was being immature when I demanded her to be more loving/romantic and my self confidence took a hit.

In short, I was cheated. I fell in love with someone who was not true to herself. I thought she had integrity but clearly, she didn't. I feel bad that I had taken that time and effort to tell my parents about her. I was thinking of the implications of how my life would have changed had I married her. Having been in a relationship with her, apart from our anniversary, we did not go out together. We didn't go for movies, dinners, lunch etc. We always had to make plans accounting for the baby.

Even if I did manage to get married to her, the amount of responsibilities that came along with it was unreal. I mean, there wouldn't be space for love, romance, let alone sex. It's just do the daily chores of a married man, taking the kid to school and back, handling work. I think I would have been very unhappy in that relationship. Her toxicity was also unpredictable, so there's that.

Some things I learnt the hard way.

P.S. I've added link to my previous post.

For some background I've known her for about 7 years now, and we got really close during lockdown, we've been there for each other through tough times and everything. Last year around July we had a fight and didn't talk to each other for a while but then we worked it out and were good again. It was all good until December when she started not replying to texts, I even asked her to meet up with me before she goes to a different city for her job but she never really got back to me on that, and then the replies just stopped altogether. I haven't really confronted her about it, just sent some random messages but she never got back to me. I don't know what to do here, i actually really miss her because we were very close and she was the only person i could confide in and I was that for her. And no she's not off socials, she posts pictures going out with her friends. I find it hard to believe that she doesn't have the time to get back to me (she would use this as an excuse for late replies before). Has anyone been in a similar situation? What do I do here? TL;DR: Best friend of 7 years ghosted me and I miss her a lot.

Today I 21M was with my female 21F friend. I have always been very respectful to her and never intended to hurt her in any way, but today, in the evening, something happened. I was sitting with her and some other female friends, and we were talking casually when she began teasing me in a playful manner. While joking, she said to another friend that I am a very bitter guy (I can’t give you the whole context). Hearing this, I replied, “When did you taste me?” However, I instantly realized that I had said it in the wrong way and that it unintentionally carried an “adult” undertone. I hope you understand what I mean.

The moment became awkward. She made a very uncomfortable face, called my comment lame, and we couldn’t talk directly to each other afterward—I couldn’t even look her in the eye while speaking. Now I am overthinking a lot. I have never mistreated a girl, and I deeply regret whatever I unintentionally said; I meant something else.

One more thing: She is the reason I started going out more, laughing, talking to people, and feeling motivated to work on my dream again. She helped me come out of my emotional trauma, and she doesn’t even know it. We were getting to know each other better, and I like her somewhat, but now I think my chances are zero.

Should I ask her if she really felt awkward or bad? What can I do to make things right?

TL; DR - said something inappropriate unknowingly to my female friend and regretting it.

I had a terribe break up (with my ex) and was deeply hurt. I used to get anxiety and panic attacks, i had lost my appetite back then. I wanted to get out of it so bad, wanted to move on from that for me. i owed this to myself for years because i was never treated well in that relationship. it was only me who used to put efforts (even tho it was two sided it mostly felt one sided)

So, I had this opportunity to go to a new place for my job. I thought i will keep myself busy and try to move on from my past. And eventually things got better. things started hurting less and finally one day it stopped hurting. So, i was happy about it and i called my friend to inform her that i no longer feel anything for my ex and i feel so relieved. But she insisted me to give dating a try as i was in a new city and am over my ex too. But i wasnt ready yet to go see new ppl/date. But her being her, she set me up with one of her mutuals who used to stay in the same city as me.

I am usually shy in general. he started the conversation, i enjoyed talking to him. he asked me out for a date and i said yes. after the date, he realised i am not up for casual so he kinda started talking to me less. I was new to these kinda stuff so i texted him saying “why are you giving mixed signals to me. Man up and state clearly what do you want from me.” he was like i don’t want a relationship. i was like ok we stopped talking.

I then kinda started getting attached to him because damn he looks goodddd!! One evening i randomly texted him, and somehow things took a turn, got involved in sexting with him. He told me he was looking for casual sex but i was not (but also i started feeling things for him plus he made me so horny for him). I told lets give it a try. casual thing was first time for me but not for him. So, we kept fucking everytime we met. My feelings for him kept on intensifying. Until one day, i got posted to some other city.. so i had to leave that city.

After coming to this new city, we still used to sext. Tbh i didnt wanted to. But there was no other way he would talk to me (because he wanted to keep things as casual as he can to not get feelings involved) so i was like yea im horny bro say. One day i gathered courage and told him “i realised this casual thing is not for me, i started to have feelings for u but i know u dont feel anything for me so its better we stop talking”. Until one day, he drunk texted me saying “he likes me, and it not about sex completely, he feels something for me but he doesnt really know what. but also he is not open to dating” i dont know what he meant but yes he told this. Help me out guys, i am so confused.

p.s:- he writes poems for his ex (when i ask if those are for his ex, he says its for everyone to relate to and not for his ex) It is so evident in his poems that those are for his ex.

I (22 F) am a mba student. My bro (28 M) who came back home after quitting his job. My parents they never did this before bt started doing favouritism recently , we had good relationship before bt now I don't feel the same They favor my bro more than me and say they never do it and say I'm overthinking this. Events that happened was If I have to make something to eat for myself I need to to make it for bro as well and if I don't ddo it they'd say I need to learn manners of making it for everyone bt if he makes it for himself then they won't say anything to him If I go and start to make something for to eat they'd say I eat too much or use too much bt if he does it's ok I need to share whatever I've bt he doesn't if I brought this up they'd it's ok he is jobless right now let him use, bt would scold him if I don't share Even in house chores my mom says if we stay in this house we need to do the chores. I always do my chores properly and neatly, if one I didn't do it properly mom would point it out and I never do chores properly, bt if my bro doesn't do it properly no words said it, if I brought this to them they say he is a boy and it doesn't matter I literally feelssuffocated by this behavior of theirs if I bring this to that their behavior hurts me and my feelings they say we never do that, we both are equal to them. I'm just tried I just need comfort that's all these event may feel small bt they occur on daily basis I'm just tried 😭 I just want comfort and suggestions Note: please dont say cut them off this won't happen as im indian. I just need someone to hear me out and understand me for once. Please dont be cruel as I'm already tried of this life and I'm thinking of ending it once and for all. This is why I turned to total strangers for some comfort. Please tell me I'm not wrong for feeling this way.