Hi im been in a part time job for 9 months now, and unfortunetly there has been complants by customers directed at me due to a Very big misunderstanding on my end. Regards of what happens im in the wrong. I was informed that there might be a possible investigation on me today, and I would be informed if the investigation will be happening on monday. I am part of a union and what was going on in question was not just me, in terms of other staff members. Im predicting im going to lose my job and well im worried

hi guys so im currently juggling two great offers but i’m struggling to decide which to go with, both are great options considering i’m 19 and this is my first office job, ill leave a short description of both:

(BOTH are within customer service but company 1 is a call centre environment)

company 1:

• higher pay (just under £25k in terms of salary)
• shorter travel distance (30 minutes)
• larger company, potential room to progress
• hybrid role (2 days minimum in office a week)
• its a temporary contract that ends on 31st december but they said “with likely extension”
• got role through an agency and benefits are unknown along with a few other aspects

company 2:

• less pay but still good (£22.4k)
• longer travel (1hr minimum to 1hr 30 if there’s traffic)
• permanent position
• great benefits and have a lovely team
• in office 5 days a week
• 30 minute break during work day (8:30am-5pm)

Based on this, what would you guys go with personally? I’d love to hear your opinions, I started off with my heart set on company 2 then received an offer for company 1 and i’m struggling to weigh out the pros and cons between the two given the current employment situation in the UK

I have an office manager job at a university. My team is moving to a new building, and they are taking away our offices; we will have to book a desk in a row, shoulder to shoulder in a large noisy room, we will have to use a tiny locker for our personal stuff (a different one every day as there won't be enough of them for all of us meant to be working there).

I'm on the autistic spectrum, though I've not told work that, and this new working arrangement is going to kill me. I had an office shared with one other person, so I could keep the florescent tube lights off and use lamplight instead, have loads of plants around to calm me down, have my own drawers with my own stuff arranged properly, have quiet and a shuttable door if I needed it, and nobody else to disturb or change anything in my working area.

I don't want to have to quit, but I can't see any other option. I would feel very uncomfortable demanding that they give me an office, when everyone else has to go in the cattle pen; and there isn't any space in the new building for that anyway.

I wonder if anyone has any advice for me? Do I have any options? thanks.

Just a quick question - I am in a rush for a DBS to be done on time for a position, it’s at stage four, in progress. I know this stage is notorious for taking a longgg time so i don’t want to hear anymore about that, my anxiety can’t take it haha.

But - I’m just wondering, could it progress further over this weekend or do they only do these things mon-fri?

Thanks for any knowledge on this, I’m hoping over the weekend it could still count as time to be worked on…

I have recently left my job, after years of seeing how the company treats staff. I had witnessed first hand the poor treatment. However, for fear of my job I didn't push the matter to far. Well that was until I found myself on the receiving end of the treatment. I tried several times to bring the treatment to light, but with no success. They were all blinded by the lies and the deciete of my colleagues. Targeting me and making me very unwelcome. Making me out to the one with the issues and the problem, when that was far from the truth. I found out about the lies the rumours that were been spread. Yet again it all fell on deaf ears. Since leaving I have discovered that I am still been spoke about in a negative manner. However, what they don't know is that I kept the receipts of all the bullying and harassment I had to endure. Even the way in which they spoke about other colleagues. Would it seem like am a sore loser or looking revenge, if I expose the people who wronged me or spread lies and rumours. Would I be right to expose the type of people the company will support and will not support. That even if you do speak up and defend yourself the company will still not believe you and take the side of the ones bullying and harassing others by giving them a promotion for their behaviours.

I've been employed by the same company for nearly 10 years. I work x4 days per week (30 hours per week).

They recently introduced a new staff perk called "Summer Fridays", whereby full-time staff can take a half-day off every week, on full pay, during summer months.

This perk is not offered to part-time workers.

Do I have any right to request a pro-rata equivalent?

On 6/24/23 I quit W4LM4RT The reason being because my OPD manager didn’t seem to understand that I couldn’t dispense orders which it’s expose my fresh tattoo(open wound), I told her i could still do picking, but she refuse, she said that dispensing is my only job at OPD, but if im not wrong OPD is also picking, I only ask for at least 3 days of picking, but she say no I try to put 1 week notice but she told me to just quit and so I did Why managers gotta be assholes

I work in software, and my company are hiring another person to join our team. I was curious as to what the job advert says. I went from curious to annoyed when I saw it. The required skills are all skills I feel I have, and I even have the majority of the desired skills in the advert, yet the salary is 10 - 15k more than I’m currently on!

I’ve just had a cost of living pay rise in line with inflation but how do I bring this up to my manager without sounding….greedy?

Hi everyone

I'm 25 from the East Midlands. My dad died 5 months ago and as a result of this, I had 10 weeks off work. 2 weeks before this, I was given a permanent contract. Went back to work after we eventually had his funeral, couldn't cope and then had another 2 weeks off (all through sick notes from the GP). Work were supportive through this and were helpful because as you can imagine, my mental health has been hugely impacted.

Now my brother is waiting for biopsy results and there is a high chance that he could have cancer, so my mental health has been hugely impacted again. I've come to the end of my probation period and I had to have a meeting with my manager. I was told that they had to let go of me today because of attendance, is this allowed? Neither of these situations are in my control or my fault. What are my options?

Thanks

Hi, everyone. How could I deal with the whole-vegan department? I am a research student at the Uni, and some of the research students are extreme vegans who urged the whole department to serve vegan food only during any social event. Because of their strong attitudes, the Dep. has allowed it. Non-vegan people have no chance to say no now.

I've got a new client in work. I'm due to have my first call with them next week. They are a French luxury fashion brand. Any tips on making a good first impression with a French client? Is it cringy to great them in French knowing full well I couldn't say anything more than 'bonjour! '

Hey I am in my 20s, and I've had a spell of jobs in the charity sector and it's all toxic. I work in policy.

My latest one, my manager is just incredibly toxic. She has very little time for me and it's exhausting.

I am looking at the civil service, but would be grateful if anyone who works in policy or public affairs has transferred to the private sector and if so what do you do you because I'm tired of the charity sector .

Hi all.

Well as you can see my issue here is my boss. I don’t even know where to begin here… apologies if I ramble..

I’ve been at my job for little under a year and a half. I work at a local hotel in housekeeping. All in all I don’t have an issue with what I do for a living.. I clean rooms, it’s fine. My boss however is a massive bitch. At first I could handle it and deal with her behaviour but I don’t have the best mental health (which she knows) and I’m struggling. She’s has obvious favourites within the HK group, has on multiple occasions made homophobic remarks about staff to myself & a fellow supervisor… and on occasion made derogatory + racist remarks about guests. Her manner of speech is quite disgusting. My supervisor & I wake up to strings of angry messages on our work group chat from things that she doesn’t find acceptable from the day before. It can be something as small as that we didn’t delete an email she felt needed to be deleted. She constantly pushes the staff to go quicker in rooms, which has ended up in many leaving and one has recently been off sick due to stress.

*our recommend time in each room is 23mins. There are days where we can have up to 18 rooms to clean. She is currently expecting her first child (15 weeks) and us supervisors are expected to not only help in corridors but train new staff and also help her in overseeing HK rooms because “she’s not able to move so much now”.

On Monday, as a (still training) supervisor, I was to be on shift with two other Hk staff. One phoned in sick at the last minute leaving me until to find cover in time. (I let my boss know this, she said I and the remaining staff member could do rooms together)

Now myself + one Hk we’re to clean 32 rooms between us.

The weekend had been very busy and the pair of us tried our very best to keep a decent time. However my boss on this day also wanted me to do a full stock count of everything we have to place in rooms as well as a linen count on the days delivery as there was no linen porters on rota for that day. At 5:15pm, she messaged being quite rude and disrespectful about us still being at work as she felt we’ve had wasted time.

Now I’m aware I may sound like a child but as someone who suffers from anxiety, this behaviour is stressful and she is aware of my mental health.

I want to put in a complaint against her about her work place attitude but I don’t trust this will get far as her boss has broken confidentiality in the past after a previous employee complained. *we are an outside company we don’t work for the hotel only with them.

I’m lost & stressed. I would appreciate any help on this matter but I ask you to please be kind. These kinds of situations are difficult for some to navigate.

I've worked here for 6 months and my job is to basically tidy the clothes section of a supermarket. I tend to work alone but when I am working and conversing with my colleagues I'm polite, I ask questions, I engage and try to remember details about them. All of my fellow colleagues I including the one who started a month after me have been made permanent but I haven't.

During the conversation between my manager and I, she mentioned that I don't look happy and that I lack enthusiasm for the role. This upset me as I feel like I try to make myself seem cheery. She claimed to have not seen me smile in months despite the fact that I smile at her every time I see her and ask how she is. She has also told me that seeing me on the shop floor and talking to me one on one is like she is seeing and talking to 2 different people.

My manager makes me nervous. I feel like she talks to me like I'm a child (I'm 23F) and since I told her about my anxiety and sensory issues it has become worse. I view her like a primary school head teacher.

She has asked that I prove to her that I want to remain in this position and then she will consider making me permanent.

I'm upset by this. For a start, this is my face... I can't help the way I look and when I'm working alone for hours on end I tend to just return to my default expression. To learn that I look miserable even when I'm enjoying myself is very upsetting. I suffer with anxiety and have suspected autism/ADHD (I'm on the waiting list for an assessment however it is a 3 year wait). I tend to have anxiety attacks before my shift. I also subconsciously change my personality depending on who I'm talking to... I have since discovered that this is called Masking.

I'm too scared to talk to her about this because of how her behaviour has changed towards me since telling her about my anxiety. I fear she would further patronise me (or treat me like one of the other disabled members of staff).

Am I being unreasonable? Is this a good enough reason to not make me permanent?

Never joined one, but might need urgent help. Read somewhere that some can not help for 4 weeks? But not sure if that's true of all of them.

Just learned I ordered 500 quid worth of office supplies for our office, mixed up the delivery and billing address as they changed the format, sent it to the other end of the UK, how can I fix this without my boss finding out and giving me the sack😂

Hi,

I currently work for a company and have been there for a little over 10 months (my first UK Company as I'm an immigrant). In the first couple of months, I faced a sexual harassment issue with a direct manager. The company dealt with it quickly and made me feel really safe so I stayed.

Since June I've been dealing with little support from a coworker even though we're supposed to work together to deliver projects. I've raised the issue to HR, my managers, and even their supervisors. In Dec, I went on holiday for three weeks (which was approved) and when I came back it was pure hellfire. I've been trying to sort everything out (it's been about three weeks since I've been back) and finally managed to get our projects signed off about two weeks ago. I asked my supervisors for support numerous times and just got hit with the "keep trying" and "just get through this rough patch".

Last week I had a disciplinary meeting, in which I got a written warning and was put on a probationary plan, then later that week a family member passed away. I had a check-in this week and was told there was one area I still had to work on but everything else was fine. I raise to my supervisors early this week that I was nervous about a project not being able to meet its deadline they said it was fine as they reached out to an outside source to help me with the project as they weren't sure if I'd be back due to the death.

Fast forward to today, I got a call and was told I wasted their time and that I'd have another disciplinary meeting because I'm costing the company money as the project wasn't able to go out today. That my work is unsatisfactory and that I am not holding myself responsible for my role. I got the letter from HR and was told this meeting could result in my termination.

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I'm unsure if I should just turn my notice in as I've felt like I was being bullied into a corner to quit since I returned from my holiday and now that I haven't I'm having another disciplinary meeting.

Is there anything I can do? Another co-worker said just to turn in my notice and don't give them the satisfaction of firing me, my partner said I should go on here.

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Any advice would be appreciated.

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Thanks.

Good morning,

I'm looking for support with a topic that started stressing me out severely and that is impacting my confidence at work and in a way my private life too, as I bring these negative thoughts and stress at home too.

I work as Talent Acquisition Manager in a particularly Liberal pub company in England, UK. I believe it's relevant to highlight their left-leaning culture, as they publicly advertise their complete and full commitment to employment care, equal treatment and respect for all, and consider these values being major pillars of the company.

The head of people is my direct manager, important to clarify that she is not a qualified HR manager. Indeed, she pretty much spent 20 years in the company, covered any imaginable position in there and pretty much obtained this role only following the pandemic after surviving a general lay off given her seniority. Important to highlight that The head of people is good friend with the managing director of the company and has a particularly strong influence on the CEO, who seem to lack of leadership.

the people team is made of her, myself, a training and development manager currently on maternity leave and a training coordinator, who's the other issue in this story.

Turns out that the Head of People and the Training Coordinator are friends, very good friends. They spend Christmas together, party together, and not only that, they are not shy to hide this relationship at work and the manager is shamelessly clearly showing favouritism for this person. It didn't bother me.. Until it did.

A few examples:

• This coordinator capitalises on the fact that she's the boss' friend to patronise me and talk to me in a child-like passive aggressive way, also tries to gaslight me repetitively (so far failing miserably). I have already reported an episode to the manager but no real actions/consequences have been taken
• Both the head of people and this coordinator are teaming up during employees induction, meeting new starters and introducing themselves as the people team, leaving me in the light of "the talent acquisition person".
• during major company meeting, the head of people publicly mentions the coordinator's name and advertises her successes, whereas when I achieve major objectives it's all about the "people Team". This makes me feel particularly undervalued, disrespected and I believe it's deeply unfair as I work very hard for this company.
• the training coordinator is also pissing off the majority of head office members with her attitude and entitlement, but anytime someone kicks back, the head of people protects her with all her strength, shamelessly.

These are only the major example I think is relevant to mention to give you a bit of perspective.

It's worth mentioning that I am very good at my job, and I'm not blowing my own trumpet here. I'm also not from the UK originally, whilst both of them are, and had it harder in a way to prove my value and get genuine respect from my coworkers.

My dilemma : how can I deal with such situation? I'm stressed, this situation is insidiously occupying my thoughts and in a way affecting my self esteem and confidence at work. I do not want to leave the company now, I want to spend a min of 2 years in it to consolidate my role. Shall I talk to my manager? Shall I start a cold war? Shall I contact the workers union? I have a meeting with the head of people for my performance review next Tuesday, shall I mention this? How?

I would truly appreciate some suggestions, particularly welcomed from UK based attorneys / HR managers or workers that experienced something similar and managed to find a solution.

Thank you truly in advance.

I've been working for the company since 2018. This year they forbid everyone from taking single days off. We are allowed to book holidays but only if the request is from Monday to Friday.

Is it legal?

Wondering if anyone can advise on this, will be much appreciated. As a young female (permanent employee) I have given in my resignation due to discrimination and harassment faced at work. What are my rights? Can I get monetary compensation for my troubles?

Thanks in advance for any advice!

I'm a male and I have been working out for a long time and I been trying to bulk, but it seems that no matter what all I eat goes to my bottom and thighs, no matter what I do nothing goes to my biceps or chest or back, I'm a track and field Arlette but I still find this concerning, and a lot of people have pointed out that I have a big bottom and it's uncomfortable. Someone please give me some advice

Hey reddit fam, this may look like a joke but I assure you it’s no laughing matter and I need help to fix this situation.

My boss has this weird habit of grabbing any sort of beverage bottle and pretending to “jack it off”. The worst part is he always aims it at people, we all laugh to him but we all secretly feel uncomfortable about the situation. Sometimes he will take it the next step further by saying “take it from daddy”.

Please guys any advice would be appreciated, he is a good guy but just don’t know how to bring it up without hurting his feelings, he really does think he is funny but just isn’t and we can’t break it to him due to he gets emotional.

Thanks guys I look forward to any tips you may have!

Just started a new job, it's full time 40 hours a week. I do 9-5 shifts Monday to Friday. I'm already thinking I would prefer to do 4 days a week. Cost of fuel, tiredness, miss my family. I'm not worried about dropping hours. Am I too early in my job to be asking about reduced days, after I've just agreed to a 40hr contract?

My shifts weren't stated in the job advert or contract just the contracted hours so does that give me some wiggle room?

Or do I wait out a couple weeks then make my decision?

Hi!

My boyfriend is wanting advice, or just an outside perspective, on something that came up in his work appraisal today after being there 3 months.

For context, my boyfriend was diagnosed with dyslexia at an early age. He didn’t mention this in his interview or upon starting the job as he didn’t feel it was necessary; there was no opportunity on any employment form about learning disabilities to do so and feels embarrassed about bringing it up, and didn’t think it was necessary to disclose it without being asked about any disabilities.

His job consists of writing up documents, amongst other things. In his appraisal, he mentioned to the CEO that he was struggling with the writing elements due to his dyslexia. His line manager had known about his dyslexia since July, but the CEO only found out today as far as he is aware. Afterwards, my boyfriend was told that he hadn’t passed his probation period, but that it was being extended.

He was then questioned about his dyslexia and whether he had been clinically diagnosed, and was asked why he (the CEO) hadn’t been informed about it in initial meetings. The CEO then said that if he had known about his disability, he would have thought twice about hiring him as ‘the job isn’t for someone who’s dyslexic.’ He then said ‘it’s like running a marathon with one leg.’ Can this be seen as discrimination?

It was also mentioned that the CEO believes his dyslexia causes him to complete work too slow, and that he takes much longer than others.

Instead of asking for things that may help him with the writing tasks, he has now been given a timesheet in which he has to keep track of everything he’s doing every hour of each day, and how long they take him to complete. He feels this doesn’t help but instead, is almost like ridiculing him for his learning disability. There is nothing in place to help or support him with his dyslexia in the workplace.

He has to meet the CEO in two weeks time to see if he is making progress, but at the same time, is receiving absolutely no help or support to ensure he can improve his work.

Does anyone have any advice or general thoughts about this?

Thanks!

I (F, 39) took the second week of August off work as AL. On my first day back my manager (ops manager) asked for a meeting and we booked it in.

At the meeting, she said that there's been some things said that seems very out of character and she wanted to check in to see if I am ok.

As it happens, I wasn't (still not) and I explained that I have been experiencing flashbacks to childhood trauma and it resulted in me getting to a really awful state of mind and I almost did something to myself.

My boss was great. She told me to forget about work, see my doctor, get treatment etc... I was signed off for a month. She and her boss, checked in here and there via WhatsApp which was really appreciated. I sought a private therapist, as the mental health help provided by work was depression/anxiety geared and I would require therapy more specialised.

I was feeling so terrible for leaving so abruptly and felt like I was ready to go back, it was meant to be today my first day. I text my boss to say that and a day later she requests a meeting for Thursday.

I go into the meeting and she tells me that before I went on sick she had explained there were some issues flagged and that I am not invited back to work until an investigation has been conducted.

I was completely floored and confused. I had gotten a decent pay rise a month prior, based on performance etc. She also told me that I was the next logical choice for becoming the next OM.

The day after, I got an email confirming my suspension of duties, pending an investigation into issues which have come to light regarding the management of my team, including allegations of bullying. The bullying part was never mentioned in the meeting.

It's all so vague, I have wracked my brains to try and understand where/what this is all about and it's genuinely awful not knowing what it's about or what will happen.

I've been on the receiving end of workplace bullying and before I became a manager, knew it would be something that I would never tolerate. I've dedicated the last 4 years to listen to my team, hear where they want to take their career and to map out their journey and what the next steps are for them to get closer to that next role. I make sure I consider all eventualities before doing anything and I just can't fathom what this is all about.

I am heartbroken. I've worked so hard for this and I feel like it's all about to be taken away.

I don't know what to do from here. Does anyone have any advice on what I should be doing at this point?

I've no idea how long the investigation is likely to take. She just said she will investigate it as quickly as possible.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

i recently started a new job, up until now i everything was fine but i made one little mistake to be moaned at for making a simple mistake which happens 🤷🏻‍♀️ i struggle with really bad mental health issues and was told if my actual manager was here he would of been screaming and shouting at me 🤦🏻‍♀️ it’s put me off working here now but am i overthinking this

So my wife is due to go back to work in January from maternity leave and I was planning to start working longer days but have a short week. The intention is to try and keep child care cost down

My boss is pretty understanding and supportive (so long as the work gets done), but the decision will likely be not his.

When putting in the request, what hours can I be expected to work? Currently on a standard 9:00 - 5:30 work week.

How do I broach this subject and then enforce it if it's accepted?

Hi im a 24f, from the UK, who works in a hospital department and im DESPERATE for some advice or support.

Heres a back story.

There were 7 staff members doing the late shift in our department, and 1 left 20mins earlier than he should of, one of the staff members in the department noticed he had left and mentioned he could see him walking to his car from the window, everyone was confused as to why he left early so another staff member asked the 5 us left did senior staff know he left as its a fire risk. We all stated we didnt know and said staff member went to find seniors.

3 other staff members where on break. There was a situation in the break room with the staff member who went to find senior staff and another staff member who was having a break.

The staff members who was having a break came storming into the department full of fury and started screaming at us for "having a problem with the staff member who left 20 mins early" this staff member is a female in her 50s, who i was very close too (well i thought) anyway shes screaming and shouting at us all and then leaves. Im an anxious person and just stood in pure silence and horror while she was shouting and when she left i took myself for break.

When i came back, 50f made two personal attacks at me, one for asking another male colleague why he mentioned my name as i couldnt hear, and another for leaving to go for my last break before my shift ended.

She then proceeds to come into the break room and starts screaming and shouting at my senior staff member she can she im obviously very distressed and im crying but shows no sympathy and carries on screaming and squares up the my senior.

I got sent home shortly after that as i was to distressed.

The next day i do a write up or a datix if you work in the nhs. As her behaviour was disgusting. Friend or not you dont behave like that at work.

Shes not spoken to me at all not even apologised for shouting at me for no reason, im assuming shes found out I've wrote her up and has taken it upon herself to tell her side to other staff members who now wont talk to me either they single me out and i feel very uncomfortable i wont take my breaks in my break room. I wont get changed in my changing room as we are on the same patterns. Im getting so stressed out and its effecting my relationship back at home as i come home miserable.

What should i do?

Do i take this further to HR.

is it a you made your bed lie in it situation.

Am i wrong for reporting a friend even though they did wrong?

Please help im at my wits end i dont know what to do.