Will definitely update in a couple of days.

So I [M23] have recently started dating people from dating apps. Before that it was just me asking out friends I was close with, so there's a lotttt I need to figure out about dating. Ofc the best way is to get out there and learn from experience, but I'd like to gauge a general consensus on my now issue.

I recently asked a girl [F23] out on a date which was just gonna be a walk. Then, I randomly won entry tickets to a high end club, told her about it and if she'd like to go with me. Gave her an exit option that we can go back to our more chill plan if she's not comfortable. She said she had been wanting to check the place out for a while and is totally down

So now I'm going on a first date to a club and we have plans to pre-booze and also drink inside (since I offered the tickets and pre stuff, she's insisting she buys inside)

What to expect? We'll probably take a walk before but the main question is that things get heated up a bit faster ig when you're drunk and in a club environment. And me being a bit socially awkward need to be mentally prepared if things go in that direction. I realise it's a weird question, but please manage expectations on my behalf

So I've had a few times now where they changed their location but then claim that they didn't lie about it, bit had no allusion to the location being fake so surely they are. An example would be them putting london when they are actually in Indonesia?what exactly is their logic?

Didn't log in for a week, surely none of these profiles are fake right 🌚

Hi, I'm trying to sign up for Okcupid account but I keep getting this error saying unable to send code to my phone number, I've tried reinstalling the app but still the phone number verification not working, appearing same error.

Still not able to receive an SMS.

Anybody knows solution for this?

Long story i paid for a month of OKC to see who my 99+ likes were. Almost entirely from people on different continents. During my paid trial i got a total of maybe 3 likes. Within an hour of it ending i am literally watching my likes crawl up consistently at a rate of like 1 every three minutes at minimum

My first subscription ended couple of days ago and since then there is an overflow of likes. I'm guessing that's how they get you to renew your subscription, but if I do renew would all those likes end them being from international and irrelevant? Also, is there a way to limit or pick the countries in the international section?

Ok guys so I’ve only had my account for 2 days and I already got 42 likes? Hear me out, these are are fake accounts and OkCupid has to do with it. This creates the urge to wanting to pay the premium to unlock those likes but in reality they’re all fake accounts. If you look closely, these are all African girls. I can 100% tell the difference. What’s your opinion?

Since OkCupid is basically spiraling into nothing, and the "insane" Bumble rebrand yesterday was them literally just changing some colors around, I'm probably going back to Hinge. But one of the things I like the most about OkCupid is the ability to write longer form answers on your profile.

There are a few articles about Date Me Docs and that it's typically a google document or something and you just share that link with others, that way people on other apps can still learn about me.

Has anyone made one or used one? Any experiences?

I super liked someone who appeared in Cupid's Picks and now I can't find them. They are not appearing in the usual list of people I have sent a normal like to. I do have premium. I am not sure if that changes things.

Also, is it possible to send a regular like on someone who is on Cupid's Picks? That's why I sent a super like to them, as the regular normal like option wasn't showing up on Cupid's Picks.

"OkCupid has changed its Terms. To use OkCupid, you must agree to the Terms, which contain updated dispute resolution provisions in Section 15 that apply to any past, pending, and future dispute. The updates include agreeing to an informal dispute resolution process before pursuing a claim, a new arbitration provider, potential shifting of fees, and protocol required if you participate in mass arbitration filings (including mandatory bellwether proceedings). Users who created an account before February 28, 2022 have a limited, one-time right within 30 days of tapping "Agree" below to opt out of the retroactive application of the changes in Section 15 by following the instructions in Section 15e.

By tapping Agree, you agree to our updated Terms. See also our updated Privacy Policy and Cookie Policy"

I got a message today that I got banned maybe because I uploaded one anime picture

So I said that my account broke that term multiple times so I got banned and can apeal with in 6 months

When I went to appeal the company which they used no longer works with them so there is no way of appealing

Anyway I don't think I have extra resources to make a new account as I used my mobile number and mail Id

Cya it was ups and downs but a experience have a great day

So hi well I’m posting on here because this girl I have been talking to for a week maybe 2 has just randomly blocked me on Snapchat and my number the last thing I said was want to hangout one day and she said I don’t think I can and then blocked me

Also wondering about this girl that went from like really nice and shit to dry idk what to do if I could get some help that would be great ty

~~I'm(M31) New to the dating scene and could use some/any advice or a general yay or nay. It ended up being a word wall which I've heard some enjoy but others not so much. I'm open to any and all advice as I've been 'out of the game' for quite a while, even 'brutal' honesty.~~

(I can't see likes, shoot me a message, and let's chat about something that interests you!)

Firstly, Married and new to Poly, not looking for a throuple with my spouse or unicorn. Hoping for a slow-burn relationship that I can eventually show the same dedication with, or, some cool gaming/DnD friends.

My core Hobbies include Video Games, Anime, and DnD. I Love poetry, and anything related to S.T.E.M, and am starting to get into fitness since starting my own journey last year. I'm prone to hyper-fixations, so there is a non-zero chance I'll get just as into your hobbies as you are.

I do enjoy cooking and do cook/bake quite a bit. I'm also into mixology, so if you're into Tea, Coffee, or Cocktails, either making or enjoying, then we'll get along!

I'm an introvert who enjoys all music genres #PolyJAMorous, though I generally fall around Rock/alt/Folk/Rap. If you're into personality quizzes mine generally falls around INTP-T.

I'm a fan of horror and dark humor, but I'll settle for board games and petty laughter any day. My guilty pleasure is playing Devil's Advocate as it's my favorite means to understand how a person thinks, but I'm fairly good at keeping it to myself if it's unwanted.

In relationships, trust and openness are paramount. I value commitment and enjoy seeing people grow. I thrive on learning, empathy, good communication, and occasionally Pizza rolls.

My ideal date involves a starlit sky, cheap wine, and good food. Despite being introverted, I don't mind stepping out occasionally, especially if it means sharing moments of joy and laughter with someone special.

Fun facts: I've dabbled in mock trials, had a memorable encounter with a Chihuahua, and even had a shot at singing for the president.

For those into Astrology (I have no idea what any of this means):
Birth Sign: Taurus
Rising/Ascendant: Cancer
Sun: Taurus
Moon: Aries
Venus: Aries
Mars: Cancer
Jupiter: Libra
Mercury: Aries
MidHeaven: Pisces Black
Moon: Pisces, 9th house(close to 10th)

this is from 11 years ago… I still think about it often, and it comes up in my Facebook memories once a year. Sure do miss those match percentages (back when they meant something)

I was just wondering this because I use it to be anonymous and ask silly questions and post things without shame. I get chat requests all the time, and got in to chatting with ppl. But, did anyone ever found love on Reddit?

Is there anyway I can make it so people from other countries can't like me? I'm a solid 2 out of 10 dude and really don't get much luck on any of the other apps, maybe average like 1 like per-day on bumble/tinder.

But on OKC I have like 450+ in a week lol, so I decided to buy the basic premium to see if these are real people and where are these people from and 98% of them are from another country.

Is this common? And how do I make it so people from thousands of miles away cannot like me?

Edit: for anyone looking in the future, Hily seems like a close option to OKC and you wont get hundreds of matches forced apon you from thousands of miles away.

Got a good laugh out of this.

I joined this whole dating seen 2 months ago initially I tried every dating site but soon I realized that popular sites like tinder, bumble and hinge are not for me

After that I found out about cupids they were ok but they had very few users, then finally switched to okcupid here there were more people and it seemed fine than popular options

I talked to some people and in 2 months I got 4-5 decent conversation from people Generally even if matched people don't msg or even reply if someone do they stop just 10 minutes Maybe because before each conversation I used to do a quick intro and I don't know why after my intro generally they would stop (I do ask them if they are not interested anymore but still no replies)

But some time I people still stay and talk in conversation I tried different things I tried to be straight forward, chill, genuine but nothing worked for me in all of my chats there were only two people with whome I talked more one blocked me for miscommunication and after some effort we started talking again and as I thought every thing is alright I was blocked again for no reason maybe during blocked phase I showed little too much of desperation

And with other well she don't use much socials

And rest either blocked me or stopped talking for some reason and I can't find reason this time my convo was good

When I was not in this dating thing my insta time was 15 min but now it gone up to 2 hours When I came it was to experience things and make friends as there is no dating culture in my country

That girl who blocked me I think she found someone now (maybe) and I don't mind

So this is my experience for online dating it didn't worked for me and currently I am on a break I do have option of arrange marriage as mu stocks are high and if I wanted to But I am still young Anyway thanks for listening to me

Scammers seem to be getting better and are using images that don't show up with a reverse image search.

As a warning to others, i think it would be a good idea to upload these so that they're tagged as a potential scammer.

Does such a site exist?

After reading a lot of advice and messages on here (and my own experiences) I realize how difficult it is to rely only on dating apps in order to both get dates and get into a relationship.

I am open to meeting people in real life. I am also open to asking for dates in person. I am also a homebody, but I do go out. Normally to restaurants, or just shopping. 

I will admit I do not have a traditional social life. I do not have friends or a social circle of any sort. And I only have one coworker. I do not think he wants me to ask him out ;)

The obvious advice anyone would get in this situation is to go out to bars or meetup groups or join like a co-rec league or volunteer. I am not interested in doing those things. I prefer to keep my social life very simple and small (I also do not drink). And to be blunt I would rather remain single than to do those things. 

And asking someone out without me really knowing them is just a bridge too far for me. I realize I must seem like a hopeless case. And maybe I am. But I want to turn over every stone before I give up.

If we eliminate meeting through friends and family, through coworkers, and hobbies and like meet up groups, what are my options? Am I missing something obvious. I will admit I do not keep up to date with things. 

If you are curious, I am 37 and live just outside a couple of medium sized cities in the US. Thank you. 

Exclusive of the title, I feel like trying to meet someone in general has become a weird mash up of Groundhog Day and the ending of Evil Dead 2. I haven't been on a serious date since around 2005. I've been actively trying to meet someone serious since 2014. I have ASD and recognize that limits my available suitress candidates, but thst doesnt diminish my desire for companionship. Ten years ago the advice was work on yourself. I already had the good job, but I focused on my mental health and fitness. Then the advice was focus on hobbies and clubs. I cook, I'm a skilled orienteer, and I paint and craft. I'm decent enough diorama maker that I can turn a decent side income on Etsy when I feel like dealing with people. I've tried clubs, matchmakers, singles events, meetups, Happy Hour(s), volunteering, apps...all without success. So then the advice becomes to lower my standards. They weren't that high to begin with, but it turns out that even people you don't vibe with or feel attracted to can still be flaky. Lowering your standards actually just makes tou feel terrible about yourself. So now the sage advice is that being ghosted is about them and not you, and it is all about luck. Perhaps in another 5 years it will be that I should try joining the Esoteric Order of Dagon, or getting sucked into the Jumanji game to find my true love.

Anyway, to the 35 year old lawyer that unmatched/blocked/whatevered me for our date tonight...your job requires that people trust in your ability to communicate, and you can't even handle a simple message of telling someone you are too busy or not interested. I can't say that it would have led to a second date, and statistically speaking it probably wouldn't have...but ghosting people is shit behavior. I won't wish you ill will or claim I could have made you happy as we really dont know each other, but I will say your actions hurt my feelings. The Golden Rule still holds merit with me. You made me a little bit meaner and a little bit more cruel and a little bit less trusting by doing something that people say everybody does but no one should. To that I say shame on your house.

Hello, yesterday I was talking to someone, suddenly after a few hours I couldn’t access her profile anymore, I could enter the chat but when I tried to enter her profile where I can see the pictures and bio it wrote general error, all this time I had the chat in the chat box, when I reopened the app the chat disappeared completely, did she unmatch me or is it a bug, today again I matched with someone and the same story As far as I remember when someone unmatched the chat disappeares instantly, this is why I ask the question Thank you for your help !

I'm unfamiliar with OKC. I thought it was a decent app, but I've never spent much time on it and coming to this sub to post this, all I saw were posts about how it sucks. I made my profile and go back to it to answer more questions every now and then to stop my profile from becoming inactive, but I've never paid for it and I've never swiped through any profiles.

I got an intro recently which, as a guy, I've only ever gotten once before back when I first made my profile like five years ago.

They mentioned specific stuff in my profile and seemed real, but I was just wondering if the bot accounts on this app are really that advanced or not and if I'm allowed to feel genuinely touched by real human interaction or if I'm being manipulated with code lol