My boyfriend and I are together and it’s still fresh. He is super controlling with me and at times hurtful with his words, I’m not sure if it’s the job or the person. It’s hard for me to communicate my feelings or anything with him because he turns it around and makes it about him. It’s just really hard. I like him, but I’m doubting myself now. Are there any tips on dating police officers?

Brother is a cop, same dept., not sure how to respond or help? Haha

The adorable AskLE sub banned me for these 3 comments. Just sharing sections with my comments. Comments from LEO were defending the actions of cop in OPs question.

OP was asking if they were getting harassed or if this is normal... Long story short, OP while driving got a ticket. Paid ticket a week later. Gets letter saying renew licence. So they did... Weeks go by and original officer swings by OPs house on a Saturday evening asking if ticket and all has been resolved... WTF!?!? Here are my evil words that caused me to not be able to discuss matters with AskLE anymore...

Okay I desperately need advice and mods on other subs think I'm a fake person so hopefully this one doesn't :')

So trying to be kinda anon cause I'm genuinely terrified of this police department and their capabilities. Please be kind as I'm not as well versed as I'd like to be when it comes to laws and the justice system. Although I'm not super well-versed in this stuff, I know what is happening has got to be extremely corrupt and I don't know what to do about it.

My family is in Kansas, which is where all of this takes place. Unfortunately both of my parents have been through the system here and both times had their right's violated. When my mother was arrested, they denied her any medical treatment although she had received a concussion. She also takes Effexor and they denied her any medication for four days but if you know about withdrawal from Effexor you know that it can easily kill you or give you a stroke. Doctor's make it very clear you cannot ever cold-turkey from Effexor. They also did not give her clothing but a piece of burlap cloth to cover up with. For four days. They also deny their inmates water and expect them to drink from the toilet AND refused to give her toilet paper although she was menstruating. When my dad was in their jail 11 years ago, they refused to give him his medications for seizures which he's been on since 1983, since he was 14.

Years later after separation from my father, my mom meets this guy who seems super nice. Well, turns out this dude is a psychopath and is on probation. During his time with my mom there were numerous domestic violence altercations between my mother and him and then also some open cases with his ex-wife for abuse, some of which happened during his probationary period (that he's still on) and he also got a DUI. ALL of these things were entirely ignored by his probation officer. A year later, my mom meets another man who is ACTUALLY kind but made bad choices and ended up on probation for drugs. He has been entirely clean, making his meetings and what not. Well, he was helping my mom with yard work and broke his foot and rescheduled his meeting with his PO and on his way to the rescheduled meeting got a call saying "nope, you can meet me at the jail at 8:00am tomorrow." He tested clean but got thrown in jail for 40 days and had his phone calls revoked nearly immediately for "abusing his calls."

I also had to reach out to someone in this town, a regular joe, because they were stalking my mom relentlessly for the ex boyfriend who the PO officer repeatedly let off (by the way, he showed up so violent we finally got a protection order and he's STILL not in jail or had any consequences and has court with his ex wife [who remarried him, this is a very yee-haw little town] in four days and never saw jail for any of that). Anyways, I reached out and said
"please stop harassing my parent, you're a literal nurse and it would suck if you lot your license for stalking someone" or something very close to that. Listen, I know enough to know better than to ever threaten anyone or anything of that sort. I even sent ONE message, can't be harassment lol. So this lady CALLED THE COPS FOR THIS and they showed up at my mom's house to take me to jail!!!! I can even find the message for yall there wasn't anything threatened or harassment or any of that sort. Luckily I live in another state but basically this lady cop called me saying she'll have me arrested and expedited as if I dont live in Philly where the cops have MUCH bigger fish to fry. THEN a cop called me on his personal phone from THE OTHER TOWN. There is soo much more I can add in. All this to say, WHAT THE HELL DO I DO? We are one of many families in this town that has been abused by these people and we've tried making KBI reports but nothing ever happens. Please be kind as this is extremely overwhelming and stressful and I just feel like the only option is to get my family out but we own a home and are renovating so it isn't just that easy. Do I send a letter to the governer or the FBI? Like this cannot be normal and I know jails are corrupt everywhere but this town is sooooo small and I just feel like everyone lives in constant fear of our police. They literally do what they want. I'm really not looking to be told this is dramatic and stupid, I just want to protect my family and Im terrified anything I do will fall back onto us. It's our ENTIRE justice department in this town and bordering towns and I feel so beyond helpless and am so tired of living in fear for my baby sister and mom.

Alright sorry for the rambling and hopefully it was coherent. Any advice is so so appreciated, thanks yall!

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