I recently joined a company and I am just dying internally seeing my boss take all the credit all the time and then making weird jokes of firing me while laughing and she does not direct me to our Head instead she takes me along with her to present the ideas she does it herself and lets me know his feedback. I CANT DO THIS ANYMORE my heart is hurting while I write this

I work in a cubicle so noise travels easily. One co worker in particular was so noisy yesterday talking nonstop with non work-related banter.

I politely walked over and said I had a request if they as I did not want to single her out, could keep the noise down as I found it hard to concentrate and focus or Please close ur door...thank you. The gal apologized but didn't seem sincere. She is rude and brash I find...burping fitting lol.....omg. I wrote about her before. I just ignore her now as I find her repulsive. Whistling etc. Seriously drives me crazy.....Ranting! Lol.

There is a person in my new organization whose position I have transitioned into. He did not provide proper instructions on how to handle the responsibilities of the role. Although he is not my supervisor, he has repeatedly shouted at me and behaved inappropriately over the past three weeks. Yesterday, I lost my temper, shouted back at him, and expressed my anger. Later, I informed my direct supervisor about his behavior over the last few weeks and received a response from them.

Do you think this person could harm me in any way, either through organizational politics or other means? How should I handle this situation going forward?

Dilemma? People of Reddit- lend me your ears.

I was hired briefly at a respected company that prides themselves as having the “Best corporate culture**” and wins awards for such.

During my interview process I was completely blown away by the way I gelled with the Upper management and high level HR management. They were so dedicated to creating a great team.

When I arrived morale was very low, and there was a big “us” vs “them” attitude. I was able to smooth it over, and I chalked it up to a rough period. My staff was happy and we made meaningful progress.

After working for a few months, I noticed my leader was highly toxic. While I was able to mitigate much of the “poor behaviour”, I did end up the main target of micromanagement, reprisals, gaslighting and disrespect for time.

I was not surprised to be let go, and chalked it up to insecurity that I had much more experience and perhaps made my leader feel inadequate- although I tried hard not to. Ultimately I was so grateful to leave.

Since then, I have heard from my former direct reports that the situation has deteriorated. In fact it has deteriorated so badly, they’re all actively trying to quit. Some without another job lined up.

Hr initiated an Investigation, but always has the toxic leader in the room.

I finally cracked and reached out to the senior HR professional that I got on with so well. I feel it’s critical to share some of the patterns of behaviour I saw and heard so that they can be properly investigated. I have a meeting lined up next week.

I just can’t stand that my poor former staff are so distraught that the only place they have to turn is an ex-leader whom they only had for a few short months last year.

Got any tips on how I can do this without coming off like a complete ass? Ideas please- I want to help.

But we all know HR is there to protect the company.

I started a new job about four months ago, and during my first two months of training, I had a coworker who was responsible for training me. She’s one of the boss’s favorites, so whenever she vented to him about something, he would take action to relieve her stress. Early on, I got written up for not retaining enough information. The thing is, she didn’t really sit down to properly train me—I had to ask her questions, and sometimes she’d jump in to help without me asking, but it wasn’t consistent. Right before I got written up, I noticed her pacing around and looking worried, so I suspect she complained to the boss about me.

Over time, I realized she was using me to promote herself. When I needed help, she’d sometimes make me look incompetent rather than genuinely assisting me. Because of this, I started keeping my distance and asking other coworkers for help. This approach worked, and I eventually improved at my job and passed my 120-day probation period.

One coworker, in particular, was very helpful and supportive—she’s actually the reason I got this job in the first place. We get along well and even hang out outside of work (lunches, coffee, etc.). However, I later found out that she and the coworker who trained me don’t get along. They approach work differently, and there’s some tension between them. For me, though, the supportive coworker has always had my back.

Here’s where things get strange: I was out sick last week, and the coworker who trained me approached my cousin (who works in a different department) to tell him that she thought I was mad at her, that she wished me well, and that she thought this job was a good fit for me. She also said she didn’t have anything against me. My cousin was confused about why she was telling him this and told me what happened.

I explained to my cousin that this coworker had made negative reports about me to our boss and didn’t have my back when I needed her during training. I don’t trust her because, in my experience, she acts in her own best interest and isn’t genuinely helpful. I’ve kept things professional—I say hi to her, even though she usually ignores me unless I’m talking to others first. Her behavior is inconsistent, and I can’t read her intentions, but I feel like I need to stay cautious around her.

What do you think her intentions are? How should I handle this situation moving forward?

Hi folks, I'm 25 M working in, a you know it, toxic company and as much as I am applying outside for a job switch, I want to have a rather smoother sailing in my current company.

I had a huge fallout with my previous reporting manager and after all the hustle im being moved to another project/department. Now with my new manager, I have heard they are 2x worse than my previous manager so any tips on how to be sycophant to ensure smooth sailing until I move out?

Guys any idea can we create a thread where we post the name and email id of the people who have troubled us in our past or current company…delete it after 24 hours and then other people who have seen it just send some not so good email or send their name to all know HRs so they never get hired??

Guys so I'm having a lot of problem dealing with my manager, I'm a fresher, joined corporate 2 months ago. Yesterday I wanted to leave 15 mints earlier and there's this thing called regularization in my office, where we can regularize our office timing, adha, ek ghnta idhr udhr kr sakte hain without taking half day. Or ek mahine mei 4 baar kr sakte hain. Parere manager ne mannaa krdiya bola half day lgega jabki mai roz time pe aati hu kbhi regularize nahi krti bas ek din ke liye bol rahi thi par saaf manna krdiya fir itna kuch sunaya, hr ne bhi bola ki sirf kuch galat nahi bol rhi hai vo par fir bhi. Isse pehle bhi he doesn't want us to talk to other colleagues, na kuch sikhata hai na kuch, na kbhi kissi or ki sunta hai. Bhai mera deemag kharab hora 😫😫

There’s this guy at my workplace, let’s call him “T.” He’s a favorite among the management—not because he’s great at his job but because he’s the only one handling that role and, honestly, probably because (he’s significantly of a size and they seem to like him for it). Even my manager seems overly fond of him.

When I joined, T started asking me to hang out, and I initially thought it might help me navigate the workplace politics since I was new. But I quickly realized he’s blindly loyal to management and turns a blind eye to their problematic behavior. Worse, T himself has a shady side.

Here’s what I found out: A long-time employee told me about a female coworker from my department who T had relentlessly pursued. She got so frustrated she had to ask another coworker for help dealing with him. T, in retaliation, manipulated management into firing the coworker who helped her. Eventually, she left the company after months of harassment. In her exit interview, the managers SERIOUSLY asked her if she liked T because “he likes her so much.” Like, what?

Since then, T has been trying the same thing with me—constantly asking me to go out for lunch or dinner. I’ve politely declined countless times, even saying I have a boyfriend, but he presses for proof, asking to see a picture or asking where my boyfriend is. I don't want to be rude to say no because when I did that my entire team with my manager started ostracizing me and now its my first appraisal, I am running out of reasons to say no to him to hang out

What’s worse, I suspect the management is in on it. My desk is right behind T’s, and whenever the managers talk to him, they tease him about me. I can hear it, and it’s beyond frustrating.

I don’t know how to set a firm boundary without making things worse, especially since management seems to enable this behavior. I don't want to sound rude but smartly decline him since I am planning my exit strategy. Any advice?

Coworker has a history or being unprofessional verbally aggressive to the point that she is invading my space. Her behavior has come to the point it has affected the client directly. She has been recorded being combative towards her coworkers. I have notified the immediate supervisor twice and notified both verbally and written and sent an email. My immediate supervisor has a romantic relationship with her. I sent an email The director, hr and and the division director. There is evidence and history of her being verbally aggressive with the nurse in charge. The over all director wanted to meet with me and I told her what happened and showed her evidence with video. I told her she has made the environment hostile toxic and uncomfortable. They offered a remediation. I plan on safely leaving in 2 weeks Her behavior still continue. Is it wise to go remediation? What would be the wise thing to do?

I worked at my last company for five months. I was fired because my team lead was jealous of my skills and potential.

My team lead lived in Brighton while the company was based in Manchester. She rarely came to work at the office, but she constantly talked about how wonderful it was to live in Brighton, enjoying the sun and the beach. She had made a determined decision to move to Brighton two years ago, despite her job being in Manchester.

She led the newly formed BAU (Business-As-Usual) team, which required highly skilled and versatile engineers to maintain and enhance more than a dozen bespoke applications written in various programming languages. The BAU team went through three batches of members. The first batch included a highly skilled engineer and my team lead. The engineer was very good at his job but eventually left the company.

The second batch was made up of database administrators (DBAs). My team lead had significant influence over their hiring process. However, the DBAs she chose were poorly skilled and could not meet the company’s expectations. They struggled to handle the complex, varied workload required of the BAU team and failed to deliver results. After nine months, they were let go.

It later became clear that my team lead’s goal in hiring these poorly skilled DBAs was not due to poor judgment but to secure her position. She wanted to ensure that nobody could replace her or threaten her status as indispensable to the company. This tactic succeeded in the short term, as the company relied heavily on her knowledge of both the business and its technologies.

By the time the third batch of the BAU team was formed, the company recognized the failure of the second batch and decided to change its approach. The manager took complete control of the hiring process and selected me, along with two other engineers, as the new team members. While my team lead was present during my interview, she didn’t ask any decisive or technical questions. It was clear that she had no real authority over the hiring decisions this time. She was forced to accept us, though it was obvious that she was not happy with the new hires.

From the very beginning, my team lead was uncooperative. Whenever I had questions about my work, she would either ignore them, delay her responses by claiming she was too busy to deterring me from working, or give quick, vague answers that were hard to follow. This made it incredibly frustrating to do my job. However, I managed to adapt by seeking guidance from other colleagues and avoided relying on her.

After about three months, my team lead had been waiting for a chance to undermine me and finally she got it. She deliberately created friction between me and my manager. A critical task was assigned to our team by my manager, but since I had joined late and hadn’t received proper training for that specific task, I struggled to deliver substantial results. My team lead took advantage of this situation and escalated the issue to my manager, framing me as being disrespectful to him.

Following her complaint, my manager scheduled a one-to-one meeting with me. During this meeting, he unfairly criticized me and even brought up my health conditions, which I found shocking and deeply inappropriate. Up until that point, he had been supportive and had personally guided me in completing my work. His sudden change in demeanour left me unsettled. Following that meeting, he initiated weekly performance reviews to closely monitor me.

Determined to prove myself, I worked incredibly hard, often sleeping only 2–3 hours a night. I completed several challenging tasks and delivered high-quality work, ensuring that my manager couldn’t find any faults. Over time, my output met or even exceeded his expectations, and I could see that he was satisfied with my performance.

After 4 performance reviews in the first week of my fifth month, my manager scheduled a probation review meeting with his manager (another woman). I was nervous about the meeting because it would determine whether I could continue working there. The atmosphere during the meeting was dreadful. My manager abruptly said, “Sorry, it doesn’t work out with us,” and asked me to pack up my things. His manager, the IT department head, was present. She maintained a stern and intimidating expression throughout the meeting, leaving no room for discussion.

I am certain that the IT manager intended to shock me with the dismissal decision because she had a personal connection with my team lead, which she had previously mentioned. She deliberately tried to humiliate me. The purposes of her sitting there were to see the look of desperation on my face when I realized I wouldn’t pass my probation and secure the dismissal. This betrayal was particularly painful because, earlier, she had been over-kind and polite to me, which had led me to believe she supported me. However, it became clear that her kindness was a calculated tactic to ensure I was caught off guard during the dismissal.

I couldn’t believe the reality of being fired without a fair and justifiable reason, especially since I had worked hard, avoided conflicts, and maintained professionalism throughout my time at the company. This experience left me disillusioned, and I decided that I wasn’t cut out for office politics. That’s when I made the decision to start my own business.

However, after eight months of trying, I haven’t been able to secure my first client. Realizing that I can’t continue down this path indefinitely, I’ve decided to return to the workforce.

Can somebody tell me how to handle "why did you leave your last job" in my next job interview? What would you say?

I like my job, but the past couple of months have been overwhelming. There’s been so much tension among senior staff, and somehow, I always end up in the middle of it. It’s incredibly stressful, and now it feels like people are starting to dislike me for reasons completely out of my control.

I’m constantly feeling guilty and overwhelmed. I’m under so much pressure that I find myself taking shortcuts just to get through the day, even.

Is this normal?? Does it get better? It was better :(

This world is such a shity place. I hate everything

Hi guys so currently my company is removing some branches from being developed anymore, like credit card branch, I am in this branch, obviously there is a chance of me being laid off because of this branch closing, but my boss offered me another chance, either I can stay here or he will get me a position in India branch or Indonesia branch, currently in sg, pls help I am currently 50 one kid in college 2 in school and a wife

After weeks of hard work on a big project, you finally complete it. However, your manager simply brushes it off, implying it was an easy task by saying "This is what you've been spending all your time on? I thought this would be done much faster."

How would you shut him up with one sentence?

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Please share what resource (anything at all) would have helped you in becoming the master or survivor of office politics

So far I have spent around 4 years with her and I have always heard her talking shit about people. She used to talk about how someone is not good enough, how they are taking advantage of someone else’s work, how our manager is useless bla bla bla. I just found out that she got a mid term bonus and my manager thinks she is some super intelligent person. The way she speaks, people would think oh she is so nice. But In reality she is always gaining sympathy and putting herself in better position by putting someone else down. Ever since the bonus incident I started noticing how my manager and she speak to each other and realised that they are always talking shit about one person or another. I have been extremely depressed since I am stuck in this job for 11 years and was really hoping this new role will help me get promoted but the way things are going I am definitely not going anywhere

So I have this woman at my job that seems to be trying to turn people against me and get me in trouble. I always knew something was off with her because when she first started working there she was overly flirtatious. I always felt that she was flirty to try and manipulate me and others for some unknown reasons.

Turns out I was right about her because now it's obvious that she's out to turn people against me. I think she's against me because I got too comfortable and told her that I wasn't going to get legally married to avoid divorce. She seemed to change after I said that.

Anyway she always says thing to try and make me look bad. Once I was late and she was trying to bring attention to it by saying "you're always late!" Which I'm not and she and others are late more than I am. One time I heard someone in the office ask her if she was trying to start trouble with me (he mentioned me by name). I wasn't around them or speaking to them so I don't know what was going on that someone would say that.

Then another time she called me and asked me to come and help them with something. Then when I went over another woman was very angry with me for some reason and starting yelling at me saying "I don't need you're help". She was yelling like she wanted to fight me or something. I just said that she's the one that asked me to come and help and walked away. Then that woman was angry at me after that. I don't really know why exactly. I just think that she must have lied and said that I said something about her. Because people don't get that angry for no reason.

Then more recently she was sitting next to me and I already know something was going to happen because whenever she's around troubles not far behind. I was right because right after that people were trying to blame me for spilling something on the carpet. Saying that the carpet didn't have a stain before I sat there.

So I need to find the best way to deal with this. I seen the kind of trouble Office politics can cause if it's not dealt with. I'm wondering if I should complain or even if I can complain because manipulation is hard to prove. I also don't want to call HR because last time someone did that they came fired the wrong person and everyone was upset with the person that complained.

Hi All,

My friend left his company due to poor hike. They tried retaining him giving verbal offers (nothing on paper) which he said no and resigned.

He has been searching for offers since. But his prev company is blocking all the offers in the background verification - falsely accusing him of compliance issues while they are still calling him up every now and then asking him to join back ?

Can suggest a solution ? Thanks

Any idea of what is equifax, my manager gives out constant dhamki's out of now where about this being directly or indirectly, he states he would review us in equifax after the job and make our life hell. Any ideas if I can also put something about him there😂

My (34f) coworkers and I were talking about a terrible car accident that involved an old lady arguably with poor vision and the topic shifted to older people with poor vision who shouldn’t drive so I made two comments that in retrospect I wish I hadn’t. As someone who has never needed glasses for anything, I said if you need rims thicker than your eyeballs you probably shouldn’t be driving, to which my coworker (23m) said “yo but I do be wearing rims like that, but I also wear contacts” to which I jokingly said “at least you can hide that disability” again meant as a joke but i don’t think it landed that way and now I’m fucking embarassed as all get out 😞😞

I (w39) have a Problem at work due to an overly expansive colleague. He has all the gender and nationality advantage over me in a country known for people's discrimination. Offcource he is the popular one and all my effort is becoming our effort. I don't know how to handle it. Any advice?

Hi everyone I am 24 F working in IT sector this is my first job in a so called startup SAAS. Already it's been a hell of an experience and I get it being the first job it's kinda reality check to me that not everything is glitter especially in corporate. The people who I thought were here to help are actually the one pulling me down. I feel depressed like so much energy drained at the end of day that it feels impossible for me to go next day. I was being extremely cautious, respectful, obedient extremely soft spoken but then I realised this was becoming a weakness which other were using against me. Now it's ny increment time, I don't know anything, what should I write what should I say or even what should I do to prep. I would really appreciate any advice anything that will help me solve this. Also what all things I should be careful with regarding anything and everything.

Note: I have also tried to talk to my uper reporting manager but he's least intrested in me like never talks to me he has only talked to me on social media and I am kinda intimidated by him. Rest no one on my team talks to me

This is just a very common example what I see quite often:

A company branch half a country away asked me to help with their system setup. When most of the work was done I asked a guy who genuinely was interested in getting the system going to give me the IP address of the remote computer. The old system was running in the lab where he was sitting and that IP address was always on the screen so that would be just getting azz off the chair walking few steps to another computer and messaging the that number. He said he was busy and would be working on it tomorrow. The next day he stopped by and told me he "was working on getting the IP address". Few hours later 5 minutes before I left for the airport he completed the job of getting the IP address and genuinely expected me to finish the setup and would not understand my explanation that I could not start the system and leave it hoping that it would not create havoc while I was on the plane back.

Again, this is not a unique example, rather common occurrence. So many times someone reports he is working on a huge project ( one guy requested 9 years !!!!!! for a project that we completed in two months) The other one managed to work on a project 2 years, something that is routinely done in half a day. The most depressing is that it works.

I am an open person and I don’t have family to talk to. My husband is my whole world to me.
It isn’t right to talk about your personal life and coworkers are not your friends.

How do I get self control to not offer information of my personal life? Example, “bow was your weekend?” or “what did you do this past weekend?” or “I see you bought new shoes, where did you get them?”

So I have been facing a lot of racism and a lot of biases at work. I was recently promoted from a support position to a managerial position.

To give you a background I work in the Middle East and I am female and from minority.

I have worked very hard to learn and did more than what is expected. What I couldn’t get a grasp on is the reaction of a specific group of people - yes, the topic is difficult for everyone but I only face issues with two people.

These two are the executive and the manager reporting to the executive. The other day I sent a follow up email on a task and was attacked saying that did I really have to copy the higher executive (it was requested). Today, the manager came to the meeting unprepared as he misunderstood the task (verbally conveyed to him by me during a meeting) eventually blaming me for his shortcoming (saying I have miscommunicated despite the fact that prior to concluding the meeting, we recapped). I knew I was going to be pissed so I ended the meeting and walked away, extracting myself. He followed after and called me a crazy (nationality). I lost it and came back, screamed at him (no bad words) explaining to him his shortcoming. There were two other office mates in the area so I closed the meeting room door. I messaged another office mate (part of the project but overall) to de-escalate the situation and the said office mate arrived and I explained in a normal tone not blaming anyone. The manager then said (after the other office mate left), “did you really have to call someone to make you sane?”. I did not retaliate.

This has happened to me several times now with the same person and I do not understand what I am doing wrong. Every meeting called with this person, I send a calendar note stating the agenda and preparation required for the meeting and yet still comes unprepared and blames me. Every data needed, I receive late without a notice of when it will be submitted so a lot of chasing happening. At this point, they are stuck with a task, I suddenly am responsible for the missing piece and blamed for their delay.

What should I do?

I’ve been a consistently high performer at work, next in line yada yada. My boss is leaving and a new ‘leadership’ has taken over. For the most part, they’re a bunch of sexist old School men and I’m subsequently losing my shizzle. I’ve already decided I’m leaving but until I find something else, I’ve been making My new boss’s life (who has been a complete snake) a bit difficult. I’ve been told by a few that I should try and act professional but this seems like an easy way out for those that have behaved badly. Thoughts?

Hi everyone,

I am working in an IT company which I got in after 6 months of job search and I'm an engineer and mba but got recruited as junior associate marketing feild, but I was happy because atleast I got the job, and I was extremely careful with everyone, the person who was assigned to me as my manager (C) is my age and day one I feel that (C) isn't very fond of me, like I've always relied on (C) for advices and all but I feel she doesn't like me because everytime i get to hear a feedback like I'm not black and white I'm grey. She doesn't feel the connection that's why she doesn't talk. I mean I have tried to talk be nice but nothing is working at all i confronted as well but then still she said she doesn't like me idk why I tried talking to higher management they said I'm jealous of her and it shows but why I be jealous when I clearly know there isn't any comparison. So I made a friend (B) she and I were very good friends but you know when we began working here she was friends with a girl who was then asked to leave because she tried to play politics and you know (B) was friends with her and then after she left (B) got out safely. She always used to complaint to me how (C) gets all the attention and opportunities and she doesn't but recently she got and she was happy she always used to praise them in front of them but after they went she used to talk bad and then I used to console her thinking she is good friend but then (C) is kinda the gang leader and she doesn't like me so even (B) doesn't talk to me and asks me drop her home sometimes but asks me to meet afar on the road just to not be seen. Now I am left all alone like really alone even my reporting manager thinks I'm good for nothing all my tasks are revoked and I am given very nonsense tasks and then I even have to eat my lunch alone no one talks to me or even cares to ask me. When I confront the management that I feel isolated they reply saying that I am the problem I need find out. What should I do it's getting too difficult and I am scared to leave the job what if I don't get another and sit alone again.. please any suggestions?

I was talking to my supervisor who I get along really well with and we were discussing my case load. My schedule got changed around in a way that I, nor my client are happy with and I mentioned that my client is NOT happy with the change but that my client is upset with a different super because of it - the one that works in their dept. Which, they WERE the one to make this announcement of the change in a very non personal way.

My supers attitude totally changed and I feel like I just told her that the other super is in trouble, but it's my supers fault, and I REALLY don't want her thoughts on these particular clients to change.

I hope this makes sense. Sorry for the rambling. I feel terrible, but maybe I'm just over thinking it.