My 12 weeks old is coughing and sneezing from the morning, but everything else seems normal, when should I be worried or contact her doctor? Yesterday was pretty windy when we got home, so I'm afraid she might have caught a cold.

Hello 👋🏼

I will be a FT Mom in December. In our culture, the new mom to be spends her first pregnancy in her maternal home. I recently arrived and have been looking at buying things for baby since it’s just under two months for her arrival.

I will be leaving in around three months post birth back to my place with hubby and hence my time at my parents will be short. I don’t want to spend and stock up unnecessarily since I don’t know when I’ll be back (we live in Europe - my parents in ME) and one of the items is cot for the baby.

Initially, I thought of buying a travel cot as it has two modes, can be folded and put away (don’t want to add extra furniture to their home), can be used as a playpen in the future, we can even take it back with us. It’s also cost effective.

When we went to see the travel cots, I started to worry if it’s the right choice for a newborn. Is it safe for a newborn? Can anyone with experience enlighten me on this?

Thank you

So today is my birthday and maybe I'm expecting too much. Started the day at 6:30am having to pump (exclusive pumper) and feed by 6m old son at the same time while my husband slept next to me. All the while baby is fussing and fighting, "melting" out of his boppy, trying to get out and roll. I thought okay, fine, husband has to go to work at 8.30am so whatever. I'm sure he'll help me after he comes back from work at 3.00pm to give me a break.

He comes home at 4:00pm and asks me if he can have a nap. I say okay but please come watch baby at 4.30 so I can pump, he says okay.

4:35 and still no sight of husband. I sigh and put on my pump, try to feed LO at the same time. LO is kicking the shit out of my arm, making it red. I'm funing internally. Husband finally appears at 4:45 to take LO. I tell him dont bother. I'm so close to breaking point here. He just says okay and goes back upstairs to nap/bedrot. Then LO fights the bottle and me. I've had enough and I lose it. I say in a loud voice "STOP". I pick him up and put him in his playpen so I can take a breath. Husband heard me so he comes downstairs and asks what's wrong. I don't say anything and he loses his shit yelling at me, "Why don't you talk, why don't you say anything? Just fucking talk!"

At this point I'm blank and all I can see is rage and basically not wanting to be present anymore. I bang my head against the door over and over. He tells me to stop after a while and asks me to tell him what's wrong. I tell him "YOU". Basically telling him that he does nothing to help out and he says "you never ask". I told him at least one fucking day of the year on my birthday, he could have made the effort of actually coming to help when I asked him. For context I do 100% of the cooking and cleaning plus house stuff, shopping and taking care of baby. Also still contributing to financially almost half using my saved money to keep us able to pay our mortgage.

He just doesn't get it. Now on the way to birthday dinner with family with a giant bruise on my head in silence 🫠

Ugh I am so sad and ashamed and feeling so guilty that this even happened. Looking for any advice / reassurance. But long story short, my almost 2 year old stuck a thermometer in her ear and punctured her ear drum. She started bleeding from the ear. We went to ER and they confirmed there’s a hole. I kinda blacked out in the ER because it would appear I’m horrible at this. I can’t even remember what he said and I didn’t think to ask questions because I was so worked up (which in itself makes me feel 100000000 times worse) ANYWAY. Does anyone have any experience with this ? I’m trying not to spiral out of control in thinking my sweet girl won’t be able to hear. I also don’t want her to suffer for the duration of healing which I heard could be up to 6 weeks. Someone talk me off this ledge. I understand it’s fairly common in children with ear infections but have yet to hear of anyone who has experience with a puncture caused by a foreign object. And yes, I know to call my doctor for any advice/ questions. I’m more so just looking for reassurance that my brain is making this way worse than it has to be.

Anyone else have a similar experience? She has cow milk protein allergy so I haven’t had dairy or soy for 3 months. Her poop doesn’t have blood in it anymore so I don’t think it’s the CMPA.

We have a 5-week-old, and our feeding and sleeping routine feels like Groundhog Day. When it’s feeding time, she drinks about 1 to 3 oz, but it’s a bit frantic—she reaches for the nipple even when it’s already in her mouth. Once she’s done, she sometimes starts flailing her arms and legs until we burp her, which seems to calm her down (probably from relieving trapped gas). Whether she flails or not, we burp her and then hold her for 20-30 minutes; otherwise, she’ll wake up almost immediately when we put her down.

When we do put her down, she often cries and seems hungry again. She’s not a fan of being swaddled or sleeping horizontally, either. If she does fall asleep, it’s only for 15-30 minutes before she wakes up wanting more milk. We’re desperate for a longer stretch of rest—any tips on getting her to sleep for 2-3 hours so we can catch a break? We’re barely sleeping and feel like we’re not making any progress with either the feeding or the sleeping. This has been going on since week 3, we are exhausted!

Any parents have experience with their baby falling off their height curve? We've surpassed our curve for weight and stayed on the curve for head circumference however, height has went from around 40% at birth down to around 7% and our pediatrician has never mentioned anything even though his height has dropped at every one of his appointments. We're 10 months now and everything online covers dropping off weight curve but I can't find a lot of information for height.

Should we look into a new pediatrician as they've mentioned this to us?

My LO is turning 7 month in few days the last few weeks have been hell with her night sleeping and her 2nd tooth is coming in.. how does your 6/7 mo old sleep during the night I need some tips on how to naturally get her to sleep longer

I am 6 month postpartum . Hair is shedding since 4 month and i have but length hair from teen age . I didn’t knew that pregnancy will take a toll on my hair in this way . Ends are so thin cant even tie it with an elastic during braiding . Long hair has always been my identity . I am fighting the urge to cut it . And my shedding is not even stopped ugh . What do i do . Suggest something

Anyone use the beaba food maker to make puréed eggs for your baby? Did you just crack it in there and steam or hard boil first then peel and purée with formula?

I breastfeed my LO who is 10 months! She Used to sleep all night since she was born!!! but at 7/8 month we went on vacation so I understand different environment so she would wake up at least twice a night and still does!! wakes up crying!! am I not feeding enough solids through out the day or!! How do I train her to sleep all night … it sounds awful but I’m tried and tbh her dad is no help what so ever instead gets upset when LO cry’s In the night and it boils my blood when he does

My husband and I are in quite a pickle. Our 15 week old will not sleep anywhere but in our arms day or night. We’ve been trying for months to get him in a bassinet (including two smart bassinets that auto mod won’t let me mention ha). We’ve tried bed sharing and chest sleeping. We’ve seen lactation consultants, pediatricians, a PT, and a sleep coach. We have an appointment scheduled with an ENT. We’ve tried all the techniques, swaddles, heating pads, white noise etc.

I’m trying to get him to sleep with me in bed tonight but every 30 minutes he either poops, spits up, or wakes up crying. We’ve been told he might have a missed tongue tie. I think he might also have a stomach bug at the moment.

The only thing that gets us any sleep is taking shifts. We’ve been doing this for 9 weeks and it’s draining us. I’m stupidly tired, my husband is falling behind at work. It’s not sustainable but it’s the only thing that even remotely works. My husband always gets an uninterrupted 6 hours stretch of sleep and sometimes also a 1.5 hour nap. Which means he’s getting 7.5 hours of sleep. I get less because of breastfeeding and being afraid to ask my husband to take baby while I nap.

We haven’t found any safe way for baby to sleep unless one of us is awake holding him. I know it sounds insane but we really are trying.

I would just suck it up and keep doing shifts but my husband seems to be at his breaking point. I think I’m just going to stay awake and get him as much sleep as possible then try to sleep in the morning.

So please tell me we’re not alone. Has anyone else had to continue shifts into 3 or 4 months. When did you stop?

SOS

I’m going back to work in less than two weeks and I’ve been stressing out about how my 3 month old will manage without me.

We have a village to support us but about a month ago, my LO refuses to nap with anyone else but me. I hired a nanny in the hopes that my LO will get used to her. Currently my LO has accepted being cared for by the nanny except for nap time.

We’ e tried the dirty shirt trick and laying her down on a crib. And currently she will only nap if I rock we to sleep then pass her to the nanny.

I stopped working on laying her down in the crib once a day because I put my effort in getting my baby used to her nanny.

Someone please tell me if I’m going something wrong or if there’s something else I can do to make things work

S.O.S!!!

I have a 3 year old girl and a 6 month old. I'm stressed and exhausted and over done. Tonight I put our 6 month old down and started cleaning etc. When my husband went to put my 3 year old down, I waited a while and then changed into the super comfy, clean done I had been saving for after my little messes we're in bed and cracked open a beer to drink while I folded laundry on the couch.

My toddler came rocketing out of the bedroom and within 1 second of being within arms reach had knocked my beer all over me, the couch, the laundry, and my fresh robe.

Without thinking, I said something to the effect of why does this always happen the minute you are near me, to which she said I don't know in a small voice.

I feel like SHIT. I was too in the moment at the time to see that I needed to apologize, and when I did realize I just sat there feeling upset and now she's asleep. I would never intentionally want to make her feel small or like I thought there was something wrong with her... I almost want to go wake her up. I'm going to apologize in the morning, but not before I stay up half the night feeling like the worst mom ever.

The title is a little dramatic, but not untrue. I'm mostly laughing at myself and sharing the biggest blunder of my parenthood so far.

I had never been around a baby longer than an hour at a time before my LO was born.

When we came home, he contact napped during the day. He was rarely fussy during the newborn phase, unless he was hungry or needed comfort. I had to check his diaper constantly because he could poop without me knowing since it didn't bother him. If he cried, I usually just breastfed him or cuddled and he stopped.

After a few weeks, he started sleeping way less. He went from about 22 hours a day to 14-16. Still, he didn't seem to have problems.

Around the same time, he started having problems nursing. Most of the time he would latch/unlatch over and over until he fussed and cried. If he didn't do this, he nursed right to sleep. If I tried to feed him in the bedroom at any time, he fussed like that almost immediately. I spent a lot of time trying to figure out why he did this.

He took two naps a day starting at 3-4 weeks. One hour long nap in the morning, one 3 hour nap in the evening, then bed until morning. He woke up every couple hours at least through the night.

I knew this was unusual, but he didn't seem sleepy, right? So he was fine.

About a month ago (so 2 months later) I moved in with my mother. I also discovered a pattern around his nursing issues. When he fussed at the breast, I started putting him on my chest and patting his back. Almost immediately he would fall asleep, after a bit more fussing.

Moving to my mom's, and he's different. He fusses much more, but rarely fusses at the breast. When he fusses, I pat his back or rock him and he passes right out. He takes 4-6 naps a day, each an hour long at least.

This entire time I had been trying to feed him and he was sleepy. He fought sleep and I assumed he was having nursing issues. He only slept if he couldn't stay awake anymore. I had inadvertently not let my baby sleep for the majority of his newborn stage.

When he fussed and showed signs of tiredness/fighting sleep, I played with him until he stopped(thinking I was calming him down from being frustrated after a rough nursing session), leading to a wide awake (but exhausted) baby. I feel awful that he missed out on such important sleep, but now I also feel bad making him sleep when he clearly hates it, lol. Little dude fights it so hard. I did not know babies did that. I begged so many people for advice, saw lactation consultants, asked his pediatrician to check him for lip ties and never once did it occur to me that he was tired.

I feel like a new parent all over again because I'm adjusting to a proper baby sleep schedule. The naps are constant it seems! I'm soaking up the cuddles and reminding myself that he's fussing because he's tired, not because I'm being mean lol.

My 6 month LO is a wiggler and likes to have her legs free when she sleeps. It’s been dropping to roughly 65 degrees in her room overnight and I don’t think her footed onesies are going to be warm enough as we head into the colder months. We live in Northern CA.

Any alternatives to sleep sacks? When she moves around at night, I think being in a sack without her legs free wakes her up/keeps her awake. Would fleece footed PJs be enough?

Our baby is turning 6 months in a couple days and we’re currently using stage 2 nipples on the lifefactory glass bottles. When did you switch to stage 3? Did you notice a big difference in how your baby fed?

Mommas I need some advice! My dear friend recently had twins via emergency C section, and they are both in the NICU. She is pumping, planning to breastfeed when they get home. I want to make a little basket for her, just to try to cheer her up during all the stress of 5 kids, 2 in the NICU. I plan to get some lactation cookies, but what are some other things that you found helpful/comforting postpartum? Since I've never been threw it I don't really know what else to put in the basket!

My baby is 5 months old and STILL is fussy at night between 6-7. Am I doing something wrong? Does he need an earlier bedtime?

Rough schedule: Wakes at 5:30/6 (stays in crib until 6:30) Eats at 6:45/6 Naps at 730/8 Eats at 10 Naps at 10:30/11 Eats at 1 Naps at 2 Eats at 4 Naps at 5/5:30 Eats at 7

We would love to get rid of the 5/530 nap because he wakes up at 6 and then is a fussy grump for an hour until we feed him at 7 and start our bedtime routine. We feed him on a schedule not on cues… it just works for us better but perhaps we are just making it more difficult for ourselves because he fusses? I do think that having 3 hours in between his 2nd to last feed and bedtime feed makes him sleep through the night.

I don’t know, curious if anyone has thoughts?

My daughters almost a year old (Nov 14th) and this is the first time she's sick. My husband brought something home around a day or 2 ago, I caught it and then just today my daughter started showing symptoms too. I mostly just want to vent and share what I'm doing, and hopefully get some advice.

She has a fever of 38.7 Celsius (I can't change the thermometer I have to Fahrenheit) which according to Google isn't an emergency situation at 11 months old. I've been giving her motrin and Tylenol. She threw up when I tried feeding her supper (tomato soup, I figured something drinkable would be easy for her) and I gave her infacol. That was around 4 hours ago. She's been in her crib since, tossing and turning. She's drank a couple ounces of water since, the bottles in the crib with her (I know you're not usually supposed to give them drinks in their crib, but it's a spill proof straw bottle, and if she gets thirsty I want it to be there for her, I figured I'd make an exception since shes sick).

I ordered some infant advil, and more infant Tylenol (this stuff says it's for sore throats too so hoping it's good for colds). I was hoping to get unflavoured pedialyte but can't find it right now so, flavoured stuff it is. Should I get some cooling patches? Since it's winter I usually dress her in a onesie to sleep in but google says to leave her as undressed as possible. So she's just in her diaper.

I got her sense-u thing going (it's like the owlet sock but it clips to baby's diaper) for the first time since she was a newborn. I guess it's a good thing I didn't sell it yet! It's measuring her breathing and skin temperature.

Is there anything else I should be doing aside from scheduling an appointment? Is this an ER situation? Take her to a walk-in? She was supposed to go to my mom's next week (we're moving on top of all of this lol, she was going to watch her for a week while we did some packing and deep cleaning) I'm hoping she'll be comfortable taking her still, it'll probably help us all recover faster too.

Thanks for reading, if you have any advice I'd appreciate it!

Did anybodies babies not have sleep regression or have minimal sleep regression? Just curious I always see people talk about it, my LO is 4 months and so far I haven’t had that issue. What are months where they typically start?

I was at a friends party and before I knew it the lady holding my baby kissed her all over. I should’ve stopped her right away but gosh I just didn’t know what to say. I feel like an asshole, why didn’t I have to courage to protect my baby when I knew what was happening was wrong. My own family hasn’t even kissed my baby like that. I’m sick to my stomach, is there anything I can do health wise?? Can I get her tested in a few weeks to make sure she didn’t catch anything??

Today my 5 month old just wants to be on my boob (sorry if that's tmi) but she just wants to be latched on all day. She won't take the pacifier anymore. She hates that thing now. Idk why. We lost her 0-3 month ones and now I have 3-18m ones or something like that so idk if that's why. And all night same thing. It's so hard I can't really do anything. Can 5 months old cluster feed ? Or what's going on. I'm exhausted I haven't got good sleep in like 2 weeks cause she constantly wants to be latched on. And I'm pretty sure I'm producing enough I pump when I work so I see how much I get.

New parent here trucking along. Anyone have an idea why my 6 month old wakes every hour or so for the first 3 hours of bed time then sleeps great the rest of the night? She’s done this pretty regularly since birth. We have a consistent bed time routine. Watch the wake windows, and limit naps to about 3 hours total.

My 8 month olds top two teeth finally popped through this week. I swear it took like over a month for them to finally come in! Which teeth were the hardest? Now I’m just waiting for the next ones because apparently it never ends.

Looking to get headphones for my 3 month old to protect his hearing. Any recommendations? (Low-moderate budget.) Thank you!

Walmart has the fridababy or the Neilmed electric snot suckers. My little one is so congested lately, Im looking to get one to hopefully help more. But not sure what to get. If you have one of them, what are your thoughts?

Has anyone else experienced postpartum hair loss for this long? It started around four months PP and hasn’t stopped. I’ve lost about half my hair at this point and continue to lose a lot of hair every time I comb my hair but when I wash it, it comes out in locks.

I’ve just started using rosemary oil in my hair because the Mayo Clinic states that it can help. I’ve also had lab work done and have a dermatologist appointment next week to figure out what’s going on.

I’ve had so many medical problems after giving birth and I’m just ready for it to be all over. So if anyone has experienced something similar and has any insight on what the issue could be, I’d love to hear it.

We got diapers from a bank that work really well, but they don't have a brand label. We got size 3, and the print is elephants. There is an extra absorbent blue pad in the front. They are shaped like Pampers Babydry, but seem like a store brand. I'm in the USA!

EDIT: They were Little Journeys (Aldi)!!

Anyone here a first responder and having a hard time thinking about going back to work? My current job is 10-11 days a month but they are 24 hours on, then off, then on then off then on and then off for 4 days, repeat. I am stressing about how my husband is gonna handle me being gone and how we’re gonna make child care work. He works 5 days a week 10-12 hours a day. We have family that we trust who are wanting to watch baby while we work. So I know we won’t need full time care more than 3 times a week if that. I’m also having a hard time thinking about being separated from my family for 24 hours at a time, and feeling bad asking family to help with baby.