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This is more of a rant tbh

So I moved to New York for college. I'm originally from a country in southeastern Europe. Every fucking date I go on either ends up in getting ghosted or doesn't go anywhere cause the other guy just wants to hookup. I'm done like in general, ppl here don't seem to have social cues or communicate anything. It's like a date can go so well and they swear they so into you and then boom, they randomly ghost you. Tf is up with that. I thought dating in my country was bad since it's a pretty homophobic country and it's very limited, but here it's like there are plenty options, however, none of em leads anywhere. I deleted all dating apps and honestly, I dread ever getting to go out w any guy here cause they on some immature shit. Idk if its my fate or smth.

All I rlly want is just to get to know someone normally, not hookup immediately. Everyone here so confusing, I'm over it. Can someone just share their experience or smth idk? I dont think I even want advice Im just so hopeless

Also I kinda am only into Black and Hispanic guys so if anyone knows where I can find ones that are emotionally available pls lmk 😔

Beginner in bouldering. Thinking of joining this gym. How is it? How are their classes?

I’m going tomorrow for the first time, and I’ve seen many posts about it, but none are particularly recent. Is it usually crowded on weekdays? Is it actually cruisey? Is there anything you wish you knew before you went?

I’ve seen this a lot and I have no clue the characteristics the gay guys of each neighborhood have.

For example I read a few threads and people would mention the crowd is more of a HK Gay crowd or Chelsea gays…

What are the different gay crowd and what are the characteristics that each of them have. I’m curious and this intrigues me lol

Is it back to its glorious ways on Wednesday nights? 😜

Anyone else thinking of going?

I have friends in visiting from Spain who have never been to NYC before and they'd like to go somewhere to vogue. I know Monday nights at 3DB have been the spot lately but they're arriving today and leaving monday morning. FWIW they're a queer latinx couple who were in the scene in Argentina so they're not tourists or new to the ball scene - they'd just like to experience it here. Thanks!

Are there any nice swimming pools in NYC? Not too crowded and definitely not dirty.

Thanks!

Anyone have insight to this place, what to expect.

I never been but I do want to try it out.

Is it a spot recommended to go solo or with friends.

Is this place sorta equivalent to eagle?

Hey gays so I’m going to mother disco this week and need help picking a fit . I’ve read some people dress up and I would love to do a studio 54 esque look ( flared jeans maybe a sparkly shirt who knows ! ) but I’ve also read that some gays do the basic jeans and no shirt thing which I also love , I just don’t wanna show up in something ghat us very much not the vibe 😅. So if anyone knows what said vibe will be at this party please lmk ! Thank youuu.

I'm mostly straight, very discreet, looking for a host to goon with. 40 6'1, 225, muscular, and just want to goon out to good porn for a while with a bud.

Hey bros! Visiting NYC Thursday to Saturday and I took Friday off to go bar hopping Thursday and Friday night.

I’m staying in midtown west and I think I’m close to the bars in Hell’s Kitchen. Where should I go? I want to meet some sexy guys :)

Update: Also if some bar is better to go Thursday/Friday I’d love to hear. Planning on checking out the eagle Friday night as my last destination. I prefer a bar where I can have a conversation with someone without having to shout.

Hey guys! Any ideas where I can get a hepatitis vaccine for free or cheap? Manhattan is most convenient for me

Thank you!!

So I’ll be in the city tomorrow around noon and I have like 2 hours to kill south of Central Park. Anyone know a good place to grab a drink at that hour on a Tuesday? Or anyone wanna come hang feel free to dm! 24 5’5 180lb dad bod cub here

I found a bunch of redditors to trade with recently, but had to swap by mail. Is there anyone up for an in person trade?

I have SMALLS and am looking for SMALLS. Attached is an example of what i have available.

Not looking for anything sexual. Just want to change up my current collection.

I'm going to a Circle Jerk next month on the 14th in Brooklyn. (NOT Jacks btw).

What's the etiquette on saying "NO" to someone that approaches you, but you aren't interested?

Posting this with the help/advice tag because I need to get to the bttm of this. As a big spoon, I have encountered some bussy’s that are, quite simply, immaculate in their presentation. Some even have subtle hints of fragrance (such as lavender or coconut, for example). I don’t know how people add fragrances and such down there without causing irritation.

My question, as someone who wants to bttm a bit more, is: What are y’all doing outside of the typical douching routine? Do y’all have any go-to products or methods you recommend, or do you think keeping it simple works best?

I’m tryna go to the bear parties next month and I want people to go with!

I don't know about you all but I'm seeing a lot of comments like the title suggests and many posts down voted to high heaven.

I'm honestly curious what you all think this sub should be used for then? Like I'm not being facetious I genuinely want to know.

I do think there is a problem with the same questions getting asked over and over (I know the mods are working on this 🙏🏻) but it also seems like when I see people do something/ask something different that usually doesn't stick either.

Selfies with a "let's be friends" is a no go, group suggestions are hit and miss, but health questions seem to go a bit better? Advice seems to be hit and miss too?

In your ideal world, what's the best use of this sub?

I thought NYC would be a mecca but I have been struggling since I moved here to get any 😭 I get no hits on Grindr or Jackd, and even have had to do the boost of shame and still barely anything. I can look in other cities I’ve lived in and always have so many good options. Am I missing something? Is there another app used here that I don’t know about?? Where are the 🔝 NYC men hiding 😩

Has anyone been to JUICE - SEX PARTY FOR THE SWOLE in midtown? Is it well attended? What’s it like?

Hey y’all I’m 24 🇵🇷 and I’ve been a homebody for the last few months now!! I’ve been on eventbrite searching for some cool and fun queer spaces to check out. Im new to the gay scene and would love to make new connections! Not looking for sex parties! I actually wanna do something fun/new and interactive.

My instagram is @LovingIndio 😁

I’ll probably get downvoted into oblivion for asking this but I just want to hear your opinions. Why do straight women feel free to act the way they do in gay bars? I’ve been groped, harassed, followed in the damn bathroom and I have friends who have had to deal with similar situations. The crazy part is so many gay guys complain about straight men but I’ve NEVER had an issue with them in a gay bar. If they’re there they tend to just do their own thing.

something consistent and longterm with the right guy, I am a black college student switching between phem and mhasc vibes but mainly phem. Looking to explore each other in a way that is safe, never did this before. I wanna get to know each other and go out in town and talk first then gradually include kink. I prefer older men. I need someone patient, who loves to teach and is ready to make me feel safe and open up. Dm if interested. Also I can switch to a dom as well if you need when it gets to that. We can make each other feel seen but earn my trust first, this is not a one night stand zone.⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️I don't need chaos in my life so I need you to not be married or cheating, be single please. Please be out the closet as well.

I feel like there have been mixed signals flying around and I’d love to check it out, but I’m nervous

Has anyone here found their bf, partner or soulmates at Eagle or Cock? Im aware of the reputation these places have and that one usually goes there for cruising and over hookups but I'm curious if anyone has been lucky enough to have found someone there who they ended getting into a long term relationship with?

Hi everyone,

I have some discoloration in my bikini area so I was looking to splurge on myself more. Do you know any places that offer lightening/bleaching services for the bikini area for gay men?

Product recommendations are welcome as well! Thank you!!

I’m considering going to the eagle tonight cause I’m hungry for cock. How are the vibes on a Sunday? Do people cruise? What’s the age range? I prefer people around my age (24) to like age 35. Any insight is helpful. And yes this is another post about the eagle. Someone make a sub already!