So I recently got to college and was able to be fully out the closet for the first time. It felt amazing and it felt like a lot of weight was lifted off my shoulders. Especially because I come from an asian immigrant family and went to a rich, white, stifling boarding school; being out was just never an option. I haven’t made any close gay friends though. I tried going to the queer club and meeting people there, but I just didn’t really vibe with them. I feel too (culturally) straight for that idk.

Now I’m home again in Queens for a month and a half and being back in the closet sucks. How do I meet more young gay people in NYC? I just want people to relate to. I’ve been feeling very lonely.

On a side note, I want to get into crossdressing (maybe drag). Is there a community for that here in nyc? Thank you!

If you’re leaving, where are you off to? I usually leave around this time, but I will be staying in the city this year.

Want to try out the gym next week and see how it is

Any one on this community that does in home massage ( Incall or out call

Hi there I’m a 29 year old gay man wondering what you’d recommend doing in nyc? It’s my first time ever visiting the US, we’ll be staying near Times Square so central. I’m not into hardcore activities like orgies etc but is there any way to meet hot American guys while I’m over. I get the impression the gay scene is very hookup-centric? Are there more chill elements also? Kind regards Declan

I’m 19 and live in the suburbs of nyc. I’m pretty inexperienced and looking for some gay friends to explore a new side of me!

Anyone wanna meet up?

Hi everyone

I hope this post is ok. My local libraries don’t have LGBTQ+ books, or any of the fiction books I want to read. I’ve been wanting to read more but my library’s just don’t have a large collection. I’ve heard that the New York Public Library has an amazing collection, and I’m hoping someone might be willing to lend me their card. I’m not from New York so I can’t get one myself.

I use the Libby app, which automatically returns books on the due date, so I won’t have to worry about late fees.

I’d really appreciate any help — thank you so much for considering!

I have not gone to the cock in ages ...is it still empty until after midnight ? Thinking of going tonight but can't go too late

Hey, just got here for school (NYU). I’ve been wondering if yall know any good 18+ spots and whatnot. Or just any places where a guy can have some fun be it a public cruising spot, private event, etc.

Aside from that, I’m open to any and all advice you guys might have. I’m coming from a very small town with little to no action so there’s definitely a lot that I don’t know yet.

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I've noticed there's alot of guys into bating and specifically into / curious about NY Jacks. I created a page that can hopefully help other NY bators connect and share their experience whether you're looking to connect with someone you had a good time with or you're curious what a group jerk session looks like and looking for advice.

https://www.reddit.com/r/NYJacks

Anyone going to this? The performers and music lineup look really good https://shotgun.live/events/yaasssferatu-house-of-yes-december-28-2024?utm_source=hoyweb

Anyone interested in a shoot? No experience required and no face required in the shots. Semi nude to nude boudoir style shots. Let me know if you’re interested at all :)

I have noticed many guys in New York Will tap me or message me first and then just completely ignore when I respond. And many Will ignore you and then later when you post and New photo or randomly just tap you or message you. It’s really weird, is it like they are trying to find someone better than they are settling or? Because I know if a guy ignores me once unless he is super hot or like nice I’m not gonna let myself be disrespected and reply.

Seems like people in NYC trying to find the best thing.

As the title says. For some more context, I’ve been on short term disability and they called me to say that I will be laid off once I’m cleared to return to work. Doesn’t feel legal to me but idk, it’s America… I don’t know any employment lawyers but would be grateful for any recommendations. Feel free to dm if you don’t wanna post.

I have a really high sex drive and would like to have sex regularly. However, I dread looking for hookups on Grindr/Sniffies because I just don’t want to waste hours talking back and forth with guys who might just flake after he finish jerking off. I’m not a bad looking guy, and I get attention from cute guys at events. But for some reasons I just cannot really keep a fwb for long despite our sex being great (at least I think it was great). Lots of times the guys would say it was a great sex and we should do it again just to go mia after a while, or for some guys we just became platonic friends (which I’m ok with too).

Hi guys I’m visiting nyc soon is there any way I can get a way w. Lifetime gym day pass

Hey everyone, I wanted to know if there was a discord for the NYC gays around here? Been trying to make some friends. I’m in a NYC Gaymers discord but it’s a little silent lol looking to hear about any other gay discords out there.

Thanks,

Has anyone compiled a list of places open on Christmas or Christmas Eve? Curious what’s going to be open for those seeking alternative festivus celebrations

dm if interested im lookin for a new consistent vibe/eater. Be able to host pls.

I really love him, but he really was not an adult, emotionally, which is funny in a not funny way because he was significantly older than me. Zero ability to regulate his emotions, communicate, show vulnerability, etc.

I love him, but I never want to enter into another relationship like this. What are your red flags to eliminate people without emotional maturity early on?

I’d like to think that I’m pretty emotionally mature, value communication, vulnerability, and advancing the relationship. Boyfriend refused to go to therapy and ultimately we broke up because he wouldn’t stop picking outrageous fights over absolutely inane bullshit. How do I avoid this again?

Is it over 100?

Hey bros

My lesbian BFF just got over a relationship.

The best thing for her is to meet some new people and have some fun. But her confidence is shot.

So I’m making it my mission to help her find someone new.

She’s great: Funny and charming. Australian. Late 30s, 5’10, slim, blond. Into fitness, wellness and plant medicine.

Do any of you bros have a single lesbian BFF who could be a good match???

There is a guy l interact with on insta. We've never met and live in far apart cities. He regularly likes my stories. And he even added me to his private story (he’s not on mine). When he posts on insta, I comment, and he pins my comments. We’ve never even had a convo in the DMs. He’s really hot and I’m so into him. But I don't know if he's gay. I looked through all the accounts he follows, and he doesn't follow any obviously gay guys or gay influencers. He is also very masc and many of his male friends are straight cause I saw they have girlfriends. I wanna DM and ask him if he’s attracted to guys. If he is, great! We can move forward. But I’m afraid if he isn’t, he may feel some type of way that I asked him that and he’ll reduce our online interactions. Worst case scenario, he’d unfollow or block me. Idk. I really want to find out if he’s gay. But we don’t have any mutual friends or acquaintances for me to ask. Any advice?

Update: I straight up asked him. I said “Hi! You look great! Apologies if you get offended by my question, are you attracted to guys?”

And he said “Hey! Appreciate that! I’m not offended in the slightest. But no, I’m not”

Well at least I have my answer 🤣

Hi everyone! I was wondering if anyone has been to NY Jacks recently for the holiday season. Has there been an increase in new people attending?

Is anyone planning on going this Tuesday and sunday meet up? Let me know if you planning on going