Humans have institutional upbringing. They go to nursery at age three then go onto school where they eventually move onto further/higher education and employment. Throughout that life journey they are raised in herds i.e. amongst peers such as school class mates/ students at college/ work colleagues etc Most humans therefore grow up feeling and identifying with being one of the many or one of a group and very few as a result of this grow up with a strong sense of self. This low sense of self makes humans feel incomplete not being a member of a herd and it results in a need for validation which they seek through choosing to blend which is why we have so much conformity in our society. This low sense of self is also the reason why in a group of fifteen people one person who thinks "NO" will say "YES" if the remaining fourteen people are all saying "YES". This is one of the reasons therefore that the majority of people can be very easily manipulated and pressured into doing something against their will and therefore why you shouldn't trust them. History has told me that you shouldn't even trust these people even though you've spent the last twenty years of your life going for a drink once a week with these people. You can only trust independent minded people who very often tend to be people who didn't agree with the institutional upbringing nor did they fit in. Nursery/School/Employer and other institutions have stunted the growth of the independent thinker in most making this world a very undemocratic as well as unsafe place leaving the independent thinker very outnumbered.

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Of course someone who believes something extreme like dinosaurs still existing because they hallucinate them is wrong, but I'm talking about certain other cases.

When someone believes something that a sane person wouldn't believe people are quick to say that person is wrong and that they're "insane" as if that in and of itself means that they're wrong, and that a "sane" person wouldn't believe something that isn't true. But being sane doesn't mean your brain processes the world in a smart, rational and realistic way.

Being a "sane" human being is having an innate desire to survive. This desire isn't rational as there is no actual meaning to it, it's just what our brains programmed us to do. It is considered "sane" to believe in complete fantasies like religion/spirituality or life having meaning in general because these beliefs help us want to survive and (for many of us) procreate, not because they have any connection to reality.

Of course mental illness can make you have a completely unrealistic view of the world, but being completely healthy also makes you have an unrealistic view of the world (to a lesser, but still very relevant degree) because people aren't built to seek the truth, we're just built to survive, procreate and believe whatever lies most likely lead us to want to survive and procreate, and feel good and stable enough to do it with the highest likelihood.

Often a very mentally ill person will have a much less realistic view of the world, but sometimes they might just actually be right about something that a "sane" person would be wrong about. Being "sane" is good for you and preferable because being mentally healthy is vital for your well being, and of course mental illness is incredibly dangerous for a person and their environment. I'm not advocating for mental illness being preferable, as someone who has been through some struggles with mental health myself that is not something I take lightly. My argument is that yes, mental health is extremely important, but one thing it DOESN'T do is give you some "clear" view on the world as it "really is". It helps you see certain things clearly, but also contributes to making your entire world view being delusional on a deeper level.

Human sanity is a drug that gives us the necessary illusions to help us survive and procreate. It's a drug that's good for us, and that helps us live a good life, but it's a drug nonetheless in that it makes us "hallucinate" in a metaphorical way.

I don't want to admit it... but i have been bullied my whole life, starting from kindergarten all the way to the end of high school, i've been discriminated against for having autism, something that i was born with and can't control, i've been given death threats, attacked, harrased, falsely accused of being a creep, gaslighted, victim blamed, ETC.

As for people, i've seen and heard terrible things, both on the internet and in real situations. I've seen people assault and ruin each others lives just for fun, i've heard of people bullying others to death, i've seen people judge others and make them absolutely miserable just for their looks, ETC, i can go on... And, i HATE people, i HATE them.

Now don't get me wrong, not all people are bad, there are genuinely good people, but honestly, many people are just awful...

As humans, it could be different, we could change it, we could create the perfect peaceful society filled with harmony and no hate, but humans simply choose not to...

I want to deny it. I really don't want to be one, but... I think I'm becoming a misanthrope...

Every year, we're bombarded with all these videos about changing our lives, to become rich, happy, successful, and ahead of the curve. Tons of videos on how to change your life and be part of the elites. Tons of books produced on self-help, and self-motivation, self-encouragement to sell you the dream. The dream that if you just work hard, if you just follow a consistent schedule and stay disciplined, all of your dreams will be achieved. I call all of this a load of bullshit. I've been trying for 7 years to change my life for the better, and each time I reached somewhere, life got even harder. LMAO it's backwards.

At first, I thought it was me. That I wasn't good enough. I wasn't trying hard enough, because that's what society usually likes to say "If you fail, it's your fault. Don't blame us." So, I kept all those convoluted emotions and continued to grind, following tons of videos, guides, books, podcasts, you name it. Throughout the past 7 years, I learned a lot of skills, but guess what? It doesn't matter. Why? because not everyone can change their lives. I firmly believe luck plays a huge role in one's life, and sadly, it left me long ago.

You look around you, and stupid people are successful. You look at their work and it's just a waste of time, but they're successful. Why? Luck or maybe they're surrounded by brain-dead individuals. I don't know. Please, tell me how come that girl who said Hawk Tuah got famous? How? Tell me how did IShowspeed went big. How?

And with AI now on the rise, I firmly believe things will get intense. Human expectations will reach an unprecedented level of requirements that a singular individual can't reach alone. Many are constantly compared to one another and made to feel inferior because they're not as good as the other guy. And people love to ignore that circumstances and a lot of factors play a role in someone's life now and the future.

"Oh, you didn't achieve this and that yet? too bad. What a loser." Says the guy who had full support from their family as the other person who grew up in a toxic environment that left them with incurable traumas and severe mental illnesses.

You will be forced now not only to compete with humans but also with AI that's constantly evolving. And society doesn't care really. The way I see it, AI is not a problem to the masses, yet. But it will be in the future when it's too late. By that time, I wonder if any amount of hard work will ever help anyone.

People today seem to form relationships primarily for their own pleasure or personal gain—perhaps it's always been this way, but now it feels more pronounced. Society has grown incredibly shallow, fixating on external appearances and material success. The moment their partner's physical appearance starts to fade, or their financial situation takes a downturn, they quickly abandon them without hesitation. The idea of loyalty and commitment has become a farce. Instead of working through challenges together, most people prefer to walk away at the first sign of difficulty, unwilling to make sacrifices or compromises.

Selfishness dominates relationships. People no longer seem to care about the emotional bond they once shared. Everything has become transactional, and love is conditional, based on fleeting factors like wealth or beauty. When someone speaks of unconditional love, it’s often mocked or dismissed as naive, as if the concept itself is wrong or unrealistic. But it’s not the idea of unconditional love that’s flawed—it’s the people. They refuse to accept that real love means facing struggles, adapting, and growing together. They’re too self-centered to even entertain the possibility.

What’s truly absurd is that these people who discard others so easily will be devastated if they ever experience the same betrayal. They lack the foresight to realize that their shallow behavior will eventually come full circle. In this increasingly self-absorbed world, it’s easy to develop a sense of misanthropy—a disdain for humanity itself. How can one not resent a species that prioritizes instant gratification over genuine connection? People have become cold, calculating, and selfish, and the few who still believe in deeper values are seen as out of touch with reality. The disillusionment that stems from seeing this behavior over and over again only deepens one’s sense of isolation and distrust toward others.

Most people do not have real morals. Their morals only exist as a scheming tool to increase their social status within their tribe.

This is the reason people run a marathon for cancer research and post a photo on Facebook, but then ignore Climate Change (which is an even bigger threat) because it’s seen as boring, negative, or offers low social status. (Hippie/Get a job)

I used to be popular, but I decided to sacrifice my popularity and do the right thing by giving attention to things that matter. Since then, people have called me “cringey” and stopped inviting me places.

Now I have become completely disillusioned. I have realized that everything was a lie. Those people were never my friends, I just fit the mold of what they wanted me to be before I became “conscious”. The entire friendship group was a circlejerk, and it was entirely conditional.

I am now stuck between a rock and a hard place. I simply cannot see anyone as “good” now that I have seen the truth. Most people do not care about what’s right, or what’s true, or what’s good. Most people care about social standing and acceptance.

It’s the reason people give their ‘condolences’ when someone dies, but then bully when it’s popular to do so.. causing people to be suicidal.

It’s the reason people lose their mind when someone harms a dog, but then laugh and joke around the dinner table at Christmas in front of a dead Turkey’s carcass.

I can think of 100 reasons explaining how humans are inconsistent and hypocritical, and the worst part is that they will gaslight you if you rightly point it out, as well as discard you and devalue you.

It all depends whether what you say fits the boundaries of “normal” or “popular”. It doesn’t matter if you’re right. There is no guilt if there is no shame. This is how most people operate.

My question is, given that most of you here probably understand this as well, how do you cope?

I now see clearly that almost everyone is an underlying threat, except the threat is currently dormant because there has been no reason to light the fire. But it’s there.

I now see clearly that human beings, for the most part, can quite easily be pushed to do evil things if the time calls for it and it becomes “popular”.

People do not want to do good. They want to do perceived good. If there is no social benefit they will ignore it.

What do I do now?

We all share a similar vibe here, so in what ways can we socialize without feeling like loners? Are there any activities or groups that work for people who generally distrust or dislike others?

Or is it better to just stick to solitude and vent about humanity from behind our screens?

Throughout my life, I have had many disagreements with people over seemingly very basic things. Most of the disagreements stemmed from how certain things are conducted.

• When I was a teenager/child, I played online games and saw that developers had made certain changes that were detrimental to the game's growth (mostly in favor of monetization). Yet, I had heaps of people telling me the opposite, mods muted me or banned me, even when the game was on its last breath.
• When I was a student, I often criticized some of the way courses were taught, the obscenely early schedules of some of the classes, and how some clubs were run. Most of my complaints were logical, albeit might be shortsighted in some aspects. Every time I would meet a bunch of people taking the side of the school, the teachers, the clubs. They would tell me there is nothing wrong with how things work and I was the problematic one for raising my voice to complain.
• When I became a graduate student and later a researcher, I would complain about how research is conducted and the ridiculous academic standards, the credential creeps, and the sky-high expectations. Again, I was met with confrontation basically at every turn, even as academia became even more toxic.

While constantly coming into confrontation with all sorts of people was isolating and made me bitter at times, in hindsight all this complaining and being critical of established ways did not hamper my life trajectory. So I might have been doing something right!

What I have discovered is that there are always a great chunk of people who will stand with established ways of doing thing no matter what. And this is despite the fact the established ways bring difficulty to their own lives. These are often the same people who tells you not to complain because it is annoying or useless.

I have found that the psychology of these people is almost always one in need of acceptance from the majority (which almost always holds power). I think this is by far the most troubling if not downright disturbing aspect of humanity. People can abandon logic, inflict self-harm, and bring about collective doom if they feel that's what is needed for themselves to be accepted.

Like...

Hatred is passion it is similar to love and usually comes from being powerless to affect something wrong.

When a lot is wrong with people and how they behave on such a large scale and quantity I get how that can make someone hate humanity as a whole. When the trends breach actual humanity that we have inside ourselves, a sense of right and wrong and when your daily experiences with human are horrible sights of personality, it completely makes sense to take a stance of misanthropy and avoid people.

The first instinct would be to fight the wrongs but when they become overwhelming and so stressful, all that's left is to turn to hatred, trying to fight with every inch of your body and soul.

Now this has to be accompanied by lack of wealth I think, because anyone wealthy has the power to affect his surroundings and might not be as affected by it, hence alleviating the actual effect....

It's terribly ironic how being selfish never works out. Humanity is incredibly self focused and anthropocentrism is the pillar of our society. Anthropocentrism is such a given in human society that the term is seldom used because well duh of course everything is about us. Most people simply cannot see outside this narrow scope.

Our two biggest issues are we are selfish and our sense of priority is irredeemably messed up. We care about solving political and socioeconomic issues, housing crisis, conflicts and dating crisis. But in the grand scheme of things agriculture, air quality, soil and ecosystem health are more important because they directly correlate with the survival of the species. What good is which political party makes it into office if more than half your population starves to death due to crop failure? Of what significance is worrying about beauty standards, how to get rich fast, LGBTQ community and why so few men are having sex if you're dealing with severe drought and widespread vitamin deficiency caused by depleted soil? And yet we continue to concern ourselves with the most relatively insignificant things. You'd have to be extremely foolish to place these minor comfort seeking matters over the survival and health of the entire species. Surely having nutritious crops to eat is more important than identity politics? Humans have passion and vigour for human society but zero vigour or care for life as a concept. And yet they pretend that death so deeply hurts and moves them. Oh yes of course, so much so that you do nothing to stop the widespread death on Earth and mass starvation. But oh wait, I guess it doesn't count when it's other species that are dying. They do not love life, they love human life but lack the self awareness to admit it.

Humans simply do not realise that without ecocentrism thinking and measures, we are screwed. Infinite growth on a finite planet equals extinction. In order to solve our major issues and ensure our survival as a species, we need to solve other species issues and ensure their survival. The solution has always been to care about life. We are apart of life, everything else follows. When will the bugmen wake up and realise they are digging their own graves with their misplaced priorities and selfishness? The answer is never. We are in a race to the bottom. It doesn't make me feel pity. I feel pity for the several other species that got roped into our extremist tendencies. We think we are solidifying ourselves as gods, centre of planet earth, when in reality we are solidifying our downfall with each useless pseudo-advancement that serves to deliver a dopamine boost. As the saying goes, play stupid games win stupid prizes.

I live in isolation and have woken up in middle of night feeling like isolation is pushing me into a really tight corner where its been weeks since I've had a conversation with someone which is when I choose to go out to a bar the following evening to get a conversation with someone however whenever I go to a bar and wait for someone to come up and stand beside me to have a conversation with I start to engage in an inner dialogue inside my own mind about politics, sociology, psychology, observations made about world, me and others etc and the moment a person comes and stands beside me suddenly that desire to speak to someone disappears as I am enjoying the conversation I am having with myself far far more than any conversation I will ever get into with this person who has come and decided to stand beside me as the moment I get into a conversation with that person I know I am going to have to "dumb down" to their level and talk small talk and speak about the only thing men in my area can speak about which is cars, football and science fiction. This is when I come to realise that going to a bar actually makes me feel I'm in an even tighter corner to the one I feel myself being in when I awaken making the corner I feel myself wakening up in feel much larger the next time I awaken in it. The lesson to learn here is that when isolation makes you feel you're suffocating in a tight corner just put yourself amongst humans and you will feel isolation starting to make you breathe again.

Everyone these days is acting as a saint and it's making them not trust anyone. Everyone rushes to dictate what's right and what's wrong. You have all these useless debates on the internet about who's favourite celebrity is innocent and who's not. You have the rise of commentary channels on YouTube making videos about the rise and fall of certain individuals, hidden behind a video to show their moral compass and spill their own condescending opinions. I know some celebrities, YouTubers and evil individuals deserve what happened to them, but when you think about it, everyone is behind a mask now, acting like they're perfect. And it's scary because you could be friends with someone today, and make one tiny mistake just one tiny mistake, and you'll be judged and forgotten forever. I believe this form of gesture has completely alienated compassion and sympathy towards one another that, at the end of the day, we're human beings. We're not immune to mistakes. Some of us will make tiny mistakes, and some of us will make the biggest mistakes of our lives.

This makes me feel worried and paranoid about sharing anything with people. And even if I do, I refrain from sharing my personal beliefs, because like I said, make one tiny mistake or say one controversial take and people will pull off their moral compass. Do you not feel how when you're talking to people, you can feel the spurious wall around them? Heck, do you even feel like you can bond with people as easily as you did 10-15 years ago? No, everyone's changed. And for the worse, I'm afraid. When I talk to people these days, it feels like I'm trying to decipher a code, or walk through a maze of secrets. You may think you know someone full-heartedly until you make a mistake or show your bad side, the mask falls off, and then you're added to one of the stories they'll tell others about "how you were the worst thing alive." It's tiring, man.

I just wish people would show their true nature from the get-go. Instead of playing all these games, making you waste your time with them only to become a target for judgement, and a forgotten memory in the following years. I won't say I'm a saint myself, but at least I don't have a channel dedicated to "calling out others" as if I'm God's messenger.

I never did. All I want is to do is work two jobs, take care of what's necessary, pay my bills, go home and chill. I don't care about chasing money, women or whatever shit is the thing nowadays. I don't care about that "high value" stuff, I'm not trying to date, marry or have children. I'm fine on my own.

And what is so wrong with that? The judgemental behaviors is what makes me steer away from most people. It's like talking to a snobby ass robot.

Why can't people fathom that not everyone wants to live that lifestyle? Why can't they understand it's not for everyone? Why are they taking it so personal? Why are people using shaming language like "mundane" and "mediocre" as a way to validate themselves at my expense?

It's like everywhere I go, I have all of this propaganda and ideologies shoved down my throat. Like you don't have to agree, but why are you making your insecurities my problem? Why am I being treated like I'm not a human because I'm not following anyone's blueprint? This shit makes no sense but it's socially accepted.

I'm not saying I'm gonna hold myself from opportunities that work FOR ME, but I wasn't born in this world to please and perform for people who really don't care about me in the first place.

I don't want to break the law, harm others and be a leech. But working two jobs, paying my bills, having time for myself, is supposedly more sinful than actually breaking the law in 2024.

This is maddening.

 When elementary school gave way to middle school, it was initially funny to me. The kids you knew as your chubby-cheeked friends now carried machetes to school and smoked weed and got into fights. But over time it stopped being as funny as it was when you initially saw this absurd side to reality. 

Fun to see occasionally, but now that’s just life. 24/7. No going back. Suddenly your parents are acting like teenagers with their crises and anger issues.

If you’re lucky like me, things like rape and war didn’t fully hit you until you saw and really considered them.

High school is fun on occasion, other times not so much. Being with people seems to be better than being alone, but then you have to be with people. The things they do and say piss me off.

But today isn’t about the big things, it’s about the little things. The blemishes, the small indecencies and lapses.

The things you hear your friends say about girls and their bodies, the things girls say about the guys they were just glazing a day ago. The way they quickly spread rumors with no further thought or nuance.

Being raised right is a fucking scam. It doesn’t help at all in this giant prisoner’s dilemma.

A lot of people become like us because we were once too empathetic, too understanding, raised too “right”. People like us just don’t win in this world without becoming cynical, something that eats us away from the inside. Life blames the blameless.

And they’ll tell you that everyone else is trying their best. Fuck that. I don’t believe it. To me it’s just an excuse to stay comfortable, to shake off any responsibility and to live under the comfortable awning of limitations, too scared to give it a go in the rain. “I’m only human bro.”

Not a whole lot of substance or new ideas to chew on in this one. I’ve scrolled here a while and it looks like a real pity party. So many of us here and yet the status quo stands healthier than ever. But I did just want to get this out. Maybe better entries in the future.

You may find it annoying that this is going to be entirely anecdotal, but I think it is important to express it here, in search of feedback.

It is as if man always has something to say about everything, but then they act in the opposite way, thinking that it somehow makes sense.

For example, you are told that in artistic and cultural matters you should act only and solely guided by passion, but then you are consumed by the competitive environment, and put down for not being "good enough."

It is said that the most important aspect of the educational system is learning and engendering critical thinking, and then excessive importance is given to grades, status, and following a single model of student, neglecting those with different abilities.

It is said that segregation, censorship and persecution were monstrous aspects of society, and we pride ourselves on having reached the point of "tolerance" that we live in today, when the only thing that has changed is the objective and format of the persecution, which has become more political and ideological, like a hunt for heretics, arguing that it is the right thing to do.

At this point, I do not expect human beings to act decently, but I never believed that they would reach such a point of madness, that they would be able to disconnect from reality and rave about their "achievements and values", believing that incompatible things are part of progress.

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Part of me says this is splitting hairs but another logical part of me says no, there is a difference: do I hate people or do I just hate interacting with them?

Anytime I am forced to interact with others I do not know or trust I hate everything about it in every way.

I'm not old but not young, I prefer my anonymity so I'll just say I am between 35-45, and I always said to myself don't be jaded because cynicism is worthless but the older I get I don't know if it's being jaded per se or just seeing the fairly universal selfishness and near impossible to avoid bullshit everyone hides behind to play their daily games of look at me and I'm a good person when in so many countless examples, no you are not. I don't know if I'm growing in my misanthropy or just beyond tired of all pointless filler social interactions and people's desire to pretend like they're special.

Thoughts?

We could be better, I wish. Although many believe that humans are superior to animals, this is just wrong. Though I still believe we're amazing the fact that we are the only species actively working toward extinction makes me even less optimistic, especially in light of the extremists who fight to deny people their rights, us destroying the planet, how easy it is for a human to be controlled like an animal, us driving other animals to extinction and every other thing we've done.

Everytime I see some story of someone dying I wonder how someone could do something like that to another human being. I make an effort to ignore it, but hatred is strong and exists everywhere.

I think that seeing people who are worse or even more dumb than animals disappoints me because I have spent my entire life being convinced that humans are superior to animals. I am also grieving for the species that we could have been. Is it really on our nature to be this cruel?? We have the intelligence to so better but people choose to not do that and still hate and hate and hate. I don't want to hate. This misanthropic view has taken over my mind for the past few days and I just want us to get what we deserve.

I know it's all correct to feel this way but I can't control the visceral hatred I feel for us, our weird fleshy bodies and sick and twisted minds. I wish I could stop feeling this way

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These days I don’t want to even leave my house. It feels like everyone is so aggressive and no one has any sympathy for anyone.

It feels like the world ended 10 years ago, people aren’t like how they used to be and everything is so awful nowadays, everyday I wish I could go back to the late 2000s and early 2010s.

I panic and have severe anxiety even while walking down the street. Does anyone else feel like the world has become so much worse nowadays?

I honestly hate being around people and even when I go to buy groceries I want to leave immediately, I feel like I can’t breathe.

It also sucks because I have autism, people are so inconsiderate and don’t understand me at all. I’d rather stay in over the weekend then go out partying, that sounds like a fucking nightmare to me.

People are so exhausting..

It has been stewing in me for quite a while and I thought that I would finally put it out. I identify as a misanthrope, not hard to these days, and I hate humans as a collective. Thing is, I sorta hate a lot of things: universe is a painful place. But do you know who I hate the most, after looking through the posts here and engaging with fellow people from the sphere? You, fellow "misanthropes".

We should be better. We should realize the pain of the universe, to understand it, and thus, to embrace it: instead, you whine about it and try to run away from it. In the end, you are no different from average man: rather than fight against what you hate, you run away and cower, you isolate yourself. Rather than try to cherish and protect the beautiful, you let yourself be consumed with apathy. You are not a misanthrope, you simply surrendered to entropy, and I hate you for it.

I misanthrope who walks the same path as the common man is even worse than a common man. To hurt is to live, and rather than living aware, you choose to decay.

Recent posts I just saw are all like

"People just pretend to be better than they actually are instead of actually develop traits like empathy, understanding another side, helpfulness or anything that could make the world a better place. That's a cause for so many problem with them"

"One of the more unforeseen natural consequences of the human population being in high margin numbers pretty much almost everywhere is that as the number of people grows, so does our inability to sympathize and philanthropize with others and your struggles are basically mockery to society"

And top comments are all the same + a bit of petty reddit politics (which is supposedly banned by the rules).

Is this really what misanthropy is? Why do you value empathy so much? If it's just a meaningless ape behavior we evolved, which functions as a depressant at that? I think most posts here would fit into pessimism, Schopenhauer or Buddhism much better (and to be blunt often rather into depression, social anxiety and suicide watch). What's so important about being a "good person" by humanity's own standards and who decides what's good? Is it an attempt to cling to life denying morality without any real basis for it? Isn't empathy and morality the opposite of misanthropy, empathy in particular is what is supposed to motivate philanthropy?

I have a theory that I impose on this subreddit

I have been thinking a lot lately about the causes of depression and other mental illnesses and where do they genuinely come from. Personally, I have been recently diagnosed with ADHD, and anxiety this year, and I have discovered that I have certain tendencies that are derived from possible childhood trauma such as people-pleasing, feeling inadequate, convincing people of my worth, etc. The person who gave me childhood trauma is my mother in which I started to quite resent because this woman caused all of these problems in me and she wonders why I act like this.

Growing up, she would punish me if I ever got bad grades, not to mention yell at me causing me to cry, leading me to become sensitive(still am to this day). I could go on more but you get the idea. As time went on, I started to see people whom I am close with, feeling down because of other people's behaviour and how people treat them. I have a close friend that still cannot move on from his ex because she cheated on him, leading him to self harm and using unhealthy coping mechanisms. Keep in mind, it's been a year. I also have another friend that frequently argues with his parents because he doesn't live up to their expectations, and would constantly move in and out after making up with his parents.

It sucks that we fucking grow and ppl fucking expect us to live up to their expectations which in later, we don't get nothing but not being satisfied with ourselves and feeling like we are not good enough for people especially our family members. Parents especially Gen X Parents do not know how much damage they have caused to Gen Z children, which fucking explains why people my age are mostly fucking shit these days perhaps rooted from their upbringing. People project their issues, and insecurities onto other people, and the cycle fucking continues on and on until it fucking stops. No fucking wonder why, people suffer from bullying, trauma, PTSD, drug addiction, low-self esteem, and anxiety.

An individual getting evicted out of their house and becoming homeless, like a teenager getting kicked out by their parents in which later they use drugs to cope with their problems, I don't really blame them, but at the same time, they are ruining their lives. From the past year, I started smoking cigars occasionally to help me cope at the lowest point of my life in which people fucking ghosted me, abandoned me, which led me to episodes of derealization in which I did not expect to happen. But here I am, healing and recognizing my problems to try to be better, and this all because of how people made me feel like I was a nobody which led me to become a misanthropist.

To conclude, I would like to add on that people have financial issues either from their irresponsible behaviour or they have trouble finding a job due to selective employers, no skills or from their parents refusing to provide for you(if you are a teenager). So after compelling all of my thoughts, most of these issues wouldn't have started if it weren't for people being sadistic, evil, merciless mistreating others and ruining their lives like the ongoing Palestianian and Israeli conflicts. There is a reason why world peace will never theoretically happen.

Humanity is evil and I have lost faith in it.

“#BringBackBullying” is a legitimate phrase that has circulated around social media for who knows how fucking long. People haven’t changed and will never change. They won’t learn, and even if they do, it’s not like they’re going to give a two fucks.

I’ve known multiple people in real life throughout my middle and high school years who have re-posted content on social media with this caption. Bullying is clearly supported by an incredibly large percentage of the population when given the opportunity to get away with not facing retaliation. The backwards logic and pathetic excuses these fucking smooth-brained dipshits come up with just to abuse and harass innocent people for being “weird” is almost laughable.

Bullying hasn’t gone away, and it may not go away for the entirety of human existence. As long as differences in power are present in any form, those with more power will continue to harm, harass, and fuck over those with less power, for their own benefit.

Almost every instance of bullying I’ve witnessed has almost always been related to social status or social stigma (shame) in one way or another. Either the victim possesses characteristic(s) considered as stigmatized and/or shameful, or the bully craves the dopamine hit that comes with socially undermining others to boost their position on the social hierarchy.

Innocent people being recorded and posted to social media, threats that interfere with personal safety or private information, false accusations, rumours and slander, or just basic insults and name calling, etc.

Shame, stigma, and “cringe” themselves account for most of the this type of harassment and abuse, or social hostility in any way. Again, as long as the emotion of shame exists, this won’t go away.

Assuming we don’t last long enough to evolve out of our primal instincts, bullying will always be encouraged and defended either in openly or in disguise. The reason being simply because at the end of the day, we’re still just apes with clothes on.

I find that many people alternate between two modes: aggression and passive aggression. They are either outright bullies, or they are indirect bullies. The latter prevents them from experiencing any societal consequences.

For example, setting boundaries. Many people are too afraid to set boundaries and communicate, so they are passive aggressive instead. No matter how much you urge them to be vulnerable, they will continue being abusively indirect. This results in a slow form of torture for the target.

Others are overly aggressive with boundary setting. They call you names, raise their voice, or shame you instead of simply alerting you to your mistake.

It's almost like, most humans have never even conceived of the idea of calmly, and politely stating business.

And god forbid, you ever try setting boundaries with them! They'll punish you for as long as you know them.

I’m tired of arguing and dealing with people who won’t listen to your side of the argument and can’t put themselves in other’s shoes and always resort to being mean and sarcastic whenever there’s a disagreement or I’m being accused of something.

What is the best strategy for dealing with people like that? It gets really challenging to avoid confrontations with them, although I do a good job at keeping my cool.

I still let things get to me sometimes. How do I get better about just keeping my mouth shut and not speaking my mind?

I (m26) have had clinical depression my entire life. I've always been unhappy and assumed having friends and girlfriends would make me happy, like people always talk about. The saying "people need people" is meant to suggest that people need emotional connections with others, but to me it's meant I need them to do services for me. The garbage pick up people, the ones running the sewage and power plants, etc. All of my best friends moved away years ago and I never cared. If people need people to be happy and I'm unhappy, yet I don't want anyone in my life who isn't doing a job, am I just screwed? Like it's a double negative where if I give myself people I'll be upset dealing with humanity, but if I don't I'll continue to be usually unhappy from some unspecified biological necessity?

I have a life where the only non-customer person I see is my brother, because he's also my boss. I wish I could be alone in my apartment all day, and am furious when there are people out and about. People in the park? They need to leave immediately. Walking on the crosswalk while I'm at a stop sign? I wish they had never existed so I wouldn't be wasting 10 seconds. I hear anyone talking at all? Please make them stop or else it'll get overwhelming. I don't talk to my parents at all even though to anyone else our relationship would seem perfectly fine. I've had multiple partners and never had positive feelings about any of them, outside of feeling like I was doing what people are supposed to do by pairing up. A few years ago I realized I'm most likely aromantic and am grossed out by affection unless it's within the context of a specific kink.

I don't have positive experiences with people outside of school friendships that I let end once it wasn't convenient anymore. These were my best friends ever whose houses I went to almost everyday, and I never think about them or remember much of anything that happened when we hung out. I don't retain memories much in general, so it probably doesn't help, but I feel no desire to text them and would be annoyed if they wanted to come visit me. Nothing personal, it's just all sacrifice with no gain. I'm not getting that time and effort back.

All this to say, am I going to remain unhappy because some part of my brain does need people and another part doesn't? Like the right and left halves of my brain want different things? Or is it that I'd be happy if I could see no one else ever again and didn't have daily misfortunes?

For example, back when I was in school, I found several of my peers to be rude and annoying to deal with, and thought that people would be nicer and more tolerable after I graduated. However, that thought completely dwindled away when I started working in retail several months after I graduated from high school, in which I noticed the true side of humanity and completely lost all faith in it.

Hi, maybe this question is not related to countries where population is ,on the contrary, growing , but I am talking about countries where people understand that their financial situation or lifestyle don't allow them to have kids ( English is not my bative language, I hope you will understand what I am talking about) . I mean , prices grow, money don't, if you want to have a kid- it is a pretty expensive pleasure . Many people understand that being parents is not their and dont worry about living childless , they have their own happiness. And of course kids have to be raised, need attention and time, so parents understand that one kid is already enough. Some people are scared to give birth because of genetic illnesses or something like that . So the question is : does anybody else feel some strange satisfaction when noticing less and less people multiplicate? I also noticed that governments are panicing about that and insist people to give birth, trying to prevent legalization of abortions.

I noticed some time ago that another reason to not believe in people is that the ones who calls themselves open to everyone are first to kick somebody out from their company, ones that show you suspiciously high respect turn out to have worst intentions towards you and ones who talk a lot about peace are often most likely to make radical decisions. You can't just find even single good person because everything that person say or do turns to be just a short - term cover for awful personality. Honestly it's just more healthy to don't make yourself a hope even toward nicest individual.