Bruh, I got disqualified from the marines for simply seeing a doctor about switching genders 😭 I’m not even on any medication rn, and I don’t mind just repping until I get out, is there anything I can do? Or is it over for me?

So, I'm in a bit of a dilemma. I'm in holds at my A school, and I learned that I can route an ETP request to my CO to begin the process to start transitioning. However I learned that I could also be separated for a failure to adapt. Should I try to start the paperwork now, or wait?

I’m currently in the Army and have finally accepted that i’m trans mtf. I’ve been cross dressing since covid, dressed as a woman for Halloween, went out to a trans friendly bar as woman, have only been sleeping with men as a woman for the past four years. In fact, i recently tried sleeping with men as a “man” and didn’t feel like myself. This whole time I thought i was crossdressing just for the fun of it but now i realize it was me finally expressing myself for who i truly am. Being in the military complicates everything though, especially with Trump about to be president again.

My question is, should i start the process of transitioning and risk getting kicked out? Or just wait until my contract ends? I was hoping to re-enlist but i honestly dont know if i can wait another contract to start transitioning. I appreciate your guidance!

Hi. I’m 17 ftm, pre-everything and basically in the closet, and I plan on joining the Navy after high school. I was wondering if it was possible to transition after enlisting? I don’t plan on transitioning until after Trump’s presidency, but I also don’t know if I can transition while serving?

I don’t think I plan on getting any major surgeries as of now, maybe top surgery way down the line, I’m only thinking of HRT right now.

I’m afraid to talk to my recruiter about this because my mom is with me when we meet and I don’t want to come out to her like that, especially since she’s not the most accepting.

I just need a little advice and insight, I guess. Anything is greatly appreciated!

Hey

Me and a recruiter I was talking to on here we're trying to hash out getting me enlisted

One regulation says you have to be complelty transitioned before joining or be stable in it for 18 months and not want surgery upon joining (from what I hear)

Has anyone ever claimed completion and then gotten surgery while in?

Keep in mind I'd be joining the nationak guard and probably not going through military medical to get top surgery from what I know- I'd pay without insurance for surgery if/when I got it (which in that case wouldn't be a while)

Any ideas?

Hi, I’m a retired trans veteran.

With the passing of the NDAA including the rider that prevents trans children of service members from receiving care, I thought I’d reach out to see if there’s anyone in the difficult position of being a parent and going through that.

If you are, please comment or DM me, I’d like to set up some interviews if possible.

The end goal is some sort of documentary.

Hello I am trying to get some advice because I am feeling very stuck in my current situation. Currently stationed active duty on a ship in Japan. I've been here a year and a half and been in for three and a half years. I am AMAB and last year I came to the realization that I am Gender fluid, and that I at the very least want female secondary characteristics. For the past 9 months I have been attempting to start my transition. However the process has been basically non existent and I am receiving little to no support at all. My HMC on my ship knows basically nothing about the process and it's frustrating being stuck without making much progress. It took 6 months from me bringing this up with him to me finally being able to see MH and get my Gender Dysphoria diagnosis. After that basically nothing has happened and all I keep hearing is that they are looking into it. Im genuinely not sure what I can do at this point. I am tired of not being able to start anything because of actual incompetence on the part of Navy Medical. They aren't even sure if they will let me start any treatments while I'm here and don't seem to interested in actually helping me. I just would really appreciate any advice from anyone on what I can do in this situation. I feel like I am out of options and I am tired of just being forced to wait for answers I don't think Im going to get any time soon.

I have sent emails and of course no one gets back (lmao, figured) but I'll go in person soon.

Anyone who has been, what have they been saying so far about potential bans and trying to get everyone in?

There almost isn't a point behind this post because I'm doing all I can do. I'm trying to enlist in the guard in my state (blue state). However I got a DWAI and wont be done with probation until May or July, my recruiter is still willing to work with me. I'm cautiously hopeful trump won't pursue a ban because there are other distractions he's talked about more that he needs to fail at in front of the American people. I also have nearly all the paperwork settled to go to MEPS, it was suggested I maybe reach out to my PO to see if I could expedite the process through her with a letter of some sort, I emailed her this morning but she probably won't have anything for me. Besides, with the state I'm in they ignored the ban last time and trans people were still allowed to enlist in my state- didn't know this until some reasearch. This is the only reason I'm hopeful if all else fails. What would u do?

As the title says I will be pcsing to vilseck area at quite possibly the worst time for a trans service member in this political climate. Bad timing all around being as I’m only 6 months on hrt and I fly out Monday the 16th. I already got my legal name change done, birth certificate, drivers license, bank stuff, and passport application pending. ss office has not been too friendly. I was told by my provider I can’t change my name and gender marker in deers until I hit 1 year. I’m just wondering if anybody on this sub has any advice on what I can do to get ahead once I get there, especially since I was never given a sponsor. I may or may not be stranded at a civilian airport with mixed documentation, also if their is any groups I could get into contact with to farther help me with this ever evolving journey. Ps theirs tons more complication to my story but I’ll just leave it at that till I can reach out to someone

I've been out of the army for a year and a half now, I grew to hate being in but now that I'm out I can't help but miss it. All of my friends, save one, are all hundreds of miles away and I haven't really made any new ones since. Add on to that being a trans woman in this day and I can't help but feel suspicious and mistrustful of everyone I meet. My life feels like it's lost its purpose and I can't help but reflect on all of those shitty times in the field or at the range and wish I were back there. I just feel like I don't belong anymore.

So being pre everything has shown me some senior leaders perspective on the whole trans in the mil. And frankly there is a lot who think that we shouldn't serve and be as they say "mouching off the medical system" Then you got me sitting the defending the trans community giving some of the same points they say we are doing that the normal cis service members are mouching as well like claiming ED, or other minor health issues that can't be proven. At one point I was asked why I was defending "them" and they were saying thing like "no one here is like that here." Or "man stop trying to be EO all the time" like how can we educate leaders or soldiers to let people live the life they want and just respect people by the rank/position they are put in and only judge on the ability to perform as there rank/positions.

I am 20 years old, and I have been on feminizing hormonal replacement therapy (AKA HRT), for 6 months now, no surgeries yet, and as the title suggests... I'll probably just join my cities law enforcement if Donald Trump stops me from being in the military. I mean one of my biggest reasons for joining the armed forces is bc the idea of being able to not only be myself (we have trans protections in the military for now), but I am also allowed to serve my country, that's cool. Like I do my job just as well as anyone else at my command does idk why transphobes have an issue with my job.

But yeah have already talked to the police recruiter (for military/veterans), and mentioned to them my interests in joining, the fact that I am Trans, and how although my EAOS is Feb 2028, I could potentially get our earlier if Trump does another military ban.

• I mean I already knew this from their website, but they have this equal opportunity thing that doesn't allow them to discriminate based upon immutable characteristics such as gender identity in my case.
• And the guy on the phone seemed like a cool/chill dude who personally didn't have an issue with me trans and said would like to have someone like me on their police force as long as I can do my job good etc (which should be the case, like me being trans shouldn't limit me from being able to do a job a cis person can imo.) He also mentioned that I would be a first (trans person) for the department so it would be a new thing to them.

I was wondering what is yalls opinion on my potential career choice?

• Like say I don't get kicked out. I still might decide to become a police officer for my local police dept when my contract ends, using the Navys Skill bridge program that the police dept is partnered with.
• Money wise as an E4 2y TIS in the US Navy I am making around $2220 bi weekly. Right now with this police dept for 2025 for example they pay $2500 bi weekly starting out, even when you start the academy day 1 training (if the dept sponsors you of course). Which is a little bit more money than I am currently making. And I'd assume in 3 years starting pay would be more if not super similar to what I'd would be making in the future (assuming I don't get kicked out.) If I do go to school for criminal justice degree and get a bachelor's in that, in this dept I can advance to sgt making like $96k a year with 5 years time in service. And also progress to LT, which would make even more money.
• I do live in Florida though, but the police dept I am interested in is in a more "liberal/blue" area of Florida. For example I graduated high-school from this county just 2.5 years ago (yes the military decided to permanently station me in the exact same city I am from lol,) and my school had pride flags up on the hallway walls and in some supportive teachers class rooms. My school even had an lgbtq club or whatever.

I've read alot about police work, and talked to police officers irl in the area about the job, and watched tons of videos about how to join, police chases, interrogations, body cam videos, etc. And it all seems like something I would be interested in. I will be doing ride alongs with the police dept to get a better grasp of what I will be doing patrol work related if I do become an officer.

Almost anyone who knows me IRL says they could see me as a police officer. Like I guess the way I act/think gives people that idea. My other job interest is nursing stuff, but that takes atleast 4 years of college, and you have to take some big test just to get certified, and I hear alot of people say bad things about that line of work. I'd assume I would be more "accepted" in the field than police work though. And they both have similar hours, and pay. But police work is an smaller barrier of entry cause the academy is like only 4 months long iirc. And the downsides I hear about policing, "dealing with the worst people" or "writing reports and having paper work." Aren't things that I think it's super bad, like I have really good patience, and I love paper work and writing.

I just hope that me being a trans woman won't end up with me being hurt via joining this career field. And when I say "hurt" I am not talking about random civilians, I am more or less talking about my future co workers if I do go down this route. (Sexual assault/physical abuse/etc, I mean this is a male dominated field.) I don't really care about verbal abuse, (I have experienced worse prior to military,) and even at my command even though people know I am gay or whatever (currently closeted trans for now,) I am seen as "one of the guys" because I have thick skin and shoot the shit back with people, and don't let stupid jokes get to me.

Idk this is just how I feel in the moment, and decided to make this post, cause I am wondering what yalls opinion is on my potential career choice.

Hey i’m in college 18 yr old ftm i’ve been on T for 5 months and have bi polar 2 i know i wont be able to get in but my dream was the air force or anything in the military any ideas at what i could do instead? my parents made me go to college for business but the military is calling me name, thank you

hello!

i just hit the 3 year mark, and was told i cant transition since i’m a year from separation? i dont see anywhere in the afi that mentions retainability, so is my provider full of it?

i’m literally at my wits end cus i have been going to this provider since february, and i dont think i can go another year without help and resources. she wont even diagnose me with gender dysphoria :(

I haven’t seen this asked on here and it may be silly to ask. Is getting a hysterectomy a disqualification? If not, how long do you have to wait after a hysto to join? TIA

So I'm active Navy and just got verbal orders for Diego Garcia, once I get the hard copy orders I need to do an overseas screening. I already have a gender dysphoria diagnosis through the Navy but am still waiting for my medical treatment plan (MTP) to get approved by my command. I got refereed to a civilian endocrinologist who prescribed me spiro and estradiol immediately and has been covered by tricare so far. Technically I shouldn't have started HRT yet until the MTP was approved but since the doctor was a civilian it kinda got bypassed. What I'm wondering is will my medication be an issue for my overseas screening, it currently isn't showing up on my MHS genesis profile. I really want to keep these orders to Diego since they come with 3 schools in route but am worried about not passing the screening. I don't mind if I have to buy my own medication and have it shipped to the island.

I am 18 ftm. I love the military and everything about it. I either want to enlist in the army or air force or maybe try to become an air traffic controller.

I am not out to anyone in my life, and the furthest step I have made towards transitioning is online presenting as male (have been for five years) and binding. Its complicated but I am a personal person and have been dreading telling people I'm trans after lying and denying it for years.

I can either take the leap of transitioning and try to get everything done before joining, and get to enlist as male. This would mean delaying my life goals and having to get myself to get the courage to finally transition. I also worry about my safety in the military if its found out that I am trans and still am around other guys.

Or, I can enlist before transitioning and deal with more years of dysphoria that has made it difficult for me to want to live at times or talk to people. I also wouldn't have to pay as much for any procedures and I hope by the time I've spent time in the military I'll have the confidence to transition. But would this put me in a worse situation since its more obvious that I am trans?

My thoughts circle around this over and over again. Some days I desperately need to transition now. Some days I know I don't have the strength to transition now and instead just want to go into the military sooner.

Can anyone point me in a direction? This is all I have thought about for months.

I’m in the marines with 2 years left in my second contract and I’m not sure if I am able to do hrt or get any procedures done. I’ve tried looking on line for information but have come up short

Well, I've been working nearly a year on it, and after going through everything, I got selected to go into OCS. Didn't honestly expect to be selected given the political situation, not to mention the competition I was going up against (I applied to go into the Cryptologic Warfare program which I assume is competitive).

Question for people here, should I be worried about moving forward with this?

Also curious if anyone here has experience with OCS and what I should prepare for if I continue along (and I don't get kicked out before my ship out date)?

Hey yall I'm Amry currently a E6 working on a WO packet

So I'm preeverything right now but I have finally come to terms with myself and want to start to transition (pending what comes in the next month or so). I have be diagnosed with gender dysphoria by a non mil therapist and will be scheduling with BH after I submit my Warrant Packet as a Maintenance Tech. Currently I am being seen by MFLC and had help me accept me. (However my wife has told me if I do this she is gone, because she doesn't want a relationship with a woman 💔) I am wonder what yall have encounter thar may be a hindrance on your careers that maybe a reason not to move forward (my wife's biggest argument telling me I should wait). And for those who have kids (mine are 3 and 1) how was the adjustment for them (especially because my wife would take them considering I move forward)

Thanks for any feedback

Today I went to UA for the first time since I really started to “pass” and I had an unusual, but not bad, and kind of euphoric experience.

I came in and right away the woman there to watch the woman pee was like “Oh ya! I get a chance to practice.” Which was weird, but not offensive for obvious reasons.

Downed some tea and went up to the guy and told him I was ready and to my confusion he held up two bottles and said I was to pee in the big one and pour it into the small one. I asked why I couldn’t just pee in the small one first. Confused he asked if I needed the big one and I told him no.

Then the woman escorts me to the bathroom and I pause cause I didn’t know which one I was supposed to use this time, but I just followed her into the woman’s bathroom.

We go to the proper stall and I’m just like, is she going to stand there? Do I sit down? I don’t believe this woman knew I was trans and have a penis until I lifted the toilet seat and began taking care of my business. She said she needed to see the stream so I just awkwardly rotated around the toilet and I think at that point she fully understood.

I talked to her as I washed my hands and apparently she didn’t have a clue and was really confused when I only took the small cup to pee in.

In the end it felt nice that no one suspected anything until they literally saw my genitals. Just a unique experience and I was wondering if anyone had a similar story.

I'm planning on starting HRT and transitioning soon, but of course I'm worried about the threats Trump is making in regard to trans military members and trans people in general. As a dependent, I'm wondering if I should be worried too? I know it's not like they can do much to me since I'm not in the military, but since I still get my healthcare on-base I'm just a little worried about the military knowing. Should I try to pay for HRT out of pocket to limit what they know or take advantage that Tricare will cover it? I appreciate any comments or advice.

• All of my medical transition (soon to be post-op) will be left out of the Genesis system, due to it being in Canada, so no medical records.

• Legal name and gender change with SSN and birth certificate (Canadian) identifying me as the sex that I have transitioned to. Likely to acquire US passport with up-to-date info

Problem is, my high school diploma and my past US tax returns are under my deadname. Will this raise red flags with MEPS or out me, if I’m opting for a “don’t ask don’t tell” approach? I wonder if the deadname on my tax returns will ruin the possibility of being covert. The diploma, I think I can resolve with a GED and a tier 2 entry, but I’m not fully sure of the implications.

Any advice?

I'm on a longterm TDY until May. I got my diagnosis in October, before the election was even a consideration, and the plan was to call my doctor in March, get scheduled to go out to THMEU in June, and go from there.

I've only been in for just shy of 2 years. I wasn't around for the first ban so I don't know what's going to happen. I know nobody else does, but I just want someone else who's going through what I'm going through to talk to it about. What should I do? What does anybody else think?

I’ve been in the military for almost 2 and 1/2 years. And I have been fighting to start my transition because of my leadership. I’ve been with my current unit for 18 months and have been seeing different Specialists at the clinic to help me get papers pushed up to get signed by my chain of command, that has yet to happen. I’ve talked to all of my sergeants in my team and my PSGs I say that because we’ve gone through five in the 18 months I’ve been with them and they haven’t been much help either. I’m currently on deployment and am due to return after the new year. I’ve been fighting this fight since I got to my unit, the S3/ training room lost my memorandum and the company commander couldn’t sign off on me to start working my way up . And we even went through two commanders and two S3 shop sergeants, and they still couldn’t sign it.

When I get back apparently I’m getting sent to another unit, who is about to go on rotation too. So I feel stuck.

And I’ve heard and read all the news about trump banning transgender service members, and I’m a little confused and anxious. I have the gender dysphoria diagnosis from EBH, and have a memo signed by a colonel at the hospital saying it’s a go from them, does that mean I’m going to get the boot as well or do it have to be more specific?

This is the breath before the plunge. This is the calm before the storm. The quiet minute before hell breaks loose. I hear and see lots about fear and giving in to it, but this is not the time for giving up or giving in. This is a time to stand.

The next four years will be hard, there's no doubting that, but nothing is decided. Nothing is set in stone. Our strings of fate remain unsevered. The lines are being drawn upon the field, and if we are to lose, we have not yet lost.

Each and every transgender servicemember is a testament to our honor and dignity and strength. Keep your heads up out there. Stay alive. I'm proud of you all.

Not sure if this is allowed here but I’m 17 ftm, currently in the process of enlisting in the US army, going to do basic training the summer before senior year of hs and AIT after I graduate but I need some guidance. My name and sex have been legally changed to male and I’m 2 years on T. My recruiter said they will fight to put me in the army but he doesn’t know much about which gender standards I would have to pass or where I would be sleeping. He also said I’d have to stop T for the duration of training which is fine with me.

Anyone Ftm have experience with basic training after starting T but not top surgery? which gender did you train/sleep alongside? Did you have to stop T for basic training?