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I think the safest option is no. But most guidance I have seen seems concerned with risk of second hand smoke. In the case of edibles, the only possibility I could see is if thc transferred through semen to the already pregnant women (so referring to having sex while partner is already pregnant*). Has anyone seen any guidance on this? Thank you!
Hello Mommas :)
I have been reading many articles that no water till 6 months. Breastmilk or formula are enough till the baby eats solid food. My mother thinks this is wrong.
I'd like to hear your thoughts :)
I am very confused!
How does bundled billing work for pregnancy visits?
I found out I was pregnant in July. I had multiple OB visits with my provider in NY, including labs, ultrasounds etc until I was about 19 weeks pregnant
Then we moved cities and I now live in PA where I found a new OB.
However, I frequently travel back to NY for work and trust my NY provider a lot more than my new one in PA who barely knows me.
When I was back in NY for work I saw my old OB for a routine office visit. I have an upcoming work trip and had a visit scheduled with her as well but her office called me saying I can’t see two providers at the same and I am going to have to pay for all 5 prior visits with my old NY doctor (even though 3 of there were before I transferred care). The billing lady said it’s a visit bundle that includes 6 visits and I have used 5 of them so I technically have one more left. I was trying to understand what happens with the billing bundle if I transfer care in the middle (which is what I did).
I’m sorry this is confusing!
Can I see two different OBs in different states at the same time if both are in network with my insurance?
What happens to bundled billing if I transfer care halfway through pregnancy?
Can they really make me pay for those visits before I transfer care just because I had 2 visits that overlapped with my OB in PA ?
Located in the US
Hello!
Is there anyone who can share to their experience taking propranolol during pregnancy and had a healthy baby with no issues/birth defects?
First time pregnant, I take propranolol for presentation anxiety and I adjust my dose but when I have an intense day of full day presentations I take up to 30mg in one go, and will usually take another max 30mg just before the first 30mg wears off (around 4 hours later).
Obgyn says propranolol should be okay despite no human studies but I'm worried it may have adverse effect on the baby post birth. Have been informed to reduce dose in 3rd trimester as it may affect blood flow to baby.
I intend to take it pretty much every weekday until end of 2nd trimester. Are there women out there with similar experiences who gave birth to healthy babies? I'd love some reassurance because my obgyn (neither any other) is going to be able to give me an absolutely assuring positive answer so it would be nice to hear from those who have given birth to health babies, while on propranolol during pregnancy.
Can anyone provide recommendations, pros/cons for Mulingar, Cavan or Sligo for maternity hospitals and care? I understand that everyone had different birth experience but any insight would be much appreciated. E,g was good care provided, could your partner stay with you after birth, pain relief and did you feel listened to.
Have any of the tall mamas 5’8 and taller been able to find black maternity work pants in tall/long? I can’t find anything!
Hi guys!
I need advice. I joined this sub when i was pregnant with my first who is now a whopping 14 months old. (A beautiful baby girl and i survived a lot of maternity with her through your advice last time, thank you by the way).
I rejoined again hoping i can talk though this because im going stir crazy. I finally got my period back around 11 months postpartum (ive been nursing so it was delayed) and its been crazy. The first time was only a couple days but really heavy period- i missed it the next month and then got it three months in a row but it was different every time.
I had my period between sunday the 12th and wednesday the 15th and i slept with my partner the day before i started my period and the day after. My period was super light except for about two days in where it was a little heavier and i was super emotional and then it was over by two days later.
Since my period has been funky i didnt think much of it but my period would have ended around wednesday last week and then monday night rolls around this week and im spotting. Just once that night and not since, and today i have the lightest cramps/twinges. Its reminding me a lot of when i got pregnant last time. Im trying really hard to wait until this weekend to test just to give my body enough time that itll be more accurate, but i cant stop thinking that i maybe am pregnant? I cant figure out when i would have conceived though if i had my period between both times i slept with my partner.
So this is kind of a vent to get the excitement/nerves out and also kind of an ask of advice. Has anyone else experienced/heard of a similar situation? Do you think i could be pregnant?
Does anybody know if Northside in Gwinnett, GA offers elective induction? I am delivering at this hospital and live a bit far so I wanted to see if they offer this. If so has anyone had one? Thanks
So I am 5'3 and my average weight is around 140-150 though it was closer to 155 when I was 2 years postpartum with my first child. I recently had my second and i gained 70 pounds which wasnt to much of a shocker since i gained about 60 with my first. Well that left me at 225 pounds and i dropped down to 195 within the first week or so. Which is where ive stayed. FORTY POUNDS HEAVIVER than my normal weight! I know i did much of this to myself because i ate every and anything for 9 monnths but I am now 12 weeks postpartum and the scale hasnt budged. I am still 195 pounds. I have been into fitness for a good 6 years now so i get to the gym at least 5 times a week and ive started tracking food and macros again. I do strength training and cardio for about an hour at the gym and eat about 1600 calories while priotizing protein 120-130 grams a day. WHAT GIVES?!? Although i hate the way i feel and look and thats part of my dilemma.. its also just plain unhealthy and im far to short to be this large 🥹
Hey,
Baby was born November 2023. I visited the dental in July 2024 for a root canal/crown and was told this would be free as I was exempt due to having had a baby in the past 12 months.
Long story short, my dentist was unable to complete the root canal and referred me to an Endodontics specialist. The referral was to Kings Hospital in London and took until November for them to see me for an assessment (I understand that this is out of their control) and the first treatment appointment wasn’t carried out until 7th January 2025. Because it took so long for them to treat me, over the course of the 6 month wait, the tooth calcified and I had to have a 2 hour excruciating root canal performed with dental files and they were still unable to reach the canals and I have to go back again in March (their next appointment).
I went back to my original dentist today to have my temporary crown put on and was told that I would now have to pay £304 for the root canal and crown as my exemption has expired. She took pity and has reopened my case to waive the payment for today but has warned me they may ‘catch up with me’ at some point.
I have contacted my dentist numerous times over the past 6 months and been told repeatedly that as the treatment started before my certificate expired, I would not have to pay. However, I can’t find anything online to support this. Does anyone know if this is true or if I am going to have to pay at some point?
Thank you! 🙏🏼
I am 37 and considering having a third child. I am with a supportive partner and we both love the idea of having a baby together. ( my two have a different dad who passed away) I know of risks etc as I have researched that on the NHS website. I am just wondering how others are doing with a pregnancy in their late 30's?
I am employed as a public servant and have a planned 1 year mat/par leaves coming soon, I was asked to pre-pay pay for Medical and dental portion before my leaves start and its almost 2K for the year. I also have benefits with my husband and was curious if its worth keeping it? and if i opt-out of Sunlif, how easy is it to get in on Return? I asked the HR and they emailed back saying "You cannot enrol back in benefits if you opt-out/waive now. In case you want to enrol, there needs to be a life changing event within the last 31 days. If you request enrolment after 31 days of life changing event, you will then have to complete a Health Statement Form and send it to SunLife. If SunLife approves it, only then you will be able to enrol. HR cannot enrol you without SunLife approval."-
Anyone faced similar situation? how easy is it to get back?
Is it worth keeping it its not used that often and i already have it with my husband?
What is considered a Life changing event?
Thanks for all your help.
Desperately seeking urgent HR/maternity leave advice for New Jersey—who knew it could be this complex and confusing! Apologies for the LONG post, but I’ve been pulling my hair out trying to research this and protect myself as much as possible (especially as I’ll be a single parent).
Current Situation: I’m approx. 18 weeks pregnant, currently residing in PA, and have been a remote employee for a California-based company for 14 months. I only pay PA taxes. Our company does not have an HR team, so maternity leave and related matters are handled by Leadership or the Office Manager, who A) are unfamiliar with these specifics and B) prioritize minimizing costs to the company. The current maternity leave policy provides 8 weeks of full pay (for employees with more than 1 year of tenure) but requires it to run concurrently with any applicable state policies. Unfortunately, PA does not have maternity leave policies, the company does not provide private disability insurance, and we are not FMLA compliant. We have an unlimited PTO policy and 5 sick days; however, PTO usage is discouraged, and taking more than 5 consecutive days requires approval from Leadership.
Potential Situation: I have the option to move to New Jersey and update my address with payroll, which would result in me paying New Jersey taxes. While I may not meet (or it could be tight) the Alternative Base Year 1 calculation (20 base weeks), I could meet the Alternative Base Year 2 calculation (earning at least $15,200 in any one-year period over the past 18 months) within the next two months. Would love to start maternity leave mid-late May, or approx. 4 weeks before my due date.
Questions:
Any insights or advice would be greatly appreciated! Thank you.
If the pretenal leave for working at food line for paid maternity leave is 1 year , if i start working there & give birth in 3 months would I be able to just come back or would I have to reapply all over again
I am wondering if I am able to move abroad whilst on mat leave? My partner has been offered a role in Florida and it’s a real opportunity. I have work flexibility usually and possibly could work from Florida but think I will end up handing my notice in before my mat leave ends. Is this allowed? It’s not clear on my company policy. It’s an enhanced pay for 6m 100% pay and 3m 50% pay and I’m 2 months in.
Precursor: I quit my previous position that I had been at for roughly 8 months due to accepting a new position employed by the state I live in. After quitting my job, I found out that I was pregnant. Fast forward to my first day, I reach out to HR and ask about how leave would work when I give birth so I have the proper time to heal and bond with my baby. It took them a week to get back to me, and this is the information they gave to me::
Per State Policy, I will not have been there for a year, so no maternity leave or paid parental leave.
Per State Policy, I will not have been there for a year, so no FMLA leave.
Per Union Contract, I will still be inside my probationary period (1 year) meaning I will also not qualify for any unpaid medical leave.
They then proceeded to tell me that my best bet is to pick up as much OT as possible - forfeit the OT pay for Comp Time instead. Don’t use any sick time or annual leave. Then MAYBE I MIGHT have enough to take a 6 weeks recovery period off work (assuming I give a vaginal delivery with none to minimal complications).
I did the math....
By the time I give birth, assuming I cary to full-term. I will only have about 1.5 weeks vacation banked. Maybe 1 week of sick time if I’m lucky.
So I will basically have to work 140-380 hours OT converted to Comp Time.
So about an extra 2 shifts a week for a vaginal birth with no complications.
An extra 3 shifts per week for a vaginal birth with no complications or a c-section.
OR an extra 4 shifts per week for a c-section with complications or to reach a full 12 weeks paid time off for full rest and recovery.
I have already had problems with bleeding, cramping, and severe nausea. I have been put on my hospital’s threatened miscarriage plan because they are concerned about some of my symptoms. Additionally, I also do full-time college.
As far as OT goes, I’m worried about my ability to work additional OT outside a normal 40-hr work week with already have signs of potential problems that could extend into the later part of my pregnancy. I’m also worried about the ability to pick up that much OT. While I can sign up for voluntary OT, it is not guaranteed that I will be hired for those shifts. Not to mention that I will also have to find a way to complete my school work AND get adequate sleep IF I can even physically work that amount of OT (with an okay from my OBGYN).
This also makes me worried about the possibility of having further complications later in my pregnancy or after birth. I’m also worried about the possibility of not carrying to a full 40-week term.
Before anybody mentions, STD or LTD. The State in which I work for does not have an STD policy. Additionally, the LTD policy constitutes pregnancy within the first year of employment as a pre-existing condition. Therefore, STD or LTD are completely off the table here.
Hello I (33f) am currently living with my baby's (9mo) father (32m) and his mother, but am desperately needing to change this arrangement - that I felt forced by circumstances to oblige, but can't make him understand my concerns...
I'll try to make it the most comprehensible as I can, since this is a long situation and I'm overwhelmed by the feeling of helplessness.
We got pregnant early in your relationship, while having just decided to be a family. We discussed things and seemed to be in the same page: we wanted to be our own unit, be partners to one another, raise our kid with our values and preferences together. We are from very distant and different parts of our country, me being from a big metropolitan city, and coming to his provincial and very "traditionally conservative" town of only 40 thousand habitants. So my mistake, I now see, is that I thought we had the same meaning for those words we used in our agreement. We both lived with one parent due to logistics and care - he being the "male" for his divorced mom and his grandparents who lived next door, and I due to my father having DPOC and struggling to accept his developing disability.
Just days before discovering the pregnancy, I quit my job in a spurr of the moment while having a kidney crisis and having to attend clients. It was an impulsive decision and affected my income cause knowing the pregnancy after the next day, where I live, no company wants to hire someone which they have to almost immediately pay birth leave. So I stayed home and did some freelance I could, which was minimal.
When my pregnancy advanced, and I had a minor health issue that scared the pants off of me, his mother - with who I had a good relationship - offered to adapt a part of their big home for us to have a kind of "mini apartment" inside the house. Living with my mother in law was NOT our first agreement, but we couldn't afford living alone with just his earnings at the moment.
I've gotten miserable living there. Our ways of live are very different. They wanted to care for me and by doing so they didn't let me do anything but rest. The house was big, nobody cleaned, there was mold from humidity, Slugs and cockroaches in the kitchen, the dishes, pans, fridge, and kitchen equipment were not well clean, and our little space, Despite him keeping it overly neat and organized and really sparkling when we were dating, now is abandoned by his care. I tried to wash the dishes, do the laundry, clean the house equipment and rooms, and everytime I had to insist and try not to offend them by saying nothing wrong. They took the soap from my hands and stuff, cause they wanted me not to do any work. We fought one or two times because of it. They just understood that "I didn't want to be cared for", and I can't make them understand that I'm not a daughter being parented by her. We are not two children that need her to cook our food, and care for like that. I clean the house the most I can, but they are very messy and the house is too big and has too much stuff in it, so I don't overcome the mess, considering my maternity role being my priority.
We need to have some kind of independence to run our little family of three, to administrate our finances and our possibilities within it... He doesn't understand my concerns. He seems to be comfortable and doesn't want to change this arrangement of family.
I thought we were going to be man-wife-baby, but we are mother-kid that works-kid that has a baby-baby.
I'm very aware that I'm being financially supported by her, and that it's a great thing what she is doing. And that i seem ungrateful by having issues with this situation, but I'm hoping there is some "logic" and maybe someone understands my frustrations.
I feel stuck and don't see ways of changing and having him have my back in this. I love him, I love his mother, but I think we are at the limit of our differences. Is there something I can do about all of this? Am I wanting something impossible? Am I just wanting to rush something that can happen, but later?
Can my performance review be impacted this year if they don’t see that I adequately cross trained employees before my leave? I have SOP’s and training sessions set up but it’s a lot of content to absorb in a short training window.
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Help please. I am currently 36 weeks pregnant and I asked my boss for FMLA forms for my doctor. At first, she said "just quit and look for a new job in the hospital." Then when I emailed the owner and her requesting them. She responded with "since we have less than 20 employees we are not eligible for it." So I mentioned that the employee handbook mentions Maternity leave and that I could come back after my doctor clears me. She proceeds to look me in my eyes and say, "women used to give birth in fields, so how much time do you really think you'll need?" I replied, "when my doctor clears me. I would love to come back asap, but I doubt my doctor would approve that because bodies need time to heal." She said "do you really want to come back? Why not just quit and be with your baby." I am confused on how to proceed at work with her pressuring me to just quit. I am currently training my replacement. But I would like to go back to work afterwards. What do I do?
i just had a baby boy (1month old) and my mother is visiting me this month (we live very far from each other - we are latin americans, but i live in europe). She wants to bond with her grandson, but to do that, she is doing a very pitched, exaggerated baby voice, changing R to L and so on, and this irritates me to death. I dont see a problem on speaking more childish with a child, but i have a limit i can handle. I have already asked her twice to dont do that bc i dont like it and i get irritated, but she refuses to stop and dont see any problem on keeping doing it. she is a kindergarden teacher and she doesn't use this voice tone with her students. i said that she can talk to him the way she does at her job, but she just said no, that she will talk the way she wants.
at this point, i'm just overthinking all of this, and feeling disrespected. All i wanna do is telling that she cannot talk to her grandson at all if she keeps talking like this but i just wish her visit to be more pleasant as we dont see each other much. Am i overreacting? does anyone else went through this?
(sorry for any mistake, english as a second language here and my phone doesn't autocorrect to english)
I never wanted to be a mother. I always saw children as something distant; I don't hate them (in fact, I enjoyed working with them), but I knew I didn't want one. However, I met my partner and the level of infatuation was such that I agreed to get pregnant for him. Although the pregnancy was not bad at all, I never felt the emotion that they said I should feel. Once the product came out, I didn't know how to feel either, and since then, although I feel guilty and want to try to act like "the adult I needed in my childhood", I can't. I can't stop thinking every day that I shouldn't have gone ahead with the pregnancy, because I can no longer do ANY of the few things I enjoyed in life and I can no longer spend time with the partner I was in love with... Every Maybe it's harder for me to contain the urge to drown her or I would hurt her "by accident" but thinking about the consequences stops me much more than actually hurting her. It's only been 7 months of this and I feel like I can't take it anymore. I think the most painful thing of all is that I have NO ONE to tell, not even my best friend.
Any other women with similar experience? How many years have they survived? I want to feel like I'm not entirely alone...
During delivery, if the doctor also removes an elongated fibroid, will it be covered under the maternity benefits of a health insurance claim in India? Or will it be considered a separate medical expense, especially if the maternity benefits have a capped sum assured?
I don’t qualify for FMLA through my job and state(CA) I was unemployed for a huge chunk of the year following a miscarriage where I spiraled out and left my job. Major regret. I should have sucked it up.
I’m so upset, because I only have 6 weeks before I go back to work. I talked to my obgyn today and he said he can’t extend it unless I have complications.
Was anybody else in this boat?
How do you work out finances during a typical maternity leave where the woman is off and the man returns back to work.
This is our first child and I the mother saved up money to cover my half of the bills while on maternity leave . My question is should the father save up money to also help out whilst the mother is on maternity leave, atleast take up a higher percentage of the bills while the mother is off?
Hi there
I've recently become low-key obsessed with the horrible daily comic strip "9 Chickweed Lane", which claims to be about a female POV but seems to mostly be the author's attempts to explore his odd kinks.
In the following strip, the main characters are in hospital to have their babies delivered via Caesarean section. In the strip, the husband and wife are so overcome with emotion that they bodily hug one another, seemingly DURING the operation.
https://www.gocomics.com/9chickweedlane/2020/03/06
That's - if not impossible, that would be extremely difficult and painful, right? I've never been in the delivery room while one happens, so I wouldn't know myself, which is why I ask.
Need options current job doesn’t have short term disability or maternity leave need options can I purchase short term disability insurance? Need to get paid while off 8 weeks really no option. Tia.