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So, backstory is that I have been through a roller coaster of emotions and massive physical and mental stress in the last 6-months. Close to accepting mortality. Too many stupid mistakes, reminiscing about them. Also abuse as a kid which actually set off STD scares.

Fast forward, back in my hometown, taking care of business and eyes landed on some LGBT subreddits(explict/normal), I ended up be texting many, shooting messages here and there. Some blocked me, One guy stood me up(spent some money there😭).

Finally, found a guy from my locality who was willing to meet, he seemed friendly and safe. We agreed to meet and we kinda hooked up in a pretty bust up spot in an isolated area🙃. I've never willingly submitted myself sexually to a male and this seemed completely different cause I wanted him😅, so bad lol. We had our fun and I dropped him off.

The thing is I seemed confused after this encounter, am I just doing this cause I'm lonely and due to the trauma I faced as a kid Or have I always been this way? Has anyone in this group have similar experiences?

So basically I was travelling in train and it was crowded but then u managed to somehow occupya fourth seat even though it was uncomfortable.. So the guy next to me after sometime told me to get up.. I didn't.. So he pushed ne I started fighting for a while thentone of his friends started ganging up and other third guy started coming in between us because he was ine the same line of position as we were.. He started saying that's your problem.. And not our problem.. And I didn't stood up for myself so Igoty up... Irony hewaso letting his friend sit and not allowing me to sit

I feel guilty that I didn't stood up.. But i asked my dad he told me you did the right thing but something inside irks inside me... I don't know what.. But I just feel bad about it.. Cann anyone enlighten me

Although there are so many of us, but just finding someone is so difficult. As a queer woman, it almost seems impossible to meet someone! Any help or suggestions are welcomed!

He does keep this shit up, I do fall in love, I am in love but what does it matter? I don’t think it’s ever gonna end up in marrying. This song has never not seen me cry…

To the guy i broke up with about a month ago, we are fuckbuddies now. He was gentle, we used a condom and oil for lubrication. It was somewhat painful for the first few strokes but then i started getting used to it. However there was an overwhelming feeling that i'd shit on his dick, so I asked him to stop. He did. I gave him a bj and we cuddled afterwards. It was fun. I want to try it again, any suggestions on how to overcome that feeling?

We celebrate pride as if it's a birthday party not movement. Movements are continues not seasonal or annual this is high time it needs to change also I've noticed queers don't have much unity one of such ex is pride itself every city be having its pride on different days in a different way by different NGOs/groups.

And I think we are not clear about our goals too...it might be controversial/offensive sorry for that but I think we should fight "as queer and for queer", in community we be talking about caste based discrimination or racism but that's not our domain (queer for Palestine that was funny) we should surely include all sort of people there is no doubt about that but all these issues have their own people/leader,organization working against it. They don't need us nordo they ask for our help or for our rights.

Inshort we should focus on queer Issues and emphasise on queer Identity not every other social issues that pops up in our way.

If you disagree counter and if you agree and want to add something you are free.

Hi, Just starting a thread on book recommendations for understanding gender identity, and more generally about issues facing transgender folks.

I am close to finish reading "Free To Be - Understanding Kids and Gender Identity" by Dr. Jack Turban, a psychiatrist by profession specialising in counseling gender non conforming kids, and would highly recommend it!

The book combines science of gender identity with personal anecdotes of his clients, and maintains a very soothing and humane tone throughout. It's available on Amazon India.

Another book, which looks pretty interesting but haven't yet read is - "Different - Gender thru eyes of primatologist" by Frans de Waal, which from what I heard is a memoir about gender non conforming behaviour in primates and how animal experimentation with hormones results in behavioral changes.

Feel free to drop in more suggestions in the comments :)

20 M doing veterinary medicine from Jaipur !! I am really eager to go on a solo trip around Christmas one because my friends are not really ready to come two I really wanna explore on my own with my terms and no chic chic three I want to have that Christmas vibes really bad !! I was thinking about going to Shimla around Christmas but scared because it will be my first time traveling alone !! I wanted to experience that stranger ke saath ghumna for once u!! So do you guys recommend it and have any suggestions

It can be anyone Your classmate Friend Celebrity etc

I am 32 M bottom gay. I am well settled in government job and earning decently good. But I cannot have same marriage due to society fear. I am looking for lesbian or any girl with partner to have MOC( Marriage of Convenience). Any interested female kindly message.

This is my first post on Reddit. Honestly, I never thought I’d have to post something like this, but I have no other option right now.

I live in Mumbai and have been a victim of relentless bullying throughout my school years. The bullies never stopped at school—they spread rumors about me to everyone in my locality. Even people who don’t know me personally know about my identity, and I’ve faced constant judgment for simply being myself. Because I’m fair-skinned, they often mocked me with names like Champa and Chameli. The taunts, the whispers, the stares—they were endless.

But today, something broke inside me. I had a heated argument with my brother, and he said things I never imagined hearing from my own family. He called me "chakka, hijra". He told me I was a disgrace, a kalank on the vansh (a blot on the family name), and even asked me to leave the house, reminding me that it was his house.

I’ve always been strong when it came to the outside world. I learned to tolerate the nasty comments, the ridicule from strangers. But hearing such hateful words from my own brother, my own family—it shattered me. I feel so lost, so empty, so helpless.

I’ve recently graduated with a degree in engineering and have an offer letter from TCS. But I haven’t received my joining letter yet, and without it, I’m not financially stable enough to leave. If I were, I’d walk out today and never look back.

I’m reaching out here because I don’t know where else to turn. If anyone can refer me to IT roles, whether it’s software development, data science, or anything related, I’d be deeply grateful. I don’t have work experience yet, but I’ve completed an internship at a fintech company as an SDE, and I’m ready to work hard to prove myself.

Please, if anyone can help me, I’d be eternally grateful.

Thank you for reading.

When will it happen it will more people to come out of thier closet

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f(bi) , I'm feeling like drowing these days. Trying to get out of a breakup from 7 months now. These days its getting hard to even get out of bed. I dont feel like talking to my own childhood bestfriend even for 5 minutes striaght. I am getting alot of anxiety attacks. Loosing my apetite for some days and eating alot the other days.

I am trying to get diverted. My sem is going on and I am trying to concentrate but still i get flashes and i become low Idk what to do to help myself.

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Hey guys.. im 23 M and I feel so empty and feel a long lasting longing that im missing out. I wanna meet people but am often disappointed. How do you guys meet people or friends from the community. I have no one that I can talk to or share my feelings. I get bored very easily and basically hate my life. When will I meet people, friends and love? Apps are so crazy and fake.. ive lost all hope. Should I not engage in this stuff and focus on my other aspects of life like career etc.. but this is my peak i guess.. is it wrong to need a basic decent guy.. am i asking for too much. Am I too superficial or too selective? Should I wait for the right person.. are there really plenty of fishes out there.. what are your advices, suggestions and experiences. Please help me!

It's one of those nights. As a gay man, have always believed in being unappologeic about my preferences but some times things do get to you. And coant help but think what if.. what if things were different. What if I were straight. Would that have meant a more blissful life. Loving someone and being with them and hitting all the milestones that others do so normally

Those who are not in a relationship or have very less contact with friends or family. Do you go for a solo travelling or how do you manage?

Went to a lingerie shop bought a bra and worn it in changing room beneath my boy clothes and came back. I was little nervous whether it will be visible to people but it turned out fine. Although the staff were looking with those creepy eyes. However the lady who owns was supportive to me.

Do you think Sorab Bedi (insta id sorabbedi) is gay or Bi? I get very strong gay vibes from him…

Hello, wondeful queer people of India! A femme lesbian here. I’m a fem4butch and have always been drawn to butch lesbians. I’m trying to figure out how to show someone that I’m interested in them, like how to subtly let a butch know I’m into women and make it clear that I’m part of the community too. I’d really appreciate any advice or tips you all could share. Thanks so much!

any recommendations for a gynecologist in delhi who treats post-op trans women?

What a nightmare! I'm freaking out at the thought that people who love me the most will start to absolutely hate me if I come out.

It's a horrible feeling!

I feel so suffocated and helpless. Can't explain it in words.

This distress is already taking a toll on my health. My sleep is highly disturbed. I've become irritable. My heart rate and blood pressure have also gotten higher.

The fact that I'll need to stay Down-Low for life, and take extreme precautions if I get into a relationship/have sex with a guy is just so mentally and emotionally taxing.

Any advice?

PS: Please be kind. No, I'm not a coward. I really am in an environment with extreme anti-gay sentiments.

Also, moving out to a different country won't be possible for at least a decade.

Starting october I had this patient. Her procedures lasted like 3 weeks & last week she pinged me via my number printed on my prescription. First it was about good dental practices and all but then we started chatting & I kinda liked it. She's very knowledgeable & talks so lovely on so many various thing.

And this afternoon she asked me if I want to go on a brunch with her. I said yeah we can. But then just some time ago as I've some time yet for my next appointment.. I asked my assistant to bring up that form of her where patient write about personal details. Actually I wanted to see her age and address out of curiosity but then I found out Mrs. written infront of her name.. She never wore anything that'd suggest she was married & I feel like being fooled. I've already said yes for tomorrow's brunch & I'm not sure to back out or go for once and end it there without confronting her or should I talk about it in message with her.

Are there any dating apps that still use race filters? Grindr got rid of it i know. I get why it's done, but some people have preferences. Shouldn't it be there?

So when I moved to a new city to start a new life with a new job, I wanted to come out to my parents so I can live my life on my own terms, 23 years in the closet has been tough.

I come from a middle class family and my parents are fairly conservative. I finally one night got the guts to speak up.

I was sleeping between my parents in their bedroom just talking about the randomest things and I ended up telling them I like men. I was scared to death but was prepared for the consequences.

The dad quietly asked me if I liked women too, I said no, I have zero attraction to them. They were shocked, did not say anything and said we will talk about this later.

The next morning, my mother told me she always knew to some extent. She said she doesn't really care but worried how the society will treat me. I was spellbounded, did not see that coming at all. it was not even a suprise to her.

Mind you, I am a non flamboyant, non stereotypical gay person. How she knew is beyond me.

My dad took another 2.5 years to talk to me like before. It was a long waiting time but he recently told me, let's figure this out and I don't have to worry about them to live my life and he then again told me, I somewhat always knew in my mind. Again did not see that coming.

Anyways coming out was traumatic, I feel the after effects to this day and I don't really recommend it to people, it changes your equations with a lot of friends and family, but there is a sense of liberation.

But weirdly none of the close ones were very suprised. How could they know.