For context , I was just studying for boards and kinda dissociated thinking about how I'll probably die alone and out of the blue i turn to my window and BOOM! I see these people bearing the pride flag , marching forward with slogans like "#NoGoingBack" and I was just so thrilled because this is the first time I've witnessed a pride parade in person , it had foreigners , trans men and women , straight allies and a dog😭 . Also ig it's fair to assume nobody has time to talk about the parade since sab log probably boards , JEE , NEET , CLAT etc mein pade hoge🥲

Okay, so, as you read the title, I had a hookup today, and it was a mess, let's be honest here. It was a total mess, honestly. There were a lot of weird things about it. Okay, so, first of all, I'm from, like, I mean, it's not the most urban city, but, yeah, it's a famous one, Agra. I'm from Agra. And, so, yeah, you can get that on Hinge there are, like, 8 profiles in Agra. So, you can get what's seen here. Usually, the kind of people I meet on Grindr or something are, you know, the ones you see from, like, dehati, desi people. I mean, this is not a bad comment, because dehati people can be nice too, but yeah, you get it, what people I'm talking about. So, yeah, he wasn't like that. First of all, I'm clearing that up. He wasn't like them at all. He was from a similar background, he was speaking English, and everything. He was totally modern and totally fine. Before we even met, he told me that we could just talk if I wanted to, like, we could just talk and do nothing, or, you know, he... Largely because I was a bit reluctant to, you know, hookup. So yeah, he took me to a house that was newly built. The construction was still going on, so there was nothing on the floor, and no furniture at all. So, about the hookup exactly, he refused to kiss me, first of all, because he told me he usually vomits when he kisses. He doesn't kiss anyone, at least that's what he told me. And I was like, yeah, fine, that's not the biggest deal. He fingered me, and I gave him a Bjob , but the thing is, I stopped after 4 strokes because I didn't like it. It was my first time doing it, and I didn't enjoy it. So, I stopped, and yeah, that's just kind of it.(note we did that all standing so yeah that’s why I said I did not really enjoyed that hookup at all) That's what we did. And we stopped, obviously. But now I'm kind of worried about STDs. The things I did with him, are the chances higher? And I tried to ask him about his HIV status, and, you know, the stuff, how many guys he's done this with. He told me his last hookup was 6 days ago, and he probably does this more often. But, yeah. Guys, I'm stressed now-does a bjob have higher chances?

So this might feel like a troll post to some people but trust me it's not I'm just confused and I don't know who to ask. Some details - I'm confused about my sexuality (I think it's more bisexual but I really don't know.) Do homosexual people feel wet down there when they are watching heterosexual sensual scenes?? The same way Do lesbians feel something when they watch a sensual scene of a hetero couples? This feeling is it related to sexuality?? Can it help finding your sexuality??

Wanna get in touch with gay or bi Indian classical dancers in this community, who have no plans of coming out. Please feel free to DM if there's anyone in this group.

I am from Kolkata and recently while walking in Jadavpur ,I came across a gay couple ,they were happy and holding hands and it kinda made me long for such relationship .I wanted to ask if u have come across lgbt+ couples in your places .There is very less visibility for our community and it is difficult to understand whether two people are a couple just by seeing them once .So , if I would be glad if you guys have any stories to share .I have seen many couples online but probably come across few in real life.

anyone here good at coding/programming? python, R, sql, machine learning, large language models?

Basically the title, I am so confused by the process, has anyone actually done it? If so do reach out to me, thanks!

NOTHING I HATE MORE THAN NOT HAVING PRIVACY!!!!!! HATW, HATE, ABSOLUTELY HATEEE BEING AT HOMEEE... NOW MY BROTHER's back and he's gonna live here, i was so happy having my own room.. but neowww .. 🙄🤐

Hi guys I’m a bi guy, recently I stated my ca and I’m looking for some queer friends from the same field (I wanna have them council me with my prep and would love to be friends with them)

I wasn’t like this ,I was a good guy till things went off the track

I no longer feel things deeply ,I don’t like to do anything,just study and sleep

There were times I wished someone should’ve taken my side ,or at least have defended me against the abuse

There were times I wished someone up from the sky ,whom they address as “GOD” might’ve done something to stop this

Now the situation is so weird that I don’t crave for a fresh start even ,it’s dead end ,everything seems to be gone and whatever is left I think it’ll go too

People did things to me ,I screamed and screamed,but now it irks me ,I want to stay dead silent

And while being so ,I wish if I die ,then I hope I die and spring some good people bury me near flowers and may Marie golds grow on my grave

Does anyone else feel like this ? Or is it the end of me

Today is one of those days where I'm feeling completely disconnected and facing a lot of gender envy

Even the slightest thing is triggering me

I have had therapy in past and I kind of accepted I have mild form of dysphoria and I don't want to go the transistion route

Anyways I'm looking for people with similar situation as me how do you guys cope with this

So I (20M Bi) am going through a lot of stuff since Feb 2024, like realising about my past CSA that happened a decade ago, which shattered my life. I used to dream of marriage before that. But ever realising that I'm a bisexual guy since sep 2024, it feels shattered for me, the confusion that with whom I can lead my future is. And now in the present, I'm eventually dating a guy from dating thread of this subreddit.

This happened few hours ago. Everyone in the family began to debate about God. I literally lost devotion in God as it was me there when I need help and no one else. But I think I blabbered this stating that an incident which happened a decade ago still affects me.

I began to cry by lying on the sofa, facing the wall by which every other member doesn't know that I'm crying. My mom sensed something wrong and called me down. I went down and she asked me what's happening with you. I just literally hugged my mom and cried. Said about the everything that happened to me in the past. She said, it's in the past, and your brother (who actually did this to me when he was 13) might not have known what he did to you.

But, I should fck my mind fr. Out of emotional outburst, I said about my sexual orientation stating that I felt that I'm attracted to men since the happening of that CSA and I felt I'm attracted to both men and women. To which, she said me to erase it from my mind. I said, it's completely normal stating the researches and lectures of doctors that I watched during my exploration phase and even explained my plan of future as she asked. I said, if I'm feeling connected with a girl for a long term, I may marry her and lead a normal life, if not a boy, I would adopt a child (as unmarried guy) and will live in. If not both, I would just adopt a boy for inheritance alone.

To which she said, it's not natural and it cannot be acceptable by the family. Now I'm feeling down and guilty, why tf I told my mom about this. I can't able to explain her that it's normal.

Btw I can't complete stating that if no one accepts, I would get out and lead an independent life to my mom.

Please help me guys. I'm completely scared

Edit: in fact idk whether it will be fine dating a guy atm, cuz we're dating for a month online and planning to meet soon

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I m a M24 cd btm i m scare tht one day my parents force to marry but i have not intrested in it , finding a lesbian partners for marriage as an escape route all the things will be clear and we just oive in a single space together without intervening in ours personal desires. If any one out there is intrested thn kindly let me know .

Idk if it's the adulthood phase , but I never ever now feel like I find someone attractive, I'm just so obsessed with me , but I'm so lonely bruh (diabolical ik) , but yea having said that I need a crush so bad like some mad attractive single dude to really enter my life so I can finally get the motivation to get my life together and be so productive and achieve all my life goals .

On a second note a revenge glow up after a breakup would work too , but bhai crush toh anan chaiye phele.

Ik I text like a kid , I'm 21 though.

I got told a fuckboy. I am not sure what a gay fuckboy is? What is a gay fuckboy? Am I one? How to tell? Gahhh

I've been single for the last 8 years-ish and I really do not want to hit 10. For context i'm 22 but i was last in a relationship when i was 14, which ended horribly and scarred me for a long time.

Now, over these 8 years a lot has happened. For starters, I sort of mentally confirmed that I might be trans because of everything I've felt. I'm still struggling to accept it, hell im probably trying to deny it just to not have any of these headaches.

Last year I met someone who I instantly clicked with. She was amazing, had an amazing sense of humor, she was kind and so on. It was literally love at first sight and every friend of mine kept saying that we had strong chemistry. I thought I'd ask her out but everytime i tried, there were some questions that kept popping in my head and it stopped me from doing so.

stuff like,

"What if someday I realise that maybe transitioning is the only way and I end up telling her and break up?"

"Will I be intentionally ruining a few months/years of her life if i go on dating her without telling her that i may be trans?"

"Will I be hurting her by breaking up?"

"She'll be expecting someone AMAB, but what if that's not me? what if I go years trying to bury this but eventually it comes up?"

and so on.

I asked a few people and they said that I was being too villainising myself and was thinking about everyone else but me. But I just can't bring myself to be with someone when i'm unsure about who I am. Conversly, if I do tell them and it ends up being false, I might end up losing someone i loved dearly.

What do i do :')

Did anyone is a fuck buddy with one of his best friend besides him having a serious relationship with girl who he is going to marry soon ?

We broke up like a 1 month ago and now he is trying to win me back. He is toxic and manupilative so i dont want to talk to him but he is constantly calling and texting me saying how sorry he is and now im really mad him for what he is doing. Im not picking Up his calls so now he has started parking his car outside my pg waiting in his car and he does this every night. He told me that he will keep doing this until im not ready to talk to him and sort things out.

What should i do. Im sick of his behavior. You cant basically force someone to talk to you. What he is doing is not okay. Last night it rained heavily the whole night and i fear he might get sick. A part of me still cares for him yk. What do i do?

We dated for 1.5 years if that matters

Like helllooo?? I’m not a Chanel model all I have is my hair and now I’m loosing them too ? 😭🙏(severe hairfall) I’m gonna kms 😭😭😭😭😭😭

At this point, I'm fuming with rage. I hate this country, the government and the people who live here. There is no empathy, no respect, no dignity and no common sense.

People died in the Kumbh Mela, but saving the government's face is more important. Someone even tweeted that devotees don't complain, tourists do.

To make matters worse, live in relationships in Uttarakhand and Rajasthan have to be registered. One of the documents required to register a live-in relationship is a priest's certificate. Like what is even the point of this?

There's hardly any empathy here. I met someone on a trip recently, who made puking expressions while talking about trans people. I didn't even know what to say. Nobody argued, nobody else tried to argue against such opinions.

Life is already difficult as a man in this country. Competing against lakhs of people for everything. Added to that, the problems you face because of your queerness. Same-sex marriage is not legal. Forget that, the average Indian is so homophobic. I try not to take comments on IG reels seriously, but at some point, when people around you use the same talking points and laugh, it gets to me.

I'm not saying that the West or other progressive countries are a haven. They bring their own challenges. But the point which irks me so much is that I love India so much. I love it's mountains, beaches, food, languages, music, culture and most of the thing it brings forth. But at the same time, we're hateful and ignorant and don't show empathy.

This love-hate dissonance with India is turning me into a bitter person. I get angrier than usual. I'm afraid I'll start snapping at people around me because of the thousand issues running in my head. All my energy is used up in survival, that I have no mood or energy to pursue anything else.

Peace is far away, and I'm very very impatient.

He said we may have a marriage without French kissing and that a marriage isn't all about intimacy and the bedroom activities. However, he said he can be doing deep, passionate kisses with people who are like models or movie stars as these people are his preference to do "French kissing," but it just isn't his preference to do it with me . He also keeps saying that these types of kissing are not the only thing in a marriage. I found it crushing and insulting to me, but I kept quiet. I have dreamt of having French kisses while he was sleeping with me ......

He always grits his teeth when i try to kiss him . Btw , for those asking I have very good mouth and teeth hygiene, way better than him

Back when I was an idealistic, queer liberal, I still despised Sanghi and regressivist rhetoric - but I was naive enough to fool myself into thinking that people would become less homophobic, as the economy progressed. Sadly, yet thankfully, this delusion didn't last as I metamorphosised into a leftist. I saw a post on the Coldplay India sub celebrating how bravely they unfurled the rainbow flag in Ahmedabad, in a mostly homophobic environment - which is a very fair remark. I've never listened to Coldplay, and couldn't give two fucks if they did this for performativity, or actual concern. The comments, however, descended into a cesspool of homophobic name calling of the poster, while defending how tolerant India was vis-a-vis Muslim majority countries. It would be satirical- if it weren't so depressingly hopeless, as someone living in that ecosystem.

And you know what, in a small part, this is the result of political naiveness and lethargy amongst most of us progressive urban dwellers - queer or otherwise; we normalise this insidious libertarian idea of living and letting live, and not participating in confrontational activism, apparently because then normal people would turn homophobic and they'd be justified to be less tolerant? Like wtf? You should never settle for bigotry. This sort of pandering leads to fascists being elected, as we've seen recently. We seriously need to learn from Dalit Ambedkarite activists, maybe even form intersectional alliances at rural grassroot levels, and respectfully assimilate a lot of their activism tactics. What they've achieved through their work - especially in Maharashtra and Tamil Nadu, is remarkable. Maharashtra used to be one of the most casteist places in India before Ambedkar's activism in the last century - and now it has the least incidences of untouchability, per capita, after Kerala amongst states with over 5 million people. Although of course, there's a long road ahead there, or elsewhere. These changes wouldn't have ever actualised, had the rhetoric been , "Oh, just let the Dalits live in their ghettos" - while pretending that they had an ability to exercise freedom to the same extent as UCs, who were far richer, well connected, literate, and not ostracised. Wake up, the fascists won't give you rights, and the liberals will console you by saying you could have had it worse, in a Muslim country.

Not too expensive as I'm still a student

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A few months back, I got laid off from my job. Due to financial pressure and existing mental health issues (anxiety and clinical depression), I am in a very dark place mentally. I don't want to go into details but the idea of letting go forever has been in my mind.

I need therapy and I need to process these emotional baggage. But I can't because I am unemployed because the goras of US and UK needed their end bonus at the cost of kicking out people.

I am just venting here. I used to be the kind of person that would make plans every new years to achieve goals. This new year I genuinely didn't want to make it to 2026.

Sorry if this is triggerring.

This is a follow up post on my previous "are anyone even into chubby feminine bottoms?".

After I posted that my DMs are flooded with straight/bi/gay top men. Most of them are honest about wanting to sext which i honestly did not mind.

But one guy 33(M), Bi guy , said he was a writer, we casually texted on reddit and we had amazing chemistry, good banter, naturally I was intrigued. We started texting on telegram where we shared pics of each other and he said he was madly into my chubby feminine body and was talking about meeting me. He said he went through my reddit comments and posts and called me very mature n supported me as a closeted gay. I told him about my mental health and about working on myself and told him that if I don't have enough enough in me to go through heartbreaks , he assured me that we was serious about it and wants to date me n stuff, we walked almost upto early morning 4am and we bid Good night to each other and planned to talk on call the next morning.

The next day when I woke up , did my chores n looked telegram! BAMM! his account is no where to be found. It honestly made me feel sooooo bad about myself like I am not even worthy of a date. I texted him in reddit hoping that I will get a reply but no i didn't. Safe to assume that I got played.

I won't mind sexting but what he did was soo much worse. He gave me hope and then shattered it the very next day. Why are some men like this... Liars

Mentally exhausted now.

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