Been pondering this lately as it’s something we hear a lot. I’m 22f and child of divorce so i’ve always been intrigued about the psychology of love and relationships and marriage. What I don’t understand is that marriage is supposed to be a vow of for better or for worse. I understand sometimes people change, people betray each other etc and there are many valid reasons for divorce. But it always stumps me when people, especially those who were married, say “Oh we still love each other it just didn’t work out”… what happened to in sickness and in health? for good times and bad? i get it not every marriage is going to last but it sounds like they just give up on it when things get hard. In the case of my parents my mom has had a traumatic life which caused many deep mental health issues that my dad did not have the capacity to deal with i guess. But has anyone been in a situation like this? I guess i just wanna know if there are any older people in here with more life experience that can give me some insight because it’s discouraging to hear. Do people just give up on relationships too easily nowadays?

Success today is often tied to wealth, career achievements, and material possessions. But with rising mental health challenges, environmental crises, and increasing social inequality, it feels like the current definition isn’t serving us well anymore.

What if we redefined success?

• Should it focus more on well-being, community, or personal fulfillment?
• How would our lives and priorities change if we valued happiness, health, and relationships over traditional markers like money or status?
• What could a society structured around this new definition of success look like?

I’d love to hear your thoughts. How do you define success personally, and do you think society’s view of it needs to evolve?

I always feel weird when someone asks what my dream job is. Or my goal in life. I will usually say the answer that makes people laugh/chuckle (mattress tester) but in no way is that a dream of mine. I don’t want to take the time to explain to the person asking, that my dream is life. Living is my dream. Even though it’s not always fun, the end goal of everything is death. To be alive is the dream.

So I have to ask. What’s your dream?

Do you ever consider the difference in willpower people like top level athletes have and how that can be a different test depending on the sport?

What is your willpower? Is it as strong as you want? How do you test or strengthen it? To what degree is it trainable vs innate?

So i really don't follow or do sports. Sitting at lunch, I over heard 2 separate tables of my co-workers talking. One table was just spitting out crazy amount of stats about their team and players. I just laughed thinking of the movie "Moneyball."

The other table I heard was deep into a political debate which by default was getting ugly.

Then it hit me...

Why if ever player has a stat sheet 20 pages long breaking down their performance down to a single number, why not do the same for politicians?

I have often thought about this as I was raised in a very conservative household. When I was younger I would say that I leaned more conservative, but somewhere in my early adolescence, I took a sharp turn to the left. I am now left leaning, but I wouldn't call myself a Democrat. I don't know if it was something someone said to me or if my moral views connected more left as I grew, but my question to you is, is there something that someone could say to you to change your political views? And I mean specifically if you lean more Republican or Democrat would there be something that someone could say to you to lean the other way. Or if you are right in the middle, could there be something said to you to lean one way or the other.

For example, how can YouTubers like ishowspeed or jidion create toxic and edgy videos and still be loved and have a loyal fanbse. I remember jidion once gathered a group of guys to harass someone with him because they angered him.

But other YouTubers/content creators seem to face much more backlash and even get canceled for it and lose followers.

Hey everyone! I wanted to open a topic I haven't seen discussed much on here regarding humility. More specifically to see if others were also only attracted to intelligence if it is mixed with a healthy dose humility.

For me personally, intelligence without humility can come off as arrogance, making it hard to connect or feel attraction. A know-it-all attitude can be a major turn-off. In contrast, humility enhances intelligence, inviting curiosity and openness.

For example, consider the partner who is exceptionally well-read but doesn’t dominate conversations. Instead, they ask thoughtful questions and genuinely listen, creating a deeper connection. This openness fosters intimacy and shows that they value your thoughts and feelings.

Think about a successful professional who is confident in their career but doesn’t flaunt it. They share their experiences humbly, acknowledging their own growth and challenges. This kind of humility not only makes them relatable but also creates a supportive dynamic.

Even in playful banter, someone who can laugh at themselves when they make a mistake—like misremembering a fact or mixing up details—shows a lighthearted side. This humility can be incredibly attractive, making them feel more approachable and fun.

What are your thoughts? Do you find that humility enhances the appeal of intelligence? Do you have an example or story?

Can you accomplish making someone believe something by getting a bunch of people to say it?

Does hair on dark skinned women grow thicker and faster than other ethnicities? In my line of work, I often need to get close to the legs of clients, and I’ve noticed specifically several of our darker skinned clients have thick and coarse leg hair. It’s highly visible, and I’m wondering if their hair simply grows faster.

Does anyone ever feel like there’s just too many resources out there to learn what you want to learn. Almost like information overload. How do you sort through all the stuff and pick the right information to learn from? Does it even matter?

I have a theory. I believe I can fix the police force issues we have in the USA. I believe it’s fixable and that it must change. It’s only a matter of time actually.

It hurts me to watch these problems and not be able to fix them when I know the path to a solution.

I’m wondering -what can I do? Could I go get my phD in something related and my thesis could be - how to fix LAPD for example ?

Any thoughts, ideas are appreciated.

I know I may come off as some parent being like “damn these phones are the problem for my kids” but when you think about it, this isn’t far off.

100 years ago there was no such thing as social media or TikTok or as Rick Sanchez says it best to my generation which is Gen Z is “shut up Morty, you’re 14 reacting to a guy on YouTube reacting to fucking YouTube”. Which is pretty wild if you think about it.

Most kids not all are like Morty for reference would rather play Fortnite than going outside playing sports. Most adults rather be on the internet watching news and talking about said online news or something to their peers or loved ones after their long day of work. So if you realize, most things in our life at this rate is all digitalized. Phones, communications, knowledge, the information we watch or consume, and ETC.

So the question is do you think humanity as a whole is suited for this evolutionary pathway of life? Is this “living”? Are we making things more complicated rather than simple? Wanna hear your thoughts.

During my nearly decade-long career in law enforcement, I have observed several systemic issues within the agencies I have served. Chief among these issues is the way women are treated within these organizations. Despite progress in other sectors, gender inequality remains a significant challenge in law enforcement. According to the 2022 U.S. Census data, 39% of women over 25 hold a four-year college degree, compared to 36.2% of men. However, women occupy only 3% of executive-level positions in law enforcement. This stark disparity cannot be attributed to a lack of education or qualifications among women in the field. Instead, I believe it is a direct result of unaddressed sexism within the workplace—an issue that is rarely confronted by those in positions of power. When it is addressed, those who speak out often face punitive actions and ostracization within their agencies. One example from my current agency involved a female officer removed from her leadership role after an incident with a male colleague on her shift. The issue began when she took corrective action on a call where the male officer failed to make a necessary arrest. In response, the male officer refused to cooperate with her on calls for several weeks. When she eventually sought a meeting with their supervisor to address the issue, the situation escalated, resulting in the male officer spitting in her face. Despite the severity of this misconduct, the matter was not properly handled, and the female officer was subsequently reassigned to a position widely regarded within the agency as punitive. Another incident at the same agency involved a male supervisor against whom seven female colleagues filed formal statements alleging sexual harassment. Despite the internal investigation sustaining these claims, the male officer retained his position. This decision caused frustration and disillusionment among the women involved, who chose not to pursue the matter further for fear of professional retaliation. These examples are, unfortunately, not isolated incidents. They highlight a broader culture within law enforcement that fails to hold individuals accountable for their behavior, mainly when the victims are women. The question remains: why is this allowed to continue? Do male leaders in these positions believe they can act with impunity, confident that their actions will go unpunished? Or is it a matter of indifference—a lack of genuine concern for the well-being and professional advancement of their female colleagues? Addressing these issues requires a concerted effort from all levels of leadership within law enforcement agencies. It is essential to foster a culture that values accountability, fairness, and respect for all officers, regardless of gender. Only then can we dismantle the ingrained biases that continue to hold back talented women in this profession. Any thoughts?

What is a conspiracy theory or hot take you 100% believe in?

Please respond! for my class research project :))

It’s weird. I feel as if I have a bunch of knowledge and “all the right answers” I just sometimes don’t have the motivation (or want) to change my behavior for the better. I understand what I do most of the dumb stuff that I do for, (validation, entertainment of others and such) and I get it’s stupid but I still act differently and sometimes I don’t even change.

Are there any people who actually do make those changes and attempt to shift their behavior to the most optimal and happy they can be.

If anything humans destroyed social media and the internet. They could have been great things, great tools, and they are, but it's human nature, ignorance and greed that are ruining these tools so I'm just a lil confused on how these things are ruining humanity when humanity is just showing itself?

Idk if it's a bad habit but I usually do my school work on the day it is given, I got really unfortunate this week because 3 of my classes gave an assignment on the same day. It triggers me to know that I have an unfinished school work so I drank a liter of coffee in ONE GO yesterday to make myself hyper and not get sleepy, I finished one assignment yesterday and honestly felt like fainting and very nauseous this morning yet I just don't learn my lesson smh. I ended up drinking a liter of coffee again cause I'm stuck and couldn't make any progress on my work so I just needed to drink it again cause it does help.

Should I stop? I need some reality check before I get addicted and couldn't stop myself LMAO it is low-key addicting tho. The way I just drank it in one go using a Stanley is crazy