I'm someone who most probably has ADHD but not diagnosed yet, I just want to know your experiences with anything and everything sexual. What is it like? Do you have a high libido? Do you masturbate on an impulse too? Thanks!

Edit: I ask this because I've always been a super-horny person who masturbates every day and still does. And now that I've been talking to my therapist about adhd, I wondered if there's a connection. I'm too shy to ask my therapist because she's a woman and I'm a man. I also don't want to come across as a creep

If foreplay goes on for too much time (more than 10-15 min) I start going flaccid. And by the time I am done with oral, I am soft as a cushion. Idk if that's weird. Does anyone else face this problem? I don't stay erect when I am fingering and giving oral. Why is that?

Hi all. I (27 M) live with my girlfriend (28F) of 2 years. She’s asexual, we kiss, cuddle and hump but penetrative sex is no no for her. She told me about her sexuality while we were not living together and used to meet once a week and would make out sometimes. I thought u could live with it, Cz i love her so fucking much.

But ever since we have started living together, the difference in our libido and no sex had been quite frustrating for me. I have never loved any one so much, so u don’t want to leave her. The combination of both the above mentioned things has been messing with my mental health lately.

Would appreciate some advice from kind people of this subReddit or someone who has been in this situation.

TIA

I've been doing this for a long time where I remember really good sex with my exes/hook ups. It gets me turned on thinking about how good and raw those moments were. I think about, my first blowjob, the time when I took her bra off and she looked up at me, said "good job" and promptly proceeded to suck me off, the first time I did it without a condom, all the dirty talk, the looks on their faces when getting fucked, the moans and begging for more and also some of the more loving moments moments during sex, the jokes amd the laughter.

But I wonder if I'm being weird. Some of these escapades were so long back that I should have probably forgotten about them by now. These girls and guys have moved on, some of them are even married now. But somehow I still remember them and for some reason they still turn me the fuck on, and I can really get off on these memories. Does anyone else do this? What does everyone think about when they masturbate?

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Like many who grew up on unrealistic expectations from adult content, I used to think being well-endowed was winning life's lottery. Well, it's more like being gifted an elephant when you live in a studio apartment - cute in theory, logistically nightmare-ish.

In my two years of being sexually active, here's what I've tried:

• OhNut rings (basically a bumper for your bumper)
• Enough lube to make Durex & KY shareholders proud
• Turning foreplay into an art form - we're talking comprehensive, hour-plus sessions including oral, toys, and ensuring partner satisfaction first

Despite these efforts, success has been... elusive. Either the damn thing doesn't go in more than a quarter, or partners tap out after a few minutes. While I understand intimacy isn't solely physical, as someone with a high libido, these challenges have definitely impacted my relationships more than they should have.

I know this isn't exactly a unique problem - statistically, there must be others (although, calcsd isn't showing great odds).

ITS, Help a brother whose "blessing" is starting to feel more like a practical joke from the universe. 😭 I'm open to pretty much anything that gives me an iota of hope at this point.

Recently since last month, I am unable to focus in my life, don't know I just crave kisses, cuddling and sex all the time, if I don't masturbate everyday or two, I can't focus at any work, I feel like something is missing, I just want to make love to someone, but unfortunately I don't have one.

I don't know if it's porn or not, cause I have been watching porn from a very long time, but it hasn't happened before, this sudden urge has started building from the first week of this year. I am afraid, cause I am doing harm to myself!

I wanted to understand how do people who have been married over a period of time or been living with their partners handle when their partner are on their periods. This is not meant to derogatory, but just get an understanding on how to help and be more supportive of my partner during her periods. This what I usually do to help my partner:

1. I have created a period tracker so I know exactly when her period is due. This helps me be ready with everything she needs.
2. Speaking of things she needs, I try and make a small care package for her. She loves milk chocolates, so I get her those, the heat pad is next to her pillow and I introduced her to the period cup which thanks me for as she has found it easier to use after fussing and fretting for god knows how long.
3. We love and enjoy our sex and it helps her, so she does blow me for the first two days before we go back to having sex on the third. She finds it comforting, I find it enjoyable. Everyone is a winner out of this.
4. I cook everything she loves. Its comfort food for her during this time and everything on the menu is her favourite.

My question is: Her flow is heavy and full of clots. There are days when she loses it and I honestly feel bad for her. Is there anything else I can do to help make things slightly better for her? We've been to gynaes and they have suggested it would happen with every alternative period as she has fibroids. Look forward to hearing from real life experiences rather than some unreal magazine or website articles.

PS: Not going to entertain pervs trying to DM me asking for what the blowjobs feel like to have a wank about it.

So, I insisted my wife to give me a BJ with CIM. She agreed after a long time. It was really another level of pleasure for me. However as soon as I finished, I felt guilty for her. I mean it's not very hygienic and normal.

I tried to ask If she felt bad for this and she said nope.

Is it normal in Indian Society? Should I ask her again. I am feeling guilty but at the same time I want to experience the pleasure again. 🙂

This question is mostly targeted to people who are. induldged in BDSM/CNC/Sub-dom/Slave stuffs.

I'm got introduced to BDSM in early time(in the first 6 months of our relation) by my first bf, and we were in 5 years of relation, so we explored more and more.
After him I moved to my 2nd ex, he was rough, but not like first ex and our relation didn't lasted long.
Then I came in fwb relation with my BFF, and he tried matching my first ex vibe, and introduced me to mfm, ffm, mmmf, sugar relations and I started loving the sex agian.

Now because of some personal reason, I had to move to a different town.

Now I got connected to this guy, who gave me the reality check, "WTF I'm doing with my life?".
How you know when to stop exploring more? Because after a while you get comfortable a kink, and then you want to try something more to get the adreline rush.
But it will never end right?

Why I'm having this doubts? because I have skiped meals, sleeps, studies, I don't socialize in outer world anymore. I know I need to stop now.

How do you know when to stop?

How has working out, any form of regular exercise, any basic supplements, protein intake affected your sex drive?

Has your libido gone up? Does it go up during or right after a gym session?

Also how has it affected your stamina in terms of lasting long, staying hard, being able to ride or try different positions?

4 days back I met my college time girlfriend and reignited our relationship back but this time purely FWB. She was virgin (week back) and we went for our deed. As she was virgin I started things slowly and fingered her and did oral a lot before PIV. I was only able to push 1 finger in as she couldn't take 2 fingers and during PIV only able to put my thing only half as she was not able to take whole in. After this for 3 4 days she was fingering herself trying to push 2 fingers so we can enjoy next time.

Next time was today. We started and this time I was able to push 2 fingers in easily, did oral and she was completely wet. Went for PIV and she started bleeding. Here my concerns starts. What I don't understand is she didn't beld while I fingered her. I don't know if the blood was of due to hymen break or she got injured during penetration. Bleeding lasted for few mins and she didn't feel much pain just bit of burning sensation. My next problem is even after making her wet I was still not able to push my thing whole in her as she was still feeling pain. And in 2nd n 3rd round when I pulled out how much I had put in I still saw lil bit blood stains on condom.

Please help us with all your suggestions/advice for our 3rd meet. Please note our 3rd meet will be almost after a month. We both want to have pain free and pleasureable experience.

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I’ve noticed a trend recently where a lot of guys act like they’re dominant/ alpha males and all it means according to them is they fuck hard / rough in bed

I think porn has messed up a lot of guys brains especially young guys around my age

Being dominant doesn’t just mean rough/ slapping/ choking

Lol please don’t be stupid and ignorant

For me sex is all about satisfying my partner and I don't think about myself. I'm bisexual guy 24, so I've been with a guy and 2 girls. The problem is that I always try to please my partner, it might be romantic sex or something rough, but I always try to do everything for my partner, and most of the times I don't even cum. Which makes the other person a bit worried or maybe sad. But I don't need to cum to enjoy sex, if they have climaxed, I am satisfied and happy. Should I change this or just explain this to my partner? And if so, how to change this?

I shifted with my girl 6 months ago, and our sex was good; she went home for 3 months, and now she'll be back. While leaving alone recently, I can't get my dick fully hard; since Jan, I've been feeling a lot of pressure about my career and not able to follow discipline due to procrastination; my consistency at the gym also dropped. I'm an active user on & off the weed, but I smoke Cigarettes at least once a day.

Because of all of these things going on, I think my sexual health has also dropped. I want to spice up things between us, and I need my sexual health at its peak. Of course, there are always exceptions day & Sometimes, it's just not the day.

Give me tips to improve overall health, especially sexual health. Also, what are things we should try new in our relationship?

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You know that rare feeling when you cum hard but somehow stay just as hard right after? It doesn’t happen often, but when it does, it’s something else. For me, I’ve noticed it happens the most in 69—something about the intensity of it keeps me going.

It’s wild because cumming again right away is nearly impossible, but the upside? I get to focus on making my partner finish over and over. No rush, no pressure—just pure pleasure for her. And when she’s already sensitive and overstimulated? That’s when it gets really fun.

Curious—anyone else experienced this? What position or situation makes it happen for you?

Hello everyone, so me and my friend have made out once, but we're not ready to go all the way yet. We're just looking for some tips on what else we can do to keep things fun and intimate without having sex.

What are some things we can try to keep the vibe exciting and comfortable? Any tips on creating a chill but intimate atmosphere? How do you make sure both people are comfortable and on the same page without crossing any boundaries?

Also, any advice on how to communicate or check in during the moment would be awesome. Thanks in advance

My ex and I seemed like the perfect couple—deeply in love, aligned in values, and excited to build a future together. But as time passed, we realized we had very different expectations when it came to intimacy. I wanted more passion and experimentation, while she saw sex as a secondary aspect of their bond. Conversations turned into conflicts, and emotional closeness started fading.

Does sexual compatibility make or break a relationship? Can love and emotional connection override mismatched desires, or is it a problem that only grows with time?

I met this girl online, and we've been talking for last 3-4 months. During all this time, she mentioned it many times that she has a crush on me and wants us to date. But i maintained my stance that I've no such feelings, and let's just be friends. She was fine by it and we still talk with the same energy. Now we've decided to take it further and make it a FWB thing. I'm going to meet her soon and we'll be having sex on our first meet. Now, she wants me to do it without a condom, saying that she likes it raw. But I've never done it without a condom, I'm very cautious in that. So what should i do, try it with no condom or try to convince her for me using one?

Hello everyone, this is my first post, so please bear with me if it's not perfectly written. Feel free to comment or DM me if anything is unclear.

I'm a fairly typical guy – average height, an attractive personality, and a good physique. I'd say my testosterone levels are pretty high, as I'm frequently horny, and this has significantly impacted my sex life.

About three months ago, I was casually dating and using dating apps for hookups. I often got very nervous before these encounters. Sometimes the sex was amazing, but other times it wasn't so good. Around October, I had a hookup where I couldn't get an erection. I know there's nothing physically wrong with me because I was hard throughout the date and even at the hotel. I think the nervousness just got to me at the crucial moment.

This incident really bothered me, and I avoided sex for a while after that.

For my New Year's resolution, I decided to abstain from masturbation, and it's made a huge difference to my sex life. Now, whenever I have sex, I get erections easily. To delay my first round, I use Durex Invisible condoms, which work great for lasting longer, although they reduce sensitivity. After 10-15 minutes, I switch to a regular condom. Knowing I've lasted for a good amount of time boosts my confidence for subsequent rounds in every way.

If you're experiencing anything similar, please comment and share your experience. Honestly, most of the time, it's all in your head

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• Kinks that you have tried, that you wanna try or any ideas you have for spicing up your sex life.
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I usually get done in a couple of min while masturbating (without a condom). My gf tried to get me to cum using her hands and mouth for the first time (with a lubed condom on) but it went on for a while and I didn't cum. Why? I don't understand. I thought it would happen faster when my partner does it...compared to when I do it myself. But i was wrong. Is it because I was wearing a condom? Does this normally happen with everyone else? Pl advise

Ps This was My first time with a Woman ever

Issued in public interest:-
A lot of people seem to be confused a lot regarding Phimosis etc. Here I am sharing my experience for reference.

Diagnosis :
It all started with the foreskin that would not retract fully when erect. I looked up for solutions online and did my homework. I consulted a Urologist for professional advice for Phimosis and he said it's just a case of tight frenulum which needs to be released(Frenulum Breve). I enquired further and he explained that it's a small 5 min procedure(Frenuloplasty using laser) and that there'd be no pain, blood nor stitches. After surgery, I could get back home after a few hours(observation period) and back to work in a 3-4 days and the recovery period was about a week and took two weeks to get back to normal.

Phimosis :
A condition in which tight foreskin can't be pulled back over the head of the penis.
Most of the cases can be treated with stretching and you won't need circumcision. Please go through r/Phimosis. The subreddit is worth going through if you need more info and you can talk to real people who have/had phimosis.

Frenulum Breve :
Frenulum breve, short frenulum is a condition in which the frenulum of the penis, which is an elastic band of tissue under the glans penis that connects to the foreskin and helps contract it over the glans, is too short and thus restricts the movement of the foreskin.
Its something we confuse with phimosis. This doesn't need circumcision. Simple frenuloplasty procedure fixes this issue.

#Your condition could be something else. That is why I stress... Please consult a professional.
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Cost:
pre surgery blood tests cost about 2k. The surgery cost was 15k + 3k for consumables. Under 1k for medicines(mainly painkillers and antibiotics I think).
Just keeping it real. A lot of young ones here seem to be concerned by the estimated cost of the procedure. 'Can' claim insurance.

Long term review after Frenuloplasty :
Everything was back to normal with a month. No complications whatsoever, fortunately. The foreskin is free from the restrictions caused by tight frenulum. TMI? Nevermind. I guess I last longer now as the most sensitive part (frenulum under the glans) is not as tight as it was.

Extras(personal experience):
There are plenty of YouTube videos that show Frenuloplasty procedure in detail. It's always good to know what you are getting into.
Laser procedure (Frenuloplasty in this case) is simpler and kind of has cauterization effect that doesn't let it bleed easily (correct me if I am wrong). I had a little bleeding and had a couple of stitches. The YouTube videos showed usage of some glue instead of using sutures. I suggest getting it done in a corporate hospital as they'd probably have all kind of stuff. But then, the usage of suture/glue might depend on the individual cases and the severity as well. There was some pain post surgery. Need not be alarmed as everything went fine for me.

I'll add more if I forgot anything. Feel free to suggest edits and corrections. Ask away if there is anything that you'd like to know.

Hello folks, we are trying to get pregnant and had a question:

Does using oil as a lube during sex impact my sperm quality??

Like, does it get mixed with the semen and reduce the chances of pregnancy or the quality of it.

We use it mostly since it helps us to have a better penetration and reduces the dryness making the sex more pleasurable.

As in title, can you guys share how it works for you in your relationship?

Is your partner also poly? If they aren't how does this work for you? What are the boundaries, how did you discuss? Basically all. NSFW, hence not in the relationship sub.

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There is a guy i have been seeing since a few months now and he is really nice. The best anyone has ever been and the best i can ever find. He loves me like nobody else.

But i feel repelled by his body or any form of intimacy with him. I don’t understand why. I have been with men before and i loved all my experiences. Many of them were not as emotionally close to me as he is. Most of them were casual flings and 2 serious relationships and not that they all were attractive as such. This one is really good looking as well. I know him since 6 months now.

I dont realise why is my body not reacting well to him and why dont i feel the same thrill or excitement with him like i did with even men who didn’t really mean anything to me emotionally.

Someone said razor. I can't even see it, how am I supposed to shave with a blade in the tight valley?

ALSO, how does a man get chikna??? I understand waxing or shaving the chest and legs but what about the back and butt and shoulders. How do I do deforestation of these hard to reach areas? What logistics are there?

Hello guys.

So my wife and I have a fairly good sex life before and after getting married. We already have a kid of around 16 months who is still suckling. By accident wife got pregnant and is now 3 months in.

My problem is that I haven't gotten any action in the past few months. For medical reasons we cant do it till her pregnancy os ober. Can't Suck boobs because that is what my first child drink!

And it is making me horny and crazy. I have tried to at least make out with my wife, but the kid comes and mood is gone. Like wise in night time.

So, my wife and I had a discussion and she suggested to masturbate And watch porn etc. I already do that. I suggested that I should get a temporary girlfriend and she got mad.

So ITS please help me out. I have attempted to even contact my ex who would be more than helpful to help out if you know what I mean. But I don't want to ruin my marriage. It is making me go crazy!

Edit:

1. I tried to contact my ex but DID NoT go through it eventually. Because I don't want to ruin my marriage.

2. I am a very sexual person. And I am in trouble because of no sex. So please dont judge! I am looking for help.