Hey guys, I’m in my 40’s and been recently blessed with unpredictable incontinence. Mild to moderate at times… and nothing some of the time. Regardless, finding a pad or pads together that serves this need took a lot a trial and error… let me save you the time as I’ve tried everything I could find.

My main objective was security, second and really as important… conspicuous. Northshore Care is the only company that makes a pad so comfortable that you literally forget you have it on…. But more importantly, it reaches from the front waistband to your backside far enough. Fitted with leak guards, I wear this pad with compression shorts and not one person has noticed, especially when I get changed at work in a locker room. From dribbles to urge, capacity never seems to the issue.

Give Northshores’s Dynadry Supreme pad a try. They offer samples. I’m an average build and found the large to work best.

Again, I just want to save you guys the headache of looking for that perfect product… I’m not endorsed by NS in any way. Good luck!

I have a feeling that my incontinence is not as bad when i wear tight underwear but is uncomfortable so i've seen a kind of underwear that brings balls up and in front, i feel like this could be a better and more comfortable solution, has anybody experience with this? What is the result?

I am 27M started having issues about 1.5 - 2 years ago been seeing a urologist just had a scan and found out I was born with only one kidney was wondering if anyone had a similar experience all is good though other than the incontinence urge specifically kidneys doing what it’s supposed to just wondering if anyone is simalar

Inconcinence is something I’ve struggled with throughout my preteen up until now. It’s always had an affect on me but it’s never been this bad. My bed is stripped to nothing but a thin blanket and a plastic mattress cover, I’ve given up on trying to remake my bed. I’m honestly considering sleeping nude as well but it’s getting colder and I hate the feeling of the plastic on my skin. My mental health has been absolute shit and there’s nothing I can do about it until I see my doctor in march. They’ve never found anything wrong, but they have only ever done urinalysis testing on me.

I just want to feel normal. I want to have sleepovers with my friends and not feel like I have to wake up every two hours and make sure I’m still dry. I hate feeling like it’s just me being too lazy or too comfortable I hate having my mother tell me or imply it’s just laziness. There’s a problem and it’s making me want to die but nobody can see that. I want to be able to drink water when I feel thirsty and not risk having it trickle back out from a laugh or sneeze. I hate myself for it and it’s not even my fault. I’m tired of having screaming matches when I hide the clothes until I have enough to make a load and justify the water usage. I hate feeling like I’m a lost cause. I just want to be healthy. I can’t even voice my feelings out loud without the shame I have with it. I hate constantly feeling like I smell like piss. I’m 19 I have horrible flare ups where I can range anywhere from 1-4 accidents in one sleep cycle even with having water consumption cut back at 7pm, 4 hours before I usually even climb into bed.

Does anyone else look forward to this time of year, at least in relation to their incontinence? I love it because I can get away with wearing long buttoned up coats and generally thick clothes. My onesie also doesn't make me feel too hot if I wear that. It's probably the most safe I feel from people seeing my nappy while I'm out and about.

Also, I don't worry as much about slipping on the ice and falling on my bum! Nappies are perfect butt shields.

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After a surgery, I tend to dribble some now. Not a lot, but more than I want soaking into my underwear & pants. I looked around, and the pads tend to be surprisingly long. . .

I don't need a pad going from the top of my underwear to my butthole. I feel like all that extra pad would bunch up, wrinkle up between my legs and maybe cause pressure points where I might form a bedsore from sitting on it.

I'm looking for something that won't extend far down between my legs. . .maybe 5" x 6" or 6" x 7", and very thin for dribbles. Been perusing the Amazon selections, but it's kind of hard to find the actual 'shield' dimension sometimes, and when I do, they seem excessively long, literally a foot long.

I thought maybe someone here might have some experience/ideas/suggestions to share with me. It would be appreciated.

I feel really ashamed and embarrassed and cannot for the life of me initiate sex and want to just trash anything fun and sexy from my wardrobe. I’ve always struggled feeling attractive and this is just too much. Will the feeling ever come back?

hi guys - I need your advice. I have had mild/moderate fecal incontinence since an infection in my anus 14 years ago. During the day this is only a problem if I have diarrhea, but otherwise I'm fine without diapers in everyday life. Now I have regular bowel movements most mornings and very early in the morning. Because of this, I wake up very often and can't actually sleep in (I'm afraid I'll defecate in bed). I'm unsure whether it makes sense to wear diapers overnight to improve my sleep quality. The idea is that my body could stay relaxed because bowel movements can go into the diaper while I sleep. By the way, the flatulence just goes away without me noticing. does anyone have experience with this?

Has anyone here had experience with them? What were your thoughts and experiences

The next step of my health/illness journey lays ahead. From a slight dribble after peeing to never-ending bladder infections, I (m42) have now reached the point where I need to protect my kidneys and overall health. It all began with occasional spills during sports a d the aforementioned dribble, which ultimately led to the discovery of a "benign" tumor in my spine. Surgery went really well and a for a while I pretended to be completely healthy afterwards, but the truth is that my bladder is paralyzed (atonic).

Today, the lady shows up to teach me ISC and I worry about my flexibility. I work outdoors often and play sports in a league. How can I transport and conceal the necessary equipment? Are there any handy travel kits out there? What about all that trash? I was told everything from twice to 6 times a day...

Will I keep getting infections?

Will this affect my sex life? The infections have done their part, leading to the longest dry stretch in my marriage.

Can this work for 40+ years? Are there any technology innovations on the horizon?

I am scared but have to play confident to the world around me.

Thank you all for reading and being here.

EDIT: it really isn't half as bad as I expected. I wrote this post while preparing emotionally and the fears and worries were mostly unfounded. The more rigid lubricated model worked but hurts a bit. The softer one is a pain to work in. So, it will take a while to reach a new normal, but my bladder and kidney feel great after finally emptying properly.

Thank you for your information and support.

We got this!

Ok so long story short I have a concert coming up in three days and know that there isnt a chance I can hold my bladder through the full thing. I bought some NorthShore Megamax for it last week as it was the only thing better than pullups I could buy in Australia on such short notice (higher capacity products practically dont exist here) and wore them out to the city today as a test run and it frankly went horrible without me even using it. They chafed horribly until I added about twice as much talcum powder as I thought I'd need and even then it still wasn't great, big issue as I likely won't be able to bring that into a concert. They also made me sweat an absurdly uncomfortable amount, and due to my large hip dips they continuously kept riding under my skirt line even though they're the right size and I'm pretty sure are properly adjusted. I have some pullups left at home but I already know those will do nothing to stop an accident and leak heavily on the first pee (best I can buy in the country on short notice), and these diapers aren't seeming remotely suitable either so I'm really at a loss of what to do as I can't skip the concert and also can't hold through it

hey everyone.

so ive been incontinent for most of my adult life. no real reason, other than i gave birth at 19, had an epidural, no idea if thats a real correlation or not lol

so anyway. something that has ALWAYS bothered me. and just never thought to reach out and see if anyone else experiences this phenominon that i seem to experience always.

my incontinence seems to be a "flare up" kind of deal. im fine, for the most part. and then for a week, im a MESS (literally) and cant hold anything. and then fine again. meh. happens randomly i never know when, but it happens monthly, sometimes every other month.

SO on to the point.

have you ever had a day, where you forgot to wear protection. and you leak EVERYWHERE. ALL DAY. its awful.

but as soon as you get home and get protection on, NOPE.

protection is there. no leaking. no protection? niagra falls.

anyone else??

I am wondering if there's any public athlete physical or non, who deals with incontinence. I know it's not talked about, but if they do, how would they even manage it? It seems to me to be so debilitating that it closes off my ability to participate in life, so I am wondering how those people are managing it, especially if they are in the public sphere.

are we allowed to post funnies - cause i saw this on the internet today and .....really.

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I was recently given what are essentially nhs butt plugs to help contain my fecal incontinance. They work really well around the house and short trips out. I am worried though about how I dispose of them when out for longer. Most female and disabled toilets have sanitary bins but it feels wrong to use those. Most do not have bins except by sinks for hand towels. Either way going to be stinky I imagine and not hygienic. Any ideas?

I have intermittent UI that seems to coincide with my monthly cycle. I know it's hormone and stress related. I'm able to wear pull up briefs with a booster pad most of the time and be ok. My question is, this time the UI is happening while I'm on my period. (It usually stops a day or 2 before but I've been under a great deal of stress the past week.) Do i continue to use a tampon? I do not like using the diaper as a menstrual pad.

I'm currently sick and when I cough it comes out the back end for some reason. It's gotten to the point where I've shit the bed literally multiple times.

I'm currently in the hospital and just couldn't get bothered to get up and piss and let it it. I don't know how to feel.

16MTF, I love fashion and wearing nice clothes, I'm just worried about what I wear might make the diaper visible, I wear pull up ones so that should be less visible right? Just wanted some tips, it's hard to feel good in yourself and think you look pretty if your wearing a diaper, I'm just super paranoid about it, i know I need diapers so I can't just say nope not wearing them anymore. Any tips on how to still feel pretty while in a diaper and clothes that don't give too much away, thanks a lot.

I am a 21F. I have constant bladder incontinence with no feeling within my bladder. Main question: For those who tried interstim and it failed did bladder Botox work for you? Did you have to self cath after the Botox injections? Did anyone here who has done bladder Botox have to self cath afterwards?

Helpful info: I have been having some recent success with chiropractic care and regaining some feeling and control in my bladder but it's unclear right now if my long term improvement will get where I need it to be, hopefully without diapers. However, I'll take the wins that I can get. For background, I've been on several meds, pelvic floor physical therapy, and tried an interstim. None of it has worked. If Chiropractic care ends up not being what is best for my case then I am looking to try bladder Botox. The reason bladder Botox was originally skipped is because I occasionally struggle with urinary retention. Once (out of nowhere) I ended up in the ER getting a Foley catheter placed and then afterwards had to learn how to self cath for a bit. Since, I have no other treatment options left for my bladder, Botox has been brought back up as an option. How did you do on the Botox? I'm worried if interstim didn't work for me then the Botox will not work either or I will have to cath. Thank you for any advice in advance!

Hi,

I wear Molicare Mobile 10d L for urinary incontinence. recent ive began to lose weight. i was wondering how do you gage properly if you should go down in size for pull ups?

Hi I just wanna rant and i hope this is a safe space.

I (23 f) am a person with disability and has both incontinence. I grew up with diaper and its so normalized for me that im not even insecure about it anymore(just realized this after i turned 20). I know how it works, growing up i learned to listen to my body and its needs.

I just graduated from college last month and im the breadwinner of the family despite of them looking down on me. They say i cant do this and do that whenever im about to experience something or already experienced. They always mention about the diaper and my disability. SO FUCKING WHAT? I have done so much of "proving" to people that they are wrong. I went to school and got into prestigious school as a scholar and worked my ass off to provide for myself. I gave my money to my family, covered their medical expenses when they are sick etc. But.. those aren't enough for people to acknowledge what I DO and CAN DO and its not like im asking for attention. I just want them to look at me beyond my disability.

Now my incontinence has gone worst? I have observed that the older i get or the more mature my body gets, my bowels and pee is so much harder to handle and it has caused me so much pain to endure. The left side of my stomach hurts and it feels "full" most of the time or after i just finished eating. Sometimes i cant even bowel for 4-7 days and it would caused me to feel sick and in constant pain. My urine incontinence also has gotten worst because i can only last for 30 minutes on a diaper then i need to change because ITS SO FULL!! not just wet but full!

Ive been experiencing this since i was a kid(being in pain) but i have high pain tolerance and usually i just figure out what to do when i cant p**p. I cant commit to a job right now bc of this situation and my family is not helping me at all (and it seems like theyre waiting for me to get a job again bc we are in debt).

I am in so much pain for the past 4 days My pee and my bowels are just abnormal. My sister told me that its just "mind over matter" WHEN IM LITERALLT IN PAIN. She said that maybe my mind is not cooperating with my lower body thats why my rectum wont open or my pee is getting out of control. IVE BEEN EDUCATING MYSELF ABOUT MY SITUATION FOR THE PAST 15 YEARS JUST SO I CAN HELP MYSELF AND THIS IS WHAT I GET?

i hope its that fucking easy, to just tell your mind that "hey please fucking p**p already" .

Btw, they never took me to a doctor since i was a baby and left me "disabled" basically. They never thought that I would be smart??? And was so shocked when i became an honor student, got into a science highschool, and basically finished college.

I recently visited a pulmonologist and a cardiologist for my other medical issues, so im broke af (since i dont have a job rn) now i cant even go to get myself check because i dont have money and no one will actually spend money on me (because they're more broke than me)

Im so angry and i wanna cry.

Is there a fear of going on holiday with a child over the age of 10 who’s in diapers has any experienced this

What are the thickest, most absorbent disposable underpads protectors you can buy for a senior?

Like what do they do there like how do they diagnose and test you I’m terrified of going I don’t want drs to shove something in me to test me for in and idk what they do there and it’s making me so stressed I wanted to know if anyone knows like how they test you and are willing to share ?

For background, I am a male, likely high functioning autistic, I actually got an evaluation a month ago and awaiting results at age 28. I had a traumatic childhood at age 2 onward with an abusive mother and I remember around age 3 feeling betrayed when they took my pullups and intentionally did not cooperate with potty training, wetting the bed on purpose etc. This progressed to actual bed wetting at age 6-9, at which point I kind of got it under control until around age 12 when I had a full relapse (probably due to stress/bullying) and I remember feeling extremely stressed knowing that as a child I "chose" to wet the bed but now no matter what I tried I would regularly wake up soaked. I was also sexually assaulted at age 13 (attempted rape/penetration that ultimately was unsuccessful), but I think I may have some pelvic floor related issues of defensively "clenching" that may somehow be related.

This continued and got under control somewhat around age 18-20 but still would happen infrequently, I soaked the bed once sleeping with my girlfriend waking up to the greatest sense of panic and dread ever. From ages 20-26 Id say I wet the bed about once every 3-4 months, but I noticed as I got older my bladder became more active. I often have to wake up multiple times in the night to use the restroom, and it feels like water just goes right through me (I will drink water and have to use the restroom within 10 minutes or less). Recently my bedwetting started returning (likely due to a lawsuit im in which has caused immense stress) and I started wearing diapers at night because its happening at least once a week.

My bigger concern is that in the past few months I have had the first daytime accidents of my entire life. It started off with little "squirts" coming out, not a lot of volume, when I would stand up, or laugh, or something. It has recently progressed to a public incident where I thought I could hold it and ended up completely soaking my pants. This has occurred 3 seperate times in the past two months, and one was extremely humiliating. It feels like my bladder is either getting more over active or my ability to hold it in is getting lower, but I seemingly have no other health problems going on besides slight aging at age 28. Has anyone else had this happen, and what could be the cause? What do I tell my doctor? Im just confused and its so hard to find much information with a situation like this. Its to the point where I have to wear diapers to avoid an accident and I want to know what the prognosis is, if I can get cured, or just any information you might have. Thanks.

After I pee, sometimes it feels I’m done, but it keeps going after. Stains on my pants. Should I wear something for protection? It’s embarrassing. Anyone else have this?

Have been in PT for months now and haven’t noticed much of a difference, for those of u that have urinary frequency and incontinence (constant dribbling throughout the day) did u notice any improvements with PT? Also have really bad back pain and can barely bend or lean :( any help would be appreciated

I’m a 23m and I have severe incontinence and have to wear diapers 24/7. I’ve had this issue for years and it’s hard to date because of it. How and when should I tell a date about this issue I have? I don’t know if I should tell them right away or wait a bit.

I need some advice, I was diagnosed with incontinence and during the night I often pee in my diaper, but I only have some sleep diapers available, which I thought were fine even if they are not, I just don't want to throw them away. Can anyone give me some advice? Do you think doubling the layer is enough?