I can't take it anymore. I've had countless conversations with my few friends, where they repeatedly reassured me that they wouldn't leave me. They also thought it was awful how he treated me. For context: after months of sending me mixed signals and, after a festival, suddenly wanting to be with someone he had just met for two seconds, l couldn't take it anymore and confessed my feelings to him. We agreed we were fine afterward (I already knew it was one-sided). But then he ghosted me and discarded me like trash. Now, he's ingratiating himself with my friends-the ones he used to dislike-and slowly but surely taking them away from me. He always bragged about how many friends he had and said he didn't even care about my friends. And yet, now it seems like he's replacing me in their lives. At the same time, he's building his new personality around the people he met at the festival and is suddenly "super close" with them. I don't know how to deal with this anymore. Some days I manage to cope, but right now, I need solid advice on how to handle this situation. My friends are again nice and I cant force them to leave him...l mean that would be nice but not fair for them. Someone has an advice how to not give a damn fuck?

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I ran into a workbook about not giving a fuck in the comments to one of the posts in this subreddit. I want to get it for someone. But I’ve looked through my Reddit history and can’t find it. Can someone help me track the book down? I think it had a black cover.

Are you trying to notgiveafuck for the right reason?

I have posted a few pieces on this subreddit, and I have received a lot of positive comments from people genuinely wanting to achieve the state where you can no longer give a fuck. After spending some time trying to help these people, I have noticed something very interesting. There are only certain people I can help, and it's frustrating.

I’ll categorize people into two groups in order to try and keep this as easy to digest as possible.

There are those who always strive to be the best, the leader, the greatest, the biggest, the strongest. These people are always in a war with the people around them. They are constantly comparing themselves to their peers, family, and everyone around them. However, most of the time, no one outside can see or sense this. It all happens in their heads. These people are broken individuals with a facade of immense mental strength. They project what others want to see them as, and usually, they can play that part very well because they fantasize about what they want to be seen as constantly. It’s acting, and most of the time, they even know they are acting. Thus, most of the time, they think very little about those taking their mental strength at face value. You see, since they know they are full of shit, you buying into their shit makes you seem gullible in their eyes. Whenever they get praise for their perceived mental strength, they get a little sense of achievement. Since they, at some point, start to realize that getting to that stage of not even caring about competition anymore is impossible, they start to change the game to whoever has the best facade wins.

You see, these people aim for that state of not giving a fuck, but they can never achieve it. They can’t achieve it because in order to be able to not give a fuck in this sort of world that they have, they must be the best at everything. If they lead themselves to believe it’s possible, this sort of grandiose thinking telling their psyche that they just might achieve "being the best at everything" brings on a god-complex I have to believe.

Anyway, this is the first group that realizes the strength in not giving a fuck and strives for that relentlessly, never achieving it, which, in turn, increases the competitive mentality for their peers and those around them and, as a side effect, brings on self-hatred not being good enough.

Then there is the second group of people who are outside of this sort of hamster wheel type of life and have achieved not giving a fuck by whichever means they happened to obtain it. There are many ways of reaching not giving a fuck: self-acceptance, love, forgiveness, sincerity, sacrifice pick your chosen art (or multiple). You see, this short exemplary list I is not admired by those in Group 1. They are seen as weaknesses.

When someone in Group 1 then meets someone in Group 2 and they sense a sort of sincere not caring for these same issues they care about, they realize that someone has achieved the stage they are aiming for. They get furious. Not because you achieved not giving a fuck, but because you achieved not giving a fuck while being a weak-ass loser. You are supposed to give very many fucks in their mind. Because since they are giving a ton of fucks and you dare to stand there being weak, loving, caring, sincere, and not having to put on an act while they are physically strong, handsome, cruel, and dominating, you should be kneeling before them. Why aren’t you then?

You see how you mere presence will cause them pain. Your mere presence might be enough for some of these people to start to change. If you are in group 2 you are invaluable. Stay strong. Never change. The world needs you. You will suffer and never see any rewards but you'll still be happy. Deep down you know you are on the right path.

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As I mentioned earlier, I have received a lot of messages from people desperately wanting to achieve the state of not giving a fuck and asking me for a step-by-step guide on how to do so.

Its easy, all it is is "do you want to do it?". In today's world you have to become the "weakest" to become the strongest.

Why did I feel compelled to write this?

This was bothering me and I needed to get this off my chest.

So I got 2v1 lost in an argument with friends of 3 years. It was a project presentation and even though i asked to work together, they did not send any invite and did the work. In the presentation when sir asked about the work distributionand they threw me under the bus and when confronted they blamed me further and were so against me fr. I just feel that i lost the debate even though i was the aggreived.

What should my thinking be in a situation like this

I always help others and wish good for them. I don't even have jealous towards others. But a part of me whenever I feel bad from my thoughts is I'm getting negative amount of emotions where the ego rises. And I realize my life isn't great. Multiple times I have been told by family just talk it out. Just share your problem or worries. If not us then someone you trust but let it out. Stop suffering inside. And I just can't seem myself to put it out there. A part of me just feels scared of judgement and criticism. I'll probably get viewed like a dummy or weak link or some idiot. And people think I'm this smart capable strong person but in reality I'm not.

So like for 2 years I wanted to talk with my college advisor about my academics. I've been not going college 2 years. I did lot of research googling and YouTube even asked people online but didn't find any clarity. So I've been suggested by multiple people just go to college talk with new advisor and start your classes. But there is were my mind says no no no. Like why is this happening always. It's not only college, but lot of other things. As if something is pulling me back.

Everybody's attention spans being so short nowadays has made me worry so much. Teaching and having a conversation has reportedly turned into a nightmare, and nobody can ever just be in the moment and enjoy the present anymore. We're all addicted to tiktoks and reels and short form content for the quickest hit of dopamine and stimulation (which is basically the lowest possible form of enjoyment at this point.) It worries me to see my friends and family and myself be affected by what's happening with all of this.

What I'm most paranoid about is that art in the future (movies, shows, etc) will either be incredibly fast paced to the point that you can't process what the hell is going on, or just be ignored completely/not fully enjoyed. It's absolutely devastating that people, especially younger kids, won't enjoy art anymore. I personally want to make my own webcomic in the future, and it makes me so depressed thinking that people won't have the attention span for it.

..so how do I not give a shit?

meditation is mostly for relaxing your body and bringing it back to the baseline cause we're not built for 1000 doomscroll reels and fluctuating emotions on each video. mindfulness so being present and you notice the sounds around you and you're safe at the moment. obviously if your getting chased by a tiger then survival mode is fine. But most of the time you're just chilling so mindfulness is really important.

Focusing on one thing at a time and not multitasking, just like doomscrolling and watching too many reels. Focusing on too many things at a time causes stress. So yeah mindfulness, focus and meditation has helped me the most.

I am 21 and i'm scared of what others would say especially my parents , I honestly dont care what people who I dont know think about me but I am scared of disappointing my parents, im scared of losing my friends, im scared of the awkwardness of telling people how I feel, i'm scared of being stern with friends and family, i am scared of pursuing new things because of how i'll fail and it won't be worth the effort, im scared of seeking a relationship thinking that i wont be able to withstand the feelings of losing someone I love. It feels kind of easy saying this stuff online since no one really knows me but I have this stupid facade that I wear to please everyone except myself, im so sick and tired of it, I just want to make a difference in this world by doing something that makes me happy without having to please others and I wanna be a leader. I feel like I force myself to take a backseat to avoid conflict, but internally, I want conflict, I don't know.

I feel like life is pointless, I go to school or work come home sleep, and repeat, is there really nothing else to do, I don't even like watching movies anymore, I hate waking up early now, I don't want to go to sleep, I try to play some sports outside but I'm alone.

I just keep rambling on I don't know. Sorry about the venting but any tips?

I shouldn't care what they think. Because its literally something that they think ( or someone loudly claim) and how does it even matter if its true or not. Why does it still bother me so much?

I live in the U.S. and as I'm sure many of you already know, our last election has left us all very divided.

As a woman I'm with disgusted and hurt with the people in my life who voted for tRump. As a (trying hard to be) buddhist, im finding it so very difficult to remain calm in the uncertainty that our country is facing and what my future may hold. Not only does my future worry me but for my daughter as well.

I'd love to say that I can turn to family but unfortunately some of them voted for the republican and I can't morally agree with them. I resorted to laying a boundry down with my father (who is just rekindled a relationship with after almost 10 yrs due to his abusive and narcissistic ways) and told him I needed some time to rethink my relationship with him and how I feel about everything. Which I feel I did in haste because I was not emotionally regulated in the moment and now, after reaching out to my father 3 times, he's given me the silent treatment. Which I fully deserve but I'm just so confused and hurt by all of this going on.

How do i remian civil against those who voted against my rights due to their hate of others?

How do I gain emotional regulation in moments that are overwhelming and heated due to differences?

How do I go about remaining neutral with other republican believers that go against everything I stand for?

I'm so lost, I'm so hurt and I feel like I don't have the support I need to regain my footing with these relationships that I have damaged. Any and all guidance is welcomed. Feel free tontell me i deserve this turmoil based off my actions, because it certainly feels that way.

“Karma is a thing.”

Cool bro. Great post.

Now here’s something that’s ACTUALLY gonna help you, dear reader.

You are not a beautiful and unique snowflake. You are one of many normal humans in this world. You are not THAT different, because you know why?

Literally, EVERYONE, thinks they’re different.

And while yes, we’re all unique in our own ways, we’re all human, we all experience things with our emotions and our senses.

So with this knowledge, realize that you don’t have to be afraid.

Literally do your best, and not give a fuck.

Carry on.

I’ve got a new job, it’s minimum wage, it’s a nice job but in my head I’m acting as if I’m a surgeon at a hospital. I say this because I’m so anxious whenever I’m working, I am so on edge in everything I do at work because I’m afraid I’ll mess up, I need to remind myself that I got this job with literally no experience and that not much is expected of me. How do you deal with new job nerves? I feel that if I stop caring so much I’ll work better and be more carefree and smooth at work, at the moment I’m trying too hard to get everything perfect and I’m just making everything worse.

I (23F) have always been a super sensitive person, I used to hate it and now I’ve just embraced that’s who I am and I can’t help that I feel things so incredibly deeply, and I overthink a lot. Right now my biggest insecurity is that I have no fucking idea what I’m doing or what my path is and I’m worried about saying the wrong thing or meeting the wrong person or stepping on anyone’s toes i don’t fucking know. Kind of going through an existential crisis right now and I’m at a point where I don’t give a fuck if I live or die but that’s not the point I’m trying to make here. I’m just tired of taking everything so seriously like trying to figure out what path I take in life and it all seems so fucking overwhelming and confusing and I don’t want to grow old and sad and miserable, I don’t want to look back at my life with regret and I’m so fucking terrified of dying alone, it’s genuinely my biggest fear. The only people that care about me right now are older folks that know I’ve had it hard in life and they feel bad for me, since I’m a young woman that lost her mother as a child and I basically had to raise myself. I’m so fucking angry that I have to live through this existence when everything sucks someone please give me any advice (and please don’t say I sound depressed and I need therapy I already know that, and I’ve don’t therapy for many years of my life already which costs me thousands of dollars - from my experience therapy has taught me the only person that can save me is myself but what if I can’t fucking save myself and what if I don’t want to ?? I’m alone in this world I fucking hate it

I’m just at an age where I feel extremely behind and I know I’m behind but the worst feeling ever is that I’m not doing anything about. I seem to hold on the past and can’t forgive myself. But I don’t understand why do I keep living in the past and creating this self victimization mind. I blame myself and I bring myself down. I tend to compare and saying things like I’m not smart strong capable enough. I’m not made for this. I don’t think I’ll ever taste success.

All my life I just had 3-5 goals that I set 6 years ago. I wanted to get a set career, learn driving, finish college, have some friends but as I observe my life. I have not accomplish 1 thing. Only few weeks left til a new year begins. How do I even begin to take actions. How do I stop living in fear and social anxiety. My family says you have become very slow weak and unmotivated. And I say yea is true. Sighs.