I will be taking some Solo grad cap shots of a soon to be graduate. Ill be taking those shots next week using my phone. How should i photograph the graduate well? Btw the soon to be graduate is of Hispanic descent. I want to make sure this goes well. Any advice will help!

i’m (19) female and i’m mexican american. i was raised by my mexican single mother. we’re going on a trip to mexico in two weeks for christmas. part of the reason we’re going to this trip is to look for a doctor that could give me some advice or medication for my thyroid problems. my mom had been telling me she was interested in looking for holistic care for her health. i was fine with it but again it was it was because it was for HER health. today my mom told me that she had found a lady who would cure her of “el espanto” and it would require her to not shower for 5 days. but this is when she dropped the bomb that she had told the lady i was also doing this. i immediately said no, because i don’t want to go without showering for 5 days. i have super thick hair, and if i don’t shower for days my head will itch to the point where it’s painful. second, i have eczema, my skin dries out and i need to shower. third, it’s simply something i don’t want to do. there’s been nothing traumatic in my life as of lately that requires me to be cured of “espanto”. so i said i wasn’t going to do it. my mother immediately got super defensive yelling at me that i would. at first i thought she was joking. this was until i sternly said one last time “i’m sorry but i won’t do it. she said “OH so you dare oppose me? listen to me, as long as you live in my house YOU OBEY ME”.

this was extremely painful for me. yes i live in her house and yes i have to respect her rules. but i’m 19, turning 20 in two months. don’t i have a say to my own body and what i decide to do with it? why does she feel the need to pressure me so much into doing this holistic care.

about a week ago, i had a physical at my doctors office. i decided i wanted to go into this appointment alone. i have so many questions about my body that i wanted to talk to my doctor about in private without my mom listening. my mom doesn’t speak english so she doesn’t provide much to any conversations my doctor and i have. i was also curious about birth control options and i knew my mom would lose it if she heard me asking about it. i forgot to mention my mom’s extremely christian and opposes sex before marriage.

anyways i let my mom know i was going to be walking into my appointment alone. she got extremely upset with me, but i stood my ground and went in alone. after the appointment was over i walked to the waiting room to meet her. she didn’t even want to look me in the eye because of how pissed she was. when we got home i tried talking to her and having a conversation with her but she ignored me. i asked her what was wrong. she responded with “you don’t need me anymore, since you’re so independent i won’t talk to you anymore”.

i don’t understand what the big deal was. what was wrong with being independent and being in control of my body and the decisions i make about it? i’m almost 20 and i am a legal adult. yes i am be coming independent but no where am i saying i don’t want my mom in my life. i’m just upset, overwhelmed and exhausted. i have barely any money, i’m a college student and extremely poor. i want to leave so bad but i have nothing. i don’t know what to do and i’m feeling depressed more and more everyday. i love my mom to bits and appreciate her sacrifices but i am starting to hate being with her. i get so excited when i get to leave my house for work or school because it means i won’t be with her and i’ll be able to avoid any arguments even if it’s only for a few hours.

i just wanted to rant but if anyone has advice please share it with me:(

37F here in a relationship. I was at a restaurant bar that I've gone to a few times in the past month. It's close to home and I like the drinks. I usually go alone as my bf doesn't care for it. I generally have 1-2 drinks and go home. The first couple times I went, no one talked to me and I had no issues. Then guys started buying me drinks. I would thank them and decline at times because I didn't want anymore and was on my way out. About 3 occasions I was very clear but they kept insisting and even when I told the bartender "no, really, I don't want any more" they'd bring it anyway. Sometimes I would accept and thank them and chat with them. I make it clear fairly quickly that I have a bf and am not looking.

The last time I went, that really pushy guy followed me out to my car, acting like he wanted to escort me out for my own protection. I ended up needing protection from him as he tried to keep my door open and worm his way into my car, then laid all over me trying to kiss me when I tried shoving him out and closing my door.

That spooked me enough to stay away for a couple months. I went out tonight and a guy told the bartender to bring me another drink. I thanked him, chatted a bit, and some other people started talking to me. He got annoyed after a while and was really drunk by then. I tried keeping my distance and he started saying some prejudiced comments about the nationality of the couple talking to me and that I shouldn't talk to them and what nationalities was I gonna side with and associate with anyway. After that, I did not feel like keeping up a polite pretense. While he was saying this, the couple left and I got up to leave. He asked if I was going home with them, I said no and went to the bathroom. I get in the stall and hear the door open as I start peeing. This dude followed me into the bathroom! He starts peeing while keeping his stall wide open. I stay as quiet as can be after I'm done and hear him leave after a while. I hurry and get dressed and hightail it out of there. I let the bartender and owner/manager know and he apologizes for it as I rush out to my car to leave, scared that guy is gonna follow me as he kept asking to go home with me after his bigoted rant. I call my bf about it and he was on his way home and decided to stop at the restaurant and talk to them about it.

When he gets home, to my surprise he starts giving ME hell, saying the manager told him that I brought it on myself by accepting the drink, and he agrees. To me this is insane and it feels like there is no way to win this minefield. Wtf am I supposed to do to be gracious and nice to everybody and to preserve everyone's feelings? By nature I am polite, reserved but friendly. I understand that putting yourself out there is not easy. I know a lot of people are really lonely. To me, an offer of a drink is an offer of a conversation, and I don't mind indulging someone in a conversation whether it's a bar, grocery store, post office, whatever.

My bf says the expectation of accepting a drink is that you will sleep with them. What?!?!!! Since when?! Do people honestly expect $4 to be the going price for sex??? My bf was not mad about me accepting drinks or talking to people, he knows me, but he said I was too old to not be aware of this, that any guy will tell me this. I was never one for bars or the night scene so no, I don't have much experience with this, but I don't believe for 1 second that people are regularly fucking every creepy stranger that offers a drink. It's a goddamn drink, not a kidney! Wtf am I supposed to do, throw the drink on the floor, spit at the guy and shout, "Fuck you and your drink buddy!"? When I do say no thanks, I get push back and the bartender brings it anyways because they're gonna want to make a sale, or it's already brought to me before I know what's happening. If I just let it sit there and don't touch it, I look like a bitch anyway and probably have to now leave otherwise I'm inviting harassment. I swear to god I am not out here trying to "scam drinks" nor do I ask or hint for anyone to buy me anything. I am not "leading anybody on". What the hell am I supposed to even do because this is ridiculous and is making way too much over something insignificant.

Sorry for the novel. I think everything that happened freaked me out and I needed to talk about it. My bf does want me to file a police report. That seems like much but then he got annoyed and said, "See, this is why people treat you like that and why these things happen to you!" -__-

I'm crossposting this here at my bf's suggestion as he and the men involved are Latino and he feels this is an important distinction which will garner different answers.

so, my mother is half puerto rican, and half black, i was raised black, and around my black family and fully black father. my mother has no ties to her hispanic family besides her dad(whom she has no relationship with) however, we do thoroughly enjoy puerto rican cooking, and i am good at basic recipes, and am trying to learn spanish, and i overall have respect for the culture just as much as my black culture, im wondering though, where can i go from here? besides food, language, what else should i look into? i want to be immersed in all prominent parts of myself, im wholly enthralled in my blackness and love it, how can i deepen my hispanic roots, authentically.

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A Hispanic family moved into my town, and they have a kid around my age (teen). I'm trying to find a way to make talking to him not weird, since we don't go to the same school, and I'm thinking giving a housewarming gift is a good way to do it. My family is European (Spanish) so we don't know much about Hispanic foods. What would be a good food to make as a gift? Or should I just play it safe and make a cake or a pie or something?

Siéntanse libre de hacer las preguntas que deseen, solo incluye groceries, y a determinados estados, contáctenme los que estén realmente interesados.

I would like to preface this question with the urge for no one to insult/disparage or condescend the individuals who choose to share their perspective.

My goal in asking this question is to understand someone’s perspective and not to ridicule them. So please don’t derail the thread.

Also, it is perfectly okay if your reasoning is either extraordinarily nuanced and long-winded, or if you voted Trump just cuz you think he’s funny. As long as you’re honest I’m excited to hear!

Edit: seems no one read my post and everyone is blasting the trump supporters. Please go somewhere else to do that, it gets in my way of actually understanding their perspective

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I (29F) have been dating my BF (29M) on and off mostly on for 12 years now. We meet in high school. While the majority of my family doesn't have an issue with him I have 1 member of my family( let's call her Claire) that literally can't stand him at all. l've tried talking to her asking why? What did he do ? What did you see if anything? To no avail. It's literally gotten to the point where I don't bring my BF to family events if they're hosted at her house because I don't want him feeling bad. He's tried being nice to her but she won't budge. I love Claire! She has always treated me well. I literally spend last summer in her house almost everyday as I was transitioning as I was moving from NC to NJ. And she's honestly always cared for me ( when ever I'm sick she gives me medicine and soups. Calls me to see how I'm doing... all of it ) but she could be incredibly immature. My Bf and I live together and he doesn't want her in our house. AT ALL. Even though I understand why. I also feel like I'm turning my back on someone who has been there for me for as long as I can remember. And I honesty don't know what to do at this point. I need advice!!!!

For context, I’m f(20) and my partner is m(20)/ goes by he they pronouns. We’ve been dating for almost a year now and we respect and love each other very much, this is our first serious relationship out of high school as well. I come from a Hispanic household so my family is more traditional and conservative when it comes to gender roles and relationships, his is not. I currently live in an apartment with roommates and he still lives at home with his parents, sometimes I sleep over at his place a few times per month. It doesn’t happen that often but I enjoy spending time with him and his family, but I always have to ask my parents for permission to sleep over at his house. It’s always a bit of an argument every time I ask and me fighting for my dignity because my parents view it as a distasteful and inappropriate thing. They say that no self respecting daughter in law sleeps at her in laws house before marriage. It makes me feel gross and distrust my partner and their family because I feel like I’m doing something sinful or morally wrong. I don’t want to lie to my parents about where I am and where I sleep , and they also have my location at all times through an app called Life360 (it’s for safety reasons I suppose). But I don’t know why this happens so much for girls since my boyfriend does not share these feelings at all, since his parents let him sleepover at my apartment and my family home with no trouble( my parents make us sleep in different rooms at my house btw). I just think it’s a lot of precautions for something bad thats not even happening and probably will not happen. My partner and their family are good honest people and my parents and his have met each other etc. I’m a grown adult in college, it just feels a bit demeaning and childish to be sneaking around the subject with my parents. I’ve heard of a few female friends that also experience this, but idk? Is this like a normal thing for you all as well? Am I in the wrong here for being confused and frustrated? And are my parents right about me sleeping over at my partners house as something wrong? Please and thank you!

As a kid when my dad was in a good mood (when he was high off his ass) he’d sing like a mock song about me, mostly about how I have a big head. And he kinda just sings what he sees. He does it to embarrass me in public lol. Full bachata mode while crossing the street singing at the top of his lungs about how I have a big ass head. He’s hyping up the cars n shit and they think he’s crazy so they start driving faster. Idk it was just really random. It used to annoy the shit out of me sometimes. He never took anything seriously. Especially me🤷‍♂️

My dad is fully Mexican. My mother is fully white. I am half Mexican. What do I full under? Mexican-American? My kids father is fully white. What would my kids fall under? Chicano/a?

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My freshman 19f called crying that she doesn't want to continue her criminal justice degree. Her reasons were that the system is corrupt and doesn't feel like she can make a difference. The good one boy system will stay. Police immunity will make law enforcement worse. Both of my daughters want to move to a blue state in fear of escalated tension and retaliation towards women and poc. I can't provide a positive outlook.

Hispanic Republican here. You guys seeing the light now? Despite the MAJORITY of Hispanics voting for her, Leftists are going insane with hate against us now because a sizable minority of us voted for Trump (me included, obviously.) Calling for deportation of people who had nothing to do with the election. Insulting us in the streets. Do you see now that they never really cared about you or equality or any of that? The second they think we're not useful we are brown trash to them.

Come to the Right side, the rest of you. Join us in having family values, normalcy, value for hard work, and respect for the law. It never made sense for you all to vote for the communists in the first place, look what they've done all over Latin America.

Edit: Hey Dembots! Good to see you guys are still getting paid through the week to astroturf! What would people do without you white saviors????

They voted for The Crazy Republican candidate in droves. They can get all the smoke non-Hispanic white people get. They are more racist than whites. I already knew this. FINALLY the rest of the world knows now too. No more of this "POC" crap. They are right there with racist whites. Bye!

Hey all,

I'm a Muslim American, and am absolutely appalled by the amount of racism, xenophobia and hatred hurled at Hispanic people generally, but esp. now. in the US. I have seen COUNTLESS liberals, yes liberals, furiously blaming Latinos for Trump's win, as if they were owed votes by minorities. I didn't vote for Trump, and obviously, he has said some super racist stuff of course, but to see how quickly the mask comes off the left when BIPOC people didn't give them what they felt ENTITLED to is disturbing to me (both on behalf of Latinos, but as a Muslim too). We're getting a ton of it too as we speak out against genocide of our own people, but so far I've seen people joking about deporting Mexicans (even legal ones), and calling them bigots/idiots for voting against their own interests (please, educate the 45% of Latinos as to what's best for them!).

It's so unfortunate to see you all hated on both sides, but don't lose heart. I grew up in a heavily Hispanic area and have only seen the opposite of what the haters say: hard-working, family-oriented, common-sense people paying more into the system than they take out. Almost never homeless, barely complaining, doing the work others won't do, men often seen with their kids (at the Home Depot, at the park, at the restaurants, on trails etc.). And usually, when I mention my faith or values, especialmente cuando hablo espanol con ellos, un idioma tan bello en mi opinion, nunca me han tratado mal.

Anyway, I just want to send love and compassion your way. Whether you're here legally or escaped oppression and came here illegally, if you're a good, decent person, there's room for you and I hope we can pave a peaceful path forward.

Latinx and Latine are widely rejected by the people who presumably should use those terms for identity. The use of the term is mostly in universities and white liberals trying to take over Spanish and label minorities to fit their view of the world. It is so laughable but also arrogant. I saw an advertisement to “Latine people” to attend a party which would serve “Latin food.” How is it we need a new word to label people but not food or location? It is all part of identity control, and a sign of disrespect for all things Latin, Hispanic, and Spanish rooted. If you need a gender neutral term, it is Latin, in the English language. This is why we call it Latin America, Latin food, and hot-blooded Latins.

Stop embarrassing yourself by not knowing Spanish or even proper English grammar. Inventing a word might allow you the right to describe yourself with that word but it does not mean you can use that to describe others.

And if you think you should call me a Latine or Latinx, please get a dictionary and learn the English word Latin. There is no such thing in Spanish, btw.

God bless.