Hi, I’m in freeze mode, big time! Helpful suggestions?

Feeling physical anxiety, pushing too close to school writing deadlines. Scared about emotional pains I’ve had recently and just feeling insecure. I’m pretty relationally motivated. Anyone ever had it where you can’t pick up your laptop because you’re anxious and also don’t know how you’re going to get everything done?

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Help! 10 year old verbally abusive, threatening, and terrorizing. Mom on the verge of breakdown!

10 year old verbally abusive, explosive, has tics. Mom beside herself and on the verge on a nervous breakdown.

This isn't the typical "asking for a friend" post...I really am asking for a friend. A friend I know has a 10 year old daughter, 5 year old daughter and 17 year old step son. The two girls live together with my friend and het husband (the girls' dad) and the step son lives with his mom. This friend has expressed to me over time some of the things going on with her 10 year old and I am becoming increasingly worried about my friend's well-being dealing with all this as well as what could possibly be going on with her daughter. Her daughter CONSTANTLY tells my friend to f*** off or f*** you and is angry and threatening and demeaning from sun up to sun down. The minute my friend taps her to wake up in the morning she will say "get your hands off me" or "don't touch me" and my friend occasionally get a frustrated and teary eyed with these verbal beat downs and her daughter will say "oh you're gonna cry now mom?" In a snotty tone. She'll call my friend "stupid", "dumb", and has threatened to tell her teachers if my friend tries to spank or discipline her. Yet this little girl has been kicked out of school multiple times. Yes! Kicked out!! And the classroom has had to be cleared and the cops have had to be called more than once because of her behavior. She has told her mom she's "going to kill" her and will sometimes tell her mom "why don't you just kill me". Her daughter currently takes adderall for adhd and trazadone for sleep but has been on multiple other meds off and on with the same results. She has documented every incident the school has told her about and has given the school additional information about the situation at home. And she has given her daughter's psych medication provider all the information as well and left multiple voicemails when incidents come up to let the provider know and it is hardly ever addressed, even in the next appointment. I forgot to add that my friend has said her 10 year old daughter will get very impulsive and rough with the 5 year old daughter and she is worried she's going to actually hurt her.

I am a nurse and have a little experience in Psych and I am just appalled that this poor mother has been left to sink or swim by the school and the mental health providers. And yet, next, social services will be contacted and it will be the mother who gets the finger pointed at her or it already is because I'm sure most people just see this as a parenting issue ( which we all know means we deserve as parents to suffer for...NOT). This isn't just a parenting issue from what I can see and hear about. And this poor mom is going to absolutely snap if she doesn't get someone respond to her cries for help soon. I am so fed up with the mental health manifesto in America yet here we have a mom who has all the facts and evidence laid out and people just want to point the finger and say deal with it. As a result this mom is suffering a rapid mental health decline as well and so the cycle will continue.

I have interrogated thoroughly and observed and talked to others who know her even better and her husband is not adding to the problem or modeling any of the daughters behavior by being abusive but he is a war vet who watched his buddy get blown up in the seat next to him in Iraq and he's not much help with the situation either. She said he pretty much dissociates on his phone and tunes it all out. Occasionally he'll speak up and tell the daughter she is out of line but doesn't nothing to follow up or be consistent in earning her or monitoring her behavior to and around her mom.

I also thought of PANDAS but I don't know the full extent of whether or not this child has had a recent strep infection or a latent /hidden one but she does have tics that appear and disappear very suddenly sometimes like noises or shoulder shrugging and the way she uses profanity and blares it out unprovoked sometimes, one would think she has turrets as well.

My friend needs to advocate for her daughter and get some answers and she has. But it seems like no one is pointing her in any direction. I don't know if she's been fully transparent with how bad things are but she says she has. If that's true, why is no one listening and stepping in to help this mom and daughter. I want to advocate for this friend so she can advocate for her daughter but what resources/treatments do you think might help and what direction would you go first /next with something like this.

I'm afraid someone in this family is going to snap!

I've always had anxiety and depression, but have been able to work through it, and meds have helped, but the past 5 months, I feel like I'm spinning out of control 😬😵

Life has been kicking my ass, and my body feels it. I constantly clench my jaw, (TMI) I literally feel like I could release myself (urine) at any moment (I haven't), I'm tense, I tighten my jaw when I talk, and I am in edge 24/7. I could snap on you or cry....and I don't like any of this!!!

So, go on goggle, ya know to self diagnose, and I have many, many symptoms of fight or flight response.

That being said, does this sound like it? I know none of you are doctors and I'm not asking for a diagnosis or anything!!! Just sharing.

Do you take meds? If so, what? I've taken effexor, but it didn't mix well with my Adderall. I see a NP at a psychiatry office, but she has no idea how to treat, she just switches meds or ups doses.

Again, not looking for a diagnoses, etc, just sharing how I feel.

I’ve recently successfully completed an intense 3 month mental health program (PHP and IOP) to help me with my PTSD among other issues. I was living in flight or fight for the majority of my life for the past few years. Now I’m finished with the program, but I’m beyond exhausted (both physically and mentally). I eat a clean diet (minimal processed foods), don’t drink alcohol or do drugs, and I exercise regularly, but I feel like I’m 30 years older than I am currently (41 and female). Has anyone experienced something similar? Any tips on how I can get my energy back?

I had a massive fight with my boyfriends best friend as he was slightly rude to me and when boyfriend spoke to him, he didn’t apologise to me. When boyfriend didn’t speak to me for two days but went to see a friend and came back happy and drunk my blood started boiling and I broke up. Now that I’ve cooled down, I understand that this is my survival mode. As a child I had very controlling parents who neglected my needs as there were bigger priorities. And now, seeing my boyfriend giving so much importance to his friend and not telling his friend to be nice to me made me feel like once again I’m not a priority and made me fight and then flight the situation. My boyfriend doesn’t blame me and knows we could have all acted different, but he needs time to be able to speak to me. What should I do? I know I’m damaged, but do you think he will decide to stay broken up?

About 3.5 years ago I was a regular smoker but got really high and had a panic attack so bad I thought it was A heart attack.. I had never had any kind of anxiety or panic attack problems prior, that next day and all the days after I developed a really strong shortness of breath that effects me 24/7 along with server other problems like constipation and chest pain.. all blood work and scans have came back normal doctors say I’m fine. I have tried serveral medications nothing seems to change anything. This has completely changed me as a person as I have no energy or quality of life anymore. Has anybody experienced something like this?

Why do I feel lightness in my feet and hungry during a fight. I know it's right or flight mode but my body wants to keep me safe, doesn't it? So why during a fight, my body cannot react or run or strengthen me. It feels like you just want to crawl back into your shell but even you know it would cause More harm than good since you might even be posted online and getting bullied the day you come back. How to control this to use it as a weapon?

Why do I feel lightness in my feet and hungry during a fight. I know it's right or flight mode but my body wants to keep me safe, doesn't it? So why during a fight, my body cannot react or run or strengthen me. It feels like you just want to crawl back into your shell but even you know it would cause More harm than good since you might even be posted online and getting bullied the day you come back. How to control this to use it as a weapon?

I can’t seem to shake this health anxiety. Doctors have checked everything you can think of and nothing. Only thing that came out was EBV. Which they said 90% of people have. But when I read up on it ( I know I shouldn’t Google anything) everything points to can*er. This sucks I feel like health anxiety is robbing me of my life. I use to be a fun active person now all my friends notice that I’m always down. Anybody else go through the same?

It isn’t being startled, or slightly uncomfortable. It isn’t being angry. It’s your body getting prepared to face a threat. Read this article about flight or fight